When someone reaches the glorious age of 103, they need to be revered not punished and put through emotional hardship. No matter what happened with 103 year old congregant and former teacher Genora Hamm Biggs and her minister,Tim Mattox ( a former student of hers), he should never have had her banned from the church she and her family founded, just because she spoke out and told him about things she didn’t like that he was doing and what was happening to the church. Continue reading
Because I had been vocal in my media interviews and in my blogs about the body language of Kate Gosselin and her verbally abusive behavior towards Jon and her kids, I was sent a review copy of KATE GOSSELIN: HOW SHE FOOLED THE WORLD – The Rise And Fall of a Reality TV Queen http://www.amazon.com/KATE-GOSSELIN-FOOLED-WORLD-REALITY-ebook/dp/B00L774BFA/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1403479276&sr=8-4&keywords=Kate+gosselin+how+she+fooled+the+world
I have always said I am not a Kate hater. I am merely a reporter of newsmakers communication and body language. And I reported some very TOXIC things I saw with Kate Gosselin.
At first I didn’t want to read this book. I felt I learned all I needed to know about Kate from watching her body language on the TLC shows, including parts of the recent special she did. In that special I saw her Toxic sadism as she kicked a ball towards Mady to the repercussions of that hostile act where Mady refused to forgive her.
I also saw the lasting effects of Kate’s years of verbal abuse on Mady which we all saw on previous shows. Now Mady has poor self esteem as she put herself down and showed visible signs depression. We also saw Cara as a verbal cripple where she was afraid to utter a word around her Toxic mother.
As I made the decision to finally to read the book I wondered if there would be anything new in the book that a. I didn’t already know and b. if there was anything in it that Kate’s lawyers would use to sue this author Robert Hoffman.
Turns out, while there were many things I did know based on my observations, there were things I did not know which both shocked and disgusted me. One of those things was Kate’s physical abuse of her children and her sadistic abuse of the dogs.
As for any legal issues concerning Robert Hoffman, in my view any lawsuit by Kate would be seen as a frivolous claim in my view. The man is a journalist and wrote what he saw and culled data from many interviews from others. He also reported on Kate’s own words. He did not break into her home and steal her hard drive. He did not do anything illegal or nefarious.
He did what many resourceful journalists and lots of detectives have done- look into the person’s trash to find discarded information about them. What Hoffman found was a goldmine in the garbage Kate Gosselin, herself, threw away outside and left to be picked up. If she didn’t want any of her own words out, she needed to invest in and use a shredder as that is what they are for . In addition, she needed to hire someone to erase her hard drive if she wanted to trace left of what she said.
DISCOVERY and TLC RESPONSIBILITY TO GET KATE OFF THE AIR FOREVER
The two pieces information I did not know that I learned from this book, which was merely reporting Kate’s own words based on her self written journal was that
1. Kate physically abused her children and and
2. She abused her dogs.
For those two reasons alone, I strongly believe TLC MUST NEVER PUT her on a show again or never again be the strong wall behind her that protects her with ridiculous PR Spin and puts her on such shows as Today, Access Hollywood, People Magazine or even the Apprentice to get her back into the limelight so people would watch her special.
This woman in my view needs to be off the air for good. Look what they did to Paula Deen who self admitted she said the N word 30 years ago. They need to do the same to Kate Gosselin. All of those sponsors who support Kate should terminate Kate’s agreements in my view based on these two horrible acts and based on what we saw on the last special of how she treated her children. All the endorsement, speaking engagements and free bees need to stop.
In the book Robert Hoffman pulls out a contract of Kate’s and TLC’s and says how Discovery which owns TLC backed Kate from day one. He seems surprised by this.
As someone who has signed extensive entertainment and sponsorhip contracts myself, I am not at all surprised that Discovery would back Kate for as long as she was useful to them and kept making money.
They would do anything to keep her PR machine going even if it meant discrediting people like child actor activist Paul Petersen who publicly spoke out against Kate and what harm she did to the kids. They would do anything to protect their brand as they proved to Jon Gosselin during his divorce from Kate by tying his hands every which way. If he veered out of line, they made sure he would be sued and essentially left homeless if he did anything against their cash cow and money making machine, Kate.
But now that the cat is out of the bag through this book, Discovery and TLC need to quit Kate Gosselin, especially after the poor ratings on her last special. It is interesting that they realize she is no longer a big deal for them ad their PR machine does not appear to be ramped up very high since Hoffman’s book has been released.
Hoffman says in the book he thinks she is a very mentally sick woman. A very mentally sick woman who can’t seem to get along with anyone from her own parents, sibilngs, relatives, aunts, and uncles, long time babysitters, help, producers, people on DWTS like beloved dancer Tony Dovalani.
Journalist Hoffman and others report her as being, narcissistic, bipolar and a boarderline personality. The reason why Kate has so many haters is because people see her disturbed behavior and don’t like it. The tagline of Kate being the “person you love to hate” to help attract more viewers is exploiting Kate’s alleged mental issues and taunting viewers to dare to watch.
No one loves to hate. People hate Kate because she does things that are hateable like hitting children and abusing dogs. She needs to be off the air permanently for the sake of her kids at least.
Now that the kids are older we can see by their body language they hate to be on the show. Most are not happy being there. In addition they are not talented or charismatic children. They simple average kids, many who are repressed and others who look very sad. The only one who shows life is Mady, but she is angry and depressed all the time. These kids have no business being on air based on that alone.There are too many delightful exciting non sad and non abused kids out there.
Here is what Hoffman says in the book about the responsibility of Discovery, TLC and it’s producers:
“Every producer, crew member or person employed by Discovery/TLC/Figure 8 Films who witnessed any abuse of the Gosselin children bears some responsibility for allowing it to continue and for not reporting it. Every executive who knew about the abuse is responsible.
Everyone who turned a blind eye to the abuse bears some blame. It is probably safe to say that no damning, un-aired Gosselin film where Kate is screaming at, threatening and spanking her children will ever see the light of day.
That unseen film is proof that all the adults who witnessed the abuse, or saw signs that made them strongly suspect abuse, and who could have and should have done something to protect those children, failed them – all because there was a boatload of money to be made off of them. The Gosselin children were nothing more than collateral damage in a business driven by greed, where profit trumps the safety and well-being of our most innocent. The welfare of those children was everybody’s business.”
TLC and Discovery have other successful shows that are quite wonderful and inspiring like The Little Couple, Say Yes to the Dress, the Duggars (who have so much love in that family), and even the Sister Wives who are a rather unique unconventional yet loving family. TLC’s shows about the Amish way of life and even the Gypsy way of life are great as you get a glimpse into this never before seen lifestyle and way of thinking. So they don’t need to showcase a child abuser and an animal abuser.
At first the network made the right decision to see a young family raise multiples. But now that the babies are all grown, it is no longer cute. Instead it is a trainwreck and a nightmare as even indicated by their latest not great ratings from their special.
In my view, this show needed to be off the air much earlier as it was reported by Hoffman that many producers witnessed Kate’s abuse. In my view they need to be held accountable for not doing anything about it. No job is worth keeping when you see a baby being abused.
KATES BRUTAL ABUSE OF THE CHILDREN
After page 127 the book documents Kate’s abuse on the babies. It is a very hard and disturbing read but says it all. It needs to be seen by both the Kate haters and kate lovers so they can decide for themselves in an objective manner. Here are only 16 of actual excerpts of the book about Kate and her abuse:
1. ” Kate spanked 2-year-old babies for doing exactly what 2-year-old babies do and said on air she put a “soaking and dripping wet” Alexis into her crib and left her there until Jon got home, which made her uncaring and inept.“
2. “Kate said that she was instantly so SO angry that she grabbed him and spanked him as hard as she could and thought that she may seriously injure him so she sent him to his crib and whipped him into it very hard! Kate Gosselin said that for the first time she thought she might really lose it and she was glad that she left him in his crib until Jon came home from work. Kate wrote today was the day that she felt like she may really seriously injure a child!”
3. “Kate goes on to pontificate about Collin saying she doesn’t understand him. She says he’s usually kind and caring and tender and nice until his (two-year-old) temper flairs. Kate says she doesn’t like that little Collin doesn’t know how to handle his frustration and anger, but apparently beating him and screaming at him is her way of trying to calm him down and make him understand. Kate then laments that she didn’t even get the chance to have Collin apologize to her because she had other things to do.”
4. “…Collin and that’s when Kate REALLY lost it and pulled Collin up by the hair and spanked them all so hard!!! Kate says she loves them but she was so very angry with them for eating mini M&Ms that were obviously left out where toddlers can get their little fingers on them.”
5. “Kate says that she put them back into their beds for their own safety. Kate saw her father in herself today and she says that really scares her. “
6. “The children just stood there terrified. Then she dragged one of the boys into the bathroom and spanked him five or six times with a large plastic spoon.”
7. “You could hear Kate forcefully whacking the child and the child screaming at the top of his lungs. People told me it happened more than once, but it was off-camera because Kate didn’t want it in the show.”
8.” Kate talks about Aaden’s fifth day of potty training. He had an accident and pooped on the floor. Kate said she screamed at the top of her lungs as she picked him up. She spanked him after the clean up because, as she says, they are not dogs and Kate felt that five days was more than enough time for a two-year-old boy to become potty trained.”
9. Think about these words from Kate’s journal:
“I spanked them so hard!!!!”
“I felt like I may hurt his children.”
“I grabbed him and spanked him as hard as I could and thought I may seriously injure him.”
“I was out of control.”
“Now read them again, and picture six tiny children in nothing but diapers, being brutally spanked by their enraged and clearly out-of-control mother. That is not a loving parent disciplining her children. That is violence and abuse. And remember – these are the things that Kate was comfortable documenting in her journal as source material for possible inclusion in her book, I Just Want You To Know – Letters To My Kids On Love, Faith, and Family. These are normal, everyday occurrences in the Gosselin children’s lives. These are things that Kate was prepared to share with the world if an editor at Zondervan hadn’t gotten his or her hands on them first.”
10. “After more than 30 minutes of Collin sitting, trying to go potty, Kate turns the light out on Collin, leaving him alone to sit in the dark on the potty, and telling him, “Don’t get up ’til there’s pee in there. Understand?”
11. “She actually yelled at her twin daughters in front of the cameras for coming down to the kitchen a few minutes early, before their scheduled 6:03 morning kitchen entrance time. The poor girls looked dejected and beat down as they were belittled and sent away…for the television audience’s viewing enjoyment.”
12. “Kate was given the bottle of water, unscrewed the cap, and took a sip. She then put the bottle down on the floor next to her chair without offering any to a clearly distressed Mady. Mady pleaded, “I need a drink now.” Kate told her to “Be quiet.” Mady then said, “You’re really, really mean! You drank it right in front of my face.”
13. “After her divorce from Jon, Kate was caught on video violently spanking two of the boys in the driveway of their home, the moment they got out of the van from returning from an overnight with Jon. The other children just watched in fear as the spanking took place, perhaps not knowing if they were next. I later found out the reason for the beating was because the boys told Kate they wanted to stay longer at Jon’s house because they were having too much fun. Kate now promises the children presents and trips to Toys R Us for toys if they tell Jon that they don’t want to go to his house.The paparazzo who shot the video didn’t release it because he shot it from private property.“
14. “Beating or spanking her children isn’t the only way Kate gets her message across to them. Kate recently pushed one of the boys outside in below-freezing temperatures without his coat, gloves or hat for fifteen minutes because the boy didn’t close the door all the way when he came inside from playing in the snow. The child was screaming and crying and banging on the doors all around the house. His face was bright red from being so cold when Kate finally allowed him to come back into the house.”
15.”Kate Gosselin had one babysitter who would actually administer her own beatings to the Gosselin children at Kate’s direction when she was away. The sitter was given the authority by Kate to carry out Kate’s way of ‘teaching’ the children for even the smallest of infractions. This included spanking the children, withholding meals from the children and locking the children in a room for hours at a time. This same sitter was told by Kate to lock one of the boys in the bathroom for her entire shift because he left splashes of water on the sink and floor without toweling it off.“
16. “On one occasion, one of the boys was punished for having Shoka in the basement when he was supposed to be outside. Shoka had an accident by the door and Kate was so enraged that she brought the boy down to the basement and screamed at him while showing him the mess. To show her complete domination of the child, she grabbed him by the back of his neck and forced his face down to within inches of the mess, trying to rub his face in it. He struggled and resisted and ended up with only a spanking instead” of a face-full of dog feces.”
KATE’S ABUSE OF THE DOGS
Kate also abused the dogs as Hoffman documents from these actual quotes from his book:
1, “The Gosselin dog’s normal wasn’t much better. In fact, it was very similar to the children’s normal. That’s why they were sent away after only a short time as being ‘part of the family.’
2.”Both Gosselin dogs, Shoka and Nala, were abused by Kate during the separation and divorce when Jon was away from the house. Kate treated the dogs and the kids in the same manner but the dogs resisted and ‘fought back.’ Kate would use a stick, a spoon, a tube or whatever else she had handy to discipline the dogs for minor infractions that dogs commit, like tracking mud into the basement after being brought in from being outside in the pouring rain and…mud.”
3. “If Kate got growled at by one of the dogs for hitting them for minor animal infractions, she would banish them to the outdoors overnight. She talked to them like people and thought she could reason with them. She locked them outside in the freezing rain and snow and left them to watch the family through the basement windows. One freezing cold night, she sadistically went to the glass door where the female dog Nala was howling to come inside and she smiled and waved to her and told her how warm it was inside and that maybe she’ll think about her actions so she could come back in the following morning. She got down on the floor to pet Shoka who was laying by the door looking out at poor Nala. Kate Gosselin is cruel and she seems to enjoy the power that she has over children, animals and adults.”
If the book did not include Kate’s own words from her own diary she herself discarded, you might be suspect about someone trying to do a smear job on Kate.
But the truth of the matter is that she said these horrible things. You cannot deny that or make any excuse for it like she was in a bad mood or spin it that those were thoughts she never meant. They were in her computer on her own hard drive and who else would write them, let alone have access to her computer? Even worse we all saw her do many of these horribly abusive things to her kids on TV, many of which I reported in my previous blogs.
Kate has done enough damage to the kids and by TLC and Discovery airing her show or doing anymore specials they are contributing to the demise of these children’s already poor self esteem as we already just saw with Mady and Cara. Collin and other children had school issues where they were abusive to teachers. They clearly learned this Toxic behavior from an abusive mother just as Kate reported in the book she learned it from her own abusive father.
These children DO NOT need to be used to be on TV for Kate’s narcissistc gain. The network needs to stop it effective immediately. She has earned enough money – millions upon millions of dollars and there are trust funds for each child that she never has to worry about their education. She never has earn money on TV again.
This abusive, non generous,mean spirited, bullying, greedy, manipulative, self absorbed, woman who essentially took fertility drugs had six children at once and became famous by using her her kids to be in the media no longer has a place in the media for her egregious actions as far as I am concerned.
Essentially she is nobody without those kids. She has nothing to offer or redeeming qualities as far as I am concerned. Reading Kate’s own words and witnessing her actions will make everyone a hater who with any sense of decency and compassion realize that they could never support or promote a woman who beats children, abuses teenagers as we just saw in her special, and abuses dogs.
If you say the N word, show racism as Kate has also done as reported in the book based on her own words, and abuse children and animals based on her own words and eyewitness reports, you need to be finished as a public entity and be removed from the public eye.
I for one can no longer look at Kate without disgust and revulsion for hitting those babies for such minor infractions like soiling their diapers and for abusing those innocent dogs. I will not play “the emperor” or “empress” has new clothes” when all can see the naked truth about this TOXIC WOMAN.
Jodi Arias’s mother sits each day in the courtroom with another woman who looks similar to her. The reason they look so similar is that they are twin sisters.
But what these twins are doing in the courtroom is not helping Jodi. They are laughing and chucking with one another as though they are sharing inside jokes. This is very disrespectful and is not helping Jodi in terms of jury perception.
The rest of the time her mother is looking non reactive or hostile as she gazes ahead to look at Jodi. Juries do look at family members. They see how family members react , if they are present , and how they behave.
The mother doesn’t look over at Jodi with any loving look. When there are salacious sexual details out of Jodi’s mouth as the camera pans to her, there is no emotional reaction. It is a though she is watching paint dry on a wall.
The only emotional reaction is when she is laughing with her sister. Does she think this trial is a big jok?. Or is she secretly happy Jodi finally got what she deserved for possibly being such a bad daughter in her view. Ther eis clearly some deep seated hostility between them.
There does not seem to be any love lost between the two of them. Perhaps her mother is angry for Jodi for either revealing the family beating secrets or for lying about being beaten by her mother.
In the courtroom Jodi said how she was severely beaten as a child by both her mother and father as she said “ Life was ideal up until I was aged seven. Parents would spank us and around seven-years old it started getting more intense.”
Just as a note most abusive parents dont start spanking at age 7. They do it way before that time, so this statement seems like a lie to me.
Then Jodi continues, ‘My dad started using a belt.My mom began to carry a wooden spoon on her purse.”It was a wooden kitchen spoon and if we misbehaved she would use it on my brother and I, she would hit us hard with it.’It left welts on my body.“Dad didn’t leave welts as often as my mom – she also used a belt. “
In my view this last statement was way too much information about her dad and the welts which also make me question how truthful she was being. Also belts leave welts so one again she appears to me to be lying.
Then Jodi adds, My dad was quite intimidating so didn’t need to use strength to get his point across. My mother did.’
Now here is where it is very revealing concerning Jodi and her mother’s relationship. Jodi was asked in court if she loved her mother, She took a pause and quietly responded, ‘yes’.
That quiet yes, and the pause says it all. It shows ambivalence. It wasn’t a loud yes or a yes that could be heard but a quiet yes. It spoke loud volumes about their relationship.
Jodi a;sp talked at length about the relationship she had with her parents growing up and claimed she was subjected to beatings.
‘They were intense and increased in frequency as I got older,’ Jodi said. ‘I don’t recall how many times a week but it could be any thing from four times a week to once every two weeks.‘I didn’t like being hit so I would squirm around a little but the more we did the harder we would get hit.
‘My mother broke my brother’s hand once when he tried to block one of her blows. As I got into a teenager, my dad would get rougher and rougher.‘
So here is where she contradicts herself regarding the beatings. First she says her dad was just intimidating anf didn’t need to use strength to get his point across and then she says he got rougher and rougher.
She added: ‘When I was younger I remember feeling betrayed and confused that my mother was beating me.’As I got older it made me mad and I didn’t get why she was punishing me. I was mad at her and it hurt. I loved her but it put a strain on our relationship.”
Her adding I loved her was once again too much information and when she used the word BUT and said it put a strain on their relationship, it clearly shows her ambivalence towards her mother. The she goes on to say
‘My dad never beat me with his fist – he would just shove me into furniture and the piano, tables, desk, chairs, whatever was around. One time I even passed out. This was when I was 16 or 17. Not as often with my dad as with my mom. If I did something to upset them it would happen. Sometimes I got grounded. I loved my father even when he was beating me.’
Again this contracts what she said earlier about her father not using force to make his point. So now we she he used so much force that Jodi passed out. Again it appears to me that she is lying. When she said I loved mu father– it was in the past tense which is significant as well. It also showed her ambivalence that she loved her father even when he was beating me.”
She then told the packed courtroom that the beatings continued throughout high school. She also stated that one night she snuck out at night with friends and when her parents woke up and found out, she said her father hit her across the face, knocking her to the ground.
Once again it shows how she lied earlier about her father not using force. Knocking someone to the ground takes a lot of foce.
Following the end of the relationship with a young man Jodi moved in with, she said that she moved in with her grandparents after she broke up with the boyfriend because she did not want to return to the abusive atmosphere of her parents’ house.
While Jodi is full of lies, this may be something that may ring true. She may have had problems with her parents for whatever reason.
The one thing that we have seen for sure is that there is no loving relationship between Jodi and her mother.
When Jodi’s mother isn’t busy laughing with her sister or having no visible facial reaction to Jodi, she is taking copious notes- maybe she’s keeping a journal as well.
Perhaps the mother is plannig to write a tell all book telling us how awful Jodi was as a daughter, what a liar she wall all her life and how she lied about being hit by her as this mother cashes in on her daughter’s infamy.
What happens to us in our childhood has a lasting effect on who we grow up to be and what happens to us in life. As a communications and body language expert I cannot begin to tell you just how many private clients I have seen in my life who had public speaking problems and who were terrified of speaking in front of others- no matter how small the group, just because some insensitive ignorant teacher humiliated them in front of the room.
I have seen grown men- CEO’s of major corporations break down and cry in my offices knowing they had to present the annual report for their company. I have seen beautiful women shake with fear and dread also cry when they had to go on an interview or speak at a presentation.
Consistently in all of these cases it appeared to stem back to a teacher who humiliated then in front of the classroom. They suffered a lifetime of emotional trauma as a result.
I also know of someone who hates anything to do with athletics every since they were traumatized by their first grade gym teacher who screamed at then for not knowing their right from their left when they marched in the opposite direction during a class exercise. As it turned out the boy who was dyslexic .Not only was his academic progress challenged, so was his athletic progress because of this ignorant teacher.
So when I read that yet another ignorant and insensitive teacher was guilty of causing psychic trauma to yet another student, I was livid.
This kindergarten teacher Debbie Hayes at Bowers Elementary was nothing more than a paid BULLY in my view. She had the audacity to tell the other students to encircle their classmate and call him a pig while making pig noises and oinking at the boy simply because he had a messy desk. This BULLY needs to be fired and never be allowed to teach again.
Apparently Debbie Hayes, is a veteran educator who should have known better as she had taught kindergarten for 38 years in Roane County. Who knows what other harm this abusive bully in my view did to other children in her close to four decades as an educator. In fact Dr.Toni McGriff the director of Roane County Schools, called the March 16 incident “simply unbelievable”
In her reprimand letter, McGriff told Hayes she was “appalled with the actions in this situation.””It’s a black eye on the profession,”. “It’s a black eye on our schools.”
Apparently another educator walked into Debbie Hayes’ classroom March 16 and saw kindergartners encircling their crying classmate.”The students in the circle were ‘oinking’ and making pig sounds at the little boy,”
A teacher who witnessed the incident told Principal Candace Lett that afternoon. Hayes and Lett met the next day in McGriff’s office to discuss the episode.
During that meeting, Hayes said she was “tired of the student’s messiness and had repeatedly warned the child to be neater , However, the students in the classroom told authorities teacher Debbie Hayes told them to encircle the child “and call him a pig and make pig noises,” according to the reprimand.
Hayes only received one received a one-day suspension from her job.
This is horrible, in my view. Hayes needs to be fired for causing abuse and potential of lifetime psychic trauma to this boy. She also needs to be sued by the boys parents and she needs to pay all of his psychologists bills that he will no doubt need to recover from this abusive trauma, if he ever recovers. This incident may have long lasting traumatic effects on this child for the rest of his life.
In essence this bully of a teacher taught the other children how to bully and she needs to be held accountable.
All this ignorant creature teacher needed to do was send a letter home with the boy or have a parent child conference or find out why he was being so messy. Oftentimes messiness is a sign of creativity. It may also be that this is how he lives at home in a messy environment. So he many have thought it was normal to be messy.
Apparently Hayes was forced to apologize to the students. Personally, I don’t think her apology is enough. It means nothing in the scheme of things. She traumatized this poor child to the point that he was crying. She needs a taste of her own medicine and needs to be ostracized from her school community and lose her pension that she worked so hard to obtain all of these years. She needs to see how she would like it if she was cut off from ever working at a teaching job again.
She is the real pig in this situation. The real messy person who messed with a child’s psyche , That is worse than any messy desk or messy room.
Apparently the school principal offered to transfer the abused child to another classroom, but the mother declined. I think the mother did the right thing. In the end , the teacher was made to look like the fool and the boy may come out to be a hero. I also think that every child who called him a pig and surrounded him needs to be made to personally apologize to him, look him in the eye, say I am sorry and shake his hand. This way the boy will feel better and the other kids will now see him in a different light- someone they can respect.
I do hope that the parents of the boy don’t minimize this egregious act. They need to understand that this incident can have lasting repercussions. It is bad enough when one student bullies another but when the whole class is made to bully a child by a disturbed teacher it is a different matter. They need to lawyer up and sue the teacher, the school board and the school system in their community because there is no doubt that they will need the money to pay for this boy’s psychological care int he future.
The boy cried which showed that he was upset and traumatized. Those tears run deep and can course through his psyche for a lifetime. Shame on this Bully Debbie Hayes who must never be allowed teach again. Like a child abuser or child molester, she must never be allowed to come in contact with children again in my view. www.drlillianglass.com
A serious Oprah leans in to ask Michael Jackson;s father Joe,” Do you think Michael was afraid of you?” A simple yes or no answer while looking in Oprah’s direction would have indicated that Joe was telling the truth. But this was not the case. Joe showed too many singles of deception. You can see one of those signals of deception as he
1.immediately turns away from Oprah
2. looks away and gazes to the side as you can see
3. blinks a lot
4. licks his lips
5. speaks slowly as if to search for words to create hos lie
6. shrugs his shoulder
7. looks down
8. gives away too much tangential information
10 leans away and then turns to lean in as if to try to convince Oprah that what he is saying is true as she states,
” I don’t think he was afraid of me. I think he was afraid he would do something wrong and I would chastise him. But I never beat him. I never beat him like the media tried to say .”
When someone does all of those things body language wise and volunteers information you didn’t ask for, there is a good chance they are they are lying about what they said.
OPRAH BUSTS JOE!
Then Oprah busts him by confronting him head on as she said “ I did that interview with him in 1993 and he told me you beat him.”
Joe is stunned. He looks away and turns from Oprah. This is probably the first time in his adult life that anyone stood up to him.
He then licks his lips and says um as if searching for something to say. He utters out “ I am glad that he was raised in such a way. He was liked all over the world. He could have been like some of the other kids from Gary who are dead or gone.”
In essence he is coming up with an excuse in trying to justify what he did to Michael.
To get the truth out of Joe Jackson Oprah admits that she as beaten as a kid because that was the culture .
Joe feels relieved as he now looks directly at Oprah and gives a relieved slight smile.
BEAT OR WHIPPED???
Then Joe tries to clarify and justify as he asks Oprah Beat or Whipped? Lets not split hairs here. Whipped is the same as being beaten. They both cause bodily harm pain and tear away at one’s self esteem.
Oprah is now pissed. She looks up in exasperation and in a loud tone says It’s the same thing when you have welts on your body. Even mother Katherine chimed in and said in her soft way that it was the same thing.
Joe then got all cotton mouthed and licked his lips and indication he was clearly nervous, But he had to take control of the situation as the control freak bully type of Toxic Man he is. He immediately retorts that he didn’t like the word beat. So Oprah says , so you have issue with the word beat. He then showed his contentiousness, he has the audacity to retort ” no I have issue with the word whipped.
Katherine then stepped in and says You might as well tell the truth. Good for her! I am sure that this is one of the few times in her life that she was able to speak up and speak back to this TOXIC bully. Thank goodness she found the strength to do so, even of it was with the protection of the camera crews and Oprah at her side.
Katherine went on to say He used the strap, as she looked right at Joe. Joe now is clearly uncomfortable with lip locking and head bowed down as he is clearly embarrassed.
Joe was completely humiliated for the first time in his life This bully now leaned back and crossed his arms over his body in a self protective stance protective with his head bowed. If there was a hole in the ground, he would now doubt want to crawl into into it and cover himself with the dirt.
With arms still crossed as you can see int he photo above, he finally indirectly admits that he would have whipped him with a strap to punish for someone who did something wrong. Notice how he detached by referring to Michael as a someone as opposed to using his son’s name- Michael whom he beat or whipped or caused bodily harm. Notice how his eyes are closed as he looks down when he says this. It is because he is so humiliated. It is indicative of shame. Even though hos body language admits shame, his speech does not.
Instead, he continues to justify how the beatings kept Michael out of jail and how none of hos kids have been in jail
Then Oprah asks him if he regrets his strappings on his children. He clearly and distinctly looks directly at Oprah and replied that he does not regret stapping his children.
Now we know why Prince was angry in the photo we see above. Perhaps he couldn’t stomach sitting or even standing next to the man who beat his beloved father with a strap.
THE TRUTH ALWAYS PREVAILS AND MICHAEL TOLD THE TRUTH ABOUT HIS DAD’S BEATINGS
Now we know they truth. Michael spoke the truth about his fathers beatings, Clearly they damaged him emotionally. He carried those scars into his adulthood. He was in such emotional trauma from his father;s violence that he di all he could to tip himself away from being his fathers son. He even changed his skin color and his genetic appearance just to be able to look in the mirror and see no resemblance to the man whom he obviously detested.
He was in such pain that he self medicated with surgery after surgery and drug after drug.
He wanted to go back to his childhood and and re live his childhood with the love he obviously felt he did not have. That may explain why he continued to be child like well into his forties and as he turned fifty. , He was so abused that he wanted to right the wrongs of his father. He could’t do it but he could right those wrongs through his kids. He was a wonderful gather according to his kids. This is a marked contrast from what he would say about his own father, Joe.
The truth has finally prevailed. I only wish Michael would have been alive to hear his father admit what he did to him. Michael did the right thing to never speak to his father and to unplug from him for good. Some things are unforgivable. Physical violence is one of those things that is hard to forgive.
The UNPLUG technique is one of the technique which I describe in my book TOXIC MEN that you can use when you can no longer deal with a person who has made your life miserable. The fact that Joe did not apologize for what he did to Michael and continues to justify it shows how Michael did the right thing to UNPLUG and never allow Joe into his life.
Joe is A Toxic Man. He is a classic control freak bully. To read more about Toxic Men you can get my latest book at a special rate of $14.93 from amazon.com by clicking the link below
Before I analyze this video I need to address some issues about professionalism and speculation and my blog. The body language analyses I make in these blog is based on my background, research, education, and close to three decades of experience and knowledge, which allow me to render certain opinions about how I see certain body language and communication behaviors.
Blogs are a reflection of one’s opinion where editorializing is accepted and the norm. Even scientific journal articles involve speculation regarding proven or unproven theories. So for those of you who write to me I can assure you that I will continue to share my opinions and thoughts in these blogs as well as providing you with my knowledge concerning objective data that I observe.
The first editorial comment I will make with regard to this video is that it made me terribly sad. In fact, it brought tears to my eyes and left me with a sick feeling in my stomach and a heaviness in my heart as I saw how this poor child was neglected both verbally and emotionally.
Having spent the early part of my career studying speech and language development, it is essential for anyone interacting with a child to verbalize with them. That is how a child develops their speech an language skills.
In Cayleey’s case Casey does not interact with her. She does not respond to Caylee’s singing or verbalizing. Instead, she continues to shoot a video, observing her like one would observe a zoo animal. It sickened me.
What shocked me even more was that the only time Casey interacted with Caylee, she uttered two words as if to question what Caylee said. She questioned whether her child was saying the words ” “I kill? ” I could not believe my ears!
Caylee had emotional needs in this video that were clearly not being met . These needs were ignored. To me that is cruel and abusive.
As you will see in my analysis and in looking at the video, Caylee wanted affection and verbal interaction. She wanted love. She wanted to be picked up, especially at the end of the video as you will see. But she was completely ignored .This behavior on Casey’s part was sadistic in my view. It was obviously of preview of horrible things to come.
For those of you who write to me to simply be contentious or to tell me that you know more, or to stick up for Caysey saying that photos exist showing Casey smiling with Caylee or Caylee reaching out to her mother, I say look closer. There are a lot of ” tells” which show that Caylee was hungry for Casey’s love and it was not reciprocated.
Often it is not just the fact that someone is smiling in a photo that determines whether they are happy inside or not. One has to look at subtle body language tells from facial nuances to body positioning and body language behaviors.
I am sure that watching this video will clear up your concerns once and for all as to whether you think Casey was a good and loving mother to Caylee. After watching this sickening video I don’t believe she was a loving mother . A loving and caring mother verbalizes and interacts with their child. They do not ignore a child as you will see by clicking the link below .
If you look at the first photo above, you will see that Caylee begins to have a frustrated concerned look on her face as she is sitting in her high chair with individual pieces of cereal spead out , along with her her baby bottle. She is verbalizing and singing. She verbalizes and sings what sound like “Ah keyeh”
Since the /s/ sounds aren’t yet formed in a child of that age, it may be her attempt to say “ A kiss” Maybe she is asking Casey, who is filming this video for a kiss to reassure her that she is loved. In the photo above you see the beginnings of her frustration and tenseness by her little furrowed brow as she is ignored by Casey.
This continues to be upsetting to her as you can see from her facial expression while she continues to sing and is ignored. Now you can actually see sadness in her downturned eyes and corners of her mouth. She even physically backs away leaning back into her high chair to further show her displeasure.
Now Caylee is very upset as she leaks out the facial expression indicating that she is about to cry. She even curls in her lower lip. Look at her sad eyes . She tries to communicate that she wants a response as she raises her hand and points her finger.
Now Caylee is even more frustrated as she reaches out with her arm indicating that she desires a response and some love and attention. It is also a gesture that she wants physical attention like a hug or some physical contact.
She is not getting any attention from Casey ,so she makes direct eye contact with Casey and continues to sing even louder as she increases the volume of her song. But Casey continues to ignore her.
Caylee sings and now eats and raises her hand to be acknowledged. But she is ignored The significant thing about this screen shot is that she leaked out her anger at being ignored as you can see in the fist like position of her hand.
SHOCK!!! DID CASEY ACTUALLY SAY “I KILL”?
Around 33 seconds into this video Casey zooms in as you can see above and you hear her ask in a questioning tone utttering the words “I Kill? It is shocking. Caylee has been singing ” Ah kee” over and over again, which most would perceive as Caylee trying to say “A kiss.” indicating that she wanted attention nd affection. But Casey questions if little Caylee is saying “I kill”
What normal mother would think that her baby was talking about killing? A child that age is innocent and pure and has no concept of death and evil and killing. In addition, the / l /sound at the final place in a word isn’t developed at that age.
Perhaps Casey was thinking about killing even as early as this video. Otherwise why would she even think to say the word? Was it in her subconscious all along? Were there thoughts pertaining to killing Caylee as early as this video or even earlier?
Caylee is so thrilled that Casey finally interacted with her and uttered something to her, even though she doesn’t understand what Casey actually said, she continues to loudly and vigorously repeat the sound ” kee, kee, kee,” three times while continuing to chew on her cookie.
There is now complete silence on Casey’s part, after Caylee responds by speaking and singing. The silence continues as Caylee continues to be filmed and observed like a zoo animal. There is no interaction. Nothing is said by Casey. There only filming. It is disturbing and upsetting to hear the length of time that the complete silence took place from 52 to 1: 29 .
Then the most bizarre thing happens. Casey films Cayee’s legs from 1:30 to 2:32 where there is continued silence.
She films Caylee under the table and now shoots a close up of Caylee’r crotch area. The implications are highly disturbing. Why would anyone video their child’s crotch area?
It certainly makes one wonder of there were any sexual issues or concerns involved here. I am not accusing Casey of sexually molesting Caylee. I am just staying that this behavior is odd and raises some concerns. It is not typical behavior.
Caylee also thinks that it is odd that she is being filmed under her high chair. So she peers under her high chair to see what is so interesting that it has to be filmed.
For the first time, we see Caylee smile a genuine smile as she thinks that this may be some sort of a game.
But then she quickly realizes that it is not a game. She stops smiling and continues chewing her cookie as she looks directly into the camera.
Caylee is hungry for some type of verbal interaction after so many minutes of silence. She verbalizes and raises her hand and points to Casey as to indicate that she wants Casey to speak and interact with her.
Now you see Caylee is getting very frustrated . She verbalizes “Dek yoo.” which may mean that she is trying to say Thank you as a further attempt to indicate that she wants Casey’s attention. Look at how she stretches out her little body in an attempt to literally reach out to Casey. Her eyes are opened wide and her hand is open to signifying a welcoming gesture towards Casey.
Now her open little hand turns into a pointing gesture where she is in essence saying ” You, mommy, pay attention to me and interact with me.” You can even see the frustration starting to build in Casey’s face. Her eyes begin to turn downward and her mouth does the same. She looks terribly sad as though she is about to cry.
Caylee quickly sees that reaching out doesn’t seem to work in terms of getting mommy’s attention. So she thinks that maybe singing will do the trick. She proceeds to sing di di doo di di duh and changes into another tone of dee de da de de goh. She looks directly at Casey and is wide eyed as we see in the above screen shot.
Singing hasn’t worked in securing Casey’s attention either. So she throws up both hands which indicate that she wants to be picked up. What is terribly sad is that Caylee leaves her hands up in that position for several seconds to no avail.
One can only wonder how long Caylee remained uncomfortably in that high chair. The bottom line is that to not speak to your child when they verbalize and gesture for you to interact with them is inhumane. www.drlillianglass.com
VOCAL AND VERBAL MURDER
The words a person uses, the emphasis and inflection patterns on those particular words, in addition to a person’s vocal tone can tell you if they are dangerous and ready to do you harm. After listening to Mel’s tone of voice and what he said to Oksana Grigoreieva, there is no doubt that he meant business and he was out to destroy her every way possible.
Words must NEVER be taken lightly. When a person speaks as Mel Gibson has spoken to the mother of his child, he has committed verbal murder.
AN EMOTIONALLY BEATEN DOWN OKSANA TRIES TO FIGHT BACK WITH NO AVAIL
Mel’s rant killed Oksana’s self esteem as we hear a meek sounding abused woman.
She tied to fight back and stand up for herself by telling Mel that it is none of his effing business when it came to her breasts, but it was no use.
Mel continued to berate her. It was too painful to listen to. If this horribly abusive snippet was caught on tape, one can only imagine what went on when Mel was not being taped.
Words and tones can destroy another person and can have a lifelong emotional effect. There is no doubt that Mel’s abusive words and actions have left an indelible scar on the mother of his child.
VOICE AND SPEECH MIRRORS THE SOUL
As Galen the ancient Greek philosopher once said, it is the voice that mirrors the soul. It is also mirrors the speech and the communication patterns.
What is in Mel’s head and his heart came out in his voice and the content of his speech. What emerged was an impotent human being. And that impotence may very well translate to sexual impotence as well as you will see as you read on. It translated into a narcissistic, sadistic, control freak.
The most striking thing about the tape is Mel’s hard glottal vocal attacks. The tone sounds like vocal bullets, as he rained down a spray of hatred and vitriol in a staccato pattern.
He closed off the back of his throat when he speaks. That is why you hear a creaky sound in his tone, much like a croaking frog. The reason he sounds like that is because he is filled with rage and anger. This rage and anger causes his muscles to tense up, including his vocal muscles.
The tight vocal muscles don’t allow the air to flow through the vocal cords when he speaks. Hence, you hear the creaky angry and tense sound.
The tone of his speech shows an offensiveness as though he is looking to pick a fight. He is spooling himself up and is ready to take issue with anything and everything.
The best thing Oksana could have done in this case was to remain calm and even keeled, which she did. But even so, it made little or no difference in terms whatever she said. Mel was gunning for a down and dirty fight. Unfortunately she was the victim.
The contents of his speech was peppered with sudden angry bursts of loudness to emphasize specific words. These specific words are key in analyzing what is really going on in Mel’s psyche.
EMPHASIS ON SPECIFIC KEY WORDS DURING MEL’S TIRADE
The capitalized words are those which Mel emphasized during his tirade are seen below. I did not censor any of the words because I wanted to give a clear picture of the exact words Mel used and how he used them.
“Trying to breast feed with Fucking FOREIGN BODIES in you.The fact that you had FOREIGN BODIES in there. So you’re not LYING to me about FAKE TITS you did you FUCKING LIED to me.They look RIDICULOUS. Get rid of them why dontcha?
They look STUPID, It’s just an appraisal. Keep em they look STUPID, Keep em if you want . I don’t give a FUCK. But you know they’re too BIG and they look STUPID. They look like some Vegas BITCH. Vegas Whore .And you go SHASHAYING around in your tight clothes, I won’t stand for that anymore. You go out in public and it’s a Fucking EMBARASSMENT to me. You look like a FUCKING BITCH on heat.
You;ll get RAPED by a pack of Niggers it’s be your fault. All right because YOU PROVOKED it. You are PROVOCATIVELY dressed all the time with your fake BOOBS. You feel you have to SHOW OFF in tight outfits in tight pants You can see you PUSSY from behind. And that GREEN thing. THAT’s (vocal pitch goes up) provocative.
Ok I’m TELLING you, I’m just TELLING you the TRUTH! I DON’T LIKE IT . I don’t WAN’T want that woman. I don’t want YOU .I don’t BELIEVE you any more. I don’t TRUST you/ I don’t LOVE you. I don’t WANT you. Ok. STAY in the FUCKING house. I’ not GIVING it to you, but I’ll LET you stay there . And I will take care of my child but I DON’T WANT YOU anymore.”
MEL THE CONTROL FREAK- THE SIGNAL OF AN ABUSER
In his rant, we can see that is all about control. Mel is trying to control Oksana completely from her breasts- (telling her to get rid of them),to what she wears (tight clothing and that green thing) to her living arrangements ( sadistically telling her he will allow her to live n the house).
Controlling a person the first sign in the Cycle of Abuse . First, they try to control how you look, what you wear, and then it is your basic needs from what you eat, to where, and how you live.
That is exactly what Mel has done to Oksana. If she fails to obey, he gets more verbally abusive which is the next stage in the Cycle of Abuse we saw.
Then if she fails to do what he says, the next stage is the physically violent phase. While we have yet to see the photos of Oksana’s black eyes and chipped teeth as a result of Mel’s hands, based on the pattern we have seen thus far, I tend to believe that he did indeed abuse her.
MEL’S NARCISSISM IN NOT WANTING OKSANA TO HAVE ALL THE ATTENTION
The next thing we notice in Mel’s rant is that he absolutely hates it when Oksana is the center of attention. After all that attention is reserved for him- the star- not Oksana, the “extra” in his the big screen of his life.
He talks about how he doesn’t like it when she dresses in tight clothes and how it embarrasses HIM. Of course it embarrasses him. He is the one who wants the public to only look at him and he is embarrassed if anyone more attractive or sexy looking surpasses him as far as attention goes.
He doesn’t like the attention Oksana gets from other men and even goes so disgustingly far as saying that since she attracts so much attention to herself by her dress, a pack of “Niggers” will swoop down and gang rape her and that it will be all of her own doing.
But it is not about the dress or the clothes or that green thing or the outfit, which as Mel so vulgarly stated, revealed her “pussy” . It is all about her taking away his limelight and redirecting the attention that he believes should be on him, on to her.
IS MEL SEXUALLY IMPOTENT?
Enraged Mel is vocally focusing on some very key words – BOOBS, BITCH. PUSSY, RAPED, and FUCKING (said multiple times)
He verbally focuses on Oksana’s “big boobs”, the provocative “green thing” she was wearing, her “sashaying around”, and the threat of being “raped
by a pack of “Niggers.”
What he is saying here is that she is clearly sexy and provocative with her large breats and tight clothing that reveal her sexy body, including her private parts .
He is so threatened by this. Thus, he attempts to cut down her breasts by telling Oksana they are fake, too big, and look stupid.
Obviously, her sexy assets are what initially attracted him to her , to the point that he had sex with her, got her pregnant, and left his wife of over 30 years for her.
But suddenly, he is finding fault with what attracted him to her in the first place. He is rationalizing that it is her fake large breasts that are the reasons he is most likely no longer able to perform sexually. He continues to rationalize, that it is the fault of her provocative clothing that doesn’t allow him to get turned on.
He takes his being sexually turned off, a step further. There is no doubt that Mel is a racist, who hates Jews, Mexicans and Blacks as we have all seen via his past behavior and now current tirade.
So what would turn him off more than people he detests? It would be a group of Blacks, having sex with his woman- sex that he may be no longer able to achieve with her.
He took the sexual sterotype of the Black man and his sexual prowess and magnified his fantasy scenario ten fold, with a “group” of “Niggers” “raping” her. He used this egregious term- the N word as an attempt to further degrade Oksana in his sick scenario, as a way to rationalizes why he, most likely cannot perform sexually.
Because he feels Oksana is the reason he is destroyed sexually with impotence, he in turn wants to destroy her for doing this to him. That is why he threatened to burn down the house, but not until after she gives him oral sex.
In saying this, he is in essence, asking her to become the “whore” like image that initially attracted him sexually, until she bore him a child and became the “Madona” like image that now renders him sexually impotent with her. I will get into Mel’s “ Whore/ Madonna Complex” in a just a moment.
But in essence, what he is saying is “I want to destroy you Oksana, because you destroyed my sexuality. But before I do, you have to do something to help revive my sexuality that you destroyed. You must prove to me that you have not destroyed my sexuality. But never the less, I plan to destroy you forever by burning down the house , preferably with you in it.
MEL’ S MADONNA/ WHORE SYNDROME
Mel may clearly be blaming Oksana for his lack of sexuality. But in reality, she has little to do with it. It is all about him. Based on Mel’s words, it is clear that he now sees Oksana, the mother of his child in a very different light. Prior to her being pregnant, he perceived her as the” whore” who sexually tuned him on. But this is no longer the case.
A lot of men can have great sex with a lover, or girlfriend. or wife. But as soon as the lover, girlfriend, or wife delivers a baby, the man may no longer see her as being sexually attractive. She is no longer their sexual “whore”. She is now the “mother” of their child. She is the “Madonna”. That is clearly what Mel may be suffering from, in my view.
It is evident in his speech. He doesn’t want her to look like a “Vegas whore.” He doesn’t want her to dress provocatively. He doesn’t want her to “sashay” around in public because it embarrasses him.
It embarrasses him because now that she is the mother of his child, she can no longer dress the way she dressed before she birthed his child, which now in his mind looks like a provocative “whore”.
He feels that now she must look proper and dress the part of the “Madonna” that she is now isin Mel’s disturbed mind. She must now, go out in unsexy outfits, unlike lithe green one she wore. Otherwise. it will say to Mel that she is still a “whore”- a sexual object to be preyed upon by the by the worst kind of people Mel views, in his racially sick mind- Black people.
To drive home his point and put the fear of God into her ,he warns Oksana about his biggest fear. His fear is that the mother of his child, who he now sees as the Madonna, will be violated and tarnished and “raped” by the people he is most repulsed by- Black men.
He warns further that she will be the one responsible for her own raping and violation. She will be the one who brought it on herself, by not dressing the part of the “Madonna”, but rather the “whore”.
That is why he is allowing her to stay in the house. He wants her out of sight. He wants her to be the Madonna and only care for his precious child. He wants her away from the public attention of the limelight. He wants her away from any other man who may find his “Madonna” a sexy looking “whore”. And he especially wants her home and away from Blacks, whom he feels may “rape: her and tarnish his fantasy “Madonna” forever.
MEL, THE VERBAL MURDERER
Mel committed verbal murder when he attacked Oksana so brutally with his tones and words. He murdered her spirit and you can hear it in her fearful meek voice, as she tries to fight back and give him a dose of his own medicine by using the F word to tell him her breasts are none of his business.
Mel can never take these words back. They are in Oksana’s psyche forever.
Mel’s tones and words murdered his chances of having a civil relationship so his daughter could grow up without the enormous tension that will most likely always be there between Mel and Oksana.
MEL’S WORDS KILLED OFF HIS FAN BASE FOREVER
Mel’s verbal murder also killed off his many fans. These cans can never look at Mel the same. What he said about his loyal supporters is unforgivable. They will NEVER support him at the box office no matter what film he makes in the future .
HE LOST HIS JEWISH FANS.
Just like there is no Jewish fan who can every look at Mel the same, after he made his anti-Semitic remarks when he was in the back of a police squad car after being arrested for a DUI, there is no Black fan that can ever look at him the same after calling them the N word.
HE LOST HIS BLACK FANS FOREVER
And adding insult to injury, he said that a “gang” of Blacks would rape Oksana just because his baby momma would be dressed provocatively. How insulting! How degrading to say that because a person is dressed a certain way that Blacks are so out of control with their sexuality that they would have no choice but to “rape” her in large groups in a pack, as in a pack of hungry, out of control wolves! This is the ultimate in stereotypic racism.
HE LOST HIS LATIN FANS
No Latin fan can ever look at Mel the same, after they heard him refer to Mexicans as “wetbacks.” How ugly! What he said is not only an insult to Mexicans but to every Spanish speaking fan.
MEL LOST HIS FEMALE FANS
And finally, no female fan can ever look at Mel the same. As if calling a female police officer “Sugar Tits” when he was arrested for a DUI wasn’t enough to turn women off, his rant to Oksana is guaranteed to turn off any woman who may have ignored his sexist comment to the police woman, forgiven Mel, or given him a second chance.
The degrading and sexist way he spoke to Oksana sent chills up my spine as I am sure it did to many other women.
The sexist and degrading name calling – from “whore” to “bitch”. The vulgar reference to “tits” and “pussy” is unconscionable. No woman should ever have to hear that type of language coming out of anyone’s mouth.
“YOU’LL NEVER WORK IN THIS TOWN AGAIN”
While Hollywood loves a good comeback, there are certain things you can NEVER come back from. Robert Downy, Mickey Rourke, Britney Spears, are examples of the Hollywood dream. They are examples of having it all, losing it all, and then coming back even bigger and better than before. Hollywood is hoping to add Lindsay Lohan to this list, but only time will tell ,as it all depends on Lindsay now.
But there will never be a comeback for Mel. Mel is on his own this time. Hollywood, who has many powerful Jewish people in control, was going to pull the plug on Mel years ago after his anti semitic comments. But Mel’s well respected agent at the time, Ed Limato of the William Morris Agency fought tooth and nail to keep Mel alive in the industry.
But last weekend Ed Limato died and so did Mel’s most loyal supporter. Now, there is no one to bail him out and play “the emperor has new clothes” game. Mel’s career is as dead as Ed Limato.
When the William Morris Agency quits you even though you have made millions of dollars for them, you can kiss your career goodbye forever. What Mel did was unforgiveable and the William Morris Agency, headed by Ari Emanual, let Mel know it in no uncertain terms.
Now that his old agent Ed Limato is dead, there is no one to defend Mel and play “the emperor has new clothes when in reality, the emperor isn’t wearing any clothes.” Mel is on his own and it is OVER for him in Hollywood!
Will another agency take him? If they do, it will speak volumes about them and they will not be respected. They will be seen as vultures. A lot of these heavy duty agents work together. They support one another. So, if Mel was fired from WMA/Endeavor, I doubt CAA or ICM – the three agencies who really matter in Hollywood and can do the job Mel requires, will take him on as a client.
SOME THINGS ARE UNFORGIVEABLE!
While you may think that this is no big deal, and that Mel will be even more popular because of all of this publicity, you are sadly mistaken.
The old adage “ there is no such thing as bad publicity” may have worked when Hollywood began in the 20’s, but it doesn’t work in this day and age.
It does work to make people aware of those who are not yet household names or who’s career is waning. While scandals get people to sit up and take notice and increase their awareness of you and hence your popularity, like it did with Kate Gosslelin, making her a star , it works the opposite when someone is already a super star and a household word.
When they do something like Mel has done- verbally abuse a woman and allegedly hit her while she was holding her baby, it is unforgivable!
Look at what happened to Rhianna beater, singer Chris Brown. His career will never be the same. But Mel’s case is much worse. There is not only alleged physical violence, there is a baby involved.
There are words involved that no one will tolerate like the N word. Comedian, Michael Richards. who played Kramer on Seinfield, essentially lost his career after his tirade in a nightclub where he used the N word and made other racist remarks.
Actor Isaiah Washington was let go from Grey’s Anatomy for using the other F word, when he called his fellow co-star a “faggott”.
How people responded to these egregious actions, set a precedent. No one will accept it and there is no going back! It is over for Mel Gibson!
ED LIMATO CAN’T HELP HIM NO AND NEITHER CAN HIS TOP PR SPIN PUBLICIST PAUL BLOCK
Mel can pay his publicist and my dear friend,Paul Block of Rogers and Cowan, millions of dollars and it the spin will never work! I am sure Paul is working 24/7 trying to do damage control .
I see how hard Paul is working ever since this mess occurred, as Paul tries to cast dispersions on Oksana by releasing stories that Mel is suing her for extortion. When that didn’t work, Paul no doubt, released a news flash about how Mel was suing her for leaking the tape, and suing her for breach of contract.
Who cares about what Oksana did? Anything she allegedly did is minor in comparison to what Mel did. In actuality, the tape says it all. It speaks volumes with regard to what Mel did to her.
So what if she leaked the tape? There are no secrets anymore anyway. The truth always comes out! No one can hide. The cat is out of the bag , the feathers are out of the pillowcase, and Humpty Dumpty has fallen off the wall and his pieces can never be put back together at all.
PR SPIN TO MAKE MEL THE VICTIM OF A SAD BRUTAL CHILDHOOD WON’T WORK EITHER
I will save publicist Alan Nierob a lot of time and effort, by letting him know that if his next move is to spin the pity card, it won’t work with Mel.
It would be easy to now blame Mel’s bad behavior on his alcoholism or a bipolar disorder but it won’t work. There is just way too much bad behavior. It is not just one thing. It is a lot of things.
Many people are alcoholics and bipolar and they don’t abuse others like Mel did. They aren’t racists, anti Semites, or alleged physical abusers.
It would also be easy for Paul to spin it by blaming all of his issues on Mel’s bad childhood and his abusive father, the ignorant father who is a Holocaust denier, and whom Mel has never spoken out against.
Maybe Alan Nierob will use this time and throw Mel’s father under the PR bus to save his client. But it won’t work. Lots of people have wacky or ignorant parents and they don’t act like Mel did. And besides, Mel is in his 50’s. How much longer can one blame a parent for their bad actions? It won’t work!
My advice to Alan, who happens to be Jewish and who is the son of precious Holocaust survivors, is to find another client. While you may want to do right by your clients, remember that deep down, Mel is not too crazy about you and could spit his vitriol on you personally in a heartbeat.
And speaking of heartbeats, spinning a story about Mel being rushed to the hospital because of a heart attack or some other unknown ailment or sending him into rehab won’t work either . The public is not stupid and they won’t buy anything but the truth!
This coming November I have a book out called Toxic Men- Identify Deal With And Heal From Men Who Make Your Life Miserable. In the book it tells you how to identify Toxic Men like Mel and what body language signals to look for. It tells you what to do – what 10 options you have available if you are in a toxic relationship like Oksana is in. It gives you choices that can either turn the relationship around or end the relationship for good. And finally it tells you how to heal from the events that Oksana experienced.
While the book will be available in bookstores November 2010, you can order it online right now. Just click this link http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Men-Ways-Identify-Miserable/dp/144050007X and it will take you to amazon.com where you can order your copy ahead of time and get it as soon as it is released.