“The body doesn’t lie. Neither does the voice or speech pattern.” – Dr. Lillian Glass
I have held off on writing about Jodi Arias until I had something significant to say. But after watching her on the stand for eight days and listening to her sickeningly sweet phony vocal tones and watching one signal of deception after another I have something to say. Today the REAL Jodi showed up on the stand and I am here to talk about it. .
I have always said in my books that you MUST beware of anyone that has a sickening sweet soft spoken voice, where you can barely hear them at times. I have said they are phonies and you must RUN because there is a lot of built up anger and hostility that this type of voice pattern masks. Now here is living proof of what I have been talking about in the Jodi Arias trial. She went from meek mouse tone to roaring lion tone as she displayed cockiness and anger toward the prosecutor.
This is Not good for her because juror swill clearly see the REAL Jodi as they
will get a glimpse of her anger and what she must have been like around Travis. They will see how she could turn on him on a dime. They can now see her anger up close and personal.
The jury also also saw her lying first hand. Prosecutors had her hold her up her hand. Her finger was bent . She said it got that way months before Travis’ death as he abused her.
Then the prosecutor showed a photo of her after Travis was killed and the hand was not bent. It was a photo taken allegedly months after he beat her.
She sat there and LIED in front of everyone that her finger was bent. There was no way her finger was bent as anyone with eyes could see that. This is yet another nail in her coffin towards the death penalty.
The prosecutor asked her about her memory and when it fails he and she look aways and said “Usually when men like you are screaming
at me or grilling me or someone like Travisdoing the same.
That was a BAD move on Jodi’s part as she just lost her “sympathy” vote from any of the jurors who are gullible enough to have previously fallen for her poor me victim testimony.
Her nasty retort was anything but victim like. It was a dig at the prosecutor and it will in my estimation but another nail in her coffin.
Then he asks so that affects your memory. Her she shows DUPING DELIGHT where there is a slight smile on her face as she says “Yes that makes my brain scramble.”
Her slight smile which leaked out showed she was happy she felt she got a dig into the prosecutor and compared him to Travis. But what this stupid woman doesn’t realize is that it may have cost her her life . It may have angered jurors that she painted the prosecutor with the same brush she painted Travis. The jurors saw how he asked her simple question about her memory and now she took it to a level of indirectly accusing the prosecutor of verbally abusing her.
Her smiling during the prosecution’s questioning is not good either. There is NOTHING to smile about when a man has been brutally killed like Travis was and when her life is on the line. Jurors will pick that up and it will be a turn off to them. Perhaps she has been conditioned by others that her smile gets her what she wants. But it certainly won’t be the case here. Her smile for the first time in her life will work against her.
Will Jodi die by lethal needle? Usually it is reserved for people who have killed their children or spouses or a both, or a parent, in Arizona like the three women who are already on death row there. Each of these women also sought to benefit financially from the death where Jodi did not. So Jodi’s cases a little different in that regard.
However given the brutality of the murder that the jurors were forced to see, Jodi’s lies from the past and witnessing her lies right in front of their eyes with regard to her finger, her smugness, and her belligerent attitude with the prosecutor, Jodi Arias may very well be joining these three woman.
It is a myth that because a woman is pretty she won’t get the death sentence.One woman who was on death row and executed in Texas was quite beautiful and could pass as a Kardashian with her long brown hair, dark eyes, olive skin, and pretty features.
All three women who are on Arizona’s death row are attractive. So it shows that looks really don’t matter these days as far as the death penalty is concerned.
Actually Jodi is doing all she can to not be attractive with her greasy hair limp hair, no makeup, and glasses in her attorney’s or a jury consultant’s misguided coaching to have her not look like a sexy bombshell she looked like in the photos with Travis.
Was Travis and angel? Far from it! Was he a hypocrite with regard to his Mormon religion which doesn’t believe in premarital sex. Yes. Was he a jerk in that he used Jodi for sex and wanted to marry a decent Momon girl. Yes. Did he give her mixed messages? You bet . But did he deserve to die in such a brutal way? No way!
If the man was wet and naked it made him even more vulnerable and juror will pick that up. Even if he did get mad at her for dropping the camera and she claims she killed him in self defense. It was OVERKILL which means she despised him and most likely planned this attack at one point or another. Maybe it was a fantasy that ran through in her mind from time to time for how awful he treated her. But the fact that she executed it with such force shows the built up anger and hate she was harboring towards him.
That leads me back to her voice. The voice mirrors what goes on in your head and your heart as Galen the Greek philosopher once said. Jody hand a lot of rage and anger in her heart and it was clearly mirrored in her voice until it was unleashed today by the prosecutor.
VOCAL AND VERBAL MURDER
The words a person uses, the emphasis and inflection patterns on those particular words, in addition to a person’s vocal tone can tell you if they are dangerous and ready to do you harm. After listening to Mel’s tone of voice and what he said to Oksana Grigoreieva, there is no doubt that he meant business and he was out to destroy her every way possible.
Words must NEVER be taken lightly. When a person speaks as Mel Gibson has spoken to the mother of his child, he has committed verbal murder.
AN EMOTIONALLY BEATEN DOWN OKSANA TRIES TO FIGHT BACK WITH NO AVAIL
Mel’s rant killed Oksana’s self esteem as we hear a meek sounding abused woman.
She tied to fight back and stand up for herself by telling Mel that it is none of his effing business when it came to her breasts, but it was no use.
Mel continued to berate her. It was too painful to listen to. If this horribly abusive snippet was caught on tape, one can only imagine what went on when Mel was not being taped.
Words and tones can destroy another person and can have a lifelong emotional effect. There is no doubt that Mel’s abusive words and actions have left an indelible scar on the mother of his child.
VOICE AND SPEECH MIRRORS THE SOUL
As Galen the ancient Greek philosopher once said, it is the voice that mirrors the soul. It is also mirrors the speech and the communication patterns.
What is in Mel’s head and his heart came out in his voice and the content of his speech. What emerged was an impotent human being. And that impotence may very well translate to sexual impotence as well as you will see as you read on. It translated into a narcissistic, sadistic, control freak.
The most striking thing about the tape is Mel’s hard glottal vocal attacks. The tone sounds like vocal bullets, as he rained down a spray of hatred and vitriol in a staccato pattern.
He closed off the back of his throat when he speaks. That is why you hear a creaky sound in his tone, much like a croaking frog. The reason he sounds like that is because he is filled with rage and anger. This rage and anger causes his muscles to tense up, including his vocal muscles.
The tight vocal muscles don’t allow the air to flow through the vocal cords when he speaks. Hence, you hear the creaky angry and tense sound.
The tone of his speech shows an offensiveness as though he is looking to pick a fight. He is spooling himself up and is ready to take issue with anything and everything.
The best thing Oksana could have done in this case was to remain calm and even keeled, which she did. But even so, it made little or no difference in terms whatever she said. Mel was gunning for a down and dirty fight. Unfortunately she was the victim.
The contents of his speech was peppered with sudden angry bursts of loudness to emphasize specific words. These specific words are key in analyzing what is really going on in Mel’s psyche.
EMPHASIS ON SPECIFIC KEY WORDS DURING MEL’S TIRADE
The capitalized words are those which Mel emphasized during his tirade are seen below. I did not censor any of the words because I wanted to give a clear picture of the exact words Mel used and how he used them.
“Trying to breast feed with Fucking FOREIGN BODIES in you.The fact that you had FOREIGN BODIES in there. So you’re not LYING to me about FAKE TITS you did you FUCKING LIED to me.They look RIDICULOUS. Get rid of them why dontcha?
They look STUPID, It’s just an appraisal. Keep em they look STUPID, Keep em if you want . I don’t give a FUCK. But you know they’re too BIG and they look STUPID. They look like some Vegas BITCH. Vegas Whore .And you go SHASHAYING around in your tight clothes, I won’t stand for that anymore. You go out in public and it’s a Fucking EMBARASSMENT to me. You look like a FUCKING BITCH on heat.
You;ll get RAPED by a pack of Niggers it’s be your fault. All right because YOU PROVOKED it. You are PROVOCATIVELY dressed all the time with your fake BOOBS. You feel you have to SHOW OFF in tight outfits in tight pants You can see you PUSSY from behind. And that GREEN thing. THAT’s (vocal pitch goes up) provocative.
Ok I’m TELLING you, I’m just TELLING you the TRUTH! I DON’T LIKE IT . I don’t WAN’T want that woman. I don’t want YOU .I don’t BELIEVE you any more. I don’t TRUST you/ I don’t LOVE you. I don’t WANT you. Ok. STAY in the FUCKING house. I’ not GIVING it to you, but I’ll LET you stay there . And I will take care of my child but I DON’T WANT YOU anymore.”
MEL THE CONTROL FREAK- THE SIGNAL OF AN ABUSER
In his rant, we can see that is all about control. Mel is trying to control Oksana completely from her breasts- (telling her to get rid of them),to what she wears (tight clothing and that green thing) to her living arrangements ( sadistically telling her he will allow her to live n the house).
Controlling a person the first sign in the Cycle of Abuse . First, they try to control how you look, what you wear, and then it is your basic needs from what you eat, to where, and how you live.
That is exactly what Mel has done to Oksana. If she fails to obey, he gets more verbally abusive which is the next stage in the Cycle of Abuse we saw.
Then if she fails to do what he says, the next stage is the physically violent phase. While we have yet to see the photos of Oksana’s black eyes and chipped teeth as a result of Mel’s hands, based on the pattern we have seen thus far, I tend to believe that he did indeed abuse her.
MEL’S NARCISSISM IN NOT WANTING OKSANA TO HAVE ALL THE ATTENTION
The next thing we notice in Mel’s rant is that he absolutely hates it when Oksana is the center of attention. After all that attention is reserved for him- the star- not Oksana, the “extra” in his the big screen of his life.
He talks about how he doesn’t like it when she dresses in tight clothes and how it embarrasses HIM. Of course it embarrasses him. He is the one who wants the public to only look at him and he is embarrassed if anyone more attractive or sexy looking surpasses him as far as attention goes.
He doesn’t like the attention Oksana gets from other men and even goes so disgustingly far as saying that since she attracts so much attention to herself by her dress, a pack of “Niggers” will swoop down and gang rape her and that it will be all of her own doing.
But it is not about the dress or the clothes or that green thing or the outfit, which as Mel so vulgarly stated, revealed her “pussy” . It is all about her taking away his limelight and redirecting the attention that he believes should be on him, on to her.
IS MEL SEXUALLY IMPOTENT?
Enraged Mel is vocally focusing on some very key words – BOOBS, BITCH. PUSSY, RAPED, and FUCKING (said multiple times)
He verbally focuses on Oksana’s “big boobs”, the provocative “green thing” she was wearing, her “sashaying around”, and the threat of being “raped
by a pack of “Niggers.”
What he is saying here is that she is clearly sexy and provocative with her large breats and tight clothing that reveal her sexy body, including her private parts .
He is so threatened by this. Thus, he attempts to cut down her breasts by telling Oksana they are fake, too big, and look stupid.
Obviously, her sexy assets are what initially attracted him to her , to the point that he had sex with her, got her pregnant, and left his wife of over 30 years for her.
But suddenly, he is finding fault with what attracted him to her in the first place. He is rationalizing that it is her fake large breasts that are the reasons he is most likely no longer able to perform sexually. He continues to rationalize, that it is the fault of her provocative clothing that doesn’t allow him to get turned on.
He takes his being sexually turned off, a step further. There is no doubt that Mel is a racist, who hates Jews, Mexicans and Blacks as we have all seen via his past behavior and now current tirade.
So what would turn him off more than people he detests? It would be a group of Blacks, having sex with his woman- sex that he may be no longer able to achieve with her.
He took the sexual sterotype of the Black man and his sexual prowess and magnified his fantasy scenario ten fold, with a “group” of “Niggers” “raping” her. He used this egregious term- the N word as an attempt to further degrade Oksana in his sick scenario, as a way to rationalizes why he, most likely cannot perform sexually.
Because he feels Oksana is the reason he is destroyed sexually with impotence, he in turn wants to destroy her for doing this to him. That is why he threatened to burn down the house, but not until after she gives him oral sex.
In saying this, he is in essence, asking her to become the “whore” like image that initially attracted him sexually, until she bore him a child and became the “Madona” like image that now renders him sexually impotent with her. I will get into Mel’s “ Whore/ Madonna Complex” in a just a moment.
But in essence, what he is saying is “I want to destroy you Oksana, because you destroyed my sexuality. But before I do, you have to do something to help revive my sexuality that you destroyed. You must prove to me that you have not destroyed my sexuality. But never the less, I plan to destroy you forever by burning down the house , preferably with you in it.
MEL’ S MADONNA/ WHORE SYNDROME
Mel may clearly be blaming Oksana for his lack of sexuality. But in reality, she has little to do with it. It is all about him. Based on Mel’s words, it is clear that he now sees Oksana, the mother of his child in a very different light. Prior to her being pregnant, he perceived her as the” whore” who sexually tuned him on. But this is no longer the case.
A lot of men can have great sex with a lover, or girlfriend. or wife. But as soon as the lover, girlfriend, or wife delivers a baby, the man may no longer see her as being sexually attractive. She is no longer their sexual “whore”. She is now the “mother” of their child. She is the “Madonna”. That is clearly what Mel may be suffering from, in my view.
It is evident in his speech. He doesn’t want her to look like a “Vegas whore.” He doesn’t want her to dress provocatively. He doesn’t want her to “sashay” around in public because it embarrasses him.
It embarrasses him because now that she is the mother of his child, she can no longer dress the way she dressed before she birthed his child, which now in his mind looks like a provocative “whore”.
He feels that now she must look proper and dress the part of the “Madonna” that she is now isin Mel’s disturbed mind. She must now, go out in unsexy outfits, unlike lithe green one she wore. Otherwise. it will say to Mel that she is still a “whore”- a sexual object to be preyed upon by the by the worst kind of people Mel views, in his racially sick mind- Black people.
To drive home his point and put the fear of God into her ,he warns Oksana about his biggest fear. His fear is that the mother of his child, who he now sees as the Madonna, will be violated and tarnished and “raped” by the people he is most repulsed by- Black men.
He warns further that she will be the one responsible for her own raping and violation. She will be the one who brought it on herself, by not dressing the part of the “Madonna”, but rather the “whore”.
That is why he is allowing her to stay in the house. He wants her out of sight. He wants her to be the Madonna and only care for his precious child. He wants her away from the public attention of the limelight. He wants her away from any other man who may find his “Madonna” a sexy looking “whore”. And he especially wants her home and away from Blacks, whom he feels may “rape: her and tarnish his fantasy “Madonna” forever.
MEL, THE VERBAL MURDERER
Mel committed verbal murder when he attacked Oksana so brutally with his tones and words. He murdered her spirit and you can hear it in her fearful meek voice, as she tries to fight back and give him a dose of his own medicine by using the F word to tell him her breasts are none of his business.
Mel can never take these words back. They are in Oksana’s psyche forever.
Mel’s tones and words murdered his chances of having a civil relationship so his daughter could grow up without the enormous tension that will most likely always be there between Mel and Oksana.
MEL’S WORDS KILLED OFF HIS FAN BASE FOREVER
Mel’s verbal murder also killed off his many fans. These cans can never look at Mel the same. What he said about his loyal supporters is unforgivable. They will NEVER support him at the box office no matter what film he makes in the future .
HE LOST HIS JEWISH FANS.
Just like there is no Jewish fan who can every look at Mel the same, after he made his anti-Semitic remarks when he was in the back of a police squad car after being arrested for a DUI, there is no Black fan that can ever look at him the same after calling them the N word.
HE LOST HIS BLACK FANS FOREVER
And adding insult to injury, he said that a “gang” of Blacks would rape Oksana just because his baby momma would be dressed provocatively. How insulting! How degrading to say that because a person is dressed a certain way that Blacks are so out of control with their sexuality that they would have no choice but to “rape” her in large groups in a pack, as in a pack of hungry, out of control wolves! This is the ultimate in stereotypic racism.
HE LOST HIS LATIN FANS
No Latin fan can ever look at Mel the same, after they heard him refer to Mexicans as “wetbacks.” How ugly! What he said is not only an insult to Mexicans but to every Spanish speaking fan.
MEL LOST HIS FEMALE FANS
And finally, no female fan can ever look at Mel the same. As if calling a female police officer “Sugar Tits” when he was arrested for a DUI wasn’t enough to turn women off, his rant to Oksana is guaranteed to turn off any woman who may have ignored his sexist comment to the police woman, forgiven Mel, or given him a second chance.
The degrading and sexist way he spoke to Oksana sent chills up my spine as I am sure it did to many other women.
The sexist and degrading name calling – from “whore” to “bitch”. The vulgar reference to “tits” and “pussy” is unconscionable. No woman should ever have to hear that type of language coming out of anyone’s mouth.
“YOU’LL NEVER WORK IN THIS TOWN AGAIN”
While Hollywood loves a good comeback, there are certain things you can NEVER come back from. Robert Downy, Mickey Rourke, Britney Spears, are examples of the Hollywood dream. They are examples of having it all, losing it all, and then coming back even bigger and better than before. Hollywood is hoping to add Lindsay Lohan to this list, but only time will tell ,as it all depends on Lindsay now.
But there will never be a comeback for Mel. Mel is on his own this time. Hollywood, who has many powerful Jewish people in control, was going to pull the plug on Mel years ago after his anti semitic comments. But Mel’s well respected agent at the time, Ed Limato of the William Morris Agency fought tooth and nail to keep Mel alive in the industry.
But last weekend Ed Limato died and so did Mel’s most loyal supporter. Now, there is no one to bail him out and play “the emperor has new clothes” game. Mel’s career is as dead as Ed Limato.
When the William Morris Agency quits you even though you have made millions of dollars for them, you can kiss your career goodbye forever. What Mel did was unforgiveable and the William Morris Agency, headed by Ari Emanual, let Mel know it in no uncertain terms.
Now that his old agent Ed Limato is dead, there is no one to defend Mel and play “the emperor has new clothes when in reality, the emperor isn’t wearing any clothes.” Mel is on his own and it is OVER for him in Hollywood!
Will another agency take him? If they do, it will speak volumes about them and they will not be respected. They will be seen as vultures. A lot of these heavy duty agents work together. They support one another. So, if Mel was fired from WMA/Endeavor, I doubt CAA or ICM – the three agencies who really matter in Hollywood and can do the job Mel requires, will take him on as a client.
SOME THINGS ARE UNFORGIVEABLE!
While you may think that this is no big deal, and that Mel will be even more popular because of all of this publicity, you are sadly mistaken.
The old adage “ there is no such thing as bad publicity” may have worked when Hollywood began in the 20’s, but it doesn’t work in this day and age.
It does work to make people aware of those who are not yet household names or who’s career is waning. While scandals get people to sit up and take notice and increase their awareness of you and hence your popularity, like it did with Kate Gosslelin, making her a star , it works the opposite when someone is already a super star and a household word.
When they do something like Mel has done- verbally abuse a woman and allegedly hit her while she was holding her baby, it is unforgivable!
Look at what happened to Rhianna beater, singer Chris Brown. His career will never be the same. But Mel’s case is much worse. There is not only alleged physical violence, there is a baby involved.
There are words involved that no one will tolerate like the N word. Comedian, Michael Richards. who played Kramer on Seinfield, essentially lost his career after his tirade in a nightclub where he used the N word and made other racist remarks.
Actor Isaiah Washington was let go from Grey’s Anatomy for using the other F word, when he called his fellow co-star a “faggott”.
How people responded to these egregious actions, set a precedent. No one will accept it and there is no going back! It is over for Mel Gibson!
ED LIMATO CAN’T HELP HIM NO AND NEITHER CAN HIS TOP PR SPIN PUBLICIST PAUL BLOCK
Mel can pay his publicist and my dear friend,Paul Block of Rogers and Cowan, millions of dollars and it the spin will never work! I am sure Paul is working 24/7 trying to do damage control .
I see how hard Paul is working ever since this mess occurred, as Paul tries to cast dispersions on Oksana by releasing stories that Mel is suing her for extortion. When that didn’t work, Paul no doubt, released a news flash about how Mel was suing her for leaking the tape, and suing her for breach of contract.
Who cares about what Oksana did? Anything she allegedly did is minor in comparison to what Mel did. In actuality, the tape says it all. It speaks volumes with regard to what Mel did to her.
So what if she leaked the tape? There are no secrets anymore anyway. The truth always comes out! No one can hide. The cat is out of the bag , the feathers are out of the pillowcase, and Humpty Dumpty has fallen off the wall and his pieces can never be put back together at all.
PR SPIN TO MAKE MEL THE VICTIM OF A SAD BRUTAL CHILDHOOD WON’T WORK EITHER
I will save publicist Alan Nierob a lot of time and effort, by letting him know that if his next move is to spin the pity card, it won’t work with Mel.
It would be easy to now blame Mel’s bad behavior on his alcoholism or a bipolar disorder but it won’t work. There is just way too much bad behavior. It is not just one thing. It is a lot of things.
Many people are alcoholics and bipolar and they don’t abuse others like Mel did. They aren’t racists, anti Semites, or alleged physical abusers.
It would also be easy for Paul to spin it by blaming all of his issues on Mel’s bad childhood and his abusive father, the ignorant father who is a Holocaust denier, and whom Mel has never spoken out against.
Maybe Alan Nierob will use this time and throw Mel’s father under the PR bus to save his client. But it won’t work. Lots of people have wacky or ignorant parents and they don’t act like Mel did. And besides, Mel is in his 50’s. How much longer can one blame a parent for their bad actions? It won’t work!
My advice to Alan, who happens to be Jewish and who is the son of precious Holocaust survivors, is to find another client. While you may want to do right by your clients, remember that deep down, Mel is not too crazy about you and could spit his vitriol on you personally in a heartbeat.
And speaking of heartbeats, spinning a story about Mel being rushed to the hospital because of a heart attack or some other unknown ailment or sending him into rehab won’t work either . The public is not stupid and they won’t buy anything but the truth!
This coming November I have a book out called Toxic Men- Identify Deal With And Heal From Men Who Make Your Life Miserable. In the book it tells you how to identify Toxic Men like Mel and what body language signals to look for. It tells you what to do – what 10 options you have available if you are in a toxic relationship like Oksana is in. It gives you choices that can either turn the relationship around or end the relationship for good. And finally it tells you how to heal from the events that Oksana experienced.
While the book will be available in bookstores November 2010, you can order it online right now. Just click this link http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Men-Ways-Identify-Miserable/dp/144050007X and it will take you to amazon.com where you can order your copy ahead of time and get it as soon as it is released.
Body language is both an art and a science. It is an art in that it takes a lot of practice and skill to become adept at it. It is also a science in that researchers for decades have specifically documented certain signals that allow us to understand what others are really communicating. Some of these signals are universal while others of which are cultural. Anyone who negates the importance of “body language” especially in this day and age, is completely ignorant and should be ignored. Understanding body language and acting on what you observe in others can change your life. It can even save your life!
THE BODY DOESN’T LIE!
Whether it’s saving yourself a lot of grief in the dating arena, knowing if your husband or wife is cheating on you, finding if a someone with whom you’re doing business is trying to con you, feeling more confident you’ve picked the right baby sitter, or wondering if that person planning to board that plane is a terrorist, you have to know how to effectively read people’s, body language. You have to know “before whom you stand” Why? According to my quote which you commonly hear me make throughout the media, it is because “the body doesn’t lie!” Neither does the voice or communication patterns.”
Body language is not only about body movement and action. It involves facial movement and expression, the sound of one’s voice and content of what a person says- their speech. In this “computer age” it also involves a person’s writing. You can learn a great deal about someone by the information that they “leak” out about themselves in the written form. This is especially true for those who blog and even more true for those who blog “anonymously.” These people feel more free to leak out pertinent information about themselves, because they assume no one will know their identity. It gives them a sense of freedom to say whatever they want, without being accountable- even if it is malicious.
]USING BODY LANGUAGE SKILLS ON CYBERSPACE FROM DETECTING CHILD ABUSERS TO MALICIOUS ANONYMOUS BLOGGERS
Those who are involved in fighting cybercrime such as discovering the identity of child abusers and child molesters and/or sexual predators on line are adept at using body language analysis skills to discover pertinent information about the perpetrator which they leak out that often leads to the perpetrator’s identification. In profiling these perpetrators, which includes analyzing personality traits and other important data they may leak out , the information eventually incriminates them and often lead to their arrest and subsequent incarceration.
Child predators and abusers are not the only people on the internet who wreak havoc on other people’s lives. The internet is full of them. How can we ever forget the toxic adult Lori Drew who pretended she was a teenage boy on a social networking site only to emotionally abuse a fragile teenage girl Megan Meier who ended up committing suicide when the phantom boy ( the adult woman) rejected her. While she may have escaped prosecution and incarceration by the skin of her teeth, in the court of public opinion she has not escaped the public’s wrath who find what she did unforgivable.
PROFILING THE MALICIOUS “ANONYMOUS BLOGGER” VIA BODY LANGUAGE ANALYSIS
The “anonymous” malicious blogger is yet another internet parasite creating havoc for others over the internet. Recently, I was able to use the same body language analysis skills that law enforcement agents have used to not only discover the identity of a one such anonymous and malicious blogger but as a result of my formal background and study of psychology I was able to have added insight, Therefore, I was able to construct a profile of the malicious blogger which includes an analysis of personality traits and other pertinent information. I did this by using the body language analysis skills I describe in my best-selling book about body language called “I Know What You’re Thinking- Using the 4 Codes of Reading People to Improve Your Life.”
After I discovered the identity of the malicious anonymous blogger, by using my body language analysis skills I could easily see a lot more about who this person was and what made them “tic”. I could see that:
a) she (the blogger was a “she” based on the linguistic components of her writing and also the fact that she mentioned a “husband” and “kid number one” and “kid number two” ) was no stranger to malicious blogging. In fact, when I pulled up her name on a google search, the internet was filled with postings and websites from countless disgruntled people who referred to her and her actions in extremely unflattering terms.
b) she, in my opinion had emotional disturbance issues involving anger and ill temper as she herself even identified her own negative personality traits in her own blog by referring to herself as “crotchety”. Several other self references and entries related to her anger issues which she described in her own words throughout her blogs further added the reasons that I came up with my opinion.
b) her nasty blogs were no doubt, the result of professional jealousy, as my body language analysis skills lead me to opine. The malicious anonymous blogger’s jealousy apparently got the best of her after seeing her”target” (who is in a similar field) interviewed on a television show. The blogger couldn’t contain herself. Taking to her keyboard once again, writing yet another malicious blog where she took shots at her “target’s” expertise. In doing so, the malicious blogger completely ignored the fact that she was in pending litigation with her “target”. Not a very smart thing to do! No matter what anyone says about their First Amendment Rights, the bottom line is that the malicious blogger’s professional jealously obviously clouded her intelligence and common sense by continuing to incite flames, especially during a legal battle.
( As a side note, after discovering the identity of this malicious blogger and analyzing her personality traits based on her own words and behaviors, it is so sad to observe people who are so consumed with jealousy and hatred. Unfortunately, it isn’t difficult to forsee the upcoming tragic future for these self tortured souls. The jealousy and inner hatred they consistently display will eventually do them in as they get cancer, a heart attack, or some other fatal illness. Hatred always consumes the hater. We must never forget that!
So body language analysis is not only used in detective and cyber detective work as in the case of discovering the identity of the malicious blogger for instance, body language skills are being used more and more to help people in a variety of professions.
BODY LANGUAGE ANALYSIS SKILLS IN THE LEGAL FIELD
Most recently I was able to use my skills in a divorce case where I examined the body language of both parties to see what was really going on “between the lines” and to observe signals of deceptions as well of signals of possible psychopathology. The bottom line is that it resulted in a more positive settlement for the party for whom I was working. I have also used my body language skills in numerous criminal cases. In analyzing the surveillance tapes of a drug deal, I was able to help determine that the attorney’s client was not directly involved. I also used my body language skills in the area of speech and voice forensics where I was able to help acquit an attorney’s client accused of armed robbery, based on his voice and speech quality. Through body language analysis, I helped numerous attorneys in the courtroom by sharing with them what juror, their witnesses, and their clients were thinking about them .
BODY LANGUAGE ANALYSIS SKILLS IN THE BUSINESS WORLD
I also used my body language reading skills to help a major businessman who was doing a very financially significant business negotiation. While observing his opponent’s body language , I was able to share with him that his opponent was still open to further negotiation- valuable information which resulted in a major financial victory for the businessman.
BODY LANGUAGE ANALYSIS SKILLS IN THE ENTERTAINMENT FIELD
The entertainment field is another arena where I have showcased by body language skills by instructing actors, many of whom you have no doubt seen in films and on television how to integrate the right body language with the characters they are portraying. For many of them, it resulted in Academy, Emmy, and Tony Award winning performances.
BODY LANGUAGE ANALYSIS SKILLS IN THE MEDIA
In addition, magazines and Newspapers from Newsweek to Wall Street Journal to practically every celebrity magazine in the US, UK and abroad have used my body language reading skills to analyze celebrities and newsmakers each week and what is really going on between the lines. Viewers have seen my body language analyses of newsmakers on television on almost every network.
One of the reasons why I’m repeatedly invited to do my body language analyses is because of my rate of accuracy in calling it like it is. In fact, last week I got kudos from an editor for breaking the story about two celebrities who denied their involvement but who now are an “item”.
One of the reasons my accuracy rate is so high in my body language assessments whether they be criminals, politicians, sports figures or celebrities is due to the extensive and unique background and education I have in various fields. That background combined with the extensive knowledge I have in such fields as communication, psychology, communication disorders, medical genetics, law, law enforcement, hypnotherapy, and journalism allow me to integrate and synthesize information I have culled from such a large body of knowledge. That along with decades of practicing in reading people is where the art comes in as I am able to do it quickly and effectively.
BODY LANGUAGE ANALYSIS SKILLS AND YOU
With shows like “ Lie to Me, based on the work of professor Dr. Paul Eckman, my own work and the work of others in this remarkable and exciting field , there is becoming an increased public awareness and appreciation of how essential it is to understand another’s body language. In fact it may be the key to unlocking the truth about them, what they are really thinking, and how they really feel about you. So when you are looking at someone, listening to what they say, or reading what they right, pay close attention to every detail you see, hear and read. It may prevent a lot of unnecessary problems and serve as a warning sign to identify and subsequently deal with the Toxic People in your life.
While it is a very clever, ingenious. and practical idea for fashionistas who appeared at a recent fashion show Barcelona, to design an article of clothing to help curb the intake of potential swine flu germs, it doesn’t do much for a person’s body language, facial language or their voice patterns.
Because there is an automatic physical barrier of cloth already up, covering the person’s nose and mouthm psychologically people may tend to add to that defensive barrier as we see in this photo. The model’s tense eye gaze and somewhat furrowed brow illustrate clearly what I mean. It doesn’t make one look very friendly and inviting Instead it’s rather alienating to others.
Smiles are so essential for warm interactions between people. So if a smile is hidden, people are not able to project the accurate message they may intend to project. People may misread them. Thus, fewer people will be making the first move when it comes to readily approaching others.
As for speech and vocal projection, the added material covering the nose and mouth can create a muffled effect, thereby disturbing one’s ability to fully project their voice. Even if the material is thin, it still creates a barrier which closes off the best optimum conditions through which the sound waves must travel to make a sound and to hear the correctly articulated sound.
As the cloth impedes the movement of the lips and teeth and tongue, a lot of sounds may be distorted. So instead of hearing “Go” we may now be mis hearing it as “No”, thereby adding to the confusion of communication where there is so much confusion already. For most of us it’s a constant ongoing battle to decipher what people really mean and whether we interpreted correctly. This fashion statement certainly is not going to improve matters.
But having said all of this for some, it still may be worth wearing this new item of clothing if it does in fact prevent this frightening and deadly disease (H1N1)- a disease that has unnecessarily taken too many lives already.