Dr. Lillian Glass Worked to Feminize Caitlyn Jenner Voice and Body Language

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I had the opportunity to work with Caitlyn Jenner to try to help her feminize her voice, speech patterns and body language. Our session was filmed for her reality show I’m Cait. Unfortunately it will not be shown this season. But my management team at Sirena Media received this  very nice email from the show’s producer:

Hi Karin!
Unfortunately, that scene did not make it into the series. We had to make some tough cuts because we filmed for 12 weeks but only ended up with eight 42 minute episodes. We so appreciate Lilian working with Cait and all the help she offered and maybe we can have her back next season.
Best of luck to you both and thank you again!

Andrea Metz
Executive Producer

So there is a possibility I may be on her show next season. Because I am bound by a confidentiality agreement I signed with Bunim Murray, Caitlyn’s production company I can’t go into detail as to what specific work I did with Caitlyn and what we specifically discussed during our time together.

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I will say that she was a lovely and I thoroughly enjoyed working with her and let her know that I am totally there for her.

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I will say that I used the same techniques that I used to teach Dustin Hoffman how to sound like a woman for the film in which he won an Academy Award- Tootsie

We addressed vocal pitch, using more inflection, drawing out vowels so the tones are more flowing, slowing down the speech, using more feminine gestures from sitting, to standing, to head posture, to facial language as well as gesturing,  like gesturing towards the body as opposed to away from the body like I am showing here when I Dustin played the Dorothy Michael’s character.

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While it takes more than the three hour session I had with Caitlyn while we filmed the show, I was able to give Caitlyn a copy of my best selling book He Says She Says Closing the Communication Gap Between the Sexes. The book contains all the information you will ever need to know about how men and  women communicate. It discusses differences in voice, body language, speech, and behavior, what is said and how it is said.

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In fact it has just been released on  Amazon  for kindle

http://www.amazon.com/He-Says-She-Closing-Communication-ebook/dp/B0102Q2G3A/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

There is also an audio version on my website at http://www.drlillianglass.com http://www.drlillianglass.com

This book can not only be of benefit to the transgender community but can help anyone who wants to have better communication with the opposite sex in business, in their social life, and in their intimate life.

Having worked with many people in the transgender community, perhaps the most difficult aspect of their transition is to sound   like the opposite sex. To sound like a  woman (for those undergoing male to female transition as Caitlyn is doing), or to sound like a man (for those undergoing female to male transition) it takes time and a lot of hard work. It takes the knowledge of knowing exactly what to do and what the differences are for the specific sex one is transitioning to. It also takes a lot of practice and a lot of patience.

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I read in Caitlyn’s blog  several weeks ago that when she watched the video of herself  speaking at the ESPY Awards, she said that she still felt like she had a man’s voice. It is understandable for her to feel that way  as you can’t learn how to sound like a woman and have it become a part of your daily life in just one session. It takes time and a lot of practice.

I was able to assure Caitlyn that what she was feeling was not out of the ordinary and to be patient.  I communicated to her that she not be hard on herself because working on feminizing your voice is a process and cannot be done in only one session as we did for the show.

I  encouraged her to not focus on  what she thought she did wrong, but instead, focus on the many things she did right during her ESPY Speech  such as:

1. flowing out her tones

3. using her inflection ( going up several notes)

4 not having a choppy speech pattern

5. opening her jaw when you spoke

6. not speaking so fast

7. not having a creaky sound at the end of sentences (glottal fry)

8. using many feminine gestures.

9. not attacking her initial sounds when she spoke

I clearly let her know that I was very proud of her. I also reiterated specific things she needed to work on in the future regarding the way she spoke so that she would be more satisfied and not see or hear herself as sounding like a man.

Working with Caitlyn was a very rewarding experience for me as I shared with  Caitlyn’s  my knowledge  of what it takes to sound like her genuine self- a woman.  I found her to be a lovely, elegant, and beautiful  woman who was very eager to incorporate all that we discussed.

She is truly an inspiration not only to the transgender community, but to so many others who are motivated by her  personal  decision to live an authentic and honest life and to be true to herself. At age 65, she decided to live out her dream, which goes to prove that it is never too late in life to do what you really want to do with your life. I have the utmost respect for anyone who is true to themselves, regardless of what anyone else may say.

Donald Trump Shows Most Confident Body Language of All Candidates

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Screen Shot 2015-08-14 at 12.13.54 AMThere is no question  the candidate who showed the most self confidence  through his body language during the debates was

Donald Trump. He  was the candidate who appeared to be the most at ease even when difficult questions were thrown his way.

As you can see in this photo he is the only candidate leaning forward which indicated his eagerness and readiness.

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His gestures were fluid  which reflected his ease on the stage. He did not make any of the mechanical gestures which

many of the politicians made where the thumb and the index finger was pinched. Instead he made gestures which matched

his emotions and what he was saying.

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candidate who did this.

Regarding his response to the Megan Kelly question, he handled it well.  While there is no dispute that a  question about  how

Trump feels about women should have been asked, the way in which it was asked was sneaky and inappropriate in my view.

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First Megyn starts the question off with a very pleasant face as she looks directly at trump and says One of the things people love about you is that you speak your mind and you don’t use a politician’s filter. ”

Then she says however it is not without it’s downsides particularly when it comes to women. You’ve called women fat pigs, slobs, and disgusting animals.”

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Trump then interrupts  with stating “Only Rosie O’Donnell” which received a roaring applause from the crowd. And by the way Rose O’Donnell was the one who began the fight with Donald Trump with her name calling and  disparaging remarks about his physical appearance. Trump in turn, fought back and mirrored her Toxic name calling.Screen Shot 2015-08-14 at 12.41.21 AM

Megyn Kelly then recounts that Trump said to a Celebrity Apprentice contestant  “It would be a pretty picture to see her on her knees” In the first place. the contestant  was Brande Roderick who can’t recall this ever being said to her and strongly defends Trump on this matter. ”

Megyn then appears to sneer at Trump as she looks directly at him with narrowed eyes as you can see in this photo above and says in an admonishing tone”  Does that sound to you like the temperament of a man we should elect as president?” She doesn’t ask :what do you have to say about this? Instead she attacks his temperament. When Trump subsequently said there was “Blood in her eyes” what he was saying  was that she was out for blood and it showed in her eyes. We saw her narrowed eyes on screen, but trump saw her piercing eyes glaring  directly at him while she asked the question, so clearly he saw a lot more of the negative emotion coming from Megan than the viewer watching the debate.

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Trump was visibly disturbed about her question as he purses his lips and tightens his jaw in anger. Then Megyn in essence associates him with the “War on Women.”  Trumps answer was that he has no time to be politically correct  and then says how the country has no time  to be politically correct as he

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made karate chop like gestures to emphasize his point which also reflected his anger and annoyance at the question.

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He then shows his palms in an open gesture as he explains that oftentimes what he says is fun and kidding and we have a good time.  He then goes on to let Megyn know that he has been nice to her even though she has treated him not so nice and that he said he could not be so nice to her  based on the way she has treated him. He also reached out and said he was sorry that she felt that way.

Then after  the debate, Trump was true to his word and was not so nice to Megyn as she let everyone know that she had blood coming out of her eyes and had other disparaging things to say about her.

One thing about  about Donald Trump which everyone  should know from reading his book The Art of the Deal, is that  his philosophy is that if someone hits you hard, you hit them back harder. And he did that in business  which was  one of the key;s to his success and has been doing it with everyone who attacks him, including Megyn Kelly.

And once again to refresh everyone’s memory  as I have said throughout my blogs, I am not a political person and have no agenda here as I merely report what I observe from a body language and communication standpoint.

Hillary Does NOT Put on Southern Accent- Press Makes It Up! Instead Hillary Shows Warmth and Charm

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There is nothing more that irks me than when I see my fellow journalists getting on the bandwagon and make things up just for the sensationalism and to get a headline that attracts eyeballs. As I have said countless times, I am NOT  a political person. I  ONLY report things as I see them from a body language and communication standpoint, not a political standpoint. That is why when I read the headline “Hillary Puts on A Southern Accent” I had to speak up.

As a person who is well versed in accent and dialects having taught a large number of A list Hollywood actors how to gain various accents for specific movie roles as well as how to lose accents, I can assure you Hillary DID NOT put on a Southern accent during her recent interview in the South.

What she did do, is something,I suggested she do in my last blog about her, when she did her first campaign speech. That was to use more vocal inflection and get rid of that stiff staccato tone and flow out her tones. She incorporated what I suggested  this new etah interview.

What not knowledgeable  journalists in the area of voice, speech, accents, and communication skills  like Shoshanna Weissmann reported as Hillary having an accent,was simply Hillary using great communication skills for the very first time.

She was warm, flowing in her tones , smiled genuine smiles and was not as stiff as she usually is when speaking. Her  gestures

Screen Shot 2015-08-05 at 8.26.08 AMHer gestures were much better but she still used the off- putting finger point which is very alienating to those listening to her. She needs to put a top to using that gesture and only use it whenever she is angry. Finger pointing  with the index finger extended towards someone is a universal signal that is used around the world to express  Anger.

As you can see Hillary is smiling. She is not angry. She is talking about things that are not anger proucting so she needs to stop this gesture.

Then she used another gesture which she also needs to lose. It is the hand balled into a fit with the thumb extended that all Presidents and Presidential hopefuls used to get their points across.

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It is a stupid gesture who’s origins date back to the Kennedy era whereby some ignorant speech coach told JFK to use it and unfortunately it has stuck. It is a gesture  that makes no sense in my view because it shows incongruency.  For instance a fist shows anger. A thumb up shows things are good. So what this stupid gesture says in reality is ” I am angry things are good.” It makes no sense and Hillary needs to lose it asap.

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The next inappropriate gesture she needs to lose is the karate chop gesture when she speaks. It doesn’t work and makes no sense in terms of what she was discussing- running for her first term and not her husband’s third term. It is an angry gesture that is alienating and reflects that she is angry that people may assume she is continuing her husband’s and Obamas’s terms as she mentioned.

So my fellow journalists, my message to you is STOP SPINNING IT! Report what you see and hear that is accurate. Do not report what you don’t see and hear in hopes of getting a nationally read story. When you do  this, like was done here, you lose your credibility. That is why the public  so often doesn’t believe what they read from journalists. The public is  not dumb. They know that there is spin like the spin that was demonstrated here. No Southerner or Northerner, Easterner or Westerner would ever agree there was a Southern accent put on by Hillary. It is false reporting and makes you, fellow journalist, look bad.

And for Hillary, my advice to you is to stop making wrong gestures- misleading gestures. Instead stay real and genuine like you did during this speech when you spoke. Show that vocal warmth with lots of inflection in your tones to express what you want to say. Smile like you have done as it is very inviting and makes people want to hear what you have to say.

Phoniness will not work in this election. People want real  gestures that match what is said. They don’t want choreographed or contrived speeches and rhetoric and gestures.  Being honest, sincere and genuine  is universal language of today.

Disagree With Radaronline’s Negative Headline & False Spin on Kim’s Selfish Body Language at ESPY’s

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I completely disagree with Radaronline’s headline as I do not believe Kim Kardashian was being selfish in anyway or looking for the camera at the ESPY’s. Instead she was focused on Caitlyn and very attentive.

One thing you can  count on is that whenever I am interviewed is that I will ALWAYS be honest as I have complete integrity when doing a body language analysis. The press can never sway me into saying something that is not there, just for the sake of  their spinning their article a certain way. When I see that happening, I will not participate.

When I was interviewed by Radaronline about the family’s reaction to Caitlin’s speech, I was extremely positive as ALL the family members listened attentively and were emotionally moved.  They I was asked about Kylie’s looking miserable. I assured then that Kylie was emotional based on  the moving things  Caitlin said in her speech. I assured them that she was not looking miserable but very much relating to what Caitlin was saying.

I also emphatically  told radaronline that I didn’t want to be a part of any negative article concerning Catilyn or her family as I completely support Caitlin in all of her endeavors and will in no way be a part of anything negative about her or related to her.

So when they saw that they were going in the wrong direction regarding Kylie and that I would not comment negatively, they turned their attention to Kim. I again assured them that Kim’s body language showed love and support towards Caitlyn.

They realized they would not get anything negative from me so they sought the services of another body language expert Patti Wood who was obviously  willing to say something negative about Kim being selfish and looking for the camera.

Thus I was shocked when the ugly headline read :

The Kim Show! Body Language Experts Claim Selfish Kardashian Was ‘Looking For The Camera’ During Caitlyn Jenner’s ESPYs Speech”

This was disgusting!  I am not the body language expert who said this as the headline is a bold faced lie!! Kim was NOT looking for the camera. She was focused on Caitlin and I resent this false headline as I had no part of this.

Here is exact;y  what I said:

In the beginning of Caitlyn’s acceptance speech “Kim Kardashian is smiling proudly,” says body language expert to the stars Dr. Lillian Glass, who has worked with such huge names such as Dustin Hoffman and Sean Connery.

This is what Patti Wood said:

However, “Kim had her arm across her belly to call attention to look at her and could not bring herself to clap,” says another expert, Patti Wood, who is the author of Snap: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma.

So in essence  I NEVER said this. It was only ONE body language expert who said this-Patti Wood said this. So the  headline “Body Language Experts (plural) is completely wrong completely false!

I did say the following statements which were ALL positive about a positive occasion:

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According to Dr. Glass, “When Caitlyn is talking about the family, Kylie and Kendall are moved by this as they wipe away their tears. They are emotional because Caitlyn is getting emotional.”

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“You can see in this shot that all of Caitlyn’s children are taking in and digesting all of what she is saying in her speech and in this particular shot, Caitlyn is talking about how the journey has been inspiring and frightening,” says Glass.
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Brody Jenner is listening attentively and you can see the seriousness in his face,” Glass says of Caitlyn’s son, who was there with his girlfriend Kaitlynn Carter
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According to Dr. Glass, “When Caitlyn is talking about the family, Kylie and Kendall are moved by this as they wipe away their tears. They are emotional because Caitlyn is getting emotional.”
“The whole family is really moved when Caitlyn says that she is proud to have them all in her life,” says Dr. Glass.
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Perhaps the most moved of all was Caitlyn’s mother, Esther, who almost missed the event due to having surgery just one week prior. “Her mother is beyond proud and is beaming the entire time,” Dr. Glass tells Radar.
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After Caitlyn thanks her mother and tells the audience that she is her source of courage, Kendall and Kylie’s raw emotion “shows how they love their grandmother so much and are moved by what Caitlyn said about her.”
So you can see that I NEVER said ANYTHING negative unlike Patti Wood who commented:
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Everyone’s focus was on the Caitlyn’s speech for the entire time “except for Kim Kardashian,” says Wood. “Kim is looking for the camera, not looking at Caitlyn,” Wood, who has not ever worked with the family, tells Radar.
As you can see it was only Patti Wood’s opinion, not mine. Sothe headline stating “Body Language expert(s) plural is FALSE! It is only one body language expert’s opinion and I completely disagree with that opinion.
You can’t control what the press will say or what headlines they will manufacture, so thankfully we have blogs such as this one to set the record straight.

Toxic Bill Huy of ‘Beautiful Audio Books and Rori Raye Mislead Public in Ripoff Tapes of Dr.Glass’ Book

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It is ironic that someone whom I would consider a “Toxic Man”, Bill Huy, owner of “Beautiful Audio Books” was out to scam the public as he tried to promote my”Toxic Men ” book by misleading the public. He allegedly put a series of 6 “Toxic Men” tapes  on youtube thorough his alleged youtube accounts with such names as: Herzaman Audiobooks , Sachs, Isabella Vorreyt, Best Audiobook Collection, Raleich Lefebvre, White E-Book, Rufus Walsh, and the wierdest name of all,  uradiobooks harry potter.

 That means there were 42 “Toxic Men” tapes out there, that were reported to be done by me. In actuality this was not the case. They were not done by me and I had nothing to do with these particualr tapes.

The tapes were promoted with a word for world blurb that was taken directly from my book. They even wrote the exact words in my book that Toxic men is not about male bashing. 

My book was featured on the left  side of the screen with my name prominently displayed. Next to my book on the right side,  was a large photo of a woman’s face that was clearly not my face. Apparently, the woman in the photo as well as the book company were allegedly  attempting to pass this woman off as me. They allegedly wanted the public to think that this woman was Dr. Lillian Glass who was now doing a series of six audio tapes about Toxic Men and promoting it. Well that was NOT the case.

The reason why I had not done the tapes previously was because I detested the name of the book “Toxic Men”. It was not my choice but rather the brainchild of some  petty editor at Adams media. I wanted the book to be called “Toxic Men and Toxic Women”, as  when you read the book you will see that it pertains to both men and women The book is about BOTH men and woman not just men. But the  company insisted it be called “Toxic Men” becuase they said women buy more books than men

so “Toxic Men” would appeal to more women. I thought that reasoning was stupid and let them know my feelings. While I love the contents of the book and love what is in it that can help anyone who is in a toxic relationship or is healing from one,  I still  hated being associated with a book title that makes me sound like a “man hater” when I am just the opposite. I love men and didn’t want to be mislabeled because of this book.

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So I was never  about to promote a series of tapes on Toxic Men unless there were accompanying tapes  about Toxic Women.Thus, I was certainly not promoting these  6 audiotapes.

When I listened to the tapes I was even more shocked than seeing a photo of this woman next to my book. I was shocked to hear her Toxic voice. Yes- Toxic to my ears point of view. When a person has a sickeningly sweet sing song tone, rest assured there is trouble brewing. I detest these type of voices because they are often associated with passive- aggressive and/or deceptive personalities in my view.

Low and behold, this was the case here. This sickeningly sweet voiced woman who was talking on these series of  6 tapes was indeed deceptive as she tried  to pass herself  off as the author of my book on Toxic Men. After forcing myself to listen to her tapes I was even more sickened as I thought  the information was ridiculous and seemed to come out of another century in how to “capture your man.” This woman who has no credentials was hiding behind my credentials and reputation and misleading the public about my Toxic Men book.

In one of the 6  tapes she slipped out her name – Rori Raye. I had never heard of her so I looked her up on the internet and found that her sickeningly sweet deceptive and phony sounding voice didn’t belie her. Apparently others who dealt with her found her deceptive enough to report her to Ripoff Reports. In fact there were 3 separate Ripoff reports about her.There were also several complaints about her to the better Business Bureau. Several allegedly reported that she was a scam and a liar.

I then went to her website and saw a HUGE red flag. When someone does not have a way to contact them on their site know that there is a great chance you may not be dealing with someone who is forthright. Then I saw her youtube account and was now convinced that this woman was less than truthful. Remember that photo  above that was plastered next to my book to give the illusion she authored my book? Well that same photo appeared in the left  corner of  her youtube account. There was also a woman on the right side of the photo  on her youtube page which looked completely different than the woman featured next to my book. Who was that woman who looked so different?

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Well, it was none other than Rori Raye- a then and now photo. Below is a photo of  how Rori Raye looks now.
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Needless to say I was furious about all of this. I HATE when people do deceptive things with other people’s intellectual property. I hated this just as I hated when a woman named Marcia Petrie Sue, a public speaker  who calls herself an Accountability Expert, when she wasn’t very accountable herself,  did word for word copying of my book.
She then had the audacity to call her book Toxic People, the same name as my book which I wrote 13 years earlier than her book, which  in turn caused confusion in the marketplace. I ended up suing this woman in US Federal Court  in 2010 and winning the case against her. Marcia Petrie Sue  is now and forever branded as a “copyright infringer” or in layman terms – “a plagiarist.”
  I hate it when people don’t do diligence  and look on the internet or on amazon and do a search of names of books already out there before they write a book. I hate when people take my ideas and concepts  and words and claim it as their own. They are just the same as  thief who comes into your home and steals your silverware, jewels, computer or your car. Instead of stealing material things, they are stealing intellectual things.
I don’t care how rich or famous a person is- they cannot take my brand away. My  brand is Toxic People and I have it trademarked and now enforce that trademark regularly.
I refuse to be victimized by intellectual property thieves. That is why I am armed with one of the best Intellectual Property attorneys in the United States representing me- Eric Bjorgum, He represented me in my Federal case against Marcia Petrie Sue. In fact, last  just week he won yet another major intellectual property. and trademark case.   I feel a lot less anxious and a lot safer in the world knowing that Eric Bjorgum is the strong wall behind me.
Eric suggested that I contact youtube and file some copyright infringement reports to remove the offending URL’s and thumbnail photos of my book and this woman’s misleading face that she is the author of my book. I took his advice and initially filled out  48 forms to remove the URLs. Youtube was great and removed most of them as soon as they could.
But that was not the end of it. Apparently Herzaman Audiobooks , Sachs, Isabella Vorreyt, Best Audiobook Collection, Raleich Lefebvre, White E-Book, Rufus Walsh, and the wierdest name of all,  uradiobooks harry potter  re-uploaded the 6 tapes with brand new URL’s (allegedly). It was like playing “whack a mole” at the state fair. As soon as youtube blocked a tape, a new one with a new URL surfaced so I had to do the process over and over again until I must have sent out close to 200 requests to block the tapes.
I was so frustrated that I gladly waited on the phone for an hour until someone from youtube answered and gave me the email address to contact them directly. So  I wrote an email to youtube about my plight and they continued to block them. At last count there were only 4 tapes on Isabella Vorreyt   and 5 vtapes on the account of Raleich Lefebvre.
That means there were only 9 of these tapes out of there instead of the multitude of others. There are still some thumbnails on these two accounts which need to be taken down as well.
This is how I spent most of  day today- talking to youtube, Eric Bjorgum, playing tape “whack a mole” writing emails to youtube and filling out youtube copyright infringement forms.  Thank goodness I had some kissing and cuddling breaks from Annabella.
The bottom line to all of this is that you have to protect your creations. Whether it is photography, the written word, music, lyrics, art, fashion design,  jewelry design, computer software development, medical equipment development, choreography, or anything else you must protect what you created. Whether you create a human being or create a product or a book or a song, the creative process is all the same. What you create becomes your baby and you must always protect your babies.

Bruce Jenner Desperately Needs Feminizing Voice, Speech and Body Language Coaching To Complete His Male to Female Transition

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In making his transition from male to female,  Bruce Jenner has put a lot of effort into his skin with  injectable  lip and face fillers botox, surgically minimizing his adam’s apple, breast enhancement, and many other physical changes. But the one important change that he has neglected is the sound of his voice, the content of his speech, and adopting a more feminized body language

Having taught countless transgender clients in my practice who went from female to male how to sound like a man and  male to to male transgender clients how to sound like a woman I would love to be the one to help Bruce make these changes so that he could feel more secure and confident in his new gender role. In fact I want to personally reach out to Bruce through this blog to let him know that I can help him with establishing a more feminine voice, speech patterns, as well as a more female  body language .

After all, if I could help Dustin Hoffman sound like a woman for his Dorothy character in his award winning performance of “Tootsie”  I can definitely help Bruce Jenner.


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After it  was publicly known that I was the one who helped  Dustin to sound like a woman, transgender clients from all over the country sought out my services to help them make that vocal and body language transition which would help cement their identity in the opposite sex and allow others to perceive them as more feminine (or masculine for those seeking a female to male  transition).

My experience  in helping the  transgender population began when I was doing my Master’s Degree at the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor, Michigan. At the time the University of Michigan Medical Center was one of the few places in the world where people came for gender reassignment surgery. So in order to assist these patients with their total image, they were often sent to the University of Michigan Speech Clinic.

Unbeknownst to me, I was assigned one such patient- a lovely woman with long dark hair and exotic features. My first task was to do a complete speech and vocal analysis of this woman. I wrote up a very detailed report for my professor and mentor, Dr. H. Harlan Bloomer about the woman’s low pitched voice, her pitch range, and diction and how she presented herself. Because the patient had such a  limited pitch range and a low voice, I wrote up a differential diagnosis in her report  that she may be suffering from vocal cord  trauma or may have some vocal cord growths which may attribute to her vocal issues. While Dr. Bloomer said he was impressed with the detailed analysis of my report, he said I missed something very crucial. She was actually a “he”.

I must say that I was surprised as I had never known anything like this.Dr. Bloomer said that my task was to make her sound like a woman. I immediately went to the Medical Library to find out all I could about how to do that, but there were no books or articles on the topic. There was an obscure book that was written by a Harvard linguistics Professor  but it was very academic and didn’t tell what to do. So I tried to figure things out by the seat of my pants and at the end of our six week therapy sessions, my client sounded like a woman and very few could detect that she had been or sounded like a man months earlier. Because of my success with this client, I was the one who was given all of the transgender patients who needed to change their voice and speech  patterns to match their new sexual identity.

After graduating from Michigan and getting my doctorate at the University of Minnesota where my focus was now in the area of medical genetics and psychosocial aspects of speech, voice, and cosmetic appearance in patients with cranial facial deformities, I then went to UCLA School of Medicine and  did a post doctoral fellowship, doing  research in the area of birth defects and associated speech and voice disorders in the area of Medical Genetics. It was there that I really was able to hone my diagnostic skills in assessing people from head to toe, which was instrumental in my present incarnation as a voice and body language expert.

One evening, I took a break  from my post-doctorate studies and my research and accepted an invitation to my first Hollywood party. A far cry from the world of academia where I spent so such time, it was so was so exciting  and refreshing to me to see all of these glamorous and beautiful people who had so much to say about themselves, telling me about all the acting roles they got, and the next movie I would see them in. Then  it came  my turn to share what I did. I also shared my experience with them of working with transgender clients when I was in graduate school. A film producer overheard what I said and asked me for my card. I didn’t have a card back then so I wrote my number down a on a piece of paper.

A few days later, I got a call from a person whom I didn’t know who told me he was a director and that his friend at the party I attended gave him my number. The director then told me there was someone he wanted me to meet to help him sound like a woman and that I had to come to an address in Westwood (not too far from UCLA) the next day at the specified time. But there was one important thing I had to know- that I couldn’t tell anyone where I was going and what I was doing. As a naive 25 year old I enthusiastically agreed to it and showed up the next afternoon. As I walked up the long winding stairway to the front door, I began to feel a bit anxious and wondered what I got myself into. I knocked on the door and who should appear? None other than Dustin Hoffman. In the weeks and months that followed I taught Dustin everything I possibly knew about gender differences in communication. I shared with him everything I learned from working with the transgender clients at the University of Michigan.

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Years later I wrote a best selling book about gender differences in communication called He Says She Says, Closing the Communication Gap Between the Sexes and went on the speaking circuit where I spoke to thousands of people on the topic. I also did the TV talk show circuit on the topic. Understanding how differently men and woman communicated  with one another helped many couples learn to better relate to one another. It also helped  avoid many misunderstanding in the workplace where men and woman  now learned the nuances of communication with the opposite sex.

More business women learned how they needed to get to the point quicker, and not answer a question with a question or go up at the end of sentences, while more businessmen learned that they needed to use less command terms and take up less physical space when dealing with women. In fact there were 103 differences that men and women needed to be aware of to help them better communicate with one another.

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So back to Bruce Jenner.  Having worked with so many transgender clients,  I truly feel for Bruce. I know the emotional pain these clients have been in all of their lives. I know how they have been teased and emotionally abused. I know how many of their friends and relatives will never speak to them again when they go through the transition. I also know the very dark side of this transition process and that is that 60 percent of those who undergo the transition become so depressed afterwards that they  commit suicide. It is shocking and it is scary as they find that life in their new gender doesn’t cure all of their past issues and in fact, may create more issues than they had before.

Bruce may be one of the lucky ones in that he seems to have a good family support system with his mother and  two sons for sure and perhaps  step daughter Khloe.It seems that his younger daughters with Kris, Kylie and Kendall  are having a hard time with it. Kyle’s acting out and dating a 25 year old when she is 17 may have something to do with her ambivalence towards Bruce. The last thing Bruce needs now as he makes his transition is badmouthing from Kris. This could play havoc on his psyche especially now that he is on hormone therapy. That is why he needs to cut ALL ties with her and hire a great PR person to defect any poison PR arrows Kris may shoot at him in the media. Kris may use this opportunity to play the victim- that she had no idea about his desire to become a woman. Know that no one can live with someone for 20 something years and do business with them and share intimate moments with the person and not know something. This is not about Kris. It is about Bruce and Bruce’s PR minions need to keep making that very clear.

Bruce’s role in the recent traffic collision where his car hit a woman who was killed must also be weighing heavily on his mind. The fact that he is coming out in front of millions of people is also a Herculean task. Not everyone will embrace him. People will be mean as they have been already. With some, Bruce’s transition, threatens their masculinity and angers them for what he did.Many looked up to Bruce as a great athlete and Olympic heros.They still may want to see him this way and now when they see him looking like a woman and wearing women’s clothing, it upsets their psyche. Many will become angry because they don’t want to see him this way. Many religious people will think what Bruce did was wrong and will let him know about it. Many will call him a freak,

But Bruce is not a freak. He was feeling like he was in the wrong body for his entire life as he admitted. Perhaps that was why he could endure the punishing workouts that allowed him to become an Olympian. Perhaps he so wanted to be be seen as masculine at the time that he overcompensated. No matter what, Bruce is at a very crucial time in his life. He needs a lot of emotional support and a lot of strength.

I am here to support Bruce through my skill set as I am reaching out to him with the intention of helping him to have more confidence and credibility in his voice, speech patterns,and body language as he ventures out in the world as a woman.

Heather Mack Cocky, Entitled, Diva Body Language After 10 Year Sentence for Mother’s Murder

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Heather Mack,the troubled and entitled Chicago teen who constantly fought with her mother to the point that police were called countless times. She was taken on a  vacation to Bali by her wealthy socialite mother, Sheila von Wies Mack in order for the two to to bond and spend quality time together. But rebellious Heather wanted no part of it, So she invited her boyfriend Tommy Schaefer to join them in Bali, much to her mothers dislike.

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When checkout time came around, Sheila refused to pay for the boyfriends hotel bill which angered him. Angrily, he  hit her with an object, killing, dismembering her body and stuffing it into a suitcase. Pregnant  Heather and her boyfriend then  fled to a nearby resort and planned to board a plane the next day for the US but they were caught and taken to jail. In jail Heather gave birth to a baby girl. The couple has finally been sentenced- Heather for 10 years and her boyfriend for 18 years.

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Heather showed no remorse for her mothers death and celebrated by guzzling smuggled in alcohol from a plastic bag. As you can see from her actions and body language she is loving her life in Kerabokan Prison in Indonesia. She is acting like a star and loving the attention lavished upon her by the press.

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She mugs for the camera and jokes with the press and calls them by name- Ari, Osha, etc. She beckons them to come closer to her cell to get a better photo and even scolds them for publishing what she considers unattractive photos of herself in the press.She mugs for them as you can see in the above photo.

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Her biggest complaint about the sentencing was that her boyfiend will have to be in prison for 8 more years when she is released and she is not happy about that. In fact, she calls it unfair. She says that he daughter needs to have her father around when she is a young girl and is upset about that. She is clearly more upset about that than she is about her mother being  dead and gone forever.

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Meanwhile, Tommy’s body language after his sentencing of 18 years was revealead by his gestures in  angrily swatting away reporters and in shooting them an obscene gesture with his middle finger. His anger is also revealed in his tight muscles around his lips and in his biting his lower lip.

In reality,  these two spoiled and entitled creatures have nothing to be angry about. They should both be jumping for joy. If their crime would have happened in the US they would have received life or the death sentence. They also could have received a death sentence by firing squad in Indonesia but their lives were spared according to the press because they were the parents of a newborn baby.

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At first it was reported that Heather was awkward with the baby but now motherhood has kicked in and her  maternal instincts seem to have taken over. She appears to be affectionate towards the infant as she comforts the baby is often seen rocking it. Maybe this is the silver lining that has come out of such a dark situation. According to  Kerobokan prison officials,  she will be allowed to keep the baby with her for a period of six months. After that the baby will be with relatives. The only hting is that there are no relatives on her side, so perhaps Tommy’s parents will care for the baby. On the other hand, perhaps a kindly Indonesian family will take care of the baby and bring the baby to see her mother for regular visits. Heather could certianly afford to do this as she inherited the millions of dollars left by her now deceased parents.

Since Heather has money, life in Kerobokan prison will be easy for her. Instead of the traditional squat toilet she will be able to have a western style sit down toilet.  She will be able to order in food from the outside and will receive top dental and medical care. She will have her own quarters with clean linens and will be allowed to freely roam the premises at her liesure . She can watch all the TV she likes and see the latest DVD’s which are regularly brought in by volunteer workers.  If she wants to do so, she can get a college education via correspondence course, If she was smart, she should look into that so when she comes out of prison in 10 years she could begin a  new life with a new  set of skills due to her education. She will be able to have a cell phone and use the computer to her heart’s desire.

Tommy may have it even better  than Heather in prison as he too will have all of these things in Kerobokan Prison but he will have tennis courts and tennis matches where he can participate. He can help raise dogs in the prisoner assistance dog program they have, he can continue his education as he too as complete access to computers and cell phones. He and header can speaker 24 7 id they like. They can video chat and text one another at will.

Since the emphasis at the prison is rehabilitation, they have sewing, silversmithing,reflexology, and Norwegian philosophy classes, and  hairdressing and barber skill training. They can also continue with a formal education at any University of their choosing that offers an online degree or a correspondence type of program. They can also get all of the psychological counseling they want as there is regular counseling by visiting psychologists. So Heather an work out her mother and her mental issues, while Tommy can work out his anger issues.

The whole situation is so terribly sad.  At 62, Shelia von Wies Mack is dead after close to two decades of struggling with her very difficult daughter. May she now rest in peace and may Heather treat her own daughter a lot better than she treated her mother.