Is Ryan Lochte A Sociopath? Lame Apology May Give Insight

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One of the most difficult things to spot is when a Sociopath is lying. When Ryan Lochte gave his interviews with Billy Bush, he was fluid and fluent. He had no ums or uhs in his speech and no other vocal tells of deception. Physcially there were no body language tells either, .to indicate that he lied. While there was one story that caused a little raised eyebrow as  he told Billy- that the robber asked him to give him his money and  Ryan told the robber  “no,”  it could be dismissed as a carryover of the gold medalist’s brazen fearless attitude that he showed in the Olympic pool. When asked to give over their money, most  people would give it readily, especially if there was a gun involved in any way. Other than that statement, Ryan showed a calm, collected attitude as he shared the story with Bush.

 

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It was only when Matt Lauer interviewed him and the story changed from the gun being “pointed  at his head “ to the gun being “pointed in his direction” it was clear that Ryan was a liar.

At first, no one wanted to believe Ryan would lie about this. It made sense that he would have been robbed, considering the fact that Rio has the highest crime rate and robberies are rampant. In addition, why would Ryan make this up? He certainly didn’t need attention .  After all, he was a Gold medalist and was getting loads of attention. So why would he make  something like this up?

One reason he would make this up  may possibly be that he may perhaps have sociopathic tendencies. Sociopaths have a tendency to invent outrageous lies about their experiences. They wildly exaggerate and make up things to the point of absurdity, but when they describe it to you in a storytelling format, for some reason, it sounds believable at the time.That is exactly the case with Ryan, especially with his story about saying “no” to the robber. 

Sociopaths are also incapable of apologizing and feeling remorse. Only because the other athletes he was with were forced to  come clean, essentially “busting” Ryan, Lochte gave a public apology. It wasn’t verbal. It was written  on instragram. If Lochte didn’t make a statement he would be in further danger with his sponsors and with the IOC.

The apology speaks volumes about Ryan. It begins by saying I apologize for not being more careful and candid in how I described the events. he doesn’t say he apologizes for lying but rather for not being careful. In essence, he is saying that his only remorse is getting caught. This is typical sociopathic rhetoric as they are not direct with their apologies and couch them in a way to deflect  the seriousness of what they did.

He also says that he apologizes for taking the attention away from his fellow athletes. This is not what he needs to be sorry for. He needs to be sorry for making up a lie about Brazil, who already has a terrible reputation when it comes to robberies and crime. He needed to apologize for adding fuel to the fire, yet he doesn’t do so.

Since Sociopaths never truly apologize because they feel they  are never wrong, they also never feel guilt. If they are forced to apologize like Ryan was they will go on the defensive, In the next paragraph of Lochte;s apology, He blames the a. language barrier  and still insists that a gun was pointed at him  and money was demanded to let him leave, But he doesn;t say that he and his fellow swimmers broke the bathroom door and they security guard wanted them to pay for it. He didn’t say that the payment was a mere 50 something dollars.

Then Lochte demonstrates yet another signal of the sociopath;s behavior in his apology when he tries to lay on the charm and kiss up to those he needs. In Lochte’s case it was the International Olympic Committee, and the United States Olympic Committee.He gives a kiss up shout out to them as he knows what may be in store for him, They could potentially go as far as banning him if they see fit, for his lies and causing an international incident in an already flamable situation.

Finally he encourages people to move on and to essentially forget about what he did as he says he “looks ahead to celebrating future successes.

This may be wishful thinking on Lochte’s part. He has damaged his public image forever. People are not quick to forget when another one of their hero’s let them down with all of his lying behavior- Lance Armstrong. They are certainly not going to let Lochte off the hook so easily. This has severely damaged his brand due to his issues with credibility.

 

Sociopath? Ryan Lochte Shows No Body Language or Verbal Signals of Deception In Speaking of the Robbery

Screen Shot 2016-08-14 at 8.20.46 PMSwimming Gold Medalist  Ryan Lochte said he was a victim of an armed robbery in Brazil after coming home from a party  for one of his friends in Rio. He showed no signals of deception as he relayed the story to interviewer, Billy Bush. He was on point and spoke fluidly and fluently. He showed no body language signals of deception. Therefore I completely believe what he said about the robbery.

But the US Olympic Committee and the International Olympic Committee (IOC) denied Lochte’s account of what happened . It seems to me that they clearly may have  wanted to cover themselves and protect their own interests , since they made this statement without ever interviewing Lochte or any of the other alleged victims. It was reported that  both organizations didn’t even contact the alleged robbed swimmers after the robbery, even though they were all living at the Olympic village.

Ryan Lochte would have no reason to make up a robbery attempt. He certainly doesn’t need this type of attention and has never had a history of high drama. Whether anyone wants to admit it  or not, Rio is one of the most dangerous cities in the world as are so many other cities  in Brazil.

In fact, when I was in Sao Paulo, Brazil several years ago on a book tour, I was driven around in an armored car. So there was a great concern about crime. I also have a very close friend in Brazil and when we traveled around the city, we were also in an armored car and ran through all the red lights because to stop could get one robbed  and killed.

In my view, the US Olympic Committee and the IOC are not respecting one of their star athletes. Instead, they are essentially calling Lochte a liar.They clearly seem to believe that admitting that Rio is a dangerous city and that a robbery took place would be bad PR for the games, so they are spinning it.

Apparently, Lochte reported that the robbers were disguised as police . If they admitted Lochte’s story was accurate and word got out that robbers were posing as police officers in and in essence stopping  tourists and robbing them with guns to their head, this would be bad for the games and for their revenue.

Having a gun pointed at Lochte’s head as he said in a very calm manner, may have some sever lasting effects on him. perhaps he is now in a state of shock as to what actually happened to him. When some time passes and he has more time to process the event and that he could have lost his life, I would not be surprised if he showed symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder  (PTSD) in the future. The fact that his own US Olympic Committee and the IOC aren’t standing by him and supporting what happened to him will not doubt add to his injury and could have an emotional  effect on him. It could even have serious implications in terns of his psyche as an athlete.

So much of being a star athlete has to do with your mental abilities and focus as well as your physical prowess.If his own organizations are not behind him, it may have an effect on his motivation level in the future and on his psychological state . No one wants to be labeled as a liar when they have come forth and shared a life threatening experience.

The implications of Lochte being believed  and the committees causing doubt about what he said can potentially affect  his endorsements in the futures and ultimately, his finances. There may be a possibility that endorsers may shy away from Lochte as a result of this controversy created by the US and International Olympic  committees.

Caitlyn Jenner’s Canceled Show May Be a Blessing In Disguise

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When Caitlyn Jenner  first made her transition from male to female, I filmed a segment at with her at her home, way on top of a hill in Malibu, for her show ( I am Cait). In our segment, there was some intensive voice and speech training that unfortunately never made it to air. I showed her videotape of herself  appearing on  Diane Sawyer’s 20/20 interview and  analyzed it. I relayed to her which speech, voice, and body language patterns were masculine and feminine and what she needed to work on. She seemed very receptive.  We then did  some speech, body language, and  vocal exercises. The story line was that I was supposed to tell her not to have surgery  on her vocal cords, which she was  supposedly considering in  order to sound more feminine. During our shoot, I told her that surgery was not a good idea. I also told her that there may be some dangers associated with the surgery that could harm her voice in the long run and that she instead, needed to do a regimine of vocal and speech and body language exercises. I also shared this in the confessional. Continue reading

Trump Turns Hillary Passionate and Emotional In Second Half of Speech

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With the exception of  Hillary Clinton’s  emotional  and touching entrance when she and  daughter Chelsea looked one another in the eye and both teared up, the first half of Hillary speech was  bland with a monotone cadence. But before she spoke, we were privy to see a side of Hillary we had never seen before. Right after  Chelsea introduced her mother and Hillary came to the stage, we witnessed mother and  daughter sharing  a beautiful, heartfelt, tender moment.

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As Hillary took the stage and began to speak, her body language appeared stiff and mechanical.

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Whenever  she wanted to express a point or show emotion, instead of raising her vocal inflection, she got louder and louder. Soon it became a monotonous  bore where it was difficult to distinguish major points she was trying to get across.  It all sounded the same, in her staccato delivery/ So  it was not always easy to follow her message.

In terms of her facial language, whenever she got louder and louder to express a point, her eyes widened. It didn’t seem to be congruous with her message. The wide-eyed look,along with the monotone loud cadence at the end of her statements, did not showcase Hillary at her best.

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Ther monotone cadence and loud endings of sentences during the first half of the speech could put anyone to sleep . In fact, her speech  put Bill to sleep for a little while. In all fairness, he has probably heard her rehearse the speech countless times. Nevertheless, her monotonous droll lulled him to catch a few Z’s .

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But  as soon as she began to discuss Donald Trump and why he shouldn’t be the next President, a  completely different Hillary emerged. This Hillary was passionate, exciting, enthusiastic, and had life to her voice . She came alive and showed more emotion than ever before.  Her body language and facial language now matched her words. Unlike before, they were now  all  in synch.

Her message suddenly became clearer. Her zings to Donald Trump were very cleaver. She  said “Instead of making America great again, how about making things in America” when referring to his clothes  being made in China, shirts in Mexico and furniture in Turkey. She certainly made a good point with that statement.

She then said that  someone ” who loses his cool  when baited with a tweet  is not a man you can trust with nuclear weapons.”

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As she said this the audience roared and suddenly  Hillary became more energized and more passionate. She then began to express more emotion than ever before. Her tones were now inflected and the monotone and shouting  for emphasis was gone.  Her entire demeanor changed. She said what everyone in the audience wanted to hear.

Perhaps her most powerful statement  was personally directed to Donald and what she perceives as his bullying. She said that  as a child she was bullied. Her late mother, who was very near and dear to her heart, told the young Hillary to “pick yourself up and get back in the game and stand up to bullies.” 

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Bill and Chelsea watched her with pride and when Hillary spoke the words” I accept your nomination for President of the United States,”Bill looked like he was choked up and ready to shed a tear.

After the speech ended with a resounding applause, Bill finally came on stage with her. There was a genuine embrace between the two that lasted quite a while by hugging standards, with Hillary  even rubbing Bill’s back. Witnessing the two of them embrace at that moment, there was no doubt that whatever crises the two of them had been through with Bill’s serial womanizing, all was  in the past. The way Bill held Hillary showed a genuine connection, which was reciprocated by her.

What was also impressive when Bill was on the stage with Hillary was that he did not try to share the limelight with her. Instead,  he let her have her moment and  allowed her to shine.  He  constantly stayed in the background talking to others on the stage and amusing himself with the balloons- especially the larger ones, which he kept throwing around.

Hillary also had some fun with the  balloons and with acknowledging people in the  audience. She was warm. happy, and playful. This was  yet another side of Hillary that we never saw. It made her seem more human and likeable.

 

 

 

 

 

Bernie Sanders Body Language Shows Anger, Passion and Distrust During DNC Speech

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While Bernie Sanders’s body language showed that he was angry not only about the issues he passionately believes in, his body language showed that he was clearly angry that he was not the nominee.

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He showed that anger through pointing, pursed lips, and lip licking as he reluctantly  supported Hillary.

He openly addressed the elephant in the room and said that he was unhappy that he didn’t get the nomination as he verbalized” I  understand that many people here in this convention hall and around the country are disappointed about the final results of the nominating process. I think it’s fair to say that no one is more disappointed than I am. But to all of our supporters – here and around the country – I hope you take enormous pride in the historical accomplishments we have achieved.”

As he said “This election is about ending the grotesque level of income and wealth inequality that we currently experience, the worst it has been since 1928. It is not moral, not acceptable and not sustainable that the top one-tenth of one percent now own almost as much wealth as the bottom 90 percent, or that the top 1 percent in recent years has earned 85 percent of all new income. That is unacceptable. That must change” one could not help but think of Hillary  being at  that a “grotesque level of income and wealth inequality ” to which he was referring. After all, Hillary and Bill are one of the richest couples in the world.

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Deep down, here was no happiness and joy in his speech. He did what he had to do and the only thing he felt good about was that several of the issues  he holds near and dear have now been incorporated into the Democratic Platform.

Whenever he mentioned Hillary’s name he never smiled or showed warmth.

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While Bernie has usually shown a similar body language and facial expression throughout his campaign, the fact that this was the Democratic convention where she was supposed to be singing Hillary’s praises  speaks volumes. It says that his heart isn’t really into it. While the words are  certainly there, his body language says the complete opposite.

His final statement  is very telling as she says “ Our job now is to see that platform implemented by a Democratic Senate, a Democratic House and a Hillary Clinton presidency – and I am going to do everything I can to make that happen.”

What he is saying is that he is going to make sure that he keeps an eye on the Democratic Party to make sure that all of his issues are implemented  into the Democratic Platform because no doubt, he doesn’t really trust them.  After what happened to him during the campaign,  where  millions Americans voted  and sent in contributions to finance his campaign, turned out for his rallies, and cheered on his promised revolution, little did they know that Bernie never stood a chance. Their time and effort was wasted.

Now leaked  emails have confirmed what he suspected all along- that the  Democratic National Committee decided that Hillary Clinton would be the Presidential nominee long before any votes were cast.

His supporters at the convention appeared to be devastated. Many of them covered their mouth in upset and even cried, as you can see in the photos above.  With knowledge of the leaked emails his supporters are livid.  For many  on the  fence as to whether they were Bernie or Hillary supporters, the rigged campaign may have prompted them to leave the party all together and vote for Trump. Others who were Bernie supporters may feel duped and  so angry at the DNC , that they too may refuse to vote for Hillary.

Even though his parting words were ” Hillary Clinton will make an outstanding president and I am proud to stand with her here tonight.” his body language and facial expression showed that he really didn’t believe what he was saying. He wasn’t smiling at all when he made that statement.

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In fact ,the only time Bernie cracked a smile was when he was how much love there was on the convention floor for him and people wouldn’t stop clapping or chanting his name. Otherwise he had a sour facial expression throughout his speech. He clearly never smiled when she spoke of Hillary.

His body language and facial expression said that deep  down he believes, as do all of his supporters, that he would make an outstanding president and he would be prouder if he were the nominee instead of Hillary.

 

Obama’s Inappropriate Smile and Disconnected Speech About Munich Massacre Shows Mind Is Elsewhere

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When President Obama addressed a group of law enforcement  agents  and mentioned  the tragedy in Munich, he was completely inappropriate and out of line. His smiling, joking and casual body language and bringing in his personal concerns about his daughter leaving for college,  in the middle of what was supposed to be a  somber moment shows his judgement is lacking and his mind is clearly elsewhere.

No one in leadership or in any political position should act like that and bring their own concerns into the mix when discussing such as tragic and serious issue. This was a horrific incident where young children were massacred, yet he casually brings up his daughter leaving him to go to college as his own personal tragedy.

He  also made absolutely no sense when he spoke.

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He began the speech with phumpering and a lots of uhs, as he was looking down when he  said “it’s a good reminder as I’ve said over the past couple of weeks which is our freedoms, our way of life, our ability to go about our business every day …”

He then looks down and says uh  as you can clearly see that his mind is ready to go someplace else in this extemporaneous  speech sans teleprompter.

He continued with “raising our kids and seeing em grown up, graduate from high school and going to college and about to leave their father.”

He then realizes he is being inappropriate and got off point  as he laughs and with a big smile,  holds his hand up and says  Im sorry Im getting a little too personal  as he scratches his nose.  The nose scratching indicates that he knows what he just did was inappropriate.

A few people in the  audience laughed, which then encouraged the President to repeat what he said and this time show a huge smile  as you can see below as he repeated ” Getting too personal there.”

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Then he says uh as he looks up in order to try to get back on track ,but he was completely off track, as what he said next made no sense.

He said ,That depends on law enforcement, men and women every day , who are under the most adversarial circumstances  imaginable sometimes. “

He was just talking about how we live our life of freedom,  and then he got sidetracked with his own person issue of Malia leaving and then tries to continue where he left  off but obviously forgot what he was previously talking about and and now suddenly talks about  about it being up  law enforcement. What is up to law enforcement? Is the personal freedom we have up to law enforcement or is it up to the Constitution?

People had just been shot in Munich and he makes the above statement, which indicates that his heart wasn’t into what he was saying about what happened in Munich.

It made no sense and shows his mind is clearly elsewhere. There was nothing funny about what he said and the laughter from the audience was no doubt nervous laughter, as they too knew how ridiculous it was to bring up his daughter leaving for college, mid sentence when he was supposed to address what happened in Germany.

What he did spoke volumes about Obama’s state of mind in my view as  is clear that leaving the Office of President cannot come soon enough for him.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Trump’s Body Language and Voice Show Genuine Compassion, Passion and Power During Republican Nominee Speech

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In the past, it was said that Ronald Reagan was the “Great Communicator.” But after listening to Donald Trump’s acceptance speech as the Republican nominee, Reagan  pales in comparison. Reagan with his breathy tone, wasn’t always easy to follow as he often used  a repetitive cadence, whereby much of what he said sounded the same. The communication skills that Donald Trump showed brought realness and genuine connection to whole new level in my view.

In his acceptance speech, Trump showed us all sides of him- sides that we never saw in the past.  He came across as genuine, real, compassionate and passionate as well ,as very angry and passionate about what he perceived as going on in this country.He also gave a plan and solutions and was upfront and direct in his delivery, which made him sound very credible.

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When a lot of politicians give case histories of people they meet on the political trail and give you the person’s tragic story, too often it seems mechanical, rote, and insincere. When Marco Rubio or Ted Cruz shared these stories in the past, they sounded contrived and disconnected. But  when Trump spoke of the straight A student who was killed by an illegal immigrant with a criminal record, he was clealry moved and it was heartfelt.You sould not only hear it in his voice, you could see it in his facial expression and body language.

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WhenT rump  first entered the stage,  you could see that he was moved by daughter Ivanka’s speech and rightfully so. When he spoke of his children and how he felt about them as well as his siblings, you could feel how much he loved them, as his entire demeanor changed in terms of his facial expression and body language. There was a softness and tenderness about him.

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But when he spoke of  the issues and what he planned to do to solve the nation’s problems, there was a genuineness to what he was saying. There was no phoniness or “doubletalk” which we have heard in the  past with so many politicians. Instead, he was straight forward and relayed exactly what he would do in plain and simple terms.
One of the reasons so many have embraced Trump  is that he speaks in a way, so the masses can understand. He speaks in short phrases and often repeats words in that phrase to make a point. It is highly effective in terms of other’s understanding his message. In his acceptance speech, he  spoke from the gut as his words matched his emotions, which matched his body language. When he repeats the words and phrases he does it in a softer tone, so one feels as though he is speaking to you directly.Repetition also causes the listener to process the information better and to remember and  in the long term, remember what he said.

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Body language wise,he regularly  showed  the palms of his hands, unlike so many of the other candidates and nominees.When one speaks with their hands and shows the palms of their hands, as opposed to the back of their hands it reflects that they are being genuine in their message and honest.

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While we saw a lot of Trump anger during the debates and his fighting back at his opponent’s tooth and nail,we did not see any of that personal anger we saw during the campaign. Instead, we saw anger he expressed concerning issues he is passionate about-  police shootings and Hillary’s not being held accountable for having a private server, poor negotiation  deals with various foreign countries, government financial waste, the debt, coal miners not having jobs,  and inner city children having the education system fail them, to name a few examples.

Because  it was more focused and he took the time to explain the issues in greater detail and in a slow precise manner, everything that angered him  seemed justified as reflected by the audience at the convention. As you can see in the photo above, his body language revealed his upset through his jaw movement, which jutted forth. Another indication of his anger was the  finger pointing, which he did often throughout his speech when discussing an issue. The finger pointing  let  us know how angry he was regarding the particular issue and that he would make sure that it was stopped if he was President.

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Perhaps the most telling facial expression and body language he made during his speech  was the one seen  above. It is a sheepish look and his admitting that since he personally  knew how the system worked  as he worked the system. So who better to fix the system than him.  In sharing this, it showed he was being open, genuine  and had nothing to hide.

He also showed humility- something we had never seen before in the campaign. When he spoke of the evangelicals,he softly said he didn’t think that he deserved their support.

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When he spoke of solutions the problems he used his entire body and facial expression to be emphatic about what he was saying. He pointed and raised his head up and opened his jaw even more as he slowly said in a staccato manner, his plans for action.

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There was so many times during his speech that he looked Presidential as his shoulders were squared and his head was up. It was as though he was now  wearing his new mantle and owning it, as the Republican Presidential nominee.

He also showed that he was the consummate motivator as many came away from his speech feeling more  passionate, more energized,  and more angry at the injustices he clearly explained. That often resulted in the audience breaking out in chants, many of which he lead. His final statement resonated with the audience as you could hear a roar after he said that Hillary’s slogan is “I’m With Her.” while his slogan is ” I’m With You- the American People-I am your voice.”

Once again, this is not a political blog and I am not indicating my support of one candidate over another. As a body language and communication expert, my aim is to remain objective and report what observe and what I hear.