Body Language Shows How Obama and Putin Can’t Stand One Another

No love lost between Putin and Obama as illustrated through their body language.

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Even though Russian President Vladimir Putin and the United States President Barak Obama were toasting one another and even though they sat down for formal talks for the first time in two years to discuss the Syrian situation, there was no love lost between them when they attended the UN Summit. These photos illustrate how the body does not lie.  While they may have agreed on various points, their body language was icy.

 In the above photo where they are toasting, Obama leans away from Putin. He wears a lot of tension on his forehead and tightness in his jaw, which shows anger. While Putin tried to show a pleasant smile, he is not fooling anyone. His smile is not genuine as his lips are pursed. There is no teeth showing and the apples of his cheeks are not raised. It shows that he too is harboring anger towards Obama, even though he tries to not show it.

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Then after their formal meetings, they did an obligatory photo op for the press which only lasted 13 seconds. They both could not wait to get away from one another, Their handshake validates their mutual disdain as Obama ties to fake a smile, but his lower  jaw is tight as his lips are pursed with anger.  His body is stiff. There is a large gap between them, distance wise, which illustrates the distance they are feeling with one another.  Putin is not smiling and this time, he  is finding it difficult to eek out a phony smile for the camera. His true feelings towards Obama are reflected on his face.

When you look at their hands, you see a lot of tension their grip which indicates that  no doubt a power grip was taking place in terms of showing who had the stronger handshake.

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Before they actually shook hands you can see Obama looking down and his shoulders a bit hunched as he dreaded what he had to do. Yet he was the first to reach of his hand. Putin appears to be giving Obama the literal “cold shoulder” as the shoulder which is closest to Obama is raised and his head is cocked. This too indicates that he is not too thrilled about having to do this photo op and  making like everything is fine between them, when it is anything but fine.

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Finally their dreaded Press conference is over and Obama is two paces ahead of Putin as with a sour puss,indicating he can’t get away quickly enough .Putin follows behind with an equally sour puss expression, indicating that the feeling is mutual. Obama seems to be walking quickly as he heads toward the exist while Putin keeps his distance.

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Here is Obama days earlier when he was with the President of China Xi Jinping. There is a stark difference between Obama’s reaction to Putin and his reaction to Xi. Look at Obama’s genuine smile with his cheeks raised, his eyes crinkled and his teeth showing. He is also leaning in towards XI and Xi is doing the same. Xi also shows a genuine like towards Obama as he too  exhibits a genuine smile and leans in towards Obama.

Toxic Verbal Violence and Verbal Murder Towards Any Political Candidate Is Unacceptable

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It is  certainly acceptable to disagree with a candidate’s views on certain issues.  It is also acceptable to express yourself passionately. But it is not acceptable to become verbally violent and commit verbal murder on a candidate because you disagree with them.  Donald Trump being brutally and anally  raped  by a male character and then killed on an episode of South Park  is not funny. There is nothing funny about being anally raped or killed. In fact close to three million men have in the United States have been victims of sexual assault  and rape. That is not satire in my view. It is sick and highly disturbing. Comedy Central should never be allowed to air such a thing. In my view it has crossed the line.

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Then to have a person on  Meghan Kelly’s show on Fox News,  Rick Lowry talk about Trumps “balls being cut off”  is in my view grounds for never having this person on the airwaves again. It is unprofessional and unacceptable.   In fact DonaldTrump  tweeted about the matter by relaying that “Incompetent lost it tonight on . He should not be allowed  on TV and the FCC should fine him!”


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As the host of the show, Megan Kelly’s body language showed that she  acted like a school girl  by tittering away and covering her eyes as she laughed. You can see in the photo above where there is a three shot of her Rich Lowry and the gentleman from the Blaze. While she is no fan of Donald Trump, she is still a host of a show and needed to act more professionally in my view. Instead of giggling and saying “What did you say?”  to her vulgar guest and covering her eyes.

Instead,, she needed to reprimand Lowry and immediately tell  him that his  language was not acceptable to use on the air. The level of hatred  towards  candidates on both sides is frightening. It speaks volumes about how too many have become so desensitized that they have lost their humanity. There has to be some level of decorum and some boundaries which should never be crossed.

Once again this is not a political blog nor am I defending any particular candidate. I would say the same thing about any candidate who was discussed in such a Toxic  manner where there were depicted as being raped or killed or had their genitals mutilated.

Joyce Mitchell Who Helped Prisoners Escape Shows Multiple Signals of Deception and Delusion of Being “Too Nice”

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When someone shakes their head no and says they are  sorry for everything they did,  when they are supposed to be shaking their head in the affirmative position, you can rest assured that they are not very sorry about what they did.

She says that she did what she did in helping prisoners Richard Matt and David Sweat escape because he was trying to help her family. As she says this her voice dies off at the end which is often a signal of deception, especially in this context.

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She has justified her actions in getting involved with these Toxic criminals who committed heinous crimes by stating that “she is too nice”. She said that people constantly tell her she is “too nice”. To me, she is parroting what her defense lawyer must have used to defend her. There is NOTHING nice about helping a criminal who cut his boss’ body up into little pieces or helping a criminal who killed a police officer. She is living in an illusion when she says this.

She says that she gave Matt the tools she requested because she told her that he loved her. She said she answered him with I love my husband. “As she says this she looks down. his makes no sense because if she loved her husband she wouldn’t be involved with Matt in the first place.

She also does what is known as “duping delight.”  She leaks out a smile as she tells about her ordeal.She is not sorry for what she did but is sorry that she got caught and now has to spend her time in prison.

Trump, Christe Show Genuine Body Language Fiorina’s Voice Annoys While Jeb’s is Monotone During Debates

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Donald Trump emerged as  winner again in terms of his body language and delivery  as did Chris Christie. Both were genuine and spoke directly to the people. They weren’t rehearsed and they both showed a lot of energy. They got their message across with passion and conviction

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Another candidate who did very well in the debates was Marco Rubio. he was well spoken and articulate and his gestures matched what he was conveying verbally.

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While  Carla Fiorina’s looks may not the issue and Trump did apologize to her in his own way by telling her she looked lovely,  her voice pattern left a lot to be desired. It was creaky,  labored and staccato, monotone  and she often sounded rehearsed, especially when giving a speech about Lady Liberty. Her voice pattern in my view is annoying. There is no doubt that she needs some serious voice coaching if she is to be heard and if she wants to get her message across.

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Also needing vocal help is Jeb Bush. Trump is right in that he lacks energy and enthusiasm when he speaks and sounds very boring and monotone.

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Rand Paul not only sounded monotoned but was monofaced. He looked haggard and angry throughout the debate. His voice pattern also sounded nasal and did not resonate well.

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The same holds true for Dr. Ben Carson. He too is monotone and his tones are lack luster.  He sounds boring. His face is also monotoned in terms of  exhibiting facial animation. Perhaps his best exchange was with Trump when he said that Trump was an OK doctor.

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Scott Walker  often phumphered  and stammered  during the debates which made him seem unsure of himself.

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Ted Cruz’s voice sound high pitched and nasal which is off putting. Instead of talking to the audience or to the moderators like the other candidates did, he looked into the camera. This  seemed contrived, as he shared an obviously rehearsed message.

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Huckabee  also sounded rehearsed and contrived . In addition,  his gestures were rehearsed and mechanical and did not match the content of what he was saying. His looking directly into the camera when she spoke which did not make him appear genuine.

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While Lindsey Graham’s Southern accent may be charming, he often sounds monotone and his gestures do not match what he is saying.  Many of his gestures made no sense in relationship to what he was saying as you can see in the photo above.

With the exception of Trump, Christie and Rubio, the rest of the candidates could use some serious vocal and body language coaching to improve the way they come across during the debates.

Once again this is NOT a political piece. This is merely a blog about the way these candidate’s presented themselves in front of millions of people during the debates.

Shame on Toxic Hypocritical Church and Rev.Tim Mattox for Kicking Out 103 Year Old Woman

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When someone reaches the glorious  age of 103, they need to be revered not punished and put through emotional hardship. No matter what happened with 103 year old congregant and former teacher Genora Hamm Biggs  and her minister,Tim Mattox ( a former student of hers), he should never have had her banned  from the church she and her family founded, just because she spoke out and told him about things she didn’t like that he was doing and what was happening to the church. Continue reading

Josh Duggar’s Wife’s Self Blame As to Toxic Man Josh’s Cheating Says She’s In Denial

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Josh Duggar, the eldest son on TLC’s Reality Show “19 and Counting” who admitted to sexuay abusing his sisters, has now

admitted that he is a hypocrite and has a secret addiction to pornography as he was caught on the Ashley Madison site- a site

which caters to married cheaters having affairs. Anna Duggar, Josh’s wife is clearly in denial and engaging in self blaming for

Josh’s egregious behavior.

It is reported that Anna says she is not leaving her  cheating husband and will stick by him. In fact she is reported to be turning

to her faith much like her in-laws and doing a  lot of praying. In my view she and her in-laws are doing a lot of denying.

No prayer and no faith can help a very mentally sick individual  with perverted behavior, like Josh has shown to be. he needs  a

lot f therapy and not the faith based religious kind of therapy which clearly did not work on him.

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According those close to her, Anna is  trying to absorb some of the blame. for Josh’s perverted actions of cheating on her. In fact she apparently blames herself for not being more aware of the pressures Josh was under . She apparently is beating herself up for not having counseled him better.

In my view  her alleged  statements  reveal that she just as disturbed as her husband. She has no connection with reality. There is absolutely nothing she could have done to prevent Josh cheating on her, no doubt when he was pregnant.

It will most likely never happen, but this woman needs to get as far away from Josh and his family as soon as possible. Most likely she will continue to live in denial with her head in the sand like an ostrich. She will never face the reality that her husband has some severe mental problems. She  most likely will never listen to anyone who tells her that it is not her fault and that Josh did this on his own and she is not to blame in any way, shape. otr form.

While religion and faith is a great thing for most people. in this case it is not a great thing as we watch Anna stubbornly hide behind her religion and their faith and refuse to see the reality of her very disturbed husband.

Dr. Lillian Glass Worked to Feminize Caitlyn Jenner Voice and Body Language


I had the opportunity to work with Caitlyn Jenner to try to help her feminize her voice, speech patterns and body language. Our session was filmed for her reality show I’m Cait. Unfortunately it will not be shown this season. But my management team at Sirena Media received this  very nice email from the show’s producer:

Hi Karin!
Unfortunately, that scene did not make it into the series. We had to make some tough cuts because we filmed for 12 weeks but only ended up with eight 42 minute episodes. We so appreciate Lilian working with Cait and all the help she offered and maybe we can have her back next season.
Best of luck to you both and thank you again!

Andrea Metz
Executive Producer

So there is a possibility I may be on her show next season. Because I am bound by a confidentiality agreement I signed with Bunim Murray, Caitlyn’s production company I can’t go into detail as to what specific work I did with Caitlyn and what we specifically discussed during our time together.

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I will say that she was a lovely and I thoroughly enjoyed working with her and let her know that I am totally there for her.

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I will say that I used the same techniques that I used to teach Dustin Hoffman how to sound like a woman for the film in which he won an Academy Award- Tootsie

We addressed vocal pitch, using more inflection, drawing out vowels so the tones are more flowing, slowing down the speech, using more feminine gestures from sitting, to standing, to head posture, to facial language as well as gesturing,  like gesturing towards the body as opposed to away from the body like I am showing here when I Dustin played the Dorothy Michael’s character.

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While it takes more than the three hour session I had with Caitlyn while we filmed the show, I was able to give Caitlyn a copy of my best selling book He Says She Says Closing the Communication Gap Between the Sexes. The book contains all the information you will ever need to know about how men and  women communicate. It discusses differences in voice, body language, speech, and behavior, what is said and how it is said.

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In fact it has just been released on  Amazon  for kindle

There is also an audio version on my website at

This book can not only be of benefit to the transgender community but can help anyone who wants to have better communication with the opposite sex in business, in their social life, and in their intimate life.

Having worked with many people in the transgender community, perhaps the most difficult aspect of their transition is to sound   like the opposite sex. To sound like a  woman (for those undergoing male to female transition as Caitlyn is doing), or to sound like a man (for those undergoing female to male transition) it takes time and a lot of hard work. It takes the knowledge of knowing exactly what to do and what the differences are for the specific sex one is transitioning to. It also takes a lot of practice and a lot of patience.

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I read in Caitlyn’s blog  several weeks ago that when she watched the video of herself  speaking at the ESPY Awards, she said that she still felt like she had a man’s voice. It is understandable for her to feel that way  as you can’t learn how to sound like a woman and have it become a part of your daily life in just one session. It takes time and a lot of practice.

I was able to assure Caitlyn that what she was feeling was not out of the ordinary and to be patient.  I communicated to her that she not be hard on herself because working on feminizing your voice is a process and cannot be done in only one session as we did for the show.

I  encouraged her to not focus on  what she thought she did wrong, but instead, focus on the many things she did right during her ESPY Speech  such as:

1. flowing out her tones

3. using her inflection ( going up several notes)

4 not having a choppy speech pattern

5. opening her jaw when you spoke

6. not speaking so fast

7. not having a creaky sound at the end of sentences (glottal fry)

8. using many feminine gestures.

9. not attacking her initial sounds when she spoke

I clearly let her know that I was very proud of her. I also reiterated specific things she needed to work on in the future regarding the way she spoke so that she would be more satisfied and not see or hear herself as sounding like a man.

Working with Caitlyn was a very rewarding experience for me as I shared with  Caitlyn’s  my knowledge  of what it takes to sound like her genuine self- a woman.  I found her to be a lovely, elegant, and beautiful  woman who was very eager to incorporate all that we discussed.

She is truly an inspiration not only to the transgender community, but to so many others who are motivated by her  personal  decision to live an authentic and honest life and to be true to herself. At age 65, she decided to live out her dream, which goes to prove that it is never too late in life to do what you really want to do with your life. I have the utmost respect for anyone who is true to themselves, regardless of what anyone else may say.