Toxic People- Black Friday Terrorists Among US and Solutions to the problem

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After the recent terrorist attacks in Paris, Lebanon, Mali and other places around the world, one would think that Americans would be thankful these acts didn’t occur on our shores. But after reading the headlines over  Thanksgiving and Black Friday, it seems that terrorism is alive and well among us – in our shopping malls and department stores, as there are too many out there who have  been violently attacked.

Here are just a  few of the headlines which makes one feel they are in a war zone instead of celebrating a holiday.

“Black Friday brings pain for family of  Walmart worker killed”

“Black Friday Fight Breaks Out In Baby Section Of Department Store”

“Fist fight over Black Friday deals”

 ‘Kidnapper’ is caught ‘trying to snatch a shopper’s three-year-old grandchild at Walmart’ after lurking at store for hours”

“Brawls break out at Walmart during Black Friday; shoppers wrestle each other to ground in Kentucky food court”

“Woman steals item from child, squabble ensues”

“#BlackFridayMatters: Swarms raid discount TV display; Cop punched”

For many it comes as no surprise that these acts of violence would occur. In fact there is a website designed to morbidly  track injuries and deaths during Black Friday. In fact, the day before Black Friday, there were several warnings throughout the media as to the 10 top states this violence would take place.

According to a study by real estate website Estately, which used Facebook user data and federal crime statistics to determine where people participate in Black Friday sales and where people are more likely to violently attack each other, shoppers are most likely to encounter a Black Friday fight in the following states:

  1. Arkansas
  2. Tennessee
  3. Alabama
  4. Louisiana
  5. Missouri
  6. West Virginia
  7. Oklahoma
  8. Indiana
  9. Kansas
  10. South Carolina

But these predictors were  absolutely wrong as the violence based on the above headlines of where this violence actually occurred  have been in states  which not on the Esterly  list, They include:

1. Kentucky                                                                                                                 2.Georgia                                                                                                                         3. New York                                                                                                                     4. Michigan                                                                                                                    5.Texas                                                                                                                              6. California

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There sales bring out the absolute worst in people. Therefore there must either be a more organized system for shopping during these special sale holidays  such as:                                                                                                                      a. a limited group of people are allowed to enter stores at at time                    b. they can order the items via a catalog ahead of time and pick it up at             the store or have it mailed to them or                                                                    c. they can do something like is done at Brookstone where you see the               items you want,write down your purchase ,and the clerk goes and                  gets it for you.                                                                                                                 d. or  the ultimate solution to this problem would be that these Black                Friday sales days should only be allowed to occur online.

No innocent person should have to die, get kidnapped or beaten up while shopping for some items on sale.



Charlie Sheen’s body language during interview regarding his partners shows deception



While actor Charlie Sheen did a brave thing by publicly admitting  on the Today Show that he is HIV positive, he may have  lied as he seems to have shown signals of deception  when  asked if he had unprotected sex . He said that the two people he had sex with were under the care of his doctor and were completely warned ahead of time.

As he was asked the question you could see him licking his lips. Then he phumphers  with his speech and then he gets defensive as he leans towards Matt Lauer, the interviewer. He also looks down as he says that there were only two and that they were under the care of his doctor and completely warned. all of these seem to be signals of deception.

Besides seeing the many signals of deception in his answer, the fact that he said that the two  women with whom he had unprotected sex were under the care of his doctor and warned, raises red flags. First of all why were these women under the care of his doctor. Secondly no reputable  doctor is going to say that a person having sexual relations with someone with HIV is  completely in the clear and that they can have sex without a condom. This is especially  true for Charlie’s physician,, Robert Huizinga, whom I know very well and who is an extremely reputable physician.

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In fact Dr. Huizinga reported in the press  that he is  indeed afraid that Sheen could spread HIV, especially if she goes on an alcohol and drug bender and forgets to take his medicine. Knowing that Charlie has a tendency to go on binges and may forget to take his medicine, once again it is seriously doubtful that Dr. Huizenga would tell any woman she was in the clear and didn’t have to use protection  when having sexual relations. with Charlie.

Charlie even admitted to using alcohol and drugs heavily after his HIV diagnosis which is further evidence that in his altered state he could forget to take his medicine and therefore expose his sex partners to the virus.

If he did indeed have unprotected sex when  he knew he  was  is infected with HIV in California it is a crime. Apparently he settled several cases with people who were not aware of his HIV status and had sex with him. If he did have unprotected sex, under California law, he could get 6 months in jail. Also if he knew he had HIV with the intent to transmit the disease to them, it would be a felony and could receive up to  8 years in prison.

Hopefully all of the women that Charlie engaged sexually are not infected with the virus.

One of the women with whom he did have with, Bree Olson, one of his “godessess” admitted to Howard Stern that Charlie did not tell her he was HIV positive. The question now is how many others did he not tell and how many women have been exposed to HIV because of his reckless behavior.

According to reports before he admitted his diagnosis,  Charlie seemed to have been worried that his fans would not accept him because  he was HIV positive. But the reality is that fans may not accept him  not becuase he is HIV positive, but because of his irresponsible behavior and exposing others to HIV when he knew he was infected with the virus.











Obama and Netanyahu Body Language Shows They Still Can’t Stand One Another

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Even though the two world leaders, Benjamin Netanyahu and Barak Obama finally got together  to meet after a year, there is still no love lost between them. Netanyahu was in the US to to discuss the nuclear deal with Iran and other regional conflicts, including the violence in Palestine.

While it had been no secret that the prime minister of Israel and the President of the United States  have had a strong disagreements in the past, their common thread is that they are both in favor of making sure Iran does not get a nuclear weapon. Another point of agreement is regarding the importance of dealing with violence.

But in terms of their body language Obama still can’t seem to hide his disdain for Netanyahu ever since the Israeli Prime Minister accepted an invitation to speak, whereby Obama took the move as a personal affront by  netanyahu and Republicans  in Congress going around the White House to invite him to give a joint address to th Senate and the House of Representatives.

Look at the photo above and you will see the tightness in Obama’s jaw signifying anger. He is pursing his lips as he looks at Netanyahu eye to eye. Obama slunches  over when he reaches out to shake Netanyahu’s han. There also seems to be an aggressive power handshake with Obama as you can see his thumb deliberately pressing hard on Netanyahu’s hand.

Netanyahu is also not pleased about Obama  a you can see from the tension in his jaw and tight lips.

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Feet can tell a lot about how a person is feeling towards the other  as well.In this case we see Obama’s legs are crossed and his foot and toes are positioned upwards. This means that he can’t wait to leave the meeting.  This in in contrast to Netanyahu’s fet which are firmly planted on the ground.Also their feet are not pointing directly in one another’s direction which further indicates  they don’t feel good about one another.

Hands are also telling as both men are holding on to themselves in order to contain their true feelings. Netanyahu hold;s on to his fingers while Obama self comforts by olding on to his thighs. It shows how uncomfortable they are with one another.

Another telling signal of their disdain towards one another is that their heads are completely turned away from one another. Netanyahu turns his head to the left and looks away from Obama while Obama looks straight ahead, not  relating to Netanyahu’s presence.

So even though the two allies – the US and Israel  met to demonstrate their bond, there was definitely no bonding going on between the two leaders as you can see in this photo op.

Trump’s Body Language and Delivery Wins in Third Debate Despite Insulting Questions As Rubio and Cruz Impresses

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When Donald Trump was asked the most ugly and disrespectful question by  cnbc’s John Harwood, who publicly called him a narcissist and then further insulted Trump by calling him a cartoon character, Trump appropriately responded that ‘ it was not a nicely stated question.” He then went on to respond in a calm and collected manner. He was also the most real  and genuine in terms of his demeanor and what he said. For instance  he was the only candidate who gave an honest and open answer to  the question regarding his flaw ( that he was too trusting and he doesn’t forgive).

He was the only candidate who answered the question openly and honestly. The others all went into a rehearsed rhetoric  that had nothing to do with addressing their flaw. Instead they used that time to address what they felt was important in their campaign.This turned many people off.

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One of the biggest turnoffs was when Huckabee said he didn’t have any flaws and then went on to say to ask his wife. He did not gain any Presidential points for that. He was also rehearsed and made body language gestures which were contrived. His facial language did not reflect that he was being genuine.

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Carla Fiorino had the worst body language throughout the evening which made her appear annoying. Her cocked head made her seem insecure and her tone was very defensive. When she said that he flaw was that she didn’t smile and then went off topic it was a turn off. The tone of her voice needs a lot of work. A while back  Donald Trump made reference to her looks as he asked how people could look at her for four years. I say, how can anyone listen to that voice for 4 years as it is so annoying and off putting. She loses the message she is trying to send because  of it. Also annoying, are the extraneous movements she makes when she speaks. One could also see a glimpse into her character as she mentions her former boss  as an endorsement and claims he said that in retrospect she did things right. Then when the character  flaw of her boss is brought up, she immediately throws him under the bus and distances herself from him and says that is why they didn’t get along. To me it showed a lack of loyalty as she was willing to turn on a dime if it would make her look good. To many that was a turn off.

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And someone who has an equally annoying vocal tone is Ben Carson. His voice with his monotonous drone that dies off at the end of when he speaks  puts  one to sleep. He too loses his message because of his voice. His voice lacks energy and passion.  His mono-faced expression also lacks enthusiasm and confuses his message.

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While his gestures were a bit contrived at times and his voice  and delivery stilted Marco Rubio came across as very level headed and in control. He came across as a peacemaker who wouldn’t take the bait when he was insulted. This was evident in his retort to Jeb Bush, who came across as weak and whiney. Rubio took the high road which made him sound like a leader. While he was bashed by Bush, Rubio responded in an opposite manner as he said he had respect for Bush. He also said he was not in competition with anyone on the stage and refused to say negative things about them. This gave Rubio points while the bashing and whining Bush lost many points.

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” The questions that have been asked so far in this debate illustrate why the American people don’t trust the media,’ Cruz said. He then went on to say,  ‘This is not a cage match. And, you look at the questions — “Donald Trump, are you a comic-book villain?” “Ben Carson, can you do math?” “John Kasich, will you insult two people over here?” “Marco Rubio, why don’t you resign?” “Jeb Bush, why have your numbers fallen?”‘How about talking about the substantive issues the people care about?’

CNBC host John Harwood didn’t like that so he tried to go to another candidate and discuss  another issue, but Cruz wouldn’t let him. He called Harwood on his toxic behavior and asked  ‘You don’t want to hear my answer?’
to which Harwood sharply responded, in a nasty tone ‘You spent your time on something else.’

Cruz clearly got points for this as he showed that he was direct and called it like it is.

So the winners of the evening in terms of their body language, facial language an delivery were Trump, Rubio, and Cruz. The loser of the evening was the nasty CNBC panel who were out to be provocative in an attempt to garner a name for themselves and increase ratings. But unfortunately for them, their attempts backfired.

Democratic Debate Body Language: Sanders Passion, Down Home Style and Hillary’ Warm, Poised Control

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All politics aside, if there was a winner in terms of body language and delivery in the first  Democratic debate it would be a tie between Hillary Clinton and Bernie Saunders. All politics aside she has made significant positive changes in terms of her delivery since she first announced her candidacy. She was warm, engaging, handled herself well under pressure, smiled more, was respectful to her fellow candidates when they spoke had appropriate gestures which matched what she was saying and only on a few occasions  did the silly political gesture of pressing her thumb and two fingers together when she emphasized points.  She was also strong voiced and spoke loudly when she expressed her disagreemt. This was in stark contrast to her previous public speeches where she was robotoc and monotone.  During this debate, she  had excellent posture and moved more  fluidly than she had in the past. She seemed very comfortable and was not  stiff and mechanical as she had been in the past. She expressed a range of emotiona and appeared more genuine and real than she shad presented in the past

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Bernie Sanders was warm and engaging as well. He had a down home style that was very appealing as it seemed as though he was talking directly to you. He is tone sounded like a familiar uncle. While he had a somewhat cartoonish Elmer Fudd type  accent, it was rather appealing. He was the most passionate of all the candidates in terms of his delivery. Sometimes it was over the top but her was very watchable, much like Donald Trump in terms of his  of not being reserved about speaking his mind without worries of political correctness. He made many open handed gestures where you often saw the palm of his hand, indicating his openness and having  nothing to hide. His body language and gestures matched what he said.

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While the handsomest candidate was O’Malley, after hearing him speak in his monotonous droning voice that was muffled and breathy, he lost a lot of points.  He was so monotone, staccato, and boring in his delivery that it negated his good looks and whatever he had to say. While he seemed cordial and polite, he was so boring that it was very easy for the viewer to tune out when she spoke. His absence of inflection and vocal enthusiasm could have easily put some to sleep.

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The same was true for  Chafee who had a high pitch tinny sounding voice. It did not have a leadership sound. There was a significant whine to his tone which was not appealing. You really heard the whine when she talked about the first time he voted and made a lame excuse about his father’s death which did not put him in a good light. He also smiled inappropriately and his gestures often didnt match what he was saying. He didnt sound like  a leader in terms of his delivery and presentation

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Webb appeared angry with a fixed scowl on his face. His posture was too rigid and mechanical . So was his facial expression. He was not engaging but consistently angry sounding. His staccato tone was also off putting.

It is clear that Webb, Chafee, and O’Malley need some serious voice and speech and body language coaching if they plan on getting their message heard in the second debate. Communication  skills are key to winning a Presidency. If you are boring,  monotonous, whiney, or your body language doesn’t match what you say, people are turned off with you.

Once again I will reiterate that this is not a political blog and that this is not about politics but rather about their delivery in terms of how the candidates presented themselves in front of  voters.


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Thirteen year old youtube sensation Caleb Logan Bratayley was a star.  He had “it” as they say in Hollywood- good looks, a brightness, and an effervescent personality. He was highly watchable on his family’s daily vlog. Then all of a sudden this boy is dead. The family released a statement that he died of :natural causes.”  There is nothing natural about a 13 year old dropping dead for no reason. They also left a  rather strange and disturbing  statement  at the end of their vblog  where they said

” Unfortunatey Caleb passed away right after we made the video. He will never get to meet his future self. None of us will and we are sad because he could have been great. “

Then they go on to say to kiss your kids and tell them that you love the everyday. “You never know what day will be their last.”
WHAT????? The last thing parents think of is that their child will die before them. The Bratayley’s giving encouraging advice for people to kiss their kids is absurd in light of their circumstance.

It shows that this family was more concerned about their youtube presence and their vlog and their 15 minutes of fame than they were about their son’s death.

In closely examining the boy’s last video I found it strange. While he and his 2 sisters are eating breakfast, He can barely focus  and looks out of it. His eyes are half closed  as you can see below.

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Then he looks into the distance and doesn’t focus n the question he is asked by his mother.

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His eyes look even more at half mast. As he slowly chews his muffin, he suddenly closes his eyes as he can barely keep them open.Tthe muffin suddenly drops out of his hand.

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His head and body collapses on to the counter. After a few seconds he lifts his head up and holds up his head with his hand. You hear the mother saying  that he’s not a morning person. What???? The child just collapsed on the counter and this is what she says?

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Unsteadily, he  rocks back and forth in his seat as he still can barely keep his eyes open.

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He then saunters over to the sink where he looks off to the side and leans over the counter as though he is not feeling well. He  remains in that position for a few seconds.  His mother who is filming the entire time neglects to address this. Instead she says “Isn’t he cute?’

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He then turns around and stumbles twice  as he walks and eventually ends up lying down on the couch. The mother doesn’t seem to notice as she is too busy trying to be cute for the camera talking about how she will film how the “Bratayley eat lunch.”

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Then he buries his head in his arms as he continues to lie on the couch. He then moves his head around to get into a more comfortable position.

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Next we see a shot of the boy not looking great as he stumbles around. Then he mumbles that he caught the camera he almost dropped which sounded like he said “he dropped a narcotic”. But he looks a little too surprised and reactive for this as he opens his eyes widely and does a second take of surprise.

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But he looks a little too surprised and reactive after he says  this. Then seconds later  he oddly shuts his eyes as if he is doing a double take and so surprised that he caught the camera he was about to drop. Then he opens his eyes wide and looks into the camera  seconds later and says WOW!  My reaction to his was that maybe he did say he “dropped a narcotic” as his reaction was akin to those may have ingested a narcotic with slow reaction time and being amazed at the most benign occurrence and pondering over it.

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He then seems confused as he tries to answer a question as he continues to mumble. He can barely focus and  read the question he is supposed to answer as he stammers and stumbles over his words as he reads the question-” What he would ask his future self.” He then mumbles  and slurs his words “Is Taco Bell still around?”

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Then he looks pained and looks away from the camera as he mumbles what he would really ask is if there are any new sports. He then licks his lips which may indicate that he is getting cotton mouth or that his mouth is dry. Perhaps  that was another indication that something was not right with him. He then says he would ask if there are any new sports. He looks pained as he says this. Then he stcks out hs tongue and makes an inappropriate motor boat type of noise.It made no sense in terms of the context in which he was speaking.

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Then he does something that is even more absurd. He pulls his cheeks and asks if his cheeks look fat. This is clearly a young man that has spent too many hours in front of the camera as his vanity seems to have gotten best of him. It made no sense whatsoever. Then he scrunches up is face and begins to make absurd noises and sounds no one can understand.

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Then he goes through an array of facial expressions that also make no sense as he seems to be mugging into the camera.

Then he goes back to the question he was asked and mumbles something about his 5 second earlier self talking to his other self. It  sounded like something someone who may be  high on something would ponder about.

He continues to make  more inappropriate and over the top facial expressions  as you see above.

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He continues to mumble and make inappropriate noises. Then we see a statement on the video that the boy “unforuntaley” died shortly after doing this video.

WHAT???? It was such a cold statement and not a normal reaction from any parent who just lost a child. Also who would be releasing a videotape of something like his if the person just died?

This is makes me very suspicious that something was wrong with this boy and the parents neglected to take care of the problem. Many questions arise.

Was he on medication and had a bad reaction to it?

Did he have an underlying illness?

Did he have some underlying neurolgical condition that affected his behavior ?

Did he take narcotics?

Did he commit suicide?

Was there foul play?



Now the parents have released a statement that Caleb had an undetected medical condition but have yet to release to the public what that medical condition was that took This young and precious boy’s life.

Perhaps if  these parents  had spent more time observing Caleb’s  off behavior when they were filming him right before he died and sought medical attention for him, perhaps his undetected medical condition may have been detected.

The parents have also decided to livestream their child’s funeral which shows you just how far people are willing to take it to in achieving their 15 minutes of fame.

In any event it is very sad that this beautiful and vibrant young man who had  all the hopes of a full life ahead of him is gone.

Body Language Shows How Obama and Putin Can’t Stand One Another

No love lost between Putin and Obama as illustrated through their body language.

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Even though Russian President Vladimir Putin and the United States President Barak Obama were toasting one another and even though they sat down for formal talks for the first time in two years to discuss the Syrian situation, there was no love lost between them when they attended the UN Summit. These photos illustrate how the body does not lie.  While they may have agreed on various points, their body language was icy.

 In the above photo where they are toasting, Obama leans away from Putin. He wears a lot of tension on his forehead and tightness in his jaw, which shows anger. While Putin tried to show a pleasant smile, he is not fooling anyone. His smile is not genuine as his lips are pursed. There is no teeth showing and the apples of his cheeks are not raised. It shows that he too is harboring anger towards Obama, even though he tries to not show it.

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Then after their formal meetings, they did an obligatory photo op for the press which only lasted 13 seconds. They both could not wait to get away from one another, Their handshake validates their mutual disdain as Obama ties to fake a smile, but his lower  jaw is tight as his lips are pursed with anger.  His body is stiff. There is a large gap between them, distance wise, which illustrates the distance they are feeling with one another.  Putin is not smiling and this time, he  is finding it difficult to eek out a phony smile for the camera. His true feelings towards Obama are reflected on his face.

When you look at their hands, you see a lot of tension their grip which indicates that  no doubt a power grip was taking place in terms of showing who had the stronger handshake.

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Before they actually shook hands you can see Obama looking down and his shoulders a bit hunched as he dreaded what he had to do. Yet he was the first to reach of his hand. Putin appears to be giving Obama the literal “cold shoulder” as the shoulder which is closest to Obama is raised and his head is cocked. This too indicates that he is not too thrilled about having to do this photo op and  making like everything is fine between them, when it is anything but fine.

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Finally their dreaded Press conference is over and Obama is two paces ahead of Putin as with a sour puss,indicating he can’t get away quickly enough .Putin follows behind with an equally sour puss expression, indicating that the feeling is mutual. Obama seems to be walking quickly as he heads toward the exist while Putin keeps his distance.

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Here is Obama days earlier when he was with the President of China Xi Jinping. There is a stark difference between Obama’s reaction to Putin and his reaction to Xi. Look at Obama’s genuine smile with his cheeks raised, his eyes crinkled and his teeth showing. He is also leaning in towards XI and Xi is doing the same. Xi also shows a genuine like towards Obama as he too  exhibits a genuine smile and leans in towards Obama.