Press Misinterprets Obama’s Body Language as Making a Peace Sign at Nuclear Security Summit

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The Press got it completely wrong when they plastered a photo of Obama looking like he is  making a peace sign at the Nuclear Security  Summit. At first glance one would think that the President of the United States has  lost it. They would think that gesture was completely inappropriate and unbecoming of a President, who appears to be the only one making such as gesture in the formal photo with other world leaders.

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But after watching the video  of this photo session, you can clearly see that Obama was NOT making the peace sign. Instead he was letting the photographer know that two more people were coming. That is why he held up fingers. In fact his mouth was open in the photo, indicating that he was speaking.You can even see in the phot oabove that Obama is turning to someone  ( like the photographer) and speaking to them.

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Then the press focuses in on the UK Prime Minister David Cameron a who looks like he is shooting Obama a dirty look. This is not the case as well. His facial expression does not show anger. he is simply looking to see who is missing from the photo based on what Obama said. There is no body language facial expression to indicate that he is angry or annoyed as the press mentioned.

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Likewise, there is no angry expression on Italy’s  Prime Minister,Matteo Renzi’s face. Yet the press stated that he was angry with Obama as well.

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Then inside the meeting, the Press made it seem as though David  Cameron was very angry at Obama. But if you examine the photo Obama is pointing his finger at someone to the side of Cameron and  Cameron is not involved in that interaction. Cameron is merely looking ahead. His red face is not due to anger, but to some color he received while vacationing in Lazarote in the Canary islands. Cameron seems to be focused on what is ahead of him, not what is occurring to the side of him.

This is why having an untrained journalist instead of a trained body language expert interpreting  body language of world leaders can be dangerous.

 

Does Amanda Carpenter’s Body Language and Speech Reveal Truth About Alleged Affair With Ted Cruz?

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Amanda Carpenter, who is at the center of the Ted Cruz Sex Scandal, has made the rounds on TV in an attempt to clear her name. But what is her communication and body language really saying? Is she being forthright? Is she telling the truth that she did not have an affair with Ted Cruz? Is she lying?

It seems that her appearances may have done her more harm than good based on her on-camera delivery, in my view. What she should have done was to look directly at CNN’s Jake Tapper, her interviewer,  and  emphatically say that she did not have an affair and leave it at that. But instead,  she did way too much explaining and went off on tangents, which may have done more self-damage by  perhaps making  people more skeptical of her.

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As she looks down, she squinches her forehead as she says he has been 100 percent faithful to her husband. But she says this in a monotone devoid of emotion.To sound more credible, in my view, she needed to look directly at Tapper and not look down or away.

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Then she finally looks up and says that there is nothing more important to her than being a good wife and a good mother. She says this in a staccato tone, which  tended to make her sound a little too defensive.

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When Jake Tapper asks her about the sports jacket she was wearing and it being the same jacket that Cruz was wearing,  she seemed to be flustered by this question as she once again  looks down and  while breaking eye contact with Tapper. She  also shrugs her shoulders (often regarded as a signal of deception) and blames it on conspiracy theories.

Had she looked  directly Tapper in the  eye and said that she was cold and Cruz gave her his jacket to wear,  that may have put an end to speculation about the two. But she did not do that. Instead,  she was flustered and continued to  sound defensive. Then she gets testy in her tone as she says she can’t understand why the Trump campaign is doing this and how no other campaign would touch this kind of stuff. This is the first time she displays any negative emotion.

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By deflecting blame on Trump, she once again makes one wonder if indeed something personal was going on with her and Cruz. She needed to sound more direct and state her truth in a more powerful tone to add to her credibility.

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As she says it’s really a conspiracy theory, she shakes her head “no” perhaps indicating that she  may perhaps subconsciously know that it may  not  be a conspiracy theory as she verbally stated.

She also  does a lot of “uptalk,” where her inflection goes up at the end of sentences. This can  often make others question whether what she is saying is true as she denies any personal involvement with Cruz.  She says this with the phrases “defending myself” which makes her sound  tentative as though she is asking a question and is insecure about what she is saying.

Then she tries to take the oneness off of her and encourages people to look at the broader aspect of the campaign. She  says “there is  toxic culture” and “go into it with both eyes open and not be afraid to confront it.” In making this statement, she is attempting to take the attention off of herself and deflect it outward.  She also wanted Trump to put a stop to this but said she was disheartened when Trump said that the National Enquirer got it right before. In essence,  she was upset that Trump didn’t come to her defense.

When Tapper asked  her if she was going to take any legal action she leaked out “I talked to” and then immediately changed her rhetoric by saying she wanted to  get through this and protect her reputation, her career and her  family. Then she mumbled out something that sounded like ” I’ll continue to talking to lawyers.” So it seems that she is looking into taking legal action concerning this matter. It is clear that she doesn’t want this incident to hurt her career. But the fact that she is  out front on the national pages  may have helped her career. No one knew who Amanda Carpenter was before this scandal. This may have helped her career by putting her on the map. Who knows, she may even get her own show after this scandal. After all, look how well Kim Kardashian did after her scandal.

It is clear that she doesn’t want this incident to hurt her career. But the fact that she is  out front on the national pages,  ironically may have helped her career. No one knew who Amanda Carpenter was before this scandal. This may have helped her career by putting her on the map. Who knows, she may even get her own show after this scandal. After all, look how well Kim Kardashian did after her own  sex scandal.

Whether or not Amanda had an affair with Cruz is only something she and Cruz know for sure.  So one cannot accuse her of having an affair if  there is no proof or actual witnesses.  But one can definitely say that she did not come across very well in her interview. Therefore,  she  may have created more doubt in the minds of the public, based on her performance.

Personally, I believe she needs to lay low and not do further damage to herself by appearing on camera for a while. Then she needs to reinvent herself  and get back out there after this scandal dies down, where she is not a part of the news, but rather reporting the news.
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Ted Cruz Starts Toxic Wife Feud By First Posting Photo of Melania and Then Cries Victim When Trump Fires Back

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It seems that  Donald Trump is being criticized by the media for attacking Ted Cruz’ wife’s looks. But what the media doesn’t mention is that Cruz started this whole debacle by doing a campaign ad where he showed Trump’s wife n a sexy pose done years ago when she was a top model.Cruz’ headline read ” Meet Melania Trump Your Next First Lady.”

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Then on the bottom of the ad Cruz says ”

Screen Shot 2016-03-24 at 1.35.58 PM“or you can Support Ted Cruz on Tuesday”  as you see in the above photo. It was Cruz’ attempt to take a punch at Trump via his wife indicating that she was a woman of loose morals to pose provocatively in this photo.

In essence Cruz was attempting to pander to the evangelicals who may take offense with this pose. But what Cruz didn’t expect was that his Toxic plan backfired on him as his opponent certainly had something to say about his wife Melania being put up for ridicule in his political  opponent’s campaign ad. It should also be noted that Melania’s photo occurred close to a decade ago before she was Mrs. Donald Trump.

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So in defense of his wife and to express his displeasure, Donald tweeted  “Lyin Ted Cruz just used a picture of Melania from  a GQ shoot in his ad. Angered, Trump then went on to warn Ted Cruz to be careful or that he would spill the beans about his wife.

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What Trump was most likely referring to was the  above headline  which indicates  that a police officer found Heidi Cruz sitting on an expressway with her head in her hands.  Perhaps she may  have been having some type of mental breakdown at the time, which was 10 years go.  So if Cruz was going to bring up Melania’s photo from 10 years ago, Trump decided that he too, would bring up something from Heidi’s past.

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Then Trump decided against “spilling the beans” about Heidi’s issues and just put up a photo of Heidi along side of Melania. What  Trump was really saying was that his wife is more beautiful. The meme received a lot of criticism because it was a bad photo of Heidi Cruz, while it was a good photo of Melania in repose.

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Then Cruz had the audacity to cry to the press that Donald was awful. Cruz then  displayed false bravado and toughness he said” no one messes with my wife or my kids.”  If Cruz wanted wives off limits then he shouldn’t have started with Melania un the first place.

In essence, it showed his true character, It showed that of someone who was an Instigator- one of the 30 types of Toxic Terrors I discuss in my best -selling book Toxic People. 

 

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Ted Cruz was willing to dish it out and start the dispute. But  when someone fought back, Cruz  acted Toxic and cried that this was unfair and how mean Donald was being by insulting his wife. Cruze was the one who insulted Melania. It was childish and immature and speaks volumes about his lack of character in this situation.

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So Donald Trump retweeted photos of his wife and Heidi Cruz, using a more flattering photo of Heidi, which showed they were both attractive women. This was his gesture and way of wanting  to stop the feud and lay off any wife criticism.

But in this entire feud where so many have commented and have pointed a finger at Donald trump, most have failed to realize or recognize that it was Cruz who started it all by first posting a provocative photo of Melania with an equally provocative headline and caption. That is what I wanted to point that out in this blog.

Once again, as a journalist and body language expert who regularly appears in the press to provide my expertise, I  want to remind my readers that this blog is not a political statement towards one candidate or another.  I remain objective in my reporting and observations.

 

Brussels Bombing: BODY LANGUAGE OF TERRORISTS book can help save your life

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Today I woke up to the news that there was a suicide bombing at the American Airlines Desk at the Brussels airport and at one of  the city’s metro stations, killing at least 31 people and wounding dozens.The  suicide bomber left behind the chilling scene of splattered blood in the departure lounge as windows were blown out, ceilings collapsed and travelers streamed out of the smoky building. About an hour later, another bomb exploded on a rush-hour subway train near the European Union headquarters.

Terrified passengers had to evacuate through darkened tunnels to safety. In light of these latest  horrible events, there is no question that  people need to know how they can protect themselves. That is why they must arm themselves with the knowledge of what to look for in terms of those who may commit these terrorist  acts of violence. This is why I urge everyone to read the book  Body Language Of Terrorists    http://www.amazon.com/Body-Language-Terrorists-yourself-potential/dp/1929873484   Continue reading

Obama and Castro’s Body Language in Cuba Shows Power Play

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When US President Barack Obama wanted to put his arm around the shoulder of Cuba’s President Raul Castro, Castro was having none of it. No matter what language you speak, the international language of “body language” speaks volumes.

If Obama succeeded in placing his arm around Castro on Live Cuban TV, it would make Castro appear weak  to his citizens. It would give the impression that Obama ( who is a head and shoulder taller than Castro) dominated the get-together and was more powerful than Castro.

Putting your arm around someone’s shoulder shows that you are in control or are more powerful.  That is was what Obama was trying to say with his body language.  It was also way too friendly of a gesture for two countries who have not had an American President on Cuban  soil for almost 80 years. No matter how good a time Obama may have had with his Cuban host, the bottom line is that there is still a lot of pain, tension, and controversy. What Castro was saying by grabbing Obama’s arm and not allowing that arm to touch him was telling Obama that “all is not so well or as good as you think it is.”

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There is no question that Obama felt a little awkward or embarrassed  by Castro’s rebuff. As you can see in the above photo,  his head is bowed down as he waves. If he was feeling less awkward,  his head would have been up while he was waving. His head would have been in the same upward posture as Castro, if  Obama  was feeling more confident in the situation. Obama is still touching Castro’s hand and Castro is ignoring him. Also Castro turns his body away from Obama which also speaks volumes as to how he really feels.

 

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Then Raul Castro takes charge. As Obama is still waving, Castro grabs Obama’s elbow,  pinching him with his thumb as you can see. This is a sign of force as Castro  directs Obama to leave the  stage.

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Castro then extends  his arm and continues his firm grasp on Obama’s arm, which is now at Obama’s side. He is in essence, trying to  push Obama off the stage as Castro has now turned his  own body towards the exit, while Obama is still standing there, with his body  facing forward.

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Now Castro shows that he is definitely  in charge and in control as the host of this meeting and as the President of his country. He walks past Obama, moving directly in front of Obama. Obama looks annoyed by this as you can see  by the expression on his face.  You can also see that Obama’s  arm is at his side and hand is beginning to form into a ball which shows that he is angry at the situation. He is not walking erect with his head up, but his head is bowed down and his shoulders are hunched over which shows that he is not feeling very secure or confident about what has just occurred.

So as far as a power play is concerned Raul Castro clearly showed Obama that he was in charge and in control  and that Obama would have to take a secondary position to him.

Disturbing Body Language of Virginia College Student Sentenced to Hard Labor In North Korea

 

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After watching the videotapes  and analyzing the body language of  U of Virginia student Otto Wambier arrested in North Korea, I noticed some things that were very disturbing that didn’t sit right with me in terms of his body language. Also there were many questions that arose following his capture which leads me to believe he was singled out and used as propaganda against the US. When Otto is seated his facial language shows that he appears alert as you can see in the photo above.

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When Otto is  first seated  during his one hour trial in North Korea his facial language shows that he appears alert and connected as to what is going on.

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When we watch what appears to be evidence of his alleged actions on the video the North Korean court provided, we do not actually see Otto committing the crime. We only see him walking in the direction where there was a banner in front of a wall. Then a photo is shown of the same wall without the banner. But  most important of all, the tape does not show him doing anything to the banner, like taking it down.

Then we see him confessing to his alleged crime where his body language shows fake alligator tears and over the top expressions of grief and sadness as his expressions are fleeting and there is not enough recovery time from one emotion to the next. Ther are also no tears that he is wiping away. Perhaps this over the top performance was designed to get his North Korean judgers to give him some sympathy. It clearly didn’t work.

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His verbal apology sounded fake and forced and contrived as he cried alligator tears. He was theatrical as he stood up and made an over the top performance. A He even blames the US government for putting him up to this , which clearly shows how he has been manipulated by the North Korans. No American  would ever believe that another American would  publicly denounce their government when they are just a tourist in another country and then say that the US government manipulated him into stealing the banner.  s you can see below he was immediately led out by  one Korean guard as soon as the verdict was read.

As you can see below, Otto was immediately led out by  one Korean guard as soon as the verdict was read.

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He also looks to his right  side  as he is lead out of the courtroom by  that one guard. He seems to be uttering something. Is he speaking to the man in the suit standing against the wall? Is he speaking to the cameras pointed in his direction to document his ordeal?

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Then what you see if very disturbing as he is flanked by two robotic looking, emotionless guards. You see him led out with his eyes closed. It is as though he is walking but he is sleeping at the same time. Note  that his head is  initially still up. The color has also left his face as he suddenly  looks very pale.

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Immediately,  his head drops further as though he is unconscious. It is not just that he is looking down. The fact that his head is down so low, sitting on his chest indicates  to me that perhaps he is in some type of altered state. Was he drugged so that he did not shout anything out and reveal his true thoughts and feelings as he was lead away? The guards also notice the sudden change in his body. The one on the left looks directly at him for the first time and the one on the right suddenly turns his head in Otto’s direction as well. Were they expecting to see Otto in his new state? Did they inject him with something that finally revealed it’s effects? Otto’s fingers splayed as well and look way too relaxed for the circumstances he is under.

Did the North Koreans drug Otto to keep him quiet when he was in front of the media? What will his life be like when the drugs wear off? Will he be beaten as was reported to be the case with so many prisoners? Will he be put in isolation away from others or will he be treated well and remain unharmed so that he could be used as a  bargaining chip during any negotiations with the Americans.

There are  many questions that arise following his capture which leads me to believe he may have been singled out and used as propaganda against the US.Having described his  peculiar body language during his trial and frightening body language of being dragged away to a prison camp for 15 years,  many  puzzling questions arise.

1.Why would he take a banner off of a wall?   Where were all the other young people  with him when he was allegedly taking the banner off of the wall when he was allegedly   drinking vodka until 5 AM?  Usually this type of activity would be in a group activity of people getting rowdy  together and destroying and/or taking property. This makes me wonder if in fact this banner was planted in his luggage, especially since he was the last one to have his luggage checked.

2.How was the alcohol so available to him and where were all the other young people  with him when he was allegedly taking the banner off of the wall when he was  drinking vodka until 5 AM?  Since everything is so strict in North Korea,  especially for tourists, was he purposely plied with alcohol?  Was he not with other students when he was drinking? Was he the only one that was given a supply of liquor?  Where are the other students who were allegedly drinking with him just given soft drinks? Why have these fellow students not come forth to be interviewed? And most of all, was he even given liquor at all or is that all a part of the North Korean propaganda machine?

3. Why would he choose to go to North Korea which was supposedly his first trip out of his home country? This was the question posed by an Irish man who was on the same trip with Wombier and who was interviewed by journalists.It certainly is odd that one’s first trip would not be to a dream location like London or Paris or to a study abroad program in South or Central America or even Russia or  China. But to choose a remote location that the State Department warns tourists to not visit, is very odd- especially for young students.

4. The tour operator  was apparently frantically running up and down the plane , according to witnesses telling the stewardess that they were missing Otto, The witness  told reporters “The tour operator eventually got through to Otto on the phone. He said to her that he didn’t want to leave and had a headache and that he wanted to go to hospital.  She  preferred him to get on the plane and go to a hospital in China….He hung up the phone and that was the last they heard of him. There was a frantic search when they landed in China.”

This entire account strikes me as very odd. First of all, how did the tour guide get to Otto on the phone?  Wasn’t his cell phone immediately confiscated when he was detained by guards and how does a technologically  unsophisticated country suddenly have wifi in their airport when it is such a hassle to get wifi in sophisticated airports around the world? Also that is very odd that he allegedly told the tour guide that he didn’t want to leave and wanted to go to a hospital. First of all who would take him to that hospital in North Korea and why did he need a hospital? Was his drink plied with something other than vodka? Why wouldn’t he want to go to a hospital in China  as his tour operator  allegedly suggested where they would seem to have more sophisticated medical assistance than in North Korea? It simply doesn’t make sense to me. Also was this the first time he drank alcohol?  That is doubtful since he was fraternity man at the U of Virginia where drinking often happens as it does in other fraternities around the country. Did he not get sick immediately  if he was allegedly drinking so much? Wouldn’t he have told his tour operator that he was sick before he went to the airport, not after he was already in the airport and being called by the tour operator as was suggested?

5. Another witness on the plane reported that Otto said something to the soldier and then the soldier started yelling at him and dragged him off. This is very, very odd. Why would Otto speak to any soldier or guard and how did he know Korean so well to have a conversation with anyone? Everything is so strict in that country and everything is so monitored with tourists. Thus, it is very odd  that Otto would speak to anyone other than his tour guide or handlers.

6. Regarding  watching all of your p’s and q’s in North Korea,  another person on the tour stated “We were told constantly that the smallest thing was considered a hostile attack.  I bought lots of magazines and books there and we were told not to fold them in a way that creased Kim Jong-un’s face. They said that would be an attack on their country.”

 

Anyone would know that that stealing a banner is a lot more of a hostile attack in a restricted country than  creasing Kim Jong un’s face in a magazine photo. As someone who was described as “bright” by those who knew him and as a U of Virginia college student, one would know that. One would obviously know that taking anything from North Korea, especially something you did not pay for was a hostile act. So it make you wonder if Otto really committed this hostile act or if it was simply contrived – made up by the North Koreans?

This  leads me to wonder if this young man was being used by the  North Korean officials  to use as an example of propaganda to their people to illustrate just  how bad Americas are in  terms of their drinking and stealing property.

Did the Koreans single him out when he entered the country?  Did they slip him something in his drink to make him ill?  Did they steal the banner and plant it in his luggage,  since he was conveniently the last person to go through the airport security ? Did the Korean’s  plan it this way ? Was there someone forcing him to tell the tour operator that he wanted to stay in North Korea and go to a hospital there? Did he even say that he wanted to stay in North Korea or go to the hospital or was that information that was manufactured ?

The entire scenario seems odd to me and his body language seems to reflect that oddness. His over the top delivery with rhetoric any Westerner  would quickly knows was  a “forced to say” confession. Then, his complete change in demeanor whereby he seems drugged or unconscious,  as he is abruptly dragged away by two robotic expressionless guards, raises suspicion.

The entire scenario is frightening and evidence that every American MUST listen to The U.S. State Department who has repeatedly  warned against travel to North Korea. American visitors who ignore this warning to not travel there are  at great risk  of breaking the North Korea’s strange and seeming ridiculous  and  petty rules. They  risk detention, arrest , and lengthy jail sentences. Although most have eventually been released, the process is a lengthy and an expensive one. They may also die in captivity based on the harsh conditions they will be exposed to such as hard physical labor. They are also at risk of dying at the hands of unsympathetic and inhumane guards.Finally, they are jeopardizing the government’s time, energy,  and finances as it takes a lot of money and effort to negotiate for their release.

The bottom line is stay away from North Korea, especially if you  an American.

Elections A Sad Time for Personal Relationships

 

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Elections are a sad time for relationships and friendships. It is a time where people  often show their narrow mindedness as they are willing to pull the trigger and  end lifetime relationships ,  just because they can’t simply can’t “agree to disagree.” Marriages have suffered and schisms between family members have  deepened -all because of how people feel about one candidate or another. Sometimes their discovering  differences in your political belief may be the catalyst  they needed to lash out at you as they  may never  have  really liked you. Or worse, they may have always  been jealous or envious of you and now this is their  opportunity to  express their jealousy by speaking ill to you and to letting you have it.

When I look at the comments  on Facebook telling friends to unfriend them if they vote for a certain candidate , it is extremely  disturbing. People who have had lifelong friendships and relationships have now ended all communication  because they don’t see eye to eye in terms of which candidate they support. For many, it is their attempt to associate with those who are like-minded to and reject anyone who thinks other than their way.It is a shame because there is much more to a relationship and a friendship than your political beliefs.

As a human behavior and body language expert, I NEVER put my personal views out in public as I  MUST remain neutral at all times. I have done this since the 1980’s when I was first asked to give my feedback on various candidate’s body language in terms of how they performed during various debates.

But no matter how many times I state upfront that I am not a political person or  that I am not supporting any candidate when I provide my insight, there are still a few ignorant individuals who insist that I am supporting one candidate over another.

This happened to me during the  last election where Obama was debating Romney. As we can all recall, Obama’s performance during his initial debate was less than stellar, as he later admitted. As a result, I  expressed in the media in the Associate Press , how poorly he had performed. While most agreed with me, there were some Obama supporters who couldn’t see past their nose when it came to Obama. They appeared to play the “Emperor has new clothes” game  when in fact he was “naked” as they refused to see Obama’s poor performance at the time – something that Obama himself acknowledged.

While there are always haters out there, two of my  haters were people with whom I had gone to high school. One of the haters , whom I never even  knew went to my high school, was in my third-grade class. I hadn’t  thought about her in decades and was even unaware that she had friended me. All I remember was that in grade school, she was a frizzy dark haired girl who used to oddly hold her mouth open whenever she drew pictures.

The other hater was someone whom I had nothing to do with in high school. Since I never associated with her in high school or paid her any mind, from  what I learned from several who apparently knew her back in the day,  she  apparently was not very bright and was  a  “mean girl.”  This “mean girl clearly grew up to be a “mean woman.”

The frizzy- haired  first hater  whom I hadn’t  thought of since third grade, unloaded a barrage of hate  towards me in defense of Barack Obama.  Even though I tried to quell her hate by assuring her that I was merely reporting as a body language expert and not someone who had a political agenda, she  continued to ignore this, unleashing even more hateful remarks. My Facebook friends and fans took offense at what this hater was doing and let her know in no uncertain terms that she couldn’t communicate to me in the way she was communicating and tried to drum it into her that I was not saying anything political, but  merely reporting what I observed during he debates. But this didn’t seem to phase this hater, who continued her tirade until I unfriended her and blocked her.

The second hater ( whom I met and chatted with during a  class reunion) was a friend to the first hater. She let me know that she didn’t appreciate how I  and my fan base reacted to  her friend- the first hater. She then proceeded to let me  have it. She actually went off on me as she defended Obama and chastised me for my observations in the press.

Then she suddenly emerged from the  alleged “mean girl” into  a  “mean woman”  by personally attacking me by telling me I was nothing more than a “talking head” on TV and how some of her other high school friends (including a former cheerleader )felt the same way. As she said this to me, I had to laugh  for two reasons. One was that she was acting just like an immature high schooler and secondly, as others reported to me that she wasn’t that bright back in the day,  she still was seemingly not that bright as an adult. In her attempt to insult me by calling me a “talking head” anyone who speaks in front of the camera and gives commentary as I do is a “talking head“. Unbeknownst to her, the term  is not a pejorative adjective as this hater intended it to be. Instead, it is a noun –  what someone is and does. Needless to say,  I defriended and blocked this hater as well.

Sometimes, the fact that you have a political opinion that is different than someone else’s opinion, is just the opening they need to unleash their true inner feelings towards you. While their verbal volcano may explode  under the guise of a difference in politics,  but the truth of the matter is that it is often something deeper with them as they take  the opportunity to let you have it. Perhaps they did not  like you all along or were jealous of you  and your achievements or where you are in your life as opposed to theirs. So this is their opportunity to let you have it, just like the “mean woman” did to me.

So if you find people unleashing on you just because you support one candidate over another know that there is often something a lot deeper going on  with them like jealousy inner hate, or their lack of self-worth. Mature people who have a solid and positive sense of self and know who they are  can”agree to disagree.”  They don’t have to hate on you just because your politics differ. While they don’t have to accept your candidate they can accept you as a person and as a friend. As the saying goes,  they don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater.”