Hillary Clinton In Desperate Need of Voice and Body Language Makeover As Evidenced In Her Kickoff Campaign Speech

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As I said countless times, I am not political and this is not a political blog. I write about newsmakers and  Presidential Candidate Hillary Clinton certainly falls into that category. As someone who has coached  A List Academy Award Winning actors an actresses, top sports figures, corporate leaders, and politicians I feel very qualified to weigh in on the fact that Hillary Clinton is in desperate need of voice and body language coaching as evidenced in her performance on her Kickoff Campaign Speech on Roosevelt Island.

She has surrounded herself with the top advisors in the world like her campaign manager Leonard Podesta,Robby Mook and Communications Director Jennifer Palmieri .  They no doubt have the best speech writers in the world. They  all have presented her image quite well. They have monitored the content of what she says quite well.

But they have neglected to monitor  how she says it. This is essential in her campaign as no matter how beautifully a speech is crafted if you don;t deliver it well, people  (voters tune out) That is where I come in. I would love to coach  Hillary with her delivery.

Studies show that the way a person speaks is more important than how they look. Research also shows that if a person does not deliver their message well in terms of the tone of their voice, the way they speak, and their body language, they will not be as effective in getting their message across.

Here is what to Hil;ary needs to  do in order for voters to  really hear her message .

1. She needs to stop sound so staccato and choppy in her delivery. It is off putting. Instead she needs to develop a flow to her speech pattern whereby she draws out her vowels and flows the into one another.

2. She needs to stop going down in inflection at the end of her statements.

3. She needs to lose the monotone and provide more inflection so that the meaning and emphasis of what she is trying to say doesn’t get lost. In fact, if I was working with her I would choreograph her speech as I have done with so many to help them speak pubically. I would arrange for her where to go up and where to go down in terms of her inflectiona nd which specific words to emphasize as she speaks. All of this would be written down for her and she could see it as she read her speech on the teleprompter or by hand. She needs to emphasize key words and phrases.

4. She needs to stop for a second or two after delivering crucial information or when making an important  point so that the listener can better process what she has just said.

5. She needs to stop  being so stiff and staccato in her gestures and definitely needs to avoid making this  particular measured

gesture as you see here below with her hands at either side and thumbs pointing upwards. It is like a karate chop movement that is out of place in terms of the content she was discussing- her grandparents.

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6. She then makes a fist like angry gesture when speaking about her father. It was no congruent with what she was saying. Fist like gestures need to be avoided at all times unless you are speaking about something that really makes you furious like ISIS or acts of terrorism.

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7.Then she speaks of her beloved mother. Even though you could tell that she really loved and adored her mother greatly he tones were too choppy and staccato. he tone didn’t fit the lovely message. And then she does something that is a HIGE non- no when giving a speech- she points. That is a hostile gesture. Never point unless you are upset or angry. This was not the case here so never point for  emphasis as it is off putting and sends a confusing message > here she talks about her mother;s saying that kindness is what got her through yet her gestures say the opposite.
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8. The story about her mother was beautiful. It could have been more impactful with the right delivery. As she told of how poor her mother was while growing up, she need to pause more for effect and  then inflect on  key emotional words. She also spoke a little too fast. She needed to stop so that the audience could better process this very great story which shed a positive light on Hillary.

  1. Screen Shot 2015-06-15 at 5.16.47 AMIn  fact Hillary kept pointing thoughout her speech. She needs to stop this and ONLY point when ther eis something to point about like something that his horrible or where she would be giving a warning about something. But to point throughout the speech is confusing.
  2. She also needed to smile when talking about her beloved mother instead.

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Personally I think her image is great. It is authentic. I love that she has made  monochrome pantsuits her style. She looks good in them and they are practical and professional looking. Maybe that will be the new trend. By the way I also loved it when she wore headbands as the First Lady and hope she brings them back. She is true to her style and I love that.

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I reallyI like that she isn’t plastic surgeried and face lifted or botoxed up  and shows every one of her well earned wrinkles. I like that she isn’t dieting to death and stressing herself out about looking a certain way but instead, eating real meals and  keeping it healthy. Her weight is appropriate and she doesn’t look obese.

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I love how she lights up around her daughter Chelsea and how proud she is to be a grandma. I am also impressed that she stuck by Bill and worked it out  between them, even during the most humiliating of  times in her life with all of his philandering. Yes, she stuck by her man and she worked it out andas a result they can both grow o together as a couple and as a family. This provides a great role model to people who just want to throw in the towel and  not work things through.

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Seeing how Bill embraced her and how she leaned her head on his shoulder showed their genuine love and affection towards one another which was moving and uplifting for everyone to see.

Seeing  her in action and as she delivered her speech, to me there doesn’t  seem to be any overt health concerns as rumors would have you believe. Even if there were concerns, it doesn’t matter because she no doubt has the best doctors  in the world at her service should  she need them.

What does matter is her message and how voters perceive her message, if they can;t get past her monotones and her body language is off putting then the message is lost.

I wish I could have just one session with Hillary to coach her  put her on the right path vocally and body language wise as it would complete her image, In the meantime, I hope that her advisors pay close attention to the points n this blog which can help her tremendously as she goes out on the campaign trail.

Duggars Show Deception, Ignorance, and Blaming Others Through Body Language on FOX Interview As They Leak Out Their Intention to Sue for releasing Child Molesting Son’s Records

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After watching the Duggar parents  in action on Meghan Kelly’s FOX interview we never need to see them on any other reality show. This interview is the most real reality show there is about the Duggars as we can clearly her and see their denial, ignorance, double talk, and hiding behind their faith  as well as their blatant  LIES, and finally their  leaked out intention as to why they did this interview.  It is clear that they  did it  because they want to preserve their Duggar  brand by doing a mea culpa in stating that they were “bad parents.”

But they did something else which negates all of this and shows how phony their intention appears to be. They verbally leaked out that they were suing the police through a Freudian slip I will show you  later in this blog. They also turned the tables and made the police the bad guy for leaking out this information. In doing so, they are taking the onus off of their child molesting son and the attention off of what is an egregious act and blaming someone else.

I have always warned my readers and those who attend my seminars  that whenever you hear a person – especially a grown woman with a sickening sweet breathy baby girl voice,  know that something is not right with that person. They are usually passive aggressive and they are  not being authentic. They have something to hide.

This turned out to be the case in watching the interview with Josh Duggar’s mother during her interview with Meghan Kelly on FOX News. It spoke volumes. Her fetal- like hunched over appearance with rounded shoulders and head down, clearly showed that she was in fear and  was obviously dominated by her aggressive husband as he spoke in clearly rehearsed rhetoric. She looked like a scared child and sounded like one as well. Her tears in the interview were fake as there was no liquid coming out of her eyes. She wiped away non-tears.

This interview also  showed that Josh Duggar’s parents are in great denial and are still covering up for him. Since he was the culprit, why wasn’t he at the interview?  I will answer that obvious question for you.  He was not there so that the elder Duggars could protect their brand, just  in case Josh said something that would do irreparable damage. What they don’t get is that their interview on FOX did irreparable damage to their brand.

STILTED AND REHEARSED SPEECH

When the father spoke, it sounded stilted and not spontaneous, It sounded  as though it was rehearsed. As soon as a question was asked by Meghan Kelly, they Duggar parents both looked at one another as if to reassure one another as to who would be the one answering the question.

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As further proof that this interview was rehearsed and that they had set lines to say,  look at this photo below with Mrs. Duggar holding  the actual  script in her lap.

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Another reason which makes me confident that it was rehearsed,  is that Mrs. Duggar brings up the phrase “we had one little ray of hope” right at the beginning of the interview. In the middle of the interview, Mr. Duggar uses the exact same phrase of ” a little ray of hope”.

His speech pattern was staccatto and stilted as though it was clearly rehearsed and guarded.  Her breathy child- like tones indicated that she was not being authentic in her delivery either.

PALMS DOWN AS A SIGNAL OF DECEPTION

When Mr. Duggar  said that Josh came to him on his own and was crying because he improperly touched some of their daughters, I saw  signals of deception.  First of all I doubt that a 14 year old boy would volunteer this behavior which in my view may have gone on for quite some time. I doubt that it was just a one time occurance as research shows in those who molest children.  The main signal of deception as he said this was that Mr. Duggar’s palms were down as you can see in this photo below, Also the fact that he  had to look at his wife for reassurance is also telling and adds to my belief that this father may not be totally truthful.

When Meghan asked Mr. Duggar about going to police. Mr. Duggar made it seem like it was the right thing to do and that he did it so that Josh wouldn’t have this hang over his head the rest of his life. As Mr. Duggar said this he breathed hard and looked away and then looked back at his wife. First of all, the Christian Clinic where they sent Josh would have been liable if they didn’t report this child abuse to the authorities. Perhaps they encouraged Mr. Duggar  to do this. Perhaps  they reported the sexual molestation themselves, or threatened to to do so if Mr. Duggar didn’t do it.  The fact that Mr. Duggar gave so much detailed information as to where he reported it (at the police station near his home) and gives such a detailed explanation as to why he reported it to police,  leads me to believe that he was highly encouraged to report it by the Christian clinic or that the police contacted him about the matter. It seemed that he may have been  showing up based  on their request. Since all records have allegedly been destroyed, we will never know this information.  But it certainly seems that way to me.

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Then the sickeningly sweet  voiced Mrs. Duggar interjects and looks at her husband for reassurance as she says how devastated she was.Then she looks up and to the side as though she is manufacturing what to say . She looks to her husband, and then looks to the side as though she is thinking what to make up next.

LOOKING AWAY AND TO THE SIDE TO  THINK WHAT TO MANUFACTURE  NEXT

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After she says the “one ray of hope was that Josh had a tender conscience”  she says something that puts up a huge red flag/ She says” He was the one that came and shared on his own even though the others really didn’t know anything.”

That is way too much information for this statement to be true. And then she says  WHAT???  ” Didn’t know anything?” Of course they knew something as they were the ones  being molested for God’s sakes. Of course they knew something!  This statement proves she is trying to spin it her way and make light of the situation.

MR. DUGGAR’S PROTECTIVE HAND OVER HIS  GENITALS

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When someone places their hand over their private parts when they speak. it means that they are feeling  vulnerable. It is interesting to note that Mr. Duggar is speaking about sexual molestation and is covering up his own sexual organ with his hand.  He is clearly feeling vulnerable.

HYPER DRAMATIC AND FACIAL EXPRESSION THAT TRIES TOO HARD TO CONVINCE

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Then we see her wide eyed googly- eyed appearance. When people open their eyes so wide they are trying to convince you that what they are saying is truthful. In essence, she is trying way too hard to get her points across and is not succeeding in doing so.

FAKE CRY

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Then there is the fake cry. First of all, when you cry there is liquid running out of BOTH of your eyes in terms of tears. You don’t cry without tears and you don’t immediately go from a cry to a normal facial position. That is what Mrs. Duggar did  which indicated she was not really crying but attempting to cry on cue for dramatic effect. No doubt, whom was ever coaching her must have told her to shed a few tears of sympathy.  But it didn’t work.

MR. DUGGAR’S SHOCKING REACTION REGARDING  DAUGHTERS

When Meghan asked him about looking at this issue from the viewpoint of his daughters, he ignored the question. He double talked, beat around the bush,  and did not answer the question head on. In fact he never answered the question. That spoke volumes to me. It said that he was more concerned about his son and protecting him and his Dugar brand and all the goodies that come with it- like millions of dollars than he cared about his daughter’s welfare. That said it all to me and frankly it sickened me.

He also said that Josh called up one of the molested daughters to apologize and she didn’t remember what happened. Oh my God!!! This screams that ALL of these people need serious therapy. They are either in denial or have put it out of their mind because they don’t want to destroy their brand.

They also spoke about the girls in third party as “victims” not as daughters. This is disconcerting.  They have in essence detached themselves from the girls and what happened to them by referring to them in third person. This was devastating to witness.

BLAMING THE POLICE AND LEAKING OUT A LAWSUIT BY THE DUGGARS IS BREWING

When Meghan asked if they were concerned about what Josh did  and going public, they were honest and forthright for the first time in the interview. They really did not think there would be a problem after their initial visit to the police department. They were sure all would be fine and that  since Josh was a juvenile at the time, it would also be swept away under the rug and that was the end of it.

But then it re-surfaced and Mr. Duggar was mad as he demonstrated in the video. Suddenly his speech was faster and  louder and his tone now had an edge to it. He then leaked out the word “suit” as she said this was a suit and then corrected himself. That is called a Freudian Slip. It speaks volumes when analyzed in specific contexts. In this context he was discussing the police and the association of a ” suit” came out. To me that is very telling as it reveals his inner intention  is to sue the police.

BLAMING THE POLICE FOR HAVING AN AGENDA AND DISCUSSING A BRIBE

If the Duggars are considering suing the Police they had better watch what they just said about the police and accusing them of having an agenda as both Duggars said this simultaneously as though it was rehearsed. They also spoke of a bribe. Now they have opened themselves up to a whole different level of investigation. Did they give a bribe to the police to look the other way and destroyed the files?  Who bribed who? What was this bribe and why and how much money was involved in the bribe? They said some pretty derogatory things about the police chief that is now public record.

In their attempts to sue  the police for releasing the files,  they may find that they are the ones being sued for defamation and opening up a whole new can of worms. In essence,  I believe through this interview they have further shot themselves in the foot or in the mouth so to speak.

HAVE THERE BEEN  OTHER INCIDENTS OF SEXUAL MOLESTATION  THAT HAVE GONE ON IN THAT HOME?

When Mrs. Duggar shared that big boys can never have the little children on their laps and that they can never play hide and go seek or end up in pairs it sickened me. That is not  normal behavior in any family. Children should be free to play hide and seek and go seek and go off in pairs without worries of one molesting the other. This was a huge red flag to me.

If Josh was a sexual pervert at 15 and molested his 5 year old sister,  that may have been one Duggar child (Josh)  being a molester. But now that this hyper watchful rule applies to ALL of the Duggar childRen what does that mean?   It makes me want to  ask the  question as to whether any other  younger children have been molested by any other older children?

In my view, I think that this family needs a visit from Child Family Services to see exactly what has been going on in that household. At any rate, ALL of the molested daughters MUST have some therapy for what happened  to them.  The fact that some have allegedly relayed that they don’t remember , speaks volumes . Oftentimes when incidences of sexual abuse are not addressed, it can have serious psychosocial repercussions.

Believing in God and asking him to take away your sins doesn’t make you less accountable for your actions. Josh needs to address what he did and all of the girls need to address what was done to them. Now that Josh has children of his own, he especially needs to face what he did so that he doesn’t repeat these actions with his own children.

MESSAGE TO MRS. DUGGAR

When Mrs. Duggar said Josh was interested in girls and that is why he molested them I wanted to vomit. She is the one who needs therapy most of all. She is in denial with her baby girl  breathy passive aggressive voice. How could she say such a thing?

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No,  Mrs. Duggar, you cannot hide behind God in this. God will not make everything OK. It is not OK when a teenager abuses children and when you and  your husband have  tried to sweep this under the rug and now blame others for what your son has done. Maybe God wanted this information released in the  universe by whatever means, in order  to show the world what a fake reality show you have and how you must not be looked up to and admired as being such ideal parents you claim to be .

You have shown that, like an ostrich, you have your head in the sand when it comes to Josh. You are more interested in protecting your son and your brand than you are in oding what is right . You showed us all what a stupid and ignorant woman you are by saying that  children need to be protected from transgender people who can go into girls bathrooms and molest them. In order to relieve you of your gross unawareness, I will inform you that transgender people have no interest in harming children. Their interest is in living their lives as a member of the opposite sex.

The man you need to be concerned with coming into your little girl’s bathroom is you own flesh and blood son- your child molesting son- Josh Duggar. When we point the fingers at others t,here is often three fingers pointing back at us as is the case here.

SHOULD CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES GET INVOLVED?

A three or five year old child who looks at the genitals of a child of the opposite sex out of curiosity – “I’ll show you mine if you show me yours” may be acceptable in terms of normal development but it is NOT normal for a 15 year old to look at a  five year olds private parts.  It is sick and is what a pedophile does. If Josh did this as was revealed in the media, he was and may still be a pedophile.  Pedophiles usually don’t change their behavior unless they are given hormone treatment or castrated. The recidivism rate among child molesting predators in prison is astounding. They can never be cured. If Josh is presently  a bona fide pedophile I am deeply concerned for his own children.

TELLING AND TRAGIC INTERVIEWS WITH THE SEXUALLY MOLESTED DUGGAR DAUGHTERS

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At the end of this tragic FOX  interview which revealed so much about the Duggars, there was a teaser about an upcoming interview with the Duggar daughters- the victims of Josh. Although one cried,  she was not crying because she was molested. Instead she was crying because the information was released and made public. The other daughter was defensive and also blamed others like the person who released the information, instead of blaming the culprit who molested her- Josh.

That spoke volumes about these young ladies being in denial. They need professional help asap and I pray that they get it.

Bruce Jenner Desperately Needs Feminizing Voice, Speech and Body Language Coaching To Complete His Male to Female Transition

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In making his transition from male to female,  Bruce Jenner has put a lot of effort into his skin with  injectable  lip and face fillers botox, surgically minimizing his adam’s apple, breast enhancement, and many other physical changes. But the one important change that he has neglected is the sound of his voice, the content of his speech, and adopting a more feminized body language

Having taught countless transgender clients in my practice who went from female to male how to sound like a man and  male to to male transgender clients how to sound like a woman I would love to be the one to help Bruce make these changes so that he could feel more secure and confident in his new gender role. In fact I want to personally reach out to Bruce through this blog to let him know that I can help him with establishing a more feminine voice, speech patterns, as well as a more female  body language .

After all, if I could help Dustin Hoffman sound like a woman for his Dorothy character in his award winning performance of “Tootsie”  I can definitely help Bruce Jenner.


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After it  was publicly known that I was the one who helped  Dustin to sound like a woman, transgender clients from all over the country sought out my services to help them make that vocal and body language transition which would help cement their identity in the opposite sex and allow others to perceive them as more feminine (or masculine for those seeking a female to male  transition).

My experience  in helping the  transgender population began when I was doing my Master’s Degree at the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor, Michigan. At the time the University of Michigan Medical Center was one of the few places in the world where people came for gender reassignment surgery. So in order to assist these patients with their total image, they were often sent to the University of Michigan Speech Clinic.

Unbeknownst to me, I was assigned one such patient- a lovely woman with long dark hair and exotic features. My first task was to do a complete speech and vocal analysis of this woman. I wrote up a very detailed report for my professor and mentor, Dr. H. Harlan Bloomer about the woman’s low pitched voice, her pitch range, and diction and how she presented herself. Because the patient had such a  limited pitch range and a low voice, I wrote up a differential diagnosis in her report  that she may be suffering from vocal cord  trauma or may have some vocal cord growths which may attribute to her vocal issues. While Dr. Bloomer said he was impressed with the detailed analysis of my report, he said I missed something very crucial. She was actually a “he”.

I must say that I was surprised as I had never known anything like this.Dr. Bloomer said that my task was to make her sound like a woman. I immediately went to the Medical Library to find out all I could about how to do that, but there were no books or articles on the topic. There was an obscure book that was written by a Harvard linguistics Professor  but it was very academic and didn’t tell what to do. So I tried to figure things out by the seat of my pants and at the end of our six week therapy sessions, my client sounded like a woman and very few could detect that she had been or sounded like a man months earlier. Because of my success with this client, I was the one who was given all of the transgender patients who needed to change their voice and speech  patterns to match their new sexual identity.

After graduating from Michigan and getting my doctorate at the University of Minnesota where my focus was now in the area of medical genetics and psychosocial aspects of speech, voice, and cosmetic appearance in patients with cranial facial deformities, I then went to UCLA School of Medicine and  did a post doctoral fellowship, doing  research in the area of birth defects and associated speech and voice disorders in the area of Medical Genetics. It was there that I really was able to hone my diagnostic skills in assessing people from head to toe, which was instrumental in my present incarnation as a voice and body language expert.

One evening, I took a break  from my post-doctorate studies and my research and accepted an invitation to my first Hollywood party. A far cry from the world of academia where I spent so such time, it was so was so exciting  and refreshing to me to see all of these glamorous and beautiful people who had so much to say about themselves, telling me about all the acting roles they got, and the next movie I would see them in. Then  it came  my turn to share what I did. I also shared my experience with them of working with transgender clients when I was in graduate school. A film producer overheard what I said and asked me for my card. I didn’t have a card back then so I wrote my number down a on a piece of paper.

A few days later, I got a call from a person whom I didn’t know who told me he was a director and that his friend at the party I attended gave him my number. The director then told me there was someone he wanted me to meet to help him sound like a woman and that I had to come to an address in Westwood (not too far from UCLA) the next day at the specified time. But there was one important thing I had to know- that I couldn’t tell anyone where I was going and what I was doing. As a naive 25 year old I enthusiastically agreed to it and showed up the next afternoon. As I walked up the long winding stairway to the front door, I began to feel a bit anxious and wondered what I got myself into. I knocked on the door and who should appear? None other than Dustin Hoffman. In the weeks and months that followed I taught Dustin everything I possibly knew about gender differences in communication. I shared with him everything I learned from working with the transgender clients at the University of Michigan.

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Years later I wrote a best selling book about gender differences in communication called He Says She Says, Closing the Communication Gap Between the Sexes and went on the speaking circuit where I spoke to thousands of people on the topic. I also did the TV talk show circuit on the topic. Understanding how differently men and woman communicated  with one another helped many couples learn to better relate to one another. It also helped  avoid many misunderstanding in the workplace where men and woman  now learned the nuances of communication with the opposite sex.

More business women learned how they needed to get to the point quicker, and not answer a question with a question or go up at the end of sentences, while more businessmen learned that they needed to use less command terms and take up less physical space when dealing with women. In fact there were 103 differences that men and women needed to be aware of to help them better communicate with one another.

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So back to Bruce Jenner.  Having worked with so many transgender clients,  I truly feel for Bruce. I know the emotional pain these clients have been in all of their lives. I know how they have been teased and emotionally abused. I know how many of their friends and relatives will never speak to them again when they go through the transition. I also know the very dark side of this transition process and that is that 60 percent of those who undergo the transition become so depressed afterwards that they  commit suicide. It is shocking and it is scary as they find that life in their new gender doesn’t cure all of their past issues and in fact, may create more issues than they had before.

Bruce may be one of the lucky ones in that he seems to have a good family support system with his mother and  two sons for sure and perhaps  step daughter Khloe.It seems that his younger daughters with Kris, Kylie and Kendall  are having a hard time with it. Kyle’s acting out and dating a 25 year old when she is 17 may have something to do with her ambivalence towards Bruce. The last thing Bruce needs now as he makes his transition is badmouthing from Kris. This could play havoc on his psyche especially now that he is on hormone therapy. That is why he needs to cut ALL ties with her and hire a great PR person to defect any poison PR arrows Kris may shoot at him in the media. Kris may use this opportunity to play the victim- that she had no idea about his desire to become a woman. Know that no one can live with someone for 20 something years and do business with them and share intimate moments with the person and not know something. This is not about Kris. It is about Bruce and Bruce’s PR minions need to keep making that very clear.

Bruce’s role in the recent traffic collision where his car hit a woman who was killed must also be weighing heavily on his mind. The fact that he is coming out in front of millions of people is also a Herculean task. Not everyone will embrace him. People will be mean as they have been already. With some, Bruce’s transition, threatens their masculinity and angers them for what he did.Many looked up to Bruce as a great athlete and Olympic heros.They still may want to see him this way and now when they see him looking like a woman and wearing women’s clothing, it upsets their psyche. Many will become angry because they don’t want to see him this way. Many religious people will think what Bruce did was wrong and will let him know about it. Many will call him a freak,

But Bruce is not a freak. He was feeling like he was in the wrong body for his entire life as he admitted. Perhaps that was why he could endure the punishing workouts that allowed him to become an Olympian. Perhaps he so wanted to be be seen as masculine at the time that he overcompensated. No matter what, Bruce is at a very crucial time in his life. He needs a lot of emotional support and a lot of strength.

I am here to support Bruce through my skill set as I am reaching out to him with the intention of helping him to have more confidence and credibility in his voice, speech patterns,and body language as he ventures out in the world as a woman.

Ignorant and Insecure Kylie Jenner Causes Havoc On Young People’s Lips As She Encourages Them to Experiment With Their Looks

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This is what happens when a not very bright bright, uneducated, self absorbed, insecure , superficial girl is thrust into the limelight and serves as a role model to young people her age. On one episode of the “Keeping Up With the Kardashians” show, it was revealed how Kylie gets her plumped up lips and how she suctions her lips.

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So to emulate what she apparently does to have large and fuller  lips there was a Kylie Jenner lip challenge issued over the internet, which ended up backfiring. People were sucking into a shot glass to blow up their lips. In doing so, they began to have damaged, discolored,  and bruised lips and lips that have lost sensation. Some have painfully split their lips and have required surgery  and medication to repair the damage.

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But ignorant  and superficial Kylie didn’t tell her fans to not do it because it was dangerous. Instead,  she offered up a lame statement as she   tweeted, “I’m not here to try & encourage people/young girls to look like me or to think this is the way they should look. I want to encourage people/young girls like me to be YOURSELF & not be afraid to experiment w your look.”

Not be afraid to experiment w your look!!!!”Only an insecure and very superficial person who didn’t like their own looks would encourage others to change their looks!

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Kylie was once dubbed the “ugly duckling of the Kardashians” and the least attractive of all the sisters. She  obviously took it to heart and began doing whatever it took to change up her looks to match her older sister Kim’s looks.

People need to accept their looks and that needs to be the message. The message is not to change your looks.Young girls need to be encouraged and told their looks are fine the way they are and not have added pressure put on themselves regarding their appearance at such a young age.  Unlike Kylie, they need to be encouraged to develop their personality and their brains.

They do nto need to spend 40 minutes int he mirror messing with their lips and applying lipstick as Kylie’s  sister Kourtney’s boyfriend Scott Dissick and her own sister Kendall revealed about  Kylie on their show. Here is the link which discusses and shows what Kylie does to her lips and how much time she spends on trying to enhance them. http://www.eonline.com/news/648827/kylie-jenner-reveals-the-exact-way-she-makes-her-lips-look-plump-and-pouty-watch-now

Kylie is not a healthy role model for any young girl tp emulate. She comes from a home where her mother Kris puts looks above all else and demands physical perfection in her daughters (and her son)  as we have repeatedly seen on her show and heard in her interviews.  Kylie’s sisters, Kim and Khloe have agonized about their looks and weight  your years and have have had multiple surgical enhancements as we have seen.Her other sister Kendall is a high fashion model where her focus is  all about her looks.

So this young girl has been raised with some very distorted values in my view. As a 17 year old, she is given little or no guidance and  too much freedom in my view, like getting her own place to live, dating a 25 year old (Tyga) , and not being encouraged to get a good  education but instead being “home schooled”. While there is nothing wrong with being home schooled, it is doubtful that she is getting a formal and proper home school education. This girl needs to be educated and informed about what is important in life and not just learn how to spend hours upon hours focusing on her looks.

Hillary Does NOT Suffer From “Uh Huh Syndrome” On Listening Tour As Sex Difference In Communciation IS Noted

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As I have repeatedly said, I am not a political person and this is not a political blog. I have no agenda and I am merely reporting what I observe and I observed something very upsetting that the press seems to be doing with Hillary Clinton as she is on her Listening Tour.

As a Presidential candidate, Hillary is on a Listening Tour whereby she listens to people’s opinions. In our culture you say umhm or uh huh to indicate to the other person you are listening and processing what they are saying. That is exactly what Hillary was doing when she responded with umhum to people’s comments and opinions. Yet some silly reporters culled a so called expert who ridiculously said Hillary suffers from Uh Hum Syndrome.

Hillary Clinton does NOT suffer from Uh Huh Syndrome or Um Hum Syndrome or any other Syndrome. She is doing what ALL candidates do who are on a listening tour.

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In his ignorant  article author  Derek Hunter stated “Mrs. Clinton nodded and said “Un-huh” 88 times during this stop on the New Hampshire stop on her “listening tour.”  I say, THAT”S GREAT!” It means that 88 times she was polite enough and responsive enough to acknowledge what someone said and respond with uh hhuh and nod. It is no surprise that the article was written by a male who is clearly not familiar with Sex Differences in communication.

Then they culled an equally ignorant female expert, Lynn Weiss who wrongly stated  Hillary was suffering from Uh Huh Syndrome . They even put together a video of how many times she said Uh Huh during her listening tour in an attempt to embarrass her:

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What both the author of the article and the so called expert  failed   to recognize is that women listen much differently then men listen. Men may say nothing as you speak. They may say uh huh only if they agree with something said. Women on the other hand say uh huh to let you know that they have heard you, not that they necessarily agree with you. It is a form of politeness which is meant to encourage the speaker to keep talking and that they were heard.

So here we see our first signal of misinterpretation of a female candidate and making a mountain out of something that is a natural phenomena for women.

Before journalists and so called experts begin to criticize Hillary’s communcation patterns they need to read   my classic book He Says She Says closing the Communication Gap Between the Sexes  which they can get on Amazon    http://www.amazon.com/He-Says-She-Lillian-Glass/dp/0399518126 so  they don’t  continue to spread wrong information and end up with egg on their face.

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Heather Mack Cocky, Entitled, Diva Body Language After 10 Year Sentence for Mother’s Murder

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Heather Mack,the troubled and entitled Chicago teen who constantly fought with her mother to the point that police were called countless times. She was taken on a  vacation to Bali by her wealthy socialite mother, Sheila von Wies Mack in order for the two to to bond and spend quality time together. But rebellious Heather wanted no part of it, So she invited her boyfriend Tommy Schaefer to join them in Bali, much to her mothers dislike.

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When checkout time came around, Sheila refused to pay for the boyfriends hotel bill which angered him. Angrily, he  hit her with an object, killing, dismembering her body and stuffing it into a suitcase. Pregnant  Heather and her boyfriend then  fled to a nearby resort and planned to board a plane the next day for the US but they were caught and taken to jail. In jail Heather gave birth to a baby girl. The couple has finally been sentenced- Heather for 10 years and her boyfriend for 18 years.

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Heather showed no remorse for her mothers death and celebrated by guzzling smuggled in alcohol from a plastic bag. As you can see from her actions and body language she is loving her life in Kerabokan Prison in Indonesia. She is acting like a star and loving the attention lavished upon her by the press.

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She mugs for the camera and jokes with the press and calls them by name- Ari, Osha, etc. She beckons them to come closer to her cell to get a better photo and even scolds them for publishing what she considers unattractive photos of herself in the press.She mugs for them as you can see in the above photo.

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Her biggest complaint about the sentencing was that her boyfiend will have to be in prison for 8 more years when she is released and she is not happy about that. In fact, she calls it unfair. She says that he daughter needs to have her father around when she is a young girl and is upset about that. She is clearly more upset about that than she is about her mother being  dead and gone forever.

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Meanwhile, Tommy’s body language after his sentencing of 18 years was revealead by his gestures in  angrily swatting away reporters and in shooting them an obscene gesture with his middle finger. His anger is also revealed in his tight muscles around his lips and in his biting his lower lip.

In reality,  these two spoiled and entitled creatures have nothing to be angry about. They should both be jumping for joy. If their crime would have happened in the US they would have received life or the death sentence. They also could have received a death sentence by firing squad in Indonesia but their lives were spared according to the press because they were the parents of a newborn baby.

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At first it was reported that Heather was awkward with the baby but now motherhood has kicked in and her  maternal instincts seem to have taken over. She appears to be affectionate towards the infant as she comforts the baby is often seen rocking it. Maybe this is the silver lining that has come out of such a dark situation. According to  Kerobokan prison officials,  she will be allowed to keep the baby with her for a period of six months. After that the baby will be with relatives. The only hting is that there are no relatives on her side, so perhaps Tommy’s parents will care for the baby. On the other hand, perhaps a kindly Indonesian family will take care of the baby and bring the baby to see her mother for regular visits. Heather could certianly afford to do this as she inherited the millions of dollars left by her now deceased parents.

Since Heather has money, life in Kerobokan prison will be easy for her. Instead of the traditional squat toilet she will be able to have a western style sit down toilet.  She will be able to order in food from the outside and will receive top dental and medical care. She will have her own quarters with clean linens and will be allowed to freely roam the premises at her liesure . She can watch all the TV she likes and see the latest DVD’s which are regularly brought in by volunteer workers.  If she wants to do so, she can get a college education via correspondence course, If she was smart, she should look into that so when she comes out of prison in 10 years she could begin a  new life with a new  set of skills due to her education. She will be able to have a cell phone and use the computer to her heart’s desire.

Tommy may have it even better  than Heather in prison as he too will have all of these things in Kerobokan Prison but he will have tennis courts and tennis matches where he can participate. He can help raise dogs in the prisoner assistance dog program they have, he can continue his education as he too as complete access to computers and cell phones. He and header can speaker 24 7 id they like. They can video chat and text one another at will.

Since the emphasis at the prison is rehabilitation, they have sewing, silversmithing,reflexology, and Norwegian philosophy classes, and  hairdressing and barber skill training. They can also continue with a formal education at any University of their choosing that offers an online degree or a correspondence type of program. They can also get all of the psychological counseling they want as there is regular counseling by visiting psychologists. So Heather an work out her mother and her mental issues, while Tommy can work out his anger issues.

The whole situation is so terribly sad.  At 62, Shelia von Wies Mack is dead after close to two decades of struggling with her very difficult daughter. May she now rest in peace and may Heather treat her own daughter a lot better than she treated her mother.

While ESPN’s Britt McHenry Shows Toxic Behavior By Fat, Dental, Job, and Education Shaming, Tow Worker is Toxic for Releasing Tape

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Yes  ESPN’s Britt McHenry clearly showed what a Toxic  entitled character she had by verbally  hitting  the tow company worker below the belt as she fat shamed, dental shamed, job shamed, and education shamed the woman who no doubt,  did something to aggravate Britt.  Since nothing happens in a vacuum,  there is no doubt  in my mind that the tow worker  did  something that made Britt go off on her.Maybe she was robotic, insensitive to Britt’s  plight, cold, uncaring, had an attitude, or maybe she said something provocative that ticked off Britt.

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But by warning  Britt that she was on tape and stating she would show it, it demonstrates  how passive aggressive the tow worker was acting. By actually releasing the tape publically to get back at  Britt and now turning the tables and   shaming  Britt, it shows how Toxic  and vindictive  the tow worker  really  is.

This was a petty situation between two women. No ones life was at stake.

As soon as Britt realized she was on tape she put her hand up to her throat indicating that she was suddenly feeling vulnerable. Her large eyed look whereby you can see the whites or sclera shows her surprise and shock. No doubt when the tow worker threatened that she would show it, it frightened Brit as revealed through her body language.

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The tow worker  needed to speak up  immediately and tell the  reporter she was going too far and not not speak to her this way.She needed to tell the reporter she wouldn’t help her if she continued to speak to her like that and that she would get another employee to help her. Then he needed to get that employee to help Britt calm down and finish her business. Obviously the tow driver was too wraped up in her own feelings  instead of calming her customer down with soothing words and trying to diffuse the situation. She needed to say how it was hitting below the belt and how she  was hurting her feelings.

But the tow worker said nothing as we heard on tape. She merely displayed her  vindictiveness  at being fat shamed, education shamed, and teeth shamed by getting  back at the sportscaster by publicly releasing the tape and shaming her. If there was a nurse or a doctor  or dentist who did something to jeopardize your health, one should  out them to help protect the public and warn them about that person’s dangerous and toxic  behaviors.  After all that is what Yelp  and Health Grades is all about. But to out  a customer for a petty attitude issue is a whole different issue.

The tow worker could have also spoken up on the tape and said look, don’t speak to me that way or I won’t help you and I will get someone else to assist you if you treat me that way, or you really hurt my feelings by what you are saying. It needed to be dealt with between the two women. But she got the public involved and in my view she is just as Toxic as the reporter if not more. The reporter’s behavior is  unfortunately often what is seen in the showbusiness world- entitlement and thinking they are such a big star and talking down to others.  I have seen it countless times in Hollywood. Not all celebrities are like that but the newer ones who haven’t yet hit hard times and think that they are all that and believe their press often pull this behavior.

Since  Britt flaunted her TV career, the tow worker could have sent the tape  to the authorities at ESPN to show her action instead of showing it to the world and helping to destroy the women’s career.  Perhaps the ESPN authorities would have given her a reality check and put her on the right path in terms of how to behave with others now that she is  a public figure.

I really think it needed to be handled by both women as grown adults  and  the incident should not have  involve a third party.

There are definitely times where  Toxic people in the service business need to be called out when they exhibit Toxic behavior.  if someone is belittling, being condescending, being hateful, or harming you always need to let them know how their actions won’t be tolerated and  you need to hold them accountable.

But if  you  decide to go off on them verbally, which can often happen, there are certain rules you MUST follow.

1. You cannot berate their physical looks.

2. You cannot berate  their job and whether you think it is beneath you.

3. You cannot say how superior you are to them or how much more educated you are then they are.

4. You cannot  fat shame them and name call.

5. You cannot teeth shame them. But if they have such bad breath and unkempt teeth that makes you feel like to vomit, you can gingerly suggest they monitor their bad breath or use oral hygeine, especially if they are dealing with the public   if  their offensive smell has invaded your  air space via your nostrils you have the right to let them know about it.

6, You cannot shame their dress  or style unless they are disheveled and dirty and serving you food or touching your body, your hair or your children (waiter, waitress, facialist, hair stylist,  nurse, health care worker, child care worker).

So when ESPN reporter did all of the above, she showed who she was- a very toxic person who thought she was all that  simply because  she was on TV and no doubt probably being told her entire live how cute she looked). Well she certainly lost a lot of points in the cuteness department, because cute is as cute does .

While she was suspended it remains to be seen whether or not she will be fired. That all depends on how  the audience will tolerate her. Since the ESPN audience is mostly made up of men and since a lot of men out there can overlook Toxic behavior in a woman as long as she is cute and has a nice body and appeals to them as eye candy, she may still keep her job.

But as far as rising up the ranks and becoming a bonafide respected news reporter, she can forget it. Look at what happened to lying  Brian Williams. In my view she needs to be fired stat. There are too many other  cute young women out there who aren’t as Toxic who could do the job. Shaming others is a huge no no and makes you unlikeable. As a reporter who wants a long career, you need to be likeable.

Mainstream audiences  of both men and women may never be  forget how highly she regards herself at the expense of others. She showed a lot of insensitivity and went below the belt when she tore the woman’s looks  and who she was, to shreds.

Britt is NOT as educated as she thinks she is. Graduating from Northwestern or getting an advanced degree means nothing if you don’t have the education of how to respectfully kmy treat others. You will never advance and you will lose if you act like a superior entitled brat.  Personally, I think her getting fired would be the best thing to happen to this young lady as it would humble her and give her a reality check. She needs a complete inner makeover of her soul so she acquires more compassion, less entitlement, and less feelings of superiority to others.

In addition,  the tow worker should be fired for releasing the tape and being just as  or even more toxic by her sneaky passive aggressive behavior. The tow worker is not rthe victim here and should not be portrayed as one. She had a huge role in this debacle as well.