Josh Duggar’s Wife’s Self Blame As to Toxic Man Josh’s Cheating Says She’s In Denial

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Josh Duggar, the eldest son on TLC’s Reality Show “19 and Counting” who admitted to sexuay abusing his sisters, has now

admitted that he is a hypocrite and has a secret addiction to pornography as he was caught on the Ashley Madison site- a site

which caters to married cheaters having affairs. Anna Duggar, Josh’s wife is clearly in denial and engaging in self blaming for

Josh’s egregious behavior.

It is reported that Anna says she is not leaving her  cheating husband and will stick by him. In fact she is reported to be turning

to her faith much like her in-laws and doing a  lot of praying. In my view she and her in-laws are doing a lot of denying.

No prayer and no faith can help a very mentally sick individual  with perverted behavior, like Josh has shown to be. he needs  a

lot f therapy and not the faith based religious kind of therapy which clearly did not work on him.

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According those close to her, Anna is  trying to absorb some of the blame. for Josh’s perverted actions of cheating on her. In fact she apparently blames herself for not being more aware of the pressures Josh was under . She apparently is beating herself up for not having counseled him better.

In my view  her alleged  statements  reveal that she just as disturbed as her husband. She has no connection with reality. There is absolutely nothing she could have done to prevent Josh cheating on her, no doubt when he was pregnant.

It will most likely never happen, but this woman needs to get as far away from Josh and his family as soon as possible. Most likely she will continue to live in denial with her head in the sand like an ostrich. She will never face the reality that her husband has some severe mental problems. She  most likely will never listen to anyone who tells her that it is not her fault and that Josh did this on his own and she is not to blame in any way, shape. otr form.

While religion and faith is a great thing for most people. in this case it is not a great thing as we watch Anna stubbornly hide behind her religion and their faith and refuse to see the reality of her very disturbed husband.

Dr. Lillian Glass Worked to Feminize Caitlyn Jenner Voice and Body Language

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I had the opportunity to work with Caitlyn Jenner to try to help her feminize her voice, speech patterns and body language. Our session was filmed for her reality show I’m Cait. Unfortunately it will not be shown this season. But my management team at Sirena Media received this  very nice email from the show’s producer:

Hi Karin!
Unfortunately, that scene did not make it into the series. We had to make some tough cuts because we filmed for 12 weeks but only ended up with eight 42 minute episodes. We so appreciate Lilian working with Cait and all the help she offered and maybe we can have her back next season.
Best of luck to you both and thank you again!

Andrea Metz
Executive Producer

So there is a possibility I may be on her show next season. Because I am bound by a confidentiality agreement I signed with Bunim Murray, Caitlyn’s production company I can’t go into detail as to what specific work I did with Caitlyn and what we specifically discussed during our time together.

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I will say that she was a lovely and I thoroughly enjoyed working with her and let her know that I am totally there for her.

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I will say that I used the same techniques that I used to teach Dustin Hoffman how to sound like a woman for the film in which he won an Academy Award- Tootsie

We addressed vocal pitch, using more inflection, drawing out vowels so the tones are more flowing, slowing down the speech, using more feminine gestures from sitting, to standing, to head posture, to facial language as well as gesturing,  like gesturing towards the body as opposed to away from the body like I am showing here when I Dustin played the Dorothy Michael’s character.

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While it takes more than the three hour session I had with Caitlyn while we filmed the show, I was able to give Caitlyn a copy of my best selling book He Says She Says Closing the Communication Gap Between the Sexes. The book contains all the information you will ever need to know about how men and  women communicate. It discusses differences in voice, body language, speech, and behavior, what is said and how it is said.

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In fact it has just been released on  Amazon  for kindle

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There is also an audio version on my website at http://www.drlillianglass.com http://www.drlillianglass.com

This book can not only be of benefit to the transgender community but can help anyone who wants to have better communication with the opposite sex in business, in their social life, and in their intimate life.

Having worked with many people in the transgender community, perhaps the most difficult aspect of their transition is to sound   like the opposite sex. To sound like a  woman (for those undergoing male to female transition as Caitlyn is doing), or to sound like a man (for those undergoing female to male transition) it takes time and a lot of hard work. It takes the knowledge of knowing exactly what to do and what the differences are for the specific sex one is transitioning to. It also takes a lot of practice and a lot of patience.

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I read in Caitlyn’s blog  several weeks ago that when she watched the video of herself  speaking at the ESPY Awards, she said that she still felt like she had a man’s voice. It is understandable for her to feel that way  as you can’t learn how to sound like a woman and have it become a part of your daily life in just one session. It takes time and a lot of practice.

I was able to assure Caitlyn that what she was feeling was not out of the ordinary and to be patient.  I communicated to her that she not be hard on herself because working on feminizing your voice is a process and cannot be done in only one session as we did for the show.

I  encouraged her to not focus on  what she thought she did wrong, but instead, focus on the many things she did right during her ESPY Speech  such as:

1. flowing out her tones

3. using her inflection ( going up several notes)

4 not having a choppy speech pattern

5. opening her jaw when you spoke

6. not speaking so fast

7. not having a creaky sound at the end of sentences (glottal fry)

8. using many feminine gestures.

9. not attacking her initial sounds when she spoke

I clearly let her know that I was very proud of her. I also reiterated specific things she needed to work on in the future regarding the way she spoke so that she would be more satisfied and not see or hear herself as sounding like a man.

Working with Caitlyn was a very rewarding experience for me as I shared with  Caitlyn’s  my knowledge  of what it takes to sound like her genuine self- a woman.  I found her to be a lovely, elegant, and beautiful  woman who was very eager to incorporate all that we discussed.

She is truly an inspiration not only to the transgender community, but to so many others who are motivated by her  personal  decision to live an authentic and honest life and to be true to herself. At age 65, she decided to live out her dream, which goes to prove that it is never too late in life to do what you really want to do with your life. I have the utmost respect for anyone who is true to themselves, regardless of what anyone else may say.

Donald Trump Shows Most Confident Body Language of All Candidates

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Screen Shot 2015-08-14 at 12.13.54 AMThere is no question  the candidate who showed the most self confidence  through his body language during the debates was

Donald Trump. He  was the candidate who appeared to be the most at ease even when difficult questions were thrown his way.

As you can see in this photo he is the only candidate leaning forward which indicated his eagerness and readiness.

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His gestures were fluid  which reflected his ease on the stage. He did not make any of the mechanical gestures which

many of the politicians made where the thumb and the index finger was pinched. Instead he made gestures which matched

his emotions and what he was saying.

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candidate who did this.

Regarding his response to the Megan Kelly question, he handled it well.  While there is no dispute that a  question about  how

Trump feels about women should have been asked, the way in which it was asked was sneaky and inappropriate in my view.

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First Megyn starts the question off with a very pleasant face as she looks directly at trump and says One of the things people love about you is that you speak your mind and you don’t use a politician’s filter. ”

Then she says however it is not without it’s downsides particularly when it comes to women. You’ve called women fat pigs, slobs, and disgusting animals.”

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Trump then interrupts  with stating “Only Rosie O’Donnell” which received a roaring applause from the crowd. And by the way Rose O’Donnell was the one who began the fight with Donald Trump with her name calling and  disparaging remarks about his physical appearance. Trump in turn, fought back and mirrored her Toxic name calling.Screen Shot 2015-08-14 at 12.41.21 AM

Megyn Kelly then recounts that Trump said to a Celebrity Apprentice contestant  “It would be a pretty picture to see her on her knees” In the first place. the contestant  was Brande Roderick who can’t recall this ever being said to her and strongly defends Trump on this matter. ”

Megyn then appears to sneer at Trump as she looks directly at him with narrowed eyes as you can see in this photo above and says in an admonishing tone”  Does that sound to you like the temperament of a man we should elect as president?” She doesn’t ask :what do you have to say about this? Instead she attacks his temperament. When Trump subsequently said there was “Blood in her eyes” what he was saying  was that she was out for blood and it showed in her eyes. We saw her narrowed eyes on screen, but trump saw her piercing eyes glaring  directly at him while she asked the question, so clearly he saw a lot more of the negative emotion coming from Megan than the viewer watching the debate.

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Trump was visibly disturbed about her question as he purses his lips and tightens his jaw in anger. Then Megyn in essence associates him with the “War on Women.”  Trumps answer was that he has no time to be politically correct  and then says how the country has no time  to be politically correct as he

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made karate chop like gestures to emphasize his point which also reflected his anger and annoyance at the question.

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He then shows his palms in an open gesture as he explains that oftentimes what he says is fun and kidding and we have a good time.  He then goes on to let Megyn know that he has been nice to her even though she has treated him not so nice and that he said he could not be so nice to her  based on the way she has treated him. He also reached out and said he was sorry that she felt that way.

Then after  the debate, Trump was true to his word and was not so nice to Megyn as she let everyone know that she had blood coming out of her eyes and had other disparaging things to say about her.

One thing about  about Donald Trump which everyone  should know from reading his book The Art of the Deal, is that  his philosophy is that if someone hits you hard, you hit them back harder. And he did that in business  which was  one of the key;s to his success and has been doing it with everyone who attacks him, including Megyn Kelly.

And once again to refresh everyone’s memory  as I have said throughout my blogs, I am not a political person and have no agenda here as I merely report what I observe from a body language and communication standpoint.

Disagree With Radaronline’s Negative Headline & False Spin on Kim’s Selfish Body Language at ESPY’s

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I completely disagree with Radaronline’s headline as I do not believe Kim Kardashian was being selfish in anyway or looking for the camera at the ESPY’s. Instead she was focused on Caitlyn and very attentive.

One thing you can  count on is that whenever I am interviewed is that I will ALWAYS be honest as I have complete integrity when doing a body language analysis. The press can never sway me into saying something that is not there, just for the sake of  their spinning their article a certain way. When I see that happening, I will not participate.

When I was interviewed by Radaronline about the family’s reaction to Caitlin’s speech, I was extremely positive as ALL the family members listened attentively and were emotionally moved.  They I was asked about Kylie’s looking miserable. I assured then that Kylie was emotional based on  the moving things  Caitlin said in her speech. I assured them that she was not looking miserable but very much relating to what Caitlin was saying.

I also emphatically  told radaronline that I didn’t want to be a part of any negative article concerning Catilyn or her family as I completely support Caitlin in all of her endeavors and will in no way be a part of anything negative about her or related to her.

So when they saw that they were going in the wrong direction regarding Kylie and that I would not comment negatively, they turned their attention to Kim. I again assured them that Kim’s body language showed love and support towards Caitlyn.

They realized they would not get anything negative from me so they sought the services of another body language expert Patti Wood who was obviously  willing to say something negative about Kim being selfish and looking for the camera.

Thus I was shocked when the ugly headline read :

The Kim Show! Body Language Experts Claim Selfish Kardashian Was ‘Looking For The Camera’ During Caitlyn Jenner’s ESPYs Speech”

This was disgusting!  I am not the body language expert who said this as the headline is a bold faced lie!! Kim was NOT looking for the camera. She was focused on Caitlin and I resent this false headline as I had no part of this.

Here is exact;y  what I said:

In the beginning of Caitlyn’s acceptance speech “Kim Kardashian is smiling proudly,” says body language expert to the stars Dr. Lillian Glass, who has worked with such huge names such as Dustin Hoffman and Sean Connery.

This is what Patti Wood said:

However, “Kim had her arm across her belly to call attention to look at her and could not bring herself to clap,” says another expert, Patti Wood, who is the author of Snap: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma.

So in essence  I NEVER said this. It was only ONE body language expert who said this-Patti Wood said this. So the  headline “Body Language Experts (plural) is completely wrong completely false!

I did say the following statements which were ALL positive about a positive occasion:

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According to Dr. Glass, “When Caitlyn is talking about the family, Kylie and Kendall are moved by this as they wipe away their tears. They are emotional because Caitlyn is getting emotional.”

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“You can see in this shot that all of Caitlyn’s children are taking in and digesting all of what she is saying in her speech and in this particular shot, Caitlyn is talking about how the journey has been inspiring and frightening,” says Glass.
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Brody Jenner is listening attentively and you can see the seriousness in his face,” Glass says of Caitlyn’s son, who was there with his girlfriend Kaitlynn Carter
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According to Dr. Glass, “When Caitlyn is talking about the family, Kylie and Kendall are moved by this as they wipe away their tears. They are emotional because Caitlyn is getting emotional.”
“The whole family is really moved when Caitlyn says that she is proud to have them all in her life,” says Dr. Glass.
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Perhaps the most moved of all was Caitlyn’s mother, Esther, who almost missed the event due to having surgery just one week prior. “Her mother is beyond proud and is beaming the entire time,” Dr. Glass tells Radar.
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After Caitlyn thanks her mother and tells the audience that she is her source of courage, Kendall and Kylie’s raw emotion “shows how they love their grandmother so much and are moved by what Caitlyn said about her.”
So you can see that I NEVER said ANYTHING negative unlike Patti Wood who commented:
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Everyone’s focus was on the Caitlyn’s speech for the entire time “except for Kim Kardashian,” says Wood. “Kim is looking for the camera, not looking at Caitlyn,” Wood, who has not ever worked with the family, tells Radar.
As you can see it was only Patti Wood’s opinion, not mine. Sothe headline stating “Body Language expert(s) plural is FALSE! It is only one body language expert’s opinion and I completely disagree with that opinion.
You can’t control what the press will say or what headlines they will manufacture, so thankfully we have blogs such as this one to set the record straight.

Hillary Clinton In Desperate Need of Voice and Body Language Makeover As Evidenced In Her Kickoff Campaign Speech

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As I said countless times, I am not political and this is not a political blog. I write about newsmakers and  Presidential Candidate Hillary Clinton certainly falls into that category. As someone who has coached  A List Academy Award Winning actors an actresses, top sports figures, corporate leaders, and politicians I feel very qualified to weigh in on the fact that Hillary Clinton is in desperate need of voice and body language coaching as evidenced in her performance on her Kickoff Campaign Speech on Roosevelt Island.

She has surrounded herself with the top advisors in the world like her campaign manager Leonard Podesta,Robby Mook and Communications Director Jennifer Palmieri .  They no doubt have the best speech writers in the world. They  all have presented her image quite well. They have monitored the content of what she says quite well.

But they have neglected to monitor  how she says it. This is essential in her campaign as no matter how beautifully a speech is crafted if you don;t deliver it well, people  (voters tune out) That is where I come in. I would love to coach  Hillary with her delivery.

Studies show that the way a person speaks is more important than how they look. Research also shows that if a person does not deliver their message well in terms of the tone of their voice, the way they speak, and their body language, they will not be as effective in getting their message across.

Here is what to Hil;ary needs to  do in order for voters to  really hear her message .

1. She needs to stop sound so staccato and choppy in her delivery. It is off putting. Instead she needs to develop a flow to her speech pattern whereby she draws out her vowels and flows the into one another.

2. She needs to stop going down in inflection at the end of her statements.

3. She needs to lose the monotone and provide more inflection so that the meaning and emphasis of what she is trying to say doesn’t get lost. In fact, if I was working with her I would choreograph her speech as I have done with so many to help them speak pubically. I would arrange for her where to go up and where to go down in terms of her inflectiona nd which specific words to emphasize as she speaks. All of this would be written down for her and she could see it as she read her speech on the teleprompter or by hand. She needs to emphasize key words and phrases.

4. She needs to stop for a second or two after delivering crucial information or when making an important  point so that the listener can better process what she has just said.

5. She needs to stop  being so stiff and staccato in her gestures and definitely needs to avoid making this  particular measured

gesture as you see here below with her hands at either side and thumbs pointing upwards. It is like a karate chop movement that is out of place in terms of the content she was discussing- her grandparents.

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6. She then makes a fist like angry gesture when speaking about her father. It was no congruent with what she was saying. Fist like gestures need to be avoided at all times unless you are speaking about something that really makes you furious like ISIS or acts of terrorism.

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7.Then she speaks of her beloved mother. Even though you could tell that she really loved and adored her mother greatly he tones were too choppy and staccato. he tone didn’t fit the lovely message. And then she does something that is a HIGE non- no when giving a speech- she points. That is a hostile gesture. Never point unless you are upset or angry. This was not the case here so never point for  emphasis as it is off putting and sends a confusing message > here she talks about her mother;s saying that kindness is what got her through yet her gestures say the opposite.
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8. The story about her mother was beautiful. It could have been more impactful with the right delivery. As she told of how poor her mother was while growing up, she need to pause more for effect and  then inflect on  key emotional words. She also spoke a little too fast. She needed to stop so that the audience could better process this very great story which shed a positive light on Hillary.

  1. Screen Shot 2015-06-15 at 5.16.47 AMIn  fact Hillary kept pointing thoughout her speech. She needs to stop this and ONLY point when ther eis something to point about like something that his horrible or where she would be giving a warning about something. But to point throughout the speech is confusing.
  2. She also needed to smile when talking about her beloved mother instead.

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Personally I think her image is great. It is authentic. I love that she has made  monochrome pantsuits her style. She looks good in them and they are practical and professional looking. Maybe that will be the new trend. By the way I also loved it when she wore headbands as the First Lady and hope she brings them back. She is true to her style and I love that.

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I reallyI like that she isn’t plastic surgeried and face lifted or botoxed up  and shows every one of her well earned wrinkles. I like that she isn’t dieting to death and stressing herself out about looking a certain way but instead, eating real meals and  keeping it healthy. Her weight is appropriate and she doesn’t look obese.

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I love how she lights up around her daughter Chelsea and how proud she is to be a grandma. I am also impressed that she stuck by Bill and worked it out  between them, even during the most humiliating of  times in her life with all of his philandering. Yes, she stuck by her man and she worked it out andas a result they can both grow o together as a couple and as a family. This provides a great role model to people who just want to throw in the towel and  not work things through.

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Seeing how Bill embraced her and how she leaned her head on his shoulder showed their genuine love and affection towards one another which was moving and uplifting for everyone to see.

Seeing  her in action and as she delivered her speech, to me there doesn’t  seem to be any overt health concerns as rumors would have you believe. Even if there were concerns, it doesn’t matter because she no doubt has the best doctors  in the world at her service should  she need them.

What does matter is her message and how voters perceive her message, if they can;t get past her monotones and her body language is off putting then the message is lost.

I wish I could have just one session with Hillary to coach her  put her on the right path vocally and body language wise as it would complete her image, In the meantime, I hope that her advisors pay close attention to the points n this blog which can help her tremendously as she goes out on the campaign trail.

Duggars Show Deception, Ignorance, and Blaming Others Through Body Language on FOX Interview As They Leak Out Their Intention to Sue for releasing Child Molesting Son’s Records

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After watching the Duggar parents  in action on Meghan Kelly’s FOX interview we never need to see them on any other reality show. This interview is the most real reality show there is about the Duggars as we can clearly her and see their denial, ignorance, double talk, and hiding behind their faith  as well as their blatant  LIES, and finally their  leaked out intention as to why they did this interview.  It is clear that they  did it  because they want to preserve their Duggar  brand by doing a mea culpa in stating that they were “bad parents.”

But they did something else which negates all of this and shows how phony their intention appears to be. They verbally leaked out that they were suing the police through a Freudian slip I will show you  later in this blog. They also turned the tables and made the police the bad guy for leaking out this information. In doing so, they are taking the onus off of their child molesting son and the attention off of what is an egregious act and blaming someone else.

I have always warned my readers and those who attend my seminars  that whenever you hear a person – especially a grown woman with a sickening sweet breathy baby girl voice,  know that something is not right with that person. They are usually passive aggressive and they are  not being authentic. They have something to hide.

This turned out to be the case in watching the interview with Josh Duggar’s mother during her interview with Meghan Kelly on FOX News. It spoke volumes. Her fetal- like hunched over appearance with rounded shoulders and head down, clearly showed that she was in fear and  was obviously dominated by her aggressive husband as he spoke in clearly rehearsed rhetoric. She looked like a scared child and sounded like one as well. Her tears in the interview were fake as there was no liquid coming out of her eyes. She wiped away non-tears.

This interview also  showed that Josh Duggar’s parents are in great denial and are still covering up for him. Since he was the culprit, why wasn’t he at the interview?  I will answer that obvious question for you.  He was not there so that the elder Duggars could protect their brand, just  in case Josh said something that would do irreparable damage. What they don’t get is that their interview on FOX did irreparable damage to their brand.

STILTED AND REHEARSED SPEECH

When the father spoke, it sounded stilted and not spontaneous, It sounded  as though it was rehearsed. As soon as a question was asked by Meghan Kelly, they Duggar parents both looked at one another as if to reassure one another as to who would be the one answering the question.

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As further proof that this interview was rehearsed and that they had set lines to say,  look at this photo below with Mrs. Duggar holding  the actual  script in her lap.

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Another reason which makes me confident that it was rehearsed,  is that Mrs. Duggar brings up the phrase “we had one little ray of hope” right at the beginning of the interview. In the middle of the interview, Mr. Duggar uses the exact same phrase of ” a little ray of hope”.

His speech pattern was staccatto and stilted as though it was clearly rehearsed and guarded.  Her breathy child- like tones indicated that she was not being authentic in her delivery either.

PALMS DOWN AS A SIGNAL OF DECEPTION

When Mr. Duggar  said that Josh came to him on his own and was crying because he improperly touched some of their daughters, I saw  signals of deception.  First of all I doubt that a 14 year old boy would volunteer this behavior which in my view may have gone on for quite some time. I doubt that it was just a one time occurance as research shows in those who molest children.  The main signal of deception as he said this was that Mr. Duggar’s palms were down as you can see in this photo below, Also the fact that he  had to look at his wife for reassurance is also telling and adds to my belief that this father may not be totally truthful.

When Meghan asked Mr. Duggar about going to police. Mr. Duggar made it seem like it was the right thing to do and that he did it so that Josh wouldn’t have this hang over his head the rest of his life. As Mr. Duggar said this he breathed hard and looked away and then looked back at his wife. First of all, the Christian Clinic where they sent Josh would have been liable if they didn’t report this child abuse to the authorities. Perhaps they encouraged Mr. Duggar  to do this. Perhaps  they reported the sexual molestation themselves, or threatened to to do so if Mr. Duggar didn’t do it.  The fact that Mr. Duggar gave so much detailed information as to where he reported it (at the police station near his home) and gives such a detailed explanation as to why he reported it to police,  leads me to believe that he was highly encouraged to report it by the Christian clinic or that the police contacted him about the matter. It seemed that he may have been  showing up based  on their request. Since all records have allegedly been destroyed, we will never know this information.  But it certainly seems that way to me.

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Then the sickeningly sweet  voiced Mrs. Duggar interjects and looks at her husband for reassurance as she says how devastated she was.Then she looks up and to the side as though she is manufacturing what to say . She looks to her husband, and then looks to the side as though she is thinking what to make up next.

LOOKING AWAY AND TO THE SIDE TO  THINK WHAT TO MANUFACTURE  NEXT

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After she says the “one ray of hope was that Josh had a tender conscience”  she says something that puts up a huge red flag/ She says” He was the one that came and shared on his own even though the others really didn’t know anything.”

That is way too much information for this statement to be true. And then she says  WHAT???  ” Didn’t know anything?” Of course they knew something as they were the ones  being molested for God’s sakes. Of course they knew something!  This statement proves she is trying to spin it her way and make light of the situation.

MR. DUGGAR’S PROTECTIVE HAND OVER HIS  GENITALS

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When someone places their hand over their private parts when they speak. it means that they are feeling  vulnerable. It is interesting to note that Mr. Duggar is speaking about sexual molestation and is covering up his own sexual organ with his hand.  He is clearly feeling vulnerable.

HYPER DRAMATIC AND FACIAL EXPRESSION THAT TRIES TOO HARD TO CONVINCE

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Then we see her wide eyed googly- eyed appearance. When people open their eyes so wide they are trying to convince you that what they are saying is truthful. In essence, she is trying way too hard to get her points across and is not succeeding in doing so.

FAKE CRY

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Then there is the fake cry. First of all, when you cry there is liquid running out of BOTH of your eyes in terms of tears. You don’t cry without tears and you don’t immediately go from a cry to a normal facial position. That is what Mrs. Duggar did  which indicated she was not really crying but attempting to cry on cue for dramatic effect. No doubt, whom was ever coaching her must have told her to shed a few tears of sympathy.  But it didn’t work.

MR. DUGGAR’S SHOCKING REACTION REGARDING  DAUGHTERS

When Meghan asked him about looking at this issue from the viewpoint of his daughters, he ignored the question. He double talked, beat around the bush,  and did not answer the question head on. In fact he never answered the question. That spoke volumes to me. It said that he was more concerned about his son and protecting him and his Dugar brand and all the goodies that come with it- like millions of dollars than he cared about his daughter’s welfare. That said it all to me and frankly it sickened me.

He also said that Josh called up one of the molested daughters to apologize and she didn’t remember what happened. Oh my God!!! This screams that ALL of these people need serious therapy. They are either in denial or have put it out of their mind because they don’t want to destroy their brand.

They also spoke about the girls in third party as “victims” not as daughters. This is disconcerting.  They have in essence detached themselves from the girls and what happened to them by referring to them in third person. This was devastating to witness.

BLAMING THE POLICE AND LEAKING OUT A LAWSUIT BY THE DUGGARS IS BREWING

When Meghan asked if they were concerned about what Josh did  and going public, they were honest and forthright for the first time in the interview. They really did not think there would be a problem after their initial visit to the police department. They were sure all would be fine and that  since Josh was a juvenile at the time, it would also be swept away under the rug and that was the end of it.

But then it re-surfaced and Mr. Duggar was mad as he demonstrated in the video. Suddenly his speech was faster and  louder and his tone now had an edge to it. He then leaked out the word “suit” as she said this was a suit and then corrected himself. That is called a Freudian Slip. It speaks volumes when analyzed in specific contexts. In this context he was discussing the police and the association of a ” suit” came out. To me that is very telling as it reveals his inner intention  is to sue the police.

BLAMING THE POLICE FOR HAVING AN AGENDA AND DISCUSSING A BRIBE

If the Duggars are considering suing the Police they had better watch what they just said about the police and accusing them of having an agenda as both Duggars said this simultaneously as though it was rehearsed. They also spoke of a bribe. Now they have opened themselves up to a whole different level of investigation. Did they give a bribe to the police to look the other way and destroyed the files?  Who bribed who? What was this bribe and why and how much money was involved in the bribe? They said some pretty derogatory things about the police chief that is now public record.

In their attempts to sue  the police for releasing the files,  they may find that they are the ones being sued for defamation and opening up a whole new can of worms. In essence,  I believe through this interview they have further shot themselves in the foot or in the mouth so to speak.

HAVE THERE BEEN  OTHER INCIDENTS OF SEXUAL MOLESTATION  THAT HAVE GONE ON IN THAT HOME?

When Mrs. Duggar shared that big boys can never have the little children on their laps and that they can never play hide and go seek or end up in pairs it sickened me. That is not  normal behavior in any family. Children should be free to play hide and seek and go seek and go off in pairs without worries of one molesting the other. This was a huge red flag to me.

If Josh was a sexual pervert at 15 and molested his 5 year old sister,  that may have been one Duggar child (Josh)  being a molester. But now that this hyper watchful rule applies to ALL of the Duggar childRen what does that mean?   It makes me want to  ask the  question as to whether any other  younger children have been molested by any other older children?

In my view, I think that this family needs a visit from Child Family Services to see exactly what has been going on in that household. At any rate, ALL of the molested daughters MUST have some therapy for what happened  to them.  The fact that some have allegedly relayed that they don’t remember , speaks volumes . Oftentimes when incidences of sexual abuse are not addressed, it can have serious psychosocial repercussions.

Believing in God and asking him to take away your sins doesn’t make you less accountable for your actions. Josh needs to address what he did and all of the girls need to address what was done to them. Now that Josh has children of his own, he especially needs to face what he did so that he doesn’t repeat these actions with his own children.

MESSAGE TO MRS. DUGGAR

When Mrs. Duggar said Josh was interested in girls and that is why he molested them I wanted to vomit. She is the one who needs therapy most of all. She is in denial with her baby girl  breathy passive aggressive voice. How could she say such a thing?

Screen Shot 2015-06-04 at 11.56.28 AMIn  her final statement with her her wide eyed look AND  breathy baby  girl voice,  she brings up the obviously rehearsed word ” agenda” once again in an attempt to take the onus off of her sexually molesting son and put it on others whoM she feels areout to destroy her and her family and make money off of this incident as she describes it. She then ends the interview by saying  that God will make this all OK.”

No,  Mrs. Duggar, you cannot hide behind God in this. God will not make everything OK. It is not OK when a teenager abuses children and when you and  your husband have  tried to sweep this under the rug and now blame others for what your son has done. Maybe God wanted this information released in the  universe by whatever means, in order  to show the world what a fake reality show you have and how you must not be looked up to and admired as being such ideal parents you claim to be .

You have shown that, like an ostrich, you have your head in the sand when it comes to Josh. You are more interested in protecting your son and your brand than you are in oding what is right . You showed us all what a stupid and ignorant woman you are by saying that  children need to be protected from transgender people who can go into girls bathrooms and molest them. In order to relieve you of your gross unawareness, I will inform you that transgender people have no interest in harming children. Their interest is in living their lives as a member of the opposite sex.

The man you need to be concerned with coming into your little girl’s bathroom is you own flesh and blood son- your child molesting son- Josh Duggar. When we point the fingers at others t,here is often three fingers pointing back at us as is the case here.

SHOULD CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES GET INVOLVED?

A three or five year old child who looks at the genitals of a child of the opposite sex out of curiosity – “I’ll show you mine if you show me yours” may be acceptable in terms of normal development but it is NOT normal for a 15 year old to look at a  five year olds private parts.  It is sick and is what a pedophile does. If Josh did this as was revealed in the media, he was and may still be a pedophile.  Pedophiles usually don’t change their behavior unless they are given hormone treatment or castrated. The recidivism rate among child molesting predators in prison is astounding. They can never be cured. If Josh is presently  a bona fide pedophile I am deeply concerned for his own children.

TELLING AND TRAGIC INTERVIEWS WITH THE SEXUALLY MOLESTED DUGGAR DAUGHTERS

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At the end of this tragic FOX  interview which revealed so much about the Duggars, there was a teaser about an upcoming interview with the Duggar daughters- the victims of Josh. Although one cried,  she was not crying because she was molested. Instead she was crying because the information was released and made public. The other daughter was defensive and also blamed others like the person who released the information, instead of blaming the culprit who molested her- Josh.

That spoke volumes about these young ladies being in denial. They need professional help asap and I pray that they get it.

Bruce Jenner Desperately Needs Feminizing Voice, Speech and Body Language Coaching To Complete His Male to Female Transition

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In making his transition from male to female,  Bruce Jenner has put a lot of effort into his skin with  injectable  lip and face fillers botox, surgically minimizing his adam’s apple, breast enhancement, and many other physical changes. But the one important change that he has neglected is the sound of his voice, the content of his speech, and adopting a more feminized body language

Having taught countless transgender clients in my practice who went from female to male how to sound like a man and  male to to male transgender clients how to sound like a woman I would love to be the one to help Bruce make these changes so that he could feel more secure and confident in his new gender role. In fact I want to personally reach out to Bruce through this blog to let him know that I can help him with establishing a more feminine voice, speech patterns, as well as a more female  body language .

After all, if I could help Dustin Hoffman sound like a woman for his Dorothy character in his award winning performance of “Tootsie”  I can definitely help Bruce Jenner.


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After it  was publicly known that I was the one who helped  Dustin to sound like a woman, transgender clients from all over the country sought out my services to help them make that vocal and body language transition which would help cement their identity in the opposite sex and allow others to perceive them as more feminine (or masculine for those seeking a female to male  transition).

My experience  in helping the  transgender population began when I was doing my Master’s Degree at the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor, Michigan. At the time the University of Michigan Medical Center was one of the few places in the world where people came for gender reassignment surgery. So in order to assist these patients with their total image, they were often sent to the University of Michigan Speech Clinic.

Unbeknownst to me, I was assigned one such patient- a lovely woman with long dark hair and exotic features. My first task was to do a complete speech and vocal analysis of this woman. I wrote up a very detailed report for my professor and mentor, Dr. H. Harlan Bloomer about the woman’s low pitched voice, her pitch range, and diction and how she presented herself. Because the patient had such a  limited pitch range and a low voice, I wrote up a differential diagnosis in her report  that she may be suffering from vocal cord  trauma or may have some vocal cord growths which may attribute to her vocal issues. While Dr. Bloomer said he was impressed with the detailed analysis of my report, he said I missed something very crucial. She was actually a “he”.

I must say that I was surprised as I had never known anything like this.Dr. Bloomer said that my task was to make her sound like a woman. I immediately went to the Medical Library to find out all I could about how to do that, but there were no books or articles on the topic. There was an obscure book that was written by a Harvard linguistics Professor  but it was very academic and didn’t tell what to do. So I tried to figure things out by the seat of my pants and at the end of our six week therapy sessions, my client sounded like a woman and very few could detect that she had been or sounded like a man months earlier. Because of my success with this client, I was the one who was given all of the transgender patients who needed to change their voice and speech  patterns to match their new sexual identity.

After graduating from Michigan and getting my doctorate at the University of Minnesota where my focus was now in the area of medical genetics and psychosocial aspects of speech, voice, and cosmetic appearance in patients with cranial facial deformities, I then went to UCLA School of Medicine and  did a post doctoral fellowship, doing  research in the area of birth defects and associated speech and voice disorders in the area of Medical Genetics. It was there that I really was able to hone my diagnostic skills in assessing people from head to toe, which was instrumental in my present incarnation as a voice and body language expert.

One evening, I took a break  from my post-doctorate studies and my research and accepted an invitation to my first Hollywood party. A far cry from the world of academia where I spent so such time, it was so was so exciting  and refreshing to me to see all of these glamorous and beautiful people who had so much to say about themselves, telling me about all the acting roles they got, and the next movie I would see them in. Then  it came  my turn to share what I did. I also shared my experience with them of working with transgender clients when I was in graduate school. A film producer overheard what I said and asked me for my card. I didn’t have a card back then so I wrote my number down a on a piece of paper.

A few days later, I got a call from a person whom I didn’t know who told me he was a director and that his friend at the party I attended gave him my number. The director then told me there was someone he wanted me to meet to help him sound like a woman and that I had to come to an address in Westwood (not too far from UCLA) the next day at the specified time. But there was one important thing I had to know- that I couldn’t tell anyone where I was going and what I was doing. As a naive 25 year old I enthusiastically agreed to it and showed up the next afternoon. As I walked up the long winding stairway to the front door, I began to feel a bit anxious and wondered what I got myself into. I knocked on the door and who should appear? None other than Dustin Hoffman. In the weeks and months that followed I taught Dustin everything I possibly knew about gender differences in communication. I shared with him everything I learned from working with the transgender clients at the University of Michigan.

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Years later I wrote a best selling book about gender differences in communication called He Says She Says, Closing the Communication Gap Between the Sexes and went on the speaking circuit where I spoke to thousands of people on the topic. I also did the TV talk show circuit on the topic. Understanding how differently men and woman communicated  with one another helped many couples learn to better relate to one another. It also helped  avoid many misunderstanding in the workplace where men and woman  now learned the nuances of communication with the opposite sex.

More business women learned how they needed to get to the point quicker, and not answer a question with a question or go up at the end of sentences, while more businessmen learned that they needed to use less command terms and take up less physical space when dealing with women. In fact there were 103 differences that men and women needed to be aware of to help them better communicate with one another.

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So back to Bruce Jenner.  Having worked with so many transgender clients,  I truly feel for Bruce. I know the emotional pain these clients have been in all of their lives. I know how they have been teased and emotionally abused. I know how many of their friends and relatives will never speak to them again when they go through the transition. I also know the very dark side of this transition process and that is that 60 percent of those who undergo the transition become so depressed afterwards that they  commit suicide. It is shocking and it is scary as they find that life in their new gender doesn’t cure all of their past issues and in fact, may create more issues than they had before.

Bruce may be one of the lucky ones in that he seems to have a good family support system with his mother and  two sons for sure and perhaps  step daughter Khloe.It seems that his younger daughters with Kris, Kylie and Kendall  are having a hard time with it. Kyle’s acting out and dating a 25 year old when she is 17 may have something to do with her ambivalence towards Bruce. The last thing Bruce needs now as he makes his transition is badmouthing from Kris. This could play havoc on his psyche especially now that he is on hormone therapy. That is why he needs to cut ALL ties with her and hire a great PR person to defect any poison PR arrows Kris may shoot at him in the media. Kris may use this opportunity to play the victim- that she had no idea about his desire to become a woman. Know that no one can live with someone for 20 something years and do business with them and share intimate moments with the person and not know something. This is not about Kris. It is about Bruce and Bruce’s PR minions need to keep making that very clear.

Bruce’s role in the recent traffic collision where his car hit a woman who was killed must also be weighing heavily on his mind. The fact that he is coming out in front of millions of people is also a Herculean task. Not everyone will embrace him. People will be mean as they have been already. With some, Bruce’s transition, threatens their masculinity and angers them for what he did.Many looked up to Bruce as a great athlete and Olympic heros.They still may want to see him this way and now when they see him looking like a woman and wearing women’s clothing, it upsets their psyche. Many will become angry because they don’t want to see him this way. Many religious people will think what Bruce did was wrong and will let him know about it. Many will call him a freak,

But Bruce is not a freak. He was feeling like he was in the wrong body for his entire life as he admitted. Perhaps that was why he could endure the punishing workouts that allowed him to become an Olympian. Perhaps he so wanted to be be seen as masculine at the time that he overcompensated. No matter what, Bruce is at a very crucial time in his life. He needs a lot of emotional support and a lot of strength.

I am here to support Bruce through my skill set as I am reaching out to him with the intention of helping him to have more confidence and credibility in his voice, speech patterns,and body language as he ventures out in the world as a woman.