Aaron Hernandez Cocky Body Language and Smiles in the Courtroom Will Turn Off Jurors

Screen Shot 2015-03-08 at 10.42.40 AM Former New England Patriots player Aaron Hernandez is on trial  in a Massachusetts courtroom for  the murder of his fiance’s sister Odin Lloyd. . While  prosecutors their case  case that he killed another man.

While he has a serious facial expression as he appears to listen carefully to the evidence against him displayed on the monitors, he often laughs and jokes with his fiance or with his family members when they are present.In fact, he appears very charming and beams his dimpled smile.

He has been reported to have a swagger when he walks as well and a cocky demeanor as he sits in his seat.

What he doesn’t realize is that his body language and facial language will be working against him.Jurys as well as judges  don’t like seeing happy or cocky people when they are on trial for murder. So this may very well influence how the jury voices as well as his sentencing.

Jodi Arias Allowed to Live As Travis Alexander’s Death Teaches Us About Trusting Our Instincts When We Realize Someone Is Toxic

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The verdict is out and  Jodi Arias will not die by lethal injection, nor by any other means, after slaughtering her ex boyfriend Travis Alexander. Even though 11 of the 12 jurors felt that death would be the right punishment for her, there was one lone juror who refused to commit to having Jodi put to death.

As someone who does jury selection and trial consulting for a living, you can never ultimately predict  what will happen in a real trial. Even if you ask jurors who are serving on a death penalty case if they could in fact choose death as one of their choices and they answer “yes”, when push comes to shove and they have to make the decision as to whether someone lives or dies, many cannot choose death after all..

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When the judge told the jury that they had to decide on an outcome after four days of deliberation, I knew that Jodi would most likely  not be put to death. Now she has to await the judges decision, which will occur in April,  as to whether she will spend life behind bars without parole or life with parole after two and a half decades when she will be in her mid fifties as you can see by this art rendering of her aging.

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Whether or not she gets life or life without parole, there will be times at the harsh Perryville Prison  where Jodi will be baking in the scorching Arizona sun, in an open air cage, that she may very well have wished she received the death penalty when the other prisoners make her life a living hell.

The bottom line is that Jodi will be living under harsh conditions where she may spend most of her time in isolation in order to protect her from other prisoners  because she is such a high profile case. This could be the worst torture of all for Jodi Arias who thrives on attention and manipulation of others. If there is no one to manipulate or to give Jodi, her attention fix, life for her may not be worth living.

In any event, one does not have to be killed to receive just punishment as Jodi will soon discover in her new home.

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One of the most anguishing sites at the trial was seeing Travis’ sister, who loved her brother so much, break down and cry in such pain. She was inconsolable, while  Jodi  was at the other end of the courtroom showing no compassion and no emotion as you can see below. Perhaps she was in shock. Perhaps she had expected to receive the death penalty.

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One of the things that jurors said after the trial was that  throughout the trial, Jodi showed no remorse for what she did to Travis. This was not surprising to me. The bottom line is that Jodi actually believed that she was was a woman scorned. In  her warped thinking,  she no doubt felt that Travis got what he deserved. That is why she showed no remorse and no genuine emotion. She did not feel sorry for what she did to him. She felt that he abused her and used her and he had what was coming to him.

While almost all of the jurors felt the opposite, there was one juror who obviously thought along the lines as Jodi. She too, felt that Travis abused her and used her.

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While so many people remarked that Travis was a wonderful guy, truth be told, he was full of contradictions. He wanted to follow his faith and not engage in sex before marriage, yet he continued to engag in sex with Jodi. He told Jodi she was not the woman for him and wanted to find a pure Mormon wife, yet he continued to engage in sex with Jodi. He told Jodi to leave him alone and not stalk him, but yet continued to allow her into his life and into his bed. He allowed her to clean his home. He allowed her into his life, instead of calling the police and getting a restraining order against her and being vigilant about her ever being in his presence.

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When Travis first met Jodi he was taken with her. he thought she was beautiful, glamorous and super sweet. But her sickeningly sweet tones belied her. They reflected a great deal of psychopathology. As Travis got to know Jodi, he realized there was something very wrong with this woman. Yet, he continued to take her to bed and have sex with her. He continued to travel with her.

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He  eerily voiced his concern about Jodi being a serial killer to many of his friends. Even his friends picked up on the fact that there was something off about Jodi as they asked in disbelief, if she was always that “sweet”. It was that sickening sweetness that didn’t ring true to either Travis or his friends.

But being the nice guy that he was and wanting adventure as well as ” having his cake and eating it too”, he ignored his instincts. He ignored what he saw and what he heard out of Jodi’s mouth. He ignored her tones and her actions.He ignored his own gut level reactions that he shared with friends, and unfortunately,  he ignored the action he need to take. That action was to stay completely away from Jodi and never allow her  back into his life under any circumstances. He needed to cut off the phone calls and the visits for good.

His lack of listening to  and trusting his initial instincts about Jodi and acting upon them,  tragically  cost him his life. I am in no way blaming the victim – blaming Travis. Instead, I am pointing out how his death can serve as an example to all of us and to our children. If we see and hear and feel something is not right about another person, we must cut it off asap and never look back.

When the hairs on the back of your neck stand up, when you feel queasy or nauseated around the person, when you have a tinge of fear around them- run as fast as your feet will carry you and never look back.

And remember to never trust anyone with a high pitched baby girl sickeningly sweet breathy, monotone,  voice quality devoid of demotion. This voice often reflects a passive aggressive personality. Their voice indicates that they are hiding something and not revealing their true selves.

Nothing happens in a vacuum. There is alway a  “cause” and and an “effect”. The “cause” of Travis engaging in sex with Jodi and then taking a shower to get ready to take another woman out of town created the “effect” of  having a very disturbed woman  brutally murder him.  The cause of his not listening to and trusting and acting on his negative  instincts about  Jodi, created the tragic effect of him leaving the earth way too soon.

Travis did not die in vain. His death teaches us  that we all to pay close attention to that gut level feeling that tells us something is wrong with being around a specific person. If you are around someone where you even joke about them being a serial killer, get away from them as soon as possible. Your instincts are screaming that something is wrong.  Had Travis listened to his gut and trusted his instincts and never allowed Jodi  into his life again, he would probably be alive today.   May he rest in peace and may Jodi be held accountable  and deal with the effects that her actions caused for the rest of her natural life.

Netanyahu Passionate Powerful Body Language and Voice During Moving Speech Before Congress

Screen Shot 2015-03-03 at 8.50.57 AM  No matter what your political opinion is, no one can deny the passion and expression that came out of Benjamin Netanyahu when he spoke  in a vibrant and clear tone that  made things understandable to everyone. In delivering his message, he  made it  very clear  in terms of the consequences of  Iran and nuclear arms.

No one could have relayed the message in front of Congress better in his flawless American Accent than Israeli Prime Minister Netanyahu. The message was loud and clear and highly emotional as he spoke with respect and appreciation in terms of how Obama  and America has helped Israel as he relayed the message of  message” peace  that we all desire”

Netanyau’s outstanding vocal cadance  moved people and got them to their feet as he spoke about not allowing “dark and murderous regimes” to succeed.

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Perhaps the most powerful and emotional message which brought everything home and gave things a concrete and realistic perspective was when Netanyahu introduced Elie Weissel,  Holocaust survivor and winner of the Nobel Peace Prize. When Netanyahu said “is life and survival is what  inspires us to give meaning to the words NEVER AGAIN” there was an eruption of clapping as he urged leaders to not repeat the past.

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When Netanyahu said “The days are over when we remain passive in genocidal ” atrocities there was a  loud roar from the crowd as he said ”  We the Jewish people can defend ourself, even if it has to stand alone it will stand.”  He then said    human spirit  refuses to succum to histories  of horrors. He then said that Israel doesn’t have to stand alone as  America is standing with Israel,” which  resulted in loud applause and whops of agreement.

His quote of Moses in Hebrew was very moving as well. As she ended his speech he said ” Be strong and resolute never fear nor dread them  May be face futre with confidence faith and hope  May GOD BLESS ISRAEL AND THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA.”

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As he walked off the podium and walked through the chamber, he was met with handshakes, pats on the back as the crowd continued clapping for him as they reacted positively to the impact Netanyahu had.

In my view Netanyahu needed to address Congress.  America and the  world needed to hear what he had to say as it was essential for the peace process that he be heard. He was respectful and did not say anything negative against Obama. He relayed his message with passion and an urgency with regard to not repeating the past.

Giuliana Rancic Apologetic and Frightened Body Language

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When  Fashion Police co-host Giuiiana Rancic received a lot of backlash from her comment about singer Zendaya’s  dreadlocks, saying the girl looked like she” smelled of weed and patchouli oil,” she got on the air and apologized. The apology was sincere and Giulianna looked scared and upset. Through her  mea culpa, the tone sounded very sincere as she took full responsibility for her statement, her wide eyed  tensed face fear permeated throughout the apology. Being a veteran journalist, she knew very well what her having to apologize meant. She knew that this may be the end of her days at the show and may affect her future on television on general. There was no  PR spin that could be done as Guiliana crossed the line. She only realized it after she received a lot of hate and backlash, especially from the stars she has interviewed in  he past like Whoppie Goldberg  (who called her a bonenhead) and Kerry Washington and countless others .

For someone who had dedicated her life to her career, Giulainna has every reason to be scared and upset. Instead of covering the news she is the news which is a very bad thing for any journalist. Look at what happened to Brian Williams. When he became the news he was off the news.  Also what Rancic said was not forgiven by Zendaya who then issued a statement about racism and the expression of hair. Then many others followed suit.

Kelly Osborn, another co- host on the show knew the implications of Giulanna’s comments and  didn;t want to be associated by Guilian’s verbal stink, So  she immediately said she would quit the show if Giulliana didn’t apologize.

There are some things which can be forgiven and others which cannot be forgiven, especially statements which are perceived to smack of a racial undertone. There is no way that Giullaana can ever  freely get on the red carpet again without someone recalling what she said or without someone having  a bad taste in their mouth about her. That is very significant as many may not want to talk to her on the air and may shun her and  not want to be associated with her her. In essence , her  words may  affect the number of people who would  want to talk to her at any red carpet event. That would affect the quality of any show she hosts.

The whole debacle speaks of something bigger than Giulanna’s comment. It speaks to the issue of having a show who’s main purpose is to cut down what someone wore to  and awards presentation.

Without Joan Rivers, the show clearly doesn’t work anymore. The show was created for Joan.  who was both a fashion maven,  who always dressed  to the hilt and a  brilliant comedian. The success of the show was because she  knew how to combine her  spicy jokes and fashion. So the show made sense. Because of Joan’s age, and the network’s demographics, they added younger people to the mix like  Kelly Osbourne  and Giulianna Rancic and some others. Then when Joan passed, they got Kathy Griffin to take over which made no sense. Kathey, who was not into  fashion was now dressed and styled. The show took on more of a mean spirit. As a result, Giulanna let loose with her comment about smells.It is also ironic that Guiliana who has constantly been the news for her  uncomfortable looking anorexic thin body, which overshadows any fashion, iis making judgements about how others look in their clothing.

My view is that Giullana needs to leave the show and the show and  leave the air for a while . It is clear that it is over since Joan was the show.Giulanna needs to get off the air for a while and reinvent herself, perhaps with a few more pounds added to her frame. Then it will be up to the public to see if she is forgiven by whether they watch any show she hosts as that will  determine if they will forgive her and  welcome her back.

Body Language Shows All Is Not Forgiven with John Travolta and Irena Menzel

At last years Oscars John Travolta messed up big time as he misread the teleprompter calling Idina Menzel Adele Dazeem as he introduced her before she sang. Perhaps it indicated a problem with dyslexia he may have been hiding or perhaps it indicated that he didn’t prepare or rehearse enough. The press let him have it. So this year  to add some humor to the Oscar presentations Irina introduced John and her good friend Glom Gozingo as they were to present the award for best song.

But truth be told, Travolta was highly embarrassed by this and in order to compensate grabbed Idina Menzel’s chin which made her cringe, look down  and turn away from him .

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The chin grab was for him to regain control over the situation as he sang her praises. But she was having none of it body language wise.

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When he first came on stage he got too close for comfort to Idina whom you can see is pulling away from him. She is also not too thrilled about being with him as you can see the muscle tension in her body and her hand automatically balls up in a fist ike position indicating inner anger at the situation she has been placed in.

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As he grabbed her chin she tried to make light of it at first as she felt very uncomfortable and turned her body away from him. She decided to clap to make it seem that things were Ok but deep down they were not OK.

It seems like he grabbed and held on to her chin as a pre gesture of wanting to kiss her but she was having none of it. In essence his gesture backfired on him as he continued to hold on to her chin.

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Everyone noticed how awkward this was so now doubt his handlers quickly got him on Jimmy Kimmel Live in order to  diffuse the situation and to make a joke out of it. But in reality it was no joke. It was about a once very popular actor who made a huge embarrassing mistake by calling a fellow performer by a wrong name and then trying to rectify the situation by allowing his name to be called with a wrong name. But John Travolta was too embarrassed by this as well so he tried to take control over the situation and Irina and it backfired once again.

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He also appeared to be very touchy feely with other guests like Scarlett Johanssen as you can see. She did not welcome his kiss nor his hand on her abdomen which is a very intimate gesture.

All of this shows that John as an aging actor still wants to be relevant, but it  is not working.

Michelle Obama Body Language Shows She’s Disgusted By Saudis and Lack of Head Scarf Makes A Loud Statement

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Michelle Obama’s body language clearly shows that she is no fan of the Saudis. For one, she refused to wear a head scarf during the visit. This apparently upset Saudi’s and other Muslims throughout the world as was reported in the press. While one could think that she may have made a mistake or breached social protocol because she wasn’t aware of the customs this was clearly not the case.  .

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In 2010 when she visited Indonesia, she respectfully donned a head  scarf for her visit. So she clearly knows the rules and the drill in Muslim countries. But this time she decided that she didn’t want to show respect for the Saudi’s as she went bare headed.Screen Shot 2015-01-27 at 7.26.39 PMWhile she may consider herself very special  on American soil where she gets a lot of attention,  on Saudi land hardly anyone  shook her hand or even spoke to her.  This clearly disturbed her as you can see from her soured look and her angrily grabbing on to her own wrist with a fist-like handf. This clealrly showed that Michelle was angry.

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Her angry faced expressions continued throughout the visit as she could not hide her contempt.

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Her angry and disgusted looks continued throughout the visit as you can see. On the one hand, as a Western woman who can blame Michelle for her feelings where women are not allowed to drive, have no independence and need the permission of a male relative (husband, grandfather, father,  uncle, brother, or son) to do anything. There is no such thing as women walking alone  on the street at their own free will. Women can only go to women doctors and study in classes where there are only women.Women have little or no value except to marry and have children. If their husband wants to take multiple wives, they have no say. They also cannot initiate a divorce and their husband. However their husband can get rid of them just by uttering that they are divorcing their wife. There is no such thing as alimony and if the husband is Toxic or heartless he can render her homeless and penniless.

But from the view of being First Lady and accompanying her husband on a good will trip to meet and greet and the new King Solomon, many believe Michelle did not act correctly. They believe that she should have donned a head scarf and should not have worn pants but a long dress instead. This visit was not about Michele, It was about trying to make friends with the new leader. Clearly, there was no winning friends or influencing anyone via Michelle’s actions. In fact many took this as a personal insult or slap in the face.

From my view I believe that one must respect the cultures of others when you are on their territory. I myself have even donned a head scarf when I have lectured in certain countries where the head scarf was expected to be worn by women. Even though I was a Westerner I thought it was more respectful if I wore one and it was very well received and much appreciated. It showed that I respected their culture.

Michelle’s body language can be translated  by many as reported in the  press as to her being defiant and arrogant. There was no question that she was angry and disgusted. There was also no question that her presence and actions were not very diplomatic.

Tom Brady’s Body Language Shows Multiple Signals of Deception

Is Tom Bray a liar?

Here are some signals of deception which I observed during his press conference in response to the  crucial questions he was asked.

1. Smiling when asked if he’s a cheater  Hiis reponse is ” I don’t think so” Someone who would be asked if they were a cheater would not usually be smiling  if they were not a cheater as they would be angry about the accusation and reflect their anger in their facial expression.

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2. Shoulder Shrugs

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3. Gestures using back of his hand instead of palm of hand

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4. Rocks back and forth

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5.  He often  swallows hard a licks his lips and shows “cotton mouth”

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6. Scratches his head

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7. Repeats words and phrases  and often stammers

8.Blinks eyes rapidly,

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9. Shakes head no when he should be nodding it yes, especially seen when he is  talking about fair play.

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10. Dies off at the end of sentences where he can barely be heard,

11. Breathing changes as he  suddenly goes to upper chest breathing,

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12. Says “you know” often

13. Tension in midface  (nasal area) when saying he doesnt know what happened

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14. Lots of duping delight (inapproriate smiling) when talking about balls being touched and in other answers

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15. Lip pursing
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In my view he showed multiple signals of tension and deception during the press conference which disturbed me. if someone was not showing these signals they would have spoken with more gravitas and would have shown different facial and body language and speech and voice characteristics.