Dr.Lillian Glass Called It Early On With Kate Gosslin’s Children Needing Help

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Years ago, through my many blogs about the Toxic behavior I and everyone else in the world, who saw the show Kate Plus 8, witnessed on television, I predicted that Kate  Gosselin’s  children would be needing therapy and some would even need special treatment. Now it has come to pass.  //drlillianglassbodylanguageblog.wordpress.com/tag/colin-gosselin/

Apparently, one of Kate’s sextuplets, Colin Gosselin has been sent away from the family to a boarding facility for treatment of his “special needs.”.While this is a good thing in that the boy is finally getting treatment for what ails him, it is a bad thing in that Kate didn’t take care of this boy’s obvious needs sooner. He is now 12 years old and many believe that the help she finally allowed him to have was “too little too late.” Continue reading

Is Ryan Lochte A Sociopath? Lame Apology May Give Insight

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One of the most difficult things to spot is when a Sociopath is lying. When Ryan Lochte gave his interviews with Billy Bush, he was fluid and fluent. He had no ums or uhs in his speech and no other vocal tells of deception. Physcially there were no body language tells either, .to indicate that he lied. While there was one story that caused a little raised eyebrow as  he told Billy- that the robber asked him to give him his money and  Ryan told the robber  “no,”  it could be dismissed as a carryover of the gold medalist’s brazen fearless attitude that he showed in the Olympic pool. When asked to give over their money, most  people would give it readily, especially if there was a gun involved in any way. Other than that statement, Ryan showed a calm, collected attitude as he shared the story with Bush.

 

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It was only when Matt Lauer interviewed him and the story changed from the gun being “pointed  at his head “ to the gun being “pointed in his direction” it was clear that Ryan was a liar.

At first, no one wanted to believe Ryan would lie about this. It made sense that he would have been robbed, considering the fact that Rio has the highest crime rate and robberies are rampant. In addition, why would Ryan make this up? He certainly didn’t need attention .  After all, he was a Gold medalist and was getting loads of attention. So why would he make  something like this up?

One reason he would make this up  may possibly be that he may perhaps have sociopathic tendencies. Sociopaths have a tendency to invent outrageous lies about their experiences. They wildly exaggerate and make up things to the point of absurdity, but when they describe it to you in a storytelling format, for some reason, it sounds believable at the time.That is exactly the case with Ryan, especially with his story about saying “no” to the robber. 

Sociopaths are also incapable of apologizing and feeling remorse. Only because the other athletes he was with were forced to  come clean, essentially “busting” Ryan, Lochte gave a public apology. It wasn’t verbal. It was written  on instragram. If Lochte didn’t make a statement he would be in further danger with his sponsors and with the IOC.

The apology speaks volumes about Ryan. It begins by saying I apologize for not being more careful and candid in how I described the events. he doesn’t say he apologizes for lying but rather for not being careful. In essence, he is saying that his only remorse is getting caught. This is typical sociopathic rhetoric as they are not direct with their apologies and couch them in a way to deflect  the seriousness of what they did.

He also says that he apologizes for taking the attention away from his fellow athletes. This is not what he needs to be sorry for. He needs to be sorry for making up a lie about Brazil, who already has a terrible reputation when it comes to robberies and crime. He needed to apologize for adding fuel to the fire, yet he doesn’t do so.

Since Sociopaths never truly apologize because they feel they  are never wrong, they also never feel guilt. If they are forced to apologize like Ryan was they will go on the defensive, In the next paragraph of Lochte;s apology, He blames the a. language barrier  and still insists that a gun was pointed at him  and money was demanded to let him leave, But he doesn;t say that he and his fellow swimmers broke the bathroom door and they security guard wanted them to pay for it. He didn’t say that the payment was a mere 50 something dollars.

Then Lochte demonstrates yet another signal of the sociopath;s behavior in his apology when he tries to lay on the charm and kiss up to those he needs. In Lochte’s case it was the International Olympic Committee, and the United States Olympic Committee.He gives a kiss up shout out to them as he knows what may be in store for him, They could potentially go as far as banning him if they see fit, for his lies and causing an international incident in an already flamable situation.

Finally he encourages people to move on and to essentially forget about what he did as he says he “looks ahead to celebrating future successes.

This may be wishful thinking on Lochte’s part. He has damaged his public image forever. People are not quick to forget when another one of their hero’s let them down with all of his lying behavior- Lance Armstrong. They are certainly not going to let Lochte off the hook so easily. This has severely damaged his brand due to his issues with credibility.

 

While Lochte showed no signals of deception in Billy Bush interview, he is inconsistent in Matt Lauer interview indicating deception

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Screen Shot 2016-08-18 at 9.24.56 AM.pngWhen Ryan Lochte told Billy Bush that he was robbed in an interview in Brazil, he did not exhibit any signals of deception. There was no stuttering or hemming and hawing. There were no body language signals to indicate that he was being anything other than truthful. The story also sounded plausible but there was one part when Ryan said that the robber told him to give him his money and he said no, that seemed odd to me. I didn’t take issue with it because after winning a gold medal and feeling on top of the word and invincible, it would seem plausible that an Olympian might say something like that an even defy a robber.

But when she spoke to Matt Lauer over the phone in an off the record conversation, there was cause for concern. Unlike his interview with Billy Bush whether he said that the gun was pointed at his head, he told Matt that the fun was pointed in his direction. This makes me question whether Ryanis telling the truth.

In analysing deception, the more information you have, the more certain you can be as to whether someone is telling the truth or not . In Ryan’s mind perhaps he  come to believe that this is the truth – that he was robbed based on the fact that he was allegedly drunk. Perhaps that was his reality as there was a  guard armed with a pistol. In his mind he may have come to believe that the gun was aimed at him, which accounts for his lack of deceptive signals to Billy Bush.

Apparently there was an altercation at a gas station n Rio as Lochte, along with fellow swimmers Jack Conger, Gunnar Bentz and Jimmy Feigen, stopped at a gas station in  a suburb of Rio where many Olympic venues are located. One of the swimmers tried but failed to open the door of an outside bathroom.

Apparently several  swimmers  pushed on the door and broke it. A security guard appeared who was armed with a pistol, never took it out or pointed it at the swimmers. The swimmers were then asked to pay for the broken door and left.

Perhaps in Lochte’s mind, the fact that he was out some money for the payment of the door, translated into his inebriated mind as being robbed.

His seeing the gun and then feeling as though he was robbed by having to pay for the door) may have angered him and created an exaggerated  scenario in his mind that the gun was pointed at him and that he was robbed and out money.

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When swimmers Conger and Bentz  were pulled off a plane going back to the United States they admitted that the robbery story had been fabricated.

The fact that Lochet is sticking to his guns and now has an attorney spokesman speaks volumes. It says that he may indeed believe the story in his own mind that a gun was pointed at him by a police officer who in reality was a security guard, he may also be sticking to his guns in order to save face and not lose endorsement as no one likes a liar to represent their product. We are talking about millions of dollars here. So if Ryan comes clean and brands himself a liar it is a no win situation. The final scenario is that he is a sociopath who is so cool, calm, and collected in his lies that he sounds believable.

In any event, this is a very embarrassing situation for Lochte and is something that will follow him forever. Even if he is telling the truth which based on this additional information I no longer believe based on the Matt Lauer interview as well as new information which has surfaced, he will be branded as a liar.

 

 

Sociopath? Ryan Lochte Shows No Body Language or Verbal Signals of Deception In Speaking of the Robbery

Screen Shot 2016-08-14 at 8.20.46 PMSwimming Gold Medalist  Ryan Lochte said he was a victim of an armed robbery in Brazil after coming home from a party  for one of his friends in Rio. He showed no signals of deception as he relayed the story to interviewer, Billy Bush. He was on point and spoke fluidly and fluently. He showed no body language signals of deception. Therefore I completely believe what he said about the robbery.

But the US Olympic Committee and the International Olympic Committee (IOC) denied Lochte’s account of what happened . It seems to me that they clearly may have  wanted to cover themselves and protect their own interests , since they made this statement without ever interviewing Lochte or any of the other alleged victims. It was reported that  both organizations didn’t even contact the alleged robbed swimmers after the robbery, even though they were all living at the Olympic village.

Ryan Lochte would have no reason to make up a robbery attempt. He certainly doesn’t need this type of attention and has never had a history of high drama. Whether anyone wants to admit it  or not, Rio is one of the most dangerous cities in the world as are so many other cities  in Brazil.

In fact, when I was in Sao Paulo, Brazil several years ago on a book tour, I was driven around in an armored car. So there was a great concern about crime. I also have a very close friend in Brazil and when we traveled around the city, we were also in an armored car and ran through all the red lights because to stop could get one robbed  and killed.

In my view, the US Olympic Committee and the IOC are not respecting one of their star athletes. Instead, they are essentially calling Lochte a liar.They clearly seem to believe that admitting that Rio is a dangerous city and that a robbery took place would be bad PR for the games, so they are spinning it.

Apparently, Lochte reported that the robbers were disguised as police . If they admitted Lochte’s story was accurate and word got out that robbers were posing as police officers in and in essence stopping  tourists and robbing them with guns to their head, this would be bad for the games and for their revenue.

Having a gun pointed at Lochte’s head as he said in a very calm manner, may have some sever lasting effects on him. perhaps he is now in a state of shock as to what actually happened to him. When some time passes and he has more time to process the event and that he could have lost his life, I would not be surprised if he showed symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder  (PTSD) in the future. The fact that his own US Olympic Committee and the IOC aren’t standing by him and supporting what happened to him will not doubt add to his injury and could have an emotional  effect on him. It could even have serious implications in terns of his psyche as an athlete.

So much of being a star athlete has to do with your mental abilities and focus as well as your physical prowess.If his own organizations are not behind him, it may have an effect on his motivation level in the future and on his psychological state . No one wants to be labeled as a liar when they have come forth and shared a life threatening experience.

The implications of Lochte being believed  and the committees causing doubt about what he said can potentially affect  his endorsements in the futures and ultimately, his finances. There may be a possibility that endorsers may shy away from Lochte as a result of this controversy created by the US and International Olympic  committees.

Hillary Clinton Leaking Out Awkward Body Language and Communication

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As a body language and communication  expert, I can say that  some of  Hillary Clinton’s recent body language, facial language voice and speech behaviors do seem awkward. The awkward  behaviors that she has leaked out may be cause for concern.

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As far as her coughing spells are concerned, they may be due to  post nasal drip or she may have some type of bronchial spasm. With her nonstop schedule, constant flying and enormous stress, it seems that her laryngeal  tissues are taking a beating. So it is  understandable  to me as to why she may be  having coughing spells when she speaks. She may have contracted an upper respiratory infection that has stubbornly refused to go away. Sometimes it can take several months for the cough to subside, so I am not so concerned about Hillary’s coughing behavior when she speaks. Also she doesn’t cough constantly when she speaks. It is occasional , which is  further indication as to why it  does not concern me.

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But there was an  incident  that does concern me. Two reporters asked her a question at once.  It seemed to jar her as she bobbed her head back and forth  and closed her eyes.

 

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Even though her head was bobbing and her eyes were closed, she  kept smiling throughout  the whole ordeal.

 

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The reporters ,who were previously smiling and laughing with Hillary, suddenly got serious in their facial expression and the reporter on the left even backed away and looked frightened. The reporter on the right cocked her head in wonder  as she furrowed her brow as if to question what was happening with Hillary. Hillary was so engaging moments earlier where she discussed Obama’s endorsement of her.

But now, she didn’t answer the reporter’s questions. When she did  regained her composure, she attempted to distract the two reporters  by  asking them if they ever tried the latte and said that they should do so. She then left.

Most recently, she was very articulate  and connected to her audience when discussing health care in her staccato cadence. All of a sudden, she was disconnected and looked lost She didn’t  seem to remember what she was talking about. Her entire facial expression changed. She then made no sense as she said “upward spiral”. We have heard of a “downward spiral,” but  never an “upward spiral”. This word confusion may have  indicated that there may have been some type of cognitive confusion going on with Hillary.

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Then there was a situation where Hillary apparently had a blank disconnected stare for a few moments as she focused on some commotion going on in front of her with animal protesters. The Secret Service agent got on stage and told her to” keep talking”  “We’ll handle it. We’re not going anywhere. She quickly recovered and cleverly said the protesters were there for Trump because” he and his kids killed a lot of animals.”

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When Hillary said she “short circuited “her email explanation, she looked extremely exhausted with bags under each of her eyes. It was clear that all the email talk has taken a physical toll on her. As she goes on to explain herself after the Chris Wallace interview, she actually makes no sense. At first it sounded like “double talk.” But on closer inspection it was difficult to follow exactly what she was trying to say because it was not coherent.

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Now photos have emerged where Hillary is being helped up a series of steps. In the photo on the left it appears that her legs are stiff and that  she has trouble walking up the stairs. She is grabbing at one of the agent’s arms to steady herself and he is clasping on to her arm to make sure she doesn’t fall. Perhaps she hurt her leg or her back.  Another speculation is that she may not be feeling well. She may have felt dizzy or sick to her stomach ,which could have also caused her to require some assistance with walking.

There has been a lot of talk by some medical experts who state that she may have post concussion syndrome, based on her fall several years ago. Other medical experts have speculated that she may have Parkinson’s disease or some other type of neurological condition. But since none of these doctors, who appeared on television have not treated Hillary, we cannot be sure about what may really be wrong with her.

While Hillary has done a great job of holding it together for the most part, the bottom line is that  the awkward  behavior which she  leaked out on so many occasions,   tells us that something is  clearly off with her. The zoning out, forgetting what she was saying, head bobbing, eyes closing, and not making sense, speaks volumes. It does indeed seem like her body language and speech patterns have been “short circuited.”

Once again, as a reminder, this is not a political blog. I merely report what I see from body language standpoint and report what I hear from a communication standpoint.

 

 

 

Caitlyn Jenner’s Canceled Show May Be a Blessing In Disguise

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When Caitlyn Jenner  first made her transition from male to female, I filmed a segment at with her at her home, way on top of a hill in Malibu, for her show ( I am Cait). In our segment, there was some intensive voice and speech training that unfortunately never made it to air. I showed her videotape of herself  appearing on  Diane Sawyer’s 20/20 interview and  analyzed it. I relayed to her which speech, voice, and body language patterns were masculine and feminine and what she needed to work on. She seemed very receptive.  We then did  some speech, body language, and  vocal exercises. The story line was that I was supposed to tell her not to have surgery  on her vocal cords, which she was  supposedly considering in  order to sound more feminine. During our shoot, I told her that surgery was not a good idea. I also told her that there may be some dangers associated with the surgery that could harm her voice in the long run and that she instead, needed to do a regimine of vocal and speech and body language exercises. I also shared this in the confessional. Continue reading

Trump Turns Hillary Passionate and Emotional In Second Half of Speech

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With the exception of  Hillary Clinton’s  emotional  and touching entrance when she and  daughter Chelsea looked one another in the eye and both teared up, the first half of Hillary speech was  bland with a monotone cadence. But before she spoke, we were privy to see a side of Hillary we had never seen before. Right after  Chelsea introduced her mother and Hillary came to the stage, we witnessed mother and  daughter sharing  a beautiful, heartfelt, tender moment.

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As Hillary took the stage and began to speak, her body language appeared stiff and mechanical.

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Whenever  she wanted to express a point or show emotion, instead of raising her vocal inflection, she got louder and louder. Soon it became a monotonous  bore where it was difficult to distinguish major points she was trying to get across.  It all sounded the same, in her staccato delivery/ So  it was not always easy to follow her message.

In terms of her facial language, whenever she got louder and louder to express a point, her eyes widened. It didn’t seem to be congruous with her message. The wide-eyed look,along with the monotone loud cadence at the end of her statements, did not showcase Hillary at her best.

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Ther monotone cadence and loud endings of sentences during the first half of the speech could put anyone to sleep . In fact, her speech  put Bill to sleep for a little while. In all fairness, he has probably heard her rehearse the speech countless times. Nevertheless, her monotonous droll lulled him to catch a few Z’s .

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But  as soon as she began to discuss Donald Trump and why he shouldn’t be the next President, a  completely different Hillary emerged. This Hillary was passionate, exciting, enthusiastic, and had life to her voice . She came alive and showed more emotion than ever before.  Her body language and facial language now matched her words. Unlike before, they were now  all  in synch.

Her message suddenly became clearer. Her zings to Donald Trump were very cleaver. She  said “Instead of making America great again, how about making things in America” when referring to his clothes  being made in China, shirts in Mexico and furniture in Turkey. She certainly made a good point with that statement.

She then said that  someone ” who loses his cool  when baited with a tweet  is not a man you can trust with nuclear weapons.”

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As she said this the audience roared and suddenly  Hillary became more energized and more passionate. She then began to express more emotion than ever before. Her tones were now inflected and the monotone and shouting  for emphasis was gone.  Her entire demeanor changed. She said what everyone in the audience wanted to hear.

Perhaps her most powerful statement  was personally directed to Donald and what she perceives as his bullying. She said that  as a child she was bullied. Her late mother, who was very near and dear to her heart, told the young Hillary to “pick yourself up and get back in the game and stand up to bullies.” 

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Bill and Chelsea watched her with pride and when Hillary spoke the words” I accept your nomination for President of the United States,”Bill looked like he was choked up and ready to shed a tear.

After the speech ended with a resounding applause, Bill finally came on stage with her. There was a genuine embrace between the two that lasted quite a while by hugging standards, with Hillary  even rubbing Bill’s back. Witnessing the two of them embrace at that moment, there was no doubt that whatever crises the two of them had been through with Bill’s serial womanizing, all was  in the past. The way Bill held Hillary showed a genuine connection, which was reciprocated by her.

What was also impressive when Bill was on the stage with Hillary was that he did not try to share the limelight with her. Instead,  he let her have her moment and  allowed her to shine.  He  constantly stayed in the background talking to others on the stage and amusing himself with the balloons- especially the larger ones, which he kept throwing around.

Hillary also had some fun with the  balloons and with acknowledging people in the  audience. She was warm. happy, and playful. This was  yet another side of Hillary that we never saw. It made her seem more human and likeable.