Dr. Lillian Glass’ Communication and Handshaking Advice to Trump To Make Friends and Influence People

screen-shot-2016-11-13-at-6-26-44-pmThere is no question that  Presidential Candidate Donald Trump, did it “his way” and won the election.  But now that he is the President, as a 30 year veteran communication expert,  I would like to offer him some very useful advice. I  recommend that he tone down “his way” in terms of how he communicates publically. The bragging, self aggrandizement, constant self reference, lack of humility, using over inflated terms terms like “never in the history as anyone…” as it pertains to his achievements  needs to stop immediately.

 It is starting not to  work with friends and supporters and it is definitely not working with foes. It is merely adding fuel to their fire.

The universal rule of communication is  humility.  No one responds well to a braggart. No one likes to hear someone tell how great they are even if they invested a cure for cancer and solved the national debt. First and foremost, he must STOP constantly talking about himself and bragging on himself and saying how great he is. He needs others to say that about him. He does not need to say it about himself.

While  it may have worked with the late  boxer  Muhammed Ali, it was often tongue and cheek and said with humour.  It even worked for Trump when he was a celebrity and entertainer. But as a President,  it looks awful when Trump says it about himself. As a world leader, it  smacks of arrogance, self absorption,  and insecurity. It is  just plain bad form.

No matter where you live in the world, there is no doubt you were raised hearing the saying “don’t get big headed” or “don’t get too big for your britches,” don’t brag about yourself” or  “Stop showing off .” Most cultures appreciate graciousness and humility, especially when it comes to one’s own achievements. 

Yes,  self confidence is wonderful and it is essential to have a healthy dose of self esteem and confidence  for what you have done, what you are currently doing, and what you plan to do. But Keep it to yourself  or only share it with your intimates and very close circle of friends and family. Let people know your achievements but do it humbly.

No one likes a continuous braggart or someone who exaggerates for effect, or  who is big headed. It alienates  most people and it is off- putting. That is how many physicians who tend to be too full of themselves often end up in trouble with patients and in legal disputes.

Now that he is the President, he needs to keep it less personal and strictly focus on and discuss the issues just as passionately as he talks about himself.  He needs to speak less about himself and more about us and how the issues affect us.

TRUMP”S PRESSER CALLING OUT FAKE NEWS 

 Donald Trump’s recent presser focused on setting the record straight and  admonishing the “fake news” and  many less than professional journalists. In my view his speech was correct and what he said finally  needed to be said. Had I not personally  experienced  what he is talking about – the spin and negativity, I would have never believed what Trump was saying. But he is absolutely correct in this regard. 

MISINTERPRETED TRUMP/ ABE HANDSHAKE AND FACIAL GESTURE 

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I have been doing countless interviews about the Trump/ Abe handshake all over the world and have been setting the record straight that there was no problem between Trump and Japanese Prime Minister Abe. In fact their body language each showed that they really liked one another.  This was indicated by their body language. Trump did the double handshake which shows genuine affection and Abe leaned into Trump and his toes pointed in Trump’s direction, indicating he really liked Trump. He also showed a genuine smile with his apples of his cheeks raised, eyes squinted, and teeth showing. 

No one overpowered anyone. As they were equally formidable in their approach. In fact Abe directed the photo op as she told Trump “look at me” which Trump immediately did. They maintained. eye to eye contact as they both  had a strong handshake. In fact Trump remarked that Abe had a strong handshake.  

When the photo op was finally over and they both broke their strong handshake, Ave looked up ( as though he was searching for someone) and immediately an aide ( in glasses) came over to him. He did NOT roll his eyes at Trump. Japanese people do not do that when they are exasperated or when they are not happy about someone. So the take that journalists had on this was wrong. Many called me to verify that the relationship between Trump and Abe was bad. i told them that is was not and set the record straight. Most journalists were great and reported my take and saw my point of view.

But there were others who simply would have none of it.I found that distressing. When the election was taking place Quartz, a new publication which is an offshoot of the Atlantic Monthly paid me to write a story on Trump and Pence’s handshake and body language which I gladly did.

Several days ago, I got an urgent email from one of Quartz’s writers Selian Cheng who wanted to know my take on the Trump. Abe handshake.  The article involved no pay as it was just my opinion. I got back to her immediately with the view I described above. Then  never heard back from her. Finally,  she emailed me to let me now she found someone else and wanted to use other body language expert to get their different view.

I then emailed her back and asked why she even bothered to contact me in the first place if that was her aim all along  as it wasted her time and mine. After reading the article in Quartz which she wrote, it appeared to me in my view  that my quote didn’t apparently match her spin of the story which was very anti-Trump and mischaracterized the whole handshake situation,. So she simply got another body language “expert” ( and I use that term loosely)  who’s views may have  matched her agenda in my view. It saddened me as that is not how I learned to do journalism as a journalism student at the best journalism school in the country, USC.  

I felt bad about this so I wanted to share my thoughts with the Editor in Chief of Quartz. Unfortunately I didn’t get the chance because his Editorial Assistant Molly Rubin, with whom I shared why I was calling, in  what I perceived as a nasty tone, said “thank you very much” and hung up on me. So there you have it!  Obviously she didn’t want to hear what I had to say on the matter and with the Toxic behavior she showed me, I doubt anyone got my message or concern.

FUTURE BODY LANGUAGE  ADVICE CONCERNING  HANDSHAKING 

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Donald Trump is a man who is very demonstrative and effusive in terms of his affection. He even kissed Pence when Pence was  nominated as Vice President.

 Many are not used to it, so they are taken aback and they are making a huge deal out of his  kissing, handshakes and effusive greetings.

 But I can assure you the way he meets and greets is part of the norm in Hollywood and Trump is very Hollywood when it comes to his greetings. People tend to be more   open, affectionate and effusive in show business than they are in other businesses. So we tend to be used to this.

Personally, I find it refreshing. If you really like someone , you let it be known. That is what Trump did with Abe, Pence, Trudeau and others he likes. With Trudeau, they not only shook hands, they both embraced shoulders which is an even bigger display of mutual affection. It is NOT by any means a power play when it is mutual. It showed they were on equal footing in terms of their affection towards one another. 

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Trump doesn’t hide his positive emotions and I say he should continue to do what he is going in terms of being genuine  in his meet and greets, which have received world- wide attention.

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Apparently many world leaders who are planning to meet President Trump in the future are concerned with how to approach the newly elected President when they meet him. “How can the leader best shake his hand”  was the question a Chinese journalist  from China’s major newspaper asked me in regard to Chinese President Xi’s upcoming visit to the United States.

 I let her know that the best way to approach Trump in terms of his hand-shaking is to mirror him. If he does the double handshake with his hand on top of Xi’s, then Xi, also needs to do the same . This will indicate mutual warmth and affection and will not be read as Trump taking charge or overpowering. I also suggested that Xi match Trump’s strength and firmness in terms of his handshake.

 I also suggested that Xi not bold back and be genuine in his feelings, because Trump certainly will hold nothing back.  I assured the Chinese journalist  during our interview that the body doesn’t lie no matter how hard you may try to control it. The truth always leaks out. 

 

 

 

Trump Handshake Did Not Overpower Abe But Showed Positive Affection as They Both Like One Another

screen-shot-2017-02-11-at-1-10-14-amI got so many calls and emails  today from TOXIC journalists who were determined to spin an innocent story about President Trump’s meeting with Japan’s Prime Minister into a negative international incident when it was not. I refused to play their game and stuck to my guns about how it was not an issue. In fact one journalist from a  publication who always interviews me didn’t like my honest answer. So they found another body language expert to spin it her negative way. I was disgusted at her and I told her so in no uncertain terms.

As a bona fide trained journalist myself,  I HATE this and I have no respect for this journalist or the publication who hired her or the other journalists who called me with their own agendas in mind.

The controversy is over the following expression of Abe. The  so called “journalists” claimed he rolled his eyes after the handshake indicating he didn’t like Trump. This is NONSENSE.

Screen Shot 2017-02-11 at 1.10.34 AM.pngFirst of all in Japanese body language the eye roll is not used to show disgust or displeasure. Secondly EVERYTHING has to be measured and analyzed in terms of CONTEXT! All Abe was doing was looking at someone.

Abe had a long handshake with Trump and was even directing the photo  op as he told Trump to look at him.

Screen Shot 2017-02-11 at 1.10.42 AM.pngHe was ready to get out of his chair as you see here. Trump’s thumbs up shows they had a great interaction. And one thing about Trump that is for certain, he knows how to read people and he read their interaction accurately.

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Now here is the person  to whom Abe was reacting. There was no eye roll as the journalists said. They also tried to spin it that Abe was overpowered by Trump.

This is NOT so . Look at Abe’s very  masculine sitting position with legs apart.  Look at how much room he is taking up. This is not how a person who feels overpowered looks. So the journalists were wrong again.

Screen Shot 2017-02-11 at 1.10.14 AM.pngHere is when the two leaders are having eye to eye contact and smiling which is a great sign. Abe shows his teeth and the apples of his cheeks are raised which indicates it is a genuine smile. The screenshot is taken just after Abe tells Trump to look at him for the photo op. So Abe is just as media savvy as Trump on the world stage.

Screen Shot 2017-02-11 at 1.10.06 AM.pngIn fact,  here is  when Abe tells Trump to look at him. Trump is happy and it is a genuine smile with teeth showing and balls of cheeks raised and eyes crinkled.

We rarely see Trump like this so when we do, it is clearly genuine. Trump also does not have an overpowering grip on Abe as Abe is gripping right back. They BOTH have strong handshakes as you can see.

In fact after the photo opp Trump looked at Abe and said “strong handshake”. So there was a language of mutual strength being spoken to one another thru their handshake and touch.

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Their body language mirrors one another which is a great sign in terms of their relationship. Note how both of their hands drop down. Also both of their toes are pointed towards one another which is further indication that they like one another.

Trump also put his hand over Abe’s which is an affectionate gesture. Abe likes this a as he returns a genuine smile with teeth showing.

So to all you TOXIC journalists who wanted to spin this  story your negative and ignorant  way, I say SHAME ON YOU!!! and I also say I WILL NOT PAY YOUR TOXIC GAME”. I want NO part of it !

I am not going to say negative things about Trump when I see nothing negative body language wise and communication wise. And I say SHAME to any body language person who does play your game just to get their name in print. Nothing is worth compromising your integrity for some PR.

 

 

Not Being Political Keeps Dr. Lillian Glass Objective When It Comes to Body Language Analysis of Politicians

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After doing body language analyses on political candidates for the past three decades, there was nothing more horrible for me as a professional in the area of human behavior with a specialization in body language and communication,  than to do these  analyses during this particular election season. It was  one of the absolute worst experiences I have ever encountered professionally.

The level of venomous bile and vulgar hate, ruined relationships, and even false accusations about me being biased  and “political” and pro this candidate or that candidate was astounding. There was no convincing anyone as they were on a hate tirade and only saw red. 

I’M NO FAN OF POLITICS-ACADEMIC POLITICS  OR ANY OTHER KIND

For those of you who know me well, you know that I absolutely detest politics of any kind.  I first encountered politics when I was a Master’s student at the University of Michigan. I observed how poorly certain professors treated certain students simply because they had an  academic advisor, (who through no fault of their own) who happened to be on the wrong side of the academic political fence  and was not in synch  the rest of the department. Those students were treated more harshly by other professors in order to get back at their disliked academic colleague and fellow professor.

At the U of Minnesota during my PhD,  I experienced it personally.  I saw the pettiness, ugliness, stupidness,  self importance and self aggrandizement  of so called intellectuals and academicians,  that it made me push myself to the limit and hurry up and get out of there and get away from these Toxic People as quickly as possible. As a result, I  finished my PhD in record time and at age  24 I had my doctoral degree.  

I also saw politics rear it’s ugly head as a post-doctoral student, where not only academic politics was rampant but now it was combined with hospital politics, thus making things more severe and brutal. Thankfully, I wasn’t involved in any of these meles. But I witnessed many who were involved and who suffered emotionally and academically in terms of their rankings and promotions. 

Then when I was a  young  very popular professor with my students,  I really saw politics up close and personal when students lined up to take my classes and to put it simply, other professors felt (for lack of a better word)a bit  jealous. I gave all my students high grades .  Apparently,  this a “no no” in academic politics, as you have to give some lower grades to balance out some type of curve,  which I refused to do. I hated all the rules and regulations. So I left academia  for good and went into my own  private practice, where I flourished.

Historically, since so many academicians know how to play politics, it is no surprise that many take their political prowess and knowledge of how to  play the game,  to a higher level and  run for office like Elizabeth Warren and Ben Carson among so many others , presently in the Senate and in the House of Representatives. 

There were NO politics in my own practice. I was in charge with no quotas and not silly rules and regulations. I LOVED ALL of my clients and patients and treated everyone with the same respect and professionalism and warmth, regardless if they  couldn’t afford my fee and were unable to pay.  I was treating these clients for free or whether they were superstars who could  easily pay the full fee . I treated those with craniofacial deformities and genetic disorders (my speciality) exactly as I treated celebrities,  world leaders, or major sports figures. 

                                   EXPERIENCE WITH POLITICS IN THE MEDIA 

As I became successful in my practice and was able to sustain a living from it, I branched out into another love I had since jr. high school- that of journalism. While I was a professor at USC, I was able to take classes for free. So I took journalism classes at the prestigious USC School of Journalism ( where I  was also gave lectures to journalism students). I learned so much there and absolutely loved it. My aim was to now combine my  vast academic, medical, psychology, human behavior ( body language and communication)  knowledge with journalism and become ( if you will a media doctor) just like I am now.  

But getting there wasn’t easy as I quickly learned. One of my professors at USC thought I had what he called “it.”He said I had the physical look, a vibrant personality, and lots of energy and would be great on camera. So he graciously called upon a television agent friend of his  who worked at the William Morris Agency to meet me.

The agent, Sid Graw, who also represented the great television host,  Tom Snyder, agreed with my professor and took me on as a client. As my agent, he quickly set up a meeting for me with an established Hollywood producer, Dave Bell, who was doing something revolutionary at the time- starting a television show on cable TV.  Dave Bell met me and thought I  that with my eclectic  background, I was a perfect fit to be the host of the show. He said not to worry as he would pair me with an experienced co-host. Together the male co-host ( Keith Berwick)  and I  met the sponsor ( Bristol Meyers) and the head of USA Network (Kay Koplovitz )where the show “Alive and Well” would be aired .  All in charge were well aware of the fact that I had no on camera experience per se, but they willing to gave me my first break on TV.  

 TOXIC POLITICAL CO-HOST  FROM HELL-KEITH BERWICK

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While Dave Bell and the production crew were great, the opposite could be said about my  co-host Keith Berwick  ( now at the Aspen Institute),  56 years old at the time,  a lantern- jawed , deep voiced, television veteran who had at one time hosted his own show on PBS.

First, he objected to my being called “Dr. Glass”  and refused to acknowledge it on air. The reason I was hired in the first place was because  of my unique  academic and professional experience  and the fact that I had Dr. in front of my name, which the producers and  the network would thought would give the show even more credibility. But Keith Berwick decided he was having none of it.

Whenever we had to do our “stand ups” together on camera, Keith made me take off my heels as he said he didn’t want me to look taller than him when I stood next to him. So there I stood, barefoot next to Keith Berwick as we introduced the show and various segments.

To make matters worse, as I was doing my interviews with guests on the show, he would stand to the side and give me dirty looks and shake his head in disgust. Needless to say, this didn’t make me feel comfortable. Instead of offering me suggestions as to how I could improve myself,  he would degrade me and tell me how awful I was. (In looking back over the tapes I really wasn’t that bad at all).

It was just that Keith Berwick as trying to make me feel bad. For some reason, this grown man felt intimidated by me- a twenty something year old at the time.  It was to the point that whenever we had lunch with the crew, he refused to sit near me. One day, I got a phone call from one of the executives of the show who told me I was no longer needed on the show. 

My agent, Sid Graw told me that Keith, who brought his PBS credibility and years of on- camera  experience to the table, said he would walk  if I had to be his co-host, he said that instead of me,  he wanted a bevy of beautiful women as co-hosts to surround him, while he would be the central figure of the show ( a la Charlie’s Angels). That was political as it could get. 

While Keith Berwick had initially  quashed my young dreams to be a media doctor, he wasn’t successful at doing so as soon I got another gig- an even better one at KABC television, the local ABC affiliate,  where I was not only a reporter, but I  had my my own psychology and self esteem segment for 5 years.

I learned so much and was mentored by the late and great television icon, Jerry Dunphy            ( whom the Ted Baxter character on the old Mary Tyler Moore Show was based on). Thankfully, Jerry was the complete  opposite of Keith Berwick.  Jerry took me under his wing and let me watch all of his interviews. When we were on set, he taught be pacing and how to speak  rhythmically and to use the teleprompter effectively, how to punch up key words when on the air.   I was there for 5  years until Cap Cites bought ABC. I loved it  there.  We were like a family- The Eyewitness News Family and everyone got along so well. Jim Moret ( Senior Reporter on Inside Edition) Larry Carroll , producer, Sue Vorgan,  so many others . There was no politics and no power trips as we all  adored one another and it showed on air. That is why were the number one station for so long.

My Toxic experience with Keith Berwick, who used his political power  at the time with the show’s executives to get his way,  made me well aware of the politics that exists in media. Thankfully I have not encountered much of it since that horrible experience with Keith Berwick. 

While I was a regular on the  Nancy Grace Show, I once again saw media  politics rear it’s ugly head with a  small- minded producer in my view,( who finally got his karmic justice and is longer in the media) Dean Sicoli. He would consistently  ban people from the show if they did other shows among other things.

GETTING THE INSIDE SCOOP FROM SENATOR FRED THOMPSON  ABOUT WHAT REAL POLITICS WAS LIKE 

Screen Shot 2017-02-07 at 10.57.02 PM.pngWhat made me detest politics even more was all that I learned about it when I was dating former and late Senator Fred Thompson. I had an earful of what really goes on as he shared with me the pettiness and ugliness of what really goes on with politicians behind the scenes. He always used to say to me  that he  agreed with former President Harry Truman who said “if you want a friend in Washington- get a dog.”

I met Fred years before he became a Senator on an airplane as we were seated next to one another. I was headed to be a judge in the Miss USA Pageant while he was headed to do some legal assignment after appearing in some television show in Los Angeles. We became fast and friends and remained dear friends for years, until we were both single at the same time and then began to date one another when he was a Senator in Washington.  

 Fred went into  politics for all the right reasons. He really  wanted to contribute something valuable to his country. And truth be told,  being born under the sign of  Leo, he also loved all the attention. When we would be in DC or in Nashville and people would call him Senator Thompson,he admitted that he got a kick out of it.

But that soon wore off as the reality of being a Senator and all that it entailed wasn’t as appealing as it looked on the outside.Now that he was on the inside, Fred was not a very happy camper so to speak. As time progressed, I could  also see a  change in him. He was no longer his  happy and jovial self. Instead, politics got to him and eventually took a serious toll on his health. He dropped out of politics and went back into acting and being a spokesperson.Then he died at 72. I am convinced that politics contributed to his ill health and shortened his life, with all the stress, backbiting and hostility. 

MY BEING WRONGLY ACCUSED OF BEING POLITICAL DURING OBAMA CAMPAIGN 

Screen Shot 2017-02-10 at 10.54.46 AM.png When President Obama ran for office, I made some body language and communication comments as I had done with candidates throughout  the previous decades. While most  people saw my point of view, there were two females , whom I went to high school with but with whom I never associated with in high school,  who really let me have it.  Apparently they were staunch Obama supporters and took offense at what I said.

There was no reasoning with them. There was no convincing them that my blog was NOT  about politics but rather about body language and during the first debate Obama didn’t do very well as he openly admitted. I merely analyzed what went on between he and Romney during the debate.

The former high school  girls became uglier and uglier and more and more hostile towards me. Their ugliness was so blatant, that my loyal  Facebook fan base defended me against these two terrors.   But,they too,   found that they  couldn’t  reason with these ignorant women.  So I blocked these two as I had no room for such hate.

When I  learned years later, that one of the women who was  trying to organize a high school reunion had  purposely left my photo out as a  “Senior of Distinction” in her  promotion of the reunion event,  I clearly  saw the root of her toxicity as it was her obvious jealousy that reared it’s  ugly head.  

FACEBOOK HATE AND NO WIN DURING TRUMP AND CLINTON  ANALYSIS

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In the Trump/ Clinton this election, I was regularly accused of  being -political and biased during this election  by people who had no clue about me or my beliefs or thoughts, or why I detest politics as I have described above. Their  accusations could not have been further from the truth. It was very frustrating because no matter how many times I explained myself, there were always the ignorant who would insist I was biased and  supported one candidate over  the other.

 I simply reported what I saw and heard during the campaign trail and debates. When I said something positive about Hillary, Trump supporters let me have it and when I said something positive about Trump, Hillary supporters let me have it. There was no winning here.

I didn’t care about anything other than   how they came across, yet people tried to pin their politics on me .  I was having none of it! So I fought back defending my observations. And I have to tell you that fighting with so many people on a daily basis was beyond exhausting and depressing.  

One man whom I  adored and had known along with his super famous television icon wife whom I also adored, really laid into me one night on Facebook. Apparently, he was an avid Hillary  supporter. It was a back and forth of his hate for Trump and my defending myself that I could care less about anything other than the candidate’s speaking skills and body language. He finally got the message  and came to his senses as he  realized what I was talking about all along that had nothing to do with politics. So he apologized to me.

Even so, it left me battle scarred. It’s like someone stepping on your bare toes when they are wearing six inch heels. Even though they say they are sorry and say” excuse me”, the pain of their heel on your naked toe  does not go away so quickly. It’s the same thing with emotional pain. 

DROPPING FACEBOOK FRIENDS AND BEING DROPPED 

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Then there were some really great Facebook friends who I really liked who were so warm and wonderful and supportive. I liked them them so much. Unfortunately for both of us, they  wrongly assumed  I supported one candidate over the other and dropped me as a friend . I still miss them. 

I didn’t drop anyone because of  who they supported. However,  I must admit that I am seeing a lot of death related posts towards Trump on one FB friend’s posts that makes me want to drop her now. While I don’t care which candidate you support  or hate ,  death fantasies and killing posts are NOT acceptable. So I will most likely drop her if she continues with her rhetoric. 

I did drop Lisa Bloom, not because she supported Hillary but because of  her political and press manipulation where she and her mother Gloria Allred  paraded so many women accusers of Trump  who were obviously having a hard time with the truth based on my observations and estimations.

I couldn’t stand this no matter who the candidate was .  When I saw her hold a presser for a woman who was clearly deceptive and  admitted she lied when she falsely accused Trump of child rape and didn’t show up at the presser I felt Lisa Bloom’s credibility was over forever as far as I was concerned. 

KNOWING AND LIKING BOTH CANDIDATES 

I actually knew both candidates and liked BOTH of them. They were always  respectful  and gracious and  warm towards me whenever we met. So I had no “dog in this fight” so to speak. I even met Bill Clinton. He had such a special knack for making one feel as though they were the only one in the room as I experienced. 

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POLTICS – ACTORS and PERFORMERS

While anyone can use their public fan base to express themselves, I don’t think actors and singers have it in their best interest to do so. Their aim is to entertain and to get as many eyeballs as possible on them in order to do this.  It is a business they are in – a show business and if they alienate 1//2 their fan base they are not doing doing good” show” business. 

While many don’t care at this point like Robert Deniro and Meryl Streep who spoke at an awards ceremony about Trump and Barbara Streisand who kept interjecting Trump hate at her  $750 a person concert I attended in Los Angeles, it may  be their box office and the companies that employ them who may suffer in the long term. 

CROSSING THE LINE- MADONNA AND SARA SILVERMAN

There is no question that Madonna, Ashley Judd and Sara Silverman have crossed the  line by speaking violence and hate and anarchy. It is UNACCEPTABLE and I believe they should be held accountable for what they said. Whomever speaks of blowing up the White House and having a military coup needs to be investigated and  punished in my view.

They have a lot of influence including influence over people who may not be that mentally balanced. Look at Charles Manson He didn’t actually kill anyone with his bare hands. But he  was the mastermind and the  influencer and it cost him a life behind bars.

And now for the Pope.  Pope Francis has a tremendous influence and he MUST keep his nose OUT of AMERICAN POLITICS ! He needs to focus on the horrible pedophiles who rape little innocent  children and continue to do so as we have recently discovered. He needs to take care of ALL of the issues in the Catholic church before he even utters a peep about American politics.

MY ANALYSIS PRESIDENT DONALD TRUMP

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As I have continued to do in the media, I  will ONLY speak of Trump’s body language and NOT his politics, ideas,  goals, nor his agenda, Those issues are way out of my level of expertise. I ONLY stick to what I know and I do it accordingly. 

I will  not speak kindly or unkindly about Trump . Instead I will ONLY speak the TRUTH as I see it. I will NEVER hold back ever. I will say what I see and what I hear form ONLY my point of view as it pertains to body language and communication.

 

 

 

Chuck Schumer Body Language Reveals Toxic Manipulation Dragging Refugees On Stage Phony Gestures, and Fake Tears

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He brings a handsome Syrian family on stage  with the women dressed in scarves and three cute children.

Screen Shot 2017-01-30 at 8.01.02 PM.pngHe eyes the father. As he parades this “newly arrived family” of immigrants on stage, it seems very contrived and manipulative to me. It appears Schumer is doing this for his own agenda not for this family as they look traumatized being on stage.

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As he reads his speech there is no emotion and no inflection as it appears to be a monotonous drone. There is no passion in the speech as she says that he is saying No to Trump’ executive order. He rarely looks up as he reads from his script.

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He continues to sound boring and emotionless as he reads his script as he discusses the military.He then says something ridiculous that it makes lone wolves  are not so lone after all and their acts occur more not less. This  statement is nonsense as most lone wolves are usually beholden to some cause, doctrine , or group as they commit acts of terror.

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Once again there is no vocal emotion as he speaks as she is saying negative things about Trump’s program.

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He then refers to “the beauty of these people” which is so phony and contrived as he says it. It further validates that he is using ” these people” as props for his own agenda.He purses his lips for emphasis, after he says this which is further indication of his phoniness as this is  a conflicting facial gesture to what eh just said.

His phoniness continues as he stammers as he reads from his script and says let me tell you about this family. Clearly he is reading about this family and shows know emotion or no real knowledge of this family he is using as a political prop.

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Asn he talks about the father he looks down as he continues to read about the man and awkwardly  seeks out the man’s shoulder in an attempt to show how much he cares about the man. It is blatantly contrived and phony and insincere.

Then he ridiculous slaps the poor man on thr shoulder in an aggressive gesture as eh said that the man came here because he translated for the Americans and got death threats for helping American soldiers. This is not some poor refugee that was injured or wounded in the war and left to die and rescued  he was an employee paid by Americans for his translation services for  whom he is serving and should very well be protected by his employer- the Americans. This is what is usually done and everyone knows it. yet Schumer is making it seem like this is some unusual case and that his man is some type of hero.

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Schumer makes a  fist as he continues to exploit this poor man who doesn’t seem to happy with being paraded on stage and used as a prop as you can see by his facial expression. To further illustrate Schumer’s phoniness her doesn’t even look at the man. As he speaks he continues to stumble on his words, further indicating that he is manipulating and using this man to make his point.

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Then he stumbles on the name of the next family he seeks to publicly exploit on stage. He rocks back and forth as he speaks indicating his discomfort and lack of sincerity. he then points upawrds  to the little girl maya who is 16  which makes her shirk away from him. The finger point is an angry gesture and the upward finger in the context in which he is using it is incongrous with what he is saying. This  further indicates how contrived and phony this is.

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Then he points to Hamza and reads that  he turned 14 yesterday, Haza 8, and Hara 6 as he lays his hands on these two younger children which obviously makes the older  16 year old child feel uncomfortable as you can see by her expression ,

The Schumer bangs on the podium with his hand as he says the family arrived a month ago This would have been an angry gesture but there is no anger in his voice He then elks out a smile as he says their parents ( in laws) are American citizens.  So even though he is feigning anger his gestures and facial expression are totally inconsistent with the words he is saying which means he is being phony and manipulative. He even stammers and stumbles as he says what section  in the  Bronx the parents live.

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He then uses another phy inconsistent gestures as he raises his hands and says that Trump wants us to believe that all  immigrants are terrorists when they are not but rather like these families. First of all Trump never said this and Schumer knows this . That his why one hand shows his fingers spread out and the other hand shows his fingers close together.If his gestures indicted honestly his hands would BOTH display  open  fingers in his gesturing.

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He then leaks out as smile as he says they aren’t a threat to American but a promise to America. WE all know these people are not a threat to America and he knows it too. he also knows that these are not the people Trump is referring to in terms of being a threat to America. That is why Schumer leaks out a smile as an indication of dupid delight. he knows exactly what he is doing- being manipulative and trying to pull at people’s heartstrings by using this family. But it is not working as his phoniness belies him.

Then he looks down and taps two times on the podium which makes no sense.  he then looks down and fumbles through his papers as he reads a quote from the Old Testament ( Exodus) the  New Testament ( Matthew) and then he brings up a quote by Catholic comments  Pope Frances ( who in my view has no business sticking his two cents into politics especially when his own flock  of priests are a complete disaster with raping young children and destroying them forever.)As he reads what Pope Frances says he raises his awkward finger and says “This is the Pope speaking” As you can see from the expression the children’s faces they could care less. They are bored and can’t wait to get out of their and end their exploitation.

The Schumer embarrassingly invokes the name of his dead relative Ellis whom he was named after  who was named after Ellis Island. As she does this is  manipulative and corney behavior shows clearly.

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Then for his final act he musters up a FAKE CRY with no tears as he calls trump mean spirited.

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And then we see what his real agenda is-  getting some press time and promoting himself as he mentions he is a Senator from NY and how he will fight and scrap with all of his being to overturn Trump’s directive.

The bottom line is that the cry was phony and his dragging these poor families on stage with him was contrived and manipulative to further his own agenda.

 

 

Stop the Rumors! Trump Did NOT Make Milania Sad During Swearing In Context is Key in Reading Body Language

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Context is key  with regard to any body language analysis. So many people have been asking me to comment on why Melania looked so sad after Donald turned around at the inauguration ceremony when Rev. Graham spoke.

After scrutinizing the clip frame by frame  and looking at Melania’s behavior facial expression and body language BEFORE Donald turned around, DURING the time he turned around and AFTER the time he turned around,    I can assure you that he did not say anything to upset her.

The reason I am so sure of it is that if she was upset with what he said  it would have happened immediately at the split moment it happened not any time later and certainly not a second or two later.

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Melania wore the same upset looking facial expression people are speaking about well before Donald turned around as you can see her with somber expression and head bowed down. In fact in the crowd, she is one of few people with a bowed head. 

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Melania looks sad BEFORE Rev. Graham spoke.Even Ivanka looks somber as he starts his benediction.

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Her head is bowed BEFORE Donald turned around and as Rev. Gram said” in the bible it is a sign that when it rains…”

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As soon as Rev. Graham said ” And it started t0 rain Mr. President when you came to the platform,” Trump immediately turned around and smiled at Melania as Ivanka is wearing an expression of being choked up. In essence,  BOTH Donald and Melania are having a positive and personal moment together .   

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They both book at one another eye to eye as Melania nods and Ivanka is now happy as well, cocking her head so that she can get a better view of her dad. 

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Trump uttered something and he immediately  turned around. Since his back was to the camera we can never know what he said. Therefore I cannot utilize my lip reading skills to decipher exactly what he said and I cannot speculate as I ONLY report what I actually see and what I actually hear. As he has turned around, Melaina is still smiling as you can see her cheeks raised and eyes still squinted and teeth showing in a genuine smile.

Then as Trump is fully turned around, her expression immediately changes. In my view, she may have just  processed the powerful statement Rev. Graham made about the rain which occurred just as Trump spoke being an auspicious sign. Perhaps the reality was beginning to set in that her husband is REALLY going to be President, that she will be First lady and that life as she once knew it will never be the same.

The reason I DO NOT believe he said something awful to her that made her upset as so many lay people, non professionals and Trump haters have wrongly remarked is because her reaction time was not immediate. When someone says something horrible to you, as they speak those words your facial expression changes. It does NOT change a second or two later. In essence, Melania reverted back to her previous somber expression that she had on her face well before Trump turned around.

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What even further confirms what I am saying is the fact that she turns away to look into the crowd as she processes the reality of the moment and how countless  people are standing before her,  witnessing her husband becoming the next President of the United States.

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Then she turns her head toward the front as she looks out into the crowd, continuing  with the serious expression on her face. 

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She then immediately  looks down after viewing and processing the crowd and the seriousness of the situation.

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Now she looks at the crowd once again as further evidence she is   processing the enormity of the situation and what is going on.

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Then she looks down, once again ,engaging in the processing of the situation.

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Next, she turns her head and looks down. It has now been a FULL 6 SECONDS since Trump allegedly said something to her . It does NOT take 6 seconds to process being upset. It would have happened at the moment he spoke and immediately afterwards, which it did not. 

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She looks down and glances up at the crowd again.

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Then she looks straight on as her head is slightly bowed. 

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And now she turns with her head held high as she stands in line with her husband, looking right at the back of him. So now, she has processed the moment and is now aligned with her husband as she stands behind him having processed and accepted that she is the new First Lady and he is the new President.

Context is key when reading people’s body language. A little information and a little knowledge can be dangerous and create rumors which was the case here. Melania had a somber expression before Donald turned around and spoke to her. She was thrilled during and immediately after he spoke to her.  Only seconds later, as she processed the reality of what Rev. Graham was saying as she scanned the crowds, all the while being engaged in her own thought process did her expression look somber.

So what may have looked like her being upset at what Donald might have said to her is NOT the case at all. 

As you know I am not political and I ONLY fairly report what I  ACTUALLY SEE and what I HEAR,  just as I have done throughout the campaign and now that Trump is President.  I have NO BIAS and I am keeping it OBJECTIVE at all times so don’t try to think for me and tell me what is in my mind or  tell me I am biased as I am the ONLY one that can tell you DIRECTLY what I am thinking and what my bias is or is not. I have  absolutely  nothing to hide, no one to impress and I am not beholden to anyone. So if you want to spew hate towards Trump, do it elsewhere not with me.

I report and continue to report ALL that I see whether or not it is flattering to Trump or not. In fact, I recently remarked that I didn’t like it when Trump walked in front of Melania as she was left holding the Tiffany package, while Trump sprinted towards the Obamas.  Whether he was caught up in the excitement of the day and in the moment or whether the Secret Service told Melania to stand back and wait, or whether  this was some type of protocol, I didn’t like it at all as it looked very bad to me as a sign of rudeness. In Western culture, we do NOT walk in front of a friend, spouse, or mate, and leave them trailing behind, regardless of their sex. Doing so has very bad connotations. So NEVER accuse me of being biased.

I HATE rumors and false reporting and having been a trained journalist at the number one School of Journalism in the world, USC, I vilify ANY reporter who sticks their bias into the equation like Martha Radditz who was almost in tears during her reporting on ABC of the  inauguration and who in my view should be, using Trump’s term,” FIRED” 

I also HATE it when reporters, amatures, non professionals do body language analysis and do it wrongly. It is DANGEROUS and IRRESPONSIBLE!  Just because someone has a degree in Psychology it does NOT make them a BODY LANGUAGE EXPERT!  It takes years and years of work, research and experience like I have done and Alan Pease and Paul Ekman, David Given, and even ex FBI agent Joe Navarro. I have the utmost respect for all have done. These are  my colleagues I have the utmost respect for them. All of their backgrounds are solid and they know of that they speak, just like I do. Many others in my view,  do not have the expertise, experience ,or background and as a result make dangerous and irresponsible comments. 

I was on the BBC last week with a Psychology Professor from OXFORD who knew NOTHING what he was talking about regarding body language . It was embarrassing to even listen to this man.

I am thrilled that Trump is fighting back and busting the irresponsible press that, many members whom we saw having direct ties to Hillary from Martha Radditz to Rachel Maddow,  Wolf Blitzer, Jake Tapper, other CNN cronies and even Megyn Kelly. I personally can never trust ANY of their reporting now and tune out whenever they speak. I have lost all respect for them as they should know better.

 

Body language reveals insight into relationship Between Melania and Donald

 

Body language expert Patti Wood said there were only a few moments that showed love between the pair. Picture: AFP/Saul Loeb.

President and Mrs. Trump couldn’t be a better match as you can gauge a lot from  their body language. They are a perfect match even though  come from different backgrounds.  She’s very accommodating, and he has a large ego and needs a lot of attention.

Donald Trump could never be with a wife who is competing for the limelight, and so for his personality type and her personality type, they couldn’t be a better match.

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Melania understands her husband very well and looks up to him in admiration.  She seems to be willing to put up with a lot.

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That includes leaving her trailing behind as he made his way towards former President Obama and Michelle. Maybe he was caught up in the moment and the excitement of the day, but to me it was still rude and cannot be overlooked. Personally, I would find it quite unsettling  if my man did that the me. In Western culture it is considered rude to walk in front of someone and leave then trailing behind.

We have come from eight years of the Obamas where we have see the opposite  of Melania and Donald’s dynamic as Barack constantly showered Michelle with affection and adoration.   In fact Barack kissed Michelle’s hand and comforted her as they were leaving for the helicopter. he sensed she was sad and his kiss was a reflection of how much attention he paid to her feelings.

Body language expert Dr Lillian Glass said you cannot compare the relationship between the Trumps and the Obamas. Picture: AFP/Jim Watson.

In all fairness,  you cannot really compare the relationship between the Trumps and the Obamas because the two couples have stemmed from very different circumstances.

 

Barack and Michelle married young. She was his boss, and they fell in love so they have had  a whole life together Trump, on the other hand, has been married two times before, so it’s a whole different kettle of fish.

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Melania is the opposite of Donald in that she appears to be more  reserved as she shies away from the limelight. Donald, on the other hand  is more outgoing, outspoken, and craves the limelight. That is why they work well together as a couple and will continue to do so throughout Donald’s Presidency.   They are a perfect case example of how opposites can not only attract but they can work out long term.

 

Dr Lillian Glass, who has been studying body language for three decades, said the Trumps ‘couldn’t be a better match’. Picture: AP Photo/Evan Vucci.

 No matter what your political views are you have to admit that they do make a stunning couple. Aside from Jacqueline Kennedy, no one has  looked more beautiful, glamourous , poised and  so well put together as Melania. The dress she wore to the Swearing In Ceremony was Jackie Kennedy inspired ( the collar) but a clever variation thereof. Fashion-wise there is no doubt that she will be an inspiration, just like Kate Middleton.

 

Dr. Lillian Glass Shows How Madonna’s Body Language and Speech Was No Metaphor Literally About “Blowing Up White House”

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At the Women’s March in Washington DC Madonna said she “thought of Blowing up the White House.” As a result the Secret Service is allegedly investigating her. Potentially, she could be faced with a serious crime. Being well aware of this, Madonna tried to backtrack the next day, stating that it was just a “metaphor.”. But it is too little too late! In my view after examining Madonna’s body language and speech pattern,  that she  was NOT speaking figuratively. Instead she  was speaking literally. She made a direct statement.

According to the dictionary, a Metaphor is a figure of speech which makes an implicit, implied or hidden comparison between two things that are unrelated but share some common characteristics. In Madonna’s speech there was no comparison. 

Body language wise  and voice wise  and speech wise she spoke in anger. She even literally  said” I am angry.” You can see the anger in her face. Her upper lip is raised and her face widens around her cheek area.

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Then she said I am outaged. As she says this you can see her facial muscles getting more tense as she lifts up her upper lip in an angry snarl .

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Then she looks directly at the audience and gives them a clear and direct message in a deliberate staccato tone. If someone was using a metaphor it would not be delivered so emphatically as she delivered her statement “Yes, I have thought  an awful lot about Blowing up the White House.”

The fact that she used  the  adjective “an awful lot” shows that it is NOT a metaphor but rather a literal statement of her action . She thought about blowing up the White House and she thought about it a lot. 

As she says this at the end of her statement, her voice  showed a glottal fry where there is a creaky sound . This indicates anger in the voice as the vocal muscles are now experiencing  a lot of tension.  This is due to anger. This further indicates that this statement was literal and not metaphor at all. She was angry and she thought about blowing up the White House. her voice indicates  this is a fact, not a metaphor.

She then looks down and then tells exactly what she did after hr action ( thinking about blowing up the White House.).  

 

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She says ‘I know that this won’t change anything. As she says it she cocks her head, indicating that she gave thought to the action. When someone cocks their head it is an indication they were thinking about  something or considering something or questioning something. This further indicates that hat she said was literal and not a metaphor.  She then shakes her head “NO” indicating once again that her action was lietral.

Now she is instigating fear more anger by bringing up someone who wrote something from WW2 saying we must “love or  or die”. She is saying that if you don’t love you  will die.Is she referring to Trump here that if he doesn’t love he will die’?  Is she referring to the audience that if they don’t love they will die?  In ether case it seems to be as though she is instigating fear  and a threat of what will happen ( death) with her “either or remark.”

Then she has the audience repeat her chant “We choose love” which further highlights her “either or” statement –  either death or love”

The bottom line is that it is NOT a metaphor in my view but a very real statement based on what she said and did before, during, and after she made the statement. The  display of direct anger, the glottal fry as she continued her statement in real time actual anger not in metaphor and her follow up statement of stating that  ” I know it wouldn’t  change anything.”  In a metaphor you do not have a follow up action ( knowing it wouldn’t change anything).

In addition, when people speak metaphorically, they often pepper other areas of their speech with metaphors which was not the case here.  This further leads me to believe that her statement was  not a metaphor and in fact a very literal account of what she thought about doing to the White House. 

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It’s ironic that Madonna is seen wearing  an orange jumper at the rally. She may very well find this orange color jumper a staple of her daily apparel if the Secret Service finds her threat is not a metaphor but a full blown threat.

For those of you who think Madonna was simply exercising her First Amendments Rights, in my view she went far and above those rights, Just as you cannot yell FIRE in a crowded room when there is no fire, you cannot tell millions of people that you considered blowing up the White House as you display your anger to instigate others.

The level of hypocrisy of Madonna astounds me. To me it seems as though she will do and say anything as a desperate attempt for this 60 year old  to  stay in the public eye since her career and music s becoming less and less relevant.

Her vulgarity which has increased more and more. Her showing the world her private parts as she shaved the Nike logo into her pubic hair  is vulgar and shows very poor judgement on her part, especially since she has  teenage and pre teenaged children. It is now understandable why 16 year old son ROcco wants nothing to do with her and has moved far away from here to stay with his dad in the UK. 

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Before that she made an announcement at one of her concerts that she would give oral sex to anyone who voted for Hillary. This is a statement that goes far beyond getting attention. It made me wonder if the woman is in her early states of dementia or Alzheimer’s Disease . Yes, we all know Madonna has always been over the top in her actions and words but this is far far far over the top. Saying something like this is a horrible role model for young women, especially those as young as her adopted daughter Mercy. 

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Whether you love Donald Trump or you hate DOnald Trump, you cannot threaten any President or the White House as Madonna clearly did in my view. The Secret Service allegedly thinks that her statements are serious enough to warrant an investigation and I agree with them. 

It seems that her Donald Trump anger  and tirades  and being so vocal is keeping her in the public eye and getting everyone talking about her as her music certainly isn’t cutting it any longer.  But this time her cry for attention has backfired on her and she will no doubt have to be held accountable for what she does and what she says for perhaps the first time in her life.

Her hypocrisy  is  astounding to me. Here she has spent a lifetime  showing off her private parts , degrading herself as a woman, and being vulgar and suddenly she is offended by Trump’s remarks which are just as bad as hers. Yes Trump’s “pussy grabbing statement was disgusting and no one can dispute it , even his wife Melania. But this is about Madonna. Throughout the years in my view, she has done more more to harm the image of women  than anyone with her sexist vulgarity and raunchiness. She is certainly no leader, no role model, and no spokesperson for women in my book.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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It was disgusting enough that 60 year old Toxic Madonna showed the world her genitals last week with a Nike Logo shaved out of her pubic hair and before the election, offered to give oral sex to anyone who voted for Hillary. But now she has taken things to a whole new level by saying she thought about Blowing Up the White House! She is now being investigated by the Secret Service.This Toxic Hypocrite has spent her whole life showing off her private parts , degrading herself as a woman, and being vulgar and suddenly she is offended by Trump’s remarks as she speaks at the woman’s march with a Holier than Thou attitude. She has done more to harm women and their image than anyone with her sexist vulgarity and raunchiness. She is certainly no leader , no role model, and no spokesperson for women.