Trump Turns Hillary Passionate and Emotional In Second Half of Speech

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With the exception of  Hillary Clinton’s  emotional  and touching entrance when she and  daughter Chelsea looked one another in the eye and both teared up, the first half of Hillary speech was  bland with a monotone cadence. But before she spoke, we were privy to see a side of Hillary we had never seen before. Right after  Chelsea introduced her mother and Hillary came to the stage, we witnessed mother and  daughter sharing  a beautiful, heartfelt, tender moment.

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As Hillary took the stage and began to speak, her body language appeared stiff and mechanical.

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Whenever  she wanted to express a point or show emotion, instead of raising her vocal inflection, she got louder and louder. Soon it became a monotonous  bore where it was difficult to distinguish major points she was trying to get across.  It all sounded the same, in her staccato delivery/ So  it was not always easy to follow her message.

In terms of her facial language, whenever she got louder and louder to express a point, her eyes widened. It didn’t seem to be congruous with her message. The wide-eyed look,along with the monotone loud cadence at the end of her statements, did not showcase Hillary at her best.

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Ther monotone cadence and loud endings of sentences during the first half of the speech could put anyone to sleep . In fact, her speech  put Bill to sleep for a little while. In all fairness, he has probably heard her rehearse the speech countless times. Nevertheless, her monotonous droll lulled him to catch a few Z’s .

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But  as soon as she began to discuss Donald Trump and why he shouldn’t be the next President, a  completely different Hillary emerged. This Hillary was passionate, exciting, enthusiastic, and had life to her voice . She came alive and showed more emotion than ever before.  Her body language and facial language now matched her words. Unlike before, they were now  all  in synch.

Her message suddenly became clearer. Her zings to Donald Trump were very cleaver. She  said “Instead of making America great again, how about making things in America” when referring to his clothes  being made in China, shirts in Mexico and furniture in Turkey. She certainly made a good point with that statement.

She then said that  someone ” who loses his cool  when baited with a tweet  is not a man you can trust with nuclear weapons.”

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As she said this the audience roared and suddenly  Hillary became more energized and more passionate. She then began to express more emotion than ever before. Her tones were now inflected and the monotone and shouting  for emphasis was gone.  Her entire demeanor changed. She said what everyone in the audience wanted to hear.

Perhaps her most powerful statement  was personally directed to Donald and what she perceives as his bullying. She said that  as a child she was bullied. Her late mother, who was very near and dear to her heart, told the young Hillary to “pick yourself up and get back in the game and stand up to bullies.” 

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Bill and Chelsea watched her with pride and when Hillary spoke the words” I accept your nomination for President of the United States,”Bill looked like he was choked up and ready to shed a tear.

After the speech ended with a resounding applause, Bill finally came on stage with her. There was a genuine embrace between the two that lasted quite a while by hugging standards, with Hillary  even rubbing Bill’s back. Witnessing the two of them embrace at that moment, there was no doubt that whatever crises the two of them had been through with Bill’s serial womanizing, all was  in the past. The way Bill held Hillary showed a genuine connection, which was reciprocated by her.

What was also impressive when Bill was on the stage with Hillary was that he did not try to share the limelight with her. Instead,  he let her have her moment and  allowed her to shine.  He  constantly stayed in the background talking to others on the stage and amusing himself with the balloons- especially the larger ones, which he kept throwing around.

Hillary also had some fun with the  balloons and with acknowledging people in the  audience. She was warm. happy, and playful. This was  yet another side of Hillary that we never saw. It made her seem more human and likeable.

 

 

 

 

 

Bill Clinton’s  Excellent Speech Revealed Secrets About About His Relationship And Hillary’s Instincts

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There is no one who is a better speaker than Bill Clinton in my estimation. He can speak to an audience of millions, as he did at the Democratic, and make everyone listening feel as though he is speaking directly to them and have a personal conversation with them.

He does it through inflection, using the right tone, the right volume, emphasizing key words, and using a mellifluous vocal flow. His body language matches what he says as does his facial expressions. During this speech the typical Bill “vocal fry” or creaky sounding voice that we have come to know since Bill’s Presidency and which Bill impersonators  have often mocked was gone.

The content of his speech was fascinating. It was a historical march down memory lane in terms of his wife and best friend’s accomplishments. No matter what side of the isle you are on, all of Hillary’s accomplishments at such an early age seemed incredibly impressive.

At the beginning of the speech, Bill specifically spoke about the ups and downs of their relationship. You could see that there was a pained expression in his face as he briefly mentioned it. We all knew what he was talking about in terms of the downs of their relationship- Bill’s unfaithfulness and his getting involved in scandal after scandal with mistresses, lovers, and random women who accused him of rape, abuse, unwanted advances, and disrespect.

While  Bill’s down home approach made him seem like an open book with nothing to hide, there is no doubt that everything he said was planned and measured. But despite all the planning and measuring, he revealed several things about their relationship that he may not have realized.

For one, he revealed that Hillary had pretty good instincts early on in her life when she was dating Bill. He asked her to marry him twice and two times, she said “no.” There is no doubt, she clearly knew he was trouble, even back when they were students and when they were young. Perhaps she saw his flirty behavior and his eye for the women early on and wanted no part of it. That is no doubt why she didn’t accept his marriage proposal on two separate occasions.  Her instincts were right on as he has continued to be a trouble source for her as far as the women are concerned, throughout their marriage.

Bill thought he would try a third time. This time he manipulated her to marry him by purchasing the cute house she said she liked,  which she noticed on one of her earlier visits to Arkansas. After that big gesture, Hillary relented and finally agreed to marry him.

Bill also revealed something about Hillary was made many cringe, as he described her thick glasses in not a very flattering way, as reflected in his vocal tone, facial micro-expression and body language. He reflected that he wasn’t that attracted to her initially. Bill was the kind of person who took charge and made the first moves when it came to the ladies. This was also the accepted behavior back in the day in the late 60’s and 70’s, where the man usually made the first move, especially a man from the South. While there was the hippie movement of free love and the time where women started to come into their own, it still wasn’t the norm for women to make the first move. So, when Bill relayed that Hillary marched over to him from  across the room and introduced herself to him, her forwardness no doubt stunned and impressed him.

Bill respected this strong woman who wasn’t afraid to approach him, who wreaked in self- confidence.  He wanted to get to know her and continued to be impressed with her, not just as a conquest or love interest, but instead as a friend- as a best friend.

That friendship grew and grew to the point they met one another’s families. Bill fell in love with Hillary’s family, especially her mother, who’s upbringing was far worse than his. Hillary and her family represented stability, something he never had in his life.

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As Bill spoke of all of Hillary’s enormous achievements, there was a genuine sense of pride which shone through his body language, facial expression and voice. When he said  he ”married” his best friend, it made me think. Perhaps she was his “best friend,” but was he her “best friend?”  A “best friend” doesn’t cheat, lie,  and womanize, unless perhaps they are really only “friends.” But the fact that he used the term “ married”  to his “best friend” seems to change the equation.  “Married” “best friends” are not supposed to cheat and womanize. On the other hand, their relationship is their intimate business. If Hillary, as a married woman, put up with Bill’s Toxic behavior her entire life, it was her choice and  truly no one else’s business. Obviously the dynamic must have worked for her or she would not have put up with it.

After hearing Bill speak about Hillary, one cannot deny that he respects her accomplishments, and her abilities. Several times he said that she has been successful throughout her life in  “making change happen.” But sadly,  she was not able to make that change happen in her personal life with regards to Bill’s behavior.

Bernie Sanders Body Language Shows Anger, Passion and Distrust During DNC Speech

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While Bernie Sanders’s body language showed that he was angry not only about the issues he passionately believes in, his body language showed that he was clearly angry that he was not the nominee.

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He showed that anger through pointing, pursed lips, and lip licking as he reluctantly  supported Hillary.

He openly addressed the elephant in the room and said that he was unhappy that he didn’t get the nomination as he verbalized” I  understand that many people here in this convention hall and around the country are disappointed about the final results of the nominating process. I think it’s fair to say that no one is more disappointed than I am. But to all of our supporters – here and around the country – I hope you take enormous pride in the historical accomplishments we have achieved.”

As he said “This election is about ending the grotesque level of income and wealth inequality that we currently experience, the worst it has been since 1928. It is not moral, not acceptable and not sustainable that the top one-tenth of one percent now own almost as much wealth as the bottom 90 percent, or that the top 1 percent in recent years has earned 85 percent of all new income. That is unacceptable. That must change” one could not help but think of Hillary  being at  that a “grotesque level of income and wealth inequality ” to which he was referring. After all, Hillary and Bill are one of the richest couples in the world.

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Deep down, here was no happiness and joy in his speech. He did what he had to do and the only thing he felt good about was that several of the issues  he holds near and dear have now been incorporated into the Democratic Platform.

Whenever he mentioned Hillary’s name he never smiled or showed warmth.

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While Bernie has usually shown a similar body language and facial expression throughout his campaign, the fact that this was the Democratic convention where she was supposed to be singing Hillary’s praises  speaks volumes. It says that his heart isn’t really into it. While the words are  certainly there, his body language says the complete opposite.

His final statement  is very telling as she says “ Our job now is to see that platform implemented by a Democratic Senate, a Democratic House and a Hillary Clinton presidency – and I am going to do everything I can to make that happen.”

What he is saying is that he is going to make sure that he keeps an eye on the Democratic Party to make sure that all of his issues are implemented  into the Democratic Platform because no doubt, he doesn’t really trust them.  After what happened to him during the campaign,  where  millions Americans voted  and sent in contributions to finance his campaign, turned out for his rallies, and cheered on his promised revolution, little did they know that Bernie never stood a chance. Their time and effort was wasted.

Now leaked  emails have confirmed what he suspected all along- that the  Democratic National Committee decided that Hillary Clinton would be the Presidential nominee long before any votes were cast.

His supporters at the convention appeared to be devastated. Many of them covered their mouth in upset and even cried, as you can see in the photos above.  With knowledge of the leaked emails his supporters are livid.  For many  on the  fence as to whether they were Bernie or Hillary supporters, the rigged campaign may have prompted them to leave the party all together and vote for Trump. Others who were Bernie supporters may feel duped and  so angry at the DNC , that they too may refuse to vote for Hillary.

Even though his parting words were ” Hillary Clinton will make an outstanding president and I am proud to stand with her here tonight.” his body language and facial expression showed that he really didn’t believe what he was saying. He wasn’t smiling at all when he made that statement.

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In fact ,the only time Bernie cracked a smile was when he was how much love there was on the convention floor for him and people wouldn’t stop clapping or chanting his name. Otherwise he had a sour facial expression throughout his speech. He clearly never smiled when she spoke of Hillary.

His body language and facial expression said that deep  down he believes, as do all of his supporters, that he would make an outstanding president and he would be prouder if he were the nominee instead of Hillary.

 

Obama’s Inappropriate Smile and Disconnected Speech About Munich Massacre Shows Mind Is Elsewhere

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When President Obama addressed a group of law enforcement  agents  and mentioned  the tragedy in Munich, he was completely inappropriate and out of line. His smiling, joking and casual body language and bringing in his personal concerns about his daughter leaving for college,  in the middle of what was supposed to be a  somber moment shows his judgement is lacking and his mind is clearly elsewhere.

No one in leadership or in any political position should act like that and bring their own concerns into the mix when discussing such as tragic and serious issue. This was a horrific incident where young children were massacred, yet he casually brings up his daughter leaving him to go to college as his own personal tragedy.

He  also made absolutely no sense when he spoke.

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He began the speech with phumpering and a lots of uhs, as he was looking down when he  said “it’s a good reminder as I’ve said over the past couple of weeks which is our freedoms, our way of life, our ability to go about our business every day …”

He then looks down and says uh  as you can clearly see that his mind is ready to go someplace else in this extemporaneous  speech sans teleprompter.

He continued with “raising our kids and seeing em grown up, graduate from high school and going to college and about to leave their father.”

He then realizes he is being inappropriate and got off point  as he laughs and with a big smile,  holds his hand up and says  Im sorry Im getting a little too personal  as he scratches his nose.  The nose scratching indicates that he knows what he just did was inappropriate.

A few people in the  audience laughed, which then encouraged the President to repeat what he said and this time show a huge smile  as you can see below as he repeated ” Getting too personal there.”

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Then he says uh as he looks up in order to try to get back on track ,but he was completely off track, as what he said next made no sense.

He said ,That depends on law enforcement, men and women every day , who are under the most adversarial circumstances  imaginable sometimes. “

He was just talking about how we live our life of freedom,  and then he got sidetracked with his own person issue of Malia leaving and then tries to continue where he left  off but obviously forgot what he was previously talking about and and now suddenly talks about  about it being up  law enforcement. What is up to law enforcement? Is the personal freedom we have up to law enforcement or is it up to the Constitution?

People had just been shot in Munich and he makes the above statement, which indicates that his heart wasn’t into what he was saying about what happened in Munich.

It made no sense and shows his mind is clearly elsewhere. There was nothing funny about what he said and the laughter from the audience was no doubt nervous laughter, as they too knew how ridiculous it was to bring up his daughter leaving for college, mid sentence when he was supposed to address what happened in Germany.

What he did spoke volumes about Obama’s state of mind in my view as  is clear that leaving the Office of President cannot come soon enough for him.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Trump’s Body Language and Voice Show Genuine Compassion, Passion and Power During Republican Nominee Speech

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In the past, it was said that Ronald Reagan was the “Great Communicator.” But after listening to Donald Trump’s acceptance speech as the Republican nominee, Reagan  pales in comparison. Reagan with his breathy tone, wasn’t always easy to follow as he often used  a repetitive cadence, whereby much of what he said sounded the same. The communication skills that Donald Trump showed brought realness and genuine connection to whole new level in my view.

In his acceptance speech, Trump showed us all sides of him- sides that we never saw in the past.  He came across as genuine, real, compassionate and passionate as well ,as very angry and passionate about what he perceived as going on in this country.He also gave a plan and solutions and was upfront and direct in his delivery, which made him sound very credible.

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When a lot of politicians give case histories of people they meet on the political trail and give you the person’s tragic story, too often it seems mechanical, rote, and insincere. When Marco Rubio or Ted Cruz shared these stories in the past, they sounded contrived and disconnected. But  when Trump spoke of the straight A student who was killed by an illegal immigrant with a criminal record, he was clealry moved and it was heartfelt.You sould not only hear it in his voice, you could see it in his facial expression and body language.

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WhenT rump  first entered the stage,  you could see that he was moved by daughter Ivanka’s speech and rightfully so. When he spoke of his children and how he felt about them as well as his siblings, you could feel how much he loved them, as his entire demeanor changed in terms of his facial expression and body language. There was a softness and tenderness about him.

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But when he spoke of  the issues and what he planned to do to solve the nation’s problems, there was a genuineness to what he was saying. There was no phoniness or “doubletalk” which we have heard in the  past with so many politicians. Instead, he was straight forward and relayed exactly what he would do in plain and simple terms.
One of the reasons so many have embraced Trump  is that he speaks in a way, so the masses can understand. He speaks in short phrases and often repeats words in that phrase to make a point. It is highly effective in terms of other’s understanding his message. In his acceptance speech, he  spoke from the gut as his words matched his emotions, which matched his body language. When he repeats the words and phrases he does it in a softer tone, so one feels as though he is speaking to you directly.Repetition also causes the listener to process the information better and to remember and  in the long term, remember what he said.

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Body language wise,he regularly  showed  the palms of his hands, unlike so many of the other candidates and nominees.When one speaks with their hands and shows the palms of their hands, as opposed to the back of their hands it reflects that they are being genuine in their message and honest.

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While we saw a lot of Trump anger during the debates and his fighting back at his opponent’s tooth and nail,we did not see any of that personal anger we saw during the campaign. Instead, we saw anger he expressed concerning issues he is passionate about-  police shootings and Hillary’s not being held accountable for having a private server, poor negotiation  deals with various foreign countries, government financial waste, the debt, coal miners not having jobs,  and inner city children having the education system fail them, to name a few examples.

Because  it was more focused and he took the time to explain the issues in greater detail and in a slow precise manner, everything that angered him  seemed justified as reflected by the audience at the convention. As you can see in the photo above, his body language revealed his upset through his jaw movement, which jutted forth. Another indication of his anger was the  finger pointing, which he did often throughout his speech when discussing an issue. The finger pointing  let  us know how angry he was regarding the particular issue and that he would make sure that it was stopped if he was President.

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Perhaps the most telling facial expression and body language he made during his speech  was the one seen  above. It is a sheepish look and his admitting that since he personally  knew how the system worked  as he worked the system. So who better to fix the system than him.  In sharing this, it showed he was being open, genuine  and had nothing to hide.

He also showed humility- something we had never seen before in the campaign. When he spoke of the evangelicals,he softly said he didn’t think that he deserved their support.

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When he spoke of solutions the problems he used his entire body and facial expression to be emphatic about what he was saying. He pointed and raised his head up and opened his jaw even more as he slowly said in a staccato manner, his plans for action.

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There was so many times during his speech that he looked Presidential as his shoulders were squared and his head was up. It was as though he was now  wearing his new mantle and owning it, as the Republican Presidential nominee.

He also showed that he was the consummate motivator as many came away from his speech feeling more  passionate, more energized,  and more angry at the injustices he clearly explained. That often resulted in the audience breaking out in chants, many of which he lead. His final statement resonated with the audience as you could hear a roar after he said that Hillary’s slogan is “I’m With Her.” while his slogan is ” I’m With You- the American People-I am your voice.”

Once again, this is not a political blog and I am not indicating my support of one candidate over another. As a body language and communication expert, my aim is to remain objective and report what observe and what I hear.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Melania’s Mellifluous Voice and Elegant Composed Body Language During RNC Speech

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The stunning beauty, Melania Trump, wearing a gorgeous form fitting white dress, made her debut at the Republican Convention’s stage. As far as delivery and body language is concerned, Melania did extremely well, especially since she is not a public speaker, does not often speak in public, and the fact that English is not her native tongue. The tone of her voice was appealing and soothing. She was poised and composed vocally. Her accent in my view, was charming and her cadence, rhythm, and timing when she spoke  were excellent. She spoke with passion and inflection, especially when she spoke of husband Donald and what she believed he could do for the country.

Body language wise, her movements were fluid and elegant. She had a regal appearance with impeccable posture.

There is a  lot of talk about whether or not Melania’s speech was  original or whether it was the same as the speech given by Michelle Obama. It seems that they both spoke about education and their children, which seemed to be a mission on both of their parts. So it may be understandable that both messages may have been similar.

The bottom line is that she did an excellent job.  Should Donald Trump be the next President of the United States, it certainly appears that Melania,  as the First Lady, would handle herself with the same elegance and decorum  as she showed during her  RNC speech .

Once again, this is not a political stance as this is not a political blog. As an objective professional,  I  report what I see as it pertains to body language and what I hear as it pertains to communication patterns.

 

 

 

 

Toxic Ex Playmate Dani Mathers Body Shames Woman Due to Her Own Flawed  Body and Face Issues 

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There is a saying that ” when you point the finger at someone,  there are three fingers pointing back at you.” So, when  ex -Playboy Playmate, Dani Mathers body shamed an innocent woman by taking the woman’s photo while the woman was naked and showering at LA Fitness- a woman  who was doing something  good for herself like going to the gym and getting fit, it was appalling.

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What kind of person would do this? It is a person who has an overly inflated sense of self,  who thinks they are so pretty and look better than others. But truth be told, pretty is as pretty does and Dani Mathers is pretty ugly in terms of her character as far as I am concerned. And further truth be told, deep down to the core of her soul, Dani Mathers most likely  does not  feel  that good  about her own flawed areas of her face and body, or she would never have projected her own body shame on to someone else. Because she was able to hide  behind the  Playboy brand for so long and all the perks that came with it, it masked her true self loathing. Unfortunately for her, millions of people have now seen the truth about Dani Mathers and her life will never be the same as she will be shunned, perhaps forever.It’s starting to happen now as she was fired from her radio gig and she will see that life will become very hard for her to get ahead in life. Some things are forgivable, but  this is not one of them because it speaks to her character and to the core of who she is.

I have known so many Playboy Playmates throughout the years.Unfortunately  there are those who think much like Dani Mathers. I have worked with so many of them as my clients in my private practice, to help them improve their communication, speaking, and voice skills when they have to do interviews, acting roles, or have to open their mouth in public.

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It is ingrained in them by their fellow Playmates, Hugh Hefner, his staff, and men  in general, who look up to the Playboy myth, that these girls are special. Men  literally drool over them. I have seen it with my own eyes.  They can’t wait to get  close to them. Men ask for their autographs on photos and pay these women to write something nice to them. Men will pay a ridiculous amount of money on ebay to purchase their used bras, panties, old shoes, tee shirts, and  whatever else these entrepreneurial  Playmates are selling online -from porn videos to nude photo shots of them.Others manage to bag suckers who feel that it is  honor just to pay their bills, with little or nothing in return. For some men, only a weekly or monthly phone call from the Playmate will do. For other men, a weekly meal will suffice. These smitten men often pay  monthly rent, phone bills, wireless services, acting classes, modeling photos, car payments, insurance bills, and even give them a monthly stipend. Others buy them cars, pay for plastic surgery, botox, fillers, makeup, clothes, computers, mobile devices, lavish meals, and trips to exotic places.

Men shower them with gifts, clothes meals, and  free travel on a regular basis.  This constant attention from so many different men gives these Playmates an attitude – an attitude that they have power  (which they do have when they are young and pretty and which they lose as soon as they age) and that they are above anyone else. This spoils so many of them. Doors open for them left and right, like it did for Dani and that spoils them as well. They have the contacts and the Playboy brand that carries many of them pretty far.

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When they are young, many Playmates  often feel they can get away with anything and they can. Lots of men line up to date them because they think it is prestigious among their peers to have a Playmate on their arm,  date her, or even marry her. The smart Playmates  or lucky ones marry well. They find some incredibly wealthy man who supports them in high style for the rest of their life, like Barbie Benton (Hugh Hefner’s ex)  did  when she married real estate tycoon George Gradow. Others  aren’t so lucky or smart as they end up marrying sick  fanatics who try to  control them, end up abusing them, or even killing them. That is the other extreme and sadly what  happened to  Playmate Dorothy Stratton.

Many go from one rich boyfriend  to another, to keep them in style and pay their expenses. Others  may join high end escort services, where they meet top men  from politicians to rock stars,  A list actors, corporate owners, producers, directors, and even princes. Did you ever wonder how some famous well known guy met his wife , who happened to be a former Playmate? Well now you know. Others  may even possibly become high end call girls.

Some of them actually have a charismatic  personality and talent like radio host and former View cast member, Jennie McCarthy.  The Playboy brand allowed her and others access to people who could help them with their careers. If  Kendra Wilkinson or Holly Madison had not been Playmates, appeared with Hef on “The Girls Next Door” reality show, and used their connections,  they would never have  their own reality shows, highlighted in Vegas, endorsed products, appeared on Dancing With the Stars , married a high profile athlete, or appeared  in the tabloids on a daily basis. No one would even know their name.

To keep up the perks that come with being a former Playmate, most know they have to keep up their looks. Otherwise, the reality is that it is over for them.  This has happened to a number of former Playmates I know. So those who want to still stay in the game, go to all lengths to make sure their body is thin by  getting lipo, ribs removed, fat injected, breast and butt implants, face peels, and lip fillers. And who pays for this when so many of them don’t hold a job, other than an occasional model or acting gig?  With so many of these women, especially as they begin to age, it is often  the  smitten man or many smitten men. In the past they would never give these men the time of day. But now since they are aging and need the upkeep, they will gladly deal with these once shunned men, just because they  will pay for different aspects of upkeep for that Playmate image.

So no doubt, Dani Mathers had a lot of perks for being a Playmate. She even had over one million Facebook followers who liked her page. That is a lot of followers, many of whom sang her praises on a daily basis, flattered her ego, and told her how beautiful she looked in the latest photo she posted. She got  modeling  opportunities and doors opened for her.

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She got a lot of business opportunities to represent certain products because she had so many followers . In fact she hawked her own edible marijuana line to her over a million followers.

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She even had a gig as a  radio host, something that may have never happened had she not been a Playmate. But unfortunately for her that radio gig appears to be over.

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All of this fan adulation, open career opportunities,  and socializing with celebrities must have gone to her head, just as it has done with so many Playmates of the past I have known.  It is no doubt that she most likely  really believed that she was above everyone and that  any woman who didn’t spend the fortune to have all the cosmetic enhancements or  those who were not fellow Playmates, were beneath her. Others were worthless and disgusting in her mind. That is why she essentially wrote that she was disgusted looking at the naked woman in the gym and that her eyes could not unsee what she saw.

All of the perks she was lucky to receive in her life since being a Playmate, clearly  didn’t build her character , as she showed little compassion or concern about anyone other than herself. That is why she showed no compassion and felt the necessity to put someone down . Her true character was also revealed when she wrote a letter of apology to the Playmates, and not to the woman she harmed and shamed or to a letter to the  the gym, where she most likely got a free membership like other Playmates in the past.

But if we look closer at Dani, we will see that she does have some body issues  of her own that I am sure she is well aware.  We all have flaws and none of us is perfection when it comes to our body and face. In fact  many of the Playmates you see in the photographs  are either airbrushed or photoshopped. They are well made up and well lit and placed in very flattering positions, using the right camera angles.

As someone who knows a great deal about body language and body image and body aesthetics, I will point out Dani Mather’s body and facial flaws, which she is no doubt well aware, which will show you why  deep down, she may have felt so badly about herself that he felt so compelled to trash someone else’s body.

For one, Dani’s body is out of proportion.  Her arms appear too skinny in contrast to her breasts. Her hips are too large in relation to her breasts and her legs.

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She is also very boney in appearance if you look at her back.  It is not attractive and makes her look fragile. Her  breast implants don’t  look natural.

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Her breast implants leave a lot  be desired as they seem to just have been just placed on her chest. In fact, her cleavage looks odd and  indented  as she is too thin and boney to have such a large sized cup. There are also unattractive moles on her chest and abdomen area.  In my view, she needs to get them removed now or they will grow much larger as she ages and will look unsightly. Additionally, her arms look skeletal and odd, especially in this photo.In my view it is not sexy or attractive.

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Here is another photo of her skeletal  arms and legs which seem incongruous to her breast implants.

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Her buttocks are flat, misshapen and  bony, and she suffers from swayback where there is too much curvature in her  lower spine. Without makeup you can also see that he skin tone appears to be rather pasty.

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Her abdominal area is misshapen and it looks as though  she may have had some bad liposuction or bad body sculpting. You can see her hip bones, but there is fat protrusion around the hip area which is odd. The lower area of her stomach  also protrudes.In my viwe this does not look attractive. Also her arms appear too thin and th boney elbows make them look out of proportion.

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Overall, her body proportions look off as she appears to be high waisted. Her knees als look knobby and bony. In looking at her photo in comparison with other Playmates, she appears to be one of the shortest Playmates in stature, which would eliminate her chances of becoming a model.  Perhaps her lack of height also contributes to her low self esteem.

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Facially she is out of proportion as well ,with a  wide based, troll- looking , ski jump nose ala Richard Nixon style. The columela of her nose droops down too much in relation to her nostrils, which is not perfection as far as nose aesthetics is concerned. Her smile is also not that attractive with prominent chin and masculine appearing jawline. The indented lines on her face under her cheeks are  too deep and seem to age her For an almost 30 year old, these lines are a bit too deep.

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She also has an abnormally  large and wide mouth  which seems to take up most of her face when she smiles or laughs as you can see which makes her face seem out of proportion.

No doubt, she must be well aware of her own  her body imperfections which were pointed out above.  The illustration  of her body flaws are not done to be mean, but rather to show you what she may also be seeing  on a subconscious  level when she is alone and naked and looking  into the mirror at herself.

On a surface level, she has convinced herself that she looks great and is flawless. This is  is why she openly posts the flawed photos of herself.  It is as though she is in denial. In addition, there are so many followers, fans and smitten male worshipers telling her she looks great, that a part of her has come to believe she looks great. But deep down, probably knows better. Otherwise, she would have never body shamed the innocent woman. In shaming the woman,she  projected her own self loathe on to this woman.

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The tone of her voice was equally as troubling when she made her  public non heartfelt phony apology. It was not an apology to the innocent woman, but rather  a statement insisting she’s not like that and she won’t do it again.  It was pure selfishness and narcissism at it’s peak.  It was ALL about her and not about the other woman she shamed and harmed.  There was not an ounce of sincerity on her facial expression or in her tone.

Dani said she was Snapchatting and wasn’t familiar with how  Snapchat worked. Once again, it was about her, not the woman she shamed. She said she was Snapchatting to a personal friend when she wrote “ If Can’t  Unsee This You Can’t Either.” What kind of person makes fun of another person and sends it to a friend? A TOXIC BULLY does this. A TOXIC MEAN  GIRL does this. This video she made added fuel to the fire and angered people more because they knew it was phony and non heartfelt.

Dani Mathers revealed her true character. She is Toxic Person. I know a thing or two aboyt Toxic People having written the best selling book on the topic. She is not a good person because no good person would think of shaming or bullying another innocent person and make fun of them. There are some things which cannot ever be forgiven and this is one of them in my book.

She has not only hurt this  innocent woman, she has hurt other women who wake up each day not feeling good about their bodies. She hurt women who do whatever it takes to get themselves to the gym to try and help their bodies. She hurt every woman who is uncomfortable seeing herself naked. She hurt every woman who has been teased and humiliated about her weight.

Apparently LA Fitness was having none of this and did the right thing by calling the police and reporting her. But the police may not be able to do anything about it unless the woman comes forth and presses charges. I hope this is the case. I hope that the woman sticks up for herself and fights back. I pray that she doesn’t retreat into herself,  become depressed and devastated by what has happened to her. I hope the woman seeks financial remuneration for her emotional distress that this horrible incident  will have caused. With her million followers and edible marijuana business, Dani may very well be able to afford the lawsuit filed against her. It would case any woman emotional distress. In fact, it has caused most women who  found out what Dani  Mathers did to this woman, emotional distress.