Press Misinterprets Obama’s Body Language as Making a Peace Sign at Nuclear Security Summit

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The Press got it completely wrong when they plastered a photo of Obama looking like he is  making a peace sign at the Nuclear Security  Summit. At first glance one would think that the President of the United States has  lost it. They would think that gesture was completely inappropriate and unbecoming of a President, who appears to be the only one making such as gesture in the formal photo with other world leaders.

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But after watching the video  of this photo session, you can clearly see that Obama was NOT making the peace sign. Instead he was letting the photographer know that two more people were coming. That is why he held up fingers. In fact his mouth was open in the photo, indicating that he was speaking.You can even see in the phot oabove that Obama is turning to someone  ( like the photographer) and speaking to them.

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Then the press focuses in on the UK Prime Minister David Cameron a who looks like he is shooting Obama a dirty look. This is not the case as well. His facial expression does not show anger. he is simply looking to see who is missing from the photo based on what Obama said. There is no body language facial expression to indicate that he is angry or annoyed as the press mentioned.

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Likewise, there is no angry expression on Italy’s  Prime Minister,Matteo Renzi’s face. Yet the press stated that he was angry with Obama as well.

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Then inside the meeting, the Press made it seem as though David  Cameron was very angry at Obama. But if you examine the photo Obama is pointing his finger at someone to the side of Cameron and  Cameron is not involved in that interaction. Cameron is merely looking ahead. His red face is not due to anger, but to some color he received while vacationing in Lazarote in the Canary islands. Cameron seems to be focused on what is ahead of him, not what is occurring to the side of him.

This is why having an untrained journalist instead of a trained body language expert interpreting  body language of world leaders can be dangerous.

 

Does Amanda Carpenter’s Body Language and Speech Reveal Truth About Alleged Affair With Ted Cruz?

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Amanda Carpenter, who is at the center of the Ted Cruz Sex Scandal, has made the rounds on TV in an attempt to clear her name. But what is her communication and body language really saying? Is she being forthright? Is she telling the truth that she did not have an affair with Ted Cruz? Is she lying?

It seems that her appearances may have done her more harm than good based on her on-camera delivery, in my view. What she should have done was to look directly at CNN’s Jake Tapper, her interviewer,  and  emphatically say that she did not have an affair and leave it at that. But instead,  she did way too much explaining and went off on tangents, which may have done more self-damage by  perhaps making  people more skeptical of her.

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As she looks down, she squinches her forehead as she says he has been 100 percent faithful to her husband. But she says this in a monotone devoid of emotion.To sound more credible, in my view, she needed to look directly at Tapper and not look down or away.

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Then she finally looks up and says that there is nothing more important to her than being a good wife and a good mother. She says this in a staccato tone, which  tended to make her sound a little too defensive.

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When Jake Tapper asks her about the sports jacket she was wearing and it being the same jacket that Cruz was wearing,  she seemed to be flustered by this question as she once again  looks down and  while breaking eye contact with Tapper. She  also shrugs her shoulders (often regarded as a signal of deception) and blames it on conspiracy theories.

Had she looked  directly Tapper in the  eye and said that she was cold and Cruz gave her his jacket to wear,  that may have put an end to speculation about the two. But she did not do that. Instead,  she was flustered and continued to  sound defensive. Then she gets testy in her tone as she says she can’t understand why the Trump campaign is doing this and how no other campaign would touch this kind of stuff. This is the first time she displays any negative emotion.

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By deflecting blame on Trump, she once again makes one wonder if indeed something personal was going on with her and Cruz. She needed to sound more direct and state her truth in a more powerful tone to add to her credibility.

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As she says it’s really a conspiracy theory, she shakes her head “no” perhaps indicating that she  may perhaps subconsciously know that it may  not  be a conspiracy theory as she verbally stated.

She also  does a lot of “uptalk,” where her inflection goes up at the end of sentences. This can  often make others question whether what she is saying is true as she denies any personal involvement with Cruz.  She says this with the phrases “defending myself” which makes her sound  tentative as though she is asking a question and is insecure about what she is saying.

Then she tries to take the oneness off of her and encourages people to look at the broader aspect of the campaign. She  says “there is  toxic culture” and “go into it with both eyes open and not be afraid to confront it.” In making this statement, she is attempting to take the attention off of herself and deflect it outward.  She also wanted Trump to put a stop to this but said she was disheartened when Trump said that the National Enquirer got it right before. In essence,  she was upset that Trump didn’t come to her defense.

When Tapper asked  her if she was going to take any legal action she leaked out “I talked to” and then immediately changed her rhetoric by saying she wanted to  get through this and protect her reputation, her career and her  family. Then she mumbled out something that sounded like ” I’ll continue to talking to lawyers.” So it seems that she is looking into taking legal action concerning this matter. It is clear that she doesn’t want this incident to hurt her career. But the fact that she is  out front on the national pages  may have helped her career. No one knew who Amanda Carpenter was before this scandal. This may have helped her career by putting her on the map. Who knows, she may even get her own show after this scandal. After all, look how well Kim Kardashian did after her scandal.

It is clear that she doesn’t want this incident to hurt her career. But the fact that she is  out front on the national pages,  ironically may have helped her career. No one knew who Amanda Carpenter was before this scandal. This may have helped her career by putting her on the map. Who knows, she may even get her own show after this scandal. After all, look how well Kim Kardashian did after her own  sex scandal.

Whether or not Amanda had an affair with Cruz is only something she and Cruz know for sure.  So one cannot accuse her of having an affair if  there is no proof or actual witnesses.  But one can definitely say that she did not come across very well in her interview. Therefore,  she  may have created more doubt in the minds of the public, based on her performance.

Personally, I believe she needs to lay low and not do further damage to herself by appearing on camera for a while. Then she needs to reinvent herself  and get back out there after this scandal dies down, where she is not a part of the news, but rather reporting the news.
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Elections A Sad Time for Personal Relationships

 

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Elections are a sad time for relationships and friendships. It is a time where people  often show their narrow mindedness as they are willing to pull the trigger and  end lifetime relationships ,  just because they can’t simply can’t “agree to disagree.” Marriages have suffered and schisms between family members have  deepened -all because of how people feel about one candidate or another. Sometimes their discovering  differences in your political belief may be the catalyst  they needed to lash out at you as they  may never  have  really liked you. Or worse, they may have always  been jealous or envious of you and now this is their  opportunity to  express their jealousy by speaking ill to you and to letting you have it.

When I look at the comments  on Facebook telling friends to unfriend them if they vote for a certain candidate , it is extremely  disturbing. People who have had lifelong friendships and relationships have now ended all communication  because they don’t see eye to eye in terms of which candidate they support. For many, it is their attempt to associate with those who are like-minded to and reject anyone who thinks other than their way.It is a shame because there is much more to a relationship and a friendship than your political beliefs.

As a human behavior and body language expert, I NEVER put my personal views out in public as I  MUST remain neutral at all times. I have done this since the 1980’s when I was first asked to give my feedback on various candidate’s body language in terms of how they performed during various debates.

But no matter how many times I state upfront that I am not a political person or  that I am not supporting any candidate when I provide my insight, there are still a few ignorant individuals who insist that I am supporting one candidate over another.

This happened to me during the  last election where Obama was debating Romney. As we can all recall, Obama’s performance during his initial debate was less than stellar, as he later admitted. As a result, I  expressed in the media in the Associate Press , how poorly he had performed. While most agreed with me, there were some Obama supporters who couldn’t see past their nose when it came to Obama. They appeared to play the “Emperor has new clothes” game  when in fact he was “naked” as they refused to see Obama’s poor performance at the time – something that Obama himself acknowledged.

While there are always haters out there, two of my  haters were people with whom I had gone to high school. One of the haters , whom I never even  knew went to my high school, was in my third-grade class. I hadn’t  thought about her in decades and was even unaware that she had friended me. All I remember was that in grade school, she was a frizzy dark haired girl who used to oddly hold her mouth open whenever she drew pictures.

The other hater was someone whom I had nothing to do with in high school. Since I never associated with her in high school or paid her any mind, from  what I learned from several who apparently knew her back in the day,  she  apparently was not very bright and was  a  “mean girl.”  This “mean girl clearly grew up to be a “mean woman.”

The frizzy- haired  first hater  whom I hadn’t  thought of since third grade, unloaded a barrage of hate  towards me in defense of Barack Obama.  Even though I tried to quell her hate by assuring her that I was merely reporting as a body language expert and not someone who had a political agenda, she  continued to ignore this, unleashing even more hateful remarks. My Facebook friends and fans took offense at what this hater was doing and let her know in no uncertain terms that she couldn’t communicate to me in the way she was communicating and tried to drum it into her that I was not saying anything political, but  merely reporting what I observed during he debates. But this didn’t seem to phase this hater, who continued her tirade until I unfriended her and blocked her.

The second hater ( whom I met and chatted with during a  class reunion) was a friend to the first hater. She let me know that she didn’t appreciate how I  and my fan base reacted to  her friend- the first hater. She then proceeded to let me  have it. She actually went off on me as she defended Obama and chastised me for my observations in the press.

Then she suddenly emerged from the  alleged “mean girl” into  a  “mean woman”  by personally attacking me by telling me I was nothing more than a “talking head” on TV and how some of her other high school friends (including a former cheerleader )felt the same way. As she said this to me, I had to laugh  for two reasons. One was that she was acting just like an immature high schooler and secondly, as others reported to me that she wasn’t that bright back in the day,  she still was seemingly not that bright as an adult. In her attempt to insult me by calling me a “talking head” anyone who speaks in front of the camera and gives commentary as I do is a “talking head“. Unbeknownst to her, the term  is not a pejorative adjective as this hater intended it to be. Instead, it is a noun –  what someone is and does. Needless to say,  I defriended and blocked this hater as well.

Sometimes, the fact that you have a political opinion that is different than someone else’s opinion, is just the opening they need to unleash their true inner feelings towards you. While their verbal volcano may explode  under the guise of a difference in politics,  but the truth of the matter is that it is often something deeper with them as they take  the opportunity to let you have it. Perhaps they did not  like you all along or were jealous of you  and your achievements or where you are in your life as opposed to theirs. So this is their opportunity to let you have it, just like the “mean woman” did to me.

So if you find people unleashing on you just because you support one candidate over another know that there is often something a lot deeper going on  with them like jealousy inner hate, or their lack of self-worth. Mature people who have a solid and positive sense of self and know who they are  can”agree to disagree.”  They don’t have to hate on you just because your politics differ. While they don’t have to accept your candidate they can accept you as a person and as a friend. As the saying goes,  they don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater.”

 

Dr. Lillian Glass Always Maintains Her Integrity When It Comes to Body Language Analysis

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Today I just got a call from a  magazine journalist asking me what I thought about some celebrity photos. These particular batch of  photos were of Blake Shelton and some  dark haired woman. They wanted to know if  Blake was cheating on his latest love Gwen Stefani and if there was anything going on between him and this woman in the photo.

As I looked at the photos it was clear  to me that there was nothing going on  with Blake and this dark haired woman, except  for a warm friendship between the two . I determined that based on their mutual facial expressions, the distance they appeared towards one another and their arm and body position.

So when the journalist called me back to discuss my findings  on several of these photos, I told the truth. I informed the journalist that  because Blake’s arm was over the woman’s shoulder and there was so much distance between them in the photos and based on their facial expressions, there appeared to be nothing more than just warm friendship between the two.

Apparently my evaluation was not enough for  the reporter. She wanted more,  so she pressed and pressed me with more and more questions like” Don’t you think the average person who is not a body language expert would think there was something going on between these two?” I answered , ‘No, not at all.Everyone can see  from these photos that they seem like good friends and that there are no signs they are romantic with one another.” That was not the answer she wanted to hear as she  continued to rephrase her question to get some tiny snippet from me that something could possibly be going on so she could spin it  the way she wanted for her magazine.

Knowing exactly what she was doing, I called her out on it. I said, “I know exactly what you are trying to do. You need a sensational story to entice your audience, but I can’t participate in that.

She then ignored what I had to say and tried another way to ask the question. finally told her that I always keep my integrity when I do my body language analysis so there was no way I could help her spin the story the way she wanted it. I also told her that I thought it was unfair to do this to Blake and try and conjure something up. She then said that she appreciated my honesty.

As hung up the phone, I was really disturbed by this.  Just days earlier at the Grammy’s Blake was seen with his love Gwen Stefani where it was obvious based on his body language that he and Gwen were intimately involved with one another . As you can see they seemed happy and in love and involved as Gwen sits between Blake’s legs as they held on to one another with glowing genuine smiles.

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Know that I will never allow myself to be manipulated for any story just so a journalist could spin it a certain way. This is not  the first time this has happened to me and I am sure it won’t be the last.

A few years ago,  I had a regular monthly column for Cosmopolitan Magazine where I did body language analyzes of celebrities and discussed what was really going on between the lines. All too often, whenever I would pitch a story for a new issue, I was met with the news that I had to tone something down  becuase the magazine couldn’t run  my story because the celebrity might get upset or that they would be appearing on the cover and the magazine  wouldn’t want to ruin their relationship with that particular celebrity , who may in turn. cancel out on appearing on the cover. That was surprising and very disappointing news for me to hear. As a journalist, I was trained to report in what ” IS” not what you “WANT the story to be.”

Today I was asked to comment on another story for a popular online publication who also shares my view of keeping it real and not spinning things. So I  openly gave them my observations  on a  celebrity couple’s body language. In the past whenever they asked me for a body language analysis, if I found nothing of significance, they would eliminate the potential the story and not try to manufacture it. This is something I both appreciate and respect.

I will never compromise my integrity and professional reputation for any price in the world. Nothing means more to me than telling the truth and presenting things as they are.Whenever I lend my name to a body language analysis, rest assured that it has been given careful thought and complete scrutiny.

 

 

 

 

 

Bullied Columbine Killers and Resulting Consequences

 

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There has been an uproar about Columbine Killer Dylan Kiebold’s mother Sue Kliebold going on a  book tour  to discuss her son and the 17 years of guilt she experienced since Columbine.  Many of the survivors  feel that she has no right to make money and profit from their misery. After observing Mrs. Kliebold’s interview with Diane Sawyer , it is clear Sue Kliebold is still in denial as she says she didn’t see any warning signs. Previously she even said  that she and her husband don’t understand why their son took part in the massacre.

If she  paid closer attention to what was happening to him at school she would have understood why her son took part in the massacre.  Had  she engaged in some heart to heart talks with Dylan or analyzed her son’s writings, she would have discovered  why he was so hateful. She would have known about the relentless bullying her son  endured that led him down the dismal  path of revenge and murder.

Dylan suffered from mental illness.  In fact his mother is donating the profits from the book to  mental illness facilities.

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Mental health concerns are all the more reason why bullying needs to be stopped in our schools once and for all. Those who are fragile and who  have mental illnesses can easily break down mentally and lash out, just  as Dylan and his friend  Ed Harris lashed out. Apparently Ed Harris , whom you see on the right in the above photo, suffered from extensive mental illness and was on the prescription medication luvox for his problem.

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Sue Kliebold’s son Dylan  was bullied so severely that he unfortunately took matters in his own hands. After being bullied to a pulp for years, having bottles hurled at him by students driving by in their cars  as reported by Dylan and witnessed by fellow students, and having his  complaints to teachers falling on deaf ears, Dylan  finally had enough.

Normally, when we think of the results of those who have been bullied, we think of  someone who goes inward and suffers in silence. They turn their hate  inward towards those who bullied them. That is why we hear about the countless suicides and other self destructive behaviors by those who have been deemed social outcasts by their peers.

But sometimes that hate, as a  result  of what bullies said and did to them, may be turned outward. This  was the case in  the Columbine killers  and with other mass killers on school campuses. All of these killers  had one thing in common. They were all  bullied. They all expressed that they had enough and  unleashed their hatred back to those who bullied them. Sadly, there were innocent bystanders who did not bully, who also suffered the killer’s  wrath.

When Dylan and his friend  Ed committed their acts of violence, they felt  joy- no pain and no remorse. In fact  it was reported that  Dylan  felt justified when he scratched some hateful words on another student’s  locker in school.  It was his act of revenge. In his diary he wrote  that he would ” Feel no remorse, no sense of shame” for any acts of violence he would commit.

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As further proof of his hatred towards his self entitled bullies, Dylan also wrote the following in his diary:  ” I mow down a whole [expletive] area full of you snotty ass rich mother [expletive] high strung godlike attitude having worthless pieces of [expletive] whores.”.

He goes on to say “YOU KNOW WHAT I HATE, When there is a group of [expletive] standing in the middle of a hallway or walkway, and they are just STANDING there talking and blocking my [expletive] way!!!! Get the [expletive] outta the way….Dead people can’t do many things, like argue, whine b*tch, complain, narc, rat out, criticize, or even [expletive] talk.”

His diary also  included disturbing imagery of inflicting pain on others as he wrote ” I felt like getting a baseball bat, breaking it over his head, and then STABBING him with the broken end!!!!” His revengeful entry  most likely reflected the inner pain he had experienced as a result of those inflicting emotional pain upon him.

While what he and his friend Ed Harris  did was horrific, we cannot deny that his actions and raw hate were the consequence  of  being so bullied and tormented  that they finally decided they were not   going to take it anymore. They fought back in the most brutal and severest of ways. Their mental state and lack of mental health , unfortunately resulted in thirteen people ending up dead and countless others suffering from  physical and emotional scars they will have to endure for the rest of their life.

Dylan Kliebold and Ed Harris’  pain emotional scars left them emotionally detached- emotionally dead. Just as those who are bullied who end up emotionally  dead  and  turn their pain inward and commit suicide, these  two young men were also emotionally dead. They that  didn’t care about the consequences of their actions. They were prepared to kill and be killed as they turned their emotional pain outward.

What happened in Columbine clearly shows us that there is another side of bullying. The  consequences  of  that bullying are  extremely severe as we saw. That is why ALL schools MUST have a ZERO Tolerance when it comes to bullies and being bullied.

Whether the bullying takes place on a school grounds or over the internet there must be  serious and severe  legal consequences  in place  for anyone who bullies another student.

 

Toxic People- Black Friday Terrorists Among US and Solutions to the problem

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After the recent terrorist attacks in Paris, Lebanon, Mali and other places around the world, one would think that Americans would be thankful these acts didn’t occur on our shores. But after reading the headlines over  Thanksgiving and Black Friday, it seems that terrorism is alive and well among us – in our shopping malls and department stores, as there are too many out there who have  been violently attacked.

Here are just a  few of the headlines which makes one feel they are in a war zone instead of celebrating a holiday.

“Black Friday brings pain for family of  Walmart worker killed”

“Black Friday Fight Breaks Out In Baby Section Of Department Store”

“Fist fight over Black Friday deals”

 ‘Kidnapper’ is caught ‘trying to snatch a shopper’s three-year-old grandchild at Walmart’ after lurking at store for hours”

“Brawls break out at Walmart during Black Friday; shoppers wrestle each other to ground in Kentucky food court”

“Woman steals item from child, squabble ensues”

“#BlackFridayMatters: Swarms raid discount TV display; Cop punched”

For many it comes as no surprise that these acts of violence would occur. In fact there is a website designed to morbidly  track injuries and deaths during Black Friday. In fact, the day before Black Friday, there were several warnings throughout the media as to the 10 top states this violence would take place.

According to a study by real estate website Estately, which used Facebook user data and federal crime statistics to determine where people participate in Black Friday sales and where people are more likely to violently attack each other, shoppers are most likely to encounter a Black Friday fight in the following states:

  1. Arkansas
  2. Tennessee
  3. Alabama
  4. Louisiana
  5. Missouri
  6. West Virginia
  7. Oklahoma
  8. Indiana
  9. Kansas
  10. South Carolina

But these predictors were  absolutely wrong as the violence based on the above headlines of where this violence actually occurred  have been in states  which not on the Esterly  list, They include:

1. Kentucky                                                                                                                 2.Georgia                                                                                                                         3. New York                                                                                                                     4. Michigan                                                                                                                    5.Texas                                                                                                                              6. California

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There sales bring out the absolute worst in people. Therefore there must either be a more organized system for shopping during these special sale holidays  such as:                                                                                                                      a. a limited group of people are allowed to enter stores at at time                    b. they can order the items via a catalog ahead of time and pick it up at             the store or have it mailed to them or                                                                    c. they can do something like is done at Brookstone where you see the               items you want,write down your purchase ,and the clerk goes and                  gets it for you.                                                                                                                 d. or  the ultimate solution to this problem would be that these Black                Friday sales days should only be allowed to occur online.

No innocent person should have to die, get kidnapped or beaten up while shopping for some items on sale.

 

 

Kim Davis Shows Hypocrisy, Deception, and A Love for Attention In GMA Interview

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When confronted with the fact that she was married four times and had children in her adulterous relationships and whether or not she was a hypocrite, Kim Davis  realizes she has been busted by the reporter.   She  cocks her head to the side and  her eyes search to the right as she tries to come up with a response. Her response is that she is forgiven and “washed clean.”

In essence she is saying that those whom she refuses to give a marriage license to because they are gay are not clean and are in essence dirty.

She said that when she  found God four years ago she couldn’t separate church from state. Well in my view, that is the time she needed to step down from her position as she was not effectively doing her job because one in any government position must be able to separate church from state. When the Supreme Court ruling came down, she needed to step away from her position since she could not  separate church from state.

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While she says that Godly authority trumps all other authority, she does realize that her constituents are the ones who elected her. As she answers these questions you see her eyebrows raise and her eyes widen, which is a signal of submission in that she knows full well that her constituents elected her, not God.

This body language tell demonstrated that she knows exactly what she is doing and in my view is doing this for attention and to get her 15 minutes of fame and attention.

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She also showed a signal of deception when she said she had friends who were gay and lesbian  but they don’t agree on this issue and they were OK with that. I SERIOUSLY doubt that ANY gay person would be OK with her defying the Supreme Court and not issuing them a marriage license and preventing them from a marriage simply because they were gay.

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She knows full well that what she said was not true because she immediately looks away as she says this.

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She does manage to cry  genuine tears when she says that what concerns her is that what concerns her the most is that her God doesn’t love her and  God is not happy with her that she is a hypocrite.

If that is such a concern to her then she needs to step  down from her position immediately.  Her tears and concern for her God’s love of her illustrates that she knows what she has done is wrong in the eyes of  her God by her  being hypocritical by not being tolerant of others and in not obeying the law. Here she is questioning what her God thinks of her and her tears reflect that she doesn’t believe God is thinking well of her.

No matter what, she needs to step down.  This hypocritical and obviously disturbed woman refuses to sign the licenses and in essence is not doing her job, But she will not step down because she  appears to LOVES the attention. By stating she is willing to go to jail again, it shows that she loves attention perhaps even more than she  loves her God.