Is Ryan Lochte A Sociopath? Lame Apology May Give Insight

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One of the most difficult things to spot is when a Sociopath is lying. When Ryan Lochte gave his interviews with Billy Bush, he was fluid and fluent. He had no ums or uhs in his speech and no other vocal tells of deception. Physcially there were no body language tells either, .to indicate that he lied. While there was one story that caused a little raised eyebrow as  he told Billy- that the robber asked him to give him his money and  Ryan told the robber  “no,”  it could be dismissed as a carryover of the gold medalist’s brazen fearless attitude that he showed in the Olympic pool. When asked to give over their money, most  people would give it readily, especially if there was a gun involved in any way. Other than that statement, Ryan showed a calm, collected attitude as he shared the story with Bush.

 

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It was only when Matt Lauer interviewed him and the story changed from the gun being “pointed  at his head “ to the gun being “pointed in his direction” it was clear that Ryan was a liar.

At first, no one wanted to believe Ryan would lie about this. It made sense that he would have been robbed, considering the fact that Rio has the highest crime rate and robberies are rampant. In addition, why would Ryan make this up? He certainly didn’t need attention .  After all, he was a Gold medalist and was getting loads of attention. So why would he make  something like this up?

One reason he would make this up  may possibly be that he may perhaps have sociopathic tendencies. Sociopaths have a tendency to invent outrageous lies about their experiences. They wildly exaggerate and make up things to the point of absurdity, but when they describe it to you in a storytelling format, for some reason, it sounds believable at the time.That is exactly the case with Ryan, especially with his story about saying “no” to the robber. 

Sociopaths are also incapable of apologizing and feeling remorse. Only because the other athletes he was with were forced to  come clean, essentially “busting” Ryan, Lochte gave a public apology. It wasn’t verbal. It was written  on instragram. If Lochte didn’t make a statement he would be in further danger with his sponsors and with the IOC.

The apology speaks volumes about Ryan. It begins by saying I apologize for not being more careful and candid in how I described the events. he doesn’t say he apologizes for lying but rather for not being careful. In essence, he is saying that his only remorse is getting caught. This is typical sociopathic rhetoric as they are not direct with their apologies and couch them in a way to deflect  the seriousness of what they did.

He also says that he apologizes for taking the attention away from his fellow athletes. This is not what he needs to be sorry for. He needs to be sorry for making up a lie about Brazil, who already has a terrible reputation when it comes to robberies and crime. He needed to apologize for adding fuel to the fire, yet he doesn’t do so.

Since Sociopaths never truly apologize because they feel they  are never wrong, they also never feel guilt. If they are forced to apologize like Ryan was they will go on the defensive, In the next paragraph of Lochte;s apology, He blames the a. language barrier  and still insists that a gun was pointed at him  and money was demanded to let him leave, But he doesn;t say that he and his fellow swimmers broke the bathroom door and they security guard wanted them to pay for it. He didn’t say that the payment was a mere 50 something dollars.

Then Lochte demonstrates yet another signal of the sociopath;s behavior in his apology when he tries to lay on the charm and kiss up to those he needs. In Lochte’s case it was the International Olympic Committee, and the United States Olympic Committee.He gives a kiss up shout out to them as he knows what may be in store for him, They could potentially go as far as banning him if they see fit, for his lies and causing an international incident in an already flamable situation.

Finally he encourages people to move on and to essentially forget about what he did as he says he “looks ahead to celebrating future successes.

This may be wishful thinking on Lochte’s part. He has damaged his public image forever. People are not quick to forget when another one of their hero’s let them down with all of his lying behavior- Lance Armstrong. They are certainly not going to let Lochte off the hook so easily. This has severely damaged his brand due to his issues with credibility.

 

Hillary Clinton Leaking Out Awkward Body Language and Communication

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As a body language and communication  expert, I can say that  some of  Hillary Clinton’s recent body language, facial language voice and speech behaviors do seem awkward. The awkward  behaviors that she has leaked out may be cause for concern.

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As far as her coughing spells are concerned, they may be due to  post nasal drip or she may have some type of bronchial spasm. With her nonstop schedule, constant flying and enormous stress, it seems that her laryngeal  tissues are taking a beating. So it is  understandable  to me as to why she may be  having coughing spells when she speaks. She may have contracted an upper respiratory infection that has stubbornly refused to go away. Sometimes it can take several months for the cough to subside, so I am not so concerned about Hillary’s coughing behavior when she speaks. Also she doesn’t cough constantly when she speaks. It is occasional , which is  further indication as to why it  does not concern me.

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But there was an  incident  that does concern me. Two reporters asked her a question at once.  It seemed to jar her as she bobbed her head back and forth  and closed her eyes.

 

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Even though her head was bobbing and her eyes were closed, she  kept smiling throughout  the whole ordeal.

 

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The reporters ,who were previously smiling and laughing with Hillary, suddenly got serious in their facial expression and the reporter on the left even backed away and looked frightened. The reporter on the right cocked her head in wonder  as she furrowed her brow as if to question what was happening with Hillary. Hillary was so engaging moments earlier where she discussed Obama’s endorsement of her.

But now, she didn’t answer the reporter’s questions. When she did  regained her composure, she attempted to distract the two reporters  by  asking them if they ever tried the latte and said that they should do so. She then left.

Most recently, she was very articulate  and connected to her audience when discussing health care in her staccato cadence. All of a sudden, she was disconnected and looked lost She didn’t  seem to remember what she was talking about. Her entire facial expression changed. She then made no sense as she said “upward spiral”. We have heard of a “downward spiral,” but  never an “upward spiral”. This word confusion may have  indicated that there may have been some type of cognitive confusion going on with Hillary.

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Then there was a situation where Hillary apparently had a blank disconnected stare for a few moments as she focused on some commotion going on in front of her with animal protesters. The Secret Service agent got on stage and told her to” keep talking”  “We’ll handle it. We’re not going anywhere. She quickly recovered and cleverly said the protesters were there for Trump because” he and his kids killed a lot of animals.”

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When Hillary said she “short circuited “her email explanation, she looked extremely exhausted with bags under each of her eyes. It was clear that all the email talk has taken a physical toll on her. As she goes on to explain herself after the Chris Wallace interview, she actually makes no sense. At first it sounded like “double talk.” But on closer inspection it was difficult to follow exactly what she was trying to say because it was not coherent.

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Now photos have emerged where Hillary is being helped up a series of steps. In the photo on the left it appears that her legs are stiff and that  she has trouble walking up the stairs. She is grabbing at one of the agent’s arms to steady herself and he is clasping on to her arm to make sure she doesn’t fall. Perhaps she hurt her leg or her back.  Another speculation is that she may not be feeling well. She may have felt dizzy or sick to her stomach ,which could have also caused her to require some assistance with walking.

There has been a lot of talk by some medical experts who state that she may have post concussion syndrome, based on her fall several years ago. Other medical experts have speculated that she may have Parkinson’s disease or some other type of neurological condition. But since none of these doctors, who appeared on television have not treated Hillary, we cannot be sure about what may really be wrong with her.

While Hillary has done a great job of holding it together for the most part, the bottom line is that  the awkward  behavior which she  leaked out on so many occasions,   tells us that something is  clearly off with her. The zoning out, forgetting what she was saying, head bobbing, eyes closing, and not making sense, speaks volumes. It does indeed seem like her body language and speech patterns have been “short circuited.”

Once again, as a reminder, this is not a political blog. I merely report what I see from body language standpoint and report what I hear from a communication standpoint.

 

 

 

Caitlyn Jenner’s Canceled Show May Be a Blessing In Disguise

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When Caitlyn Jenner  first made her transition from male to female, I filmed a segment at with her at her home, way on top of a hill in Malibu, for her show ( I am Cait). In our segment, there was some intensive voice and speech training that unfortunately never made it to air. I showed her videotape of herself  appearing on  Diane Sawyer’s 20/20 interview and  analyzed it. I relayed to her which speech, voice, and body language patterns were masculine and feminine and what she needed to work on. She seemed very receptive.  We then did  some speech, body language, and  vocal exercises. The story line was that I was supposed to tell her not to have surgery  on her vocal cords, which she was  supposedly considering in  order to sound more feminine. During our shoot, I told her that surgery was not a good idea. I also told her that there may be some dangers associated with the surgery that could harm her voice in the long run and that she instead, needed to do a regimine of vocal and speech and body language exercises. I also shared this in the confessional. Continue reading

Trump Turns Hillary Passionate and Emotional In Second Half of Speech

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With the exception of  Hillary Clinton’s  emotional  and touching entrance when she and  daughter Chelsea looked one another in the eye and both teared up, the first half of Hillary speech was  bland with a monotone cadence. But before she spoke, we were privy to see a side of Hillary we had never seen before. Right after  Chelsea introduced her mother and Hillary came to the stage, we witnessed mother and  daughter sharing  a beautiful, heartfelt, tender moment.

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As Hillary took the stage and began to speak, her body language appeared stiff and mechanical.

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Whenever  she wanted to express a point or show emotion, instead of raising her vocal inflection, she got louder and louder. Soon it became a monotonous  bore where it was difficult to distinguish major points she was trying to get across.  It all sounded the same, in her staccato delivery/ So  it was not always easy to follow her message.

In terms of her facial language, whenever she got louder and louder to express a point, her eyes widened. It didn’t seem to be congruous with her message. The wide-eyed look,along with the monotone loud cadence at the end of her statements, did not showcase Hillary at her best.

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Ther monotone cadence and loud endings of sentences during the first half of the speech could put anyone to sleep . In fact, her speech  put Bill to sleep for a little while. In all fairness, he has probably heard her rehearse the speech countless times. Nevertheless, her monotonous droll lulled him to catch a few Z’s .

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But  as soon as she began to discuss Donald Trump and why he shouldn’t be the next President, a  completely different Hillary emerged. This Hillary was passionate, exciting, enthusiastic, and had life to her voice . She came alive and showed more emotion than ever before.  Her body language and facial language now matched her words. Unlike before, they were now  all  in synch.

Her message suddenly became clearer. Her zings to Donald Trump were very cleaver. She  said “Instead of making America great again, how about making things in America” when referring to his clothes  being made in China, shirts in Mexico and furniture in Turkey. She certainly made a good point with that statement.

She then said that  someone ” who loses his cool  when baited with a tweet  is not a man you can trust with nuclear weapons.”

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As she said this the audience roared and suddenly  Hillary became more energized and more passionate. She then began to express more emotion than ever before. Her tones were now inflected and the monotone and shouting  for emphasis was gone.  Her entire demeanor changed. She said what everyone in the audience wanted to hear.

Perhaps her most powerful statement  was personally directed to Donald and what she perceives as his bullying. She said that  as a child she was bullied. Her late mother, who was very near and dear to her heart, told the young Hillary to “pick yourself up and get back in the game and stand up to bullies.” 

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Bill and Chelsea watched her with pride and when Hillary spoke the words” I accept your nomination for President of the United States,”Bill looked like he was choked up and ready to shed a tear.

After the speech ended with a resounding applause, Bill finally came on stage with her. There was a genuine embrace between the two that lasted quite a while by hugging standards, with Hillary  even rubbing Bill’s back. Witnessing the two of them embrace at that moment, there was no doubt that whatever crises the two of them had been through with Bill’s serial womanizing, all was  in the past. The way Bill held Hillary showed a genuine connection, which was reciprocated by her.

What was also impressive when Bill was on the stage with Hillary was that he did not try to share the limelight with her. Instead,  he let her have her moment and  allowed her to shine.  He  constantly stayed in the background talking to others on the stage and amusing himself with the balloons- especially the larger ones, which he kept throwing around.

Hillary also had some fun with the  balloons and with acknowledging people in the  audience. She was warm. happy, and playful. This was  yet another side of Hillary that we never saw. It made her seem more human and likeable.

 

 

 

 

 

Bill Clinton’s  Excellent Speech Revealed Secrets About About His Relationship And Hillary’s Instincts

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There is no one who is a better speaker than Bill Clinton in my estimation. He can speak to an audience of millions, as he did at the Democratic, and make everyone listening feel as though he is speaking directly to them and have a personal conversation with them.

He does it through inflection, using the right tone, the right volume, emphasizing key words, and using a mellifluous vocal flow. His body language matches what he says as does his facial expressions. During this speech the typical Bill “vocal fry” or creaky sounding voice that we have come to know since Bill’s Presidency and which Bill impersonators  have often mocked was gone.

The content of his speech was fascinating. It was a historical march down memory lane in terms of his wife and best friend’s accomplishments. No matter what side of the isle you are on, all of Hillary’s accomplishments at such an early age seemed incredibly impressive.

At the beginning of the speech, Bill specifically spoke about the ups and downs of their relationship. You could see that there was a pained expression in his face as he briefly mentioned it. We all knew what he was talking about in terms of the downs of their relationship- Bill’s unfaithfulness and his getting involved in scandal after scandal with mistresses, lovers, and random women who accused him of rape, abuse, unwanted advances, and disrespect.

While  Bill’s down home approach made him seem like an open book with nothing to hide, there is no doubt that everything he said was planned and measured. But despite all the planning and measuring, he revealed several things about their relationship that he may not have realized.

For one, he revealed that Hillary had pretty good instincts early on in her life when she was dating Bill. He asked her to marry him twice and two times, she said “no.” There is no doubt, she clearly knew he was trouble, even back when they were students and when they were young. Perhaps she saw his flirty behavior and his eye for the women early on and wanted no part of it. That is no doubt why she didn’t accept his marriage proposal on two separate occasions.  Her instincts were right on as he has continued to be a trouble source for her as far as the women are concerned, throughout their marriage.

Bill thought he would try a third time. This time he manipulated her to marry him by purchasing the cute house she said she liked,  which she noticed on one of her earlier visits to Arkansas. After that big gesture, Hillary relented and finally agreed to marry him.

Bill also revealed something about Hillary was made many cringe, as he described her thick glasses in not a very flattering way, as reflected in his vocal tone, facial micro-expression and body language. He reflected that he wasn’t that attracted to her initially. Bill was the kind of person who took charge and made the first moves when it came to the ladies. This was also the accepted behavior back in the day in the late 60’s and 70’s, where the man usually made the first move, especially a man from the South. While there was the hippie movement of free love and the time where women started to come into their own, it still wasn’t the norm for women to make the first move. So, when Bill relayed that Hillary marched over to him from  across the room and introduced herself to him, her forwardness no doubt stunned and impressed him.

Bill respected this strong woman who wasn’t afraid to approach him, who wreaked in self- confidence.  He wanted to get to know her and continued to be impressed with her, not just as a conquest or love interest, but instead as a friend- as a best friend.

That friendship grew and grew to the point they met one another’s families. Bill fell in love with Hillary’s family, especially her mother, who’s upbringing was far worse than his. Hillary and her family represented stability, something he never had in his life.

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As Bill spoke of all of Hillary’s enormous achievements, there was a genuine sense of pride which shone through his body language, facial expression and voice. When he said  he ”married” his best friend, it made me think. Perhaps she was his “best friend,” but was he her “best friend?”  A “best friend” doesn’t cheat, lie,  and womanize, unless perhaps they are really only “friends.” But the fact that he used the term “ married”  to his “best friend” seems to change the equation.  “Married” “best friends” are not supposed to cheat and womanize. On the other hand, their relationship is their intimate business. If Hillary, as a married woman, put up with Bill’s Toxic behavior her entire life, it was her choice and  truly no one else’s business. Obviously the dynamic must have worked for her or she would not have put up with it.

After hearing Bill speak about Hillary, one cannot deny that he respects her accomplishments, and her abilities. Several times he said that she has been successful throughout her life in  “making change happen.” But sadly,  she was not able to make that change happen in her personal life with regards to Bill’s behavior.

Bernie Sanders Body Language Shows Anger, Passion and Distrust During DNC Speech

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While Bernie Sanders’s body language showed that he was angry not only about the issues he passionately believes in, his body language showed that he was clearly angry that he was not the nominee.

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He showed that anger through pointing, pursed lips, and lip licking as he reluctantly  supported Hillary.

He openly addressed the elephant in the room and said that he was unhappy that he didn’t get the nomination as he verbalized” I  understand that many people here in this convention hall and around the country are disappointed about the final results of the nominating process. I think it’s fair to say that no one is more disappointed than I am. But to all of our supporters – here and around the country – I hope you take enormous pride in the historical accomplishments we have achieved.”

As he said “This election is about ending the grotesque level of income and wealth inequality that we currently experience, the worst it has been since 1928. It is not moral, not acceptable and not sustainable that the top one-tenth of one percent now own almost as much wealth as the bottom 90 percent, or that the top 1 percent in recent years has earned 85 percent of all new income. That is unacceptable. That must change” one could not help but think of Hillary  being at  that a “grotesque level of income and wealth inequality ” to which he was referring. After all, Hillary and Bill are one of the richest couples in the world.

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Deep down, here was no happiness and joy in his speech. He did what he had to do and the only thing he felt good about was that several of the issues  he holds near and dear have now been incorporated into the Democratic Platform.

Whenever he mentioned Hillary’s name he never smiled or showed warmth.

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While Bernie has usually shown a similar body language and facial expression throughout his campaign, the fact that this was the Democratic convention where she was supposed to be singing Hillary’s praises  speaks volumes. It says that his heart isn’t really into it. While the words are  certainly there, his body language says the complete opposite.

His final statement  is very telling as she says “ Our job now is to see that platform implemented by a Democratic Senate, a Democratic House and a Hillary Clinton presidency – and I am going to do everything I can to make that happen.”

What he is saying is that he is going to make sure that he keeps an eye on the Democratic Party to make sure that all of his issues are implemented  into the Democratic Platform because no doubt, he doesn’t really trust them.  After what happened to him during the campaign,  where  millions Americans voted  and sent in contributions to finance his campaign, turned out for his rallies, and cheered on his promised revolution, little did they know that Bernie never stood a chance. Their time and effort was wasted.

Now leaked  emails have confirmed what he suspected all along- that the  Democratic National Committee decided that Hillary Clinton would be the Presidential nominee long before any votes were cast.

His supporters at the convention appeared to be devastated. Many of them covered their mouth in upset and even cried, as you can see in the photos above.  With knowledge of the leaked emails his supporters are livid.  For many  on the  fence as to whether they were Bernie or Hillary supporters, the rigged campaign may have prompted them to leave the party all together and vote for Trump. Others who were Bernie supporters may feel duped and  so angry at the DNC , that they too may refuse to vote for Hillary.

Even though his parting words were ” Hillary Clinton will make an outstanding president and I am proud to stand with her here tonight.” his body language and facial expression showed that he really didn’t believe what he was saying. He wasn’t smiling at all when he made that statement.

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In fact ,the only time Bernie cracked a smile was when he was how much love there was on the convention floor for him and people wouldn’t stop clapping or chanting his name. Otherwise he had a sour facial expression throughout his speech. He clearly never smiled when she spoke of Hillary.

His body language and facial expression said that deep  down he believes, as do all of his supporters, that he would make an outstanding president and he would be prouder if he were the nominee instead of Hillary.

 

Melania’s Mellifluous Voice and Elegant Composed Body Language During RNC Speech

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The stunning beauty, Melania Trump, wearing a gorgeous form fitting white dress, made her debut at the Republican Convention’s stage. As far as delivery and body language is concerned, Melania did extremely well, especially since she is not a public speaker, does not often speak in public, and the fact that English is not her native tongue. The tone of her voice was appealing and soothing. She was poised and composed vocally. Her accent in my view, was charming and her cadence, rhythm, and timing when she spoke  were excellent. She spoke with passion and inflection, especially when she spoke of husband Donald and what she believed he could do for the country.

Body language wise, her movements were fluid and elegant. She had a regal appearance with impeccable posture.

There is a  lot of talk about whether or not Melania’s speech was  original or whether it was the same as the speech given by Michelle Obama. It seems that they both spoke about education and their children, which seemed to be a mission on both of their parts. So it may be understandable that both messages may have been similar.

The bottom line is that she did an excellent job.  Should Donald Trump be the next President of the United States, it certainly appears that Melania,  as the First Lady, would handle herself with the same elegance and decorum  as she showed during her  RNC speech .

Once again, this is not a political stance as this is not a political blog. As an objective professional,  I  report what I see as it pertains to body language and what I hear as it pertains to communication patterns.