Dr. Lillian Glass’ Communication and Handshaking Advice to Trump To Make Friends and Influence People

screen-shot-2016-11-13-at-6-26-44-pmThere is no question that  Presidential Candidate Donald Trump, did it “his way” and won the election.  But now that he is the President, as a 30 year veteran communication expert,  I would like to offer him some very useful advice. I  recommend that he tone down “his way” in terms of how he communicates publically. The bragging, self aggrandizement, constant self reference, lack of humility, using over inflated terms terms like “never in the history as anyone…” as it pertains to his achievements  needs to stop immediately.

 It is starting not to  work with friends and supporters and it is definitely not working with foes. It is merely adding fuel to their fire.

The universal rule of communication is  humility.  No one responds well to a braggart. No one likes to hear someone tell how great they are even if they invested a cure for cancer and solved the national debt. First and foremost, he must STOP constantly talking about himself and bragging on himself and saying how great he is. He needs others to say that about him. He does not need to say it about himself.

While  it may have worked with the late  boxer  Muhammed Ali, it was often tongue and cheek and said with humour.  It even worked for Trump when he was a celebrity and entertainer. But as a President,  it looks awful when Trump says it about himself. As a world leader, it  smacks of arrogance, self absorption,  and insecurity. It is  just plain bad form.

No matter where you live in the world, there is no doubt you were raised hearing the saying “don’t get big headed” or “don’t get too big for your britches,” don’t brag about yourself” or  “Stop showing off .” Most cultures appreciate graciousness and humility, especially when it comes to one’s own achievements. 

Yes,  self confidence is wonderful and it is essential to have a healthy dose of self esteem and confidence  for what you have done, what you are currently doing, and what you plan to do. But Keep it to yourself  or only share it with your intimates and very close circle of friends and family. Let people know your achievements but do it humbly.

No one likes a continuous braggart or someone who exaggerates for effect, or  who is big headed. It alienates  most people and it is off- putting. That is how many physicians who tend to be too full of themselves often end up in trouble with patients and in legal disputes.

Now that he is the President, he needs to keep it less personal and strictly focus on and discuss the issues just as passionately as he talks about himself.  He needs to speak less about himself and more about us and how the issues affect us.

TRUMP”S PRESSER CALLING OUT FAKE NEWS 

 Donald Trump’s recent presser focused on setting the record straight and  admonishing the “fake news” and  many less than professional journalists. In my view his speech was correct and what he said finally  needed to be said. Had I not personally  experienced  what he is talking about – the spin and negativity, I would have never believed what Trump was saying. But he is absolutely correct in this regard. 

MISINTERPRETED TRUMP/ ABE HANDSHAKE AND FACIAL GESTURE 

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I have been doing countless interviews about the Trump/ Abe handshake all over the world and have been setting the record straight that there was no problem between Trump and Japanese Prime Minister Abe. In fact their body language each showed that they really liked one another.  This was indicated by their body language. Trump did the double handshake which shows genuine affection and Abe leaned into Trump and his toes pointed in Trump’s direction, indicating he really liked Trump. He also showed a genuine smile with his apples of his cheeks raised, eyes squinted, and teeth showing. 

No one overpowered anyone. As they were equally formidable in their approach. In fact Abe directed the photo op as she told Trump “look at me” which Trump immediately did. They maintained. eye to eye contact as they both  had a strong handshake. In fact Trump remarked that Abe had a strong handshake.  

When the photo op was finally over and they both broke their strong handshake, Ave looked up ( as though he was searching for someone) and immediately an aide ( in glasses) came over to him. He did NOT roll his eyes at Trump. Japanese people do not do that when they are exasperated or when they are not happy about someone. So the take that journalists had on this was wrong. Many called me to verify that the relationship between Trump and Abe was bad. i told them that is was not and set the record straight. Most journalists were great and reported my take and saw my point of view.

But there were others who simply would have none of it.I found that distressing. When the election was taking place Quartz, a new publication which is an offshoot of the Atlantic Monthly paid me to write a story on Trump and Pence’s handshake and body language which I gladly did.

Several days ago, I got an urgent email from one of Quartz’s writers Selian Cheng who wanted to know my take on the Trump. Abe handshake.  The article involved no pay as it was just my opinion. I got back to her immediately with the view I described above. Then  never heard back from her. Finally,  she emailed me to let me now she found someone else and wanted to use other body language expert to get their different view.

I then emailed her back and asked why she even bothered to contact me in the first place if that was her aim all along  as it wasted her time and mine. After reading the article in Quartz which she wrote, it appeared to me in my view  that my quote didn’t apparently match her spin of the story which was very anti-Trump and mischaracterized the whole handshake situation,. So she simply got another body language “expert” ( and I use that term loosely)  who’s views may have  matched her agenda in my view. It saddened me as that is not how I learned to do journalism as a journalism student at the best journalism school in the country, USC.  

I felt bad about this so I wanted to share my thoughts with the Editor in Chief of Quartz. Unfortunately I didn’t get the chance because his Editorial Assistant Molly Rubin, with whom I shared why I was calling, in  what I perceived as a nasty tone, said “thank you very much” and hung up on me. So there you have it!  Obviously she didn’t want to hear what I had to say on the matter and with the Toxic behavior she showed me, I doubt anyone got my message or concern.

FUTURE BODY LANGUAGE  ADVICE CONCERNING  HANDSHAKING 

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Donald Trump is a man who is very demonstrative and effusive in terms of his affection. He even kissed Pence when Pence was  nominated as Vice President.

 Many are not used to it, so they are taken aback and they are making a huge deal out of his  kissing, handshakes and effusive greetings.

 But I can assure you the way he meets and greets is part of the norm in Hollywood and Trump is very Hollywood when it comes to his greetings. People tend to be more   open, affectionate and effusive in show business than they are in other businesses. So we tend to be used to this.

Personally, I find it refreshing. If you really like someone , you let it be known. That is what Trump did with Abe, Pence, Trudeau and others he likes. With Trudeau, they not only shook hands, they both embraced shoulders which is an even bigger display of mutual affection. It is NOT by any means a power play when it is mutual. It showed they were on equal footing in terms of their affection towards one another. 

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Trump doesn’t hide his positive emotions and I say he should continue to do what he is going in terms of being genuine  in his meet and greets, which have received world- wide attention.

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Apparently many world leaders who are planning to meet President Trump in the future are concerned with how to approach the newly elected President when they meet him. “How can the leader best shake his hand”  was the question a Chinese journalist  from China’s major newspaper asked me in regard to Chinese President Xi’s upcoming visit to the United States.

 I let her know that the best way to approach Trump in terms of his hand-shaking is to mirror him. If he does the double handshake with his hand on top of Xi’s, then Xi, also needs to do the same . This will indicate mutual warmth and affection and will not be read as Trump taking charge or overpowering. I also suggested that Xi match Trump’s strength and firmness in terms of his handshake.

 I also suggested that Xi not bold back and be genuine in his feelings, because Trump certainly will hold nothing back.  I assured the Chinese journalist  during our interview that the body doesn’t lie no matter how hard you may try to control it. The truth always leaks out. 

 

 

 

Trump Handshake Did Not Overpower Abe But Showed Positive Affection as They Both Like One Another

screen-shot-2017-02-11-at-1-10-14-amI got so many calls and emails  today from TOXIC journalists who were determined to spin an innocent story about President Trump’s meeting with Japan’s Prime Minister into a negative international incident when it was not. I refused to play their game and stuck to my guns about how it was not an issue. In fact one journalist from a  publication who always interviews me didn’t like my honest answer. So they found another body language expert to spin it her negative way. I was disgusted at her and I told her so in no uncertain terms.

As a bona fide trained journalist myself,  I HATE this and I have no respect for this journalist or the publication who hired her or the other journalists who called me with their own agendas in mind.

The controversy is over the following expression of Abe. The  so called “journalists” claimed he rolled his eyes after the handshake indicating he didn’t like Trump. This is NONSENSE.

Screen Shot 2017-02-11 at 1.10.34 AM.pngFirst of all in Japanese body language the eye roll is not used to show disgust or displeasure. Secondly EVERYTHING has to be measured and analyzed in terms of CONTEXT! All Abe was doing was looking at someone.

Abe had a long handshake with Trump and was even directing the photo  op as he told Trump to look at him.

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Now here is the person  to whom Abe was reacting. There was no eye roll as the journalists said. They also tried to spin it that Abe was overpowered by Trump.

This is NOT so . Look at Abe’s very  masculine sitting position with legs apart.  Look at how much room he is taking up. This is not how a person who feels overpowered looks. So the journalists were wrong again.

Screen Shot 2017-02-11 at 1.10.14 AM.pngHere is when the two leaders are having eye to eye contact and smiling which is a great sign. Abe shows his teeth and the apples of his cheeks are raised which indicates it is a genuine smile. The screenshot is taken just after Abe tells Trump to look at him for the photo op. So Abe is just as media savvy as Trump on the world stage.

Screen Shot 2017-02-11 at 1.10.06 AM.pngIn fact,  here is  when Abe tells Trump to look at him. Trump is happy and it is a genuine smile with teeth showing and balls of cheeks raised and eyes crinkled.

We rarely see Trump like this so when we do, it is clearly genuine. Trump also does not have an overpowering grip on Abe as Abe is gripping right back. They BOTH have strong handshakes as you can see.

In fact after the photo opp Trump looked at Abe and said “strong handshake”. So there was a language of mutual strength being spoken to one another thru their handshake and touch.

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Their body language mirrors one another which is a great sign in terms of their relationship. Note how both of their hands drop down. Also both of their toes are pointed towards one another which is further indication that they like one another.

Trump also put his hand over Abe’s which is an affectionate gesture. Abe likes this a as he returns a genuine smile with teeth showing.

So to all you TOXIC journalists who wanted to spin this  story your negative and ignorant  way, I say SHAME ON YOU!!! and I also say I WILL NOT PAY YOUR TOXIC GAME”. I want NO part of it !

I am not going to say negative things about Trump when I see nothing negative body language wise and communication wise. And I say SHAME to any body language person who does play your game just to get their name in print. Nothing is worth compromising your integrity for some PR.

 

 

Stop the Rumors! Trump Did NOT Make Milania Sad During Swearing In Context is Key in Reading Body Language

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Context is key  with regard to any body language analysis. So many people have been asking me to comment on why Melania looked so sad after Donald turned around at the inauguration ceremony when Rev. Graham spoke.

After scrutinizing the clip frame by frame  and looking at Melania’s behavior facial expression and body language BEFORE Donald turned around, DURING the time he turned around and AFTER the time he turned around,    I can assure you that he did not say anything to upset her.

The reason I am so sure of it is that if she was upset with what he said  it would have happened immediately at the split moment it happened not any time later and certainly not a second or two later.

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Melania wore the same upset looking facial expression people are speaking about well before Donald turned around as you can see her with somber expression and head bowed down. In fact in the crowd, she is one of few people with a bowed head. 

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Melania looks sad BEFORE Rev. Graham spoke.Even Ivanka looks somber as he starts his benediction.

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Her head is bowed BEFORE Donald turned around and as Rev. Gram said” in the bible it is a sign that when it rains…”

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As soon as Rev. Graham said ” And it started t0 rain Mr. President when you came to the platform,” Trump immediately turned around and smiled at Melania as Ivanka is wearing an expression of being choked up. In essence,  BOTH Donald and Melania are having a positive and personal moment together .   

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They both book at one another eye to eye as Melania nods and Ivanka is now happy as well, cocking her head so that she can get a better view of her dad. 

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Trump uttered something and he immediately  turned around. Since his back was to the camera we can never know what he said. Therefore I cannot utilize my lip reading skills to decipher exactly what he said and I cannot speculate as I ONLY report what I actually see and what I actually hear. As he has turned around, Melaina is still smiling as you can see her cheeks raised and eyes still squinted and teeth showing in a genuine smile.

Then as Trump is fully turned around, her expression immediately changes. In my view, she may have just  processed the powerful statement Rev. Graham made about the rain which occurred just as Trump spoke being an auspicious sign. Perhaps the reality was beginning to set in that her husband is REALLY going to be President, that she will be First lady and that life as she once knew it will never be the same.

The reason I DO NOT believe he said something awful to her that made her upset as so many lay people, non professionals and Trump haters have wrongly remarked is because her reaction time was not immediate. When someone says something horrible to you, as they speak those words your facial expression changes. It does NOT change a second or two later. In essence, Melania reverted back to her previous somber expression that she had on her face well before Trump turned around.

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What even further confirms what I am saying is the fact that she turns away to look into the crowd as she processes the reality of the moment and how countless  people are standing before her,  witnessing her husband becoming the next President of the United States.

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Then she turns her head toward the front as she looks out into the crowd, continuing  with the serious expression on her face. 

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She then immediately  looks down after viewing and processing the crowd and the seriousness of the situation.

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Now she looks at the crowd once again as further evidence she is   processing the enormity of the situation and what is going on.

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Then she looks down, once again ,engaging in the processing of the situation.

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Next, she turns her head and looks down. It has now been a FULL 6 SECONDS since Trump allegedly said something to her . It does NOT take 6 seconds to process being upset. It would have happened at the moment he spoke and immediately afterwards, which it did not. 

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She looks down and glances up at the crowd again.

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Then she looks straight on as her head is slightly bowed. 

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And now she turns with her head held high as she stands in line with her husband, looking right at the back of him. So now, she has processed the moment and is now aligned with her husband as she stands behind him having processed and accepted that she is the new First Lady and he is the new President.

Context is key when reading people’s body language. A little information and a little knowledge can be dangerous and create rumors which was the case here. Melania had a somber expression before Donald turned around and spoke to her. She was thrilled during and immediately after he spoke to her.  Only seconds later, as she processed the reality of what Rev. Graham was saying as she scanned the crowds, all the while being engaged in her own thought process did her expression look somber.

So what may have looked like her being upset at what Donald might have said to her is NOT the case at all. 

As you know I am not political and I ONLY fairly report what I  ACTUALLY SEE and what I HEAR,  just as I have done throughout the campaign and now that Trump is President.  I have NO BIAS and I am keeping it OBJECTIVE at all times so don’t try to think for me and tell me what is in my mind or  tell me I am biased as I am the ONLY one that can tell you DIRECTLY what I am thinking and what my bias is or is not. I have  absolutely  nothing to hide, no one to impress and I am not beholden to anyone. So if you want to spew hate towards Trump, do it elsewhere not with me.

I report and continue to report ALL that I see whether or not it is flattering to Trump or not. In fact, I recently remarked that I didn’t like it when Trump walked in front of Melania as she was left holding the Tiffany package, while Trump sprinted towards the Obamas.  Whether he was caught up in the excitement of the day and in the moment or whether the Secret Service told Melania to stand back and wait, or whether  this was some type of protocol, I didn’t like it at all as it looked very bad to me as a sign of rudeness. In Western culture, we do NOT walk in front of a friend, spouse, or mate, and leave them trailing behind, regardless of their sex. Doing so has very bad connotations. So NEVER accuse me of being biased.

I HATE rumors and false reporting and having been a trained journalist at the number one School of Journalism in the world, USC, I vilify ANY reporter who sticks their bias into the equation like Martha Radditz who was almost in tears during her reporting on ABC of the  inauguration and who in my view should be, using Trump’s term,” FIRED” 

I also HATE it when reporters, amatures, non professionals do body language analysis and do it wrongly. It is DANGEROUS and IRRESPONSIBLE!  Just because someone has a degree in Psychology it does NOT make them a BODY LANGUAGE EXPERT!  It takes years and years of work, research and experience like I have done and Alan Pease and Paul Ekman, David Given, and even ex FBI agent Joe Navarro. I have the utmost respect for all have done. These are  my colleagues I have the utmost respect for them. All of their backgrounds are solid and they know of that they speak, just like I do. Many others in my view,  do not have the expertise, experience ,or background and as a result make dangerous and irresponsible comments. 

I was on the BBC last week with a Psychology Professor from OXFORD who knew NOTHING what he was talking about regarding body language . It was embarrassing to even listen to this man.

I am thrilled that Trump is fighting back and busting the irresponsible press that, many members whom we saw having direct ties to Hillary from Martha Radditz to Rachel Maddow,  Wolf Blitzer, Jake Tapper, other CNN cronies and even Megyn Kelly. I personally can never trust ANY of their reporting now and tune out whenever they speak. I have lost all respect for them as they should know better.

 

Body language reveals insight into relationship Between Melania and Donald

 

Body language expert Patti Wood said there were only a few moments that showed love between the pair. Picture: AFP/Saul Loeb.

President and Mrs. Trump couldn’t be a better match as you can gauge a lot from  their body language. They are a perfect match even though  come from different backgrounds.  She’s very accommodating, and he has a large ego and needs a lot of attention.

Donald Trump could never be with a wife who is competing for the limelight, and so for his personality type and her personality type, they couldn’t be a better match.

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Melania understands her husband very well and looks up to him in admiration.  She seems to be willing to put up with a lot.

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That includes leaving her trailing behind as he made his way towards former President Obama and Michelle. Maybe he was caught up in the moment and the excitement of the day, but to me it was still rude and cannot be overlooked. Personally, I would find it quite unsettling  if my man did that the me. In Western culture it is considered rude to walk in front of someone and leave then trailing behind.

We have come from eight years of the Obamas where we have see the opposite  of Melania and Donald’s dynamic as Barack constantly showered Michelle with affection and adoration.   In fact Barack kissed Michelle’s hand and comforted her as they were leaving for the helicopter. he sensed she was sad and his kiss was a reflection of how much attention he paid to her feelings.

Body language expert Dr Lillian Glass said you cannot compare the relationship between the Trumps and the Obamas. Picture: AFP/Jim Watson.

In all fairness,  you cannot really compare the relationship between the Trumps and the Obamas because the two couples have stemmed from very different circumstances.

 

Barack and Michelle married young. She was his boss, and they fell in love so they have had  a whole life together Trump, on the other hand, has been married two times before, so it’s a whole different kettle of fish.

US President Donald Trump and the first lady Melania Trump dance at the Liberty Ball at the Washington DC Convention Center. Picture: AFP/Molly Riley.

Melania is the opposite of Donald in that she appears to be more  reserved as she shies away from the limelight. Donald, on the other hand  is more outgoing, outspoken, and craves the limelight. That is why they work well together as a couple and will continue to do so throughout Donald’s Presidency.   They are a perfect case example of how opposites can not only attract but they can work out long term.

 

Dr Lillian Glass, who has been studying body language for three decades, said the Trumps ‘couldn’t be a better match’. Picture: AP Photo/Evan Vucci.

 No matter what your political views are you have to admit that they do make a stunning couple. Aside from Jacqueline Kennedy, no one has  looked more beautiful, glamourous , poised and  so well put together as Melania. The dress she wore to the Swearing In Ceremony was Jackie Kennedy inspired ( the collar) but a clever variation thereof. Fashion-wise there is no doubt that she will be an inspiration, just like Kate Middleton.

 

Dr. Lillian Glass Shows How Madonna’s Body Language and Speech Was No Metaphor Literally About “Blowing Up White House”

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At the Women’s March in Washington DC Madonna said she “thought of Blowing up the White House.” As a result the Secret Service is allegedly investigating her. Potentially, she could be faced with a serious crime. Being well aware of this, Madonna tried to backtrack the next day, stating that it was just a “metaphor.”. But it is too little too late! In my view after examining Madonna’s body language and speech pattern,  that she  was NOT speaking figuratively. Instead she  was speaking literally. She made a direct statement.

According to the dictionary, a Metaphor is a figure of speech which makes an implicit, implied or hidden comparison between two things that are unrelated but share some common characteristics. In Madonna’s speech there was no comparison. 

Body language wise  and voice wise  and speech wise she spoke in anger. She even literally  said” I am angry.” You can see the anger in her face. Her upper lip is raised and her face widens around her cheek area.

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Then she said I am outaged. As she says this you can see her facial muscles getting more tense as she lifts up her upper lip in an angry snarl .

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Then she looks directly at the audience and gives them a clear and direct message in a deliberate staccato tone. If someone was using a metaphor it would not be delivered so emphatically as she delivered her statement “Yes, I have thought  an awful lot about Blowing up the White House.”

The fact that she used  the  adjective “an awful lot” shows that it is NOT a metaphor but rather a literal statement of her action . She thought about blowing up the White House and she thought about it a lot. 

As she says this at the end of her statement, her voice  showed a glottal fry where there is a creaky sound . This indicates anger in the voice as the vocal muscles are now experiencing  a lot of tension.  This is due to anger. This further indicates that this statement was literal and not metaphor at all. She was angry and she thought about blowing up the White House. her voice indicates  this is a fact, not a metaphor.

She then looks down and then tells exactly what she did after hr action ( thinking about blowing up the White House.).  

 

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She says ‘I know that this won’t change anything. As she says it she cocks her head, indicating that she gave thought to the action. When someone cocks their head it is an indication they were thinking about  something or considering something or questioning something. This further indicates that hat she said was literal and not a metaphor.  She then shakes her head “NO” indicating once again that her action was lietral.

Now she is instigating fear more anger by bringing up someone who wrote something from WW2 saying we must “love or  or die”. She is saying that if you don’t love you  will die.Is she referring to Trump here that if he doesn’t love he will die’?  Is she referring to the audience that if they don’t love they will die?  In ether case it seems to be as though she is instigating fear  and a threat of what will happen ( death) with her “either or remark.”

Then she has the audience repeat her chant “We choose love” which further highlights her “either or” statement –  either death or love”

The bottom line is that it is NOT a metaphor in my view but a very real statement based on what she said and did before, during, and after she made the statement. The  display of direct anger, the glottal fry as she continued her statement in real time actual anger not in metaphor and her follow up statement of stating that  ” I know it wouldn’t  change anything.”  In a metaphor you do not have a follow up action ( knowing it wouldn’t change anything).

In addition, when people speak metaphorically, they often pepper other areas of their speech with metaphors which was not the case here.  This further leads me to believe that her statement was  not a metaphor and in fact a very literal account of what she thought about doing to the White House. 

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It’s ironic that Madonna is seen wearing  an orange jumper at the rally. She may very well find this orange color jumper a staple of her daily apparel if the Secret Service finds her threat is not a metaphor but a full blown threat.

For those of you who think Madonna was simply exercising her First Amendments Rights, in my view she went far and above those rights, Just as you cannot yell FIRE in a crowded room when there is no fire, you cannot tell millions of people that you considered blowing up the White House as you display your anger to instigate others.

The level of hypocrisy of Madonna astounds me. To me it seems as though she will do and say anything as a desperate attempt for this 60 year old  to  stay in the public eye since her career and music s becoming less and less relevant.

Her vulgarity which has increased more and more. Her showing the world her private parts as she shaved the Nike logo into her pubic hair  is vulgar and shows very poor judgement on her part, especially since she has  teenage and pre teenaged children. It is now understandable why 16 year old son ROcco wants nothing to do with her and has moved far away from here to stay with his dad in the UK. 

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Before that she made an announcement at one of her concerts that she would give oral sex to anyone who voted for Hillary. This is a statement that goes far beyond getting attention. It made me wonder if the woman is in her early states of dementia or Alzheimer’s Disease . Yes, we all know Madonna has always been over the top in her actions and words but this is far far far over the top. Saying something like this is a horrible role model for young women, especially those as young as her adopted daughter Mercy. 

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Whether you love Donald Trump or you hate DOnald Trump, you cannot threaten any President or the White House as Madonna clearly did in my view. The Secret Service allegedly thinks that her statements are serious enough to warrant an investigation and I agree with them. 

It seems that her Donald Trump anger  and tirades  and being so vocal is keeping her in the public eye and getting everyone talking about her as her music certainly isn’t cutting it any longer.  But this time her cry for attention has backfired on her and she will no doubt have to be held accountable for what she does and what she says for perhaps the first time in her life.

Her hypocrisy  is  astounding to me. Here she has spent a lifetime  showing off her private parts , degrading herself as a woman, and being vulgar and suddenly she is offended by Trump’s remarks which are just as bad as hers. Yes Trump’s “pussy grabbing statement was disgusting and no one can dispute it , even his wife Melania. But this is about Madonna. Throughout the years in my view, she has done more more to harm the image of women  than anyone with her sexist vulgarity and raunchiness. She is certainly no leader, no role model, and no spokesperson for women in my book.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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It was disgusting enough that 60 year old Toxic Madonna showed the world her genitals last week with a Nike Logo shaved out of her pubic hair and before the election, offered to give oral sex to anyone who voted for Hillary. But now she has taken things to a whole new level by saying she thought about Blowing Up the White House! She is now being investigated by the Secret Service.This Toxic Hypocrite has spent her whole life showing off her private parts , degrading herself as a woman, and being vulgar and suddenly she is offended by Trump’s remarks as she speaks at the woman’s march with a Holier than Thou attitude. She has done more to harm women and their image than anyone with her sexist vulgarity and raunchiness. She is certainly no leader , no role model, and no spokesperson for women.

Keith Papini’s Body Language Disturbingly Odd on 20/20 Could Wife’s Alleged Kidnapping Be a Hoax?

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When someone cannot make eye contact during a 6 part interview,

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when they cry  alligator tears with no liquid coming out of their eyes in a 6 part interview,

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when the recovery time of an alleged crying breakdown is too quick with milliseconds in length,

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when someone inappropriately laughs,

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and shows duping delight,

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and suddenly pulls their nose.

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and when I  hear:

a.  stammering,

b. too much information ( re which hands were chained and tucking in her chain on the freeway so someone would stop)

c. too many convenient  explanations     like why it would make sense for 2 women to be the abductors as opposed to 2 men when questioned by the reporter) and when

d. things  that are too coincidental ,like the balloon launch and  her conveniently re-appearing at Thanksgiving.

it makes me concerned that something about this case and this entire story is amiss. It makes me question if we have all been hoodwinked and whether this is a hoax. I am not saying it is a hoax. I am not accusing anyone of it being a hoax. I am just questioning it.

Here is why I am concerned:

  1. Thanksgiving being mentioned too many times. The fact that Keith  mentioned Thanksgiving several times ( how it was Thanksgiving day and his phone rang, and how Sherri had a conversation with law enforcement about Thanksgiving etc.)  Could this have been a hoax and a  plan by the couple for Sherri to be “released” by Thanksgiving. Maybe maybe not. Maybe it was a coincidence.

2. Seeing  the photos of the couple.

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There were too many posed and professional photos like the one of him lifting her up in the air like a ballerina and her looking directly into the camera with his eyes closed, looking away from her. It is a posed photo that is disturbing to me in light of the circumstances. It shows a man who is in control of his wife as you can see in the second black and white photo where he is seen engulfing her with his arm. Are these people with bigger dreams than being a housewife and a salesperson?

3. Keith  being Too In Control. Keith was indeed was in control during the interview as he volunteered up way too much information, some which was contradictory. For instance ,Sherri is allegedly bruised and battered and fragile,  yet he is able to get on the floor with her and the kids for a family hug, which he revealed at the end of the interview. That seemed odd to me.

4. No Photo of Sheri Post Trauma.  Why wasn’t there  photo of how Sheri looked after her alleged ordeal? If she was too vain, why wasn’t  she shown in silhouette or why didn’t we just hear her voice?  Why was Keith the only one speaking for her when it was her ordeal? If she was shown perhaps more people wuld have seen for themselves what happened  to her.

5. Control Freak Keith ? The next thing that concerns  me is  Keith is way  too much in control of this situation, which may possibly indicate to many people  that  perhaps he may have had something to do with the situation. He  allegedly  doesn’t call his wife, but  instead uses an app to track her phone’s location . This indicted  to me that he may be the type of control freak husband  who  may go to extremes to track his wife. He either doesn’t trust her and has to check up on her regularly or he is a control- freak abuser type man.No matter what- this is a huge red flag to me.

6.  Phone App. He used  the phone app and said  she was at the mailbox a mile away. He said he got into HER car and drove to the mailbox. Why did he drive her car  not his car? And again why drive anywhere? Why not call her?   For someone who doesn’t bother to call his wife’s phone, he sure makes a lot of other calls like to his mom and to his kid’s daycare center. Is he calling them to set up an alibi? He called  the school to ask when Sherri picked up the kids and they told him the kids were there. Were the kids conveniently left there? Did he go get the kids immediately?  Did he feel relieved the kids were safe? He didn’t mention that. Instead, he said his family members stepped up and took care of them and he was happy they did that.

7. Selfishness?  And from the interview  I gathered he perhaps may be  a selfish type of man. He said he was glad she was found because he didn’t want to raise his kids alone without her. When asked if he was concerned the kidnappers were out there and if they could do it to someone else, he said no, he was just glad she was back. That is the wrong answer. If someone is kidnapped and returns, one has a concern that the kidnappers  are still on the loose. So that is another thing that makes me and others  question things. Also the fact that he said  NO he was wasn’t concerned was upsetting to many.

8. Sherri’s  Neatly Found Phone? He leaks out telling information as he  volunteers he wasn’t looking for a phone, he was looking for Sherri. That is odd. Wouldn’t Sherri be with her phone? Then he conveniently finds her iphone off the side of the road, with the cords neatly placed on the face of the phone. He seems to be a neat freak type of guy as we saw how neat his house looked . So if that is his pattern, did he neatly place the phone there? Also his taking a  photo of the phone is very peculiar to me personally. Was he setting up an alibi or offering proof that he had nothing to do with the alleged kidnap by “finding” her phone and talking photos to prove it? Why didn’t he wait for law enforcement to do that and to look for tire tracks or something else that may give a clue. The hair on the phone cords was also too obvious to me.It appeared like it got ripped from her head. Those cords are plastic or silicone, so hair wouldn’t usually stick to it so neatly.  Also there is  visible proof of long strands of hair on the cord and then he says her hair was cut off by the abductors. This  shows there is some charge about the hair.This may or may not be of concern.

9.  “Taken” ?  Also he keeps using the word “taken” too many times, He doesn’t say “kidnapped “or “abducted ,but” taken” To me that may be  telling. Also he never mentioned that he was concerned at her being alive or whether someone killed her. He was just concerned that she was “taken.”

10. Attention and Laughing.  He also seems to love attention as we gleaned from the interview. He smiled readily when he said he wanted the marines and a swat team to find his wife. He even laughs at this. This is very indicative of someone who may  crave attention. In addition, he said he was glad the neighbors and the “world” was looking for her. As he said this his eyebrows raised and he smiled in delight. When he said  “everyone in the  whole world is looking for her right now” he laughs like he is enjoying the notoriety that everyone in the world is looking for his wife. His laugh may have possibly indicated duping delight to me that he was thrilled the world got involved .

Also when his son asked him if he was looking for his mother, Keith treats it lightly and laughs. He makes light of it when it is not a laughing matter. In fact to a little boy, it is a very serious matter. He then says to his son “were gonna find her and get her back”. How can he be sure he is going to get her back unless he knows this for sure, or it is a set up? We don’t know this for sure.

11.  Shoulder Shrug?  He said in the interview he was ” gonna do everything he can” to find his wife, but he   shrugs his shoulders. This is often a signal of deception. Why was he shrugging his shoulders?

12.  Not Concerned if She is Dead or Alive?  Then he says something revealing in my view. He doesn’t ask is she is alive or dead . Instead he asks “is she hot,  is she cold,  are they feeding her.” Who thinks like that unless he knows that it is a “they” and not one person. Did he know the “they” he is referring to ?  Did he know what happened? Did he set it up? Did he pay for someone to torture her but not kill her?   That is just speculation . Did he know she was live? Is that why he wondered how she was being treated.? Why did he use those terms?

13. EGO? Then we see he has a pretty big ego and it also validates he may possibly  in control over Sherri as his main thought, which is off  and most revealing, is ”  I thought of her screaming my name  and me not being there.” WHAT??? If someone is kidnapped why would  you think they would be screaming your name? Is he subconsciously revealing that she may  be screaming his name because she may know he is behind this? Why would he think she was screaming his name?  It is too odd a statement to overlook.

14. Not Finishing Though About Birds?  He then says he sees birds and he is thinking of birds. He doesn’t say he saw birds and thought there may be a dead body  around the birds and that the body could be his wife. So that is very odd to  to me as well.MOst people would think of a dead body if the person was missing for so long.

14.  Relationship With Son. His relationship with his 4 year old is very disturbing. He allegedly tells his 4 year old that mommy is missing after a few weeks. A 4 year old is pretty sharp. Wouldn’t they ask and wonder where their mother was all that time? Then the cockamaymie story about the boy seeing his mother and telling her she is not supposed to cry when she is happy is absurd to me in my view. What was also telling was that  he says the boy was in his arms while she held Violet the 2 year old.I also dont buy the story that the son is looking at a poster of his missing mom with his hand on her face and tears in his eyes. A 4 year old  would have tears rolling down his face,  not tears  in his eyes. Wouldn’t he ask about mommy before a few weeks?

15. Makeshift Violet.  And speaking of Violet,  way too much information  was being revealed when Keith relayed that Sherri rolled up a rag or some cloth when she was allegedly in captivity and cradled it and called it Violet. To me that sounds indicative of a psychotic breakdown or perhaps is it something he or she made up? Who knows what really happened?

16. Defensiveness. His defensiveness is also cause for concern. Police said in the  presser , they don’t know if it is or isn’t an abduction. Keith  is defensive as he says ” I know she was taken. My family knows she was taken” as  he smiles a duping delight smile. How does he KNOW she was taken when Law enforcement isn’t sure she was taken?

17. Sister and Sister in Law. Her sister and his sister, they didn’t seem to be too emotional when discussing Sherri going missing. That may or may not seem relevant.

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18. Polygraph and Nose Pulling? What was also very telling to me was that he took a polygraph. Polygraphs can be manipulated as that is why they aren’t admissible in a  court of law.Is he possibly a  sociopath as they can often beat a polygraph. He may also not be directly involved and may have convinced himself of that. But to me what was telling was when the reporter asked if during the polygraph they asked “did you have anything to do with her disappearance?” While he said no problem, he  shakes his head  and pulls his nose,  which to me indicates his autonomic nervous system is working overtime and that there is some charge on what he may or may not know.Also who did the polygraph test? What were the results? A polygraph is non infallable.

19.  Too Detailed?  He gets way too detailed as he talks about her taking off  the bag over her head and having no idea where she was, shrugging his shoulders as he says this. Also how was she so close to a freeway?  I wondered how she knew the freeway was nearby. He then says she screamed so hard she coughed up blood. That would be the opposite. You wouldn’t be able to speak if you screamed so hard . Coughing up blood may be due to lung issues or intestinal issues  or may be due to her starving for 22 days. In working with so many people with vocal conditions too much screaming results in a loss of voice not blood.

20. Making It About Him. As he talks about her bumps and bruises and her losing 15 percent of her body weight he says he hugged her for 20 minutes and then felt nauseous. Again he makes it about him- his nausea at looking at her.He should not have said this as if she sees this it will make her feel worse than she already must be feeling.

21. Vague about Branding .Also he was very vague about the branding and until pressed by the reporter he wanted everyone to assume it was on her face but later admitted it wasn’t on her face, when he was essentially called on it.What wasn’t he upfront about it?

22.  Slow Speech. What also was telling was that he was searching for words when he said very very slowly  “it made me sick that there are people out there who could do  do something like this” all said with non-tears.

23.  Hispanics Wearing Masks for 22 Days. What else is suspicious to me is that there was a black SUV and one woman had curly black hair while the other had straight black hair with some gray in it and bushy eyebrows as their faces were always covered. I don’t buy that. They had covered faces for 22 days? No way.  And  to boot they didn’t speak English. Apparently they cut off her hair. Why would they do that unless there was a personal vendetta. It is way too personal an act. Also wouldn’t they feed her to keep her alive so they could get money for her?  Wouldn’t they show some compassion if she was a mother, especially if they were mothers or the 2 Hispanic women were mother and daughter.  How come they didn’t kill her?  Could the truth be that there were no Hispanic women?

24.Too Quick Answer for Being 2 Women Opposed to 2 Men.  He also has too quick an answer when he says it makes sense that his wife would go with two women who asked for help as opposed to two men. If she didn’t see their faces , how were these women driving with a bandana or a mask? Why would Sherri offer to  help or get into their car if she never saw their faces. Then these women allegedly drove 2 1/2 hours and she never sees their faces then or afterwards for for 22  days. This makes me even more suspicious. Is this a hoax?

based on my body language and communication observations I question a lot of things. Are they both in on it or she did it alone? If she did it , was to get back at her control-freak husband?  Was it  a cry for help on her part.? And yes she could have chopped off her own hair, starved herself, punched herself ( like the women who was going to falsely accuse her rich husband of beating her when surveillance camera revealed she was beating herself) or  perhaps punched herself using the chain she had with her, and could have even branded herself or she could have gotten the brand earlier  before she was allegedly abducted.  These are possibilities. If they are in this together then  was it  for a shot at their 15 minutes of fame and fortune?

A. If it was sex traffickers they wouldn’t want a 30 something year old woman and they wouldn’t starve her, beat her ,or cut her hair off in my view. Otherwise who would have sex with her in that condition?  They would release her somewhere when they discovered she was too old and it would be immediately not 22 days later in my view.

B. If it was female sex offenders they usually don’t go for older women. They go for teen boys or girls.  There was also no mention of her being around a male so there was no male sex offender in the mix. While sex traffickers are  known to brand their victims, did she brand herself or paid to be branded like people are paid to be pierced,  before she was allegedly “taken.” Maybe the branding was thrown in to point fingers to sex traffickers and get people to not think about it being a hoax. Again this is speculation but food for thought.

C.  No one asked for sex, money, and no one died  so is this  manufactured?

There also people who are severely mentally ill who  create such scenarios. Remember the runaway bride? Remember that Tawyana Brawley? They  all said  they were beaten and treated horribly when in fact they did it to themselves.

Could all of this high drama kidnapping  be a ploy from the couple to make them famous and to get money?  Keith in the interview certainly got off on the fame part and people knowing  about them and the “world: looking for her as he revealed in his delighted smile.

Were they  paid for the interview ( directly or indirectly)?  So maybe that is what happened.  Maybe not. Nothing else makes sense to me in this case. It is all very confusing.

I hope and pray that it is not a hoax. If it is not a hoax I hope they catch the people that kidnapped her. If it is a hoax then it is a terrible shame.

I also want to say I am not accusing Keith or Sherri of anything. I am not accusing them of this being a hoax. I am merely asking questions which perhaps many people who saw Keith’s performance on 20/20 might ask.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Body Language and Speech Shows A Very Different Donald Trump on 60 Minutes- More Subdued and Sombre

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First and foremost, I was so impressed with 60 Minutes journalist Leslie Stahl. She was professional, as she has been throughout the campaign. She was gracious, elegant,  and a pleasure to watch. Other journalists should take heed and follow her example.

Now that Donald Trump is President Elect, I believe someone has to tell him to clean up his makeup.Not to be mean but he looks like an albino racoon with all that non-made up white skin around his eyes. I think that the orange hue that people have been discussing since he decided  to run for office is a spray tan.  Perhaps the reason his eyes look so white may be due to his using those eye protection goggles after getting the spray tan. Since his skin is tanned or oranged and he doesn’t need a full on makeup applied. So, he may want to carry a little liquid makeup with him to put under his eyes and on his lids. He may also want to get some dark blond or light brown mascara to bring out his lashes. Since he is vain and is concerned about looks and looking his best, this information can improve his on-camera appearance.

Trump said that on election night when he won, he went completely silent. I mentioned in previous blogs that he was stunned by his win as well and was taking the time to process everything. His body language showed this. That is why he looked as though he was going to cry when he arrived on stage for his victory speech. It was and still is a shock to him. He said that he realized that this is a whole different life for him now.

Perhaps that is why throughout the interview we saw a completely different Donald Trump than we saw on television or on the campaign trail.   There was no loud tones or blustering. There was no over the top rhetoric. In essence, there was no showmanship that we have seen him display for the past 18 months.

When he spoke about Hillary’s call to him, he said it was a lovely call and imagined it was a tough one for her to make. He was very soft spoken and gracious when he mentioned Hillary, which leads me to believe that all the anger he displayed towards her and all the threats he made to her  ( like locking her up) seem to have dissipated. He even spoke of Bill Clinton’s call, saying that it was an amazing run. When asked if he had any regrets for the nasty tone of the campaign he looked down and thought about it.

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While he said he had no regrets because it got him here  to the Presidency, his body language said that he did indeed have some regrets. After hearing him speak, it seemed to me that deep down he does respect Hillary’s political experience and he does actually like her. After all, he has known and supported her for decades. She even said how he would make a good candidate to run for President and he has sung her praises for years. He then said he wished it was nicer and softer and more on policy,which supports what I just observed in terms of his body language.

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Regarding his meeting with Obama, which he said could have lasted 4 hours, he said Obama told him the good things and the bad things. He wanted to learn all he could about Obama’s views on the middle east because he will be inheriting this. But as he spoke about Obama, there was not a smile or any warmth. I think he was being professional in his statements, but I stick to my previous observations, which I shared with the media that there is no love lost between the two. He said he found Obama to be terrific, very smart and very nice, which may be all  true. But  as he said this he shook his head “no,” which may indicate that even though he may think those things about Obama, there is  perhaps still a negative charge after all that was said  during the campaign. It is clear that Obama may have welcomed into the White House on a superficial level, but not  on a deep level. If that were the case, we would  see more smiles and facial enthusiasm.

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Leslie then said that he looked pretty sober sitting in the White House with Obama. He then replied that he is a sober person. Perhaps this sober person is the real Donald Trump and the one we saw on the campaign trail was the showman Donald Trump who riled people up to get their vote. He then said his actions in the White House  showed respect for the office and the President. I believe that. I believe that his going to the White House and sitting along site of the President gave him a  “huuuuuge ” reality check.

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Leslie Stahl brilliantly asked him if it was awkward being with one another in light of what they each said about one another. Trump said they never discussed it. But deep down those comments can never be forgotten as words leave indelible scars. He said from his standpoint there was  zero awkwardness. But from Obama’s standpoint there was clearly some awkwardness.

He also said that he will conduct himself well in the White House, but he may be rougher if the situation calls for it, which seemed to be an honest assessment of himself. He also said he didn’t want to be that monotoned character, which I agree with. In essence, he was saying that he wanted to be authentic.

Here’s what he said we can expect in his Presidency.

  1. There will be a wall and a fence in certain areas.
  2. He just said he would deport gang members and drug dealers deported  ( 2 million of them) not regular good people as he just wants to secure the borders.
  3. He will lower taxes.
  4. He will change health care to make it more affordable.
  5.  He wants to get rid of lobbyists and special interest groups.

When Leslie said all his transition team is lobbyists, he said that is all the people who are down there as that is what is wrong with the system. He phumphered a bit as she busted him on this as it is a real issue for him. It may have sounded hypocritical to those listening to it. He said the whole place is one big lobbyist and he wants to get rid of them even though he is relying on them now and wants to phase it out.

6. He will have term limits.                                                                                                                             7. There will be restrictions on foreign money coming into the county.                                          8. He will quickly appoint someone to the supreme court who will be pro life and pro second amendment                                                                                                                                         9.If Roe vs Wade were overturned he said it would go back to the states.                                        10. He will continue to use twitter  in moderation as a form of modern communication.  11.He will be focusing on jobs, health care, the border, and immigration  as opposed to putting Hillary in jail. He also said he didn’t want to hurt them as they are good people.       12. He will find out more about Comey when he  speaks with him directly.                                    13. He won’t take any vacation.                                                                                                                     14. He will only accept $1 as salary for being President.

When asked point blank, if he was intimidated or scared by the gravity of the enormous situation he is taking on, he answered “no” without hesitation, which leads me to believe that he feels confident he is up to it and can handle the job of the Presidency.

She said people are scared and are demonstrating right now. He said it is only because they don’t know him. This may very well be true as all we know is what we heard on the campaign,  in the media, and what he said 11 years ago on a bus to Billy Bush about women and their privates.

He believes many of the the demonstrators are professional protesters.He also said he would tell people to not be afraid and that there is a double standard with him and Hillary’s supporters. He also firmly told his supporters to not make racial slurs or incite violence as he said his aim is to bring the country together.

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In fact, he looked right into the camera and told everyone to STOP IT! He  was talking about his supporters stopping any harassment towards blacks, muslims, and latinos.

This was a completely Donald Trump.This was a much more subdued and professional Donald Trump. He spoke openly and was forthright. Now we will have to wait and see what he does.