Aaron Hernandez Cocky Body Language and Smiles in the Courtroom Will Turn Off Jurors

Screen Shot 2015-03-08 at 10.42.40 AM Former New England Patriots player Aaron Hernandez is on trial  in a Massachusetts courtroom for  the murder of his fiance’s sister Odin Lloyd. . While  prosecutors their case  case that he killed another man.

While he has a serious facial expression as he appears to listen carefully to the evidence against him displayed on the monitors, he often laughs and jokes with his fiance or with his family members when they are present.In fact, he appears very charming and beams his dimpled smile.

He has been reported to have a swagger when he walks as well and a cocky demeanor as he sits in his seat.

What he doesn’t realize is that his body language and facial language will be working against him.Jurys as well as judges  don’t like seeing happy or cocky people when they are on trial for murder. So this may very well influence how the jury voices as well as his sentencing.

Netanyahu Passionate Powerful Body Language and Voice During Moving Speech Before Congress

Screen Shot 2015-03-03 at 8.50.57 AM  No matter what your political opinion is, no one can deny the passion and expression that came out of Benjamin Netanyahu when he spoke  in a vibrant and clear tone that  made things understandable to everyone. In delivering his message, he  made it  very clear  in terms of the consequences of  Iran and nuclear arms.

No one could have relayed the message in front of Congress better in his flawless American Accent than Israeli Prime Minister Netanyahu. The message was loud and clear and highly emotional as he spoke with respect and appreciation in terms of how Obama  and America has helped Israel as he relayed the message of  message” peace  that we all desire”

Netanyau’s outstanding vocal cadance  moved people and got them to their feet as he spoke about not allowing “dark and murderous regimes” to succeed.

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Perhaps the most powerful and emotional message which brought everything home and gave things a concrete and realistic perspective was when Netanyahu introduced Elie Weissel,  Holocaust survivor and winner of the Nobel Peace Prize. When Netanyahu said “is life and survival is what  inspires us to give meaning to the words NEVER AGAIN” there was an eruption of clapping as he urged leaders to not repeat the past.

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When Netanyahu said “The days are over when we remain passive in genocidal ” atrocities there was a  loud roar from the crowd as he said ”  We the Jewish people can defend ourself, even if it has to stand alone it will stand.”  He then said    human spirit  refuses to succum to histories  of horrors. He then said that Israel doesn’t have to stand alone as  America is standing with Israel,” which  resulted in loud applause and whops of agreement.

His quote of Moses in Hebrew was very moving as well. As she ended his speech he said ” Be strong and resolute never fear nor dread them  May be face futre with confidence faith and hope  May GOD BLESS ISRAEL AND THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA.”

Screen Shot 2015-03-03 at 8.52.13 AMThis made the audience rise to their feet and continue clapping continuously for two minutes. Netanyahu’s body language and facial expression showed that he was visibly moved by the support as he raised his hand to wave it to the audience who rose to their feet.

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As he walked off the podium and walked through the chamber, he was met with handshakes, pats on the back as the crowd continued clapping for him as they reacted positively to the impact Netanyahu had.

In my view Netanyahu needed to address Congress.  America and the  world needed to hear what he had to say as it was essential for the peace process that he be heard. He was respectful and did not say anything negative against Obama. He relayed his message with passion and an urgency with regard to not repeating the past.

Michelle Obama Body Language Shows She’s Disgusted By Saudis and Lack of Head Scarf Makes A Loud Statement

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Michelle Obama’s body language clearly shows that she is no fan of the Saudis. For one, she refused to wear a head scarf during the visit. This apparently upset Saudi’s and other Muslims throughout the world as was reported in the press. While one could think that she may have made a mistake or breached social protocol because she wasn’t aware of the customs this was clearly not the case.  .

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In 2010 when she visited Indonesia, she respectfully donned a head  scarf for her visit. So she clearly knows the rules and the drill in Muslim countries. But this time she decided that she didn’t want to show respect for the Saudi’s as she went bare headed.Screen Shot 2015-01-27 at 7.26.39 PMWhile she may consider herself very special  on American soil where she gets a lot of attention,  on Saudi land hardly anyone  shook her hand or even spoke to her.  This clearly disturbed her as you can see from her soured look and her angrily grabbing on to her own wrist with a fist-like handf. This clealrly showed that Michelle was angry.

Screen Shot 2015-01-27 at 7.26.12 PMShe hated being in the  background  in this very patriarchal society and detested  not acknowledged. Here we see her looking at her husband getting all the attention while she is essentially ignored.

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Her angry faced expressions continued throughout the visit as she could not hide her contempt.

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Her angry and disgusted looks continued throughout the visit as you can see. On the one hand, as a Western woman who can blame Michelle for her feelings where women are not allowed to drive, have no independence and need the permission of a male relative (husband, grandfather, father,  uncle, brother, or son) to do anything. There is no such thing as women walking alone  on the street at their own free will. Women can only go to women doctors and study in classes where there are only women.Women have little or no value except to marry and have children. If their husband wants to take multiple wives, they have no say. They also cannot initiate a divorce and their husband. However their husband can get rid of them just by uttering that they are divorcing their wife. There is no such thing as alimony and if the husband is Toxic or heartless he can render her homeless and penniless.

But from the view of being First Lady and accompanying her husband on a good will trip to meet and greet and the new King Solomon, many believe Michelle did not act correctly. They believe that she should have donned a head scarf and should not have worn pants but a long dress instead. This visit was not about Michele, It was about trying to make friends with the new leader. Clearly, there was no winning friends or influencing anyone via Michelle’s actions. In fact many took this as a personal insult or slap in the face.

From my view I believe that one must respect the cultures of others when you are on their territory. I myself have even donned a head scarf when I have lectured in certain countries where the head scarf was expected to be worn by women. Even though I was a Westerner I thought it was more respectful if I wore one and it was very well received and much appreciated. It showed that I respected their culture.

Michelle’s body language can be translated  by many as reported in the  press as to her being defiant and arrogant. There was no question that she was angry and disgusted. There was also no question that her presence and actions were not very diplomatic.

Did Officer Darren Wilson’s Vocal Tone and Words Inflame Anger and Actions of Michael Brown Causing His Fatal Shooting?

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Before I begin I want to state that I have no agenda here and I am not taking sides. This post has no racial or political undertones. As a body language expert and communication expert, I pose questions which in my view, may give us some insight as to another underlying factor  that has not yet been discussed in the press until this blog post.

We all know that The Grand Jury has spoken after scrutinizing the evidence which lead to Michael Brown being shot and killed by Officer Wilson and Officer Wilson not being charged with murder or manslaughter.

In  reporting my observations about Officer Darren Wilson’s body language and tone of voice and speech content and facial language  during the ABC interview , I found it to be as  disturbing as when I watched Michael Brown’s body language in the surveillance video.

In examining Officer Wilson’s account of the events, he did appear to be telling the truth about what happened as I did not see any outward signals of deception. However, I was particularly struck by Officer Wilson’s  robotic and monotone vocal tone and command  terms  when relaying the exact words he used to Michael Brown. Thus, it  made me question  if Wilson’s tone and words may have possibly been a contributing factor to this disaster.

 

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As we all saw on the video, Michael Brown robbed a store where he took some cigarillos. Brown then bullied and roughed up the store clerk as we can see in the screen shot above, leaving the clerk with a fearful body language. . While I have all the sympathy in the world for Michael Brown’s mother in losing a son, after her public comment that her son  would never do anything wrong, she needs to carefully examine the video with regard to her son’s entitled and bullying behavior. That said, many  teens have robbed and bullied and have not been shot dead.

No doubt when Michael Brown left the store feeling empowered that he was able to intimidate the clerk just by his size and  get away with taking whatever he wanted. Most likely, as Brown walked in the middle of street,  which was reported, he may have continued that feeling of empowerment and entitlement, especially when Officer Wilson approached him.

Reports say that when Officer Wilson saw him and a friend walking in the middle of the street. Wilson said he told Michael Brown to “get out of the middle of the street”.  But the question here is,  how did Officer Wilson tell Michael Brown to get out of the  middle of the street? What tones did he use and what exact words did Officer Wilson say to Brown?

The reason I bring this up is that even though Darren Wilson was doing his job as he repeatedly said, I wonder if perhaps it may have been Wilson’s tone or  the specific words he used that helped spark the fire that ignited an already entitled and empowered Michael Brown’s anger, which in turn escalated to the event that lead to Brown’s being shot to death.

Research has shown that the tone of a person’s voice and the words they use can either inflame or diffuse a situation. This is one of the things I continuously emphasize in my lectures to Police Departments across the country on body language and communication skills. Sometimes a simple “Please” before a command can change an entire attitude for all parties involved. Oftentimes a “please” doesn’t make the request sound like a threat. Perhaps Brown interpreted the command as a hostile threat and reacted as he did. So often things can escalate and get out of hand due to tones and words.

As a side note, throughout the years,  the Beverly Hills Police Department has been very aware of this very factor. One of the things that has been observed by many who have been stopped by a BHPD officer is that they are conscious of being very respectful and polite when they engage a person. In fact a friend of mine who is a retired Beverly Hills officer shared  with me that being respectful and polite was always drummed into all the officers.

In the Ferguson Police situation,  If Brown did attack Officer Wilson, Brown’s judgment was clearly impaired at that moment as any 17 or 18 year old high school student has to know that attacking a police officer will end badly. For Brown to return and attempt to tackle Officer Wilson, there was clearly something which enraged Brown which may very well have been a vocal and verbal stimulus from Wilson.

Also  as a side thought, why did the officer have to shoot Brown in the head as he charged towards him? Couldn’t Wilson have shot Brown in the legs or in the feet so he would fall down. It seems to me that shooting Brown in the head was excessive and  “overkill” to excuse the pun.

The first thing which struck me about Officer Wilson’s demenor on his ABC interview was his lack of facial animation and his tone of voice where there was a lack of vocal inflection and animation. He appeared detached in terms of emotion and robotic in his tones . This may be in keeping of the type of police officer he is – a “by the book” officer. As he described his actions of the night, this was quite evident. But his facial expression showed no sadness or distress when relaying how Brown died.

Since nothing happens in a vacuum and there is always a cause and affect, after listening to Wilson’s tones I wondered what it was that ultimately caused things to escalate to Michael Brown’s death. What caused this young man to react so angrily to Officer Wilson to led him to engage in a physical attack on the officer and the officer subsequently shooting him to death?

Was it the officer’s tone of voice when he first approached Michael? Did he speak in harsh hostile robotic and angry tones when he told him to get out of the middle of the street where Michael was walking with a friend?  Based on his account it is doubtful that Wilson used terms of politeness or respect  like “Can you please not walk out in the middle of the street?”  BAsed on the other harsh command terms he relayed, it is most likely that he  gave  Michael a harsh command? That may have made a huge difference  in what may have set the tone for what unfortunately followed.

Could all of this have been avoided if the officer would have used different words or different tones with this young man? What would have happened if he engaged Michael Brown and was polite and respectful, at least until his backup unit came by?

When Officer Wilson described the incident on ABC News , Wilson did reveal that he used the command terms “Get back or I’ll shoot you.” This resulted in Brown replying “You’re too much of a pu**y to shoot me.” In essence, an angry Brown was testing Wilson and reacting to what he perceived  as a threat.  But what if Wilson said “ Please get back. I don’t want to have to fire at  you? Would that have made a difference or was the dye already cast? Only Brown and Wilson will ever know the answer to this.

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Another thing which disturbed me the most in the interview was Wilson’s detached vocal coldness, when asked by  ABC interviewer George Stassinopoulos about Wilson’s conscience. When Wilson  said he had a “clear conscience”, it sent off a red flag to me. If someone is shot and killed,  no matter the circumstances, their conscience should not have been  clear in my view.

Many officers have shot in the line of duty, in  fear of their lives,  or to save the lives of others.  For the majority of officers, their conscience is not clear but as a human being it is disturbed for taking a human life. No matter how trained they are, taking a human life does and should have an emotional effect on a person.

Look what has happened to Veterans in so many wars,  who have been trained to kill the enemy. Even though they are doing their job, it still often  affects their conscience, so much so that they get post traumatic stress syndrome, which  has ruined  so many Veteran’s lives. PTSD is an epidemic among Veterans as it has been since World War II where it was referred to as “shell shock.” Vietnam Vets were the first to put a face on this disorder.

Just like Veterans, police officers who have killed someone in the line of duty, can and have easily suffered from PSTD . Oftentimes their consciences are so disturbed that they often undergo extensive psychotherapy to deal with the implications of taking a life . They are  often  counseled right after the incident and many remain in treatment for a long period of time.

In listening to Darren Brown speak, his robotic and detached tones spoke volumes to me . Darren Wilson is not a warm nor engaging  or even a personable type of policeman based on his observed demeanor. I wonder if he had been such a police officer if would Michael Brown still be alive today?

Nori’s Body Language Shows Detachment and Still Looking Miserable Around Kim Kardashian Despite PR Spin

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Kim Kardashian no doubt reads her press about her daughter Nori looking miserable around her and never smiling. Kim attributes it to being in front of th papps all the time.So she just did a PR campaign  to show little Nori smiling in her presence.  Kim says that  this is what they look like at home . But her campaign  has backfired on Kim  as you can see by Nori’s body language.

Yes Nori is smiling, but not at Kim. Nori  is looking up. She is detached from Kim.  There is too much space between them.  She does not lean into Kim and has  not done so in the majority of the photos we have seen of mother and daughter. While Nori is smiling, she is smiling  at someone else or something else. She is not smiling at Kim. The child’s hands and fingers rest on Kim  but they are not clasped around Kim with affection.  One of her little hands is cupped which indicated tension and discomfort  around Kim in my view. Nori gets comfort, not from Kim but from pressing her thumb and pointer finger together. That is her point of physical contact.It is not with Kim.

Kim’s smile and laughter is contrived and phony looking. What is telling in the photo that validates that there is a lack of bonding  between Kim and Nori and it is too late to establish any bonding. Kim missed the boat on that one as their  imprinting has already been established.  Kim is looking at Nori and Nori ignores Kim. Nori looks up. She does not look at her mother. True bonding would look very different where both mother and daughter would be looking at one another. Kim’s smile  also does not look genuine.

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Then Kim posts this photo of the two of them together stating that this is how the look when posing for paps. First of  all this baby knows nothing about posing at this age. Nori’s  body language shows she  can’t stand being around Kim. She pulls away from Kim just as she does in most of her photos we have seen of the two of them. She looks sad and distant from Kim. Her little cupped hand shows tension. Her body is stiff when she is around her mother.

Kim is not fooling anyone by this latest spin to show how well she and Nori are getting along and how happy the child is around her. The  body doesn’t lie- especially the body of a baby.

Honey Boo Boo Body Language Shows She’s The Victim In Mama June Mess As Her Weight Balloons Rapidly

Screen Shot 2014-11-14 at 3.47.50 AMMama June Shannon has made some pretty horrendous choices in her life. All of the the men she has chosen to father her four daughters have all been convicted felons. Two of the men who fathered her girls have been convicted child molesters.

Another horrible choice June has made concerns what she puts into her mouth- her food intake. It is unacceptable for a woman in her 30’s to be so grossly overweight that she sports multiple chins and subjects herself to a myriad of severe health issues from diabetes to heart disease.

But the worst choices she has made concern her youngest daughter Alana Thompson aka Honey BooBoo. Her choices of entering the child into  beauty pageants and then feeding the child  that famed “go go juice”  a concoction of caffeine laden, sugared Mountain Dew combined with Red Bull was child abuse in my view. The formula was given to Honey Boo Boo to make her peppy and alive when she was on stage. It could also have given her a heart attack or seizures as no child needs those harsh stimulants in their body. The effects of the “Go Go Juice ” was Alana’s odd behavior, which the public deemed as entertaining and funny. But in reality there was nothing funny about it.

The next choice June made with regard to Honey Boo Boo was to not set boundaries with her and tech her manners. We saw a completely out of control Honey Boo Boo on the Jimmy Fallon show. It was so bad that Honey Boo Boo had to be yelled at by Jimmy for disrespecting her mother. The sassiness that viewers once found entertaining looked very different as Alana was no longer a toddler or a pre schooler. It now appeared obnoxious.

June’s choice of allowing Alana around a convicted man who sexually molested her older daughter was the worst choice she could have ever made. Was she offering Alana up to this predator? Was Alana the bait she used to keep her romance with this sick creature going? Did Alana’s presence make June more appealing? To me it seems like this may be the case.

And finally another poor choice of June’s is to not restrict Honey Boo Boo;s intake of sugared and junk food. As we sa on the show,June allows Honey Boo Boo unlimited access to a convenience store near their home whereby Honey Boo Boo and her sister use the store as their home refrigerator.

In this fiasco with june loosing the show and the money and perks that go along with it, Honey Boo Boo is no doubt feelingt he stress as well. She is clearly eating away her stress with junk food. If June wants to destroy her body it is her prerogative. But she has no right to destroy Alana’s body. There is no reason whatsoever that a child  should have such a big belly as you can see in the photo above that it hangs over her pelvis. Honey Boo Boo is looking like a Mamma June mini me with multiple chins and a distorted face. Besides her unacceptable physical appearance the child is a prime candidate for Diabetes 2 and a myriad of other health issues.

I think that child services and social workers need to intervene and help June learn how to monitor Alana’s eating behavior.  If she doesn’t comply, Alana should not be in that home which is dangerous for her. The best thing that happened to June’s eldest daughter  Anna was to be taken out of June’s custody where she would eat a lot healthier than her obsese sisters.

Since TLC made millions of dollars exploiting this clearly dysfunctional family under the guise of family entertainment, they need to step up to the plate and offer the family a nutritionist and a psychologist to help innocent Alana and to help Mamma June as well. They also need to have family counseling and nutrition counseling for the other girls They owe it to this family. Mama June clearly has the lowest self worth based on her choices of men and based on her physical condition. She is eating away her inner pain.

Now we have come to find out that Mamma June’s first sexual experience was when she was a child at 12 years old. Perhaps this imprinting is why she appears to  now be drawn to child molesters. Perhaps she turned a blind eye when Anna reported that she was being molested was because she was using Anna a bait to keep the molester’s sickness fed and in turn to keep him around.   Now she appears to be offering up Alana to keep the same molester’s sickness fed and  to keep her romance with him alive.

In light of all of this it now makes a lot of psychological  sense as to why June put Alana into a child pageant in the first place- a haven for pedophiles. Did she do this to entice the  then locked up molester for whom she always held a torch?

If so, this is extremely sick.And TLC should  not throw Mamma June out on the street because they are afraid of the backlash of her being with a molester and being boycotted.  Instead, they need to  pay up for using and exploiting this woman’s sickness. They need to help her heal and foot the bill for extensive therapy, education, and health. You cannot use people like that.

Now that we know Mamma June was also a victim of child molestation  by having sex at such a young age, she needs help to deal with her pain so she doesn’t  continue to subject her daughters to it and so that she can protect her daughters. Mamma June has been in denial about the child molester because she most likely doesn’t see anything wrong with it. To her, it is normal behavior and all she has known. This is why she desperately needs therapy and TLC needs to foot the bill.

Since TLC is in the business of making money, they could perhaps offer a rehabbed Mamma June  the incentive of having a show if she agreed to undergo this transformation with therapy and nutritional counseling. Knowing that Mamma June was also an alleged  victim of sexual abuse gives the whole situation a new perspective. June and all of her daughters need counseling and reprogramming and TLC should step up to the plate and do the right thing by this severely dysfunctional family. You can’t allow someone to destroy themselves and just sit back and watch and be entertained. You need to intervene and do something to help them.

Kim Kardashian Body Language Shows She’s Happier Showing Off Her Naked Body Than Being Around Daughter North

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While there has been a lot of talk and opinion  about Kim Kardashian displaying a greased up body showcasing her buttocks, breasts and  private parts, what struck me the most was her extremely happy and genuine smile as she appeared naked.

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But when she does a full frontal, showing off her breasts and her female genetaiia she is absolutely thrilled. Her eyes are smiling. her cheeks are raised, her teeth are displayed and her mouth is open.  She clearly shows that she loves wat she is doing.

Whether you agree or disagree with Kim’s exhibitionism you will certainly agree that she appears to be a lot happier naked than she is when she is in the presence of her young daughter North West.

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Thes photos above are just a few of the countless examples we see of Kim with either a serious expression, a sour puss, or blank and vacant expression when she is around baby Nori.

Most mothers of such an adorable child would be smiling in the child’s presence, yet we rarely see Kim displaying happiness around her daughter. The majority of the countless photos we have seen of Mother and daughter do not show either of them smiling with one another.

As a result  of Kim’s aloofness around her, little Nori has learned not to smile around Kim as well. She often looks annoyed and upset around Kim. nShe often pulls away from him.  It’s not the papps that make the child so sad looking, it is the lack of warmth and affection Nori may be feeling towards her mother as Kim consistently holds the child at a distance.

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