After doing body language analyses on political candidates for the past three decades, there was nothing more horrible for me as a professional in the area of human behavior with a specialization in body language and communication, than to do these analyses during this particular election season. It was one of the absolute worst experiences I have ever encountered professionally.
The level of venomous bile and vulgar hate, ruined relationships, and even false accusations about me being biased and “political” and pro this candidate or that candidate was astounding. There was no convincing anyone as they were on a hate tirade and only saw red.
I’M NO FAN OF POLITICS-ACADEMIC POLITICS OR ANY OTHER KIND
For those of you who know me well, you know that I absolutely detest politics of any kind. I first encountered politics when I was a Master’s student at the University of Michigan. I observed how poorly certain professors treated certain students simply because they had an academic advisor, (who through no fault of their own) who happened to be on the wrong side of the academic political fence and was not in synch the rest of the department. Those students were treated more harshly by other professors in order to get back at their disliked academic colleague and fellow professor.
At the U of Minnesota during my PhD, I experienced it personally. I saw the pettiness, ugliness, stupidness, self importance and self aggrandizement of so called intellectuals and academicians, that it made me push myself to the limit and hurry up and get out of there and get away from these Toxic People as quickly as possible. As a result, I finished my PhD in record time and at age 24 I had my doctoral degree.
I also saw politics rear it’s ugly head as a post-doctoral student, where not only academic politics was rampant but now it was combined with hospital politics, thus making things more severe and brutal. Thankfully, I wasn’t involved in any of these meles. But I witnessed many who were involved and who suffered emotionally and academically in terms of their rankings and promotions.
Then when I was a young very popular professor with my students, I really saw politics up close and personal when students lined up to take my classes and to put it simply, other professors felt (for lack of a better word)a bit jealous. I gave all my students high grades . Apparently, this a “no no” in academic politics, as you have to give some lower grades to balance out some type of curve, which I refused to do. I hated all the rules and regulations. So I left academia for good and went into my own private practice, where I flourished.
Historically, since so many academicians know how to play politics, it is no surprise that many take their political prowess and knowledge of how to play the game, to a higher level and run for office like Elizabeth Warren and Ben Carson among so many others , presently in the Senate and in the House of Representatives.
There were NO politics in my own practice. I was in charge with no quotas and not silly rules and regulations. I LOVED ALL of my clients and patients and treated everyone with the same respect and professionalism and warmth, regardless if they couldn’t afford my fee and were unable to pay. I was treating these clients for free or whether they were superstars who could easily pay the full fee . I treated those with craniofacial deformities and genetic disorders (my speciality) exactly as I treated celebrities, world leaders, or major sports figures.
EXPERIENCE WITH POLITICS IN THE MEDIA
As I became successful in my practice and was able to sustain a living from it, I branched out into another love I had since jr. high school- that of journalism. While I was a professor at USC, I was able to take classes for free. So I took journalism classes at the prestigious USC School of Journalism ( where I was also gave lectures to journalism students). I learned so much there and absolutely loved it. My aim was to now combine my vast academic, medical, psychology, human behavior ( body language and communication) knowledge with journalism and become ( if you will a media doctor) just like I am now.
But getting there wasn’t easy as I quickly learned. One of my professors at USC thought I had what he called “it.”He said I had the physical look, a vibrant personality, and lots of energy and would be great on camera. So he graciously called upon a television agent friend of his who worked at the William Morris Agency to meet me.
The agent, Sid Graw, who also represented the great television host, Tom Snyder, agreed with my professor and took me on as a client. As my agent, he quickly set up a meeting for me with an established Hollywood producer, Dave Bell, who was doing something revolutionary at the time- starting a television show on cable TV. Dave Bell met me and thought I that with my eclectic background, I was a perfect fit to be the host of the show. He said not to worry as he would pair me with an experienced co-host. Together the male co-host ( Keith Berwick) and I met the sponsor ( Bristol Meyers) and the head of USA Network (Kay Koplovitz )where the show “Alive and Well” would be aired . All in charge were well aware of the fact that I had no on camera experience per se, but they willing to gave me my first break on TV.
TOXIC POLITICAL CO-HOST FROM HELL-KEITH BERWICK
While Dave Bell and the production crew were great, the opposite could be said about my co-host Keith Berwick ( now at the Aspen Institute), 56 years old at the time, a lantern- jawed , deep voiced, television veteran who had at one time hosted his own show on PBS.
First, he objected to my being called “Dr. Glass” and refused to acknowledge it on air. The reason I was hired in the first place was because of my unique academic and professional experience and the fact that I had Dr. in front of my name, which the producers and the network would thought would give the show even more credibility. But Keith Berwick decided he was having none of it.
Whenever we had to do our “stand ups” together on camera, Keith made me take off my heels as he said he didn’t want me to look taller than him when I stood next to him. So there I stood, barefoot next to Keith Berwick as we introduced the show and various segments.
To make matters worse, as I was doing my interviews with guests on the show, he would stand to the side and give me dirty looks and shake his head in disgust. Needless to say, this didn’t make me feel comfortable. Instead of offering me suggestions as to how I could improve myself, he would degrade me and tell me how awful I was. (In looking back over the tapes I really wasn’t that bad at all).
It was just that Keith Berwick as trying to make me feel bad. For some reason, this grown man felt intimidated by me- a twenty something year old at the time. It was to the point that whenever we had lunch with the crew, he refused to sit near me. One day, I got a phone call from one of the executives of the show who told me I was no longer needed on the show.
My agent, Sid Graw told me that Keith, who brought his PBS credibility and years of on- camera experience to the table, said he would walk if I had to be his co-host, he said that instead of me, he wanted a bevy of beautiful women as co-hosts to surround him, while he would be the central figure of the show ( a la Charlie’s Angels). That was political as it could get.
While Keith Berwick had initially quashed my young dreams to be a media doctor, he wasn’t successful at doing so as soon I got another gig- an even better one at KABC television, the local ABC affiliate, where I was not only a reporter, but I had my my own psychology and self esteem segment for 5 years.
I learned so much and was mentored by the late and great television icon, Jerry Dunphy ( whom the Ted Baxter character on the old Mary Tyler Moore Show was based on). Thankfully, Jerry was the complete opposite of Keith Berwick. Jerry took me under his wing and let me watch all of his interviews. When we were on set, he taught be pacing and how to speak rhythmically and to use the teleprompter effectively, how to punch up key words when on the air. I was there for 5 years until Cap Cites bought ABC. I loved it there. We were like a family- The Eyewitness News Family and everyone got along so well. Jim Moret ( Senior Reporter on Inside Edition) Larry Carroll , producer, Sue Vorgan, so many others . There was no politics and no power trips as we all adored one another and it showed on air. That is why were the number one station for so long.
My Toxic experience with Keith Berwick, who used his political power at the time with the show’s executives to get his way, made me well aware of the politics that exists in media. Thankfully I have not encountered much of it since that horrible experience with Keith Berwick.
While I was a regular on the Nancy Grace Show, I once again saw media politics rear it’s ugly head with a small- minded producer in my view,( who finally got his karmic justice and is longer in the media) Dean Sicoli. He would consistently ban people from the show if they did other shows among other things.
GETTING THE INSIDE SCOOP FROM SENATOR FRED THOMPSON ABOUT WHAT REAL POLITICS WAS LIKE
What made me detest politics even more was all that I learned about it when I was dating former and late Senator Fred Thompson. I had an earful of what really goes on as he shared with me the pettiness and ugliness of what really goes on with politicians behind the scenes. He always used to say to me that he agreed with former President Harry Truman who said “if you want a friend in Washington- get a dog.”
I met Fred years before he became a Senator on an airplane as we were seated next to one another. I was headed to be a judge in the Miss USA Pageant while he was headed to do some legal assignment after appearing in some television show in Los Angeles. We became fast and friends and remained dear friends for years, until we were both single at the same time and then began to date one another when he was a Senator in Washington.
Fred went into politics for all the right reasons. He really wanted to contribute something valuable to his country. And truth be told, being born under the sign of Leo, he also loved all the attention. When we would be in DC or in Nashville and people would call him Senator Thompson,he admitted that he got a kick out of it.
But that soon wore off as the reality of being a Senator and all that it entailed wasn’t as appealing as it looked on the outside.Now that he was on the inside, Fred was not a very happy camper so to speak. As time progressed, I could also see a change in him. He was no longer his happy and jovial self. Instead, politics got to him and eventually took a serious toll on his health. He dropped out of politics and went back into acting and being a spokesperson.Then he died at 72. I am convinced that politics contributed to his ill health and shortened his life, with all the stress, backbiting and hostility.
MY BEING WRONGLY ACCUSED OF BEING POLITICAL DURING OBAMA CAMPAIGN
When President Obama ran for office, I made some body language and communication comments as I had done with candidates throughout the previous decades. While most people saw my point of view, there were two females , whom I went to high school with but with whom I never associated with in high school, who really let me have it. Apparently they were staunch Obama supporters and took offense at what I said.
There was no reasoning with them. There was no convincing them that my blog was NOT about politics but rather about body language and during the first debate Obama didn’t do very well as he openly admitted. I merely analyzed what went on between he and Romney during the debate.
The former high school girls became uglier and uglier and more and more hostile towards me. Their ugliness was so blatant, that my loyal Facebook fan base defended me against these two terrors. But,they too, found that they couldn’t reason with these ignorant women. So I blocked these two as I had no room for such hate.
When I learned years later, that one of the women who was trying to organize a high school reunion had purposely left my photo out as a “Senior of Distinction” in her promotion of the reunion event, I clearly saw the root of her toxicity as it was her obvious jealousy that reared it’s ugly head.
FACEBOOK HATE AND NO WIN DURING TRUMP AND CLINTON ANALYSIS
In the Trump/ Clinton this election, I was regularly accused of being -political and biased during this election by people who had no clue about me or my beliefs or thoughts, or why I detest politics as I have described above. Their accusations could not have been further from the truth. It was very frustrating because no matter how many times I explained myself, there were always the ignorant who would insist I was biased and supported one candidate over the other.
I simply reported what I saw and heard during the campaign trail and debates. When I said something positive about Hillary, Trump supporters let me have it and when I said something positive about Trump, Hillary supporters let me have it. There was no winning here.
I didn’t care about anything other than how they came across, yet people tried to pin their politics on me . I was having none of it! So I fought back defending my observations. And I have to tell you that fighting with so many people on a daily basis was beyond exhausting and depressing.
One man whom I adored and had known along with his super famous television icon wife whom I also adored, really laid into me one night on Facebook. Apparently, he was an avid Hillary supporter. It was a back and forth of his hate for Trump and my defending myself that I could care less about anything other than the candidate’s speaking skills and body language. He finally got the message and came to his senses as he realized what I was talking about all along that had nothing to do with politics. So he apologized to me.
Even so, it left me battle scarred. It’s like someone stepping on your bare toes when they are wearing six inch heels. Even though they say they are sorry and say” excuse me”, the pain of their heel on your naked toe does not go away so quickly. It’s the same thing with emotional pain.
DROPPING FACEBOOK FRIENDS AND BEING DROPPED
Then there were some really great Facebook friends who I really liked who were so warm and wonderful and supportive. I liked them them so much. Unfortunately for both of us, they wrongly assumed I supported one candidate over the other and dropped me as a friend . I still miss them.
I didn’t drop anyone because of who they supported. However, I must admit that I am seeing a lot of death related posts towards Trump on one FB friend’s posts that makes me want to drop her now. While I don’t care which candidate you support or hate , death fantasies and killing posts are NOT acceptable. So I will most likely drop her if she continues with her rhetoric.
I did drop Lisa Bloom, not because she supported Hillary but because of her political and press manipulation where she and her mother Gloria Allred paraded so many women accusers of Trump who were obviously having a hard time with the truth based on my observations and estimations.
I couldn’t stand this no matter who the candidate was . When I saw her hold a presser for a woman who was clearly deceptive and admitted she lied when she falsely accused Trump of child rape and didn’t show up at the presser I felt Lisa Bloom’s credibility was over forever as far as I was concerned.
KNOWING AND LIKING BOTH CANDIDATES
I actually knew both candidates and liked BOTH of them. They were always respectful and gracious and warm towards me whenever we met. So I had no “dog in this fight” so to speak. I even met Bill Clinton. He had such a special knack for making one feel as though they were the only one in the room as I experienced.
POLTICS – ACTORS and PERFORMERS
While anyone can use their public fan base to express themselves, I don’t think actors and singers have it in their best interest to do so. Their aim is to entertain and to get as many eyeballs as possible on them in order to do this. It is a business they are in – a show business and if they alienate 1//2 their fan base they are not doing doing good” show” business.
While many don’t care at this point like Robert Deniro and Meryl Streep who spoke at an awards ceremony about Trump and Barbara Streisand who kept interjecting Trump hate at her $750 a person concert I attended in Los Angeles, it may be their box office and the companies that employ them who may suffer in the long term.
CROSSING THE LINE- MADONNA AND SARA SILVERMAN
There is no question that Madonna, Ashley Judd and Sara Silverman have crossed the line by speaking violence and hate and anarchy. It is UNACCEPTABLE and I believe they should be held accountable for what they said. Whomever speaks of blowing up the White House and having a military coup needs to be investigated and punished in my view.
They have a lot of influence including influence over people who may not be that mentally balanced. Look at Charles Manson He didn’t actually kill anyone with his bare hands. But he was the mastermind and the influencer and it cost him a life behind bars.
And now for the Pope. Pope Francis has a tremendous influence and he MUST keep his nose OUT of AMERICAN POLITICS ! He needs to focus on the horrible pedophiles who rape little innocent children and continue to do so as we have recently discovered. He needs to take care of ALL of the issues in the Catholic church before he even utters a peep about American politics.
MY ANALYSIS PRESIDENT DONALD TRUMP
As I have continued to do in the media, I will ONLY speak of Trump’s body language and NOT his politics, ideas, goals, nor his agenda, Those issues are way out of my level of expertise. I ONLY stick to what I know and I do it accordingly.
I will not speak kindly or unkindly about Trump . Instead I will ONLY speak the TRUTH as I see it. I will NEVER hold back ever. I will say what I see and what I hear form ONLY my point of view as it pertains to body language and communication.