“The body doesn’t lie. Neither does the voice or speech pattern.” – Dr. Lillian Glass
Jodi Arias’s mother sits each day in the courtroom with another woman who looks similar to her. The reason they look so similar is that they are twin sisters.
But what these twins are doing in the courtroom is not helping Jodi. They are laughing and chucking with one another as though they are sharing inside jokes. This is very disrespectful and is not helping Jodi in terms of jury perception.
The rest of the time her mother is looking non reactive or hostile as she gazes ahead to look at Jodi. Juries do look at family members. They see how family members react , if they are present , and how they behave.
The mother doesn’t look over at Jodi with any loving look. When there are salacious sexual details out of Jodi’s mouth as the camera pans to her, there is no emotional reaction. It is a though she is watching paint dry on a wall.
The only emotional reaction is when she is laughing with her sister. Does she think this trial is a big jok?. Or is she secretly happy Jodi finally got what she deserved for possibly being such a bad daughter in her view. Ther eis clearly some deep seated hostility between them.
There does not seem to be any love lost between the two of them. Perhaps her mother is angry for Jodi for either revealing the family beating secrets or for lying about being beaten by her mother.
In the courtroom Jodi said how she was severely beaten as a child by both her mother and father as she said “ Life was ideal up until I was aged seven. Parents would spank us and around seven-years old it started getting more intense.”
Just as a note most abusive parents dont start spanking at age 7. They do it way before that time, so this statement seems like a lie to me.
Then Jodi continues, ‘My dad started using a belt.My mom began to carry a wooden spoon on her purse.”It was a wooden kitchen spoon and if we misbehaved she would use it on my brother and I, she would hit us hard with it.’It left welts on my body.“Dad didn’t leave welts as often as my mom – she also used a belt. “
In my view this last statement was way too much information about her dad and the welts which also make me question how truthful she was being. Also belts leave welts so one again she appears to me to be lying.
Then Jodi adds, My dad was quite intimidating so didn’t need to use strength to get his point across. My mother did.’
Now here is where it is very revealing concerning Jodi and her mother’s relationship. Jodi was asked in court if she loved her mother, She took a pause and quietly responded, ‘yes’.
That quiet yes, and the pause says it all. It shows ambivalence. It wasn’t a loud yes or a yes that could be heard but a quiet yes. It spoke loud volumes about their relationship.
Jodi a;sp talked at length about the relationship she had with her parents growing up and claimed she was subjected to beatings.
‘They were intense and increased in frequency as I got older,’ Jodi said. ‘I don’t recall how many times a week but it could be any thing from four times a week to once every two weeks.‘I didn’t like being hit so I would squirm around a little but the more we did the harder we would get hit.
‘My mother broke my brother’s hand once when he tried to block one of her blows. As I got into a teenager, my dad would get rougher and rougher.‘
So here is where she contradicts herself regarding the beatings. First she says her dad was just intimidating anf didn’t need to use strength to get his point across and then she says he got rougher and rougher.
She added: ‘When I was younger I remember feeling betrayed and confused that my mother was beating me.’As I got older it made me mad and I didn’t get why she was punishing me. I was mad at her and it hurt. I loved her but it put a strain on our relationship.”
Her adding I loved her was once again too much information and when she used the word BUT and said it put a strain on their relationship, it clearly shows her ambivalence towards her mother. The she goes on to say
‘My dad never beat me with his fist – he would just shove me into furniture and the piano, tables, desk, chairs, whatever was around. One time I even passed out. This was when I was 16 or 17. Not as often with my dad as with my mom. If I did something to upset them it would happen. Sometimes I got grounded. I loved my father even when he was beating me.’
Again this contracts what she said earlier about her father not using force to make his point. So now we she he used so much force that Jodi passed out. Again it appears to me that she is lying. When she said I loved mu father– it was in the past tense which is significant as well. It also showed her ambivalence that she loved her father even when he was beating me.”
She then told the packed courtroom that the beatings continued throughout high school. She also stated that one night she snuck out at night with friends and when her parents woke up and found out, she said her father hit her across the face, knocking her to the ground.
Once again it shows how she lied earlier about her father not using force. Knocking someone to the ground takes a lot of foce.
Following the end of the relationship with a young man Jodi moved in with, she said that she moved in with her grandparents after she broke up with the boyfriend because she did not want to return to the abusive atmosphere of her parents’ house.
While Jodi is full of lies, this may be something that may ring true. She may have had problems with her parents for whatever reason.
The one thing that we have seen for sure is that there is no loving relationship between Jodi and her mother.
When Jodi’s mother isn’t busy laughing with her sister or having no visible facial reaction to Jodi, she is taking copious notes- maybe she’s keeping a journal as well.
Perhaps the mother is plannig to write a tell all book telling us how awful Jodi was as a daughter, what a liar she wall all her life and how she lied about being hit by her as this mother cashes in on her daughter’s infamy.
I have held off on writing about Jodi Arias until I had something significant to say. But after watching her on the stand for eight days and listening to her sickeningly sweet phony vocal tones and watching one signal of deception after another I have something to say. Today the REAL Jodi showed up on the stand and I am here to talk about it. .
I have always said in my books that you MUST beware of anyone that has a sickening sweet soft spoken voice, where you can barely hear them at times. I have said they are phonies and you must RUN because there is a lot of built up anger and hostility that this type of voice pattern masks. Now here is living proof of what I have been talking about in the Jodi Arias trial. She went from meek mouse tone to roaring lion tone as she displayed cockiness and anger toward the prosecutor.
This is Not good for her because juror swill clearly see the REAL Jodi as they
will get a glimpse of her anger and what she must have been like around Travis. They will see how she could turn on him on a dime. They can now see her anger up close and personal.
The jury also also saw her lying first hand. Prosecutors had her hold her up her hand. Her finger was bent . She said it got that way months before Travis’ death as he abused her.
Then the prosecutor showed a photo of her after Travis was killed and the hand was not bent. It was a photo taken allegedly months after he beat her.
She sat there and LIED in front of everyone that her finger was bent. There was no way her finger was bent as anyone with eyes could see that. This is yet another nail in her coffin towards the death penalty.
The prosecutor asked her about her memory and when it fails he and she look aways and said “Usually when men like you are screaming
at me or grilling me or someone like Travisdoing the same.
That was a BAD move on Jodi’s part as she just lost her “sympathy” vote from any of the jurors who are gullible enough to have previously fallen for her poor me victim testimony.
Her nasty retort was anything but victim like. It was a dig at the prosecutor and it will in my estimation but another nail in her coffin.
Then he asks so that affects your memory. Her she shows DUPING DELIGHT where there is a slight smile on her face as she says “Yes that makes my brain scramble.”
Her slight smile which leaked out showed she was happy she felt she got a dig into the prosecutor and compared him to Travis. But what this stupid woman doesn’t realize is that it may have cost her her life . It may have angered jurors that she painted the prosecutor with the same brush she painted Travis. The jurors saw how he asked her simple question about her memory and now she took it to a level of indirectly accusing the prosecutor of verbally abusing her.
Her smiling during the prosecution’s questioning is not good either. There is NOTHING to smile about when a man has been brutally killed like Travis was and when her life is on the line. Jurors will pick that up and it will be a turn off to them. Perhaps she has been conditioned by others that her smile gets her what she wants. But it certainly won’t be the case here. Her smile for the first time in her life will work against her.
Will Jodi die by lethal needle? Usually it is reserved for people who have killed their children or spouses or a both, or a parent, in Arizona like the three women who are already on death row there. Each of these women also sought to benefit financially from the death where Jodi did not. So Jodi’s cases a little different in that regard.
However given the brutality of the murder that the jurors were forced to see, Jodi’s lies from the past and witnessing her lies right in front of their eyes with regard to her finger, her smugness, and her belligerent attitude with the prosecutor, Jodi Arias may very well be joining these three woman.
It is a myth that because a woman is pretty she won’t get the death sentence.One woman who was on death row and executed in Texas was quite beautiful and could pass as a Kardashian with her long brown hair, dark eyes, olive skin, and pretty features.
All three women who are on Arizona’s death row are attractive. So it shows that looks really don’t matter these days as far as the death penalty is concerned.
Actually Jodi is doing all she can to not be attractive with her greasy hair limp hair, no makeup, and glasses in her attorney’s or a jury consultant’s misguided coaching to have her not look like a sexy bombshell she looked like in the photos with Travis.
Was Travis and angel? Far from it! Was he a hypocrite with regard to his Mormon religion which doesn’t believe in premarital sex. Yes. Was he a jerk in that he used Jodi for sex and wanted to marry a decent Momon girl. Yes. Did he give her mixed messages? You bet . But did he deserve to die in such a brutal way? No way!
If the man was wet and naked it made him even more vulnerable and juror will pick that up. Even if he did get mad at her for dropping the camera and she claims she killed him in self defense. It was OVERKILL which means she despised him and most likely planned this attack at one point or another. Maybe it was a fantasy that ran through in her mind from time to time for how awful he treated her. But the fact that she executed it with such force shows the built up anger and hate she was harboring towards him.
That leads me back to her voice. The voice mirrors what goes on in your head and your heart as Galen the Greek philosopher once said. Jody hand a lot of rage and anger in her heart and it was clearly mirrored in her voice until it was unleashed today by the prosecutor.
Now that we have processed the fact that twenty babies have died in an unnecessary act of violence, our emotions have turned to anger. With anger comes blame as many have spoken out about who they blame.
While the President and others have blamed assault weapons as the culprit and others blamed the government for not having enough mental health programs, I put the blame where it belongs, on the mother. That’s right. Forget political correctness of not blaming the parents for their children’s actions. I strongly believe that this mother Nancy Lanza’s actions and non actions created this nightmare.
This Toxic mother’s denial, paranoia about doomsday, and her irresponsible behavior ultimately caused 20 innocent precious babies their lives and killed the hearts of anyone who knew these children, including their parents.
Adam Lanza was said to be suffering from Ausberger’s Syndrome- a form of autism along with many other behavioral and personality issues according to reports. But in my view it was not the Ausbergers syndrome that made him commit this heinous act.
In fact the medical examiner agrees with my line of thinking in that he consulted with the U of Connecticut’s genetics division to see if there was any identifiable genes that could explain this this young man’s action.
Even if there is a genetic component found to Adam Lanza’s makeup that lead him to kill innocent people, my feelings are that it was exacerbated by the environment he was living in and the actions of his mother .
As many have described him, he had issues relating to others, however one high school acquaintance described Adam Lanza as being compassionate when that acquaintance was going through his own issues. So obviously that indicates that Adam was a very high functioning person with Ausperber’s syndrome. It shows that he knew right from wrong and had feelings towards others.
Adam was also said to have been very bright as he attended college at the age of 16 and was a computer whiz. Evidence of his computer knowledge could be seen when the FBI and others could not fix the hard drive of his computer which he smashed.
HATED HIS MOTHER
This act alone shows me that this was a calculated act. He knew exactly what he was going to do and wanted to leave no trace of himself behind. The act of killing his mother while she was defenseless in her sleep speaks volumes. It reflects his deep deep hatred of her. Obviously he felt she was a negative controlling influence in his life when she was awake, so while she slept, he was the one on control over her life. He also preyed on others who were defenseless – children.
He not only wanted to eradicate his mother, but anything associated with his mother such as her two “friends”- the high school principal and the school therapist, whom he shot and killed.
His anger towards his mother was not an overnight thing. There is no doubt she witnessed his rage towards her on a regular basis. In fact it must have become so bad that she apparently wanted to have him institutionalized and made legal steps to do so. This obviously didn’t sit well with her troubled son.
TOXIC AND DISTURBED MOTHER
Her steps at seeking help for her son were too little too late. She no doubt must have spent her entire life with him in denial and the result of that was that she was shot in the face at close range by her enraged son.
The woman was apparently a survivalist. That is why she kept an arsenal of guns around herself and kept herself isolated. She didn’t share her feelings about her son with others. Instead she kept her son’s issues a secret and paid the ultimate price.
There is no doubt that her son who was with her 24/7 and had little or no productive outside interests, picked up on her paranoia that the world was coming to an end or that there would be impending disaster to the point that she she had to have ammunition and extreme firearms to defend herself.
It was reported according to the agents form the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco, Firearms, and Explosives, that the mother took her son to local firearm ranges to practice shoot their assault weapons.
This information is devastating. How can a mother allow a severely troubled son who has no doubt shown fits of rage from time to time, to even get near a gun?
How could she allow him to play with violent video and war games as officials have discovered. In fact FBI investigator Robert Paquette reported
“Many of these games are very, very violent. I can’t help but believe these can affect the minds of someone unbalanced.”
Apparently the mother did mention to an acquaintance that she was involving her son with firearms in order to teach him responsibility. This is obviously misguided thinking.
If she wanted to teach him responsibility, she needed to get him a pet hamster or a dog and make him responsible to feeding them, not give him firearms.
What is very telling is that her older 24 year old son Ryan had not been in touch with his mother for years. Perhaps their estrangement had something to do with the way she lived her life and isolated herself and her younger son.
But perhaps the most telling thing of all is that according to the Office of the Chief Medical Examiner, in Farmington, Connecticut was that neither her eldest son, 24 year old Ryan Lanza or no other family member had yet come forward to claim her body and the body of her troubled son Adam.
This lack of identifying and picking up her mutilated body shows that her family including her ex husband Peter Lanza, speaks volumes in that he essentially holds her as well as his own son Adam accountable for the deaths of these innocent children.
May these 20 little souls rest in peace forever.
I did a radio interview with Dan Cruz on Clear Channel radio who was concerned about the allegations by the press that Obama was rude to newly elected President of Mexico Edgar Pena Nieto when he recently visited the White House.
I assured Mr. Cruz that this was NOT the case. President Obama was NOT being rude to the new President of Mexico. In fact Obama actually appeared to like President Nieto as indicated by Obama’s body language.
It shows that there are too many armature body language experts out there and over zealous journalists looking for a story and trying to make a mountain out of a molehill as they misinterpret body language and communication signals.
While it is true that Obama didn’t initially look directly at Neito when he spoke to him at the press conference, it did not mean that he didn’t like Nieto. The fact that Obama’s legs and toes were pointed in Neito’s direction showed that he did indeed like the newly elected President of Mexico.
His not looking at Nieto while speaking could have been attributed to the fact that he was looking and speaking directly to the translator as you can see in the photo above.
When Obama spoke you could see that he appeared to be absolutely exhausted based on his facial appearance and body demeanor. The fact that he was slunched over and reported to be “too casual” in his meeting with Nieto by critics may be explained as mere exhaustion as you can see int he photo above.
There were several occasions where Obama looked down and appeared to be ready for a nap rather than a meeting. And who can blame him after a grueling Presidential race that was neck and neck.
AS Obama listened to what he said in English translated back into Spanish by the interpreter it appeared that he had his mind elsewhere as you can see int his photo. While he does not face President Neito directly at this point , you can see how his crossed leg does point in Nieto;s direction. Neito not he other hand is listing intently to the translation.
But when Nieto speaks it is different story. Obama has direct eye contact with him and listens intently. Obama is also often seen nodding his head in agreement when Neito speaks. Obama’s body is turned towards Nieto as though he is open and receptive to him.
So once again, it goes to show you that you can’t always believe what you read or what you see for that matter unless you understand the nuances of body language analysis.If you can’t to lean the nuances I suggest you get my latest book on amazon called The Body Language Advantage which gives away all my body language reading secrets.
Lindsay Lohan may have been a precocious child actress who made scenes seem believable when she appeared in Parent Trap and Freaky Friday. However, as an good adult actress in her Liz and Dick performance, she needs a lot of work in the acting department in my view . Her performance was one dimentional, stiff and mechanical in most places. It was devoid of natural emotion which made the lines she recited unbelievable .
In other places when she did invoke emotion, it was completely over the top. In fact her facial expression and fake tears were so over the top in places that it looked comical. . It as like watching a beginning actress perform her first role .’’
The lack of vocal inflection amplified the wooden performance. There was also no chemistry between her and the fellow who played Richard Burton There was way too much kissing for so little chemistry on screen. This made it very uncomfortable for the viewer to watch.
In my view, Lindsay has clearly lost her acting “chops”. It is no wonder why. Acting is not like riding a bicycle where you can get on and ride after decades of not riding. Acting , like it does for athletics, requires steady practice and skill. She may have been a natural actress as a child. But as an adult she needs practice, skill and formal training. It is a different ball game for a child actress and an adult actress. She simply does not have the skills and it showed.
Instead of spending years in courtrooms and in the tabloids she needed to spend them in an acting class so that she would never have done such a sloppy over the top and wooden performance as she did in the suicide scene which turned out to be comical.
She clearly relied on cigarettes as props in almost every scene. It was an acting crutch. The focus was on the cigarette and not on her. Yes we got that people of that era smoked but not all the time.
SLOPPY SPEECH PATTERN
Besides the mechanical acting which any beginning actress could have performed in my view, her speech pattern also did not lend itself to being credible. She was sloppy in her cadence and did not articulate her words.
Also several times in the script she used the term “screwed” as a colloquialism. This
term was not part of the slang back in the 1960’s. No one used the term “screwed. ”For this gaffe I blame the writers . I also blame the writers on their lame dialogue. No one speaks like they wrote. It was awful. Lindsay’s monotonous uninflected delivery of these awful lines didn’t help matters either.
Elizabeth Taylor had impeccable diction and Lindsay’s rapid paced delivery of her lines destroyed the illusion of Elizabeth Taylor.
FRIGHTENING VOICE QUALITY
Whenever she laughed in various scenes you could hear breathiness and a raspiness. It sounded like a smokers laugh. It was not pleasant to hear.
The quality of her voice is also of concern to me as a former voice and speech consultant who worked with countless actors to help heal their vocal pathologies.
Her voice is hoarse and husky. It does not fit the voice pattern of a 20 something young woman. It makes her sound considerably older and harsher. This voice quality if often heard when there is vocal pathology often associated with too much drinking , or smoking or drugging and misuse of the voice.
When people sound like that on a consistent basis it can often be a sign of a physical issue from vocal nodules, vocal polyps, contact ulcers on the vocal folds to even throat cancer. Now I am not saying Lindsay has throat cancer. I am saying that with an voice like that, she desperately needs to see an ear nose and throat physician for a major medical checkup.
While I take pity on Lindsay for her Toxic parents who constantly appear to “sell her down the river “ in order to get publicity for themselves by taking from their daughter’s limelight, ,the public is not so forgiving when it comes to acting.
Countless actors have Toxic families but it doesn’t interfere their acting. In my view, her family issues clearly have clearly affected her acting skills. She needs to spend every day in acting class or with a private acting coach to get some skills if she wants to be a serious actress . Most important f all she needs in invest in a voice and speech coach.
As they entered the stage ,both candidates looked more friendly towards one another then they have before. They both had more genuine smiles. They did the power handshake where they grab one another’s arm as they shake hands, just as they di in all three debates.
When we first see Romney, he appears nervous as there is sweat on his upper lip and on his cheeks as he begins the debate. However, he is fluid and passionate in his tone .
When Obama speaks for Romney, Romney gets upset but smiles a tense smile and is fidgets as he defends himself. Then when Romeny speaks he shows a powerful presence as he says ” Attacking me is not an agenda. He speaks up for himself and doesn’t allow Obama to interrupt him or to misquote him.
For the first time Romney makes a frowning facial gesture as Obama speaks which expresses how negatively he feels about what Obama has to say concerning Syria. When Obama responds he sounds defensive. He still speaks for Romney instead of speaking for himself. Obama stammers and is very stacatto and goes off on tangents in his response while Romney is more fluid and fluent in his response .
Also Romney’s posture is more powerful looking with his more squared shoulders as opposed to Obama who’s neck is forward and shoulders more rounded. Obama’s posture appears to be a more submissive body language posture.
Romney is very passionate and emotional in his tone and delivery. When he gets to the point and mentions Israel and Poland and how the President was silent during the Iranian uprising
,Obama is very uncomfortable about this and swallows hard as you see his visible swallow. Obama doesn’t address these particular issues but circumvents as he speaks about other issues.
He shows anger by making a fist as he finishes his statement. Romney defends himself well as he enumerates and passionately discuses his five point program. Romney passionately defends himself well when discussing education.
Obama tries to interrupt and Romney refused to allow him and told Obama that he had his facts wrong when Obama said the program happened before he was in office. Out of character, Obama seems to follow in Biden’s shoes as he smiles while Romney discusses the military.
Uncharacteristic the Romney we have seen in the two previous debates, he now makes a second frowning gesture as Obama discusses the military. As Romney rattles off statistics about the military Obama swallows hard. He responds by putting Romney down by making a reference to bayonettes as he attempts to portray Romney as being out of date.
When Romney discusses Obama’s “Apology Tour” Obama squirms and there is obvious tension around his jaw. As he disusses how a President having to show strength Obama shows nervousness and swallows hard. In his response Obama looks down and stammers. When Romney tells how Obama traveled to the Middle East and how skipped Israel and how everyone noticed Obama didn’t respond directly. Instead, he circumvented and talked about how he went to the Holocaust museum when he was campaigning.
Romney refuses to answer a hypothetical question which shows his power and control. Romney is direct in discussing how Democratic senators wanted Obama to reduce tension with Israel. Obama ignores this and speaks about Bin Laden and uses an emotional story about a little girl who lost her father during 911.
When Romeny speaks Obama appears to be very attentive and genuinely interested in what Romeny has to say. In his final statement,
In his final statement, Obama Looks into camera which is good. The Pitch of voice goes up lots of extraneous movement showing tension and nervousness. He is more fluid in his speech than he usually is and does not hesitate like he usually does. But he uses too many gestures which are distracting , many which are incongruent with what he is saying. He points at the end which is not good and also he frowns throughout his message.
In Romney’s final statement, he looks directly into the camera. His expression is positive and encouraging. He doesn’t gesture that much and when he does his gestures maje sense in terms of being congruent with what he is saying. He has a more pleasant expression. He is more passionate in his tone and inflection as well as in his facial expression. His posture was strong and confident with shoulders squared and head up.
This was by far the best performance by Obama and a continuation of a great performance by Romney, I would say that both candidates held theit own. Unlike the last debate, it was more comfortable to see a non angry Obama who was more poised and in control. It was also good to see a passionate and inflected Romney. They should both be proud of their performances.