Ted Cruz Starts Toxic Wife Feud By First Posting Photo of Melania and Then Cries Victim When Trump Fires Back

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It seems that  Donald Trump is being criticized by the media for attacking Ted Cruz’ wife’s looks. But what the media doesn’t mention is that Cruz started this whole debacle by doing a campaign ad where he showed Trump’s wife n a sexy pose done years ago when she was a top model.Cruz’ headline read ” Meet Melania Trump Your Next First Lady.”

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Then on the bottom of the ad Cruz says ”

Screen Shot 2016-03-24 at 1.35.58 PM“or you can Support Ted Cruz on Tuesday”  as you see in the above photo. It was Cruz’ attempt to take a punch at Trump via his wife indicating that she was a woman of loose morals to pose provocatively in this photo.

In essence Cruz was attempting to pander to the evangelicals who may take offense with this pose. But what Cruz didn’t expect was that his Toxic plan backfired on him as his opponent certainly had something to say about his wife Melania being put up for ridicule in his political  opponent’s campaign ad. It should also be noted that Melania’s photo occurred close to a decade ago before she was Mrs. Donald Trump.

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So in defense of his wife and to express his displeasure, Donald tweeted  “Lyin Ted Cruz just used a picture of Melania from  a GQ shoot in his ad. Angered, Trump then went on to warn Ted Cruz to be careful or that he would spill the beans about his wife.

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What Trump was most likely referring to was the  above headline  which indicates  that a police officer found Heidi Cruz sitting on an expressway with her head in her hands.  Perhaps she may  have been having some type of mental breakdown at the time, which was 10 years go.  So if Cruz was going to bring up Melania’s photo from 10 years ago, Trump decided that he too, would bring up something from Heidi’s past.

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Then Trump decided against “spilling the beans” about Heidi’s issues and just put up a photo of Heidi along side of Melania. What  Trump was really saying was that his wife is more beautiful. The meme received a lot of criticism because it was a bad photo of Heidi Cruz, while it was a good photo of Melania in repose.

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Then Cruz had the audacity to cry to the press that Donald was awful. Cruz then  displayed false bravado and toughness he said” no one messes with my wife or my kids.”  If Cruz wanted wives off limits then he shouldn’t have started with Melania un the first place.

In essence, it showed his true character, It showed that of someone who was an Instigator- one of the 30 types of Toxic Terrors I discuss in my best -selling book Toxic People. 

 

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Ted Cruz was willing to dish it out and start the dispute. But  when someone fought back, Cruz  acted Toxic and cried that this was unfair and how mean Donald was being by insulting his wife. Cruze was the one who insulted Melania. It was childish and immature and speaks volumes about his lack of character in this situation.

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So Donald Trump retweeted photos of his wife and Heidi Cruz, using a more flattering photo of Heidi, which showed they were both attractive women. This was his gesture and way of wanting  to stop the feud and lay off any wife criticism.

But in this entire feud where so many have commented and have pointed a finger at Donald trump, most have failed to realize or recognize that it was Cruz who started it all by first posting a provocative photo of Melania with an equally provocative headline and caption. That is what I wanted to point that out in this blog.

Once again, as a journalist and body language expert who regularly appears in the press to provide my expertise, I  want to remind my readers that this blog is not a political statement towards one candidate or another.  I remain objective in my reporting and observations.

 

Bullied Columbine Killers and Resulting Consequences

 

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There has been an uproar about Columbine Killer Dylan Kiebold’s mother Sue Kliebold going on a  book tour  to discuss her son and the 17 years of guilt she experienced since Columbine.  Many of the survivors  feel that she has no right to make money and profit from their misery. After observing Mrs. Kliebold’s interview with Diane Sawyer , it is clear Sue Kliebold is still in denial as she says she didn’t see any warning signs. Previously she even said  that she and her husband don’t understand why their son took part in the massacre.

If she  paid closer attention to what was happening to him at school she would have understood why her son took part in the massacre.  Had  she engaged in some heart to heart talks with Dylan or analyzed her son’s writings, she would have discovered  why he was so hateful. She would have known about the relentless bullying her son  endured that led him down the dismal  path of revenge and murder.

Dylan suffered from mental illness.  In fact his mother is donating the profits from the book to  mental illness facilities.

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Mental health concerns are all the more reason why bullying needs to be stopped in our schools once and for all. Those who are fragile and who  have mental illnesses can easily break down mentally and lash out, just  as Dylan and his friend  Ed Harris lashed out. Apparently Ed Harris , whom you see on the right in the above photo, suffered from extensive mental illness and was on the prescription medication luvox for his problem.

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Sue Kliebold’s son Dylan  was bullied so severely that he unfortunately took matters in his own hands. After being bullied to a pulp for years, having bottles hurled at him by students driving by in their cars  as reported by Dylan and witnessed by fellow students, and having his  complaints to teachers falling on deaf ears, Dylan  finally had enough.

Normally, when we think of the results of those who have been bullied, we think of  someone who goes inward and suffers in silence. They turn their hate  inward towards those who bullied them. That is why we hear about the countless suicides and other self destructive behaviors by those who have been deemed social outcasts by their peers.

But sometimes that hate, as a  result  of what bullies said and did to them, may be turned outward. This  was the case in  the Columbine killers  and with other mass killers on school campuses. All of these killers  had one thing in common. They were all  bullied. They all expressed that they had enough and  unleashed their hatred back to those who bullied them. Sadly, there were innocent bystanders who did not bully, who also suffered the killer’s  wrath.

When Dylan and his friend  Ed committed their acts of violence, they felt  joy- no pain and no remorse. In fact  it was reported that  Dylan  felt justified when he scratched some hateful words on another student’s  locker in school.  It was his act of revenge. In his diary he wrote  that he would ” Feel no remorse, no sense of shame” for any acts of violence he would commit.

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As further proof of his hatred towards his self entitled bullies, Dylan also wrote the following in his diary:  ” I mow down a whole [expletive] area full of you snotty ass rich mother [expletive] high strung godlike attitude having worthless pieces of [expletive] whores.”.

He goes on to say “YOU KNOW WHAT I HATE, When there is a group of [expletive] standing in the middle of a hallway or walkway, and they are just STANDING there talking and blocking my [expletive] way!!!! Get the [expletive] outta the way….Dead people can’t do many things, like argue, whine b*tch, complain, narc, rat out, criticize, or even [expletive] talk.”

His diary also  included disturbing imagery of inflicting pain on others as he wrote ” I felt like getting a baseball bat, breaking it over his head, and then STABBING him with the broken end!!!!” His revengeful entry  most likely reflected the inner pain he had experienced as a result of those inflicting emotional pain upon him.

While what he and his friend Ed Harris  did was horrific, we cannot deny that his actions and raw hate were the consequence  of  being so bullied and tormented  that they finally decided they were not   going to take it anymore. They fought back in the most brutal and severest of ways. Their mental state and lack of mental health , unfortunately resulted in thirteen people ending up dead and countless others suffering from  physical and emotional scars they will have to endure for the rest of their life.

Dylan Kliebold and Ed Harris’  pain emotional scars left them emotionally detached- emotionally dead. Just as those who are bullied who end up emotionally  dead  and  turn their pain inward and commit suicide, these  two young men were also emotionally dead. They that  didn’t care about the consequences of their actions. They were prepared to kill and be killed as they turned their emotional pain outward.

What happened in Columbine clearly shows us that there is another side of bullying. The  consequences  of  that bullying are  extremely severe as we saw. That is why ALL schools MUST have a ZERO Tolerance when it comes to bullies and being bullied.

Whether the bullying takes place on a school grounds or over the internet there must be  serious and severe  legal consequences  in place  for anyone who bullies another student.

 

Toxic People- Black Friday Terrorists Among US and Solutions to the problem

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After the recent terrorist attacks in Paris, Lebanon, Mali and other places around the world, one would think that Americans would be thankful these acts didn’t occur on our shores. But after reading the headlines over  Thanksgiving and Black Friday, it seems that terrorism is alive and well among us – in our shopping malls and department stores, as there are too many out there who have  been violently attacked.

Here are just a  few of the headlines which makes one feel they are in a war zone instead of celebrating a holiday.

“Black Friday brings pain for family of  Walmart worker killed”

“Black Friday Fight Breaks Out In Baby Section Of Department Store”

“Fist fight over Black Friday deals”

 ‘Kidnapper’ is caught ‘trying to snatch a shopper’s three-year-old grandchild at Walmart’ after lurking at store for hours”

“Brawls break out at Walmart during Black Friday; shoppers wrestle each other to ground in Kentucky food court”

“Woman steals item from child, squabble ensues”

“#BlackFridayMatters: Swarms raid discount TV display; Cop punched”

For many it comes as no surprise that these acts of violence would occur. In fact there is a website designed to morbidly  track injuries and deaths during Black Friday. In fact, the day before Black Friday, there were several warnings throughout the media as to the 10 top states this violence would take place.

According to a study by real estate website Estately, which used Facebook user data and federal crime statistics to determine where people participate in Black Friday sales and where people are more likely to violently attack each other, shoppers are most likely to encounter a Black Friday fight in the following states:

  1. Arkansas
  2. Tennessee
  3. Alabama
  4. Louisiana
  5. Missouri
  6. West Virginia
  7. Oklahoma
  8. Indiana
  9. Kansas
  10. South Carolina

But these predictors were  absolutely wrong as the violence based on the above headlines of where this violence actually occurred  have been in states  which not on the Esterly  list, They include:

1. Kentucky                                                                                                                 2.Georgia                                                                                                                         3. New York                                                                                                                     4. Michigan                                                                                                                    5.Texas                                                                                                                              6. California

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There sales bring out the absolute worst in people. Therefore there must either be a more organized system for shopping during these special sale holidays  such as:                                                                                                                      a. a limited group of people are allowed to enter stores at at time                    b. they can order the items via a catalog ahead of time and pick it up at             the store or have it mailed to them or                                                                    c. they can do something like is done at Brookstone where you see the               items you want,write down your purchase ,and the clerk goes and                  gets it for you.                                                                                                                 d. or  the ultimate solution to this problem would be that these Black                Friday sales days should only be allowed to occur online.

No innocent person should have to die, get kidnapped or beaten up while shopping for some items on sale.

 

 

Dalai Lama’s Toxic statement that” only a “pretty woman could succeed him otherwise she would not be much use

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The Dalai Lama’s recent  shocking statement  that  only a  “pretty woman” could become the 15th incarnation of the  next Dalai Lama has shocked many. It makes one wonder whether he been spending too much time in Hollywood or he has been corrupted by Western influences. At first the BBC reporter thought it was the 80 year old Tibetan  Dalai Lama’s attempt at humor, but the  Dalai Lama assured the interviewer that he was dead serious as he went on to say that  she must be pretty  “ otherwise she would not be ‘much use.’

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Toxic Verbal Violence and Verbal Murder Towards Any Political Candidate Is Unacceptable

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It is  certainly acceptable to disagree with a candidate’s views on certain issues.  It is also acceptable to express yourself passionately. But it is not acceptable to become verbally violent and commit verbal murder on a candidate because you disagree with them.  Donald Trump being brutally and anally  raped  by a male character and then killed on an episode of South Park  is not funny. There is nothing funny about being anally raped or killed. In fact close to three million men have in the United States have been victims of sexual assault  and rape. That is not satire in my view. It is sick and highly disturbing. Comedy Central should never be allowed to air such a thing. In my view it has crossed the line.

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Then to have a person on  Meghan Kelly’s show on Fox News,  Rick Lowry talk about Trumps “balls being cut off”  is in my view grounds for never having this person on the airwaves again. It is unprofessional and unacceptable.   In fact DonaldTrump  tweeted about the matter by relaying that “Incompetent lost it tonight on . He should not be allowed  on TV and the FCC should fine him!”

 

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As the host of the show, Megan Kelly’s body language showed that she  acted like a school girl  by tittering away and covering her eyes as she laughed. You can see in the photo above where there is a three shot of her Rich Lowry and the gentleman from the Blaze. While she is no fan of Donald Trump, she is still a host of a show and needed to act more professionally in my view. Instead of giggling and saying “What did you say?”  to her vulgar guest and covering her eyes.

Instead,, she needed to reprimand Lowry and immediately tell  him that his  language was not acceptable to use on the air. The level of hatred  towards  candidates on both sides is frightening. It speaks volumes about how too many have become so desensitized that they have lost their humanity. There has to be some level of decorum and some boundaries which should never be crossed.

Once again this is not a political blog nor am I defending any particular candidate. I would say the same thing about any candidate who was discussed in such a Toxic  manner where there were depicted as being raped or killed or had their genitals mutilated.

Shame on Toxic Hypocritical Church and Rev.Tim Mattox for Kicking Out 103 Year Old Woman

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When someone reaches the glorious  age of 103, they need to be revered not punished and put through emotional hardship. No matter what happened with 103 year old congregant and former teacher Genora Hamm Biggs  and her minister,Tim Mattox ( a former student of hers), he should never have had her banned  from the church she and her family founded, just because she spoke out and told him about things she didn’t like that he was doing and what was happening to the church. Continue reading

Josh Duggar’s Wife’s Self Blame As to Toxic Man Josh’s Cheating Says She’s In Denial

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Josh Duggar, the eldest son on TLC’s Reality Show “19 and Counting” who admitted to sexuay abusing his sisters, has now

admitted that he is a hypocrite and has a secret addiction to pornography as he was caught on the Ashley Madison site- a site

which caters to married cheaters having affairs. Anna Duggar, Josh’s wife is clearly in denial and engaging in self blaming for

Josh’s egregious behavior.

It is reported that Anna says she is not leaving her  cheating husband and will stick by him. In fact she is reported to be turning

to her faith much like her in-laws and doing a  lot of praying. In my view she and her in-laws are doing a lot of denying.

No prayer and no faith can help a very mentally sick individual  with perverted behavior, like Josh has shown to be. he needs  a

lot f therapy and not the faith based religious kind of therapy which clearly did not work on him.

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According those close to her, Anna is  trying to absorb some of the blame. for Josh’s perverted actions of cheating on her. In fact she apparently blames herself for not being more aware of the pressures Josh was under . She apparently is beating herself up for not having counseled him better.

In my view  her alleged  statements  reveal that she just as disturbed as her husband. She has no connection with reality. There is absolutely nothing she could have done to prevent Josh cheating on her, no doubt when he was pregnant.

It will most likely never happen, but this woman needs to get as far away from Josh and his family as soon as possible. Most likely she will continue to live in denial with her head in the sand like an ostrich. She will never face the reality that her husband has some severe mental problems. She  most likely will never listen to anyone who tells her that it is not her fault and that Josh did this on his own and she is not to blame in any way, shape. otr form.

While religion and faith is a great thing for most people. in this case it is not a great thing as we watch Anna stubbornly hide behind her religion and their faith and refuse to see the reality of her very disturbed husband.