Trump Handshake Did Not Overpower Abe But Showed Positive Affection as They Both Like One Another

screen-shot-2017-02-11-at-1-10-14-amI got so many calls and emails  today from TOXIC journalists who were determined to spin an innocent story about President Trump’s meeting with Japan’s Prime Minister into a negative international incident when it was not. I refused to play their game and stuck to my guns about how it was not an issue. In fact one journalist from a  publication who always interviews me didn’t like my honest answer. So they found another body language expert to spin it her negative way. I was disgusted at her and I told her so in no uncertain terms.

As a bona fide trained journalist myself,  I HATE this and I have no respect for this journalist or the publication who hired her or the other journalists who called me with their own agendas in mind.

The controversy is over the following expression of Abe. The  so called “journalists” claimed he rolled his eyes after the handshake indicating he didn’t like Trump. This is NONSENSE.

Screen Shot 2017-02-11 at 1.10.34 AM.pngFirst of all in Japanese body language the eye roll is not used to show disgust or displeasure. Secondly EVERYTHING has to be measured and analyzed in terms of CONTEXT! All Abe was doing was looking at someone.

Abe had a long handshake with Trump and was even directing the photo  op as he told Trump to look at him.

Screen Shot 2017-02-11 at 1.10.42 AM.pngHe was ready to get out of his chair as you see here. Trump’s thumbs up shows they had a great interaction. And one thing about Trump that is for certain, he knows how to read people and he read their interaction accurately.

Screen Shot 2017-02-11 at 1.10.53 AM.png

Now here is the person  to whom Abe was reacting. There was no eye roll as the journalists said. They also tried to spin it that Abe was overpowered by Trump.

This is NOT so . Look at Abe’s very  masculine sitting position with legs apart.  Look at how much room he is taking up. This is not how a person who feels overpowered looks. So the journalists were wrong again.

Screen Shot 2017-02-11 at 1.10.14 AM.pngHere is when the two leaders are having eye to eye contact and smiling which is a great sign. Abe shows his teeth and the apples of his cheeks are raised which indicates it is a genuine smile. The screenshot is taken just after Abe tells Trump to look at him for the photo op. So Abe is just as media savvy as Trump on the world stage.

Screen Shot 2017-02-11 at 1.10.06 AM.pngIn fact,  here is  when Abe tells Trump to look at him. Trump is happy and it is a genuine smile with teeth showing and balls of cheeks raised and eyes crinkled.

We rarely see Trump like this so when we do, it is clearly genuine. Trump also does not have an overpowering grip on Abe as Abe is gripping right back. They BOTH have strong handshakes as you can see.

In fact after the photo opp Trump looked at Abe and said “strong handshake”. So there was a language of mutual strength being spoken to one another thru their handshake and touch.

Screen Shot 2017-02-11 at 1.09.43 AM.png

Their body language mirrors one another which is a great sign in terms of their relationship. Note how both of their hands drop down. Also both of their toes are pointed towards one another which is further indication that they like one another.

Trump also put his hand over Abe’s which is an affectionate gesture. Abe likes this a as he returns a genuine smile with teeth showing.

So to all you TOXIC journalists who wanted to spin this  story your negative and ignorant  way, I say SHAME ON YOU!!! and I also say I WILL NOT PAY YOUR TOXIC GAME”. I want NO part of it !

I am not going to say negative things about Trump when I see nothing negative body language wise and communication wise. And I say SHAME to any body language person who does play your game just to get their name in print. Nothing is worth compromising your integrity for some PR.

 

 

Advertisements

Not Being Political Keeps Dr. Lillian Glass Objective When It Comes to Body Language Analysis of Politicians

screen-shot-2017-02-10-at-9-46-52-am

After doing body language analyses on political candidates for the past three decades, there was nothing more horrible for me as a professional in the area of human behavior with a specialization in body language and communication,  than to do these  analyses during this particular election season. It was  one of the absolute worst experiences I have ever encountered professionally.

The level of venomous bile and vulgar hate, ruined relationships, and even false accusations about me being biased  and “political” and pro this candidate or that candidate was astounding. There was no convincing anyone as they were on a hate tirade and only saw red. 

I’M NO FAN OF POLITICS-ACADEMIC POLITICS  OR ANY OTHER KIND

For those of you who know me well, you know that I absolutely detest politics of any kind.  I first encountered politics when I was a Master’s student at the University of Michigan. I observed how poorly certain professors treated certain students simply because they had an  academic advisor, (who through no fault of their own) who happened to be on the wrong side of the academic political fence  and was not in synch  the rest of the department. Those students were treated more harshly by other professors in order to get back at their disliked academic colleague and fellow professor.

At the U of Minnesota during my PhD,  I experienced it personally.  I saw the pettiness, ugliness, stupidness,  self importance and self aggrandizement  of so called intellectuals and academicians,  that it made me push myself to the limit and hurry up and get out of there and get away from these Toxic People as quickly as possible. As a result, I  finished my PhD in record time and at age  24 I had my doctoral degree.  

I also saw politics rear it’s ugly head as a post-doctoral student, where not only academic politics was rampant but now it was combined with hospital politics, thus making things more severe and brutal. Thankfully, I wasn’t involved in any of these meles. But I witnessed many who were involved and who suffered emotionally and academically in terms of their rankings and promotions. 

Then when I was a  young  very popular professor with my students,  I really saw politics up close and personal when students lined up to take my classes and to put it simply, other professors felt (for lack of a better word)a bit  jealous. I gave all my students high grades .  Apparently,  this a “no no” in academic politics, as you have to give some lower grades to balance out some type of curve,  which I refused to do. I hated all the rules and regulations. So I left academia  for good and went into my own  private practice, where I flourished.

Historically, since so many academicians know how to play politics, it is no surprise that many take their political prowess and knowledge of how to  play the game,  to a higher level and  run for office like Elizabeth Warren and Ben Carson among so many others , presently in the Senate and in the House of Representatives. 

There were NO politics in my own practice. I was in charge with no quotas and not silly rules and regulations. I LOVED ALL of my clients and patients and treated everyone with the same respect and professionalism and warmth, regardless if they  couldn’t afford my fee and were unable to pay.  I was treating these clients for free or whether they were superstars who could  easily pay the full fee . I treated those with craniofacial deformities and genetic disorders (my speciality) exactly as I treated celebrities,  world leaders, or major sports figures. 

                                   EXPERIENCE WITH POLITICS IN THE MEDIA 

As I became successful in my practice and was able to sustain a living from it, I branched out into another love I had since jr. high school- that of journalism. While I was a professor at USC, I was able to take classes for free. So I took journalism classes at the prestigious USC School of Journalism ( where I  was also gave lectures to journalism students). I learned so much there and absolutely loved it. My aim was to now combine my  vast academic, medical, psychology, human behavior ( body language and communication)  knowledge with journalism and become ( if you will a media doctor) just like I am now.  

But getting there wasn’t easy as I quickly learned. One of my professors at USC thought I had what he called “it.”He said I had the physical look, a vibrant personality, and lots of energy and would be great on camera. So he graciously called upon a television agent friend of his  who worked at the William Morris Agency to meet me.

The agent, Sid Graw, who also represented the great television host,  Tom Snyder, agreed with my professor and took me on as a client. As my agent, he quickly set up a meeting for me with an established Hollywood producer, Dave Bell, who was doing something revolutionary at the time- starting a television show on cable TV.  Dave Bell met me and thought I  that with my eclectic  background, I was a perfect fit to be the host of the show. He said not to worry as he would pair me with an experienced co-host. Together the male co-host ( Keith Berwick)  and I  met the sponsor ( Bristol Meyers) and the head of USA Network (Kay Koplovitz )where the show “Alive and Well” would be aired .  All in charge were well aware of the fact that I had no on camera experience per se, but they willing to gave me my first break on TV.  

 TOXIC POLITICAL CO-HOST  FROM HELL-KEITH BERWICK

Screen Shot 2017-02-07 at 10.55.08 PM.png

While Dave Bell and the production crew were great, the opposite could be said about my  co-host Keith Berwick  ( now at the Aspen Institute),  56 years old at the time,  a lantern- jawed , deep voiced, television veteran who had at one time hosted his own show on PBS.

First, he objected to my being called “Dr. Glass”  and refused to acknowledge it on air. The reason I was hired in the first place was because  of my unique  academic and professional experience  and the fact that I had Dr. in front of my name, which the producers and  the network would thought would give the show even more credibility. But Keith Berwick decided he was having none of it.

Whenever we had to do our “stand ups” together on camera, Keith made me take off my heels as he said he didn’t want me to look taller than him when I stood next to him. So there I stood, barefoot next to Keith Berwick as we introduced the show and various segments.

To make matters worse, as I was doing my interviews with guests on the show, he would stand to the side and give me dirty looks and shake his head in disgust. Needless to say, this didn’t make me feel comfortable. Instead of offering me suggestions as to how I could improve myself,  he would degrade me and tell me how awful I was. (In looking back over the tapes I really wasn’t that bad at all).

It was just that Keith Berwick as trying to make me feel bad. For some reason, this grown man felt intimidated by me- a twenty something year old at the time.  It was to the point that whenever we had lunch with the crew, he refused to sit near me. One day, I got a phone call from one of the executives of the show who told me I was no longer needed on the show. 

My agent, Sid Graw told me that Keith, who brought his PBS credibility and years of on- camera  experience to the table, said he would walk  if I had to be his co-host, he said that instead of me,  he wanted a bevy of beautiful women as co-hosts to surround him, while he would be the central figure of the show ( a la Charlie’s Angels). That was political as it could get. 

While Keith Berwick had initially  quashed my young dreams to be a media doctor, he wasn’t successful at doing so as soon I got another gig- an even better one at KABC television, the local ABC affiliate,  where I was not only a reporter, but I  had my my own psychology and self esteem segment for 5 years.

I learned so much and was mentored by the late and great television icon, Jerry Dunphy            ( whom the Ted Baxter character on the old Mary Tyler Moore Show was based on). Thankfully, Jerry was the complete  opposite of Keith Berwick.  Jerry took me under his wing and let me watch all of his interviews. When we were on set, he taught be pacing and how to speak  rhythmically and to use the teleprompter effectively, how to punch up key words when on the air.   I was there for 5  years until Cap Cites bought ABC. I loved it  there.  We were like a family- The Eyewitness News Family and everyone got along so well. Jim Moret ( Senior Reporter on Inside Edition) Larry Carroll , producer, Sue Vorgan,  so many others . There was no politics and no power trips as we all  adored one another and it showed on air. That is why were the number one station for so long.

My Toxic experience with Keith Berwick, who used his political power  at the time with the show’s executives to get his way,  made me well aware of the politics that exists in media. Thankfully I have not encountered much of it since that horrible experience with Keith Berwick. 

While I was a regular on the  Nancy Grace Show, I once again saw media  politics rear it’s ugly head with a  small- minded producer in my view,( who finally got his karmic justice and is longer in the media) Dean Sicoli. He would consistently  ban people from the show if they did other shows among other things.

GETTING THE INSIDE SCOOP FROM SENATOR FRED THOMPSON  ABOUT WHAT REAL POLITICS WAS LIKE 

Screen Shot 2017-02-07 at 10.57.02 PM.pngWhat made me detest politics even more was all that I learned about it when I was dating former and late Senator Fred Thompson. I had an earful of what really goes on as he shared with me the pettiness and ugliness of what really goes on with politicians behind the scenes. He always used to say to me  that he  agreed with former President Harry Truman who said “if you want a friend in Washington- get a dog.”

I met Fred years before he became a Senator on an airplane as we were seated next to one another. I was headed to be a judge in the Miss USA Pageant while he was headed to do some legal assignment after appearing in some television show in Los Angeles. We became fast and friends and remained dear friends for years, until we were both single at the same time and then began to date one another when he was a Senator in Washington.  

 Fred went into  politics for all the right reasons. He really  wanted to contribute something valuable to his country. And truth be told,  being born under the sign of  Leo, he also loved all the attention. When we would be in DC or in Nashville and people would call him Senator Thompson,he admitted that he got a kick out of it.

But that soon wore off as the reality of being a Senator and all that it entailed wasn’t as appealing as it looked on the outside.Now that he was on the inside, Fred was not a very happy camper so to speak. As time progressed, I could  also see a  change in him. He was no longer his  happy and jovial self. Instead, politics got to him and eventually took a serious toll on his health. He dropped out of politics and went back into acting and being a spokesperson.Then he died at 72. I am convinced that politics contributed to his ill health and shortened his life, with all the stress, backbiting and hostility. 

MY BEING WRONGLY ACCUSED OF BEING POLITICAL DURING OBAMA CAMPAIGN 

Screen Shot 2017-02-10 at 10.54.46 AM.png When President Obama ran for office, I made some body language and communication comments as I had done with candidates throughout  the previous decades. While most  people saw my point of view, there were two females , whom I went to high school with but with whom I never associated with in high school,  who really let me have it.  Apparently they were staunch Obama supporters and took offense at what I said.

There was no reasoning with them. There was no convincing them that my blog was NOT  about politics but rather about body language and during the first debate Obama didn’t do very well as he openly admitted. I merely analyzed what went on between he and Romney during the debate.

The former high school  girls became uglier and uglier and more and more hostile towards me. Their ugliness was so blatant, that my loyal  Facebook fan base defended me against these two terrors.   But,they too,   found that they  couldn’t  reason with these ignorant women.  So I blocked these two as I had no room for such hate.

When I  learned years later, that one of the women who was  trying to organize a high school reunion had  purposely left my photo out as a  “Senior of Distinction” in her  promotion of the reunion event,  I clearly  saw the root of her toxicity as it was her obvious jealousy that reared it’s  ugly head.  

FACEBOOK HATE AND NO WIN DURING TRUMP AND CLINTON  ANALYSIS

screen-shot-2016-10-19-at-6-05-54-pm

In the Trump/ Clinton this election, I was regularly accused of  being -political and biased during this election  by people who had no clue about me or my beliefs or thoughts, or why I detest politics as I have described above. Their  accusations could not have been further from the truth. It was very frustrating because no matter how many times I explained myself, there were always the ignorant who would insist I was biased and  supported one candidate over  the other.

 I simply reported what I saw and heard during the campaign trail and debates. When I said something positive about Hillary, Trump supporters let me have it and when I said something positive about Trump, Hillary supporters let me have it. There was no winning here.

I didn’t care about anything other than   how they came across, yet people tried to pin their politics on me .  I was having none of it! So I fought back defending my observations. And I have to tell you that fighting with so many people on a daily basis was beyond exhausting and depressing.  

One man whom I  adored and had known along with his super famous television icon wife whom I also adored, really laid into me one night on Facebook. Apparently, he was an avid Hillary  supporter. It was a back and forth of his hate for Trump and my defending myself that I could care less about anything other than the candidate’s speaking skills and body language. He finally got the message  and came to his senses as he  realized what I was talking about all along that had nothing to do with politics. So he apologized to me.

Even so, it left me battle scarred. It’s like someone stepping on your bare toes when they are wearing six inch heels. Even though they say they are sorry and say” excuse me”, the pain of their heel on your naked toe  does not go away so quickly. It’s the same thing with emotional pain. 

DROPPING FACEBOOK FRIENDS AND BEING DROPPED 

screen-shot-2017-02-10-at-10-58-44-am

Then there were some really great Facebook friends who I really liked who were so warm and wonderful and supportive. I liked them them so much. Unfortunately for both of us, they  wrongly assumed  I supported one candidate over the other and dropped me as a friend . I still miss them. 

I didn’t drop anyone because of  who they supported. However,  I must admit that I am seeing a lot of death related posts towards Trump on one FB friend’s posts that makes me want to drop her now. While I don’t care which candidate you support  or hate ,  death fantasies and killing posts are NOT acceptable. So I will most likely drop her if she continues with her rhetoric. 

I did drop Lisa Bloom, not because she supported Hillary but because of  her political and press manipulation where she and her mother Gloria Allred  paraded so many women accusers of Trump  who were obviously having a hard time with the truth based on my observations and estimations.

I couldn’t stand this no matter who the candidate was .  When I saw her hold a presser for a woman who was clearly deceptive and  admitted she lied when she falsely accused Trump of child rape and didn’t show up at the presser I felt Lisa Bloom’s credibility was over forever as far as I was concerned. 

KNOWING AND LIKING BOTH CANDIDATES 

I actually knew both candidates and liked BOTH of them. They were always  respectful  and gracious and  warm towards me whenever we met. So I had no “dog in this fight” so to speak. I even met Bill Clinton. He had such a special knack for making one feel as though they were the only one in the room as I experienced. 

screen-shot-2017-02-10-at-9-46-52-am

 

POLTICS – ACTORS and PERFORMERS

While anyone can use their public fan base to express themselves, I don’t think actors and singers have it in their best interest to do so. Their aim is to entertain and to get as many eyeballs as possible on them in order to do this.  It is a business they are in – a show business and if they alienate 1//2 their fan base they are not doing doing good” show” business. 

While many don’t care at this point like Robert Deniro and Meryl Streep who spoke at an awards ceremony about Trump and Barbara Streisand who kept interjecting Trump hate at her  $750 a person concert I attended in Los Angeles, it may  be their box office and the companies that employ them who may suffer in the long term. 

CROSSING THE LINE- MADONNA AND SARA SILVERMAN

There is no question that Madonna, Ashley Judd and Sara Silverman have crossed the  line by speaking violence and hate and anarchy. It is UNACCEPTABLE and I believe they should be held accountable for what they said. Whomever speaks of blowing up the White House and having a military coup needs to be investigated and  punished in my view.

They have a lot of influence including influence over people who may not be that mentally balanced. Look at Charles Manson He didn’t actually kill anyone with his bare hands. But he  was the mastermind and the  influencer and it cost him a life behind bars.

And now for the Pope.  Pope Francis has a tremendous influence and he MUST keep his nose OUT of AMERICAN POLITICS ! He needs to focus on the horrible pedophiles who rape little innocent  children and continue to do so as we have recently discovered. He needs to take care of ALL of the issues in the Catholic church before he even utters a peep about American politics.

MY ANALYSIS PRESIDENT DONALD TRUMP

screen-shot-2017-02-10-at-10-43-50-am

As I have continued to do in the media, I  will ONLY speak of Trump’s body language and NOT his politics, ideas,  goals, nor his agenda, Those issues are way out of my level of expertise. I ONLY stick to what I know and I do it accordingly. 

I will  not speak kindly or unkindly about Trump . Instead I will ONLY speak the TRUTH as I see it. I will NEVER hold back ever. I will say what I see and what I hear form ONLY my point of view as it pertains to body language and communication.

 

 

 

Toxic Rosie O’Donnell Insinuates Baron Trump is Autistic as Tweet and Video Show How A Little Information In the Wrong Hands Can Be Dangerous

screen-shot-2016-11-29-at-3-38-18-am

The ongoing Donald Trump vs Rosie O’Donnell Feud (which Rosie started when she attacked Trump’s looks when she was on the View)  took huge turn when O’Donnell hit below the belt and had the audacity to bring 10 year old Baron Trump into the fray with a  claim that  he may be autistic.

All I can say is HOW DARE HER? She is not a doctor, psychologist, therapist, neurologist, behavior expert, or even a body language expert. Her diagnostic technique is not formal or professional. Instead, she outs her own 3 year old  daughter and says that her daughter was recently diagnosed with autism and that she recognizes the signs in Baron. Well her daughter is not Baron and she did not formally diagnose the boy.

I am  appalled at Rosie  for even bringing this up in her horrible tweet :

Barron Trump Autistic? if so – what an amazing opportunity to bring attention to the AUTISM epidemic https://t.co/Acgy1Qxyqi via @YouTube

— Rosie (@Rosie) November 22, 2016

Apparently there was a video that was posted by a  YouTube user named  James Hunter, titled “Is Barron Trump Autistic? #StopTheBullying” which apparently  shows examples of Barron’s behavior at public events. The video has been viewed more than 2.5 million times since it was posted Nov. 11.

It showed Barron clapping at the Republican National Convention and points out “his hands are moving erratically and not touching each other.” The video also shows him “making strange movements in his seat, typical in children with autism.”

“One of the biggest signs of autism is a lack of social skills and understanding,” the video said. “When Barron came on stage at the RNC his anti-social behavior was on display.”

It goes on to show Barron standing blank-faced on stage as his parents and siblings smile and clap. Then it shows Barron shrugging off an affectionate squeeze from his father.

In my view, this  is how a little information in the wrong hands- the hands of James Hunter who is also not a doctor can go awry. This incident also shows how someone with a huge following like Rosie O’Donnell can create even more havoc.

screen-shot-2016-11-29-at-3-37-11-am

The ONLY ones who know if Baron has autism is his neurologist, physician, parents, and family members- no one else! Baron’s mother Melania has fought back and has threatened to sue the video maker and made suggesting that Rosie may be next in line for perpetuating what she claims in a lie as he insists Baron does not have autism.That is the right thing to do in order to put a stop to this potentially damaging labeling behavior, especially if it is not true as Melania says.

To play devil’s advocate- what if he does have it? Why put Baron on display and label him with something he may or may not have that can have serious implications on his future?

He may just be a shy or introverted type of young man. One thing for sure is that he was very disciplined as he stood up on the stage for such a long time without moving around while his President – Elect father gave his victory speech. Body language wise it was impressive behavior from any 10 year old child  or any adult, whether they were autistic or not.

As far as Baron looking blank- faced as the video stated, there may be other reasons for this besides autism. He may be simply uncomfortable with large crowds and with being suddenly thrown into the limelight.  He may be unhappy about having to be thrust out in public which may show on his face. Some children relish and bask in the limelight, while others retreat.

When the video said he shrugged off an affectionate squeeze from his father, I say  that many ten year old boys do not welcome open affection in public as it often embarrasses them. So in my view,  there was nothing atypical or “autistic” about that. The same holds true for the reported “strange clapping.” Personally, I didn’t see anything strange about Baron’s clapping. Once again it may seem odd to him that he has to now  be clapping for his dad in a context in whch he is not familiar.”

Baron may simply be a shy young man, just  like his mother Melania seems to be. He may not be comfortable in the public eye like his sister Ivanka or brothers Donny and Eric. Instead, he may also be shy like  his sister Tiffany.

Being in the public eye and knowing how to comport yourself takes  lot of time and practice. Even the best of celebrities feel uncomfortable. I should know as I have treated many of them personally. Throughout the years I have helped countless high profile people whom you would assume would be comfortable and at ease in any public arena, with their speaking and body language during talk show appearances, Academy Award speeches, and public speaking performances. So it is needless to say that a 10 year old boy may not be comfortable in this arena.

And let’s say for argument’s  sake that Baron may be on the spectrum. I say, “so what!” I know many incredibly successful people who were diagnosed and who function quite well. In fact I just had lunch with a wonderful producer-director last week who told me of his diagnosis. It certainly didn’t stop him from getting Emmy’s an Academy award, having a loving wife with whom he has been married for several decades, and two happy, well adjusted and successful children. It didn’t stop me from wanting to do some business with him. I also know a very successful attorney who hates  public gatherings and social events. At one time he confided in me that as an adult he was diagnosed with being on the spectrum. Once again his diagnosis didn’t hurt his career or his appeal from the ladies, who evidently found his shyness and perceived awkwardness as endearing. Comedian Jerry Seinfeld has publicly admitted he may have the disorder and it certainly didn’t hurt him as he has thrived with an incredibly successful comedy career, a beautiful wife and children.

If Baron does happen to be on the spectrum, he may in fact  be the “new normal”. In  2014 the CDC observed 1 in 68 births had a spectrum disorder. In 2015 the figure rose to 1 in 45. The figures are not yet in for 2016 but there does appear to be an increase in the disorder.

Whether Baron does or does not have the disorder, he needs to be off limits, just like the Obamas made Sasha and Malika off limits. That is why the Clintons tried to make Chelsea off limits when Bill was President. I will never forget how horribly cruel the press and the public was to their daughter Chelsea when she was younger. They constantly  commented on how ugly she looked and how awkward she appeared in her behavior. And the end result is that she grew up to be poised and attractive with a loving husband and two children and there is apparent talk about her hitting the political stage in the future.

There has been considerable backlash against Rosie O’Donnell for her comments and rightfully so. Her friends and her foes have let it be known that her behavior has transcended politics and personal feuding. Now she ventured into seriously unacceptable and dangerous territory.

 

 

 

 



 

 

 

 

Dr. Lillian Glass- Power of a Political Candidate’s Body Language and Speaking Skills on the Election

As a communication and body language  expert, I believe that if one is to succeed in whatever they want to accomplish, they must have good communication skills and body language so that they can effectively get their message across. The reality is that people to judge you and make decisions about you  based on the way you communicate and how you present yourself. This is extremely important for anyone who is running for office as we have seen throughout the years. Continue reading

Body Language Shows Genuine Disdain Between Putin and Obama at G20

Just as there was tension and a severely strained relationship between President Obama and  China’s President, Xi, there was even more tension and even disdain between Obama and Russia’s Vladimir Putin.It was so tense and strained that it was uncomforable to observe.

Screen Shot 2016-09-05 at 8.51.36 AM

Continue reading

Dr.Lillian Glass Called It Early On With Kate Gosslin’s Children Needing Help

Screen Shot 2016-08-25 at 9.54.24 AM

Years ago, through my many blogs about the Toxic behavior I and everyone else in the world, who saw the show Kate Plus 8, witnessed on television, I predicted that Kate  Gosselin’s  children would be needing therapy and some would even need special treatment. Now it has come to pass.  //drlillianglassbodylanguageblog.wordpress.com/tag/colin-gosselin/

Apparently, one of Kate’s sextuplets, Colin Gosselin has been sent away from the family to a boarding facility for treatment of his “special needs.”.While this is a good thing in that the boy is finally getting treatment for what ails him, it is a bad thing in that Kate didn’t take care of this boy’s obvious needs sooner. He is now 12 years old and many believe that the help she finally allowed him to have was “too little too late.” Continue reading

Toxic Ex Playmate Dani Mathers Body Shames Woman Due to Her Own Flawed  Body and Face Issues 

 

Screen Shot 2016-07-14 at 6.34.00 PMScreen Shot 2016-07-14 at 6.35.02 PM

There is a saying that ” when you point the finger at someone,  there are three fingers pointing back at you.” So, when  ex -Playboy Playmate, Dani Mathers body shamed an innocent woman by taking the woman’s photo while the woman was naked and showering at LA Fitness- a woman  who was doing something  good for herself like going to the gym and getting fit, it was appalling.

Screen Shot 2016-07-14 at 7.04.40 PM

What kind of person would do this? It is a person who has an overly inflated sense of self,  who thinks they are so pretty and look better than others. But truth be told, pretty is as pretty does and Dani Mathers is pretty ugly in terms of her character as far as I am concerned. And further truth be told, deep down to the core of her soul, Dani Mathers most likely  does not  feel  that good  about her own flawed areas of her face and body, or she would never have projected her own body shame on to someone else. Because she was able to hide  behind the  Playboy brand for so long and all the perks that came with it, it masked her true self loathing. Unfortunately for her, millions of people have now seen the truth about Dani Mathers and her life will never be the same as she will be shunned, perhaps forever.It’s starting to happen now as she was fired from her radio gig and she will see that life will become very hard for her to get ahead in life. Some things are forgivable, but  this is not one of them because it speaks to her character and to the core of who she is.

I have known so many Playboy Playmates throughout the years.Unfortunately  there are those who think much like Dani Mathers. I have worked with so many of them as my clients in my private practice, to help them improve their communication, speaking, and voice skills when they have to do interviews, acting roles, or have to open their mouth in public.

Screen Shot 2016-07-14 at 9.03.04 PM

It is ingrained in them by their fellow Playmates, Hugh Hefner, his staff, and men  in general, who look up to the Playboy myth, that these girls are special. Men  literally drool over them. I have seen it with my own eyes.  They can’t wait to get  close to them. Men ask for their autographs on photos and pay these women to write something nice to them. Men will pay a ridiculous amount of money on ebay to purchase their used bras, panties, old shoes, tee shirts, and  whatever else these entrepreneurial  Playmates are selling online -from porn videos to nude photo shots of them.Others manage to bag suckers who feel that it is  honor just to pay their bills, with little or nothing in return. For some men, only a weekly or monthly phone call from the Playmate will do. For other men, a weekly meal will suffice. These smitten men often pay  monthly rent, phone bills, wireless services, acting classes, modeling photos, car payments, insurance bills, and even give them a monthly stipend. Others buy them cars, pay for plastic surgery, botox, fillers, makeup, clothes, computers, mobile devices, lavish meals, and trips to exotic places.

Men shower them with gifts, clothes meals, and  free travel on a regular basis.  This constant attention from so many different men gives these Playmates an attitude – an attitude that they have power  (which they do have when they are young and pretty and which they lose as soon as they age) and that they are above anyone else. This spoils so many of them. Doors open for them left and right, like it did for Dani and that spoils them as well. They have the contacts and the Playboy brand that carries many of them pretty far.

Screen Shot 2016-07-14 at 9.03.28 PM

When they are young, many Playmates  often feel they can get away with anything and they can. Lots of men line up to date them because they think it is prestigious among their peers to have a Playmate on their arm,  date her, or even marry her. The smart Playmates  or lucky ones marry well. They find some incredibly wealthy man who supports them in high style for the rest of their life, like Barbie Benton (Hugh Hefner’s ex)  did  when she married real estate tycoon George Gradow. Others  aren’t so lucky or smart as they end up marrying sick  fanatics who try to  control them, end up abusing them, or even killing them. That is the other extreme and sadly what  happened to  Playmate Dorothy Stratton.

Many go from one rich boyfriend  to another, to keep them in style and pay their expenses. Others  may join high end escort services, where they meet top men  from politicians to rock stars,  A list actors, corporate owners, producers, directors, and even princes. Did you ever wonder how some famous well known guy met his wife , who happened to be a former Playmate? Well now you know. Others  may even possibly become high end call girls.

Some of them actually have a charismatic  personality and talent like radio host and former View cast member, Jennie McCarthy.  The Playboy brand allowed her and others access to people who could help them with their careers. If  Kendra Wilkinson or Holly Madison had not been Playmates, appeared with Hef on “The Girls Next Door” reality show, and used their connections,  they would never have  their own reality shows, highlighted in Vegas, endorsed products, appeared on Dancing With the Stars , married a high profile athlete, or appeared  in the tabloids on a daily basis. No one would even know their name.

To keep up the perks that come with being a former Playmate, most know they have to keep up their looks. Otherwise, the reality is that it is over for them.  This has happened to a number of former Playmates I know. So those who want to still stay in the game, go to all lengths to make sure their body is thin by  getting lipo, ribs removed, fat injected, breast and butt implants, face peels, and lip fillers. And who pays for this when so many of them don’t hold a job, other than an occasional model or acting gig?  With so many of these women, especially as they begin to age, it is often  the  smitten man or many smitten men. In the past they would never give these men the time of day. But now since they are aging and need the upkeep, they will gladly deal with these once shunned men, just because they  will pay for different aspects of upkeep for that Playmate image.

So no doubt, Dani Mathers had a lot of perks for being a Playmate. She even had over one million Facebook followers who liked her page. That is a lot of followers, many of whom sang her praises on a daily basis, flattered her ego, and told her how beautiful she looked in the latest photo she posted. She got  modeling  opportunities and doors opened for her.

Screen Shot 2016-07-14 at 9.32.00 PM.png

She got a lot of business opportunities to represent certain products because she had so many followers . In fact she hawked her own edible marijuana line to her over a million followers.

Screen Shot 2016-07-14 at 9.43.27 PM

She even had a gig as a  radio host, something that may have never happened had she not been a Playmate. But unfortunately for her that radio gig appears to be over.

Screen Shot 2016-07-14 at 8.11.14 PM

All of this fan adulation, open career opportunities,  and socializing with celebrities must have gone to her head, just as it has done with so many Playmates of the past I have known.  It is no doubt that she most likely  really believed that she was above everyone and that  any woman who didn’t spend the fortune to have all the cosmetic enhancements or  those who were not fellow Playmates, were beneath her. Others were worthless and disgusting in her mind. That is why she essentially wrote that she was disgusted looking at the naked woman in the gym and that her eyes could not unsee what she saw.

All of the perks she was lucky to receive in her life since being a Playmate, clearly  didn’t build her character , as she showed little compassion or concern about anyone other than herself. That is why she showed no compassion and felt the necessity to put someone down . Her true character was also revealed when she wrote a letter of apology to the Playmates, and not to the woman she harmed and shamed or to a letter to the  the gym, where she most likely got a free membership like other Playmates in the past.

But if we look closer at Dani, we will see that she does have some body issues  of her own that I am sure she is well aware.  We all have flaws and none of us is perfection when it comes to our body and face. In fact  many of the Playmates you see in the photographs  are either airbrushed or photoshopped. They are well made up and well lit and placed in very flattering positions, using the right camera angles.

As someone who knows a great deal about body language and body image and body aesthetics, I will point out Dani Mather’s body and facial flaws, which she is no doubt well aware, which will show you why  deep down, she may have felt so badly about herself that he felt so compelled to trash someone else’s body.

For one, Dani’s body is out of proportion.  Her arms appear too skinny in contrast to her breasts. Her hips are too large in relation to her breasts and her legs.

Screen Shot 2016-07-14 at 7.07.21 PM

She is also very boney in appearance if you look at her back.  It is not attractive and makes her look fragile. Her  breast implants don’t  look natural.

Screen Shot 2016-07-14 at 8.28.45 PM

Her breast implants leave a lot  be desired as they seem to just have been just placed on her chest. In fact, her cleavage looks odd and  indented  as she is too thin and boney to have such a large sized cup. There are also unattractive moles on her chest and abdomen area.  In my view, she needs to get them removed now or they will grow much larger as she ages and will look unsightly. Additionally, her arms look skeletal and odd, especially in this photo.In my view it is not sexy or attractive.

Screen Shot 2016-07-14 at 6.30.53 PM

Here is another photo of her skeletal  arms and legs which seem incongruous to her breast implants.

Screen Shot 2016-07-14 at 8.29.19 PM

Her buttocks are flat, misshapen and  bony, and she suffers from swayback where there is too much curvature in her  lower spine. Without makeup you can also see that he skin tone appears to be rather pasty.

Screen Shot 2016-07-14 at 9.37.52 PM

Her abdominal area is misshapen and it looks as though  she may have had some bad liposuction or bad body sculpting. You can see her hip bones, but there is fat protrusion around the hip area which is odd. The lower area of her stomach  also protrudes.In my viwe this does not look attractive. Also her arms appear too thin and th boney elbows make them look out of proportion.

Screen Shot 2016-07-14 at 11.41.17 PM

Overall, her body proportions look off as she appears to be high waisted. Her knees als look knobby and bony. In looking at her photo in comparison with other Playmates, she appears to be one of the shortest Playmates in stature, which would eliminate her chances of becoming a model.  Perhaps her lack of height also contributes to her low self esteem.

Screen Shot 2016-07-14 at 6.35.02 PM.Screen Shot 2016-07-14 at 5.39.50 PM

Facially she is out of proportion as well ,with a  wide based, troll- looking , ski jump nose ala Richard Nixon style. The columela of her nose droops down too much in relation to her nostrils, which is not perfection as far as nose aesthetics is concerned. Her smile is also not that attractive with prominent chin and masculine appearing jawline. The indented lines on her face under her cheeks are  too deep and seem to age her For an almost 30 year old, these lines are a bit too deep.

Screen Shot 2016-07-14 at 7.13.28 PM

She also has an abnormally  large and wide mouth  which seems to take up most of her face when she smiles or laughs as you can see which makes her face seem out of proportion.

No doubt, she must be well aware of her own  her body imperfections which were pointed out above.  The illustration  of her body flaws are not done to be mean, but rather to show you what she may also be seeing  on a subconscious  level when she is alone and naked and looking  into the mirror at herself.

On a surface level, she has convinced herself that she looks great and is flawless. This is  is why she openly posts the flawed photos of herself.  It is as though she is in denial. In addition, there are so many followers, fans and smitten male worshipers telling her she looks great, that a part of her has come to believe she looks great. But deep down, probably knows better. Otherwise, she would have never body shamed the innocent woman. In shaming the woman,she  projected her own self loathe on to this woman.

Screen Shot 2016-07-14 at 7.05.20 PM

The tone of her voice was equally as troubling when she made her  public non heartfelt phony apology. It was not an apology to the innocent woman, but rather  a statement insisting she’s not like that and she won’t do it again.  It was pure selfishness and narcissism at it’s peak.  It was ALL about her and not about the other woman she shamed and harmed.  There was not an ounce of sincerity on her facial expression or in her tone.

Dani said she was Snapchatting and wasn’t familiar with how  Snapchat worked. Once again, it was about her, not the woman she shamed. She said she was Snapchatting to a personal friend when she wrote “ If Can’t  Unsee This You Can’t Either.” What kind of person makes fun of another person and sends it to a friend? A TOXIC BULLY does this. A TOXIC MEAN  GIRL does this. This video she made added fuel to the fire and angered people more because they knew it was phony and non heartfelt.

Dani Mathers revealed her true character. She is Toxic Person. I know a thing or two aboyt Toxic People having written the best selling book on the topic. She is not a good person because no good person would think of shaming or bullying another innocent person and make fun of them. There are some things which cannot ever be forgiven and this is one of them in my book.

She has not only hurt this  innocent woman, she has hurt other women who wake up each day not feeling good about their bodies. She hurt women who do whatever it takes to get themselves to the gym to try and help their bodies. She hurt every woman who is uncomfortable seeing herself naked. She hurt every woman who has been teased and humiliated about her weight.

Apparently LA Fitness was having none of this and did the right thing by calling the police and reporting her. But the police may not be able to do anything about it unless the woman comes forth and presses charges. I hope this is the case. I hope that the woman sticks up for herself and fights back. I pray that she doesn’t retreat into herself,  become depressed and devastated by what has happened to her. I hope the woman seeks financial remuneration for her emotional distress that this horrible incident  will have caused. With her million followers and edible marijuana business, Dani may very well be able to afford the lawsuit filed against her. It would case any woman emotional distress. In fact, it has caused most women who  found out what Dani  Mathers did to this woman, emotional distress.