Josh Duggar’s Wife’s Self Blame As to Toxic Man Josh’s Cheating Says She’s In Denial

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Josh Duggar, the eldest son on TLC’s Reality Show “19 and Counting” who admitted to sexuay abusing his sisters, has now

admitted that he is a hypocrite and has a secret addiction to pornography as he was caught on the Ashley Madison site- a site

which caters to married cheaters having affairs. Anna Duggar, Josh’s wife is clearly in denial and engaging in self blaming for

Josh’s egregious behavior.

It is reported that Anna says she is not leaving her  cheating husband and will stick by him. In fact she is reported to be turning

to her faith much like her in-laws and doing a  lot of praying. In my view she and her in-laws are doing a lot of denying.

No prayer and no faith can help a very mentally sick individual  with perverted behavior, like Josh has shown to be. he needs  a

lot f therapy and not the faith based religious kind of therapy which clearly did not work on him.

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According those close to her, Anna is  trying to absorb some of the blame. for Josh’s perverted actions of cheating on her. In fact she apparently blames herself for not being more aware of the pressures Josh was under . She apparently is beating herself up for not having counseled him better.

In my view  her alleged  statements  reveal that she just as disturbed as her husband. She has no connection with reality. There is absolutely nothing she could have done to prevent Josh cheating on her, no doubt when he was pregnant.

It will most likely never happen, but this woman needs to get as far away from Josh and his family as soon as possible. Most likely she will continue to live in denial with her head in the sand like an ostrich. She will never face the reality that her husband has some severe mental problems. She  most likely will never listen to anyone who tells her that it is not her fault and that Josh did this on his own and she is not to blame in any way, shape. otr form.

While religion and faith is a great thing for most people. in this case it is not a great thing as we watch Anna stubbornly hide behind her religion and their faith and refuse to see the reality of her very disturbed husband.

While ESPN’s Britt McHenry Shows Toxic Behavior By Fat, Dental, Job, and Education Shaming, Tow Worker is Toxic for Releasing Tape

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Yes  ESPN’s Britt McHenry clearly showed what a Toxic  entitled character she had by verbally  hitting  the tow company worker below the belt as she fat shamed, dental shamed, job shamed, and education shamed the woman who no doubt,  did something to aggravate Britt.  Since nothing happens in a vacuum,  there is no doubt  in my mind that the tow worker  did  something that made Britt go off on her.Maybe she was robotic, insensitive to Britt’s  plight, cold, uncaring, had an attitude, or maybe she said something provocative that ticked off Britt.

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But by warning  Britt that she was on tape and stating she would show it, it demonstrates  how passive aggressive the tow worker was acting. By actually releasing the tape publically to get back at  Britt and now turning the tables and   shaming  Britt, it shows how Toxic  and vindictive  the tow worker  really  is.

This was a petty situation between two women. No ones life was at stake.

As soon as Britt realized she was on tape she put her hand up to her throat indicating that she was suddenly feeling vulnerable. Her large eyed look whereby you can see the whites or sclera shows her surprise and shock. No doubt when the tow worker threatened that she would show it, it frightened Brit as revealed through her body language.

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The tow worker  needed to speak up  immediately and tell the  reporter she was going too far and not not speak to her this way.She needed to tell the reporter she wouldn’t help her if she continued to speak to her like that and that she would get another employee to help her. Then he needed to get that employee to help Britt calm down and finish her business. Obviously the tow driver was too wraped up in her own feelings  instead of calming her customer down with soothing words and trying to diffuse the situation. She needed to say how it was hitting below the belt and how she  was hurting her feelings.

But the tow worker said nothing as we heard on tape. She merely displayed her  vindictiveness  at being fat shamed, education shamed, and teeth shamed by getting  back at the sportscaster by publicly releasing the tape and shaming her. If there was a nurse or a doctor  or dentist who did something to jeopardize your health, one should  out them to help protect the public and warn them about that person’s dangerous and toxic  behaviors.  After all that is what Yelp  and Health Grades is all about. But to out  a customer for a petty attitude issue is a whole different issue.

The tow worker could have also spoken up on the tape and said look, don’t speak to me that way or I won’t help you and I will get someone else to assist you if you treat me that way, or you really hurt my feelings by what you are saying. It needed to be dealt with between the two women. But she got the public involved and in my view she is just as Toxic as the reporter if not more. The reporter’s behavior is  unfortunately often what is seen in the showbusiness world- entitlement and thinking they are such a big star and talking down to others.  I have seen it countless times in Hollywood. Not all celebrities are like that but the newer ones who haven’t yet hit hard times and think that they are all that and believe their press often pull this behavior.

Since  Britt flaunted her TV career, the tow worker could have sent the tape  to the authorities at ESPN to show her action instead of showing it to the world and helping to destroy the women’s career.  Perhaps the ESPN authorities would have given her a reality check and put her on the right path in terms of how to behave with others now that she is  a public figure.

I really think it needed to be handled by both women as grown adults  and  the incident should not have  involve a third party.

There are definitely times where  Toxic people in the service business need to be called out when they exhibit Toxic behavior.  if someone is belittling, being condescending, being hateful, or harming you always need to let them know how their actions won’t be tolerated and  you need to hold them accountable.

But if  you  decide to go off on them verbally, which can often happen, there are certain rules you MUST follow.

1. You cannot berate their physical looks.

2. You cannot berate  their job and whether you think it is beneath you.

3. You cannot say how superior you are to them or how much more educated you are then they are.

4. You cannot  fat shame them and name call.

5. You cannot teeth shame them. But if they have such bad breath and unkempt teeth that makes you feel like to vomit, you can gingerly suggest they monitor their bad breath or use oral hygeine, especially if they are dealing with the public   if  their offensive smell has invaded your  air space via your nostrils you have the right to let them know about it.

6, You cannot shame their dress  or style unless they are disheveled and dirty and serving you food or touching your body, your hair or your children (waiter, waitress, facialist, hair stylist,  nurse, health care worker, child care worker).

So when ESPN reporter did all of the above, she showed who she was- a very toxic person who thought she was all that  simply because  she was on TV and no doubt probably being told her entire live how cute she looked). Well she certainly lost a lot of points in the cuteness department, because cute is as cute does .

While she was suspended it remains to be seen whether or not she will be fired. That all depends on how  the audience will tolerate her. Since the ESPN audience is mostly made up of men and since a lot of men out there can overlook Toxic behavior in a woman as long as she is cute and has a nice body and appeals to them as eye candy, she may still keep her job.

But as far as rising up the ranks and becoming a bonafide respected news reporter, she can forget it. Look at what happened to lying  Brian Williams. In my view she needs to be fired stat. There are too many other  cute young women out there who aren’t as Toxic who could do the job. Shaming others is a huge no no and makes you unlikeable. As a reporter who wants a long career, you need to be likeable.

Mainstream audiences  of both men and women may never be  forget how highly she regards herself at the expense of others. She showed a lot of insensitivity and went below the belt when she tore the woman’s looks  and who she was, to shreds.

Britt is NOT as educated as she thinks she is. Graduating from Northwestern or getting an advanced degree means nothing if you don’t have the education of how to respectfully kmy treat others. You will never advance and you will lose if you act like a superior entitled brat.  Personally, I think her getting fired would be the best thing to happen to this young lady as it would humble her and give her a reality check. She needs a complete inner makeover of her soul so she acquires more compassion, less entitlement, and less feelings of superiority to others.

In addition,  the tow worker should be fired for releasing the tape and being just as  or even more toxic by her sneaky passive aggressive behavior. The tow worker is not rthe victim here and should not be portrayed as one. She had a huge role in this debacle as well.

Aaron Hernandez Telling Body Language As Guilty Verdict Is Read

Screen Shot 2015-04-15 at 7.43.11 AMRight before the verdict is read we see a cocky and stoic  looking Neanderthal  looking short foreheaded  Aaron Hernandez with his head held high.

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As soon as he hears the verdict of “Guilty in the First Degree” his eyes close.This indicates that  he is closing off as this is not the verdict he expected to see ot hear.

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Screen Shot 2015-04-15 at 7.44.00 AMIn seeing them sob, his own emotions begin to come to the surface as he gets a case of  dry cotton mouth  as he moves his mouth to the side.

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He tries to swallow hard as the cotton mouth is really getting uncomfortable as his tongue now protrudes.

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As he swallows his eyes close in response to the frustration that he is unable to get their attention in making eye contact with them.

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Hernandez physically moves his head to get a better look at his loved ones as he shifts his eyes all the way in their direction, no doubt wanting to make eye contact with them through their sobs. But as you will see later they are not able to look at him and he cannot catch their eye gaze because their eyes are closed shut, covered and dripping with tears.Note that the guard is not liking what Hernandez is doing as he observes what is happening.

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The guard doesn’t like what Hernandez is doing  in having so much physcial freedom in turning his head  towards his loved ones, so he whispers something to him like “put your hands in back of you.”

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Hernandez does what he is told and leans his head down as he is cuffed by the guard.

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This the is reason Hernandez could not get satisfaction and some emotional comfort from his loved ones- his mother and his girlfriend. They were too busy covering their eyes and stifling their sobs and dabbing their fingers in their eyes to  blot  their tears. The mother’s tears were no doubt for the loss of her son whom she will never see again in this lifetime. The girlfirend’s tears were no doubt that she  lost her big bank bucks and now has to go at it alone and downsize.  While  Hernandez will still get his NFL pension  as long as he is alive, it will mostly go to paying off his lawyers as he had been struggling to pay them throughout the trial according to reports. Since money is scarce and lawyers fees are high, his girlfriend will no longer be living in the manner she had been accustomed to live and that means her home may even have to be sold from under her.

Aaron Hernandez finally got what he deserved, not just for killing this innocent man who happened to be his girlfriend’s sister’s boyfriend. He got what he deserved for what he did all his life. He was a thug and a bully and flew off the handle and harmed and killed others for pettry perceived slights. He was allowed to get away with everything for so long.

In Florida when he was in college he was allowed to get away with his egregious behavior simply because he was a star player. The NFL also turned a blind eye until they could do so no more. He has felt entitled all of his life because he was allowed to get away with it so much simply because he played football.

It is time we stop idolizing thugs and those engaged in criminal acts and turn a blind eye simply because they can catch a ball, run fast or tackle someone. Those are misplaced values. Now Hernandez will spend his life where he belongs and will never smell freedom. But unfortunately he will be hailed a hero in prison like OJ has been while incarcerated.

Nurse Jessamy Reed Fisher Toxic Behavior at UCLA ER Center

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Jessamy Reed Fisher’s TOXIC Behavior at UCLA Emergency Center. We have all heard horror stories of Toxic Nurses  throughout the years and I wanted to share my personal  experience with a nurse who exhibited toxic behavior at UCLA Ronald Reagan ER Center – ER Nurse Jessamy Reed Fisher aka (Jessamy Reed Settles  or Jessamy Fisher or Jessamy Settles ).  As the author of the best selling book Toxic People, I am doing so to let you know that I walk the walk and talk the talk as described in my book. That is why I am sharing my personal toxic experience with you in order to let you know that you never again have to be victimized by anyone in the  nursing profession and that there are measures you can take to make sure that toxic professionals like this nurse is accountable for her actions which could jeopardize a patient’s health. These nurses like Jessamy Reed Fisher need to be outed and not hide behind their professional nurse badges as a warning to other patients who may encounter them.

I arrived at the UCLA ER with a close to 9 mm kidney stone that was stuck in my ureter. Needless to say the pain was so excruciating ( 12 on a 1-10 point pain scale) to the point that my body automatically and uncontrollably  let out screams as I  unsuccessfully  tried to sip in air for immediate relief. To further describe what the pain felt like it was as though I was being stabbed with a burning hot knife. For your women out there who have given birth, the pain is akin to a woman giving birth to a 20 pound baby with no anesthesia.

While at the Ronald Reagan ER Waiting room late that afternoon,  I encountered  nurse Jessamy Reed Fisher, who displayed the most TOXIC behavior I have ever experienced. She started to type  my information  into the computer but immediately stopped typing and gave me an ugly cold stare as she said’ Stop screaming or I won’t continue.” She then refused to budge or type in my data as she  had hostile body language and used mean and aggressive tones towards me. As  she shouted at me, and by her  refusing to type and get me quickly admitted, she was essence standing in the way of my medical treatment.

God forbid she did this to a patient who came into the ER and was screaming becuase they had chest pains and was having a heart attack. Where time is of the essence, nurse  Jessamy’s  stopping her typing and refusing to continue typing in the patient’s information could have contributed to the patient’s death, since time is crucial in that circumstance.

Instead of comforting me verbally, saying something kind and soothing and /or getting me into the ER for some immediate relief from the excruciating pain,  nurse Jessamy coldly and rudely told the person who accompanied me to the ER that  in essence she didn’t care how much pain I was in and  that I would have to wait for a long, long time (for the 7 patients ahead of me) . To make matters worse, after I checked my medical records, a day later to obtain the records to share with my physician,  I discovered that Jessemay Fisher falsified my medical records by writing in false statements.

After suffering in  pain for what seemed like an eternity,  I finally got to see the ER doctors and nurses who were very nice and helpful and immediately relieved my pain through medication and an IV. They took a cat scan and  informed me as to the  huge size of my kidney stone and could fully understand why I was in so much excruciating pain. A few days later I was admitted to the hospital and underwent surgery to remove that stone and some others.

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The pain of recovery from the surgery was nothing as compared the emotional pain and distress I suffered at the hands of this nurse Jessemay Reed Fisher. Her hostile ,sharp, barking tones, and ugly contorted mean facial expression  and cold nasty behavior towards me continued to upset me as I played her behavior and actions over and over in my mind. Her emotionally abusive treatment of me kept popping up into my thoughts.Having been trained at UCLA School of Medicine as a Post Doctoral Fellow in Medical Genetics I was doubly shocked at how such a nurse could work in such a wonderful institution where the patient’s care comes first.

As a vulnerable patient, writhing in pain, there was nothing I could do about her treatment, but now that I recovered and had more strength I contacted head of UCLA ER  Department Mr.  Mark Mayes.   Mr. Mark  Mayes was very  kind and receptive and admitted that he was appalled at Jessamy Reed Fisher’s behavior. He said no one at UCLA should treat any patient like that and that he would take immediate action towards her.  He too shared with me that he experienced a kidney stone so he knew what pain I was in. He told me that her treatment of me would not be tolerated.

I also contacted the California Board of Nursing and reported Jessamy Reed Fisher’s actions to them as they have to know how one of their licensed nurses has treated a patient and how their licensee’s  actions further emotionally traumatized a patient who was in severe pain. I got her license number from the California State Board of Nursing Website and this is what I discovered from their website. I am sharing it with you so that if a nurse jeopardizes and upsets your treatment like what was done to me you will know what to look for.  Go to your state Nursing Board’s website and look of the license number of the nurse. Sometimes there will be multiple licenses as was the case below. You need to write reports for each of their licenses as I did.

FISHER, JESSAMY REED (Previous Name) Registered Nurse 685604
FISHER, JESSAMY REED Public Health Nurse 71664
FISHER, JESSAMY REED Registered Nurse 685604
FISHER, JESSAMY REED Interim Permit 684440

After taking these two actions of l reporting her to her higher ups, and looking up her licenses and reporting them to the Board of Nursing , the awful thoughts of how nurse Jessemay Reed Fisher emotionally abused me when I was my most vulnerable and in pain,  no longer clouded my thoughts as much as they did before, although the thought of the incident  still brings me anxiety and upset.  I have even had some pretty awful  related dreams as a result of this incident. Clearly what she had done to me in the ER when I was so vulnerable had a traumatic effect on my psyche.

As a Clinical Nurse in the UCLA System as a Clinical Nurse 2 she was paid $79,992.39. In my view this woman does not deserve a dime based on how she treated me. It is an honor and a privilege to be a nurse and Jessay Reed Fisher does not deserve the honor or the privilege to treat patients and receive this type of salary.

So the moral of the story here  is that whenever anyone treats you poorly in the medical profession,like a doctor, a dentist, or like what nurse Jessamy Reed Fisher did to me,  you do have recourse. You can and must report them to the highest authority at the hospital so that they are held accountable and so that they don’t treat others similarly. In addition, you can report them to their state licensing board. The board needs to know about their licensees and welcome that information. No one has the right to hide behind their badge of being a nurse and get away with harsh treatment of patients in need.

Every nurse takes the following oath called the Nightengale Oath after the most famous nurse,  Florence Nightengale:

” I solemnly pledge myself before God and in the presence of this assembly, to pass my life in purity and to practice my profession faithfully. I will abstain from whatever is deleterious and mischievous, and will not take or knowingly administer any harmful drug. I will do all in my power to maintain and elevate the standard of my profession, and will hold in confidence all personal matters committed to my keeping and all family affairs coming to my knowledge in the practice of my calling. With loyalty will I endeavor to aid the physician in his work, and devote myself to the welfare of those committed to my care.”

 If a nurse does not follow this oath, they need to be held accountable and immediate action needs to be taken  just like the actions taken towards Jessamy Reed Fisher at UCLA ER. This type of behavior cannot be tolerated. The public has a right to know about their behaviors so they don’t experience the same thing or have their health or treatment jeopardized.

Toxic CNN Anchor Creates Hostility Driving Joan Rivers Off Set But Obama Gay Michelle “Tranny” Joke May Be River’s Undoing

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There is nothing more TOXIC then someone being the instigator and then trying to make out like they are the victim. That is what happened with the passive aggressive actions of CNN anchor Fredericka Whitfield. Whitfield was the one who instigated the hostile tone of the interview by calling Joan mean when Joan appears on Fashion Police, calling Joan out on making fun of serious situations like Casey Anthony’s dead daughter and critiquing Joan’s book cover of her new book Diary of a Mad Woman where Joan is wearing fur.

Whitfield laughs a phony laugh and mugs for the camera when Joan walks off the set, acting surprised that Joan left yet mugging and phony smiling all the way. Initially Joan tried to explain that Fashion Police was not mean and that Joan didn’t attack the celebrities, she attacked the clothing and fashion.

Whitfield glossed over River’s answer and proceeded in a hostile tone to attack her over the Casey Anthony daughter humor. Joan once again tried to explain that you can take a horrible situation and add humor (albeit dark humor) it gives the person a moments respite from the tragedy. Rivers further went on to describe how Winston Churchill described this type of humor as a moment’s vacation. Once again Whitfield glossed over her answer and began to attack Joan over wearing fur on her book cover. Joan tried to explain and immediately went on the offensive asking Whitfield if she wore leather and told her to shut up and talk to her when she wears a paper belt.

Then Joan pulled out her earpiece and walked out. On one breath Whitfield was complimentary and on the other breath began her series of attacks. This is called passive aggressive behavior and highly toxic in my book. Rivers told Whitfield that all her questions had been “negative,” and added “You are not the one to interview a person who does humor, sorry,” before Rivers walked off. Rivers was right. She came to speak of her book, not the show and not her furs. It was the attacking staccatto and hostile tone of voice Whitfield used that got Joan worked up.

Had Whitfield said ” What would you say to people who comment on you wearing fur” instead of directly attacking Joan that she was wearing fur on the cover of her book, it would have been a different story. Had she worded her questions differently, Rivers would not have walked off the set. So needless to say I believe Joan was absolutely right not to subject herself to this amature, unprofessional, and hostile interview.

While the incident was unfortunate it put Joan high up in the press and now makes more people aware of her new book. It also put Fredericka Whitfield on the map as before this, most people had no idea who she was.

On the show Joan Rivers was defending herself in saying that she has made people laugh for 50 years.Before all of the current political correctness which permeates our society her humor obviously worked very well. She skewered the Royal family and Elizabeth Taylor as well as racial and ethnic groups without a thought. People loved this and her Vegas shows and nightclub acts around the country sold out regularly. It was the Don Rickles put people down type of humor that people seemed to love.

But today it has changed. People are much more tender and sensitive and don’t find any humor in tragedy such as Caylee Anthony’s death (me included). They will also not tolerate Holocaust jokes as Joan has made in the past or Black jokes. They will also not tolerate gay or gender identity jokes like the recent one she made about The President and First Lady.

When a reporter  recently questioned Rivers if she thought there would be a gay President in the White House she remarked that we already have one- Obama and that his wife Michelle is a tranny.

In my view it is not Joan’s walking off the CNN set that may be her undoing but this joke about the President and First Lady that in my view that hits well below the belt. It’s not funny and in my view oversteps all boundaries. Whether or not you are a fan of Obama and his wife, we can all agree that this was a pretty shocking thing to say, especially that Michelle is a “tranny.” While there has been tabloid press in the past  alluding to Obama’s being gay, there is nothing to even suggest that Michelle is transgender. It seem libelous to me.

While shock value has been what has sustained Rivers throughout the years, this shock value may be what finally does her in.

TOXIC Kate Gosselin Reportedly Abused Her Children and Dogs Needs to Be Off Air Forever! New Book An Eye Opener

 

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Because  I had been vocal in my media interviews and in my blogs about the body language of Kate Gosselin and her verbally abusive behavior towards  Jon and her kids, I was sent a review copy of  KATE GOSSELIN: HOW SHE FOOLED THE WORLD – The Rise And Fall of a Reality TV Queen  http://www.amazon.com/KATE-GOSSELIN-FOOLED-WORLD-REALITY-ebook/dp/B00L774BFA/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1403479276&sr=8-4&keywords=Kate+gosselin+how+she+fooled+the+world

I have always said I am not a Kate hater. I am merely a reporter of newsmakers communication and body language. And I reported some very TOXIC things I saw with Kate Gosselin.

At first I didn’t want to read this book.  I felt I  learned all I needed to know about Kate from watching  her body language on the TLC shows, including  parts of the recent special she did. In that special I saw her Toxic sadism as she kicked a ball towards Mady to the repercussions of that hostile act where  Mady refused to forgive her.

I also saw the lasting effects of Kate’s years of verbal abuse on Mady which we all saw on previous shows. Now Mady has poor self esteem as she put herself down and showed visible signs depression. We also  saw Cara as a verbal cripple where she was afraid to utter a word around her Toxic mother.

As I made the decision to finally to read the book I wondered if there would be anything new in the book that  a.  I didn’t already know and  b.  if there was anything in it that Kate’s lawyers would use to sue this author Robert Hoffman.

Turns out, while there were many things I did know based on my observations, there were things I did not know which both  shocked and disgusted me. One of those things was Kate’s physical abuse of her children and her sadistic abuse of the dogs.

As for any legal issues concerning Robert Hoffman,  in my view any lawsuit by Kate would be seen as a frivolous claim in my view. The man is a journalist and wrote what he saw and culled data from  many interviews from others. He also reported on Kate’s own words. He did not break into her home and steal her hard drive. He did not do anything illegal or nefarious.

He did what many resourceful journalists and lots of detectives  have done-  look into the person’s trash to find discarded information about them. What Hoffman found was a goldmine in the garbage Kate Gosselin, herself,  threw away outside and left to be picked up. If she didn’t want any of her own words out, she needed to invest in and use a shredder as that is what they are for . In addition, she needed to hire someone to erase her hard drive if she wanted to trace left of what she said.

DISCOVERY and  TLC RESPONSIBILITY TO GET KATE  OFF THE AIR FOREVER 

The two pieces information  I did not know that I learned from this book,  which was merely reporting Kate’s own words based on her self written journal  was that

1. Kate physically abused her children and and

 2. She abused her dogs.

For those two reasons alone,  I strongly believe TLC MUST NEVER PUT her on a show again or  never again be the strong wall behind her that protects her with ridiculous PR Spin and  puts her on such shows as Today, Access Hollywood, People Magazine  or even the Apprentice to get her back into the limelight so people would watch her special.

This woman in my view needs to be off the air for good. Look what they did to Paula Deen who self admitted she said the N word 30 years ago. They need to do the same to Kate Gosselin. All of those sponsors who support Kate should terminate Kate’s agreements in my view based on these two horrible acts and based on what we saw on the last special of how she treated her children. All the endorsement, speaking engagements and  free bees need to stop.

In the book Robert Hoffman pulls out a contract of Kate’s and TLC’s and says how Discovery which owns TLC backed Kate from day one. He seems surprised by this.

As someone who has signed extensive entertainment and sponsorhip  contracts myself, I am not at all surprised that Discovery would back Kate for as long as she was useful to them and kept making money.

They would do anything to keep her PR machine going even if it meant discrediting people like  child actor activist Paul Petersen who publicly spoke out against Kate and what harm she did to the kids. They would do anything to protect their brand as they proved to Jon Gosselin during his divorce from Kate by tying his hands every which way. If he veered out of line,  they made sure he would be sued and essentially left homeless if he did anything against their cash cow and money making machine, Kate.

But now that the cat is out of the bag through this book, Discovery and TLC need to quit Kate Gosselin, especially after the poor ratings on her last special. It is interesting that they realize she is no longer a big deal for them ad their PR machine does not appear to be ramped up very high since Hoffman’s book has been released.

 

Hoffman says in the book he thinks she is a very mentally sick woman. A very mentally sick woman who can’t seem to get along with anyone from her own parents, sibilngs, relatives, aunts, and uncles,  long time babysitters, help,  producers, people on DWTS  like beloved dancer Tony Dovalani.

Journalist Hoffman and others report her as being,  narcissistic, bipolar and a boarderline personality. The reason why Kate has so many haters is because people see her disturbed behavior and don’t like it.  The tagline of Kate being the “person you love to hate”  to help attract more viewers is exploiting Kate’s alleged  mental issues and taunting viewers to dare to watch.

No one loves to hate. People hate Kate because she does things that are hateable like hitting children and abusing dogs. She needs to be off the air permanently for the sake of her kids at least.

Now that the kids are older we can see by their body language they hate to be on the show.  Most  are not happy being there. In addition they are not talented or charismatic children. They simple average kids, many who are repressed and others who look very sad. The only one who shows life is Mady,  but she is angry and depressed all the time. These kids have no business being on air based on that alone.There are too many delightful exciting non sad and non abused kids out there.

Here is what Hoffman says in the book about the responsibility  of  Discovery, TLC and  it’s producers:

Every producer, crew member or person employed by Discovery/TLC/Figure 8 Films who witnessed any abuse of the Gosselin children bears some responsibility for allowing it to continue and for not reporting it. Every executive who knew about the abuse is responsible.

Everyone who turned a blind eye to the abuse bears some blame. It is probably safe to say that no damning, un-aired Gosselin film where Kate is screaming at, threatening and spanking her children will ever see the light of day.

That unseen film is proof that all the adults who witnessed the abuse, or saw signs that made them strongly suspect abuse, and who could have and should have done something to protect those children, failed them – all because there was a boatload of money to be made off of them. The Gosselin children were nothing more than collateral damage in a business driven by greed, where profit trumps the safety and well-being of our most innocent. The welfare of those children was everybody’s business.”

TLC and Discovery have other successful shows that are quite wonderful and inspiring  like The Little Couple, Say Yes to the Dress, the Duggars (who have so much love in that family), and even the Sister Wives who are a rather unique unconventional yet loving family. TLC’s shows about the Amish way of life  and even the Gypsy way of life are great as you get  a glimpse into this never before seen lifestyle and way of thinking. So they don’t need to showcase a child abuser and an animal abuser.

At first the network made the right decision to see a young family raise multiples. But now that the babies are all grown,  it is no longer cute. Instead  it is a trainwreck and a nightmare as even indicated by their latest not great ratings from their special.

In my view,  this show needed to be off the air much earlier as it was reported by Hoffman that many producers witnessed  Kate’s abuse. In my view they need to be held accountable for not doing anything about it. No job is worth keeping when you see a baby being abused.

 

KATES BRUTAL ABUSE OF THE CHILDREN 

 

After page 127 the book documents Kate’s abuse on the babies. It is a very hard and disturbing read but says it all.  It needs to be seen by both the Kate haters and kate lovers so they can decide for themselves in an objective manner. Here are only 16 of  actual excerpts of the book about Kate and her abuse:

1. ” Kate  spanked 2-year-old babies for doing exactly what 2-year-old babies do and said on air  she put a “soaking and dripping wet” Alexis into her crib and left her there until Jon got home, which made her  uncaring and  inept.

 

2. “Kate said that she was instantly so SO angry that she grabbed him and spanked him as hard as she could and thought that she may seriously injure him so she sent him to his crib and whipped him into it very hard! Kate Gosselin said that for the first time she thought she might really lose it and she was glad that she left him in his crib until Jon came home from work. Kate wrote today was the day that she felt like she may really seriously injure a child!”

 

 

3. “Kate goes on to pontificate about Collin saying she doesn’t understand him. She says he’s usually kind and caring and tender and nice until his (two-year-old) temper flairs. Kate says she doesn’t like that little Collin doesn’t know how to handle his frustration and anger, but apparently beating him and screaming at him is her way of trying to calm him down and make him understand. Kate then laments that she didn’t even get the chance to have Collin apologize to her because she had other things to do.”

 

4. “…Collin and that’s when Kate REALLY lost it and pulled Collin up by the hair and spanked them all so hard!!! Kate says she loves them but she was so very angry with them for eating mini M&Ms that were obviously left out where toddlers can get their little fingers on them.”

 

5. “Kate says that she put them back into their beds for their own safety. Kate saw her father in herself today and she says that really scares her. “

 

 6. “The children just stood there terrified. Then she dragged one of the boys into the bathroom and spanked him five or six times with a large plastic spoon.”

 

7. “You could hear Kate forcefully whacking the child and the child screaming at the top of his lungs. People told me it happened more than once, but it was off-camera because Kate didn’t want it in the show.”

 

8.” Kate talks about Aaden’s fifth day of potty training. He had an accident and pooped on the floor. Kate said she screamed at the top of her lungs as she picked him up. She spanked him after the clean up because, as she says, they are not dogs and Kate felt that five days was more than enough time for a two-year-old boy to become potty trained.”

 

9. Think about these words from Kate’s journal:

 “I spanked them so hard!!!!”

 “I felt like I may hurt his children.”

 “I grabbed him and spanked him as hard as I could and thought I may seriously injure him.”

 “I was out of control.”

 “Now read them again, and picture six tiny children in nothing but diapers, being brutally spanked by their enraged and clearly out-of-control mother. That is not a loving parent disciplining her children. That is violence and abuse. And remember – these are the things that Kate was comfortable documenting in her journal as source material for possible inclusion in her book, I Just Want You To Know – Letters To My Kids On Love, Faith, and Family. These are normal, everyday occurrences in the Gosselin children’s lives. These are things that Kate was prepared to share with the world if an editor at Zondervan hadn’t gotten his or her hands on them first.”

 

10. “After more than 30 minutes of Collin sitting, trying to go potty, Kate turns the light out on Collin, leaving him alone to sit in the dark on the potty, and telling him, “Don’t get up ’til there’s pee in there. Understand?”  

 

11. “She actually yelled at her twin daughters in front of the cameras for coming down to the kitchen a few minutes early, before their scheduled 6:03 morning kitchen entrance time. The poor girls looked dejected and beat down as they were belittled and sent away…for the television audience’s viewing enjoyment.”

 

12. “Kate was given the bottle of water, unscrewed the cap, and took a sip. She then put the bottle down on the floor next to her chair without offering any to a clearly distressed Mady. Mady pleaded, “I need a drink now.” Kate told her to “Be quiet.” Mady then said, “You’re really, really mean! You drank it right in front of my face.”

 

 13. “After her divorce from Jon, Kate was caught on video violently spanking two of the boys in the driveway of their home, the moment they got out of the van from returning from an overnight with Jon. The other children just watched in fear as the spanking took place, perhaps not knowing if they were next. I later found out the reason for the beating was because the boys told Kate they wanted to stay longer at Jon’s house because they were having too much fun. Kate now promises the children presents and trips to Toys R Us for toys if they tell Jon that they don’t want to go to his house.The paparazzo who shot the video didn’t release it because he shot it from private property.

 

14. “Beating or spanking her children isn’t the only way Kate gets her message across to them. Kate recently pushed one of the boys outside in below-freezing temperatures without his coat, gloves or hat for fifteen minutes because the boy didn’t close the door all the way when he came inside from playing in the snow. The child was screaming and crying and banging on the doors all around the house. His face was bright red from being so cold when Kate finally allowed him to come back into the house.”

 

15.”Kate Gosselin had one babysitter who would actually administer her own beatings to the Gosselin children at Kate’s direction when she was away. The sitter was given the authority by Kate to carry out Kate’s way of ‘teaching’ the children for even the smallest of infractions. This included spanking the children, withholding meals from the children and locking the children in a room for hours at a time. This same sitter was told by Kate to lock one of the boys in the bathroom for her entire shift because he left splashes of water on the sink and floor without toweling it off.

 

16. “On one occasion, one of the boys was punished for having Shoka in the basement when he was supposed to be outside. Shoka had an accident by the door and Kate was so enraged that she brought the boy down to the basement and screamed at him while showing him the mess. To show her complete domination of the child, she grabbed him by the back of his neck and forced his face down to within inches of the mess, trying to rub his face in it. He struggled and resisted and ended up with only a spanking instead” of a face-full of dog feces.”

KATE’S ABUSE OF THE DOGS 

Kate also abused the dogs as Hoffman documents from these actual quotes from his book:

1, “The Gosselin dog’s normal wasn’t much better. In fact, it was very similar to the children’s normal. That’s why they were sent away after only a short time as being ‘part of the family.’

 

2.”Both Gosselin dogs, Shoka and Nala, were abused by Kate during the separation and divorce when Jon was away from the house. Kate treated the dogs and the kids in the same manner but the dogs resisted and ‘fought back.’ Kate would use a stick, a spoon, a tube or whatever else she had handy to discipline the dogs for minor infractions that dogs commit, like tracking mud into the basement after being brought in from being outside in the pouring rain and…mud.”

 

3. “If Kate got growled at by one of the dogs for hitting them for minor animal infractions, she would banish them to the outdoors overnight. She talked to them like people and thought she could reason with them. She locked them outside in the freezing rain and snow and left them to watch the family through the basement windows. One freezing cold night, she sadistically went to the glass door where the female dog Nala was howling to come inside and she smiled and waved to her and told her how warm it was inside and that maybe she’ll think about her actions so she could come back in the following morning. She got down on the floor to pet Shoka who was laying by the door looking out at poor Nala. Kate Gosselin is cruel and she seems to enjoy the power that she has over children, animals and adults.”

BOTTOM LINE 

 If the book did not include Kate’s own words from her own diary she herself discarded, you might be suspect about someone trying to do a smear job on Kate.

But the truth of the matter is that she said these horrible things. You cannot deny that or make any excuse for it like she was in a bad mood or spin it that those were thoughts she never meant.  They were in her computer on her own hard drive and who else would write them,  let alone have access to her computer?  Even worse we all saw her do many of these horribly abusive things to her kids on TV, many of which I reported in my previous blogs.

Kate has done enough damage to the kids and by TLC and Discovery airing her show or doing anymore specials they are contributing to the demise of these children’s already poor self esteem as we already  just saw with Mady and Cara. Collin and other children had school issues where they were abusive to teachers. They clearly learned this Toxic behavior from an abusive mother just as Kate reported in the book she learned it from her own abusive father.

These children DO NOT need to be used to be on TV for Kate’s narcissistc  gain. The network needs to stop it effective immediately. She has earned enough money – millions upon millions of dollars and there are trust funds for each child that she never has to  worry about their education. She never has earn money on TV again.

This abusive, non generous,mean spirited, bullying, greedy, manipulative, self absorbed, woman who essentially  took fertility drugs had six children at once and became  famous by using her  her kids to be in the media no longer has a place in the media for her egregious actions as far as I am concerned.

 

Essentially  she is nobody without those kids. She has nothing to offer or   redeeming qualities as far as I am concerned. Reading Kate’s own words and witnessing her actions will  make everyone a hater who with any sense of decency  and compassion realize that they could never  support or promote a woman who beats children, abuses teenagers as we just saw in her special, and abuses dogs.

 If you say the N word, show racism as Kate has also done as reported in the book based on her own words,  and  abuse children and animals based on her own words and eyewitness reports,  you need to be finished as a public entity and be removed from the public eye.

I for one can no longer look at Kate without disgust and revulsion for hitting those babies for such minor infractions like soiling their diapers and for abusing those innocent dogs. I will not play “the emperor” or “empress”  has new clothes” when all can see the naked truth about this TOXIC WOMAN.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Toxic Donald Sterling’s Body Language Shows More Racisim, No Sincere Apology, Distain Towards Magic Johnson

ImageDonald Sterling’s leaked private conversation with girlfriend V. Stiviano told us in no uncertain terms he had racist views. He then tried to spin it with another “leaked” tape, which in my view, he leaked personally, this time. In that tape he talks to a friend and says how he said all of those racist things because he was trying to impress V. Stiviano and get her into bed. CNN’s Anderson Cooper asks him if he trusts anyone because his most recent tape was “leaked.”.As you can see in the screen shot above, Sterling licks his lips when asked this question. To me is a clear signal of deception and reveals that he no doubt leaked those tapes himself. He doesn’t answer Cooper’s question,  which  also speaks volumes about his role in the newly “leaked” tape.

He then says that he doesn’t do interviews and that the only one he talked to was Magic Johnson. That made no sense as Magic is not the media to whom he would give an interview. Sterling  goes on to say he spoke to Magic Johnson twice and said “He knew the girl.”  said in a surprised tone.” By calling Stiviano “the girl” it is clear that Sterling has distanced himself from Stivino. On the “leaked” conversation between Stiviano and Sterling, Stiviano claimed to Sterling that she didn’t t know Magic. But now Sterling finds out that Magic does know “the girl” as he said that Magic apparently “knew the girl well.”

 

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When  Anderson Copper asked if Sterling apologized to Magic.  Sterling looks down and  hems and haws  as she says “uh uh if I said anything wrong then I’m sorry.” In essence he is saying that he did not apologize to Magic. He also says “if” I said anything wrong which says that he still does not believe he said anything wrong.

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Though his words say Magic “is a good person” Sterling’s body and facial language leak out something completely different. They leak out disdain for Magic. In fact , Sterling’s next words show his true feelings as he cuts Magic down by saying that he doesn’t think Magic has done everything he can to help minorities.

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Then Sterling looks down and says “I’ll say it” as h.e shrugs his shoulders, “He’s great.” But he doesn’t believe that Magic is great as he shakes his head “no,” and also purses his lips in anger. He then goes on to say how he doesn’t think Magic Johnson is “a good example for the children of Los Angeles.”

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Sterling says he made “a terrible terrible mistake and he is here to apologize.” But he does’t say he is sorry with his words or his body language. His tone is monotone and his face is moonfaced. There is no sincere emotion when he makes this statement. Deep down it reveals that he really does’t think he did anything wrong. Even though he feigns remorse and hurting “so many innocent people, “he finally reveals that he hurt himself. That si the bottom line. If he feels bad about anything it is that these words leaked out, which hurt his standing as a Clipper’s owner. He is also a very bad actor as he draw out the /o/ sound while saying ” I’m soooo sorry. I am so apologetic.” No one says they are apologetic.  Instead, they say they apologize if they were being sincere.

But just when you think Sterling’s public persona can’t get any worse, it does.  In his  voluntary interview on national TV with CNN’s Anderson Cooper he says that “Magic acts so holy even though he made love to every girl in every city” in America and he had Aids. What he has done is accuse Magic of knowingly spreading the AIDS virus to women across America. This is slander. I am sure that Magic’s attorney knows this as well.  Talk like that will  no doubt add to Magic’s financial coffers. so it will be even easier for Magic to afford the team.

 

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Then Sterling goes on to say when Magic has “those AIDS” he went to his synagogue and prayed for him. In essence by saying this, Sterling  is trying to tell us how good  a person he is and how self righteous he is.  But  he  says it with anger through his clenched fists which reflects how  deep down he clearly detests Magic.

But on the next breath he says that he could have criticized Magic for getting AIDS but he didn’t, yet another lame attempt at showing how magnanimous he is. Then he asks Anderson Cooper what Magic Johnson has done. Anderson replies that he is a business person. Sterling immediately interjects “He has AIDS.”  In essence Sterling has just said that all Magic has done with his life is get AIDS. Anderson corrects him that Magic has HIV not AIDS.

Then Sterling goes over the top yet corrects himself with regards to Aids. He now says that” Magic Johnson made love to every girl in America and catches HIV “. He then then says he thinks Magic should be ashamed of himself and go into the background. What Sterling is doing  here in psychological terms is protecting. He is ashamed of himself and knows very well that he is the one who needs to be in the background, not Magic.

He adds insult to injury by saying that Magic does nothing for the Black people and then stops himself short by saying there is no such thing as African Americas which further displays  his racism.

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In fact he realizes at this moment as you can see in the above screen shot, that he has just dug himself even deeper into the racism pit as body language wise he covers his mouth as to stop himself from saying more. He even apologizes as he knows very well what he just did.

Then he says “they” all want to play golf with him. Clearly the “they”  he is referring to are Black people. He then says he does’t think “Magic is a good example for the children of Los Angeles and then get AIDS.” Even though Cooper previously corrected him that it was HIV and not AIDS, Sterling  still insists that Magic has AIDS. In essence he is once again blaming Magic for getting AIDS.

Not only does he disparage Magic with these comments, he says Magic does nothing to help minorities but “he” Donald Sterling “gives away millions to help minorities. Once again Sterling ties to show how righteous and good he is. He then asks  Cooper ” Does he do that?” In essence, Sterling is saying that Magic Johnson does’t give Millions to minorities.

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Once again we see the rage in his body language as he talks about Magic as we see Sterling’s clenched fists. Then he once agin shows his racist colors by saying how Jews, when they get successful will help their people but that Blacks don’t do the same.  He then admits that he might get in trouble again for what he has to say as he states “maybe they don’t want to help anybody.” In essence he is saying that Blacks don;t want to help anybody,

He begs to be forgiven, but his body language  and facial language shows that he is insincere. He does’t think he did anything wrong.

Hearing the Toxic words  that ha=ve come out of Sterling’s mouth has me convinced more than ever that that there no place for such backwards and Neanderthal thinking in the NBA. After hearing this racist and hate filled interview, I cannot imagine any team owner not voting to remove him. Now it is no longer about the leaked private racially charged tapes that were made public by V. Stiviano or her minions. Now it is Sterling by himself who voluntarily showed his ignorance and  racism to the world through his interview which has no doubt left many speechless.

His ugly and very Toxic swipes at Magic are his warped attempt to disparage Magic in hopes of swaying public opinion against Magic so that he won’t be supported in purchasing the team. But it all backfired and alienated even more people as most wonder what kind of Toxic insensitive person could actually blame another person for catching a sickness. Magic is a hero and despite his HIV- not AIDS, he has been able to flourish and become a leader in the Black community. He has shown that an HIV diagnosis is not a death sentence and that one can live a productive life. He has given people jobs and invested money to start businesses in the Black community for years. Everyone knows this about Magic. For Sterling to distort the facts about Magic shows just how desperate Sterling is feeling these days. His whole world is caving in on him and he knows it. We all saw it in this interview.