Trump’s State of the Union Speech Showed Passion and Compassion While Opposition Showed Rudeness

Screen Shot 2018-01-30 at 6.05.23 PM.pngWhen Donald Trump first arrived to give his State of the Union Address  his body language was confident and he appeared to be highly focused and even a bit somber. His smiles were guarded.

His aim during his presentation was to try to unite the nation and in many ways he succeeded. He used the word “WE” hundreds of times throughout his speech. He was determined in his speech to let the world know that it is not about one side over the other , but that it was all inclusive. He made this point several times during his address.

Whether or not you support or like Trump, objectively speaking , his delivery was highly effective. He hyper articulated key points he wanted to make and spoke at at pace where it was easy to process all that he was saying. in order to  understand  exactly what he was trying to say.

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There was also some vocal defiance where he stuck out his jaw in an aggressive body language move when addressing controversial issues and seemed to address his opponents personally.  He even jutted his lower jaw forward as he made these significant points indicating that there was serious conviction behind what he was saying.

He  not only showed a lot of  passion in his delivery but demonstrated a great deal of compassion and sensitivity, something we have not seen in the past. The story he told about the officer who adapted the baby was done with a great deal of emotion as reflected in his inflection pattern.  He also appeared emotional when discussing Otto Warmbier and made a pledge at the end of his speech to handle North Korea in the American way to honor the student who was unjustly  accused and brutally abused on North Korean soil

The most disturbing aspect of the SOTU address was the rudeness and poor attitudes  by certain Democrats who came in to the room  with a nasty attitude and sour facial  expression  to begin with  and who didn’t even stand or even applaud for issues that were for everyone.

When she spoke about working together and serving the people the nastiest of expressions was on Nancy Pelosi who was a sourpuss throughout the entire speech.

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.When  Trump spoke about working together and serving the people the nastiest of expressions was on Nancy Pelosi who was a sourpuss throughout the entire speech.

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The same was true for Chuck Schumer. It reflected that these individuals seems to be blocked from even considering working together.

This genuine lack of respect for the office of the Presidency  was a turn off to the public . No matter what side you or on Democrat or Republican the genuine display of rudeness will no doubt cost many of these lawmakers  in their own elections as it will not sit well with the public.

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When Trump made  a positive and beneficial statement that  Black employment  was up and the entire Black Caucus  sat the stone faced, it did not sit well with many.

The fact that Ruth Bader Ginsberg didn’t show up is a travesty and makes one question her abilities to be on the Supreme Court which is supposed to be non partisan.

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The fact that congressman Luis Gutierrz walked out in the middle of the speech showed extreme rudeness and distaste. It was unacceptable

The meanness and hatred of many of  these congressmen and Senators showed during Trump’s speech was not a good role model for the country  and contributed to the divisiveness in the country, While we can agree to disagree this level of toxic vehemence was uncalled for and did turn people off in their own party.

When the speech ended and Trump shook hands he was a bit somber> there was no doubt he felt the hostility in the audience  from  his  opposition. The bottom line is that his opposition didn’t even give him a chance to hear what he had to say. He said many things that would be beneficial to them as well, yet they sat stone faced and non reactive. They didn’t clap for things that all people should clap for like working together.

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Melania was regal in her posture and demeanor. When she entered she was very careful to walk down the stairs very slowly.  When she spoke to some of he guests before the speech she showed warmth towards them. The press  made a big deal about her arriving my herself in a separate motorcade  and speculated that it has something to due with the stripper’s alleged affair with Trump. In my view this was nonsense since all First Ladies arrive first and are their well  before the President arrives.  CNN  reported that she wore white to protest her husband which is more absurd. And this is why CNN is so despised and now regarded as fake news

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Dr. Lillian Glass Always Maintains Her Integrity When It Comes to Body Language Analysis

Today I just got a call from a  magazine journalist asking me what I thought about some celebrity photos. These particular batch of  photos were of Blake Shelton and some  dark haired woman. They wanted to know if  Blake was cheating on his latest love Gwen Stefani and if there was anything going on between him and this woman in the photo.

As I looked at the photos it was clear  to me that there was nothing going on  with Blake and this dark haired woman, except  for a warm friendship between the two . I determined that based on their mutual facial expressions, the distance they appeared towards one another and their arm and body position.

So when the journalist called me back to discuss my findings  on several of these photos, I told the truth. I informed the journalist that  because Blake’s arm was over the woman’s shoulder and there was so much distance between them in the photos and based on their facial expressions, there appeared to be nothing more than just warm friendship between the two.

Apparently my evaluation was not enough for  the reporter. She wanted more,  so she pressed and pressed me with more and more questions like” Don’t you think the average person who is not a body language expert would think there was something going on between these two?” I answered , ‘No, not at all.Everyone can see  from these photos that they seem like good friends and that there are no signs they are romantic with one another.” That was not the answer she wanted to hear as she  continued to rephrase her question to get some tiny snippet from me that something could possibly be going on so she could spin it  the way she wanted for her magazine.

Knowing exactly what she was doing, I called her out on it. I said, “I know exactly what you are trying to do. You need a sensational story to entice your audience, but I can’t participate in that.

She then ignored what I had to say and tried another way to ask the question. finally told her that I always keep my integrity when I do my body language analysis so there was no way I could help her spin the story the way she wanted it. I also told her that I thought it was unfair to do this to Blake and try and conjure something up. She then said that she appreciated my honesty.

As hung up the phone, I was really disturbed by this.  Just days earlier at the Grammy’s Blake was seen with his love Gwen Stefani where it was obvious based on his body language that he and Gwen were intimately involved with one another . As you can see they seemed happy and in love and involved as Gwen sits between Blake’s legs as they held on to one another with glowing genuine smiles.

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Know that I will never allow myself to be manipulated for any story just so a journalist could spin it a certain way. This is not  the first time this has happened to me and I am sure it won’t be the last.

A few years ago,  I had a regular monthly column for Cosmopolitan Magazine where I did body language analyzes of celebrities and discussed what was really going on between the lines. All too often, whenever I would pitch a story for a new issue, I was met with the news that I had to tone something down  becuase the magazine couldn’t run  my story because the celebrity might get upset or that they would be appearing on the cover and the magazine  wouldn’t want to ruin their relationship with that particular celebrity , who may in turn. cancel out on appearing on the cover. That was surprising and very disappointing news for me to hear. As a journalist, I was trained to report in what ” IS” not what you “WANT the story to be.”

Today I was asked to comment on another story for a popular online publication who also shares my view of keeping it real and not spinning things. So I  openly gave them my observations  on a  celebrity couple’s body language. In the past whenever they asked me for a body language analysis, if I found nothing of significance, they would eliminate the potential the story and not try to manufacture it. This is something I both appreciate and respect.

I will never compromise my integrity and professional reputation for any price in the world. Nothing means more to me than telling the truth and presenting things as they are.Whenever I lend my name to a body language analysis, rest assured that it has been given careful thought and complete scrutiny.

 

 

 

 

 

Heather Mack Cocky, Entitled, Diva Body Language After 10 Year Sentence for Mother’s Murder

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Heather Mack,the troubled and entitled Chicago teen who constantly fought with her mother to the point that police were called countless times. She was taken on a  vacation to Bali by her wealthy socialite mother, Sheila von Wies Mack in order for the two to to bond and spend quality time together. But rebellious Heather wanted no part of it, So she invited her boyfriend Tommy Schaefer to join them in Bali, much to her mothers dislike.

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When checkout time came around, Sheila refused to pay for the boyfriends hotel bill which angered him. Angrily, he  hit her with an object, killing, dismembering her body and stuffing it into a suitcase. Pregnant  Heather and her boyfriend then  fled to a nearby resort and planned to board a plane the next day for the US but they were caught and taken to jail. In jail Heather gave birth to a baby girl. The couple has finally been sentenced- Heather for 10 years and her boyfriend for 18 years.

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Heather showed no remorse for her mothers death and celebrated by guzzling smuggled in alcohol from a plastic bag. As you can see from her actions and body language she is loving her life in Kerabokan Prison in Indonesia. She is acting like a star and loving the attention lavished upon her by the press.

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She mugs for the camera and jokes with the press and calls them by name- Ari, Osha, etc. She beckons them to come closer to her cell to get a better photo and even scolds them for publishing what she considers unattractive photos of herself in the press.She mugs for them as you can see in the above photo.

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Her biggest complaint about the sentencing was that her boyfiend will have to be in prison for 8 more years when she is released and she is not happy about that. In fact, she calls it unfair. She says that he daughter needs to have her father around when she is a young girl and is upset about that. She is clearly more upset about that than she is about her mother being  dead and gone forever.

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Meanwhile, Tommy’s body language after his sentencing of 18 years was revealead by his gestures in  angrily swatting away reporters and in shooting them an obscene gesture with his middle finger. His anger is also revealed in his tight muscles around his lips and in his biting his lower lip.

In reality,  these two spoiled and entitled creatures have nothing to be angry about. They should both be jumping for joy. If their crime would have happened in the US they would have received life or the death sentence. They also could have received a death sentence by firing squad in Indonesia but their lives were spared according to the press because they were the parents of a newborn baby.

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At first it was reported that Heather was awkward with the baby but now motherhood has kicked in and her  maternal instincts seem to have taken over. She appears to be affectionate towards the infant as she comforts the baby is often seen rocking it. Maybe this is the silver lining that has come out of such a dark situation. According to  Kerobokan prison officials,  she will be allowed to keep the baby with her for a period of six months. After that the baby will be with relatives. The only hting is that there are no relatives on her side, so perhaps Tommy’s parents will care for the baby. On the other hand, perhaps a kindly Indonesian family will take care of the baby and bring the baby to see her mother for regular visits. Heather could certianly afford to do this as she inherited the millions of dollars left by her now deceased parents.

Since Heather has money, life in Kerobokan prison will be easy for her. Instead of the traditional squat toilet she will be able to have a western style sit down toilet.  She will be able to order in food from the outside and will receive top dental and medical care. She will have her own quarters with clean linens and will be allowed to freely roam the premises at her liesure . She can watch all the TV she likes and see the latest DVD’s which are regularly brought in by volunteer workers.  If she wants to do so, she can get a college education via correspondence course, If she was smart, she should look into that so when she comes out of prison in 10 years she could begin a  new life with a new  set of skills due to her education. She will be able to have a cell phone and use the computer to her heart’s desire.

Tommy may have it even better  than Heather in prison as he too will have all of these things in Kerobokan Prison but he will have tennis courts and tennis matches where he can participate. He can help raise dogs in the prisoner assistance dog program they have, he can continue his education as he too as complete access to computers and cell phones. He and header can speaker 24 7 id they like. They can video chat and text one another at will.

Since the emphasis at the prison is rehabilitation, they have sewing, silversmithing,reflexology, and Norwegian philosophy classes, and  hairdressing and barber skill training. They can also continue with a formal education at any University of their choosing that offers an online degree or a correspondence type of program. They can also get all of the psychological counseling they want as there is regular counseling by visiting psychologists. So Heather an work out her mother and her mental issues, while Tommy can work out his anger issues.

The whole situation is so terribly sad.  At 62, Shelia von Wies Mack is dead after close to two decades of struggling with her very difficult daughter. May she now rest in peace and may Heather treat her own daughter a lot better than she treated her mother.

Dylan Farrow’s Body Language In Child Photos Show Same Discomfort With Woody Allen As Daughters With Soon Yi

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After several decades,  Dylan Farrow, now an adult and a mother, has publicly addressed what she alleges happened to her when she was a young child- that Woody sexually molested her in an attic.  Many people have shown sympathy and compassion towards Dylan and have called her” brave” for coming forward, including Girls producer, Laura Dunn. Most celebrities have remained mum on the subject ( just in case they may be offered a part in a  future Woody film). Even the hot -headed, non- filtered Alex Baldwin said he would not dare involve himself in a family’s personal tragedy. That was smart and well said. It is indeed a personal family tragedy and only two people know for sure what happened in the attic or out of the attic for that matter- Dylan Farrow and Woody Allen.

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So after six decades in the media, why would veteran TV host Barbara Walters stick her neck out to defend Woody? On the View she said she didn’t believe the allegations because she knows Woody personally and spent time with him and Soon Yi and they have a good marriage and everything is fine with their two girls, who have a great relationship with Woody.”   In the first place, she doesn’t spend every moment with the couple, so she has no idea what kind of a marriage they have. After observing countless photos of Woody and Soon Yi my observation is that she is the submissive on in the relationship based on her body language. She is usually seen in in back of him or in front of him, never side by side.

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One party should never usually seen on back or in front of another. In my view that is not a sign of a good marriage as I define it.

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Happy couples  should al be smiling when they are together and that isn’t usually the case when Woody and Soon Yi are photographed together.

Image in my View, the reason  Barbara Walters  stuck  her nose into this land mine of a situation and stood up for Woody so publicly is simple. She wants a “get”. A “get” in journalism terms is that special interview that can make your career. In Walter’s case, she will be retiring soon, so what better way to leave an illustrious career than with a Woody Allen “get ” and high ratings. Who wouldn’t want to hear what Woody himself has to say. So if she makes nice nice to him on the air, he will feel comfortable having her interview him as he will feel he has an ally during the difficult interview process.

I don’t claim to know if Woody is telling the truth as he denied Dylan’s claims through a spokesperson. That does NOT add to his credibility in  my view. A person who has been so maligned needs to speak up for themselves in my view and  passionately shout their innocence from the highest media mountains.

There was another supporter of Woody who in an article in the Daily Beast warned everyone to not jump to conclusions as he made a case for Woody by essentially blaming Mia Farrow for instigating all of this and for being a “woman scorned. ” That appalled me.  He said that Mia can never forgive Woody for leaving her and for being with Soon Yi.

Well whether you are a man or a woman, being with the daughter of your girlfriend or boyfriend  is not right under any circumstances. Worse is that Mia found naked photos of Soon Yi on Woody’s mantle. This  means they were having an affair right under her nose. The author then  rationalizes that these were two consenting adults.

This is the ugliest betrayal. Soon Yi was a sheltered child, even if she was 19.  She was not worldly, having traveled independently around the world.  She apparently did not have lot of friends and wasn’t living on her own. In fact, Ronan Farrow, Soon Yi’s brother described her as troubled. If that is the case, then it  seems logical to say that Woody may have very well taken advantage of  troubled girl as many believe.

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And when the author  further rationalizes that Woody was technically not her father or a father figure and that Andre Previn was her father, he is living in an illusion as far as I am concerned. Here is a reality check. Any adult that is dating your mother and any adult that is in your life everyday, whether they share the same  apartment with you or not, takes on the role of some type of parent figure. Woody  was not  a peer. He was decades older than her and knew perfectly well what she was doing. Even if she was the instigator, he needed to put a stop to his.  The least he could have done was broken up with Mia and waited a while to date soon Yi instead of doing it behind Mia’s back or under her nose.

So who would’t feel  scorned  and betrayed if the person whom you loved and spent all of your time  and whom you considered A  major part of your family, even posing for family shots if you found naked pictures of your child – adopted or not, in their house. That in my view is one of the the most Toxic things that could happen to a person and is unforgivable no matter how much time has passed.

Below are photos of Dylan Farrow as a child. She does NOT look happy or very comfortable around Woody as you can see.

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This is not the photo of a smiling and  happy child.

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She looks miserable in this photo which her upset knitted brow.

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Here the little girl shows her hands positioned in a fist-like claw position which means she is not happy. The expression on her face also reflects her unhappiness.

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This does NOT look like a little girl who is happy being in the arms of her father. As he leans towards her, she is seen with  and upset furrowed brow.

Practically every photo that I looked at of Dylan and Woody together showed me the same thing. Woody had a very unhappy unresponsive disconnected child around him.

Now I don’ t know if he did or did not molest her during these years or any years for that matter, but I can tell you she did not seem to be too thrilled whenever she was around him as a child.

Now you may ask what about his relationship with the daughters in his new family? To me they too don’t seem happy around Woody or connected to him either.

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In an earlier photo of Woody and  daughters from his new family with Soon Yi,  the daughter  on the left seems to be pulling away from him while the one in back trails behind.

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As they got older and he tried some PDA , his daughters were not reciprocating. Look at the feet of both daughters. Both of their heels are off the ground. That means that they can’t wait to gets way from him. The doughtier on the left, Manzi has her hand between her and Woody and hand in an angry fist like posture in order to keep her distance from him and block him. The daughter on the right, Bechet, has her arms crossed in front of her to block Woody’s clearly unwanted affection. Her jaw looks tense and she is not happy.

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Now we can really see doughtier  Bechet on the right’s angry expression. She cannot stand being hugged by Woody here. Both of her heels are off the ground which means she wants to rum a away. She wants to leave his awkward embrace as she clearly feels very uncomfortable. Manzi, the other daughter has her shoulder up which is literally giving the “cold shoulder” to Woody’s unwanted  embrace.

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Look at t how Bechet completely turns her back on her dad. What was interesting is that she turned her back on her dada just as soon as the subject of Dylan’s letter was mentioned by the TMZ reporter. That struck me as very odd behavior.

 

Zimmerman Interview With Sean Hannity Would Have Given Jurors More Insight

We have come to find out from the juror who wanted to write a book and who appeared on Anderson Cooper in shadow so her identity would not be revealed that the initial vote for the jurors was one for second degree, two for manslaughter and 3 for not guilty. She said that as they understood the guidelines they were under based on their instructions, they all felt that Zimmerman killed out of self defense.

Today I was sent an article where I was quoted about Zimmerman a year ago after he appeared on the Sean Hannity Show. As I read what I said back then, I couldn’t help but think that if the jurors saw the same thing I saw on Hannity they may have had more information before they came to their conclusion. The thing that struck me the most during Hannity’s interview was that Zimmerman’s body language, facial language, vocal and speech patterns did not reflect that he showed remorse. 

Before you read what I wrote , it is important to understand that as a behavioral analyst and body language expert, I do not put my bias into my analyses. All I do is report what I see and make an interpretation based on body language, facial language, vocal, and speech cues. 

Here is what I observed  on the Sean Hannity Show back in July of 2012 in an interview I did with journalist Marcus Singletary

The Zimmerman affair: two fallacies and a conversation with Dr. Lillian Glass

George Zimmerman smiling after a 'not guilty' verdict is handed down.
George Zimmerman smiling after a ‘not guilty’ verdict is handed down.
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2. Zimmerman’s interview with Sean Hannity was more important than anyone involved was inclined to admit.

On July 19, 2012 (yes, I resisted publishing it until now), Dr. Lillian Glass – a noted Cosmopolitan Magazine columnist and body language expert – said of Zimmerman’s demeanor on the national stage:

Now that I have had time to really digest it, there is a lot that is highly disturbing. He is forthright in his answers – and shows no remorse, which is a bad thing.

When Sean asks if he regrets getting out of the car and following Trayvon, he says he doesn’t, and then there is a pursing of his mouth that indicates anger towards Trayvon. Then he is asked if he regrets having a gun that night and he matter of factly – with no emotion – says ‘no.’ Then, he invokes that it was ‘God’s Will’ in a robotic way devoid of emotion. It shows a man who has no sorrow for what he did.

When he turns to the camera to speak, it is highly inappropriate, and shows that this is all contrived and done for a purpose. He says he wishes that it wouldn’t have put HIM in a bad position; It is all about HIM. A jury seeing this will dislike Zimmerman very much, because he shows no compassion or humanity. He is telling the truth that he feels no remorse for taking another life. He even smiles smugly when he talks about not making racist remarks.

He also contradicts himself. First, he says it is ‘God’s Will,’ and then he says later that when he shot Trayvon, he didn’t think he hit him. A jury will pick this up as well.

He then says he is sorry they buried their child, and then it goes back to HIM as he says I can’t imagine what it must feel like. He again shows no empathy. When he says, ‘I pray for them daily,’ he purses his lips and swallows. He says it in a monotone devoid of emotion. The pursing of the lips and swallows may be a signal of deception that one may wonder if he is praying for himself daily and not Trayvon’s family.

In essence, Zimmerman is telling the truth that he has no regrets about getting out of the car pursuing Travyon and shooting him, and the only regret is that it put him in a bad position.

In court, Judge Debra Nelson deflected, ‘Certain portions of the defendant’s interview…have been excised or redacted based upon legal determinations made by the court. The parts excised or redacted are not relevant and you are not to concern yourselves with why this occurred’ and, as a result, attorney Remi Spencer pointed out, ‘The state…sort of [threw] their arms up in the air and [said], ladies and gentlemen of the jury, you decide…As if, perhaps, they didn’t even want to bring this case to the courtroom in the first place’ (FOX, July 2, 2013; (Orlando Sentinel, July 14, 2013.)

I believe Dr. Glass when she calls Zimmerman’s character into question, and now you are also aware of why anyone with predispositions to Zimmerman’s claims would want to push the true, case-defining issues aside. Sure, Zimmerman won, but experts are telling you that he deceived the American public and was supported by the nation’s criminal justice system in doing so.

 

 
 

Jodi Arias Worst Punishment Isolation Not Life or Death With Her Narcissistic and Entitled Personality

 

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There appears to be a great deal of upset with jurors in the Jodi Arias case for not coming to a conclusion as to wether she lives or dies. While there appears to be somewhat of a gladiator mindset with those who are not on the jury championing life, while others champion death for Jodi, these two options will not have as much impact on Jodi as being isolated and away from other human beings will have more of a punishing effect on her based on her personality type.

Her not having mountains of mail to keep her busy and occupied, her not making daily calls to her friend to tweet for her, her only being allowed two books every two weeks if she is lucky, her lack of having access to a pen or writing  or drawing materials, will be devastating enough to her psyche. 

But even more devastating will be her lack of contact with others both on the outside and on the inside of her prison life. For someone who thrives on attention, manipulation, and for someone who feels so entitled who needs to be in control, the mere essence of who she is will no doubt  be destroyed.

While it was recently  appalling to see Jodi control and micromanage the media and the reporters who sniveled  at her feet just to get her to talk in an interview, we gained a great deal of insight as to who she is and how she thinks. She clearly intimidated almost every single reporter who spoke to her, She was the one in control. She loved it. She demanded that they only film her above the waist without her jailhouse stipes and pink socks and shackles showing. She insisted that she apply makeup and lipgloss and not be filmed doing those things or combing or fluffing up her hair. 

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The ONLY reporter with any guts and professionalism was ABC’s Ryan Owen who shot video of her in her jail garb and asked real hard hitting questions instead of those meaningless namby pamby candy coated questions his colleagues asked.

In doing so, Ryan’s questions brought out another side of  REAL Jodi as she exposed the flash of hate and anger that Travis Alexander may have seen right before he was so brutally attacked and massacred.

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Gone was Jodi’s sickening sweet melifluous tone. Gone was Jodi’s plastered fake smile. Now her eyes opened wide in anger, her  jaw dropped,  her head jerked back as she was literally taken aback by Ryan Owen’s direct non nonsense not sugar coated approached. She retaliated by calling him a “hater.”

With the exception of Ryan Owen’s interview Jodi LOVED LOVED LOVED all of the attention. She LOVED bossing all the media around and setting up her rules and regulations . She LOVED asserting her control over them. But the one time she couldn’t control like we saw in her reaction with Ryan owen, she fought back and fought as hard as she could under the circumstances by calling him a “Hater”.

When Jodi did not get her way, she fought. That is what happened with Travis. She wanted to control Travis and have him marry her. She did all she could to make that happen from accompanying him on trips to ironically fulfill his “1000 places to see before you die”  goal, converting to Mormonism for him, and  indulging him in his sex fantasies and sex play. She thought she could easily control him with sex and eventually wear him down and have him succumb to her greatest  desire which was to be his wife.

So when she completely lost control, that rage and anger  of which we saw a glimpse in Ryan Owen’s interview, no doubt surfaced and all the anger of  this “sickeningly sweet  silent  but deadly erupting volcano”  came boiling up to the surface and exploded. AS a result of her built up rage, she ended up stabbing Travis 27 times and shooting him. 

She thought she could control and manipulate Travis  with some great sex and that they would be back together as a couple. But that was not the case. Instead, he gladly enjoyed the sex  with her, but then told her he was taking another girl  on a trip to Mexico.

It was all too much for Jodi to hear. She lost control so did the only thing she could to gain back her control – literally destroying Travis three times over. Her intention in driving all those miles was to see if she could control Travis, one last time. if not, she was prepared to make sure no one else had Travis if she couldn’t have him.

The jury forman in his interview made some disparaging remarks about Travis. He said he believed  Travis had emotionally and mentally abused Jodi.  Travis was certainly  no angel. The jury forman was right in his assessment that Travis  did emotionally abuse her by continuing to have sex with her while he had no intention of marrying her and while dating other women in order to seek out a wife. This diminished  Jodi’s ego and sense of self to the point  that her built up anger overcame her and that she felt she had no choice other than to literally destroy Travis.

Jodi’s personality is such that when she cannot control something or someone she lashes out and destroys and that is what she did to Travis. 

There is a very enlightening You tube video called “Jodi Arias Rose Colored Glasses” by a former prison deputy Warden in the  Arizona Prison system. named Carl ToersBijns

He states that Jodi will have absolutely NO CONTROL whatsoever in the prison system to start reading, language, recycling and hair donation programs like she told the jurors. She said in his video that the physical conditions alone in the Perryville prison are so harsh that many inmates die or commit suicide. He reports that Jodi will have no contact at all with others and will be looking at four walls 23 hours a day with no letters or books to keep her mind occupied.  

Based on the deputy warden’s video, Jodi will be facing isolation with no human contact  for at least at least five years before she will be allowed with others. That is only of she shows good behavior. But as the deputy warden says, many find the intense heat and the extreme isolation too much to take so they often kill themselves. 

When Jodi realizes that there is no inmate contact, that no one set her straight about her not being able to start prison  reading or language programs,that she won’t be able to draw or color, that she won’t be in the general population for at least five years,  that she can only read 2 books a month only if the staff has time to take her to the library, that all  her mail will not be delivered, that she has NO CONTROL over anything, it may be too much for her to bear and she may welcome death as so many prisoners do.

If she gets life, these conditions will be immensely unbearable for her personality type. Even if she happens to make it to the point that she will see other prisoners after her five years of isolation, she will be such a mental mess that she will not be able to endure the taunting that the Deputy Warden talks about in his video. If she displays that arrogant,”I am a celebrity”  or “I am better than you” attitude, uses her big worded vocabulary to show off, speaks in her precise, hyper-articulate, staccato unnatural tone,  or shows any sense entitlement she may be beaten up so severely  or even  killed by other prisoners. 

This time around,  with the new jury deciding whether she lives or dies, Jodi’s lawyers  may want to give her a reality check and tell her there are no prison programs in Perryville she can control or start up. They may want to do the right thing by her even though they can’t  stand her and have her  put her narcissistic desire for attention on the back burner and shut up .

Pleading for her life may have been Jodi’s biggest mistake. It made the jury think twice about her fate, especially when she provided them with more BS about what she would do in a maximum security system.

Based on what we now know will be the conditions she will fave in Perryville, she needs to plead death or keep her mouth shut and let the jury decide without her influence.  But  that won’t be possible as her desire for control and  center stage is too great.

Here is the link to the former  Deputy Warden’s analysis of what life will be like for Jodi Arias. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YJTBLd-72fg

Jodi Arias Body Language As Mistrial Declared Shows Shock, Hurt, Relief, and Frustration

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As Jodi Arias is about to learn her fate as to  whether she was to  live or die it is essential to note how  she is dressed and how she  has  arranged her hair. With the exception of her pony tail, her hair do was similar  her court  minder who sat by her side whenever her attorneys left the defense  table for a sidebar  with the Judge.  Jodi copied the woman’s style with her hair in back of her ears  wearing bangs in front. Gone are the phony librarian glasses we saw throughout the trial.

Her copying this woman’s  style once again shows evidence of Jodi’s adhesive personality, whereby she takes on the likes or identity or style of others. With her own attorney,  Jennifer Wilmott  (when they were on better terms) you would see Jodi wearing similar colors and styles to her female attorney. She even took on  Ms. Wilmott’s posture and demeanor as she perused documents and took notes. She did the same thing with collapsing Travis’ identity with his Mormon faith as part of her own. She even remarked that the reason she smiled for her mug shot was because she thought “that’s what Travis would do.”

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When she finds out that there is a hung jury and that there will be a mistrial she immediately shuts her eyes as if to process what she just heard.

Screen Shot 2013-05-24 at 9.17.02 AMThen you continue to see her processing the information while her attorney Jennifer Wilmott begins to show visible signs of surprise and anger based on her facial tension and tension around her eyes.

Screen Shot 2013-05-24 at 9.17.18 AMNow Jodi  begins to show signs of upset as she processed that the jury  did not give her life which she believed that they would, but instead sent her a clear message  that they couldn’t decide whether she should live or dies. She looks hurt due to the fact that there were some members of the jury who could even think about putting her to death.

Screen Shot 2013-05-24 at 9.18.49 AMNow we see that she is not only surprised but beginning to get upset with the findings because it means there were some jury members who didn’t believe her claim about being abused and killing in self defense. She also begins to realize that she will have to do her little ” and dance  act” all over again. It is as though she is nonverbally saying “Oh my God not again.”

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She doesn’t release her hand from her face as now it is  a form of self comforting and self support as she sadly listens to each juror speak . There is an expression of hurt as she hears each juror speak the same words and no doubt feels “betrayed ” by them. She spoke of feeling betrayed by them in the ABC interview. Now we see the visible physical facial expressions reflecting her perceived betrayal. Her  shoulders are rounded as she appears defeated.

Screen Shot 2013-05-24 at 9.19.58 AMShe cannot move her hand from the side of her face as she continues to listen to the jurors.  There is a lot of facial tension around her lower jaw as she looks as though she is emotionally hurt and as though she could cry any second. Her potential tears are clearly due to he feeling that the jury did her wrong.

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Her hand moves over her mouth indicating that she is literally “speechless” at what is happening. The tension around her eyes have relaxed more as she realizes that this may not be such a bad thing. She doesn’t have to go to death row now and be in isolation for the rest of her life. Now she has more time before she leaves the jail and heads to prison. Most of all she’ll remain in the limelight for a lot longer with all the attention paid to her, thus feeding her insatiable narcissism.

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She scratches  and presses down on her midface region, nasal bridge, and inner portion of her closed eyelids  as a  way of releasing the pent up emotional pressure. It is a signal of relief. She is relieved she wasn’t sentenced to death (at least not yet).

Screen Shot 2013-05-24 at 9.18.30 AMBut for the Alexander family, not seeing her sentenced to death for what she did to their brother was devastating as his sister immediately broke down in sobs.

Screen Shot 2013-05-24 at 9.19.30 AMThe same was true for his other sisters,  while  both his his brother and brother in law showed visible signs of anger with clenched jaws and furrowed brows.  For them it was as though al this effort to seek justice for their brother who had his throat slit and who was killed so shockingly by Jodi,  was done for nothing. Apparently some of the jurors mouthed the words “I’m sorry”” to this distraught family.But to the Alexander family, these were empty words. They were the ones that were sorry that they weren’t in the courtroom seeing Jodi sentenced to die.

To the family, there is only one logical conclusion and that is death for Jodi. But that was not the case with the jurors. The lack of  the Alexander’s family wish for a  death sentence and now their  lack of closure will have severe emotional repercussions on this family until they  return to the courtroom and once again in July to still see  their brother’s monster murderess.

Following this hung jury’s dismissal from the courtroom, the Jury Forman  William Zervakos spoke to the press. He  said that  be believed Travis Alexander verbally and emotionally abused Jodi Arias. That is a shock to many who did not believe this to be the case. No doubt other jurors fell for this  line fo thinking. Otherwise they would have all  quickly agreed that she deserved to die by lethal needle.

The judge showed frustration with the jury as she read that it was a mistrial as reflected by her letting out a huge burst of air, resulting in a huge sigh before she spoke , which is a clear signal of frustration and exasperation  on her part. . There is no doubt that this trial took it’s toll on her too, since  she always had to be on her toes throughout the trial to make sure a mistrial would not be the result of anything she did. This must have been extremely  taxing on her psyche .

Now there will be  a new group of jurors to assist in deciding Jodi’s fate. For the next 2 1/2/ months, Jodi will sit in a cell 23 hours a day and do no media. This may be her worst punishment yet.