Michelle Obama Body Language Shows She’s Disgusted By Saudis and Lack of Head Scarf Makes A Loud Statement
January 28, 2015

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Michelle Obama’s body language clearly shows that she is no fan of the Saudis. For one, she refused to wear a head scarf during the visit. This apparently upset Saudi’s and other Muslims throughout the world as was reported in the press. While one could think that she may have made a mistake or breached social protocol because she wasn’t aware of the customs this was clearly not the case.  .

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In 2010 when she visited Indonesia, she respectfully donned a head  scarf for her visit. So she clearly knows the rules and the drill in Muslim countries. But this time she decided that she didn’t want to show respect for the Saudi’s as she went bare headed.Screen Shot 2015-01-27 at 7.26.39 PMWhile she may consider herself very special  on American soil where she gets a lot of attention,  on Saudi land hardly anyone  shook her hand or even spoke to her.  This clearly disturbed her as you can see from her soured look and her angrily grabbing on to her own wrist with a fist-like handf. This clealrly showed that Michelle was angry.

Screen Shot 2015-01-27 at 7.26.12 PMShe hated being in the  background  in this very patriarchal society and detested  not acknowledged. Here we see her looking at her husband getting all the attention while she is essentially ignored.

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Her angry faced expressions continued throughout the visit as she could not hide her contempt.

Screen Shot 2015-01-27 at 7.17.27 PMShe was clearly upset and angry as you can see by the protrusion of her lower jaw and her forcefully bracing herself by pressing her one hand over the other in front of her private area. What this pose says is that she is not only angry but feeling extremely vulnerable in this country where women don’t seem to matter – not even a visiting First Lady from the United States of America.

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Her angry and disgusted looks continued throughout the visit as you can see. On the one hand, as a Western woman who can blame Michelle for her feelings where women are not allowed to drive, have no independence and need the permission of a male relative (husband, grandfather, father,  uncle, brother, or son) to do anything. There is no such thing as women walking alone  on the street at their own free will. Women can only go to women doctors and study in classes where there are only women.Women have little or no value except to marry and have children. If their husband wants to take multiple wives, they have no say. They also cannot initiate a divorce and their husband. However their husband can get rid of them just by uttering that they are divorcing their wife. There is no such thing as alimony and if the husband is Toxic or heartless he can render her homeless and penniless.

But from the view of being First Lady and accompanying her husband on a good will trip to meet and greet and the new King Solomon, many believe Michelle did not act correctly. They believe that she should have donned a head scarf and should not have worn pants but a long dress instead. This visit was not about Michele, It was about trying to make friends with the new leader. Clearly, there was no winning friends or influencing anyone via Michelle’s actions. In fact many took this as a personal insult or slap in the face.

From my view I believe that one must respect the cultures of others when you are on their territory. I myself have even donned a head scarf when I have lectured in certain countries where the head scarf was expected to be worn by women. Even though I was a Westerner I thought it was more respectful if I wore one and it was very well received and much appreciated. It showed that I respected their culture.

Michelle’s body language can be translated  by many as reported in the  press as to her being defiant and arrogant. There was no question that she was angry and disgusted. There was also no question that her presence and actions were not very diplomatic.

No Surprise Bachelorette Andi Dorfman and Josh Murray Broke Up As Body Language Showed Relationship Problems Early On
January 9, 2015

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It is no surprise to me that Andi Dorfman and Josh Murray ended their romance as I detected problems months ago as Iexamined their body language.

Before the Final Rose, I did a blog predicting that Andi Dorfman would choose Josh Murray over all of the other contestants and it turned out to be the case. At the same time I predicted that if Andi wasn’t treated  like a priority and a star in the  relationship, there would be trouble . Based on their body language after looking at their twitter and instagram photos,, there seemed to be  trouble with their relationship which seemed to  begin right after the post Bachelorette interviews as you will see.

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It began in the above photo when they were both in NYC and Josh was continually seen walking in front of her and not by her side or having her out front. After all she was the star of the show and didn’t need to be dragged behind. It was disrespectful and screamed of Josh wanting to take control.

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During the interviews it was as though Josh acted as though he was the star of the  Bachelor  and not the other way around with Adni being the star He constantly  kept interrupting her and stepping on what she was trying to say. He constantly kept trying to dominate  the conversation and this did not go over well with Andi.

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Andi was so annoyed by this that she even reached out to touch him as a signal for him to be quiet and let her speak.  She tried several times to be out front in center but he would not let her.

There was also a  below video which literally made my skin crawl where Josh tried to take over. It was uncomfortable to watch as you can see. He tried to dominate . A competition  between a couple never works in a relationship as you can see in the video below.

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Also Josh was visibly annoyed when interviewers would bring up Nick Vial outing Andy for sleeping with him when she was going to choose Josh. Josh was literally squirming in his seat  through a phony tense smile when this topic came up. In one interview you could see him smile as she reached for a glass of water and sipped it, indicating that his autonomic nervous system was working overtime. Deep down he most likely was distressed about this. Adding to his distress and to why he may be so distant, which may be the underlying reason for tension in their relationship  is the public’s commentary in slut shaming his fiance.

The whole Nick outing of Andi needed to be handed differently. Andi needed to have put an immediate stop to the fallout of Nick outing her for sleeping with him by saying on these interviews that a.she really didn’t know it was Josh until the last minute because she still had some concerns b. when she said during the proposal show that she always knew it was Josh all along. She needed to say she was caught up in the moment and excitement of the ring ceremony. She needed to explain that what she meant to say was that she was super attracted to Josh as he was her physical type the second she saw him. People would understand that.

Since Nick  gave Andi such a zing on TV  in hindsight , she could have done several things instead of saying it was private. She could have lied and said” what are you talking about, I never slept with you. How can you lie like that?” This woud have put Nick in his place. She also could have said that she thought he might be the one until that night when she found no sexual chemistry with him.That too would have put him in his place.

But Andi was understandably taken aback, so it was difficult to come back quickly.

As for Nick, there is no question that he is a Toxic and evil and revengeful man who literally  punished and destroyed Andi for not selecting him. He  helped  destroy the beginnings of a future with Josh. I say” helped” because Josh it seems can’t get past this and has detached as you will see in the photos below. Nick destroyed Andi’s reputation and career opportunities. Perhaps the reason DWTS didn’t choose her was because of all of the slut shaming and negative fallout and reaction to her  from what he revealed to millions of viewers.

This is a shame becuase DWTS could have added to Andi’s fan base and her career outside of law as a possible show host ( a legal show host specifically).

While Nick may have contributed to the possible destruction of Josh and Andi’s  relationship, there were other things in force since day one. Andii and Josh  may have been a physical match and looked cute together, but they were no mental match. Andi is super bright and after a while his inability to mentally stimulate her could grate on her nerves. Since he is such a competitive guy, no doubt there may have been competition with Andi to put her in her place and show he is the boss and to attempt to control her as he demonstated in several interviews. Andi does not need to take a backseat to anyone.

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The next major red flag concern was Josh’s family and his mother telling her in no uncertain terms that Josh was never going to cut the apron strings. No woman wants to hear that. Perhaps that is why we see Andi not looking so thrtilled in photos when she has to attend Aaron;s games.

My initial concern about the relationship took place when I saw the visit to Josh’s family, especially when Josh’s mother Lauren spoke of Josh never cutting the apron strings with her. Afterwards Andi’s facial expression said it all as it did when Josh’s father told her let her know that Arron and family football games were a priority. Even Andi expressed concerns that the family wasn’t as happy for Josh finding love as they were about Aaron’s football career.

The next huge red flag  issue which I saw during the family visit was that  the family didn’t see the specialness of Andi and in stead were more interested in their favorite son Aaron and his newly engaged mate. Andi seemed to be an afterthought to Josh’s mom. Josh is also a self described  mamma’s boy and that never works in a successful relationship


Screen Shot 2014-09-15 at 5.52.59 AMAbove is Josh showing off and taking the limelight which I am sure Andi found annoying after a while. Andi is the star and Josh did not allow her to shine in my view.

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Screen Shot 2014-09-08 at 9.01.06 PM Josh’s mother seemed more thrilled that Arron got engaged in my view. While she did put a photo of Josh and Andi up  on her page she didn’t seem as thrilled about it. Also you can see here how stiff and uncomfortable Andi looked around Josh. There was also too much distance between them as they both seemed t be repelled by one another. Screen Shot 2014-09-08 at 9.02.06 PM Josh seemed to give the dog more attention and affection  than Andi. Amdi was a trouper and tried to embrace the dog. Once again there is too much distance and not enough affection between Josh and Andii.Screen Shot 2014-09-15 at 6.22.18 AM Andi looks miserable with Josh and his sister. Look at her smile it is pained and not genuine as the apples of her cheeks are not raised and her eyes don’t squint in  a genuine smile. Also she needed to be standing next to Josh not the sister. Joshn’s hand in his pocket to me indicates he has something to hide-like his true negative feelings towards Andi.Screen Shot 2014-09-15 at 6.18.04 AMHere we see too much distance between the couple and a very non genuine tight smile with Andi.
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And finally by the time Thanksgiving rolled around it was clearly over as you can see by Andi’s body language.Too much distance between Josh and Andi and a sour expression on Andi’s face, Her arm i over the chair and Andi looks stiff and uncomfortable  around Josh.

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This photo says it all with Andi all the way at the end while Josh hugs mama and sister . How can any woman compete with that?    It shows that Andi was not as importanta s Josh’s family.                                                              

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  Slut Shaming In Media

Because this wasn’t addressed  immediately, Andi  was slut shamed and called the most promiscuous bachelorette. Even one journalist actually called her a slut on Fox TV. Unfortunately I believe this had a very negative impact on her relationship with Josh because he appears to be to insecure to handle this and may feel it reflected poorly on him. And unfortunately it may also have a negative impact on her brand and her credibility and her career in the limelight .If she was a bimbo like Kim Kardashian or Paris Hilton it would not matter. But she is a formidable professional  woman and it does matter. I will adress what she needs to do to rectify the situation later on in this blog.

This must have had an impact on their relationship. But during the interviews I saw Josh trying to be in charge and become center stage. Truth is Andi is the star and he did not let her speak. He needed to take more of a backseat publicaly.

I also predicted that there would be problems in the relationship if Andi wasn’t treated as a priority. Andi has been a star all her life -in school and in her family and with her friends. For her to be in a relationship where she is not the star, but rather takes a backseat was no doubt in my view, torture for her. She needs to be front and center where things revolve around her- not Josh or his family. She is very special with star quality and a man needs to recognize that.

At first they couldn’t get enough of one another and were all physically entwined  in one another but it qucikly changed as Josh revealed his true competitive personality towards her.

Andi is  certainly the brighter of the two and the “star” of the relationship as I see it. Josh needed to both understand that and respect that for it to work.

Now that they broke up, Andi lost  the million dollars she would have  received from ABC if they had the  the lavish wedding, But she may be saving herself in the long run.Josh had no life before Andi came into the picture. Although he may have been  in the finance business  to me it didn’t seem he was that successful To me he just seemed like a companion and cheerleader to his brother Aaron.  He wasa  failed baseball player who never made it to the major leagues. Now we have come to find out that he was in trouble with the law in 2008 and arrested  in a booze fueled faceoff with a police office To me this shows that Josh may have had or still even has  issues perhaps with authority as well as anger issues and maybe even possible alcohol issues. Regardless, this does not look good in my book. The last thing Andi needed in her career asa DA was to have a husband who had problems with the law. It would not bode well for her.

In my view, Andi’s choosing him as a potential mate, gave him a career and made it possible for the management company to be interested in him. Prior to their meeting he had nothing of that nature and no one was interested in him.  Now that they have broken up, his brand most likely will not be as strong and he may not get the gigs he thought he could get becuase they are no longer a couple. In my view most people will now lose interest.  That  happens when the real l brand is over which was Josh and Andi.

But even if his own brand dies which it will he had now has some experience with how it all works so he could change his course and become his bothers manager and try to get him endorsements since Aaron is a bonafide football star and may have more public likeability. In my view how Josh treated Andy during their interviews and publically shows that he is not likeable  and has an edge about him that is not appealing to the masses in my view.

If I seem harsh about Josh it is because if he was smart he would have shown more  respect for Andi and allowed her to shime as he was the star of the show and he forgot that. It seemed to be too much about Josh and his needs and not about both of their needs as a couple.

                                   ReinVenting Andi’s Image – What Andi Needs to Do to Save Her Career 

Now that they broke up, Andi needs some major PR to  clean up her brand and her reputation. In essence, she needs to reinvent herself.

1. She needs to take some of that Bachelorette ]money and invest in a top gear  PR agent. Maybe she can also revisit  the Nick  issue and make it clear that he was not a gentleman but she slept with him because she had serious doubts about Josh after she met Josh’s over controlling family. She needs to say how Josh’s family upset her and how that was a factor that she considered which confused her and drew her to Nick as she loved his family. She needs to have a PR campaign about Double Standards in women  and slut shaming and bullying women and address women’s sexuality in her media  pr campaign in order to regain her reputation.

2. She needs to also talk about how when one is considering marriage they marry a family and  hoew Joshs Jock family was too invasive and not for her. She needs to make women aware that a family is just as important as the relationship. She needs to say how she couldn’t take a life of football games and everything revolving around Josh’s brother Aaron. She also needs to speak about losing herself in the relationship and how ultimately the family’s life style was not for her. She needs to admit how she and Josh could never build a family of their own with all of these outside family pressures and influences.

3.   Andi needs to drop the dress desiinging and clothing design career. The tee shirt she  It may be good as a hobby but  there are too many other designers out there who are much more talented  for her to succeed .

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Andi took a 1967  famous Anti War poster and put a silly little peach where the O was supposed to be and where the type is esentially the same.  and is selling this what many could view as a plagerized art form for $48 dollars. It has cheapened Andi and made others disrespect her. So she needs to cut lose of that clothing designer fantasy she has. So far she has not shown that she is creative in this area.

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Also with regard to her $15 dress she made for the Bachelor red carpet event, it smaked of pasive agressiveness to me.  It said I am not going to try anymore because I know my relationship with Josh is over so I don;t care. i refuse to go all out and dress uo.  First of all the color was awful and material looked cheap. For the event that it was, she needed to glam up as she glammed up throughout the show. Certainly she would have borrowed and outfit but this was a statement that she is in the designing business and it didn’t work. The dress did not show off her figure, In fact  it added pounds to her in my view. It certainly did not show her dress designing skills as it was not exciting or different.

2.She needs to focus on her uniqueness as a district attorney and come from her strength and intellect. She needs to do legal commentary. Since she is in Atlanta she may want to get her chops by being a local legal analyst on a local TV station. She also needs to hire a PR agent who specializes in getting her legal commentary gigs so she could be on the radio and on TV  and online all the time and build up her  media portfolio in a more respectful manner, not as the Bachelorette. She is also in Altanta which is the headquarters of CNN so she could easily be a legal guest on many of  their shows.

4.While she is very pretty her voice leaves a lot to be desired. She needs to see an ENT surgeon to restructure her sinuses as she is super denasal and that could hurt her media career as she is  very difficult to listen to. She needs some major voice and speech therapy training to help her get rid of the denasality. But to me is sounds like a structural problem so she needs to have the inside of her nose revamped surgically. She needs to go to the ENT Dept at Emory University in Atlanta  and see  what they can offer her. She also needs to go there for speech and voice therapy and coaching. If she cant find anyone in her area she needs to call my office in Los Angeles  and I can help her sound better for sure. She also needs to work on her on camera presence so that she works on her Bitchy Resting Face and downturned mouth which is not appealing especially for a media career. That would require a lot of  work on her part and once again  I could certainly help her with that

5. And finally she needs to thank God she is away from that Toxic Jock Family where she fit in like a sore thumb. She needs to  find a man who is  on her intellectual level and emotional level as  there was a lot missing with Josh. He may have been handsome and had a nice body but that wore thin as he was no intellectual or emotional match for Andi.She is one lucky lady who got out of that relationship before it was too late. I hope she follows the advice in this blog as it could turn her life and her reputation around in a very positive way.

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Mama June Shannon Body Language Shows Deception, Shame, Denial, Defensiveness and Sadness on Dr. Phil
November 18, 2014

Screen Shot 2014-11-17 at 1.01.52 PMDr. Phil clearly gave June Shannon of Honey Boo Boo fame, a major reality check for her irresponsible behavior. her reaction was that she was in denial and very sad- not bout what she did and the choices she made but about Dr. Phil’s reaction to her. This is no doubt the first time someone has called this know it all mom” on the carpet for her actions.

June often stammered which is usually a signal of deception. She showed massive signals of deception when saying that she only saw the molester twice from her stammering to her monotone. She also showed these signs when she lied about the photo of her and the molester in the bed being photoshopped.

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Her shame was depicted by her hunched shoulders and bowed head. She also looked super sad with downturned mouth as Dr. Phil grilled her and she knew deep down that she was facing a losing battle.

She also tried to justify her actions when Dr. Phil showed her a photo of her and Alana and the molester on a stairwell. She immediately interjected that her kids don’t go anywhere without her. Well that made things even worse for June because one wonders how they can trust June if she is around the child with the molester. When Dr. Phil goes over her history with men who were in jail, she interruputs and makes comments that she thinks will water down her egregious behavior. She says that  her daughter Jessica’s father is locked up but interjects it had nothing to do with Jessica and seems to be annoyed as she seems to be blaming that “Catch a Predator” thing for why he is locked up.

Her defensiveness was reflected in the harsh tones in which she answered Dr. Phil where she loudly blurted out her answers to his questions in a staccato manner.

June’s being in denial was clearly evident when she said that the reason why TLC dropped her show was because she shared with them that the girls were tired of filming after 2 and a half years. She seemed to have no clue that the reason why she was dropped was becuase she was seeing  asexual predator and had her girls around him.

Kim Kardashian Body Language Shows She’s Happier Showing Off Her Naked Body Than Being Around Daughter North
November 14, 2014

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While there has been a lot of talk and opinion  about Kim Kardashian displaying a greased up body showcasing her buttocks, breasts and  private parts, what struck me the most was her extremely happy and genuine smile as she appeared naked.

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But when she does a full frontal, showing off her breasts and her female genetaiia she is absolutely thrilled. Her eyes are smiling. her cheeks are raised, her teeth are displayed and her mouth is open.  She clearly shows that she loves wat she is doing.

Whether you agree or disagree with Kim’s exhibitionism you will certainly agree that she appears to be a lot happier naked than she is when she is in the presence of her young daughter North West.

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Thes photos above are just a few of the countless examples we see of Kim with either a serious expression, a sour puss, or blank and vacant expression when she is around baby Nori.

Most mothers of such an adorable child would be smiling in the child’s presence, yet we rarely see Kim displaying happiness around her daughter. The majority of the countless photos we have seen of Mother and daughter do not show either of them smiling with one another.

As a result  of Kim’s aloofness around her, little Nori has learned not to smile around Kim as well. She often looks annoyed and upset around Kim. nShe often pulls away from him.  It’s not the papps that make the child so sad looking, it is the lack of warmth and affection Nori may be feeling towards her mother as Kim consistently holds the child at a distance.

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Joran Vandersloot’s Body Language in Harsh New Prison
September 3, 2014

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A video was released of psychopathic murderer and most likely serial killer Joran Vandersloot who killed two innocent women, Natalie Holloway in Aruba and Stephanie Flores in Peru, as he entered one of the harshest, coldest,and most remote prisons in the world- Challapalca Prison. This prison located high in the Andes Mountains has been cited for numerous human rights violations throughout the world.  He was sent there as punishment for threatening to kill a guard at his previous prison.

Apparently the warden of his new prison Sergio Haro,  gave Vandersloot a cell phone to record himself and later the phone was confiscated . On the video, Vandersloot speaks in Spanish and says he doesn’t know why he was told to record himself but mentions it was for his security.

No doubt this notorious prison wanted to show the world  that their new inmate was in good physical  shape when he first arrived. Actually Joran ‘s fuller face reflects that he was doing quite well in his previous prison as he put on some pounds, indicating that he was well fed. He has grown a beard and moustache since he was first processed into the prison as you can see below, he was clean shaven. 

Screen Shot 2014-09-02 at 5.56.44 PM In the photo above  his fleshy chin shows that he was clearly not deprived of food at his previous facility. As the doctor examines him we see that he has taken one arm out of  a sleeve of his sweatshirt and rests on his abdomen. Most likely his wrist is chained to a waist chain for safety as guards were taking no chances with Vandersloot. . He is not only under the watchful eye of a police officer to his side as you can see in the photo above,

  • Screen Shot 2014-09-02 at 5.56.19 PMbut he is surrounded by an entire army of guards who are watching his every move. All of these guards wear a woolen cap as does the doctor who examines him. If these men are all wearing caps in doors, it no doubt indicates that Vandersloot’s new home is very cold.  In fact the temperature in the evenings has been known to get to 20 degrees minus zero.

Screen Shot 2014-09-02 at 5.58.32 PMAs Vandersloot is turned facing the wall and  patted down, we see his sagging pants and his underwear showing. In the prison population this is a major signal that the person is open for sex and are available to be penetrated by other prisoners. So Vandersloot is giving a clear message that he is ready to be the receiver in a potential sexual encounter. In his new home at Challapalca Prison, there are no conjugal visits gone are his days of having sex with and  impregnating a woman as he did with his new bride as of  this past July, Leidy Figueroa. Also gone are regular visits he would have had with the  unfortunate child he  spawned as family visits are extremely expensive and the terrain is extremely difficult to traverse for any outsider.

Vandersloot will not only be deprived of  conjugal visits with his wife, access to his new baby,  home cooked meals brought in daily, and fresh new clothing,he will most likely initially suffer from altitude sickness in the the 15,000 foot elevated prison, no regular electricity or running water, overcrowding, poor medical treatment, poor food, and poor sanitation. In fact he is already feeling the misery of being there as he has allegedly gone on a hunger strike. Perhaps this is the first time Vandersloot is really feeling the consequences of his actions. 

“The body doesn…
June 7, 2014

“The body doesn’t lie. Neither does the voice or speech pattern.” – Dr. Lillian Glass

Oscar Pistorius Body Language in the Courtroom Casts Doubt
April 22, 2014

 

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While his family denies  that disabled champion runner Oscar Pistorius took acting lessons to prepare himself for trial and others swear that he did take lessons, the bottom line is that something is not right in terms of how he presents himself in the courtroom.

As a jury consultant  and someone who has prepared witnesses for trial, I can assure you that acting lessons are the absolute worst thing a person can do to prepare themselves. People need to be genuine and show genuine emotion and speak in a manner. They need to show body language that will not alienate a jury, but rather objectively allow them to hear the message.

In observing Oscar Pistorius’ body language throughout the trial, I noticed many things that are rather odd. His emotions often do not seem to match the situations being discussed or his body language seems to be over the top as far as his emotions are concerned.

He seems to be tuning out which will not endear himself to the judge who, is the only one who will be deciding his fate.

 

The one thing that I noticed is that he is always covering his ears. In  essence he doesn’t want to hear all the gory details about what he did to Reeva. He wants to block it out and that is what he is doing by literally blocking his ears. But that behavior is off putting.  He needs to sit there without his hands over his ears and listen to every word. If he shed emotion, it needs to be genuine . He needs toface the details of what he is accused of doing.

 

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Not only does he cover his ears, but he covers his head with his papers as you see in the photo above. It is akin to someone wanting to  pull the blankets over their head and not leave their bed or the house. This signals extreme shame and guilt  over what he did. He wants it to all go away as he is in essence, hiding.

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As well as not wanting to hear the details at the trial, he also does not want to see them. He does not want to see the results of his actions via the gory photos  as he tightly shuts his eyes and pinches the bridge of his nose in a self comforting gesture.

 

Screen Shot 2014-04-22 at 9.33.34 AM The gesture where he pulls down the skin on his face is a self mutilation type of gesture which often occurs when a person is feeling guilty and there is no way out. It is a  literal form of  self punishment as we see Pistorius doing here.

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This photo is of Pistorius’ aunt and uncle crying. With their furrowed brows and squinted eyes, they show genuine tears of  sadness at what happened  in this tragic situation.

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In contrast here are Pistorius tears. He hides his face as he cries which to many observing him may indicate that he is faking his cry. Usually when one is in emotional pain, they don’t care who sees them cry. They just express their sorrow and upset openly. Many may feel this is contrived and he may have something to hide.

 

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He cries too often and his recovery time from his cry is too fast. When people recover too quickly from a cry to a normal non crying facial posture it takes them time to recover. He does it almost immediately which may indicate that he is doing all of this crying for affect.

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The above cry seems too intense . This facial gesture would occur if someone is in severe extreme grief, where they cannot contain themselves or control their emotions.  His hand over his mouth shows that there is something he doesn’t want to reveal. And his tightly squinted eyes are not congruent with the crying emotion he is attempting to display. With a squinty eyed cry the mouth is usually open. That is not the case here.

As a body language I feel that something is off with Pristorius and his emotions. Usually I see an incongruent emotion and body language when the person is medicated or on drugs. But that emotion is usually a more dull or blank  facial appearance.

When someone shows the inconsistency of emotion as Pristorius has been doing throughout the trial, it shows me that either he has forced this on his own in terms of trying to project what he thinks the judge wants to see, or that he has been prepped  or coached in some way.

If he did take acting lessons, he did himself a huge disservice as he looks like a very bad actor trying to force emotion. It takes years to perfect acting skills, not a few weeks or months. So if he did take the lessons, they clearly did not work. On the other hand if he did not take lessons and he is acting like this on his own, he is also doing himself a huge disservice because he is not putting his position across in a genuine manner.

In the US judicial system if he was in front of a jury of his peers my belief is that he would be convicted based on his body language and vocal tone alone. Whether you want to believe it or not the truth is that juries can and have often  judged someone on these things even if all the evidence points in their favor. But Pistorius only has to convince one person whom he refers to as “My lady” throughout the proceedings.

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If My lady” uses her  legal skills along with her genuine common sense and pays attention to the defendant’s body language, facial, language, and vocal tone, she will come up with the right verdict for Oscar Pistorius as his communication skills and body language speak volumes.

 

Gosselin Twins Body Language on View Shows They’re Intimidated By Controlling Kate and Not Ready for TV
January 21, 2014

While it was a nice try  by Kate and her spinners to shove the 13 year old twins on the View for damage control, it didn’t work.  In fact it still showed us via their  body language and communication patterns  they were intimidated by Kate and definitely not ready for television, let alone another reality show. Even Whoppi made reference to them constantly looking at their mother when they spoke as Whoppi told them to pretend Kate wasn’t there.  Even though they did manage to speak, their speaking abilities left a lot to be desired- especially Cara’s muteness. When she did speak she was monotone, died off at the end of her phrases, looked dow, and constantly held on to herself. It was clear that she appears to be insecure and intimidated. Both of these girl’s verbal puppet strings were still being controlled by Kate as we witnessed.

However, Mady did manage to break free at the end and let her own inner anger out through her body language of clenched fists, facial expressions of disgust and upset. It was also reflected by her speech content in revealing how she would like to get rid of the sextuplets and how  each and every one of them was so annoying.

I assume they must have received Kate’s wrath after their Today Show performance. She may possibly have  threatened them with the fact that if the family doesn’t get another reality show , it will be their fault. So, they better do well and speak up  this time when they are on the View.  I  imagine they were told how they won’t get any of  the perks that come along with a reality show- clothes, new adventures, fame, and money.

While the twins did speak verbally, their vocal patterns, speech content, and body language spoke volumes about what is really  going on with them and how things must really be in that household. No matter how the press headlines have tried to spin how successful their interview was, it was clearly not a success. In fact I would say that was still a disaster in my” View”.

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Before they spoke, each of the twins began self grooming in preparation for their performance which showed their uneasiness. They clearly feel the pressure upon them.

As Barbara Walters said that now the girls are teenagers and that must be difficult, we see Kate’s facial expression  of stern consternation and  rigid body language saying it all,  as she raises her head and leaks out that she thinks they certainly are difficult.Image

Then to match her body language , Kate verbally reveals how she does indeed think they are difficult as she she immediately shows her control and turns to them and says Girls plug your ears.”.In my view that is not a very loving statement. In essence she is saying that she really doesn’t want them to hear how negatively she really thinks of them. The expressions on the girl’s faces show they aren’t too thrilled about this comment.

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Even though Kate says “No, Im kidding,” apparently  she is not kidding ,based on her body language leakage.

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Now we really see Kate spin it as she says the twins are “the most amazing big sisters on the planet,” which surprises Mady, as she raises her eyebrows  as though she is questioning her mothers “truth.”  Cara smiles at Mady with bowed head  as she clearly knows this is spin. Their body language to Kate’s spin makes sense later on as Mady reveals the truth that she finds every one of the sextuplets extremely  annoying. Even Fantasia Barino one of the View’s substitute co-hosts  commented that ” they looked at each other like No.”  Obviously Fantasia picked up on the fact that Kate was spinning things.

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Look at the  tense expression between Kate and Mady as Kate dishes her spin and says how they are her left and right hand girls. Kate then shrugs her shoulder and purses her lips which  is a signal of deception. Mady is clearly not buying what she said.

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Sheri, another host of the show says that she read in articles where Kate has ” always talked about how the girls helping  her around the house.” Sheri then asks the girls  what they do to help out around the house. Mady answers ‘I don’t help” and immediately turns it over to Cara. Look at the expression on Kate’s face as Mady reveals this. Kate is furious as her mouth is agape. She then rolls her eyes. Once again Mady has succeeded in embarrassing her mom.

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Now Kate  really wants to make sure Cara doesn’t do the same and humiliate her as well.  So Kate  points to Cara in a hostile motion and  gives her a stern look as she coachers  Cara her by interjecting”After dinner.  ” Then Kate’s tone turns hostile and abrupt  as she demands  to Cara “go for it”. In essence we can see her orchestrating what she wants Cara to so and say.

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Cara is uncomfortable as she tells how she wipers the counters and lunoads the dishwasher and admits how her sister does do some chores. Mady is angry as you can see my her clenched fists on her lap.  Cara,  her hand never leaving her arm for self comfort clearly does not want to be talking, as she looks down when she speaks with her head cocked to the side. She consistently doesn’t maintain eye contact.  Kate has a watchful eye as she listens carefully ready to interject some spin in case Cara doesn’ end up following through.

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Whoppie then asks what these girls do for fun. She then tells the girls not to look at Kate and to pretend their mom  is not there.

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Whoppi puts the girls at ease and  for the first time we see a relaxed them smile and a  laugh. Whoppi ties to give the girls a hint as to what they might like as she asks if they are on social media or twitter. Jeannie McCarthy interjects  as well by asking if they are One Directioners.

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Mady them says that if she is going to be perfectly honest she doesn’t like Justin Beiber ( which is further indication why she not  ready for prime time). She needed to reveal whom she does like and not whom she doesn;t like . Rule number one is to never trash a fellow performer. If she has hopes to be a reality star, she too falls into the category of performer.)She then says she likes Nile of One Direction. In a candid typical school girl fashion, she  seems embarrassed to reveal  her crush as she looks down and  bows her head.

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Then Cara makes the same mistake and reveals in a boring,  mumbling,   monotone with a hunched over posture, constantly looking down, that she  the doesn’t like  One Direction. She says she likes Demi Lovato aster being prompted by Sheri. Her performance shows me how she needs so much work and is clearly not at all ready to be in the spotlight.  She does not remove her hand from her arm throughout the interview as it is clenched there. She continues to hunch over which is not a good sign. She reveals that she is a very shy girl who lacks charisma and gravitas necessary for television. No oen wants to watch anyone boring and monototone and montoface. Getting her to speak was like pulling teeth. I do think that her being int he spotlight again would not be a good move for her and may possibly cause issues.

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Jeannie Mc Carthy asks the twins about their parents divorce/ Cara has absolutely  no idea what to say and faces Mady for answers. mady seems  equally stumped at not knowing what to say . In essence the twins clammed up again on TV which is a no- no in the media.  Then they both laugh nervously. Mady finally says it wasn;t hard for them. But then looks up at Kate and addresses her mom personally and directly  saying” I guess it was harder for you.” Then Mady says she was 9 and it didn’t really affect her as she saw both parents and didn’t see the difficult things.

Kate immediately chimes in and spins how it drew the nine of them closer together as she gushes and uses effusive terminology. She then volunteers how there is nothing they don’t talk about and proceeds. She then goes off on a tangent and proceeds to  to spin how the twins hang out in her room every night . She does this for a reason as her intention is to  to give show how wonderful things are their household.

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Barbara Walters  immediately changes the topic and asks how the  twins feel about their younger brothers and sisters. Kate immediately takes control and interjects ” Mady you waited your whole life for this question.”  Mady then turns to her mother and tells Kate that  she ruined her dramatic silence.

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Kate as you can is literally taken aback by Mady’s on air admonition that her mom ruined her dramatic silence. Note how far Kate jerks her head back and how her bosy has stiffened. this means she is not happy about what Mady just said.

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Kate then leaks out an expression of a tight clenched jaw  which  further indicates she isn’t too happy about what Mady is doing on the View in terms of  chastising her.

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Mady opens up and is very forthright about how not only as a group,  but that every single one of the sextuplets “is annoying”. Her facial expression with rolled eyes and open mouth and slack jaw,  shows how exasperated and upset she is by them. So she has revealed to the world that things aren’t so rosey and hunky dory in that household as Kate would like us to believe. It now seems obvious to me  that Kate was the one putting her daughters up to saying how wonderful things were at home in the People article.  But the truth leaked out for the first time on the Today Show and now again on the View.

Whoppie clearlry made us aware of how intimidated these  two girls are by their mother as they have to look at her before they speak to make sure they spin things right so that she doesn’t get angry with them.

You may ask yourslef why would Kate drag these two non- charism atc,  mediocre,  and obviously not ready for prime time, teens on the View for a do over to show they can talk, even though they have nothing to say. The answer is simple as I see it.

Kate is obviously campaigning for another reality show and has commissioned her twinst o so her bidding. There was a lot of concertn about TV harming the kids so she wanted to make it known that it didn’t harm  them.

But something has harmed them from my perspective. Mady appeaRS angry and Cara appears so insecure that she is unable  to hold her head up, maintain eye contact, and speak with a resonant  non monotonous tone without mumbling or  dying off.

After observing these two and the dynamic with their mother, I personally don’t think they should be on television as they have nothing whatsoever to offer- no charisma and no talent. They are simply fraternal twin sisters who have 6 brothers and sisters as a result of theit mother taking fertility drugs. While it was indeed cute to see the babies and young kids  grow up on TV, truth be told,  they are not so cute anymore. They are teens and pre teens who are at a very sensitive and delicate age for growth and development. Thus I believe they need privacy to mature and develop to their full potential. Ask child star advocate, Paul Peterson what happens to showbiz kids who continue to grow up in front of the TV camera.  Statistically we have all seen that it does harm them unless they are the rare exception like the charismatic and very talented Ron Howard.

While Mady admitted that  she doesn’t like Justin Beiber, look at what is now allegedly happening to this 19 year old  after spending his life in the limelight. Allegedly he is  drinking sizzurp and taking drugs. There is a lot of pressure for a teen to be in the spotlight and it is clear from just their two appearances on the Today Show and on the View that these girls are not ready.

Body Language and Silence of Gosselin Twins Reflect Anger at Mom As Kate Is Enraged
January 17, 2014

 The silence  of Cara and Mady on the Today Show spoke volumes as they were asked if they were doing OK. Clearly they are NOT OK. They are obviously angry at mom.  They were both asserting their power by using this opportunity in an attempt to embarrass their mother, who appears to be on a quest to get back in the limelight with a new reality show. 

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As Mady was asked if things were OK, she cocked her head and pursed her lips,  which indicated that she couldn’t reveal the truth even though she may have wanted to tell all. 

When Mady refused to speak, Kate clasped her hands as she would with a young toddler and said “Use your words”. This was humiliating to say to a teenager who obviously didn’t have any words to tell lies about how wonderful things were on the homefront.

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Kate was shocked and looked at Mady straight in the eye. They both had an eye to eye confrontation. Mady was not backing down. She was not going to play along and make like everything at home was fine and dandy when it was not the case. Even though Kate looks like she is smiling, it is a phony smile to mask her anger towards Mady. 

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Cara was sullen and mute throughout the interview. She refused to say a word as she clenched her jaw shut. 

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 Kate was not happy with Cara,  who in her early years on “Kate Plus 8″  seemed to be Momma’s little helper and ally. Things have certainly changed . We see how Cara raises her shoulder and is literally giving Kate “the cold shoulder”. There is also a lot of tension on her face. Kate is furious as we can see from her body language> Kate glares at Cara, *who ignores her mother as Kate purses her lips  and clenches her jaw in anger as she eyes her daughter.

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Kate is disgusted with Maddy as well as you can see by the look of anger on  her face. Mady obviously feels the tension and has resorted to playing with her hair as a result of comforting herself . She automatically cocks her head to be out of Kate’s  direct line of vision. She also hunches down.  It is her way of physically minimizing herself against Kate’s wrath and the tension she feels coming from her mother. Cara also feels the tension as she gazes at her sister with concern.

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Kate tries to do damage control but can’t help leaking out her angry facial language. Maddy looks away from her mom, focusing on the interviewer. Mady’s shoulders are still rounded while Cara looks down. 

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Here we see Mady leaking out a  a self satisfied smile as she knows exactly what she did by not speaking. She is clearly  pleased with her accomplishment at embarassing her mother on national television.

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As Kate tries to spin things,  she manages to put a dig in about Jon by saying how he and the public have said that being on television has damaged the kids. Kate says that because of this wrong information, she is now forced to come forward and speak out. Obviously she manipulated her teenage twins to do her bidding via their interview in People Magazine. But it all backfired when the teens were put on the spot and now had to speak for themselves in a  spontaneous manner. They couldn’t bring themselves to do it.  This screenshot shows how it is clear that the girls don’t want to be a part of Kate’s campaign, They are detached from Kate as they both look down with tense facial expressions. They know that their mother is spinning things to make herself look good and  it is obvious that they don’t want to go along with the charade any longer.

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Cara’s fist-like and gesture is indicative of anger. She is holding on to herself for self comfort as she wears a tense facial expression. Mady is also holding on to herself as she clasps her hands between her legs for comfort. There is a lot of physical space between her and her mother as she cocks her head and minimizes herself. Kate is holding on to herself as well as a means of containing her anger towards her daughters. Kate appears to be full of tension in her face and body. 

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Cara purses her lips which further indicates she wants to remain silent on the matter as Mady looks down with a sad facial expression. No doubt she knows what lies ahead when the interview is over and the cameras are turned off of her- a very unhappy mother. Kate leans away from Mady and literally gives her the “cold shoulder” as she gestures with tense hands and a very angry look on her face.

When the girls were asked if they want to get back on TV with a reality show, this was the only time Mady light up as he eyes brightened for a moment. But she couldn’t answer the next question as to why she wanted to be on TV- because it was fun or because she wanted her life out there. No doubt she remembered the perks and the travel and all the goodies of the past that came with being on TV and she misses that. Maybe she feels that having another reality show will appease Kate, which may in turn make living with her mother a lot easier and reduce the tension and anger around the house.

This interview showed us how all is not well in that household, no matter what these girls may have allegedly told People Magazine.When it was just them on the spot  and no publicist or mom speaking on their behalf, they refused to lie. I give them a lot of credit for that. 

 

Obama and Putin’s Body Language Says They Detest One Another
September 11, 2013

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While President Obama may know a thing or two about politics, he knows very little about body language. In a recent speech he said that there was  a lot of talk about body language of the two leaders  when they met and warned the public not to read much into it because he said that Putin just has a slouching posture.

Nothing could be further from the truth. Putin is not a sloucher. In fact his posture is usually erect and reflects extreme self confidence.

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You consistently see his erect and straight posture when he speaks to world leaders.

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But when Putin is near Obama his raised shoulders and fist like hand gesture indicates that he is angry at Obama and clearly doesn’t like him as he can’t even bear to look at him. He leans his body away from Obama as you can see and looks down as to avoid Obama entirely.

Likewise Obama looks angry. In fact we have rarely if ever seen Obama with such a facial expression reflecting disdain. His hand is on his knee for self comfort and his facial expression speaks volumes.  He puts his hand on  his chin as he appears to be pondering what to do. There is tension in his face and cheek area indicating  anger  and the downward turn of his mouth shows unhappiness.  Obama is clearly not happy having to be in the presence of Putin.

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Here we see where they have an identical hand pose as those they are holding on to themselves and restraining themselves from all the anger and disdain  they have towards one another. Putin cannot even establish eye contact with Obama  as he looks away while Obama looks at him with a skeptical facial expression.

There is clearly no love lost between these two leaders.There is mutual anger and mutual disdain for one another body language wise and facial language wise no matter what pleasant words they use about one another.

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