I did a radio interview with Dan Cruz on Clear Channel radio who was concerned about the allegations by the press that Obama was rude to newly elected President of Mexico Edgar Pena Nieto when he recently visited the White House.
I assured Mr. Cruz that this was NOT the case. President Obama was NOT being rude to the new President of Mexico. In fact Obama actually appeared to like President Nieto as indicated by Obama’s body language.
It shows that there are too many armature body language experts out there and over zealous journalists looking for a story and trying to make a mountain out of a molehill as they misinterpret body language and communication signals.
While it is true that Obama didn’t initially look directly at Neito when he spoke to him at the press conference, it did not mean that he didn’t like Nieto. The fact that Obama’s legs and toes were pointed in Neito’s direction showed that he did indeed like the newly elected President of Mexico.
His not looking at Nieto while speaking could have been attributed to the fact that he was looking and speaking directly to the translator as you can see in the photo above.
When Obama spoke you could see that he appeared to be absolutely exhausted based on his facial appearance and body demeanor. The fact that he was slunched over and reported to be “too casual” in his meeting with Nieto by critics may be explained as mere exhaustion as you can see int he photo above.
There were several occasions where Obama looked down and appeared to be ready for a nap rather than a meeting. And who can blame him after a grueling Presidential race that was neck and neck.
AS Obama listened to what he said in English translated back into Spanish by the interpreter it appeared that he had his mind elsewhere as you can see int his photo. While he does not face President Neito directly at this point , you can see how his crossed leg does point in Nieto;s direction. Neito not he other hand is listing intently to the translation.
But when Nieto speaks it is different story. Obama has direct eye contact with him and listens intently. Obama is also often seen nodding his head in agreement when Neito speaks. Obama’s body is turned towards Nieto as though he is open and receptive to him.
So once again, it goes to show you that you can’t always believe what you read or what you see for that matter unless you understand the nuances of body language analysis.If you can’t to lean the nuances I suggest you get my latest book on amazon called The Body Language Advantage which gives away all my body language reading secrets.
Bob Costas asked Jerry Sandusky if he ever touched the genitals of any boy. As Sandusky replied that he didn’t, his voice quality sounded shaky and tentative.
Then Costas said if this is not so, then you must be the unluckiest man and most persecuted man we have ever heard of.
Jerry pauses for several seconds and then chuckles. This reaction is contrary to anyone who was not guilty. An innocent person would immediately jump in with no pause time ans say YES, I AM, using a very formidable and unwavering tone.
Costas then says it again and Sandusky pasues for five seconds and chuckles a nervous laugh and immediately releases a burst of air. Needless to say this question has taken literally taken the wind or the air out of him as you literally hear it in the audio.
Then Sandusky says in a weak tone, “ I don’t know what you want me to say WHAT????? Want you to say???? This is a signal of guilt. He is now depending on what others want him to say and does not relay what he needs to say. In essence he nothing to say except that he is guilty.
You can believe that his attorney is helping him to spin what to say. Also why is this man doing interviews if he has an attorney? Is he defying his attorney? Is he defying his attorney? What kind of attorney wiuld allow his client to speak out at this point?
Sandusky’s voice quality and speech behaviors alone are incriminating him in my view.
Then he says I don’t think theses have been the best days of my life as he burst out air . This air burst indicates that he is having a hard time coordinating his breathing with his talking which is a HUGE indicator of nervousness and deception. His statement also minimizes the serious of what is happening to him which indicates that he is in the initial shock phases and in a state of denial.
Costas then asks him a great question. Costas asks how would you define the part you played? What are you willing to concede that was wrong and and you wish you hadn’t done it?
Sandusky once again takes a gulp of audible air indicating that this question has once agin knocked the wind out fo him. He then practically wispers and mumbles his answer , which is an indicator guilt and shame . He says I I should have (long pause) showered with those kids. The telling part here vocally speaking is that he goes up at the end of the sentence on the words kids as though he was asking a question. The empahasis on the world kids means that deep down he really didn’t think it was wrong to shower with those kids. It’s only wong because he got busted.Also the hesitation is a signal of extreme distress.
Then he mumbles a guilty sounding you know so . In essence , he is trying to minimize his actions and seeking reassurance with the words you know . He ends his statement on the word so because he has nothing else to say .
Here is the give away “tell” or signal that says it all. Costas asks him if he is a pedophile. Sandusky immediately replies No! Then Costs rephrases the question ands says Are you sexually attracted to young boys? Just so you are aware, this is how sociopaths often respond to questions. You may ask them a direct question and get a completely different answer than when you rephrase the question. Sandusky also parrots the question and repeats Am I sexually attracted to young boys?
When someone answers a question with a question or repeats your question, they are usually GUILTY!!! That is one of the biggest tells of deception.
Then Sandusky further inceiminates himself verbally by contimuing on and saying sexually attracted. I I enjoy young people.’
His repetion of the words sexually attracted thrown out there without a pronoun or a verb speaks volumes, Singling these two words out as a phrase in itself ndicates that he very well may be sexually attracted to them.
Then he says I I love to be around them . But no I’m not sexually attracted to young boys. He dies off at the end of his statement which is very significant in my view. As he in essence is swallowing his words and swallowing the truth. Note how he calls young boys them . It illustrates how he has objectified his victims.
Jerry Sandusky shows us that no matter who a person is or what their position is, it in possible to find pedophiles in any walk of life and in any socioeconomic group or social strata. Even pillars of society who do charity work can be sexual deviants. We need to stop playing The Emperor Has New Clothes when he in fact is not wearing any. We need to see what is, not what we want to see. As soon as we see this behavior we need to make sure the person is held accountable for their actions.
There is no question in my mind that he is acting like a person who has a lot of guilt , shame, and embarrassment at being exposed and who most likely is guilty.
After reading the Grand Jury transcript I felt like throwing up. This is an extremely deviant and sick man. True they are just allegations and he has not yet been found guilty by a court of law at this time. But in reading these allegations , it appears that they all have a pattern to them that is both shocking and sickening. He is either wrestling, showering, or cracking some young boy’s back. Like most predators he has followed a similar ritual in abusing his victims.
There is no rehabilitation for a pedophile because they are imprinted with this sexual perversion forever.He needs to be locked up forever with no possibility of parole. He has essentially murdered the souls and the psyches of these young boys, many who have now grown into young men.
All the millions of dollars he has earned during his coaching years needs to go for psychological treatment for these boys because after he got his hands on them, they were never the same. What makes matters even worse is that he took full advantage of young boys who were troubled and/or disadvantaged. That makes his crime even more egregious.
I say lock him up and throw away the key and make him do some hard labor in prison instead of his sitting around doing nothing on the taxpayers money. I say get as much use out of him, whether it be making license plates or some other item that is made in prisons.
He needs to be released into the general population so he can see what it feels like to be helpless and victimized. No doubt if this is the case, he will not survive long which may actually be a blessing to all.
There is no doubt that Jose Baez told Casey to stop her smiles and smirks when she walks into the courtroom. So on Day 32 she her best to stifle all of her happy facial gestures. She even had a frown on her lips, yet her eyes were no frowning. This indicates that it was contrived.
She then spots someone someone (perhaps Baez or Cheney)and stare in their direction.
She then raises her eyebrows and gives them a flash of recognition. You can see the tension in her lower jaw protrusion which indicates she is trying hard not to smile.
She looks away and continues to try and stifle a smile.
But she cannot contain herself as she still manages a smirk.
She quickly turns her head to look away and looks down but her eyebrows are still raised in recognition of whom she saw. She tries to stifle a smile as she is trying to obey what she most likely has been told to do.
Jose and his team know that now that the defense is up to bat, it is essential for Casey to act as though she is serious and not be all smiles and lighthearted or flirty.
In the last season of The Bachelor, Vienna Girardi was clearly the villain while Jake was seen as the good guy.
But after watching the Bachelor Reunion with Jake and Vienna, the roles have completely reversed. My new book, which will be released this coming November called Toxic Men, Identify, Deal With and Heal From Men Who Make Your Life Miserable describes men like Jake Pavelka to a tee.
BACK AND FORTH BETWEEN JAKE AND VIENNA
Before it got to the point where Vienna was upset in tears as seen in the photo above, there was a lot of back and forth and accusations between the two of them. They both accused the other of lying. He called her a liar who went behind her back to the tabloids. She said that she had no choice because she knew him. He told her that he didn’t know him. But when she called him a” fame whore”. He actually laughed . He had nothing to say because it may have rung true to him.
Then he accused her of cheating and being with a “boy”. He didn’t say she was with a “man” but instead called him a “boy”. This spoke volumes about Jake’s insecurity. Even when Vienna told Jake that the “boy” was a gay friend of hers, he ignored what she said.
He had his mind made up and that was that. Nothing Vienna said could change anything.
JAKE’S VERBAL AND EMOTIONAL ABUSE
Jake showed that he was arrogant, smug, cut off from communication, unsympathetic, completely into himself. He clearly showed behavior of a control freak who demanded that he be listened to!
When Vienna tried to apologize to him, he could care less. He was detached and arrogant. He then told her in the most gruff and harsh tone to “BE QUIET!
How dare him speak to anyone like that! One wouldn’t even speak to an animal in that tone of voice. It was highly abusive and very disturbing to watch.
JAKE’S HOSTILE AND ABUSIVE BODY LANGUAGE
When Jake told her to “BE QUIET” his body language was abusive as well, in that he presented his back hand to her.
This is a very hostile gesture and can often be a precursor towards physical violence. When a person shows you the back of their hand during an argument, if they are angry enough at you and out of control enough, they could literally “back hand you”.
Jake also kept shaking his foot indicating that he wanted to get out of there. His body language was saying that wanted to leave and be far away from Vienna.
If the backhanded violent gesture wasn’t enough, Jake then did something very shocking. It actually repulsed me to the point that I lost complete respect for him.
If Jake could be this violent body language wise when telling her to stop interrupting him on national television, what could he do to her when the cameras were off of them and they were in the privacy of their home?
Jack did a mock karate chop on his thigh when he yelled at her to stop interrupting him. This is a HUGE red flag in my view. Gestures like that can and have often lead to physical violence. When someone punches a wall or punches their fist, or karate chops their thigh to get a point across it may be a dangerous signal and something to watch for
JAKE DESTROYED VIENNA’S DIGNITY
Jake told Vienna not only that he was angry bit that that she disgusted him. Telling someone you are angry at them for something they did is one thing.
But telling them they disgust you is another. When you are angry there is hope that you can repair a relationship.
But when a person says you disgust them, there is no hope for any repair. It is over. It means that you have lost complete respect for the person.
You have taken away their dignity by making a statement like that. and there is no going back.
JAKE’S ABUSE MAKES VIENNA CURL UP INTO A BALL
Vienna was so devastated by the Karate chop, the yelling at her, and the verbal abuse that she retreated into a fetal position while sitting.
She literally curled up into a ball with her head on her lap as she sobbed.
What was even more disturbing to see what Jake had done to her through his emotional abuse wa to see that Jake didn’t even bat an eye. He could care less. He showed absolutely no humanity.
Instead, he was focused on himself. He leaned away from her and tried to explain himself via anger, with his fist-like hand clasped to his shaking foot. He showed no compassion towards her whatsoever.
The selfishness and lack of compassion on Jake;s part can never be forgotten. It reflected who he truly is as a human being.
VIENNA GARNERS THE INNER STRENGTH TO WALK AWAY
Vienna finally got the inner strength to get up and leave the set. That took a lot of guts on her part. As a seasoned professional in the media, the biggest sin one can ever commit is to walk off a set. But in Vienna’s situation, what she did showed strength. She was not going to take Jake’s abuse any longer. But before she left the stage, she told Jake the truth about himself that he was the meanest person she ever met.
Once again Jake didn’t bat an eye. He didn’t even look at her. He was more concerned with himself. He had no concern with her emotional state. He didn’t even go after her when she walked off the stage. He didn’t even try to comfort her. That was a huge turn off to viewers.
After watching Jake in action, I cannot imagine him having an acting career except for roles that may call for a TOXIC MAN like the one he exhibited on the reunion show. www.drlillianglass.com