Press Misinterprets Obama’s Body Language as Making a Peace Sign at Nuclear Security Summit

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The Press got it completely wrong when they plastered a photo of Obama looking like he is  making a peace sign at the Nuclear Security  Summit. At first glance one would think that the President of the United States has  lost it. They would think that gesture was completely inappropriate and unbecoming of a President, who appears to be the only one making such as gesture in the formal photo with other world leaders.

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But after watching the video  of this photo session, you can clearly see that Obama was NOT making the peace sign. Instead he was letting the photographer know that two more people were coming. That is why he held up fingers. In fact his mouth was open in the photo, indicating that he was speaking.You can even see in the phot oabove that Obama is turning to someone  ( like the photographer) and speaking to them.

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Then the press focuses in on the UK Prime Minister David Cameron a who looks like he is shooting Obama a dirty look. This is not the case as well. His facial expression does not show anger. he is simply looking to see who is missing from the photo based on what Obama said. There is no body language facial expression to indicate that he is angry or annoyed as the press mentioned.

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Likewise, there is no angry expression on Italy’s  Prime Minister,Matteo Renzi’s face. Yet the press stated that he was angry with Obama as well.

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Then inside the meeting, the Press made it seem as though David  Cameron was very angry at Obama. But if you examine the photo Obama is pointing his finger at someone to the side of Cameron and  Cameron is not involved in that interaction. Cameron is merely looking ahead. His red face is not due to anger, but to some color he received while vacationing in Lazarote in the Canary islands. Cameron seems to be focused on what is ahead of him, not what is occurring to the side of him.

This is why having an untrained journalist instead of a trained body language expert interpreting  body language of world leaders can be dangerous.

 

Obama and Castro’s Body Language in Cuba Shows Power Play

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When US President Barack Obama wanted to put his arm around the shoulder of Cuba’s President Raul Castro, Castro was having none of it. No matter what language you speak, the international language of “body language” speaks volumes.

If Obama succeeded in placing his arm around Castro on Live Cuban TV, it would make Castro appear weak  to his citizens. It would give the impression that Obama ( who is a head and shoulder taller than Castro) dominated the get-together and was more powerful than Castro.

Putting your arm around someone’s shoulder shows that you are in control or are more powerful.  That is was what Obama was trying to say with his body language.  It was also way too friendly of a gesture for two countries who have not had an American President on Cuban  soil for almost 80 years. No matter how good a time Obama may have had with his Cuban host, the bottom line is that there is still a lot of pain, tension, and controversy. What Castro was saying by grabbing Obama’s arm and not allowing that arm to touch him was telling Obama that “all is not so well or as good as you think it is.”

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There is no question that Obama felt a little awkward or embarrassed  by Castro’s rebuff. As you can see in the above photo,  his head is bowed down as he waves. If he was feeling less awkward,  his head would have been up while he was waving. His head would have been in the same upward posture as Castro, if  Obama  was feeling more confident in the situation. Obama is still touching Castro’s hand and Castro is ignoring him. Also Castro turns his body away from Obama which also speaks volumes as to how he really feels.

 

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Then Raul Castro takes charge. As Obama is still waving, Castro grabs Obama’s elbow,  pinching him with his thumb as you can see. This is a sign of force as Castro  directs Obama to leave the  stage.

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Castro then extends  his arm and continues his firm grasp on Obama’s arm, which is now at Obama’s side. He is in essence, trying to  push Obama off the stage as Castro has now turned his  own body towards the exit, while Obama is still standing there, with his body  facing forward.

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Now Castro shows that he is definitely  in charge and in control as the host of this meeting and as the President of his country. He walks past Obama, moving directly in front of Obama. Obama looks annoyed by this as you can see  by the expression on his face.  You can also see that Obama’s  arm is at his side and hand is beginning to form into a ball which shows that he is angry at the situation. He is not walking erect with his head up, but his head is bowed down and his shoulders are hunched over which shows that he is not feeling very secure or confident about what has just occurred.

So as far as a power play is concerned Raul Castro clearly showed Obama that he was in charge and in control  and that Obama would have to take a secondary position to him.

Obama and Netanyahu Body Language Shows They Still Can’t Stand One Another

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Even though the two world leaders, Benjamin Netanyahu and Barak Obama finally got together  to meet after a year, there is still no love lost between them. Netanyahu was in the US to to discuss the nuclear deal with Iran and other regional conflicts, including the violence in Palestine.

While it had been no secret that the prime minister of Israel and the President of the United States  have had a strong disagreements in the past, their common thread is that they are both in favor of making sure Iran does not get a nuclear weapon. Another point of agreement is regarding the importance of dealing with violence.

But in terms of their body language Obama still can’t seem to hide his disdain for Netanyahu ever since the Israeli Prime Minister accepted an invitation to speak, whereby Obama took the move as a personal affront by  netanyahu and Republicans  in Congress going around the White House to invite him to give a joint address to th Senate and the House of Representatives.

Look at the photo above and you will see the tightness in Obama’s jaw signifying anger. He is pursing his lips as he looks at Netanyahu eye to eye. Obama slunches  over when he reaches out to shake Netanyahu’s han. There also seems to be an aggressive power handshake with Obama as you can see his thumb deliberately pressing hard on Netanyahu’s hand.

Netanyahu is also not pleased about Obama  a you can see from the tension in his jaw and tight lips.

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Feet can tell a lot about how a person is feeling towards the other  as well.In this case we see Obama’s legs are crossed and his foot and toes are positioned upwards. This means that he can’t wait to leave the meeting.  This in in contrast to Netanyahu’s fet which are firmly planted on the ground.Also their feet are not pointing directly in one another’s direction which further indicates  they don’t feel good about one another.

Hands are also telling as both men are holding on to themselves in order to contain their true feelings. Netanyahu hold;s on to his fingers while Obama self comforts by olding on to his thighs. It shows how uncomfortable they are with one another.

Another telling signal of their disdain towards one another is that their heads are completely turned away from one another. Netanyahu turns his head to the left and looks away from Obama while Obama looks straight ahead, not  relating to Netanyahu’s presence.

So even though the two allies – the US and Israel  met to demonstrate their bond, there was definitely no bonding going on between the two leaders as you can see in this photo op.

Obama and Putin’s Body Language Says They Detest One Another

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While President Obama may know a thing or two about politics, he knows very little about body language. In a recent speech he said that there was  a lot of talk about body language of the two leaders  when they met and warned the public not to read much into it because he said that Putin just has a slouching posture.

Nothing could be further from the truth. Putin is not a sloucher. In fact his posture is usually erect and reflects extreme self confidence.

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You consistently see his erect and straight posture when he speaks to world leaders.

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But when Putin is near Obama his raised shoulders and fist like hand gesture indicates that he is angry at Obama and clearly doesn’t like him as he can’t even bear to look at him. He leans his body away from Obama as you can see and looks down as to avoid Obama entirely.

Likewise Obama looks angry. In fact we have rarely if ever seen Obama with such a facial expression reflecting disdain. His hand is on his knee for self comfort and his facial expression speaks volumes.  He puts his hand on  his chin as he appears to be pondering what to do. There is tension in his face and cheek area indicating  anger  and the downward turn of his mouth shows unhappiness.  Obama is clearly not happy having to be in the presence of Putin.

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Here we see where they have an identical hand pose as those they are holding on to themselves and restraining themselves from all the anger and disdain  they have towards one another. Putin cannot even establish eye contact with Obama  as he looks away while Obama looks at him with a skeptical facial expression.

There is clearly no love lost between these two leaders.There is mutual anger and mutual disdain for one another body language wise and facial language wise no matter what pleasant words they use about one another.

North Korean leader Kim Jung Un Body Language Shows Fear in Midst of Threats As He Is Controlled By Father’s Old Guard

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While Kim Jung Un is trying to come across as a world tyrant threatening to annihilate the world with a nuclear attack, it is clear from his body language that the young man is deathly afraid. As an educated man he clearly knows the outcome of such an attack on his country and deep down, I wonder if  it is him behind  all of the sabre rattling or his father’s old guards.

After looking at photos of him with his guard of officers from his father’s regime, one cannot stop to wonder if he is a mere puppet of his own government and being controlled by four  specific military officers who never leave his side.

In the photo above the to men to the right and left of him seem to have a strong hold on him even physically. Look how the man on the immediate right had both hand’s interlocking Kim Jung Un’s hand.

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In this photo he is to the right of Kim Jung Un. Note his extremely erect and confident posture as compared to everyone else on the boat.

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Note how the leader is the only one smiling as he is propped up by  older gentlemen who were clearly a part of his fathers regime.  This is the third photo where you can see him being physically handled or manipulated by others in his camp.

Go back and look at the initial photo in this blog. The man in the light colored jacket to Kim Jung Un’s far left. surfaces again.

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Here  he is leaning into Kim Jung Un shoulder to shoulder. It is very unusual for and leader’s underlings to be that physically close to a leader unless they are trying to control and manipulate them.  And look who is lurking in the background making sure things move smoothly. It looks like the man in photo 3 who is at Kim Jung Un’s far left.

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These minders even show up when Kim Jung Un is having a good time like hanging out with  for Chicago Bulls basketball player Dennis Rodman. Look at the third row. There is a man sitting next to a woman. That  heavy lidded man is the same man in photo 1 to Kim Jung Un’s far right. .

The “leader” seems very relaxed facially as we see him with Dennis Rodman. He also likes Dennis a lot as he leans into him.

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He hugs Dennis with both hands and smiles as he lets his emotional curtain down. It is quite a contrast to his body language around his minders, at least facially.

This leads me to question whether Kim Jung Un is a mere puppet for his father’s regime. While his father Kim Jun Il certainly knew how to push the envelope on the world stage. He also knew when to back off. He was clearly in control as was his father who previously ran the country. But now there seems to be more aggression and more hostility. Is this coming from Kim Jung Un or the military men around him who are clearly controlling his every move based on thee body language observations.

So these old men may look at it as their turn to take charge now that Kim Jung Il is dead. Are they doing it though Kim Jun Il’s inexperienced and frightened son?

To make sure this is the case Dennis Rodman may come in handy . Since Rodman’s visit with the leader, he spoke to the press and told the press how much he liked Kim Jung Un and how he would consider him a friend.

Perhaps Dennis can visit  his friend again and this time observe what is really going on behind the scenes and report it to diplomats. Perhaps he can even  reciprocate and invite the leader to the US to see a basketball game. But most likely his handlers would nix the idea. if they do, this will be a great insight as to who is  really in charge.

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With  all  the  rhetoric of war and attacks surfacing, seeing the same serious faced uniformed men around this 29 year old makes one wonder whether he is really in control or whether he is merely a puppet being manipulated by the old guard. Perhaps his own life is in jeopardy as well.Perhaps he knows what will happen to him if he doesn’t do as they wish.

Kim Jung Un apparently grew up in Switzerland and  is highly educated. He very well knows that war could be the end of him and his country despite the bravado and comical   propaganda tapes against the West which have recently surfaced. These tapes show a lot of soldiers marching and bombs going off as they tell how they are going to annihilate the West and South Korea. The tapes also show how poor America is with it’s inhabitants having nothing to eat but snow. Because of his awareness of the outside world, there is no way Kim Jung Un could possibly believe this.

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He may be a prisoner in his own land with the real powers that be  most likely manipulating his every move. This makes things even more scary between North Korea and the world. These old men  from his father’s regime who are not worldly and  who have nothing to lose may think nothing of trying to blow up South Korea and other parts of the world.

 

Besides lots of prayer, Dennis Rodman may be the answer. In his interviews he mentioned that Kim Jung Un wanted President Obama to call him. But there is hesitation because things at this level need to go through proper diplomatic channels. I say, forget the formality and the proper protocol and rules.

I believe President  Obama needs to call him and invite him here and talk some sense into him. Kim Jung Il needs to be away from his minders. Perhaps world peace could be achieved on a basketball court  at the White House with Obama, Kim Jung Un, and Dennis Rodman playing on the same team.

Obama was NOT Being Rude or Disrespectful to Newly Elected Mexican President Nieto

 

 

I did a radio interview with Dan Cruz on Clear Channel radio who was concerned about the allegations by the press that Obama was rude to newly elected President of Mexico  Edgar Pena Nieto when he recently visited the White House.

I assured Mr. Cruz that this was NOT the case. President Obama was NOT being rude to the new President of Mexico. In fact Obama actually appeared to like President Nieto as indicated by Obama’s body language.

It shows that there are too many armature body language experts out there and over zealous journalists looking for a story and trying to make a mountain out of a molehill as they misinterpret body language and communication signals.

While it is true that Obama didn’t initially look directly at Neito when he spoke to him at the press conference, it did not mean that he didn’t like Nieto. The fact that Obama’s legs and toes were pointed in Neito’s direction showed that he did indeed like the newly elected President of Mexico.

His not looking at Nieto while speaking could have been attributed to the fact that he was looking and speaking directly to the translator as you can see in the photo above.


 When Obama spoke you could see that he appeared to be absolutely exhausted based on his facial appearance and body demeanor. The fact that he was slunched over and  reported to be “too casual”  in his meeting with Nieto by critics may be explained as mere exhaustion as you can see int he photo above.

There were several occasions where Obama looked down and appeared to be ready for a nap rather than a meeting. And who can blame him after a grueling Presidential race that was neck and neck. 

AS Obama listened to what he said in English translated back into Spanish  by the interpreter it appeared that he had his mind elsewhere as you can see int his photo. While he does not face President Neito directly at this point , you can see how his crossed leg does point in Nieto;s direction. Neito not he other hand is listing intently to the translation.

But when Nieto speaks it is  different story. Obama has direct eye contact with him and listens intently. Obama is   also often seen nodding his head in agreement when Neito speaks. Obama’s body is turned towards Nieto as though he is open and receptive to him.

So once again, it goes to show you that you can’t always believe what you read or what you see for that matter unless you understand the nuances of body language analysis.If you can’t to lean the nuances I suggest you get my latest book on amazon called  The Body Language Advantage which gives away all my body language reading secrets.


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Broken Relationships, Mean Girls,Toxic People Fallout From Presidential Campaign Need Healing

The Presidential Election is finally over and President Barack Obama has been elected to a second term.  Even though I did an inordinate amount of press for it from numerous Associated Press interviews to appearing on  CNBC, to the Daily Show, Good Day LA, Geraldo, Mancow and countless radio shows across the country concerning the body language of the debaters and wrote extensive blogs on the candidates as well, I too share the sentiments of the precious little girl who went viral on youtube who was crying .

She was crying because  she was sick of  “Bronco Bama and Mitt Rom men nee. “No doubt she was sick of the hatred and ugliness she was hearing  on TV or on the radio, or perhaps from her  from her parents  and others when discussing their candidate.

While I honor that everyone has their own political views, I can assure you that  my intention  during my national interviews and in my blogs were  to never be political.I am not a political person or a political analyst. I just report what I observe from a body language standpoint. That is the truth coming from my own mouth. So when people have commented that I am partisan they are wrong as I support no party and have no agenda.

Even though I repeatedly stated this, several  refused to accept that and  subsequently spewed forth their own political beliefs via their  comments. Many went on a diatribe and leveled personal attacks which were uncalled for.

What was most shocking to me was that the ones who made the most TOXIC comments  and leveled the most vitriol were acquaintances whom I barely knew who  came out of  the woodwork.  One  such commenter was so hateful and vitriolic that my fans on my facebook page turned against her in my defense.  Apparently this  woman turned out to  be someone whom I hadn’t spoken to since I was 8 years old in the 3rd grade and whom I  only remembered  as a frizzy haired child with a strange looking  mole on her face who liked to color.

While  she was certainly free to express her opinions, when she decided  to make personal attacks  on me , especially  after I  repeatedly told  this obviously not very bright woman based on the  illogical thought patterns she expressed  and her refusal to accept that my site was not a political site.  She continued to make  personal attacks  until I told her that she was no longer welcome and blocked her from Facebook.

Next, a highly Toxic woman whom I  barely knew or  spoke to in high school but  whom I met decades later as a result of my high school reunion,  took  it  upon herself to defend  the  now grown up frizzy haired girl who was in my  3rd grade class .These two  were obviously friends who shared the same political beliefs. When I tried to once again reassure the Toxic  woman whom I was reaquainted with as a result of my high school reunion that my blogs and television and radio appearances were my observations about the candidate’s body language , she too  began to unload personal attacks until I blocked her from my Facebook account as well.

She even went to far as telling me that she, and the now grown up frizzy haired girl with whom I hadn’t spoken to since 3rd  grade, as well as a third woman- a former high school jock, (whom I  hadn’t spoken to since high school) all discussed me and came ot the conclusion that  thought that “all my fame went to my head”  and that I have turned into  a  vapid “talking head” on television.   With comments like that , it is obvious  this  Mean Girl is still mentally stuck in high school mode.

But what she intended  as  a mean cut was a actually a compliment  to me  as I am indeed  officially on the  media list as  a talking head and I  must say that I am proud of it. I should also share with you that this  Toxic woman  who made this comment  is the same woman who contacted me and  hit me up for advice about doing a television show  as she wanted to appear on camera.

Finally, a fourth woman with whom I had not spoken to since 7th grade gym class whom I only remember as having an unusually  deep hoarse voice  for  a 12 year old and who had  a very bad complexion at the time,  spewed forth her  own vitriol and made personal attacks as she chastised me for briefly  mentioning the above incident in a previous blog.

As I saw it, four  ugly  “Mean Girls’ – one from grade school,  one from junior high school, and  the  two  from high school, now  grew up and clearly  became  ugly  “Mean Women” in my view.

I certainly  am not the only one who has experienced this type of  Toxicity. There are a lot of people who turned into “Mean Women” and “Mean Men”  who   personally  attacked others they knew,  simply because they thought differently. There was no more “agreeing to disagree”  and still  maintaining  a sense of respect and dignity towards one another.

The vitriol was not only spewed  towards  remote insignificant acquaintances from the past as in my case, but  rather  with long time friends, work colleagues,  family members, and even spouses.

 

Many  saw other’s choices for a candidate as a reflection of their beliefs and personal issues. Tom, an Obama loving  gay man refused to ever speak to his  Romney supporting brother  Mike, (who  by the way was the only one  in his family who supported Tom  when he came out as being gay).  Tom said he could never look at anyone, including his own brother  who didn’t  support gay marriage like Obama did.

Another man, Ed  who was in ill health and supported Obama because of his Obamacare,  looked at his Romney supporting former best friend as a traitor who didn’t care about his friend’s heath.They haven’t spoken in months and  both never plan to speak again.

And  Jane, woman who  once had a daughter out of wedlock who’s daughter  grew up to become an attorney , will never speak to Lisa,  the Obama supporting  Godmother to her  lawyer daughter,  because Jane  is understandably,  vehemently opposed to abortion.

So when I was listened to a show on  NPR  (KPPC affiliate) discussing how once close  relationships have been destroyed over this election I listened carefully.The show told how families became divided over this election, refusing to speak to one another. One father kicked his son out of the house for not voting for Romney. One man who was interviewed on the show said that while his brother in law can come over he cannot partake and eat his barbecued cooking.

The NPR Affiliate in LA  also had another  show  about how Facebook friends  unfriended  one another due to political beliefs . They even   did a poll on it  where they found that people were indeed unfriended  others due to their political views and vice versa.

As I listened to the radio show detailing how specific relationships were so easily  tossed aside,  I thought that perhaps  these differences of opinions among so called friends may be an excuse to hang a hat on some true underlying negative feelings about the person.

Perhaps the man who wouldn’t  allow his brother in law to eat his barbecued  meat really never liked him in the first place. Perhaps the father who  kicked his  twenty something son out of the house, finally found an excuse to use  to stop his freeloading.

Maybe it was the tone of the debates  themselves which brought out people’s vitriol towards one another. How can we forget watching   the second debate where  the two candidates physically looked as though they were in a boxing ring as they circled one another in a threatening looking manner.

Perhaps it was the ugly campaign  ads  with personal attacks which added fuel to the fire  and  leaked  into our personal relationships with one another. Perhaps it was the last ditch efforts we all saw where PR scavengers like Gloria Alred  and Donald Trump were trying to dig up some nastiness and personal dirt  on the candidates, which turned out to be a dud in both cases.

Well now that the debates and campaigning  have ended, we need to heal.  We  not  only need to heal from the ugly words that infected our eyes and ears throughout this campaign.

We also  need to forgive and let go and make attempts to rekindle those once special relationships  we have  suddenly cast off.  Politics is not worth coming  between people who  once  loved and cared deeply  about one another . We need to so what we did before the election when our friends and relatives didn’t agree with us and that is to simply  “agree to disagree” and not ” throw the baby out with the bath water” or “cut off our nose to spite our face” as the expressions go.

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