A PHOTO AND A VIDEO ARE WORTH A MILLION WORDS
From my perspective as a body language and communication expert, I fairly call things as I see them. My comments are based on behaviors in people I have seen over time, in videos and in photographs. For those who think that you can’t tell anything by looking at one photo or one video, I beg to differ with you.
You certainly CAN tell a lot, A PHOTO especially of you have been properly trained and you have been doing it for over two decades as I have. In fact the FBI, uses video and photo analysis to analyze people’s behaviors. Sometime, they only have one photo or one video at their disposal.
I am also proud to say that I have even lectured to members of the FBI and other members of law enforcement on the topic of body language and communication, so I definitely know what I am speaking about in this regard.
YOU CAN TELL A LOT ABOUT KATE FROM HER PHOTOS AND VIDEOS
So, for those of you who are fans of Kate Gosselin and say that no one can tell about her from one photo like the one where she rudely, and aggressively and abusively in my opinion placed her hand over her son Colin’s mouth (and where there were a series of such photos), I can assure you that you can tell a lot.
You can tell even more about Kate and her behavior after looking at hundreds of videos and photos of Kate with her kids as I have. You can tell even more about Kate, now that Jon is out of the picture. When Kate has been out publicly with or without the kids, there has consistently appeared to be a lot of anger emanating from Kate’s face. She rarely looks happy, playful, light and joyful and always appears upset about something.
This analysis is made on her facial expression and muscle movements and body language. It is NOT based on her looks or dress or facial features or hairstyle. Body language analysis has NOTHING to do with these elements. It has ALL to do with BEHAVIORS and Kate’s negative behavior is reflected by her body language. That is a FACT.
I DO NOT HATE KATE
Kate and Jon’s body language analysis have NOT been made on whether I like them or not. When I have said anything about Kate’s egregious abusive behaviors at times (slapping and verbal abuse and anger) inevitably a few of Kate’s loyal and staunch fans, who in my view may also be abusers themselves if they so strongly identify with her abusive behavior, can’t see past it, and think it is OK) have wrongly accused me of “hating Kate”.
I can assure you this is NOT the case. I have provided my list of those I “hate” for you to see on several occasions. Kate is NOT on that list. Unless she becomes a terrorist, child molester, kidnapper, torturer, or rapist, or infringes my copyright or trademark or names her book the same name as one of my previous best- sellers like Toxic People TM, causing confusion in the marketplace, Kate Gosselin will never make my list.
My list is mainly reserved for monsters like Hitler, Amadinijad (the Iranian hate monger), Fritzl (the Austrian who impregnated his own daughter and kept her in a dungeon-like prison). So NEVER accuse me of hating Kate Gosselin because I do NOT hate Kate Gosselin, Those are my final words and you have heard it from MY mouth!
KATE MAY BE BEGINNING TO LEARN ABOUT KATE
One thing you will learn about me as you continue to read my blogs, is that I am fair minded, level headed, have self- respect, and I do not tolerate BS. I call it like a see it both positive and negative. I do not have an axe to grind, an agenda, nor am I am not jealous of anyone, or have anything to prove. Instead, I own and respect every part of me.
I have spent a lot of time and effort in my life learning about myself throughout the years. As a result, I am rather secure about who I am, my state of mind, background, physical appearance, personality, relationships, emotional makeup and know EVERYTHING I know about me – better than anyone else out there.
Kate, it seems may be just beginning to look at herself, which I applaud. This is a VERY GOOD thing. I would like to think that perhaps my blogs may have been a catalyst for her or her handlers to take a closer look at her behaviors. I certainly hope so, for the sake of those 8 precious kids.
KATE GIVING KISSES WHEN THE KIDS HOPPED OUT ON THE VAN- PERHAPS THE START OF A CHANGE FOR THE BETTER
One week to the day where Kate was upset at Colin for dragging up his coat of the ground, not looking pleasant or happy as she picked her kids up from school
and abusively putting her hand over Colin’s mouth. There was a dramatic change in Kate’s behavior, as she dropped them off to school in the wee hours of the morning.
Even though she still has a serious and unpleasant facial expression, devoid of smiles and warmth, she did something that we should have seen her do a lot more of over the past five years- kissing her children and giving them affection.
KATE DOLING OUT AFFECTION IN THE EARLY MORNING
This is one of the RARE times we have seen Kate KISS and hug her children (except for the perfunctory Birthday kisses she gave each one at their 5 year birthday Party ). Perhaps she herself, read my last blog calling her on her abusive behavior. Perhaps someone may have shared my last blog with her where I said the following:
“She needs to get on her knees every day and say a huge thank you to good Lord above for giving her physically healthy, bright, and beautiful children.
What goes along with that prayer of gratitude must be her actions towards those wonderful innocent children. She needs to treat them with the respect and dignity they deserve.”
I would like to think that perhaps my words resonated in Kate’s mind, since the timing of her kissing ALMOST ALL of the children as they hopped out of the van, is uncanny.
Of course little Mady, one of the twins (the one who called Kate “mean” and with whom Kate has appeared to have the most issues,
and little Aden
and Joel all ran off the bus as quickly as possible sans kisses and hugs.
But later Aden returned and got a kiss from Kate.
The little girls who were dressed alike in pink with brown polka dot pants all got kisses.
Even Colin, the one who’s mouth she put her hand over a week earlier, got a kiss on the head
and Cara got a hug from Kate
That is HUGE! And in my opinion a GREAT START! I hope she does this not just when camera’s are rolling and papps are out in full force. Kate now needs to find inner joy in her kisses to the kids and eliminate that sourpuss expression when she does it. She needs to smile and show the love, to go along with her kisses and hugs which kids so desperately need for their emotional development.
IS KATE UNDERGOING ANGER MANAGEMENT CLASSES ?
One of the things the papp yelled out as he was shooting the photos of Kate getting out of the van to let the kids out, caused my ears to perk up. He asked Kate the following question, “ Are you mad that you’ve gotta take anger management?“
Now I don’t know if the papp asked that question to provoke Kate, which papps have been known to in order to get a specific reaction shot, or if he was privy to some information that Kate may indeed be undergoing anger management classes.
If that is the case, I say good for her and that it is about time. She definitely needs it. The throwing things, consistent meltdowns, slapping, and verbal abuse we all saw for the past five seasons show that these anger management classes may very well help her and will definitely help the kids.
KATE’S NEW TV SHOW
Maybe TLC put her into anger management classes . Maybe they are working on remaking her inside as well as her outside as evidenced by the $7,000 hair weave they gave her. Perhaps they are helping her to get rid of all of her inner anger before she starts her new show for them.
TLC announced last week that her new show is scheduled for the spring or summer. Like it or not, Kate will have her own television show. I really don’t fault Kate with trying to earn money to support her huge family, since she is in essence, the only breadwinner these days, while
Jon runs around town with his new lady, a little over a decade older than his twins Cara and Mady at the Sundance Film Festival.
KATE MUST CHANGE HER INSIDE BEFORE SHE CAN BE A SUCCESS AT ANY SHOW
If a TV reality show is the easiest way for Kate to make a buck to support those wonderful kids, I say why not? She cannot afford to stay home and be a full time mom, as she has to shoulder the finances, thanks to Jon.
I also believe that as long as she is attentive to the kids and addresses their physical and emotional needs why shouldn’t she have a career she enjoys.
But if she plans to have a career on television that will last for any length of time and TLC is going to do it, and allow her to be on a show where she has flexibility in her schedule, unlike DWTS which is a rigorous schedule, like I said before TLC MUST invest in helping get her a makeover on her inside besides her outside.
No one cares about hair extensions or a new look. No one will ever want to watch a show with a person who exhibited the characteristics she showed during the past five seasons and on her two TLC specials and on all the talk shows on which she appeared, the fake tears, over the top exaggerated claims, the sarcasm, the snarkiness, the abusive behaviors, the self absorption, the narcissism, the self-entitlement, and the lack of gratitude, not to mention the embarrassing lack of talent she showed on her skits on Leno. It WON’T fly!
TLC’s IDEA OF KATE’S NEW SHOW WHERE SHE TRIES DIFFERENT PROFESSION HAS ALREADY BEEN DONE ON E! WITH NICOLE RICHIE AND PARIS HILTON
First, there was talk in the media where Kate was getting her extensions to have a sexier look as TLC was going to do a show to help her find a new man. Unless Kate works on her inside, it will be a futile attempt.
Unless she works on her anger (which takes time) and many of the traits described earlier, no man will look at her unless he is equally as self- absorbed and a Toxic opportunist who wants his 15 minutes of fame. I think TLC was wise enough to figure that out as well.
But I don’t believe they were wise enough to do what they are planning to as they announced this past week and give her a show where she will try different professions. It’s a lame idea for her and will not work in my view.
It’s an idea that was done years earlier by E! when they put Paris Hilton and Nichole Richie in different jobs. It worked then because it was Paris Hilton and Nichole Richie and they had IT- personality and charisma and humor combined with talent. This same concept with Kate Gosselin at the helm, will fail miserably simply because she does not have IT!
UNFORTUNATELY KATE DOES NOT HAVE “IT”
I know a lot about IT! I have seen IT in my two decades of practice when I helped actors become the best they could become in terms of their vocal and speaking skills.
When an actor walked into through the doors of my office and we worked together, I learned to immediately tell who had IT and who would become a big star. As conceited or arrogant as it may sound, truth is, I can honestly say, I was NEVER wrong about who had IT!
I saw IT, in now super stars Andy Garcia, Nicholas Cage, Marlee Matlin, Rob Lowe, and Melanie Griffith just to name a few, well before they made it big. I saw how they had IT and told them that one day they would make it to the top.
I saw IT with many of the newscasters and entertainment reporters you see today on popular television morning, evening, entertainment, and shows today, well before they made it. I saw that they had IT and told them so.
I even saw it with Nancy Grace when I was a constant guest on her Court TV show back in NYC. Because we spent so much time together on the set, I told her that one days he would be a HUGE STAR because she had IT! I am proud to say she did make it- HUGE and no one could be more deserving!
Just as I can tell who has IT, I can tell who does NOT have IT. I am sorry to say Kate Gosselin does NOT have IT.
Kate was lucky to have had a show featuring her children. The appeal was watching the kids grow. The appeal was not Kate. She was NOT a breakout star like little Snooki is on MTV’s the Jersey Shore.
I would think that little Mady is was more the breakout star of Jon and Kate Plus 8 . She had vim and vigor and charisma. Even though she was upset at Kate a lot and hungered for attention, she seemed to naturally be in her element when they took modeling photos of her.
WHY KATE IS GETTING HER OWN SHOW
So now with all the hoopla that surrounded the Jon and Kate Plus 8 show and Jon pulling the plug on it, TLC wants to make back some lost revenue, so they are giving her, her own “itless” show minus Jon and the kids since, he pulled the plug.
I can guarantee you that if all of that hoopla between her and Jon had not gone down, causing her considerable name recognition, no one would ever give this woman a show because they would clearly see that she doesn’t have IT. Any producer or any suit worth his weight knows she is ONLY getting a show because of name recognition and lost revenues.
TLC has been scrambling with what type of show to give IT’less, name recognizable, Kate, who is known only because they put her on every TV show to discuss her divorce woes. They tried to build up her TV cue by having her co-host the View and appear on the Today Show and Leno and the Barbara Walters special not to mention every magazine cover on the newsstand.
They knew the dating show wouldn’t work, so they resurrected MTV’s concept and put her into a show where she will experience different professions like Paris and Nicole did. That show worked because of Nichole’s wit and humor and Paris’ glamor and hotness, garnering a lot of male viewers. But to put Kate in that same type of show is ridiculous in my view.
MY VIEW OF THE SHOW KATE SHOULD HAVE THAT WOULD WORK
If TLC is intent on doing a reality show with Kate that will last and that people will want to watch, name recognition certainly isn’t enough. I think a show where Kate gets a TOTAL IMAGE MAKEOVER FROM THE INSIDE OUT would be a huge hit!
Everyone seems to like makeover shows, so why not makeover Kate?
The fact that Kate is showing some love and affection towards her kids is a good start in my opinion. They can show the “before and afters” of how Kate was harsh with the kids and how she is now more loving and affectionate.
WATCHABLE EPISODES OF THE NEW AND IMPROVED KATE GOSSELIN TOTAL IMAGE MAKEOVER REALITY SHOW
The premise of Kate’s new show as I see it would be to watch her transform from this angry, hostile, self- absorbed, snarky, sarcastic self entitled woman to a kin, loving, and generous, selfless person with a lot of heart.
1.Perhaps we can see how she unselfishly devises a plan to raise money for the kids in Haiti and even travels over there to help out, donating some of her kids used toys and clothing to the children in Haiti.
2.Perhaps we can see an episode where she resurrects her relationship with her parents so that the kids can have grandparent contact.
3. Another episode could include her brother and Aunt Jodi kiss and makeup session.
4.Then there can be other episodes where she repair all the damage she created with others she alienated.
5.We can watch how Kate struggles with getting rid of her anger and all her demons. We can even watch her in Anger Management Classes . Now that is compelling Television!
6.We can watch her use her nursing skills and volunteer, giving some love and affection to some elderly people at a nursing home. She could even bring them cookies her kids made for them and watch them smile and make their day.
7.We could see her at a pet shelter volunteering there and see how she breaks down when she learns about animal abuse and puppy mills. We can evens see her feeling so badly about what she did by giving her two German Shepherds away that she can now retrieve them and let them be a part of her now happy home. With all the money she will make from her new show she can even hire a special babysitter for the dogs so they won’t be an added burden to her.
7.We can watch her go into orphanages and love up some of those kids who need affection and give them some of her kids used and outgrown clothing and toys. We can watch her develop more love and tolerance with these parentless kids.
8.We can also watch her in a pediatric ward with AIDS and drug addicted babies where she can hold them and feed them and attend to them so that she can think twice whenever she gets angry enough at one of her own children to stick her hand over their mouth.
9.We can see how Kate takes workshops and seminars on self –development to help affect a more positive change in her life. That would even be inspiring to others.
10.We can see and episode where we revisit the place where Kate grew up and went to school and how she felt growing up. We can trace back where her anger and “meaness” and self- absorption and self entitlement came from. That would, no doubt, be an emotion filled episode
11.We can watch her in therapy with Dr. Phil. He will tell it like it is. He won’t stick up for her. He will tell her what she has done wrong in the past and what she needs to do now. That would be compelling TV as well.
12.Then we can watch her start to get attention from men and go on a date. We can see her fears and hear what so many others go through when they begin to date after never having dated in years. We can see how she messes up on the date and what she learns from it.
13.We can see her get more spiritual and perhaps even go back to church and see the positive impact that has on her.
Throughout the show we can watch footage that allows us to see Kate grow. Since TLC owns all the footage to Jon and Kate Plus 8 we can see a lot of before and afters of how she handled things then and how she handles then now.
Now my treatment of Kate’s new possible show takes us through an entire season of 13 weeks. I’ll bet if they followed my treatment it would be a huge it! It would be great to see a show like this where Kate could inspire others and not upset so many viewers as she has in the past.