John Podesta Body Language Shows Extreme Nervousness In Talking to CNN’s Jake Tapper Regarding Latest Hillary Clinton Email Probe

Usually John Podesta is cool, calm, and collected, but he was the complete  opposite when speaking to  CNN’s  Jake Tapper about Hillary Clinton’s lated Email Probe by FBI Director James Comey. He used a lot of uh’s, breathed audibly, had a higher pitched voice, and lots of lip licking.

First and foremost, Podesta constantly peppered almost every utterance peppered with numerous “uh”‘s. That is a clear indication that he is nervous  and anxious about what he is saying.

We also hear a lot of audible breathing which indicates there are respiratory changes and that his autonomic nervous system is kicking in. That too indicates that his body is going into overdrive in dealing with his anxiety over the Hillary email issue.

Next, the pitch of his voice is higher than usual, indicating that there is a lot of tension in his vocal muscles- something  that often occurs when someone is tense and nervous. When he yelled out to Jake , “Do you know that? Do you know that?” his voice was extremely high and there was a pitch break in his voice ,which further illustrated vocal tension as Jake let it be known that the evidence is known based on  the report by the CNN Justice correspondent.


As you can see in the photo above the  muscle tension is also in Podesta’s lower jaw area which indicated anxiety and nervousness.


His  lip licking was prevalent throughout the interview, which is further indication that his autonomic nervous system was kicking in. His dry mouth or cotton mouth was due to his saliva drying up as he spoke, and hence his constant lip licking. This further illustrates his nervousness.

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His mouth was so dry that his lips seemed to be stuck to the inner mucosa of his mouth, further indicating that his autonomic nervous system was in overdrive.

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His breathing then became more shallow and his speaking less fluid and more  choppy  as he spoke and attempted to defend his position.And finally he continues to stammer and stumbles over words use a lot of uh’s, which to not add to his credibility when he speaks on the subject.

The conclusion is that Podesta who usually appears as being non-flappable  and in control when he is interviewed  by the media

was  the complete opposite in this interview. Here he is clearly  very nervous and anxiety ridden over the new probe into Hillarry’s emails by the FBI where 650,000 emails are now being examined.


Justice Ruth Bader Ginsberg’s  Inappropriate Trump Statements and Passive-Aggressive Non Apology – Removal? 

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This is not a political blog nor am I expressing any political opinion or bias.  As a Body Language and Communication expert, I remain objective and  report what I see from a body language standpoint and what I hear from a communication standpoint.

When Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsberg weighed in with her political opinion and called Presidential Candidate Donald Trump “a faker,” I was shocked by her  very poor judgement. She said , “I can’t imagine what a country would be with Donald Trump as our president. I don’t even want to contemplate that.”  She also said  “A faker…He has no consistency about him. He says whatever comes into his head at the moment.” 

Her political statement was of great concern to me as I  wondered if this lapse in judgement also affected her ability to be a judge on the Supreme Court and remain unbiased in any of her other decisions.

How could this woman decide on anything that may involve him in the future without being biased?  How will she  conduct herself  should he be elected the next President? What if there was a close  race and something took place like it did with the Florida election recount in 200o with the  Bush and Gore election, where the US Supreme Court  with final ruling, stopped a recount that had been proposed by the Florida Supreme Court ultimately landing in Bush’s favor?  If something similar happened in this election, could she remain unbiased? Would she show more  favor towards Hillary Clinton?

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Another thought I had was whether she was “losing” it or showing signs of dementia. After all these years on the court ,she knows the rules both written and unwritten rules. She knows how to conduct herself and clearly knows that no judge should ever weigh in with their political views. So when Donald Trump responded by saying Ginsberg was ‘ losing it and must be removed from the Supreme Court.”   the same thing crossed my mind.

She knew exactly what she was doing with regard to expressing her feelings about Trump. After all, she did three separate interviews  about him with news organizations since last week.

Then she received harsh backlash on both sides of the political fence. Democrats and Republicans alike, chastised her and were very upset about what she said in the media. Even Speaker Paul Ryan said that her behavior was inappropriate. Of course she regretted her statement when everyone was against her statement.

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Trump  said  that Ginsberg’s comments were “Highly inappropriate and a disgrace to the court.” He then called for  Ginsburg to resign, tweeting “Justice Ginsburg of the U.S. Supreme Court has embarrassed all by making very dumb political statements about me. Her mind is shot – resign!”

No matter what your political beliefs, Trump demanded an apology and rightfully so. Had Ginsberg said the same thing about Hillary, it would be and equally inappropriate comment coming from a Supreme Court Judge.

She didn’t apologize to Trump. Instead, a statement was  issued by the court’s public information office, that Ginsburg seemed to agree with the criticism and was reported to have said that she regretted  her statement.

The statement said ” On reflection, my recent remarks in response to press inquiries were ill-advised and I regret making them,” “Judges should avoid commenting on a candidate for public office. In the future I will be more circumspect.”

The key word here is “ill advised.”  It indicates she is not holding herself accountable but rather blaming someone else for their ill advice to her. That is very telling in that it is a passive-aggressive action.  In making this statement, she is trying to take the onus off of her and place it on someone else  who “ill advised” her. Who was that person who ill advised her? Was it someone in the Clinton campaign? Was it Hillary? Was it a fellow Supreme Court Justice? Was it a family member? Was it one of her  young law clerks? WAs it her hairdresser?

Saying that you regret  your statement is a non-apology. It is very passive-aggressive behavior. Had it been heartfelt, she would have not had the public information office sent out the statement for damage control. Instead, she would have done a presser and appeared throughout the media, just like  she willingly  appeared when she made her scathing comments about Donald Trump on three different media appearances. So clearly, it was a non-heartfelt apology and PR  spin control.

Her statement in my view is a big enough breach of public trust that she should be removed from the Supreme Court or she should resign. Political tensions are high enough without her added fuel to the fire.


People already have concerns and criticisms over James Comey and the FBI’s handling of the State Department email situation. In fact the FBI’s credibility was called into question by many. Attorney General Loretta Lynch’s refusal to answer questions directly and speak in double talk also made many question her motives and for many her behavior  instilled a lack of confidence in the Justice Department. Many believed that it supported people’s beliefs that the system was rigged. Now,  Ruth Bader Ginsberg’s comments added one more reason why so many people may be losing trust in the system and may feel that the system is rigged in favor of one political candidate over another.

This is a nation who uses a system of checks and balances where all three branches of the government are checked and balance by the others. How can this occur if someone in one of those branches is completely prejudiced and biased?

Supreme Court justices should not insert themselves into the elections and communicate about these matters. In fact, the judicial ethics forbids judges from endorsing or speaking about candidates and that includes the highest court in the land. That is why so many are calling for her resignation from the bench.

Once again, there is no political bias here as I would have done the same blog had Hillary demanded an apology and not received it from Judge Ginsberg.




Brussels Bombing: BODY LANGUAGE OF TERRORISTS book can help save your life

Today I woke up to the news that there was a suicide bombing at the American Airlines Desk at the Brussels airport and at one of  the city’s metro stations, killing at least 31 people and wounding dozens.The  suicide bomber left behind the chilling scene of splattered blood in the departure lounge as windows were blown out, ceilings collapsed and travelers streamed out of the smoky building. About an hour later, another bomb exploded on a rush-hour subway train near the European Union headquarters.

Terrified passengers had to evacuate through darkened tunnels to safety. In light of these latest  horrible events, there is no question that  people need to know how they can protect themselves. That is why they must arm themselves with the knowledge of what to look for in terms of those who may commit these terrorist  acts of violence. This is why I urge everyone to read the book  Body Language Of Terrorists   Continue reading

San Bernadino Terrorist Sayed Farouk’s ‘Nervous’ Body Language Foretold His Actions

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With regard to the recent terrorist Sayed Farouk who along with a woman terrorist and another male terrorist, killed and wounded close to 30 people at a holiday party in Bakersfield, a  man who had been working in the Redlands  area said he noticed a half-dozen Middle Eastern men in the area in recent weeks  around the area.  There was something about these men that bothered him. Later he told reporters that he felt suspicious about these men and their behavior. But he decided to mind his own business. At first he wanted to report them to law enforcement, but later he decided not to report anything. The reason he decided to keep his mouth shut  was  that he did not want to be accused of being a “racist “or be accused of  racially profiling those people.

Had he trusted his instincts, not worried about being politically correct or being called a “racist” and said something to authorities perhaps Sayed Farouk, who along with a woman terrorist and another male terrorist, would not have killed and wounded close to 30 people at a holiday party in Bakersfield.

The lesson here is that if you see something that doesn’t sit well with you, say something. That is the message that Homeland Security has pounded away at in their advertising . Actor James Woods said something to the pilots and stewardesses when he unknowingly sat near the 911 terrorists who were doing a test run. Sometimes, saying something is not enough. You have to do something like the brave people did who subdued the shoe bomber and  the underwear bomber and most recently the would be train bomber in Paris

Terrorism  is real! It is here to stay around the world!   It can happen anywhere, just like it happened in  Bakersfied, California. This incident  has closed the minds of previously open- minded people  in welcoming people crossing our  boarders.

But it is not just immigrants crossing  the  boarders. It is citizens living among us doing things like you and me. They are  living in our neighborhoods and going to the same schools, going to the same shopping centers and  attending the same schools as our children. They may even sit near us, just as Mr. Farouk sat near many of his innocent colleagues  at the Health Department where he worked for several years.

The one thing that stood out with Sayed Farouk before he left the holiday party and secured his two colleagues dressed in black battle gear to shoot up a room of  innocent people, was that he was  reported to look very “nervous”.  Without any ammunition  in his hands he appered fidgety and nervous for no reason.  He appeared  sweaty in an air conditioned room. Many survivors reported that he  also looked very nervous andagitated.This is typical of  those who are ready to commit acts of terror. What has happened is that their autonomic nervous system is kicking in before they do something egregious.

This is one of the key body language signals of a terrorist – being  in an anxiety ridden or nervous  state. I along with  my co- author D. Vincent Sullivan, former FBI Special Agent  discuss this in our book “A Guide to Identifying Terrorists Thru Body Language”

Apparently Sayed left the party  in this nervous and agitated state. It was so jarring that many of the survivors reported it. Had many of the partygoers known that this was an extreme danger sign, many would have left the premises immediately for fear Sayed would return and do something drastic, which he did.

There are body language signs which may give away important clues as to whether or not someone is going to do harm to you. My co-author who was a member of the FBI Joint Terrorist Force and Head of the Behavioral Analysis Program at the FBI can vouch for this.

That is why you MUST read out book. There is no question in our minds and in the minds of those who have read our book that  can help save your life! No one is safe any longer! You MUST know how to recognize the body language signals of any potential terrorist threat.


Body Language of the two Boston Terrorists


Former Special Agent D. Vincent Sullivan who was also head of the FBI’s behavioral Analysis Program and I teamed up to write the book Body Language of Terrorists which we highly recommend especially during these days of terror. The book tells you how to recognize terrorists and those who are involved in nefarious and malicious acts.

In the book we tell you about the terrorists body language, facial language, voice patterns and speech communication patterns which are red flags that these people may be up to no good. Our research is based on countless hours of studying the body language behaviors and speech and voice patterns of numerous terrorists from Chechnya’s Doku Umarov to the 911 bombers to the homegrown terrorists, to the Underwear bomber, the Shoe Bomber, and  others to numerous to name.

For the past few days we have been doing a great deal of national  media discussing the findings in our book and analyzing the body language of these two Boston terrorists.

In this blog we will share our findings about these terrorists based on the FBI’s video’s and photos of now deceased 26 year old Tamerlan  and now captured  19 year old  Dzhokhar Tsarnaev.


This surveillance photo of Tamerian is very revealing. It shows that he is wearing a heavy jacket which was not weather appropriate.It was also buttoned or zipped  up when the weather  did not warrant it.  The jacket is also is oversized. You can tell by the sleeves and by the waist  that it is a bit  large for him. Oftentimes terrorists will wear bulky clothing in order to hide something like weapons. Her he is carrying the bomb backpack and he is patting his abdominal area. This is often seen when terrorists wear suicide vests, which was the case with Tamerian.


Tamerian has now opened his jacket exposing his tee shirt. There seems to be a dark vest-like garment under the tee shirt which was the suicide vest as was discovered after he was killed by police in a shootout. He is trying to be inconspicuous and also disguise his identity with sunglasses and with the bill of his hat covering his face.

His brother Dzhokhar  is seen following him wearing a white hat with the bill in back, exposing his facial identity, He is also clutching his mid section and continued to do so throughout his walking in back of his brother. Terrorists have often been seen clutching their mid sections when they are trying to conceal a weapon, which was the case with Dzhokhar.

Note that these two terrorists are walking single file. This behavior was also seen with the 911 terrorists. They do this to disguise the fact that they are together but their single file approach is actually a red flag that they are indeed together.

Numbness, Anger, Fear and Anxiety are the 4 types of emotions which are often exhibited on terrorist’s faces.  Numbness may be due to drugs as was the case with the Mumbai  terrorists. Anxiety can also occur in their body language manifested by excess movements of the arms and legs and rapid speech patterns.


Gilbert Junior who is an auto body repairman reported to the press that Tamerian was very agitated and anxious as he demanded to have his car back even though the work on it wasn’t finished. He remarked that his anxiety displayed in his body movements  were in marked contrast to his demeanor at other times.


When the 19 year old brother in the white cap walks in back of his older brother you see him looking to the right and then  to the left as though he is concerned about anyone noticing him. This  behavior is often seen in terrorists.

ImageThe FBI Photos of these two brothers reveal facial nuances which many terrorists can exhibit. Once again we see the slack jaw  and slightly opened mouth of Tamerian now wearing a black hat and sunglasses to disguise and hide  his appearance . Tis facial expression may also indicate the fear he is experiencing as his autonomic nervous system has taken over his body functions.

In contrast there is a  mask-like smile on the face of his brother Dzhokhar. We saw a similiar facial expression on the Mumbai bombers. Dzhokhar has no concern about disguising himself as he wears his cap backwards and weears no sunglasses. Perhaps there is some arrogance displayed by this behavior. Perhaps he believes at this point  he will not get caught.

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There have been many comments from family members and friends  that these two young men were very bright an they were good boys. Those who knew the young men were shocked that they could ever be involved in such a nefarious act. But this is not at all surprising. There were many young Somalian men in their late teens in Minnesota who were  excellent  students and who were headed to Ivy league schools upon graduating from high schools. But they took a trip to a Jihadist training camp after being recruited and brainwashed and they returned to the US with the intention of committing acts of terror.

Thank goodness Anwar Alawaki is no longer alive as he was one of the top recruiters of young men to encourage them to carry out  exactly the same acts that these two Boston terrorists did.But there are other  Alawakai type recruiters who prey on confused young men like Tamerian and Djhokher.

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It was revealed by Tarian’s aunt that he dropped out of school. Obviously his boxing career wasn’t doing as well as he expected . He committed a huge sin for a Muslim man as he had premarital sex and a baby , now age 3, with his Portuguese girlfriend . He was conflicted and lived a conflicted life. So he sought refuge in Al Qaeda which fueled his hatred towards a country and it’s people that gave him every opportunity for freedom and to make  a success out of his life.  Now he has no life. he is dead.


While this photo shows  gruesome body language , it shows the brutal  shocking  reality of what can happen to  someone who becomes a terrorist.  In our view, all  potential terrorists need to see what can happen to them if they succumb to the influence of others and try to carry out terrorist acts. There is no place in heaven for them and they will never  meet up with the 72 virgins. There is only agonizing pain and death as it was for the  once promising Tamerian. Now his body language shows the horror of his being a lifeless corpse riddled with bullet holes and livor mortis as his blood poured to the surface of his skin.

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His 19 year old brother  was also riddled with bullets. This once promising student who wanted to be a doctor is now being treated by doctors in an attempt to save his life so that he can provide more information about who was behind this bombing tragedy.

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Who knows how he will emerge from his surgeries. He will have a lifetime of  pain and torture from his injuries and from his upcoming trials. Massachusetts  does not have the death penalty. So at 19 he will never again see the light of day. He will never experience the freedom that this country offered him. He will never live his dream of becoming a doctor.Even though he may still be breathing, his young life has ended  just like  his older brother’ s life has ended.

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Adam Lanza’s TOXIC Mother is To Blame For Sandy Hook Shootings


Now that we have processed the fact that twenty babies have died in an unnecessary act of violence, our emotions have turned to anger. With anger comes blame as many have spoken out about who they blame.

While the President and others have  blamed  assault weapons as the culprit and others blamed the  government for not having enough mental health programs, I put the blame where it belongs, on the mother. That’s right. Forget political correctness of not blaming the parents for their children’s actions. I strongly believe that this mother Nancy Lanza’s actions and non actions created this nightmare.

This Toxic mother’s denial, paranoia about doomsday, and her irresponsible behavior  ultimately caused 20 innocent  precious babies their lives and killed the hearts of anyone who knew these children, including their parents.


Adam Lanza was said to be suffering from Ausberger’s Syndrome- a form of autism along with many other behavioral and personality issues according to reports. But in my view it was not the Ausbergers syndrome that made him commit this heinous act.

In fact the medical examiner agrees with my line of thinking in that he consulted with the U of Connecticut’s genetics division to see if there was any identifiable genes that could explain this  this young man’s action.

Even if there is a genetic component found to Adam Lanza’s makeup that lead him to kill innocent people, my feelings are that it was exacerbated by the environment he was living in and  the actions of his mother .

As many have described him, he had issues relating to others, however one high school acquaintance described Adam Lanza  as being compassionate when that acquaintance was going through his own issues. So obviously that indicates that Adam was a very high functioning person with Ausperber’s syndrome. It shows that he knew right from wrong and had feelings towards others.

Adam was also said to have been very bright as he  attended college at the age of 16 and was a computer whiz. Evidence of his computer knowledge could be seen when the FBI and others could not fix the hard drive of his computer which he smashed.


This act alone shows me that this was a calculated act. He knew exactly what he was going to do and wanted to leave no trace of himself behind. The act of killing his mother while she was defenseless in her sleep speaks volumes. It reflects his deep deep hatred of her. Obviously he felt she was a negative controlling influence in his life when she was awake, so while she slept, he was the one on control over her life. He also preyed on others who  were defenseless – children.

He not only wanted to eradicate his mother, but anything associated with his mother such as her two “friends”- the high school principal and the school therapist, whom he shot and killed.

His anger towards his mother was not an overnight thing. There is no doubt she witnessed his rage towards her on a regular basis. In fact it must have become so bad that she apparently wanted to have him institutionalized and made legal steps to do so. This obviously didn’t sit well with her troubled son.


Her steps  at seeking help for her son were too little too late. She  no doubt must have spent her entire life with him in denial and the result of that was that she was shot in the face at close range by her enraged son.

The woman was apparently a survivalist. That is why she kept an arsenal of guns around herself and kept herself isolated. She didn’t share her feelings about her son with others. Instead she kept her son’s issues a secret and paid the ultimate price.

There is no doubt that her son who was with her 24/7 and had little or  no  productive outside interests, picked up on her paranoia that the world was coming to an end  or that there would be impending disaster to the point that she she had to have ammunition and  extreme firearms to defend herself.

It was reported according to the agents form the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco, Firearms, and Explosives, that the mother took her son to local firearm ranges to practice shoot their assault weapons.

This information is devastating. How can a mother allow a severely troubled son who has no doubt shown fits of rage from time to time, to even get near a gun?

How could she allow him to play with violent video and war games as officials have discovered. In fact FBI investigator Robert Paquette reported

“Many of these games are very, very violent. I can’t help but believe these can affect the minds of someone unbalanced.”

Apparently the mother did mention to an acquaintance that she was involving her son with firearms in order to teach him responsibility. This is obviously misguided thinking.

If she wanted to teach him responsibility, she needed to get him a pet hamster or a dog and make him responsible to feeding them, not give him firearms.

What is very telling is that her older 24 year old  son Ryan  had not been in touch with his mother for years. Perhaps their estrangement had something to do with the way she lived her life and isolated herself and her younger son.

But perhaps the most telling thing of all is that according to the Office of the Chief Medical Examiner, in Farmington, Connecticut was that neither her eldest son, 24 year old  Ryan Lanza  or no other family member had yet come forward to claim her body and the body of her troubled son Adam.

This lack of identifying and picking up her mutilated body shows that her family including her ex husband Peter Lanza, speaks volumes in that he  essentially  holds her as well as his own son Adam accountable for the deaths of these innocent children.

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May these 20 little souls rest in peace forever.

Does Kate Gosselin’s Body Language Say She’s Trying to Make A Positive Change? Kissing and Hugging Her Kids Seems Like A Good Start


From my perspective as a body language and communication expert, I fairly call things as I see them. My comments are based on behaviors in people  I have seen over time, in videos and in photographs. For those who think that you can’t tell anything by looking at one photo or one video, I beg to differ with you.

You certainly CAN tell a lot, A PHOTO especially of you have been properly  trained and  you have been doing it for over two decades as I have. In fact the FBI, uses video and photo analysis to analyze people’s behaviors. Sometime, they only have one photo or one video at their disposal.

I am also proud to say that I have even lectured  to members of the FBI and other members of law enforcement on the topic of body language and communication, so I definitely know what I am speaking about in this regard.


So, for those of you who are fans of Kate Gosselin and say that no one can tell about her from one photo like the one where she rudely, and aggressively and abusively in my opinion placed her hand over her son Colin’s mouth (and where there were a series of such photos), I can assure you that you can tell a lot.

You can tell even more about Kate and her behavior after looking at hundreds of videos and photos of Kate with her kids as I have. You can tell even more about Kate, now that Jon is out of the picture. When Kate has been out publicly with or without the kids, there has consistently appeared to be a lot of anger emanating from Kate’s face. She rarely looks happy, playful, light and joyful and always appears upset about something.

This analysis is made on her facial expression and muscle movements and body language. It is NOT based on her looks or dress or facial features or hairstyle. Body language analysis has NOTHING to do with these elements. It has ALL to do with BEHAVIORS and Kate’s negative behavior is reflected by her body language. That is a FACT.


Kate and Jon’s body language analysis have NOT been made on whether I like them or not.  When I have said anything about Kate’s egregious abusive behaviors at times (slapping and verbal abuse and anger) inevitably a few of Kate’s loyal and staunch fans, who in my view may also be abusers themselves if they so strongly  identify with her abusive behavior, can’t see past it, and think it is OK) have wrongly accused me of “hating Kate”.

I can assure you this is NOT the case.  I have provided my list of those I “hate” for you to see on several occasions.   Kate is NOT on that list.  Unless she becomes a terrorist, child molester, kidnapper, torturer, or rapist, or infringes my copyright or trademark or names her book the same name as one of my previous best- sellers like Toxic People TM, causing confusion in the marketplace, Kate Gosselin  will never make my list.

My list is mainly reserved for monsters like Hitler, Amadinijad (the Iranian hate monger), Fritzl (the Austrian who impregnated his own daughter and kept her in a dungeon-like prison). So NEVER accuse me of hating Kate Gosselin because I do NOT hate Kate Gosselin, Those are  my final words and you have heard it from MY mouth!


One thing you will learn about me as you continue to read my blogs, is that I am fair minded, level headed, have self- respect,  and I do not tolerate BS.  I call it like a see it both positive and negative. I do not have an axe to grind, an agenda,  nor am I am not jealous of anyone, or have anything to prove. Instead, I own and respect every part of me.

I have spent a lot of time  and effort in my life learning about myself throughout the years. As a result, I am rather secure about who I am, my state of mind, background, physical appearance, personality, relationships, emotional makeup and know  EVERYTHING I know about me –  better than anyone else out there.

Kate, it seems may be just beginning to look at herself, which I applaud. This is a VERY GOOD thing. I would like to think that perhaps my blogs may have been a catalyst for her  or her handlers to take a closer look at her behaviors. I certainly hope so, for the sake of those 8 precious kids.


One week to the day where Kate was upset at Colin for dragging up his coat of the ground, not looking pleasant or happy as she picked her kids up from school

and abusively putting her hand over Colin’s mouth. There was a dramatic change in Kate’s behavior, as she dropped them off to school in the wee hours of the morning.

Even though she still has a serious and unpleasant facial expression, devoid of smiles and warmth, she did something that we should have seen her do a lot more of over the past five years- kissing her children and giving them affection.


This is one of the RARE times we have seen Kate KISS and hug  her children (except for the perfunctory Birthday kisses she gave  each one at their 5 year birthday Party ). Perhaps she herself, read my last blog calling her on her abusive behavior. Perhaps someone may have shared my last blog with her where I said the following:

“She needs to get on her knees every day and say a huge thank you to good Lord above for giving her physically healthy, bright, and beautiful children.

What goes along with that prayer of  gratitude  must be her actions towards those wonderful innocent children. She needs to treat them with the respect and dignity they deserve.”

I would like to think that perhaps my words resonated in Kate’s mind, since the timing of her kissing ALMOST ALL of the children as they hopped out of the van, is uncanny.

Of course little Mady, one of the twins  (the one who called Kate “mean” and with  whom Kate has appeared to have the most issues,

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and Joel all ran off the bus as quickly as possible sans kisses and hugs.

But later Aden returned and got a kiss from Kate.

The little girls who were dressed alike in pink with brown polka dot pants all got kisses.

Even Colin, the one who’s mouth she put her hand over a week earlier,  got a kiss on the head

and Cara got a hug from Kate

That is HUGE! And in my opinion a GREAT START!  I hope she does this  not just when camera’s are rolling and papps are out in full force. Kate now needs to find inner joy in her kisses to the kids and eliminate that sourpuss expression when she does it.  She needs to smile and show the love, to go along with her kisses and hugs which kids so desperately need for their emotional development.


One of the things the papp yelled out as he was shooting the photos of Kate getting out of the van to let the kids out,  caused my ears to perk up. He asked Kate the following question, “ Are you mad that you’ve gotta take  anger management?“

Now I don’t know if the papp asked that question to provoke Kate, which papps have been known to in order to get a specific reaction shot, or if he was privy to some information that Kate may indeed  be undergoing anger management classes.

If that is the case, I say good for her and that it is about time. She definitely needs it. The throwing things, consistent meltdowns, slapping, and verbal abuse we all saw for the past five seasons show that these anger management classes may very well help her and will definitely help the kids.


Maybe TLC put her into anger management classes . Maybe they are working on remaking her inside as well as her outside as evidenced by the $7,000 hair weave they gave her. Perhaps they are helping her to get rid of all of her inner anger before she starts her new show for them.

TLC announced last week that her new show is scheduled for the spring or summer. Like it or not, Kate will have her own television show.  I really don’t fault Kate with trying to earn money to support her huge family, since she is in essence, the only breadwinner these days, while

Jon runs  around town with his new lady, a little over a decade older than his twins Cara and Mady at the Sundance Film Festival.


If a TV reality show is the easiest way for Kate to make a buck to support those wonderful kids, I say why not? She cannot afford to stay home and be a full time mom, as she has to shoulder the finances, thanks to Jon.

I also believe that as long as she is attentive to the kids and addresses their physical and emotional needs why shouldn’t  she have a career she enjoys.

But if she plans to have a career on television that will last for any length of time and TLC is going to do it, and allow her to be on a show where she has flexibility in her schedule, unlike DWTS which is a rigorous schedule, like I said before TLC  MUST invest in helping get her a makeover on her inside besides her outside.

No one cares about hair extensions or a new look. No one  will ever want to watch a show with a person who exhibited the characteristics she showed during the past five seasons and on her two TLC specials and on all the talk shows on which she appeared,  the fake tears, over the top exaggerated claims, the sarcasm, the snarkiness,  the abusive behaviors, the self absorption, the narcissism, the self-entitlement, and the lack of gratitude, not to mention the embarrassing lack of talent she showed on her skits on Leno. It WON’T fly!


First, there was talk in the media where Kate was getting her extensions to have a sexier look as TLC was going to do a show to help her find a new man. Unless Kate works on her inside, it will be a futile attempt.

Unless she works on her anger (which takes time) and many of the traits described earlier, no man will look at her unless he is equally as self- absorbed and a Toxic opportunist who wants his 15 minutes of fame. I think TLC was wise enough to figure that out as well.

But I don’t believe they were wise enough to do what they are planning to as they announced this past week and give her a show where she will try different professions. It’s a lame idea for her and will not work in my view.

It’s an idea that was done years earlier by E! when they put Paris Hilton and Nichole Richie in different jobs.  It worked then because it was Paris Hilton and Nichole Richie and they had IT- personality and charisma and humor combined with  talent. This same concept with Kate Gosselin at the helm, will fail miserably simply because she does not have IT!


I know a lot about IT! I have seen IT in my two decades of practice when I helped actors become the best they could become in terms of their vocal and speaking skills.

When an actor walked into through the doors of my office and we worked together, I learned to immediately tell who had IT and who would become a big star. As conceited or arrogant  as it may sound,  truth is,  I can honestly say,  I was NEVER wrong about who had IT!

I saw IT,  in now super stars Andy Garcia, Nicholas Cage, Marlee Matlin, Rob Lowe, and Melanie Griffith just to name a few, well before they made it big. I saw how they had IT and told them that one day they would make it to the top.

I saw IT with many of the newscasters and entertainment reporters you see today on popular television morning, evening, entertainment,  and shows today, well before they made it. I saw that they had IT and  told them so.

I even saw it with Nancy Grace when I was a constant guest on her Court TV show back in NYC. Because we spent so much time together on the set, I  told her that one days he would be a HUGE STAR because she had IT! I am proud to say she did make it- HUGE and no one could be more deserving!

Just as I can tell who has IT, I can tell who does NOT have IT. I am sorry to say Kate Gosselin  does NOT have IT.

Kate was lucky to have had a show featuring her children. The appeal was watching the kids grow. The appeal was  not Kate.  She was NOT a breakout star like little Snooki is on MTV’s  the Jersey Shore.

I would think that little Mady is was more the breakout star of  Jon and Kate Plus 8 . She had vim and vigor and charisma. Even though she was upset at Kate a lot and hungered for attention, she seemed to naturally be in her element when they took modeling photos of her.


So now  with all the hoopla that surrounded the Jon and Kate Plus 8  show and Jon pulling the plug on it, TLC wants to make back some lost revenue, so they are  giving her, her own “itless” show minus Jon and the kids since, he pulled the plug.

I can guarantee you that if all of that hoopla between her and  Jon had not gone down, causing her considerable name recognition, no one would ever give this woman a show because they would clearly see that she doesn’t have IT.  Any producer or any suit worth his weight knows she is ONLY getting a show because of name recognition and lost revenues.

TLC has been scrambling with what type of show to give IT’less,  name recognizable, Kate,  who is known only because they put her on every TV show to discuss her divorce woes. They tried to build up her TV cue by having her co-host the View and appear on the Today Show and Leno and the Barbara Walters special not to mention every magazine cover on the newsstand.

They knew the dating show wouldn’t work, so they  resurrected MTV’s concept and put her into a show where she will experience different professions like Paris and Nicole did. That show worked because of Nichole’s wit and humor and Paris’ glamor and hotness, garnering  a lot of male viewers. But to put Kate in  that same type of show is ridiculous in my view.


If TLC is intent on doing a reality show with Kate that will last and that people will want to watch, name recognition certainly  isn’t enough.  I think a show where Kate gets a TOTAL IMAGE MAKEOVER FROM THE INSIDE OUT would be a huge hit!

Everyone seems to like makeover shows, so why not makeover Kate?

The fact that Kate is showing some love and affection towards her kids is a good start in my opinion.  They can show the “before and afters” of how Kate was harsh with the kids and how she is now more loving and affectionate.



The premise of Kate’s new show as I see it would be to watch her transform from this angry, hostile, self- absorbed, snarky, sarcastic  self entitled woman to a kin, loving, and generous, selfless person with a lot of heart.


1.Perhaps we can see how she unselfishly  devises a plan to raise money for the kids in Haiti and even travels over there to help out, donating some of her kids used toys and clothing to the children in Haiti.

2.Perhaps we can see an episode where she resurrects her relationship with her parents so that the kids can  have grandparent contact.

3. Another episode could include her brother and Aunt Jodi kiss and makeup session.

4.Then there can be other episodes where she repair all the damage she created with others she alienated.

5.We can watch how Kate struggles with getting rid of her anger and all her demons. We can even watch her in Anger Management Classes . Now that is compelling Television!

6.We can watch her use her nursing skills and volunteer, giving some love and affection to some elderly people at a nursing home. She could even bring them cookies her kids made for them and watch them smile and make their day.

7.We could see her at a pet shelter volunteering   there and see how she breaks down when she learns about animal abuse and puppy mills. We can evens see her feeling so badly about what she did by giving her two German Shepherds away that she can now retrieve them and let them be a part  of her now happy home. With all the money she will make  from her new show she can even hire a special babysitter for the dogs so they won’t be an added burden to her.

7.We can watch her go into orphanages and love up some of those kids who need affection and give them some of her kids used and outgrown clothing and toys. We can watch her develop more love and tolerance with these parentless kids.

8.We can also watch her in a pediatric ward with AIDS and drug addicted babies where she can hold them and feed them and attend to them so that she can think twice whenever she gets angry enough at one of her own children to stick her hand over their mouth.

9.We can see how Kate takes workshops and seminars on self –development  to help affect a more positive change in her life. That would even be inspiring to others.

10.We can see and episode where we revisit the place where Kate grew up and went to school and how she felt growing up. We can trace back where her anger and “meaness” and self- absorption  and self entitlement  came from. That would, no doubt,  be an emotion filled episode

11.We can watch her in therapy with Dr. Phil. He will tell it like it is. He won’t stick up for her. He will tell her what she has done wrong in the past and what she needs to do now. That would be compelling TV as well.

12.Then we can watch her start to get attention from men and go on a date. We can see her fears and hear what so many others go through when they begin to date after never having dated in years. We can see how she messes up on the date and what she learns from it.

13.We can see her get more spiritual and perhaps even go back to church and see the positive  impact that has on her.

Throughout the show we can watch footage  that allows us to see Kate grow. Since TLC owns all the footage to Jon  and Kate Plus 8 we can see a lot of  before and afters of how she handled things then and how she handles then now.

Now my treatment of Kate’s new possible show takes us through an entire season of 13 weeks. I’ll bet if they followed my treatment it would be a huge it! It would be great  to see a show like this where Kate could inspire others and not upset so many viewers as she has in the past.