Toxic Bill Huy of ‘Beautiful Audio Books and Rori Raye Mislead Public in Ripoff Tapes of Dr.Glass’ Book

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It is ironic that someone whom I would consider a “Toxic Man”, Bill Huy, owner of “Beautiful Audio Books” was out to scam the public as he tried to promote my”Toxic Men ” book by misleading the public. He allegedly put a series of 6 “Toxic Men” tapes  on youtube thorough his alleged youtube accounts with such names as: Herzaman Audiobooks , Sachs, Isabella Vorreyt, Best Audiobook Collection, Raleich Lefebvre, White E-Book, Rufus Walsh, and the wierdest name of all,  uradiobooks harry potter.

 That means there were 42 “Toxic Men” tapes out there, that were reported to be done by me. In actuality this was not the case. They were not done by me and I had nothing to do with these particualr tapes.

The tapes were promoted with a word for world blurb that was taken directly from my book. They even wrote the exact words in my book that Toxic men is not about male bashing. 

My book was featured on the left  side of the screen with my name prominently displayed. Next to my book on the right side,  was a large photo of a woman’s face that was clearly not my face. Apparently, the woman in the photo as well as the book company were allegedly  attempting to pass this woman off as me. They allegedly wanted the public to think that this woman was Dr. Lillian Glass who was now doing a series of six audio tapes about Toxic Men and promoting it. Well that was NOT the case.

The reason why I had not done the tapes previously was because I detested the name of the book “Toxic Men”. It was not my choice but rather the brainchild of some  petty editor at Adams media. I wanted the book to be called “Toxic Men and Toxic Women”, as  when you read the book you will see that it pertains to both men and women The book is about BOTH men and woman not just men. But the  company insisted it be called “Toxic Men” becuase they said women buy more books than men

so “Toxic Men” would appeal to more women. I thought that reasoning was stupid and let them know my feelings. While I love the contents of the book and love what is in it that can help anyone who is in a toxic relationship or is healing from one,  I still  hated being associated with a book title that makes me sound like a “man hater” when I am just the opposite. I love men and didn’t want to be mislabeled because of this book.

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So I was never  about to promote a series of tapes on Toxic Men unless there were accompanying tapes  about Toxic Women.Thus, I was certainly not promoting these  6 audiotapes.

When I listened to the tapes I was even more shocked than seeing a photo of this woman next to my book. I was shocked to hear her Toxic voice. Yes- Toxic to my ears point of view. When a person has a sickeningly sweet sing song tone, rest assured there is trouble brewing. I detest these type of voices because they are often associated with passive- aggressive and/or deceptive personalities in my view.

Low and behold, this was the case here. This sickeningly sweet voiced woman who was talking on these series of  6 tapes was indeed deceptive as she tried  to pass herself  off as the author of my book on Toxic Men. After forcing myself to listen to her tapes I was even more sickened as I thought  the information was ridiculous and seemed to come out of another century in how to “capture your man.” This woman who has no credentials was hiding behind my credentials and reputation and misleading the public about my Toxic Men book.

In one of the 6  tapes she slipped out her name – Rori Raye. I had never heard of her so I looked her up on the internet and found that her sickeningly sweet deceptive and phony sounding voice didn’t belie her. Apparently others who dealt with her found her deceptive enough to report her to Ripoff Reports. In fact there were 3 separate Ripoff reports about her.There were also several complaints about her to the better Business Bureau. Several allegedly reported that she was a scam and a liar.

I then went to her website and saw a HUGE red flag. When someone does not have a way to contact them on their site know that there is a great chance you may not be dealing with someone who is forthright. Then I saw her youtube account and was now convinced that this woman was less than truthful. Remember that photo  above that was plastered next to my book to give the illusion she authored my book? Well that same photo appeared in the left  corner of  her youtube account. There was also a woman on the right side of the photo  on her youtube page which looked completely different than the woman featured next to my book. Who was that woman who looked so different?

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Well, it was none other than Rori Raye- a then and now photo. Below is a photo of  how Rori Raye looks now.
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Needless to say I was furious about all of this. I HATE when people do deceptive things with other people’s intellectual property. I hated this just as I hated when a woman named Marcia Petrie Sue, a public speaker  who calls herself an Accountability Expert, when she wasn’t very accountable herself,  did word for word copying of my book.
She then had the audacity to call her book Toxic People, the same name as my book which I wrote 13 years earlier than her book, which  in turn caused confusion in the marketplace. I ended up suing this woman in US Federal Court  in 2010 and winning the case against her. Marcia Petrie Sue  is now and forever branded as a “copyright infringer” or in layman terms – “a plagiarist.”
  I hate it when people don’t do diligence  and look on the internet or on amazon and do a search of names of books already out there before they write a book. I hate when people take my ideas and concepts  and words and claim it as their own. They are just the same as  thief who comes into your home and steals your silverware, jewels, computer or your car. Instead of stealing material things, they are stealing intellectual things.
I don’t care how rich or famous a person is- they cannot take my brand away. My  brand is Toxic People and I have it trademarked and now enforce that trademark regularly.
I refuse to be victimized by intellectual property thieves. That is why I am armed with one of the best Intellectual Property attorneys in the United States representing me- Eric Bjorgum, He represented me in my Federal case against Marcia Petrie Sue. In fact, last  just week he won yet another major intellectual property. and trademark case.   I feel a lot less anxious and a lot safer in the world knowing that Eric Bjorgum is the strong wall behind me.
Eric suggested that I contact youtube and file some copyright infringement reports to remove the offending URL’s and thumbnail photos of my book and this woman’s misleading face that she is the author of my book. I took his advice and initially filled out  48 forms to remove the URLs. Youtube was great and removed most of them as soon as they could.
But that was not the end of it. Apparently Herzaman Audiobooks , Sachs, Isabella Vorreyt, Best Audiobook Collection, Raleich Lefebvre, White E-Book, Rufus Walsh, and the wierdest name of all,  uradiobooks harry potter  re-uploaded the 6 tapes with brand new URL’s (allegedly). It was like playing “whack a mole” at the state fair. As soon as youtube blocked a tape, a new one with a new URL surfaced so I had to do the process over and over again until I must have sent out close to 200 requests to block the tapes.
I was so frustrated that I gladly waited on the phone for an hour until someone from youtube answered and gave me the email address to contact them directly. So  I wrote an email to youtube about my plight and they continued to block them. At last count there were only 4 tapes on Isabella Vorreyt   and 5 vtapes on the account of Raleich Lefebvre.
That means there were only 9 of these tapes out of there instead of the multitude of others. There are still some thumbnails on these two accounts which need to be taken down as well.
This is how I spent most of  day today- talking to youtube, Eric Bjorgum, playing tape “whack a mole” writing emails to youtube and filling out youtube copyright infringement forms.  Thank goodness I had some kissing and cuddling breaks from Annabella.
The bottom line to all of this is that you have to protect your creations. Whether it is photography, the written word, music, lyrics, art, fashion design,  jewelry design, computer software development, medical equipment development, choreography, or anything else you must protect what you created. Whether you create a human being or create a product or a book or a song, the creative process is all the same. What you create becomes your baby and you must always protect your babies.

Princess Diana’s Legacy Lives on in William’s Public Kiss to Baby George

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Prince William’s public kiss to his son, future King George, in front of the hospital where George’s sister was born was touching. The little king in training was beyond adorable as he waved to his future subjects in the UK. Proud pappa William rewarded his precious son with a loving kiss.

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This is because as a baby he was given the same affection by his mother, the late Princess Diana.

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Her physical affection towards  both of her sons was reciprocated  as they feel so physically comfortable around her  with William’s arms around her neck and Harry nuzzling into her in the photo on the right. In the next photo we see as we see with Prince Harry kissing his mom. Until Diana entered the Royal family, one never saw public displays of kissing. However one did see affection displayed towards past royals in a more formal way.

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  • Prince Charles also showed love towards WIlliam as he seemed to be in awe of his son.  You can see his genuine smile as the baby sits comfortably in Charle’s lap.

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As the William and Harry grew older you could really see Charles’ genuine affection for the boys and vice versa as depicted in this photo below.

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Charles’  parents did not show him physical affection via kisses (at least publicly) as it wasn’t done then. It was not considered proper royal behavior to do so. The only thing Queen Elizabeth did get away with at least publicly was allowing  baby Charles to grab on to her finger.

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While the Queen was in a formal pose  and not physically affectionate with Baby Charles, her genuine smile says it all that she adores him as her body gravitates and leans in towards him. It seems she is doing all she can to contain herself for the public photo.

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But she can’t resist and takes the baby closer to her as she smiles adoringly at Charles.

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As a baby Queen Elizabeth was  also given a tremendous amount of love and affection by her own parents as you can see in the photos below.

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The Queen’s mother adored her as she leans into the little future Queen and  delicately touches her little arm. Elizabeth’s body sinks into her mother as she looks like one very happy smiling baby. Queen Elizabeth’s father King George adored his daughter as she sits on his lap and he holds her lovingly. The expression on his face is priceless as it reflects a proud father who would be comfortable holding her all day.

This generational photo analysis indicates that the future King George and his little  newborn Princess not only have  legacy of coming from royal blood, but they share the legacy of  coming from parents, grandparent’s, great-grandparents, and great great parents where there was considerable love being passed down from generation to generation.

Mayor of Baltimore Shows Many Signals of Deception As She Denies She Said She Gave Rioters “Space to Destroy”

The mayor of Baltimore,Stephanie Rawlings-Blake,  showed many signals of deception . These includes a lot of um um uh’s in her speech pattern, her monotone robotic voice and defensive tone  as she said to reporters on tape that  she NEVER EVER   said she gave rioters the space to destroy.

When people get really defensive and show anger in their face and speak in hyper articulated speech, it usually means they are not telling the truth. This is exactly what the mayor did when she told a flock of reporters that she Never (emphasized the word never as though she ‘dost protest too much’) As you can see below she looks down and away as she says this which also indicates deception. Also look at her lower jaw extended in anger. It is a facially defensive pose that is often associated with deception, which is the case in this context.

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It is clear that the mayor lied because we all heard her at a presser say she gave people space to destroy.

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We also gave space to those who wished to destroy as well”  was said by the mayor earlier. AS she made this statement you she her exposed palms of her hands. When people’s hands show exposed palms, they are being honest

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When asked by the press if she regretted saying what she said, she began her answer with the mored “Listen!” This is a hostile approach that people use when they lie. Remember when former President Clinton said :You listen to me…. I din not have sex with that woman, Ms. Lewinsky…” Use of the world Listen at the beginning of a sentence is often a huge red flag leading to deception.

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She continues with facial hostility as she defends herself by saying that she had a right to protect people’s right to protest. When people are that defensive and go off on a tangent as she has done by talking about rights to protest when the issue involves giving people space to destroy the city, it indicates deception.

While we have seen many politicians lie and backtrack on what they said, this a clear case of a mayor  lying about what she said as evidenced verbally, facially, and body language wise. I cannot imagine this mayor winning any future elections after she was caught redhanded or shall I say red-faced in embarrassment and lied about it.

Bruce Jenner Desperately Needs Feminizing Voice, Speech and Body Language Coaching To Complete His Male to Female Transition

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In making his transition from male to female,  Bruce Jenner has put a lot of effort into his skin with  injectable  lip and face fillers botox, surgically minimizing his adam’s apple, breast enhancement, and many other physical changes. But the one important change that he has neglected is the sound of his voice, the content of his speech, and adopting a more feminized body language

Having taught countless transgender clients in my practice who went from female to male how to sound like a man and  male to to male transgender clients how to sound like a woman I would love to be the one to help Bruce make these changes so that he could feel more secure and confident in his new gender role. In fact I want to personally reach out to Bruce through this blog to let him know that I can help him with establishing a more feminine voice, speech patterns, as well as a more female  body language .

After all, if I could help Dustin Hoffman sound like a woman for his Dorothy character in his award winning performance of “Tootsie”  I can definitely help Bruce Jenner.


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After it  was publicly known that I was the one who helped  Dustin to sound like a woman, transgender clients from all over the country sought out my services to help them make that vocal and body language transition which would help cement their identity in the opposite sex and allow others to perceive them as more feminine (or masculine for those seeking a female to male  transition).

My experience  in helping the  transgender population began when I was doing my Master’s Degree at the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor, Michigan. At the time the University of Michigan Medical Center was one of the few places in the world where people came for gender reassignment surgery. So in order to assist these patients with their total image, they were often sent to the University of Michigan Speech Clinic.

Unbeknownst to me, I was assigned one such patient- a lovely woman with long dark hair and exotic features. My first task was to do a complete speech and vocal analysis of this woman. I wrote up a very detailed report for my professor and mentor, Dr. H. Harlan Bloomer about the woman’s low pitched voice, her pitch range, and diction and how she presented herself. Because the patient had such a  limited pitch range and a low voice, I wrote up a differential diagnosis in her report  that she may be suffering from vocal cord  trauma or may have some vocal cord growths which may attribute to her vocal issues. While Dr. Bloomer said he was impressed with the detailed analysis of my report, he said I missed something very crucial. She was actually a “he”.

I must say that I was surprised as I had never known anything like this.Dr. Bloomer said that my task was to make her sound like a woman. I immediately went to the Medical Library to find out all I could about how to do that, but there were no books or articles on the topic. There was an obscure book that was written by a Harvard linguistics Professor  but it was very academic and didn’t tell what to do. So I tried to figure things out by the seat of my pants and at the end of our six week therapy sessions, my client sounded like a woman and very few could detect that she had been or sounded like a man months earlier. Because of my success with this client, I was the one who was given all of the transgender patients who needed to change their voice and speech  patterns to match their new sexual identity.

After graduating from Michigan and getting my doctorate at the University of Minnesota where my focus was now in the area of medical genetics and psychosocial aspects of speech, voice, and cosmetic appearance in patients with cranial facial deformities, I then went to UCLA School of Medicine and  did a post doctoral fellowship, doing  research in the area of birth defects and associated speech and voice disorders in the area of Medical Genetics. It was there that I really was able to hone my diagnostic skills in assessing people from head to toe, which was instrumental in my present incarnation as a voice and body language expert.

One evening, I took a break  from my post-doctorate studies and my research and accepted an invitation to my first Hollywood party. A far cry from the world of academia where I spent so such time, it was so was so exciting  and refreshing to me to see all of these glamorous and beautiful people who had so much to say about themselves, telling me about all the acting roles they got, and the next movie I would see them in. Then  it came  my turn to share what I did. I also shared my experience with them of working with transgender clients when I was in graduate school. A film producer overheard what I said and asked me for my card. I didn’t have a card back then so I wrote my number down a on a piece of paper.

A few days later, I got a call from a person whom I didn’t know who told me he was a director and that his friend at the party I attended gave him my number. The director then told me there was someone he wanted me to meet to help him sound like a woman and that I had to come to an address in Westwood (not too far from UCLA) the next day at the specified time. But there was one important thing I had to know- that I couldn’t tell anyone where I was going and what I was doing. As a naive 25 year old I enthusiastically agreed to it and showed up the next afternoon. As I walked up the long winding stairway to the front door, I began to feel a bit anxious and wondered what I got myself into. I knocked on the door and who should appear? None other than Dustin Hoffman. In the weeks and months that followed I taught Dustin everything I possibly knew about gender differences in communication. I shared with him everything I learned from working with the transgender clients at the University of Michigan.

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Years later I wrote a best selling book about gender differences in communication called He Says She Says, Closing the Communication Gap Between the Sexes and went on the speaking circuit where I spoke to thousands of people on the topic. I also did the TV talk show circuit on the topic. Understanding how differently men and woman communicated  with one another helped many couples learn to better relate to one another. It also helped  avoid many misunderstanding in the workplace where men and woman  now learned the nuances of communication with the opposite sex.

More business women learned how they needed to get to the point quicker, and not answer a question with a question or go up at the end of sentences, while more businessmen learned that they needed to use less command terms and take up less physical space when dealing with women. In fact there were 103 differences that men and women needed to be aware of to help them better communicate with one another.

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So back to Bruce Jenner.  Having worked with so many transgender clients,  I truly feel for Bruce. I know the emotional pain these clients have been in all of their lives. I know how they have been teased and emotionally abused. I know how many of their friends and relatives will never speak to them again when they go through the transition. I also know the very dark side of this transition process and that is that 60 percent of those who undergo the transition become so depressed afterwards that they  commit suicide. It is shocking and it is scary as they find that life in their new gender doesn’t cure all of their past issues and in fact, may create more issues than they had before.

Bruce may be one of the lucky ones in that he seems to have a good family support system with his mother and  two sons for sure and perhaps  step daughter Khloe.It seems that his younger daughters with Kris, Kylie and Kendall  are having a hard time with it. Kyle’s acting out and dating a 25 year old when she is 17 may have something to do with her ambivalence towards Bruce. The last thing Bruce needs now as he makes his transition is badmouthing from Kris. This could play havoc on his psyche especially now that he is on hormone therapy. That is why he needs to cut ALL ties with her and hire a great PR person to defect any poison PR arrows Kris may shoot at him in the media. Kris may use this opportunity to play the victim- that she had no idea about his desire to become a woman. Know that no one can live with someone for 20 something years and do business with them and share intimate moments with the person and not know something. This is not about Kris. It is about Bruce and Bruce’s PR minions need to keep making that very clear.

Bruce’s role in the recent traffic collision where his car hit a woman who was killed must also be weighing heavily on his mind. The fact that he is coming out in front of millions of people is also a Herculean task. Not everyone will embrace him. People will be mean as they have been already. With some, Bruce’s transition, threatens their masculinity and angers them for what he did.Many looked up to Bruce as a great athlete and Olympic heros.They still may want to see him this way and now when they see him looking like a woman and wearing women’s clothing, it upsets their psyche. Many will become angry because they don’t want to see him this way. Many religious people will think what Bruce did was wrong and will let him know about it. Many will call him a freak,

But Bruce is not a freak. He was feeling like he was in the wrong body for his entire life as he admitted. Perhaps that was why he could endure the punishing workouts that allowed him to become an Olympian. Perhaps he so wanted to be be seen as masculine at the time that he overcompensated. No matter what, Bruce is at a very crucial time in his life. He needs a lot of emotional support and a lot of strength.

I am here to support Bruce through my skill set as I am reaching out to him with the intention of helping him to have more confidence and credibility in his voice, speech patterns,and body language as he ventures out in the world as a woman.

Hillary Does NOT Suffer From “Uh Huh Syndrome” On Listening Tour As Sex Difference In Communciation IS Noted

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As I have repeatedly said, I am not a political person and this is not a political blog. I have no agenda and I am merely reporting what I observe and I observed something very upsetting that the press seems to be doing with Hillary Clinton as she is on her Listening Tour.

As a Presidential candidate, Hillary is on a Listening Tour whereby she listens to people’s opinions. In our culture you say umhm or uh huh to indicate to the other person you are listening and processing what they are saying. That is exactly what Hillary was doing when she responded with umhum to people’s comments and opinions. Yet some silly reporters culled a so called expert who ridiculously said Hillary suffers from Uh Hum Syndrome.

Hillary Clinton does NOT suffer from Uh Huh Syndrome or Um Hum Syndrome or any other Syndrome. She is doing what ALL candidates do who are on a listening tour.

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In his ignorant  article author  Derek Hunter stated “Mrs. Clinton nodded and said “Un-huh” 88 times during this stop on the New Hampshire stop on her “listening tour.”  I say, THAT”S GREAT!” It means that 88 times she was polite enough and responsive enough to acknowledge what someone said and respond with uh hhuh and nod. It is no surprise that the article was written by a male who is clearly not familiar with Sex Differences in communication.

Then they culled an equally ignorant female expert, Lynn Weiss who wrongly stated  Hillary was suffering from Uh Huh Syndrome . They even put together a video of how many times she said Uh Huh during her listening tour in an attempt to embarrass her:

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What both the author of the article and the so called expert  failed   to recognize is that women listen much differently then men listen. Men may say nothing as you speak. They may say uh huh only if they agree with something said. Women on the other hand say uh huh to let you know that they have heard you, not that they necessarily agree with you. It is a form of politeness which is meant to encourage the speaker to keep talking and that they were heard.

So here we see our first signal of misinterpretation of a female candidate and making a mountain out of something that is a natural phenomena for women.

Before journalists and so called experts begin to criticize Hillary’s communcation patterns they need to read   my classic book He Says She Says closing the Communication Gap Between the Sexes  which they can get on Amazon    http://www.amazon.com/He-Says-She-Lillian-Glass/dp/0399518126 so  they don’t  continue to spread wrong information and end up with egg on their face.

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Heather Mack Cocky, Entitled, Diva Body Language After 10 Year Sentence for Mother’s Murder

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Heather Mack,the troubled and entitled Chicago teen who constantly fought with her mother to the point that police were called countless times. She was taken on a  vacation to Bali by her wealthy socialite mother, Sheila von Wies Mack in order for the two to to bond and spend quality time together. But rebellious Heather wanted no part of it, So she invited her boyfriend Tommy Schaefer to join them in Bali, much to her mothers dislike.

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When checkout time came around, Sheila refused to pay for the boyfriends hotel bill which angered him. Angrily, he  hit her with an object, killing, dismembering her body and stuffing it into a suitcase. Pregnant  Heather and her boyfriend then  fled to a nearby resort and planned to board a plane the next day for the US but they were caught and taken to jail. In jail Heather gave birth to a baby girl. The couple has finally been sentenced- Heather for 10 years and her boyfriend for 18 years.

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Heather showed no remorse for her mothers death and celebrated by guzzling smuggled in alcohol from a plastic bag. As you can see from her actions and body language she is loving her life in Kerabokan Prison in Indonesia. She is acting like a star and loving the attention lavished upon her by the press.

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She mugs for the camera and jokes with the press and calls them by name- Ari, Osha, etc. She beckons them to come closer to her cell to get a better photo and even scolds them for publishing what she considers unattractive photos of herself in the press.She mugs for them as you can see in the above photo.

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Her biggest complaint about the sentencing was that her boyfiend will have to be in prison for 8 more years when she is released and she is not happy about that. In fact, she calls it unfair. She says that he daughter needs to have her father around when she is a young girl and is upset about that. She is clearly more upset about that than she is about her mother being  dead and gone forever.

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Meanwhile, Tommy’s body language after his sentencing of 18 years was revealead by his gestures in  angrily swatting away reporters and in shooting them an obscene gesture with his middle finger. His anger is also revealed in his tight muscles around his lips and in his biting his lower lip.

In reality,  these two spoiled and entitled creatures have nothing to be angry about. They should both be jumping for joy. If their crime would have happened in the US they would have received life or the death sentence. They also could have received a death sentence by firing squad in Indonesia but their lives were spared according to the press because they were the parents of a newborn baby.

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At first it was reported that Heather was awkward with the baby but now motherhood has kicked in and her  maternal instincts seem to have taken over. She appears to be affectionate towards the infant as she comforts the baby is often seen rocking it. Maybe this is the silver lining that has come out of such a dark situation. According to  Kerobokan prison officials,  she will be allowed to keep the baby with her for a period of six months. After that the baby will be with relatives. The only hting is that there are no relatives on her side, so perhaps Tommy’s parents will care for the baby. On the other hand, perhaps a kindly Indonesian family will take care of the baby and bring the baby to see her mother for regular visits. Heather could certianly afford to do this as she inherited the millions of dollars left by her now deceased parents.

Since Heather has money, life in Kerobokan prison will be easy for her. Instead of the traditional squat toilet she will be able to have a western style sit down toilet.  She will be able to order in food from the outside and will receive top dental and medical care. She will have her own quarters with clean linens and will be allowed to freely roam the premises at her liesure . She can watch all the TV she likes and see the latest DVD’s which are regularly brought in by volunteer workers.  If she wants to do so, she can get a college education via correspondence course, If she was smart, she should look into that so when she comes out of prison in 10 years she could begin a  new life with a new  set of skills due to her education. She will be able to have a cell phone and use the computer to her heart’s desire.

Tommy may have it even better  than Heather in prison as he too will have all of these things in Kerobokan Prison but he will have tennis courts and tennis matches where he can participate. He can help raise dogs in the prisoner assistance dog program they have, he can continue his education as he too as complete access to computers and cell phones. He and header can speaker 24 7 id they like. They can video chat and text one another at will.

Since the emphasis at the prison is rehabilitation, they have sewing, silversmithing,reflexology, and Norwegian philosophy classes, and  hairdressing and barber skill training. They can also continue with a formal education at any University of their choosing that offers an online degree or a correspondence type of program. They can also get all of the psychological counseling they want as there is regular counseling by visiting psychologists. So Heather an work out her mother and her mental issues, while Tommy can work out his anger issues.

The whole situation is so terribly sad.  At 62, Shelia von Wies Mack is dead after close to two decades of struggling with her very difficult daughter. May she now rest in peace and may Heather treat her own daughter a lot better than she treated her mother.

While ESPN’s Britt McHenry Shows Toxic Behavior By Fat, Dental, Job, and Education Shaming, Tow Worker is Toxic for Releasing Tape

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Yes  ESPN’s Britt McHenry clearly showed what a Toxic  entitled character she had by verbally  hitting  the tow company worker below the belt as she fat shamed, dental shamed, job shamed, and education shamed the woman who no doubt,  did something to aggravate Britt.  Since nothing happens in a vacuum,  there is no doubt  in my mind that the tow worker  did  something that made Britt go off on her.Maybe she was robotic, insensitive to Britt’s  plight, cold, uncaring, had an attitude, or maybe she said something provocative that ticked off Britt.

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But by warning  Britt that she was on tape and stating she would show it, it demonstrates  how passive aggressive the tow worker was acting. By actually releasing the tape publically to get back at  Britt and now turning the tables and   shaming  Britt, it shows how Toxic  and vindictive  the tow worker  really  is.

This was a petty situation between two women. No ones life was at stake.

As soon as Britt realized she was on tape she put her hand up to her throat indicating that she was suddenly feeling vulnerable. Her large eyed look whereby you can see the whites or sclera shows her surprise and shock. No doubt when the tow worker threatened that she would show it, it frightened Brit as revealed through her body language.

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The tow worker  needed to speak up  immediately and tell the  reporter she was going too far and not not speak to her this way.She needed to tell the reporter she wouldn’t help her if she continued to speak to her like that and that she would get another employee to help her. Then he needed to get that employee to help Britt calm down and finish her business. Obviously the tow driver was too wraped up in her own feelings  instead of calming her customer down with soothing words and trying to diffuse the situation. She needed to say how it was hitting below the belt and how she  was hurting her feelings.

But the tow worker said nothing as we heard on tape. She merely displayed her  vindictiveness  at being fat shamed, education shamed, and teeth shamed by getting  back at the sportscaster by publicly releasing the tape and shaming her. If there was a nurse or a doctor  or dentist who did something to jeopardize your health, one should  out them to help protect the public and warn them about that person’s dangerous and toxic  behaviors.  After all that is what Yelp  and Health Grades is all about. But to out  a customer for a petty attitude issue is a whole different issue.

The tow worker could have also spoken up on the tape and said look, don’t speak to me that way or I won’t help you and I will get someone else to assist you if you treat me that way, or you really hurt my feelings by what you are saying. It needed to be dealt with between the two women. But she got the public involved and in my view she is just as Toxic as the reporter if not more. The reporter’s behavior is  unfortunately often what is seen in the showbusiness world- entitlement and thinking they are such a big star and talking down to others.  I have seen it countless times in Hollywood. Not all celebrities are like that but the newer ones who haven’t yet hit hard times and think that they are all that and believe their press often pull this behavior.

Since  Britt flaunted her TV career, the tow worker could have sent the tape  to the authorities at ESPN to show her action instead of showing it to the world and helping to destroy the women’s career.  Perhaps the ESPN authorities would have given her a reality check and put her on the right path in terms of how to behave with others now that she is  a public figure.

I really think it needed to be handled by both women as grown adults  and  the incident should not have  involve a third party.

There are definitely times where  Toxic people in the service business need to be called out when they exhibit Toxic behavior.  if someone is belittling, being condescending, being hateful, or harming you always need to let them know how their actions won’t be tolerated and  you need to hold them accountable.

But if  you  decide to go off on them verbally, which can often happen, there are certain rules you MUST follow.

1. You cannot berate their physical looks.

2. You cannot berate  their job and whether you think it is beneath you.

3. You cannot say how superior you are to them or how much more educated you are then they are.

4. You cannot  fat shame them and name call.

5. You cannot teeth shame them. But if they have such bad breath and unkempt teeth that makes you feel like to vomit, you can gingerly suggest they monitor their bad breath or use oral hygeine, especially if they are dealing with the public   if  their offensive smell has invaded your  air space via your nostrils you have the right to let them know about it.

6, You cannot shame their dress  or style unless they are disheveled and dirty and serving you food or touching your body, your hair or your children (waiter, waitress, facialist, hair stylist,  nurse, health care worker, child care worker).

So when ESPN reporter did all of the above, she showed who she was- a very toxic person who thought she was all that  simply because  she was on TV and no doubt probably being told her entire live how cute she looked). Well she certainly lost a lot of points in the cuteness department, because cute is as cute does .

While she was suspended it remains to be seen whether or not she will be fired. That all depends on how  the audience will tolerate her. Since the ESPN audience is mostly made up of men and since a lot of men out there can overlook Toxic behavior in a woman as long as she is cute and has a nice body and appeals to them as eye candy, she may still keep her job.

But as far as rising up the ranks and becoming a bonafide respected news reporter, she can forget it. Look at what happened to lying  Brian Williams. In my view she needs to be fired stat. There are too many other  cute young women out there who aren’t as Toxic who could do the job. Shaming others is a huge no no and makes you unlikeable. As a reporter who wants a long career, you need to be likeable.

Mainstream audiences  of both men and women may never be  forget how highly she regards herself at the expense of others. She showed a lot of insensitivity and went below the belt when she tore the woman’s looks  and who she was, to shreds.

Britt is NOT as educated as she thinks she is. Graduating from Northwestern or getting an advanced degree means nothing if you don’t have the education of how to respectfully kmy treat others. You will never advance and you will lose if you act like a superior entitled brat.  Personally, I think her getting fired would be the best thing to happen to this young lady as it would humble her and give her a reality check. She needs a complete inner makeover of her soul so she acquires more compassion, less entitlement, and less feelings of superiority to others.

In addition,  the tow worker should be fired for releasing the tape and being just as  or even more toxic by her sneaky passive aggressive behavior. The tow worker is not rthe victim here and should not be portrayed as one. She had a huge role in this debacle as well.