Obama and Castro’s Body Language in Cuba Shows Power Play

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When US President Barack Obama wanted to put his arm around the shoulder of Cuba’s President Raul Castro, Castro was having none of it. No matter what language you speak, the international language of “body language” speaks volumes.

If Obama succeeded in placing his arm around Castro on Live Cuban TV, it would make Castro appear weak  to his citizens. It would give the impression that Obama ( who is a head and shoulder taller than Castro) dominated the get-together and was more powerful than Castro.

Putting your arm around someone’s shoulder shows that you are in control or are more powerful.  That is was what Obama was trying to say with his body language.  It was also way too friendly of a gesture for two countries who have not had an American President on Cuban  soil for almost 80 years. No matter how good a time Obama may have had with his Cuban host, the bottom line is that there is still a lot of pain, tension, and controversy. What Castro was saying by grabbing Obama’s arm and not allowing that arm to touch him was telling Obama that “all is not so well or as good as you think it is.”

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There is no question that Obama felt a little awkward or embarrassed  by Castro’s rebuff. As you can see in the above photo,  his head is bowed down as he waves. If he was feeling less awkward,  his head would have been up while he was waving. His head would have been in the same upward posture as Castro, if  Obama  was feeling more confident in the situation. Obama is still touching Castro’s hand and Castro is ignoring him. Also Castro turns his body away from Obama which also speaks volumes as to how he really feels.

 

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Then Raul Castro takes charge. As Obama is still waving, Castro grabs Obama’s elbow,  pinching him with his thumb as you can see. This is a sign of force as Castro  directs Obama to leave the  stage.

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Castro then extends  his arm and continues his firm grasp on Obama’s arm, which is now at Obama’s side. He is in essence, trying to  push Obama off the stage as Castro has now turned his  own body towards the exit, while Obama is still standing there, with his body  facing forward.

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Now Castro shows that he is definitely  in charge and in control as the host of this meeting and as the President of his country. He walks past Obama, moving directly in front of Obama. Obama looks annoyed by this as you can see  by the expression on his face.  You can also see that Obama’s  arm is at his side and hand is beginning to form into a ball which shows that he is angry at the situation. He is not walking erect with his head up, but his head is bowed down and his shoulders are hunched over which shows that he is not feeling very secure or confident about what has just occurred.

So as far as a power play is concerned Raul Castro clearly showed Obama that he was in charge and in control  and that Obama would have to take a secondary position to him.

Joran Van Der Sloot’s Body Language and Speech in Recent Interview Shows Sociopathic Behavior and Deception

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In watching the most recent tapes of Joran Van Der Sloot’s interview with the National Enquirer, his body language and the content of his speech showed that he is continuing with his lying sociopathic ways. He also let’s us know that life in his remote Peruvian prison isn’t so bad after all and that he is able to beat the system.

He smirks and smiles as he lies about why he killed Stephany. Anyone who starts out his statement with a smile as you see here and the statement “You can’t imagine if you never did drugs” is lying. That preamble alone, is a signal that a lie is about to rear it’s ugly head.

 

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And that lie did indeed surface when Joran continued with “ I  convinced myself that  she was part of  the FBI and that was the reason I murdered her. As he says this, he looks directly at the interviewer and smirks knowing full well he is lying. His hand as you can see, is balled up into a fist which shows his anger at discussing Stephany and his anger at her and at getting caught for his crime , and having to serve jail time because of  “her”.

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In the above photo,  you clearly see  his deception in terms of his body language. He continues to smile and smirk and he shrugs his shoulders as he says “As weird as it sounds it is the truth and I don’t deny it.” The shoulder shrug is a clear indication of his deception. Also his preamble ” As weird as it sounds” is also a red flag of deception. In essence, he is alerting the interviewer that he may not believe what Joran says.

He then deceptively states that it is the truth. When he adds on the statement  and that he doesn’t deny it, it is a clear indication of deception as he gives away too much information and works too hard to try and convince the interviewer that what he says is the truth.

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He then smiles and smirks as he tells the interviewer how they sent him to a prison where he can do nothing.

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Obviously , he is not that smart.  When Peruvian authorities get wind of his interview, they are likely to shut down his illegal money making activities. As he gives this interview  Peruvian his wife Leidy is expressionless as you can see in the photo below. She looks at him adoringly.

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It turns out she does not understand a word of Dutch, the language  he is speaking during the interview. She told this to the interviewer.There is no doubt that this sociopath has convinced this unsuspecting woman that he loves her so that she will be his conduit to the outside world and bring him food and clothing and perhaps help him conduct his business, not to mention being his steady sex partner with whom he already fathered a child.  The conditions are so harsh in terms of altitude, travel,  and weather that it takes an act of heroic commitment towards another person to make steady visits to the prison.

There is no doubt that this sociopath has convinced this poor  woman that he loves her so that she will be his conduit to the outside world and bring him food and clothing and perhaps help him conduct his business, not to mention being his steady sex partner with whom he already fathered a child.  The conditions are so harsh in terms of altitude, travel,  and weather that it takes an act of heroic commitment towards another person to make steady visits to the prison. He has clearly manipulated her to the point that she will go to any length and overcome any physical hurdle to see Joran.

So as we can see this sickening sociopath who has no remorse for the two women he has murdered, continues to lie, smile and smirk,  and live a life that  he claims is not that bad under the circumstances.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Disturbing Body Language of Virginia College Student Sentenced to Hard Labor In North Korea

 

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After watching the videotapes  and analyzing the body language of  U of Virginia student Otto Wambier arrested in North Korea, I noticed some things that were very disturbing that didn’t sit right with me in terms of his body language. Also there were many questions that arose following his capture which leads me to believe he was singled out and used as propaganda against the US. When Otto is seated his facial language shows that he appears alert as you can see in the photo above.

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When Otto is  first seated  during his one hour trial in North Korea his facial language shows that he appears alert and connected as to what is going on.

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When we watch what appears to be evidence of his alleged actions on the video the North Korean court provided, we do not actually see Otto committing the crime. We only see him walking in the direction where there was a banner in front of a wall. Then a photo is shown of the same wall without the banner. But  most important of all, the tape does not show him doing anything to the banner, like taking it down.

Then we see him confessing to his alleged crime where his body language shows fake alligator tears and over the top expressions of grief and sadness as his expressions are fleeting and there is not enough recovery time from one emotion to the next. Ther are also no tears that he is wiping away. Perhaps this over the top performance was designed to get his North Korean judgers to give him some sympathy. It clearly didn’t work.

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His verbal apology sounded fake and forced and contrived as he cried alligator tears. He was theatrical as he stood up and made an over the top performance. A He even blames the US government for putting him up to this , which clearly shows how he has been manipulated by the North Korans. No American  would ever believe that another American would  publicly denounce their government when they are just a tourist in another country and then say that the US government manipulated him into stealing the banner.  s you can see below he was immediately led out by  one Korean guard as soon as the verdict was read.

As you can see below, Otto was immediately led out by  one Korean guard as soon as the verdict was read.

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He also looks to his right  side  as he is lead out of the courtroom by  that one guard. He seems to be uttering something. Is he speaking to the man in the suit standing against the wall? Is he speaking to the cameras pointed in his direction to document his ordeal?

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Then what you see if very disturbing as he is flanked by two robotic looking, emotionless guards. You see him led out with his eyes closed. It is as though he is walking but he is sleeping at the same time. Note  that his head is  initially still up. The color has also left his face as he suddenly  looks very pale.

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Immediately,  his head drops further as though he is unconscious. It is not just that he is looking down. The fact that his head is down so low, sitting on his chest indicates  to me that perhaps he is in some type of altered state. Was he drugged so that he did not shout anything out and reveal his true thoughts and feelings as he was lead away? The guards also notice the sudden change in his body. The one on the left looks directly at him for the first time and the one on the right suddenly turns his head in Otto’s direction as well. Were they expecting to see Otto in his new state? Did they inject him with something that finally revealed it’s effects? Otto’s fingers splayed as well and look way too relaxed for the circumstances he is under.

Did the North Koreans drug Otto to keep him quiet when he was in front of the media? What will his life be like when the drugs wear off? Will he be beaten as was reported to be the case with so many prisoners? Will he be put in isolation away from others or will he be treated well and remain unharmed so that he could be used as a  bargaining chip during any negotiations with the Americans.

There are  many questions that arise following his capture which leads me to believe he may have been singled out and used as propaganda against the US.Having described his  peculiar body language during his trial and frightening body language of being dragged away to a prison camp for 15 years,  many  puzzling questions arise.

1.Why would he take a banner off of a wall?   Where were all the other young people  with him when he was allegedly taking the banner off of the wall when he was allegedly   drinking vodka until 5 AM?  Usually this type of activity would be in a group activity of people getting rowdy  together and destroying and/or taking property. This makes me wonder if in fact this banner was planted in his luggage, especially since he was the last one to have his luggage checked.

2.How was the alcohol so available to him and where were all the other young people  with him when he was allegedly taking the banner off of the wall when he was  drinking vodka until 5 AM?  Since everything is so strict in North Korea,  especially for tourists, was he purposely plied with alcohol?  Was he not with other students when he was drinking? Was he the only one that was given a supply of liquor?  Where are the other students who were allegedly drinking with him just given soft drinks? Why have these fellow students not come forth to be interviewed? And most of all, was he even given liquor at all or is that all a part of the North Korean propaganda machine?

3. Why would he choose to go to North Korea which was supposedly his first trip out of his home country? This was the question posed by an Irish man who was on the same trip with Wombier and who was interviewed by journalists.It certainly is odd that one’s first trip would not be to a dream location like London or Paris or to a study abroad program in South or Central America or even Russia or  China. But to choose a remote location that the State Department warns tourists to not visit, is very odd- especially for young students.

4. The tour operator  was apparently frantically running up and down the plane , according to witnesses telling the stewardess that they were missing Otto, The witness  told reporters “The tour operator eventually got through to Otto on the phone. He said to her that he didn’t want to leave and had a headache and that he wanted to go to hospital.  She  preferred him to get on the plane and go to a hospital in China….He hung up the phone and that was the last they heard of him. There was a frantic search when they landed in China.”

This entire account strikes me as very odd. First of all, how did the tour guide get to Otto on the phone?  Wasn’t his cell phone immediately confiscated when he was detained by guards and how does a technologically  unsophisticated country suddenly have wifi in their airport when it is such a hassle to get wifi in sophisticated airports around the world? Also that is very odd that he allegedly told the tour guide that he didn’t want to leave and wanted to go to a hospital. First of all who would take him to that hospital in North Korea and why did he need a hospital? Was his drink plied with something other than vodka? Why wouldn’t he want to go to a hospital in China  as his tour operator  allegedly suggested where they would seem to have more sophisticated medical assistance than in North Korea? It simply doesn’t make sense to me. Also was this the first time he drank alcohol?  That is doubtful since he was fraternity man at the U of Virginia where drinking often happens as it does in other fraternities around the country. Did he not get sick immediately  if he was allegedly drinking so much? Wouldn’t he have told his tour operator that he was sick before he went to the airport, not after he was already in the airport and being called by the tour operator as was suggested?

5. Another witness on the plane reported that Otto said something to the soldier and then the soldier started yelling at him and dragged him off. This is very, very odd. Why would Otto speak to any soldier or guard and how did he know Korean so well to have a conversation with anyone? Everything is so strict in that country and everything is so monitored with tourists. Thus, it is very odd  that Otto would speak to anyone other than his tour guide or handlers.

6. Regarding  watching all of your p’s and q’s in North Korea,  another person on the tour stated “We were told constantly that the smallest thing was considered a hostile attack.  I bought lots of magazines and books there and we were told not to fold them in a way that creased Kim Jong-un’s face. They said that would be an attack on their country.”

 

Anyone would know that that stealing a banner is a lot more of a hostile attack in a restricted country than  creasing Kim Jong un’s face in a magazine photo. As someone who was described as “bright” by those who knew him and as a U of Virginia college student, one would know that. One would obviously know that taking anything from North Korea, especially something you did not pay for was a hostile act. So it make you wonder if Otto really committed this hostile act or if it was simply contrived – made up by the North Koreans?

This  leads me to wonder if this young man was being used by the  North Korean officials  to use as an example of propaganda to their people to illustrate just  how bad Americas are in  terms of their drinking and stealing property.

Did the Koreans single him out when he entered the country?  Did they slip him something in his drink to make him ill?  Did they steal the banner and plant it in his luggage,  since he was conveniently the last person to go through the airport security ? Did the Korean’s  plan it this way ? Was there someone forcing him to tell the tour operator that he wanted to stay in North Korea and go to a hospital there? Did he even say that he wanted to stay in North Korea or go to the hospital or was that information that was manufactured ?

The entire scenario seems odd to me and his body language seems to reflect that oddness. His over the top delivery with rhetoric any Westerner  would quickly knows was  a “forced to say” confession. Then, his complete change in demeanor whereby he seems drugged or unconscious,  as he is abruptly dragged away by two robotic expressionless guards, raises suspicion.

The entire scenario is frightening and evidence that every American MUST listen to The U.S. State Department who has repeatedly  warned against travel to North Korea. American visitors who ignore this warning to not travel there are  at great risk  of breaking the North Korea’s strange and seeming ridiculous  and  petty rules. They  risk detention, arrest , and lengthy jail sentences. Although most have eventually been released, the process is a lengthy and an expensive one. They may also die in captivity based on the harsh conditions they will be exposed to such as hard physical labor. They are also at risk of dying at the hands of unsympathetic and inhumane guards.Finally, they are jeopardizing the government’s time, energy,  and finances as it takes a lot of money and effort to negotiate for their release.

The bottom line is stay away from North Korea, especially if you  an American.

Elections A Sad Time for Personal Relationships

 

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Elections are a sad time for relationships and friendships. It is a time where people  often show their narrow mindedness as they are willing to pull the trigger and  end lifetime relationships ,  just because they can’t simply can’t “agree to disagree.” Marriages have suffered and schisms between family members have  deepened -all because of how people feel about one candidate or another. Sometimes their discovering  differences in your political belief may be the catalyst  they needed to lash out at you as they  may never  have  really liked you. Or worse, they may have always  been jealous or envious of you and now this is their  opportunity to  express their jealousy by speaking ill to you and to letting you have it.

When I look at the comments  on Facebook telling friends to unfriend them if they vote for a certain candidate , it is extremely  disturbing. People who have had lifelong friendships and relationships have now ended all communication  because they don’t see eye to eye in terms of which candidate they support. For many, it is their attempt to associate with those who are like-minded to and reject anyone who thinks other than their way.It is a shame because there is much more to a relationship and a friendship than your political beliefs.

As a human behavior and body language expert, I NEVER put my personal views out in public as I  MUST remain neutral at all times. I have done this since the 1980’s when I was first asked to give my feedback on various candidate’s body language in terms of how they performed during various debates.

But no matter how many times I state upfront that I am not a political person or  that I am not supporting any candidate when I provide my insight, there are still a few ignorant individuals who insist that I am supporting one candidate over another.

This happened to me during the  last election where Obama was debating Romney. As we can all recall, Obama’s performance during his initial debate was less than stellar, as he later admitted. As a result, I  expressed in the media in the Associate Press , how poorly he had performed. While most agreed with me, there were some Obama supporters who couldn’t see past their nose when it came to Obama. They appeared to play the “Emperor has new clothes” game  when in fact he was “naked” as they refused to see Obama’s poor performance at the time – something that Obama himself acknowledged.

While there are always haters out there, two of my  haters were people with whom I had gone to high school. One of the haters , whom I never even  knew went to my high school, was in my third-grade class. I hadn’t  thought about her in decades and was even unaware that she had friended me. All I remember was that in grade school, she was a frizzy dark haired girl who used to oddly hold her mouth open whenever she drew pictures.

The other hater was someone whom I had nothing to do with in high school. Since I never associated with her in high school or paid her any mind, from  what I learned from several who apparently knew her back in the day,  she  apparently was not very bright and was  a  “mean girl.”  This “mean girl clearly grew up to be a “mean woman.”

The frizzy- haired  first hater  whom I hadn’t  thought of since third grade, unloaded a barrage of hate  towards me in defense of Barack Obama.  Even though I tried to quell her hate by assuring her that I was merely reporting as a body language expert and not someone who had a political agenda, she  continued to ignore this, unleashing even more hateful remarks. My Facebook friends and fans took offense at what this hater was doing and let her know in no uncertain terms that she couldn’t communicate to me in the way she was communicating and tried to drum it into her that I was not saying anything political, but  merely reporting what I observed during he debates. But this didn’t seem to phase this hater, who continued her tirade until I unfriended her and blocked her.

The second hater ( whom I met and chatted with during a  class reunion) was a friend to the first hater. She let me know that she didn’t appreciate how I  and my fan base reacted to  her friend- the first hater. She then proceeded to let me  have it. She actually went off on me as she defended Obama and chastised me for my observations in the press.

Then she suddenly emerged from the  alleged “mean girl” into  a  “mean woman”  by personally attacking me by telling me I was nothing more than a “talking head” on TV and how some of her other high school friends (including a former cheerleader )felt the same way. As she said this to me, I had to laugh  for two reasons. One was that she was acting just like an immature high schooler and secondly, as others reported to me that she wasn’t that bright back in the day,  she still was seemingly not that bright as an adult. In her attempt to insult me by calling me a “talking head” anyone who speaks in front of the camera and gives commentary as I do is a “talking head“. Unbeknownst to her, the term  is not a pejorative adjective as this hater intended it to be. Instead, it is a noun –  what someone is and does. Needless to say,  I defriended and blocked this hater as well.

Sometimes, the fact that you have a political opinion that is different than someone else’s opinion, is just the opening they need to unleash their true inner feelings towards you. While their verbal volcano may explode  under the guise of a difference in politics,  but the truth of the matter is that it is often something deeper with them as they take  the opportunity to let you have it. Perhaps they did not  like you all along or were jealous of you  and your achievements or where you are in your life as opposed to theirs. So this is their opportunity to let you have it, just like the “mean woman” did to me.

So if you find people unleashing on you just because you support one candidate over another know that there is often something a lot deeper going on  with them like jealousy inner hate, or their lack of self-worth. Mature people who have a solid and positive sense of self and know who they are  can”agree to disagree.”  They don’t have to hate on you just because your politics differ. While they don’t have to accept your candidate they can accept you as a person and as a friend. As the saying goes,  they don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater.”

 

Body Language of Rupert Murdoch and Jerry Hall Show Mutual Love and Give Others Hope For Finding It At Any Age

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Media mogul Rupert Murdoch found  true love at 84 with former supermodel and ex-wife of Mick Jagger, 60-year-old Jerry Hall. They both met their match as you can see in the body language in their photos. Above you see Ruppert kissing her as she nuzzles into him with a genuine smile.

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In this photo above, you continue to see Jerry’s genuine smile and Rupert’s genuine smile. We have never seen him this happy in almost any previous  photo His being expressive makes it clear that it is the real thing between these two.

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While many critics might dismiss this marriage as Jerry’s being a gold digger, this is clearly not the case. She and Mick, who had had three children together , were married for more than 30 years before their relationship ended  in 1999. It has been reported that Mick’s  divorce from Jerry could have cost him over $1.2billion dollars.So clearly marrying for money does not appear to be her motivation.

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Their marriage inspires us that  we can find love  at any age. Women don’t have to  be perfect- have the perfect teeth, have the tight and skinny body,  or have a face devoid of wrinkles. Jerry Hall at 60 shows us that a woman can wear her age and still be loved and adored.

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All too many people give up in searching for the person of their dreams after a certain age. They think there is no hope for them. Well,  Jerry and Rupert are an inspiration to everyone, especially those approaching and who are in their senior years.  This couple clearly shows that there is indeed hope.

More than ever those over 40 are discovering that there is a second , or third , or even a fourth chance for  finding love. So the moral of this story  is- Never give up!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dr. Lillian Glass Always Maintains Her Integrity When It Comes to Body Language Analysis

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Today I just got a call from a  magazine journalist asking me what I thought about some celebrity photos. These particular batch of  photos were of Blake Shelton and some  dark haired woman. They wanted to know if  Blake was cheating on his latest love Gwen Stefani and if there was anything going on between him and this woman in the photo.

As I looked at the photos it was clear  to me that there was nothing going on  with Blake and this dark haired woman, except  for a warm friendship between the two . I determined that based on their mutual facial expressions, the distance they appeared towards one another and their arm and body position.

So when the journalist called me back to discuss my findings  on several of these photos, I told the truth. I informed the journalist that  because Blake’s arm was over the woman’s shoulder and there was so much distance between them in the photos and based on their facial expressions, there appeared to be nothing more than just warm friendship between the two.

Apparently my evaluation was not enough for  the reporter. She wanted more,  so she pressed and pressed me with more and more questions like” Don’t you think the average person who is not a body language expert would think there was something going on between these two?” I answered , ‘No, not at all.Everyone can see  from these photos that they seem like good friends and that there are no signs they are romantic with one another.” That was not the answer she wanted to hear as she  continued to rephrase her question to get some tiny snippet from me that something could possibly be going on so she could spin it  the way she wanted for her magazine.

Knowing exactly what she was doing, I called her out on it. I said, “I know exactly what you are trying to do. You need a sensational story to entice your audience, but I can’t participate in that.

She then ignored what I had to say and tried another way to ask the question. finally told her that I always keep my integrity when I do my body language analysis so there was no way I could help her spin the story the way she wanted it. I also told her that I thought it was unfair to do this to Blake and try and conjure something up. She then said that she appreciated my honesty.

As hung up the phone, I was really disturbed by this.  Just days earlier at the Grammy’s Blake was seen with his love Gwen Stefani where it was obvious based on his body language that he and Gwen were intimately involved with one another . As you can see they seemed happy and in love and involved as Gwen sits between Blake’s legs as they held on to one another with glowing genuine smiles.

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Know that I will never allow myself to be manipulated for any story just so a journalist could spin it a certain way. This is not  the first time this has happened to me and I am sure it won’t be the last.

A few years ago,  I had a regular monthly column for Cosmopolitan Magazine where I did body language analyzes of celebrities and discussed what was really going on between the lines. All too often, whenever I would pitch a story for a new issue, I was met with the news that I had to tone something down  becuase the magazine couldn’t run  my story because the celebrity might get upset or that they would be appearing on the cover and the magazine  wouldn’t want to ruin their relationship with that particular celebrity , who may in turn. cancel out on appearing on the cover. That was surprising and very disappointing news for me to hear. As a journalist, I was trained to report in what ” IS” not what you “WANT the story to be.”

Today I was asked to comment on another story for a popular online publication who also shares my view of keeping it real and not spinning things. So I  openly gave them my observations  on a  celebrity couple’s body language. In the past whenever they asked me for a body language analysis, if I found nothing of significance, they would eliminate the potential the story and not try to manufacture it. This is something I both appreciate and respect.

I will never compromise my integrity and professional reputation for any price in the world. Nothing means more to me than telling the truth and presenting things as they are.Whenever I lend my name to a body language analysis, rest assured that it has been given careful thought and complete scrutiny.

 

 

 

 

 

Body Language Better Predictor than Algorithms to Determine Breakups

Apparently there is a mathematical formula which will tell you the likelihood of whether couples will stay together or  breakup. The reality is that you don’t need an app, online  site or mathematical formula to tell  the future of your relationship.

Instead, you can tell what will happen  in your future just by paying close attention to the way you and your partner communicate and the status of your body language when you are together.

Your relationship is doomed if  someone:

  1. doesn’ t speak to you with respect or politeness
  2.  constantly puts you down
  3. is contentious and contradicts what you say
  4. says mean things followed by I was only kidding
  5.  doesn’t support you in your goals
  6. belittles your opinions and belief system
  7. doesn’t engage in a mutual back and forth conversation
  8. self absorbed communication focusing on themselves and not you
  9. leans away from you
  10. doesn’t give you physical contact
  11. shys away from physical and verbal affection
  12. doesn’t use terms of endearment when they speak to you
  13. toes  do not point in your direction when they speak to you
  14. not looking at you when they speak to you
  15. there is a lot of physical space between you
  16. one walks in back of the other
  17. raises their voice to you
  18. speaks in a monotone
  19. uses vulgarities towards you
  20. doesn’t provide physical comfort when you need it

So if you keep your eyes and ears open and trust your instincts,  you will always know the status of your relationship at any given time.