When someone reaches the glorious age of 103, they need to be revered not punished and put through emotional hardship. No matter what happened with 103 year old congregant and former teacher Genora Hamm Biggs and her minister,Tim Mattox ( a former student of hers), he should never have had her banned from the church she and her family founded, just because she spoke out and told him about things she didn’t like that he was doing and what was happening to the church. Continue reading
Josh Duggar, the eldest son on TLC’s Reality Show “19 and Counting” who admitted to sexuay abusing his sisters, has now
admitted that he is a hypocrite and has a secret addiction to pornography as he was caught on the Ashley Madison site- a site
which caters to married cheaters having affairs. Anna Duggar, Josh’s wife is clearly in denial and engaging in self blaming for
Josh’s egregious behavior.
It is reported that Anna says she is not leaving her cheating husband and will stick by him. In fact she is reported to be turning
to her faith much like her in-laws and doing a lot of praying. In my view she and her in-laws are doing a lot of denying.
No prayer and no faith can help a very mentally sick individual with perverted behavior, like Josh has shown to be. he needs a
lot f therapy and not the faith based religious kind of therapy which clearly did not work on him.
According those close to her, Anna is trying to absorb some of the blame. for Josh’s perverted actions of cheating on her. In fact she apparently blames herself for not being more aware of the pressures Josh was under . She apparently is beating herself up for not having counseled him better.
In my view her alleged statements reveal that she just as disturbed as her husband. She has no connection with reality. There is absolutely nothing she could have done to prevent Josh cheating on her, no doubt when he was pregnant.
It will most likely never happen, but this woman needs to get as far away from Josh and his family as soon as possible. Most likely she will continue to live in denial with her head in the sand like an ostrich. She will never face the reality that her husband has some severe mental problems. She most likely will never listen to anyone who tells her that it is not her fault and that Josh did this on his own and she is not to blame in any way, shape. otr form.
While religion and faith is a great thing for most people. in this case it is not a great thing as we watch Anna stubbornly hide behind her religion and their faith and refuse to see the reality of her very disturbed husband.
I had the opportunity to work with Caitlyn Jenner to try to help her feminize her voice, speech patterns and body language. Our session was filmed for her reality show I’m Cait. Unfortunately it will not be shown this season. But my management team at Sirena Media received this very nice email from the show’s producer:
Unfortunately, that scene did not make it into the series. We had to make some tough cuts because we filmed for 12 weeks but only ended up with eight 42 minute episodes. We so appreciate Lilian working with Cait and all the help she offered and maybe we can have her back next season.
Best of luck to you both and thank you again!
So there is a possibility I may be on her show next season. Because I am bound by a confidentiality agreement I signed with Bunim Murray, Caitlyn’s production company I can’t go into detail as to what specific work I did with Caitlyn and what we specifically discussed during our time together.
I will say that she was a lovely and I thoroughly enjoyed working with her and let her know that I am totally there for her.
I will say that I used the same techniques that I used to teach Dustin Hoffman how to sound like a woman for the film in which he won an Academy Award- Tootsie
We addressed vocal pitch, using more inflection, drawing out vowels so the tones are more flowing, slowing down the speech, using more feminine gestures from sitting, to standing, to head posture, to facial language as well as gesturing, like gesturing towards the body as opposed to away from the body like I am showing here when I Dustin played the Dorothy Michael’s character.
While it takes more than the three hour session I had with Caitlyn while we filmed the show, I was able to give Caitlyn a copy of my best selling book He Says She Says Closing the Communication Gap Between the Sexes. The book contains all the information you will ever need to know about how men and women communicate. It discusses differences in voice, body language, speech, and behavior, what is said and how it is said.
In fact it has just been released on Amazon for kindle
This book can not only be of benefit to the transgender community but can help anyone who wants to have better communication with the opposite sex in business, in their social life, and in their intimate life.
Having worked with many people in the transgender community, perhaps the most difficult aspect of their transition is to sound like the opposite sex. To sound like a woman (for those undergoing male to female transition as Caitlyn is doing), or to sound like a man (for those undergoing female to male transition) it takes time and a lot of hard work. It takes the knowledge of knowing exactly what to do and what the differences are for the specific sex one is transitioning to. It also takes a lot of practice and a lot of patience.
I read in Caitlyn’s blog several weeks ago that when she watched the video of herself speaking at the ESPY Awards, she said that she still felt like she had a man’s voice. It is understandable for her to feel that way as you can’t learn how to sound like a woman and have it become a part of your daily life in just one session. It takes time and a lot of practice.
I was able to assure Caitlyn that what she was feeling was not out of the ordinary and to be patient. I communicated to her that she not be hard on herself because working on feminizing your voice is a process and cannot be done in only one session as we did for the show.
I encouraged her to not focus on what she thought she did wrong, but instead, focus on the many things she did right during her ESPY Speech such as:
1. flowing out her tones
3. using her inflection ( going up several notes)
4 not having a choppy speech pattern
5. opening her jaw when you spoke
6. not speaking so fast
7. not having a creaky sound at the end of sentences (glottal fry)
8. using many feminine gestures.
9. not attacking her initial sounds when she spoke
I clearly let her know that I was very proud of her. I also reiterated specific things she needed to work on in the future regarding the way she spoke so that she would be more satisfied and not see or hear herself as sounding like a man.
Working with Caitlyn was a very rewarding experience for me as I shared with Caitlyn’s my knowledge of what it takes to sound like her genuine self- a woman. I found her to be a lovely, elegant, and beautiful woman who was very eager to incorporate all that we discussed.
She is truly an inspiration not only to the transgender community, but to so many others who are motivated by her personal decision to live an authentic and honest life and to be true to herself. At age 65, she decided to live out her dream, which goes to prove that it is never too late in life to do what you really want to do with your life. I have the utmost respect for anyone who is true to themselves, regardless of what anyone else may say.
Donald Trump. He was the candidate who appeared to be the most at ease even when difficult questions were thrown his way.
As you can see in this photo he is the only candidate leaning forward which indicated his eagerness and readiness.
His gestures were fluid which reflected his ease on the stage. He did not make any of the mechanical gestures which
many of the politicians made where the thumb and the index finger was pinched. Instead he made gestures which matched
his emotions and what he was saying.
candidate who did this.
Regarding his response to the Megan Kelly question, he handled it well. While there is no dispute that a question about how
Trump feels about women should have been asked, the way in which it was asked was sneaky and inappropriate in my view.
First Megyn starts the question off with a very pleasant face as she looks directly at trump and says One of the things people love about you is that you speak your mind and you don’t use a politician’s filter. ”
Then she says however it is not without it’s downsides particularly when it comes to women. You’ve called women fat pigs, slobs, and disgusting animals.”
Trump then interrupts with stating “Only Rosie O’Donnell” which received a roaring applause from the crowd. And by the way Rose O’Donnell was the one who began the fight with Donald Trump with her name calling and disparaging remarks about his physical appearance. Trump in turn, fought back and mirrored her Toxic name calling.
Megyn Kelly then recounts that Trump said to a Celebrity Apprentice contestant “It would be a pretty picture to see her on her knees” In the first place. the contestant was Brande Roderick who can’t recall this ever being said to her and strongly defends Trump on this matter. ”
Megyn then appears to sneer at Trump as she looks directly at him with narrowed eyes as you can see in this photo above and says in an admonishing tone” Does that sound to you like the temperament of a man we should elect as president?” She doesn’t ask :what do you have to say about this? Instead she attacks his temperament. When Trump subsequently said there was “Blood in her eyes” what he was saying was that she was out for blood and it showed in her eyes. We saw her narrowed eyes on screen, but trump saw her piercing eyes glaring directly at him while she asked the question, so clearly he saw a lot more of the negative emotion coming from Megan than the viewer watching the debate.
Trump was visibly disturbed about her question as he purses his lips and tightens his jaw in anger. Then Megyn in essence associates him with the “War on Women.” Trumps answer was that he has no time to be politically correct and then says how the country has no time to be politically correct as he
made karate chop like gestures to emphasize his point which also reflected his anger and annoyance at the question.
He then shows his palms in an open gesture as he explains that oftentimes what he says is fun and kidding and we have a good time. He then goes on to let Megyn know that he has been nice to her even though she has treated him not so nice and that he said he could not be so nice to her based on the way she has treated him. He also reached out and said he was sorry that she felt that way.
Then after the debate, Trump was true to his word and was not so nice to Megyn as she let everyone know that she had blood coming out of her eyes and had other disparaging things to say about her.
One thing about about Donald Trump which everyone should know from reading his book The Art of the Deal, is that his philosophy is that if someone hits you hard, you hit them back harder. And he did that in business which was one of the key;s to his success and has been doing it with everyone who attacks him, including Megyn Kelly.
And once again to refresh everyone’s memory as I have said throughout my blogs, I am not a political person and have no agenda here as I merely report what I observe from a body language and communication standpoint.
There is nothing more that irks me than when I see my fellow journalists getting on the bandwagon and make things up just for the sensationalism and to get a headline that attracts eyeballs. As I have said countless times, I am NOT a political person. I ONLY report things as I see them from a body language and communication standpoint, not a political standpoint. That is why when I read the headline “Hillary Puts on A Southern Accent” I had to speak up.
As a person who is well versed in accent and dialects having taught a large number of A list Hollywood actors how to gain various accents for specific movie roles as well as how to lose accents, I can assure you Hillary DID NOT put on a Southern accent during her recent interview in the South.
What she did do, is something,I suggested she do in my last blog about her, when she did her first campaign speech. That was to use more vocal inflection and get rid of that stiff staccato tone and flow out her tones. She incorporated what I suggested this new etah interview.
What not knowledgeable journalists in the area of voice, speech, accents, and communication skills like Shoshanna Weissmann reported as Hillary having an accent,was simply Hillary using great communication skills for the very first time.
She was warm, flowing in her tones , smiled genuine smiles and was not as stiff as she usually is when speaking. Her gestures
Her gestures were much better but she still used the off- putting finger point which is very alienating to those listening to her. She needs to put a top to using that gesture and only use it whenever she is angry. Finger pointing with the index finger extended towards someone is a universal signal that is used around the world to express Anger.
As you can see Hillary is smiling. She is not angry. She is talking about things that are not anger proucting so she needs to stop this gesture.
Then she used another gesture which she also needs to lose. It is the hand balled into a fit with the thumb extended that all Presidents and Presidential hopefuls used to get their points across.
It is a stupid gesture who’s origins date back to the Kennedy era whereby some ignorant speech coach told JFK to use it and unfortunately it has stuck. It is a gesture that makes no sense in my view because it shows incongruency. For instance a fist shows anger. A thumb up shows things are good. So what this stupid gesture says in reality is ” I am angry things are good.” It makes no sense and Hillary needs to lose it asap.
The next inappropriate gesture she needs to lose is the karate chop gesture when she speaks. It doesn’t work and makes no sense in terms of what she was discussing- running for her first term and not her husband’s third term. It is an angry gesture that is alienating and reflects that she is angry that people may assume she is continuing her husband’s and Obamas’s terms as she mentioned.
So my fellow journalists, my message to you is STOP SPINNING IT! Report what you see and hear that is accurate. Do not report what you don’t see and hear in hopes of getting a nationally read story. When you do this, like was done here, you lose your credibility. That is why the public so often doesn’t believe what they read from journalists. The public is not dumb. They know that there is spin like the spin that was demonstrated here. No Southerner or Northerner, Easterner or Westerner would ever agree there was a Southern accent put on by Hillary. It is false reporting and makes you, fellow journalist, look bad.
And for Hillary, my advice to you is to stop making wrong gestures- misleading gestures. Instead stay real and genuine like you did during this speech when you spoke. Show that vocal warmth with lots of inflection in your tones to express what you want to say. Smile like you have done as it is very inviting and makes people want to hear what you have to say.
Phoniness will not work in this election. People want real gestures that match what is said. They don’t want choreographed or contrived speeches and rhetoric and gestures. Being honest, sincere and genuine is universal language of today.
I completely disagree with Radaronline’s headline as I do not believe Kim Kardashian was being selfish in anyway or looking for the camera at the ESPY’s. Instead she was focused on Caitlyn and very attentive.
One thing you can count on is that whenever I am interviewed is that I will ALWAYS be honest as I have complete integrity when doing a body language analysis. The press can never sway me into saying something that is not there, just for the sake of their spinning their article a certain way. When I see that happening, I will not participate.
When I was interviewed by Radaronline about the family’s reaction to Caitlin’s speech, I was extremely positive as ALL the family members listened attentively and were emotionally moved. They I was asked about Kylie’s looking miserable. I assured then that Kylie was emotional based on the moving things Caitlin said in her speech. I assured them that she was not looking miserable but very much relating to what Caitlin was saying.
I also emphatically told radaronline that I didn’t want to be a part of any negative article concerning Catilyn or her family as I completely support Caitlin in all of her endeavors and will in no way be a part of anything negative about her or related to her.
So when they saw that they were going in the wrong direction regarding Kylie and that I would not comment negatively, they turned their attention to Kim. I again assured them that Kim’s body language showed love and support towards Caitlyn.
They realized they would not get anything negative from me so they sought the services of another body language expert Patti Wood who was obviously willing to say something negative about Kim being selfish and looking for the camera.
Thus I was shocked when the ugly headline read :
The Kim Show! Body Language Experts Claim Selfish Kardashian Was ‘Looking For The Camera’ During Caitlyn Jenner’s ESPYs Speech”
This was disgusting! I am not the body language expert who said this as the headline is a bold faced lie!! Kim was NOT looking for the camera. She was focused on Caitlin and I resent this false headline as I had no part of this.
Here is exact;y what I said:
In the beginning of Caitlyn’s acceptance speech “Kim Kardashian is smiling proudly,” says body language expert to the stars Dr. Lillian Glass, who has worked with such huge names such as Dustin Hoffman and Sean Connery.
This is what Patti Wood said:
However, “Kim had her arm across her belly to call attention to look at her and could not bring herself to clap,” says another expert, Patti Wood, who is the author of Snap: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma.
So in essence I NEVER said this. It was only ONE body language expert who said this-Patti Wood said this. So the headline “Body Language Experts (plural) is completely wrong completely false!
I did say the following statements which were ALL positive about a positive occasion:
According to Dr. Glass, “When Caitlyn is talking about the family, Kylie and Kendall are moved by this as they wipe away their tears. They are emotional because Caitlyn is getting emotional.”
As I said countless times, I am not political and this is not a political blog. I write about newsmakers and Presidential Candidate Hillary Clinton certainly falls into that category. As someone who has coached A List Academy Award Winning actors an actresses, top sports figures, corporate leaders, and politicians I feel very qualified to weigh in on the fact that Hillary Clinton is in desperate need of voice and body language coaching as evidenced in her performance on her Kickoff Campaign Speech on Roosevelt Island.
She has surrounded herself with the top advisors in the world like her campaign manager Leonard Podesta,Robby Mook and Communications Director Jennifer Palmieri . They no doubt have the best speech writers in the world. They all have presented her image quite well. They have monitored the content of what she says quite well.
But they have neglected to monitor how she says it. This is essential in her campaign as no matter how beautifully a speech is crafted if you don;t deliver it well, people (voters tune out) That is where I come in. I would love to coach Hillary with her delivery.
Studies show that the way a person speaks is more important than how they look. Research also shows that if a person does not deliver their message well in terms of the tone of their voice, the way they speak, and their body language, they will not be as effective in getting their message across.
Here is what to Hil;ary needs to do in order for voters to really hear her message .
1. She needs to stop sound so staccato and choppy in her delivery. It is off putting. Instead she needs to develop a flow to her speech pattern whereby she draws out her vowels and flows the into one another.
2. She needs to stop going down in inflection at the end of her statements.
3. She needs to lose the monotone and provide more inflection so that the meaning and emphasis of what she is trying to say doesn’t get lost. In fact, if I was working with her I would choreograph her speech as I have done with so many to help them speak pubically. I would arrange for her where to go up and where to go down in terms of her inflectiona nd which specific words to emphasize as she speaks. All of this would be written down for her and she could see it as she read her speech on the teleprompter or by hand. She needs to emphasize key words and phrases.
4. She needs to stop for a second or two after delivering crucial information or when making an important point so that the listener can better process what she has just said.
5. She needs to stop being so stiff and staccato in her gestures and definitely needs to avoid making this particular measured
gesture as you see here below with her hands at either side and thumbs pointing upwards. It is like a karate chop movement that is out of place in terms of the content she was discussing- her grandparents.
6. She then makes a fist like angry gesture when speaking about her father. It was no congruent with what she was saying. Fist like gestures need to be avoided at all times unless you are speaking about something that really makes you furious like ISIS or acts of terrorism.
7.Then she speaks of her beloved mother. Even though you could tell that she really loved and adored her mother greatly he tones were too choppy and staccato. he tone didn’t fit the lovely message. And then she does something that is a HIGE non- no when giving a speech- she points. That is a hostile gesture. Never point unless you are upset or angry. This was not the case here so never point for emphasis as it is off putting and sends a confusing message > here she talks about her mother;s saying that kindness is what got her through yet her gestures say the opposite.
8. The story about her mother was beautiful. It could have been more impactful with the right delivery. As she told of how poor her mother was while growing up, she need to pause more for effect and then inflect on key emotional words. She also spoke a little too fast. She needed to stop so that the audience could better process this very great story which shed a positive light on Hillary.
- In fact Hillary kept pointing thoughout her speech. She needs to stop this and ONLY point when ther eis something to point about like something that his horrible or where she would be giving a warning about something. But to point throughout the speech is confusing.
- She also needed to smile when talking about her beloved mother instead.
Personally I think her image is great. It is authentic. I love that she has made monochrome pantsuits her style. She looks good in them and they are practical and professional looking. Maybe that will be the new trend. By the way I also loved it when she wore headbands as the First Lady and hope she brings them back. She is true to her style and I love that.
I reallyI like that she isn’t plastic surgeried and face lifted or botoxed up and shows every one of her well earned wrinkles. I like that she isn’t dieting to death and stressing herself out about looking a certain way but instead, eating real meals and keeping it healthy. Her weight is appropriate and she doesn’t look obese.
I love how she lights up around her daughter Chelsea and how proud she is to be a grandma. I am also impressed that she stuck by Bill and worked it out between them, even during the most humiliating of times in her life with all of his philandering. Yes, she stuck by her man and she worked it out andas a result they can both grow o together as a couple and as a family. This provides a great role model to people who just want to throw in the towel and not work things through.
Seeing how Bill embraced her and how she leaned her head on his shoulder showed their genuine love and affection towards one another which was moving and uplifting for everyone to see.
Seeing her in action and as she delivered her speech, to me there doesn’t seem to be any overt health concerns as rumors would have you believe. Even if there were concerns, it doesn’t matter because she no doubt has the best doctors in the world at her service should she need them.
What does matter is her message and how voters perceive her message, if they can;t get past her monotones and her body language is off putting then the message is lost.
I wish I could have just one session with Hillary to coach her put her on the right path vocally and body language wise as it would complete her image, In the meantime, I hope that her advisors pay close attention to the points n this blog which can help her tremendously as she goes out on the campaign trail.