Melania Trump- Communicate Anger Directly Not Passive Aggressively With Toxic  Message on Jacket

There is nothing more Toxic than being Passive Aggressive and expressing your anger in a sneaky way. That is what Melania Trump did when she wore a $39 Zara jacket with the  words ” I Really Don’t Care, Do You?

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There is nothing more Toxic than being Passive Aggressive and expressing your anger in a sneaky way. That is what Melania Trump did when she wore a $39 Zara jacket with the  words ” I Really Don’t Care, Do You?”

Communication wise I am not buying the Spin they are using to try to make it OK for Melania to wear this jacket with this toxic message on it’s back. It is a very passive-aggressive form of communication.

If it was a message to the press, as her spin doctors are saying, then why not wear it to a press conference? If it was against the press, it backfired on her. Instead, she wore it to a detention camp to meet migrant children.  It gives the message that she must really not care about the children, not the press.

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Personally, I think it was Melania’s message to the world that she is done- done caring about anyone or anything any more after her son was so verbally eviscerated by one-time actor and Jane Fonda’s bother,  Peter Fonda.  Something clearly must have gone wrong in the Fonda household to have both siblings be so full of hate. Peter Fonda tweeted that her beloved son Baron be ripped from her arms put in a cage with pedophiles. He is suffering no consequence unlike Roseanne Barr did by losing her show and her career. Apparently, Fonda is still having a movie released that he is appearing in from Sony Picture Classics.

Melania is furious and rightfully so. After all, she was the one who pleaded with her husband to reunite the children with their parents. She was the catalyst to make a good thing happen. She didn’t want to see children in cages emotionally distraught and desperate for their parents. She was a hero in all of this.

And then Toxic Peter Fonda unleashes the most vulgar tweet that was so vicious and frightening- so much so that she called in the Secret Service who no doubt paid Fonda a visit. Like a scared rat, he issued a frantic apology which was clearly forced. He also called for anarchy. At the least, he needs to be tried for trying to incite a riot and even treason. And he needs to be put in jail for threatening Melania and what he would do to Baron. And for those of you who claim this is Fonda’s  First Amendment right, I say threats like this have no rights.  And of course, nothing was done to him.

So maybe Melania had enough. That may have been the last straw that broke the camels back so to speak. Attacked so viciously and vulgarly, she may actually be saying to the world” I give up!”  ”  I don’t give a damn”  and finally ” I don’t really care about anything anymore.” ”  I don’t care about these migrant children after my son was eviscerated verbally.”

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The verbal attack on Baron may have been the lowest and final blow to her as a reluctant First Lady, to begin with.  So she took this opportunity to lash out in anger in a passive-aggressive way.

Instead of wearing this jacket ( which I love by the way if it didn’t have print on the back and if it was in a bright color like lime green or aqua or a shocking pink) she needed to speak directly to the people.

She needed to hold a presser and remind America and the world that she was working on their behalf to reunite the children and that there is no room for hate and hostility towards her or dragging her son into the equation. She needed to let haters know that there is no need for such vitriol as Peter Fonda did. She needed to call him out for this as well as the rest of the haters.

Whoever is advising her is doing a very poor job and didn’t do her any favors. In fact in the words of The Donald, that person or those alleged advisors need to be “fired. ”

Melania is angry and rightfully so.  But passive-aggressive communication is as  TOXIC as the vulgarities spewed upon her. Melania must speak up and say what is on her mind in a direct and open way,  not sneakily or passive aggressively.

Donald Trump and Melania’s Body Language Awkward and Tense on New Years Eve

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New years eve seemed like a tense time for the President and First Lady as they hosted a party at Mar-a-Lago resort in Palm Beach, Florida. They were joined by 11 year old Baron  as they entered  the Grand Ballroom making a  a red-carpet entrance. The couple appeared  uncomfortable and cold towards one another during their arrival on the red carpet. No one smiled. Donald, Barron and Melania were serious and stone faced

Their body language was disturbing  as  Melania trailed  behind  Donald and Barron and looked distant.  She appeared tense and stiff as though she didn’t want to be there.

There was too much physical  distance between the couple. This type of body language and facial language and  lack of interaction seemed inappropriate for the holiday occasion. It’s disturbing, especially since it’s the holidays. It’s one thing for a state dinner, but we’re talking about a fun, New Year’s Eve party where you are supposed to be more loving.

While you can  write off their interactions during more diplomatic, business-centered  appearances,  you can’t  pretend that their seemingly cold interaction in the middle of a holiday celebration doesn’t exist. It speaks volumes as to the status of their relationship.

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While Trump spoke of all of his 2017 accomplishments, Melania seemed to ignore what he said and didn’t even  nod her head in agreement or smile. She was dead serious.

There is clearly something bothering Melania and it leaks out in her facial language and in her body language. The body doesn’t lie and neither   does one’s face. So no matter how hard she tries to keep up a warm front,  she is not succeeding in this regard.   Young Barron seemed more in synch with his father as they walked together than Melania who stood behind both of them as they entered the party.

 

All this said, there are any number of reasons as to why Melania Trump’s body language seemed so stilted — including something as simple as a discomfort with the massive spotlight now on her and her family.  Unfortunately, however, that’s just part of the family’s new job, and those possible explanations are not going to stop the public from examining their every move.

Stop the Rumors! Trump Did NOT Make Milania Sad During Swearing In Context is Key in Reading Body Language

Context is key  with regard to any body language analysis. So many people have been asking me to comment on why Melania looked so sad after Donald turned around at the inauguration ceremony when Rev. Graham spoke.

After scrutinizing the clip frame by frame  and looking at Melania’s behavior facial expression and body language BEFORE Donald turned around, DURING the time he turned around and AFTER the time he turned around,    I can assure you that he did not say anything to upset her.

The reason I am so sure of it is that if she was upset with what he said  it would have happened immediately at the split moment it happened not any time later and certainly not a second or two later.

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Melania wore the same upset looking facial expression people are speaking about well before Donald turned around as you can see her with somber expression and head bowed down. In fact in the crowd, she is one of few people with a bowed head. 

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Melania looks sad BEFORE Rev. Graham spoke.Even Ivanka looks somber as he starts his benediction.

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Her head is bowed BEFORE Donald turned around and as Rev. Gram said” in the bible it is a sign that when it rains…”

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As soon as Rev. Graham said ” And it started t0 rain Mr. President when you came to the platform,” Trump immediately turned around and smiled at Melania as Ivanka is wearing an expression of being choked up. In essence,  BOTH Donald and Melania are having a positive and personal moment together .   

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They both book at one another eye to eye as Melania nods and Ivanka is now happy as well, cocking her head so that she can get a better view of her dad. 

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Trump uttered something and he immediately  turned around. Since his back was to the camera we can never know what he said. Therefore I cannot utilize my lip reading skills to decipher exactly what he said and I cannot speculate as I ONLY report what I actually see and what I actually hear. As he has turned around, Melaina is still smiling as you can see her cheeks raised and eyes still squinted and teeth showing in a genuine smile.

Then as Trump is fully turned around, her expression immediately changes. In my view, she may have just  processed the powerful statement Rev. Graham made about the rain which occurred just as Trump spoke being an auspicious sign. Perhaps the reality was beginning to set in that her husband is REALLY going to be President, that she will be First lady and that life as she once knew it will never be the same.

The reason I DO NOT believe he said something awful to her that made her upset as so many lay people, non professionals and Trump haters have wrongly remarked is because her reaction time was not immediate. When someone says something horrible to you, as they speak those words your facial expression changes. It does NOT change a second or two later. In essence, Melania reverted back to her previous somber expression that she had on her face well before Trump turned around.

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What even further confirms what I am saying is the fact that she turns away to look into the crowd as she processes the reality of the moment and how countless  people are standing before her,  witnessing her husband becoming the next President of the United States.

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Then she turns her head toward the front as she looks out into the crowd, continuing  with the serious expression on her face. 

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She then immediately  looks down after viewing and processing the crowd and the seriousness of the situation.

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Now she looks at the crowd once again as further evidence she is   processing the enormity of the situation and what is going on.

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Then she looks down, once again ,engaging in the processing of the situation.

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Next, she turns her head and looks down. It has now been a FULL 6 SECONDS since Trump allegedly said something to her . It does NOT take 6 seconds to process being upset. It would have happened at the moment he spoke and immediately afterwards, which it did not. 

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She looks down and glances up at the crowd again.

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Then she looks straight on as her head is slightly bowed. 

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And now she turns with her head held high as she stands in line with her husband, looking right at the back of him. So now, she has processed the moment and is now aligned with her husband as she stands behind him having processed and accepted that she is the new First Lady and he is the new President.

Context is key when reading people’s body language. A little information and a little knowledge can be dangerous and create rumors which was the case here. Melania had a somber expression before Donald turned around and spoke to her. She was thrilled during and immediately after he spoke to her.  Only seconds later, as she processed the reality of what Rev. Graham was saying as she scanned the crowds, all the while being engaged in her own thought process did her expression look somber.

So what may have looked like her being upset at what Donald might have said to her is NOT the case at all. 

As you know I am not political and I ONLY fairly report what I  ACTUALLY SEE and what I HEAR,  just as I have done throughout the campaign and now that Trump is President.  I have NO BIAS and I am keeping it OBJECTIVE at all times so don’t try to think for me and tell me what is in my mind or  tell me I am biased as I am the ONLY one that can tell you DIRECTLY what I am thinking and what my bias is or is not. I have  absolutely  nothing to hide, no one to impress and I am not beholden to anyone. So if you want to spew hate towards Trump, do it elsewhere not with me.

I report and continue to report ALL that I see whether or not it is flattering to Trump or not. In fact, I recently remarked that I didn’t like it when Trump walked in front of Melania as she was left holding the Tiffany package, while Trump sprinted towards the Obamas.  Whether he was caught up in the excitement of the day and in the moment or whether the Secret Service told Melania to stand back and wait, or whether  this was some type of protocol, I didn’t like it at all as it looked very bad to me as a sign of rudeness. In Western culture, we do NOT walk in front of a friend, spouse, or mate, and leave them trailing behind, regardless of their sex. Doing so has very bad connotations. So NEVER accuse me of being biased.

I HATE rumors and false reporting and having been a trained journalist at the number one School of Journalism in the world, USC, I vilify ANY reporter who sticks their bias into the equation like Martha Radditz who was almost in tears during her reporting on ABC of the  inauguration and who in my view should be, using Trump’s term,” FIRED” 

I also HATE it when reporters, amatures, non professionals do body language analysis and do it wrongly. It is DANGEROUS and IRRESPONSIBLE!  Just because someone has a degree in Psychology it does NOT make them a BODY LANGUAGE EXPERT!  It takes years and years of work, research and experience like I have done and Alan Pease and Paul Ekman, David Given, and even ex FBI agent Joe Navarro. I have the utmost respect for all have done. These are  my colleagues I have the utmost respect for them. All of their backgrounds are solid and they know of that they speak, just like I do. Many others in my view,  do not have the expertise, experience ,or background and as a result make dangerous and irresponsible comments. 

I was on the BBC last week with a Psychology Professor from OXFORD who knew NOTHING what he was talking about regarding body language . It was embarrassing to even listen to this man.

I am thrilled that Trump is fighting back and busting the irresponsible press that, many members whom we saw having direct ties to Hillary from Martha Radditz to Rachel Maddow,  Wolf Blitzer, Jake Tapper, other CNN cronies and even Megyn Kelly. I personally can never trust ANY of their reporting now and tune out whenever they speak. I have lost all respect for them as they should know better.

 

Body language reveals insight into relationship Between Melania and Donald

 

Body language expert Patti Wood said there were only a few moments that showed love between the pair. Picture: AFP/Saul Loeb.

President and Mrs. Trump couldn’t be a better match as you can gauge a lot from  their body language. They are a perfect match even though  come from different backgrounds.  She’s very accommodating, and he has a large ego and needs a lot of attention.

Donald Trump could never be with a wife who is competing for the limelight, and so for his personality type and her personality type, they couldn’t be a better match.

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Melania understands her husband very well and looks up to him in admiration.  She seems to be willing to put up with a lot.

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That includes leaving her trailing behind as he made his way towards former President Obama and Michelle. Maybe he was caught up in the moment and the excitement of the day, but to me it was still rude and cannot be overlooked. Personally, I would find it quite unsettling  if my man did that the me. In Western culture it is considered rude to walk in front of someone and leave then trailing behind.

We have come from eight years of the Obamas where we have see the opposite  of Melania and Donald’s dynamic as Barack constantly showered Michelle with affection and adoration.   In fact Barack kissed Michelle’s hand and comforted her as they were leaving for the helicopter. he sensed she was sad and his kiss was a reflection of how much attention he paid to her feelings.

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In all fairness,  you cannot really compare the relationship between the Trumps and the Obamas because the two couples have stemmed from very different circumstances.

 

Barack and Michelle married young. She was his boss, and they fell in love so they have had  a whole life together Trump, on the other hand, has been married two times before, so it’s a whole different kettle of fish.

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Melania is the opposite of Donald in that she appears to be more  reserved as she shies away from the limelight. Donald, on the other hand  is more outgoing, outspoken, and craves the limelight. That is why they work well together as a couple and will continue to do so throughout Donald’s Presidency.   They are a perfect case example of how opposites can not only attract but they can work out long term.

 

Dr Lillian Glass, who has been studying body language for three decades, said the Trumps ‘couldn’t be a better match’. Picture: AP Photo/Evan Vucci.

 No matter what your political views are you have to admit that they do make a stunning couple. Aside from Jacqueline Kennedy, no one has  looked more beautiful, glamourous , poised and  so well put together as Melania. The dress she wore to the Swearing In Ceremony was Jackie Kennedy inspired ( the collar) but a clever variation thereof. Fashion-wise there is no doubt that she will be an inspiration, just like Kate Middleton.

 

Rosie’s Tweeted Apology to Melania Insincere

screen-shot-2016-11-29-at-3-37-11-amAnalysis of Rosie O’Donnell’s tweet where she allegedly apologized to Melania for asking if Baron was autistic, showed insincerity and  embarrassment at all the backlash she received.   O’Donnell wrote the following tweet:

 “I apologize to @MELANIATRUMP – i was insensitive in my RT – i am sorry for the pain i caused – it was not my intent – i am truly sorry.”

Look at the i’s. She begins it with a capital I but in three other places she uses the small  “i” indicating that she is embarrassed and ashamed. It shows a lack of self confidence in her statement. But in my view, she is embarrassed not by what she said, but embarrassed  because she got caught and the backlash was so strong against her. People who were even her fans let her have it for calling out her nemesis’ 10 year old son as being autistic.

As further indication of her embarrassment, she got rid of her twitter account to the public and made it private. that is a huge indication that she is retreating in shame from the public who lambasted her.

When she says she was insensitive in her RT (retweet) she is attempting to share the blame in stating that it wasn’t really her fault because she just tweeted what someone else tweeted in the first place. Also the use of the word “insensitive” shows insincerity. Had she said I was “wrong” it my retweet it would have been a stronger more real apology.

She said I am sorry for the pain I caused. What about saying that she is sorry for tweeting misinformation. In saying this she is making it about her -and showing how she things she has so much power to cause another pain. If she was truly sincere she would have said I am sorry “you were hurt.” It makes you wonder if she did indeed enjoy causing that pain. After all, she despises Trump. So anything to hurt him- like hurting his wife and his son would certainly not cause her to feel sorry. She also  doesn’t say she was in pain for hurting Melania.

Also there is too much repetition of the same phrases and same theme  ie. “I apologize”, “i am sorry”   “i am truly sorry”which smacks of deception. The word “truly” means just the opposite here.There is too much information and the adjective reflects that she is trying too hard to convince Melania how sorry she is.

The most telling tell of all is that she did not even  mention Baron. He is the one that really deserves her apology.

 

 

Toxic Rosie O’Donnell Insinuates Baron Trump is Autistic as Tweet and Video Show How A Little Information In the Wrong Hands Can Be Dangerous

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The ongoing Donald Trump vs Rosie O’Donnell Feud (which Rosie started when she attacked Trump’s looks when she was on the View)  took huge turn when O’Donnell hit below the belt and had the audacity to bring 10 year old Baron Trump into the fray with a  claim that  he may be autistic.

All I can say is HOW DARE HER? She is not a doctor, psychologist, therapist, neurologist, behavior expert, or even a body language expert. Her diagnostic technique is not formal or professional. Instead, she outs her own 3 year old  daughter and says that her daughter was recently diagnosed with autism and that she recognizes the signs in Baron. Well her daughter is not Baron and she did not formally diagnose the boy.

I am  appalled at Rosie  for even bringing this up in her horrible tweet :

Barron Trump Autistic? if so – what an amazing opportunity to bring attention to the AUTISM epidemic https://t.co/Acgy1Qxyqi via @YouTube

— Rosie (@Rosie) November 22, 2016

Apparently there was a video that was posted by a  YouTube user named  James Hunter, titled “Is Barron Trump Autistic? #StopTheBullying” which apparently  shows examples of Barron’s behavior at public events. The video has been viewed more than 2.5 million times since it was posted Nov. 11.

It showed Barron clapping at the Republican National Convention and points out “his hands are moving erratically and not touching each other.” The video also shows him “making strange movements in his seat, typical in children with autism.”

“One of the biggest signs of autism is a lack of social skills and understanding,” the video said. “When Barron came on stage at the RNC his anti-social behavior was on display.”

It goes on to show Barron standing blank-faced on stage as his parents and siblings smile and clap. Then it shows Barron shrugging off an affectionate squeeze from his father.

In my view, this  is how a little information in the wrong hands- the hands of James Hunter who is also not a doctor can go awry. This incident also shows how someone with a huge following like Rosie O’Donnell can create even more havoc.

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The ONLY ones who know if Baron has autism is his neurologist, physician, parents, and family members- no one else! Baron’s mother Melania has fought back and has threatened to sue the video maker and made suggesting that Rosie may be next in line for perpetuating what she claims in a lie as he insists Baron does not have autism.That is the right thing to do in order to put a stop to this potentially damaging labeling behavior, especially if it is not true as Melania says.

To play devil’s advocate- what if he does have it? Why put Baron on display and label him with something he may or may not have that can have serious implications on his future?

He may just be a shy or introverted type of young man. One thing for sure is that he was very disciplined as he stood up on the stage for such a long time without moving around while his President – Elect father gave his victory speech. Body language wise it was impressive behavior from any 10 year old child  or any adult, whether they were autistic or not.

As far as Baron looking blank- faced as the video stated, there may be other reasons for this besides autism. He may be simply uncomfortable with large crowds and with being suddenly thrown into the limelight.  He may be unhappy about having to be thrust out in public which may show on his face. Some children relish and bask in the limelight, while others retreat.

When the video said he shrugged off an affectionate squeeze from his father, I say  that many ten year old boys do not welcome open affection in public as it often embarrasses them. So in my view,  there was nothing atypical or “autistic” about that. The same holds true for the reported “strange clapping.” Personally, I didn’t see anything strange about Baron’s clapping. Once again it may seem odd to him that he has to now  be clapping for his dad in a context in whch he is not familiar.”

Baron may simply be a shy young man, just  like his mother Melania seems to be. He may not be comfortable in the public eye like his sister Ivanka or brothers Donny and Eric. Instead, he may also be shy like  his sister Tiffany.

Being in the public eye and knowing how to comport yourself takes  lot of time and practice. Even the best of celebrities feel uncomfortable. I should know as I have treated many of them personally. Throughout the years I have helped countless high profile people whom you would assume would be comfortable and at ease in any public arena, with their speaking and body language during talk show appearances, Academy Award speeches, and public speaking performances. So it is needless to say that a 10 year old boy may not be comfortable in this arena.

And let’s say for argument’s  sake that Baron may be on the spectrum. I say, “so what!” I know many incredibly successful people who were diagnosed and who function quite well. In fact I just had lunch with a wonderful producer-director last week who told me of his diagnosis. It certainly didn’t stop him from getting Emmy’s an Academy award, having a loving wife with whom he has been married for several decades, and two happy, well adjusted and successful children. It didn’t stop me from wanting to do some business with him. I also know a very successful attorney who hates  public gatherings and social events. At one time he confided in me that as an adult he was diagnosed with being on the spectrum. Once again his diagnosis didn’t hurt his career or his appeal from the ladies, who evidently found his shyness and perceived awkwardness as endearing. Comedian Jerry Seinfeld has publicly admitted he may have the disorder and it certainly didn’t hurt him as he has thrived with an incredibly successful comedy career, a beautiful wife and children.

If Baron does happen to be on the spectrum, he may in fact  be the “new normal”. In  2014 the CDC observed 1 in 68 births had a spectrum disorder. In 2015 the figure rose to 1 in 45. The figures are not yet in for 2016 but there does appear to be an increase in the disorder.

Whether Baron does or does not have the disorder, he needs to be off limits, just like the Obamas made Sasha and Malika off limits. That is why the Clintons tried to make Chelsea off limits when Bill was President. I will never forget how horribly cruel the press and the public was to their daughter Chelsea when she was younger. They constantly  commented on how ugly she looked and how awkward she appeared in her behavior. And the end result is that she grew up to be poised and attractive with a loving husband and two children and there is apparent talk about her hitting the political stage in the future.

There has been considerable backlash against Rosie O’Donnell for her comments and rightfully so. Her friends and her foes have let it be known that her behavior has transcended politics and personal feuding. Now she ventured into seriously unacceptable and dangerous territory.

 

 

 

 



 

 

 

 

Melania’s Mellifluous Voice and Elegant Composed Body Language During RNC Speech

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The stunning beauty, Melania Trump, wearing a gorgeous form fitting white dress, made her debut at the Republican Convention’s stage. As far as delivery and body language is concerned, Melania did extremely well, especially since she is not a public speaker, does not often speak in public, and the fact that English is not her native tongue. The tone of her voice was appealing and soothing. She was poised and composed vocally. Her accent in my view, was charming and her cadence, rhythm, and timing when she spoke  were excellent. She spoke with passion and inflection, especially when she spoke of husband Donald and what she believed he could do for the country.

Body language wise, her movements were fluid and elegant. She had a regal appearance with impeccable posture.

There is a  lot of talk about whether or not Melania’s speech was  original or whether it was the same as the speech given by Michelle Obama. It seems that they both spoke about education and their children, which seemed to be a mission on both of their parts. So it may be understandable that both messages may have been similar.

The bottom line is that she did an excellent job.  Should Donald Trump be the next President of the United States, it certainly appears that Melania,  as the First Lady, would handle herself with the same elegance and decorum  as she showed during her  RNC speech .

Once again, this is not a political stance as this is not a political blog. As an objective professional,  I  report what I see as it pertains to body language and what I hear as it pertains to communication patterns.