When one of my dear readers sent me the above photo of Kate Gosselin picking up her kids from school last Friday and asked me to analyze Kate’s and Colin’s body language, I was appalled by what I saw. Seeing Kate’s angry and aggressively shouting at Colin as his facial expression shows him wincing in discomfort. This is especially evident when you see the next photo below.
Since there are a series of these photos depicting Kate’a abusive behavior towards Colin, taken in progression of occurrence, the above photo was when she placed her hand over the child’s mouth, not allowing him to speak, let alone breathe out of his mouth.
If you look at the muscle tension in her hand and fingers, you can see the hostile force she used to silence Colin. You can also see her anger in her face and mouth and jaw as well as the resulting distress in little Colin’s forehead. This is evidenced by the the furrowed muscle tension above his brows.
Little Colin is obviously uncomfortable as he leans away with his body and tries to turn his head away from Kate and casts his eyes down and away from her as he attempts to get away from her and her strong grip over his mouth. You can see the tension in her fingers and the indentation of the pressure of her fingers on Colin’s distorted cheek. This shows the force at which she used on him.
NEVER STIFLE A CHILD’S COMMUNICTION OR ANY OF THEIR BREATHING PASSAGES! THAT IS ABUSE IN MY BOOK!
In my view as a Communication Expert, I strongly believe that NO CHILD should EVER be stopped from talking or expressing him or herself. No one should EVER put their hand over a child’s mouth to stifle them or to cut off one of their two breathing channels.
What if little Colin had a stuffed up nose and couldn’t breathe through his nostrils. She would have been cutting off the air he needed to sustain his life. Even if she did it for a millisecond, it still woud be too much as far as I am concerned. Her behavior can have serious emotional and developmental implications on the child’s communication. I have spent over two decades working with people who’s communication was stifled one way or another and they suffered greatly.
It doesn’t matter if Colin was screaming at the top of his lungs, (which there was no indication that he was doing this based on the photos which preceded the event) you don’t do this to a child! It is abusive and humiliating to the child. This action does NOT build a child’s confidence not his self- esteem.
WHAT KATE COULD HAVE DONE
If a child is overly chatty or yelling at the top of his lungs, or even hurling out obscenities , you don’t ever do what Kate did to Colin. Instead, you do like Nanny 911 or Super Nanny Jo taught us to do. You bend down to the child’s physical level so that they can see you eye to eye. The, you look directly into their eyes so they can see your face.
You can even hold their little hands as you look into their eyes and say” No this is not acceptable.” Maybe while you are down there, you may even want to ask them what is bothering or what they are so upset about. What you say is up to you. But NEVER do what Kate did!
WHAT DID COLIN DO TO CREATE THE WRATH OF KATE?
The answer to this question is NOTHING! In carefully examing all of the photos in the sequence in which they were taken, there is nothing that Colin coud have done to merit Kate’s abusing him as we she she did. See for yourself.
Colin steps off the bus and drags his coat on the floor, something most kids that age do based on their size in relation to the ground, the size of their coats which ate almost as big as they are, and their awkward coordination at that age. Kate is no doubt upset at Colin for this as you can see by her open mouth in the shape of an O. This facial expression indicates anger as also visually evidenced by her jaw tension. Her hands with toward turned palms also reflect anger and non- open and non- accepting behavior to what she has just witnessed with Colin and his jacket.
Kate no doubt told Colin to stop dragging hs coat on the ground and to put it on, he is trying to do it but the poor little guy has it all upside down with his hand in the wrong sleeve. Kate s pissed as her mouth is still open, no doubt telling him what he is doing wrong, and maintaining her angry body language compete with palms facing downward.
As his brothers and sisters files into the bus, Colin lags behind, He leans his little body into Kate, no doubt wanting some affection and a little loving reassurance after being yelled at by her as he descended from the school bus moments earlier. You can see his head nuzzling into her forearm.
His brothers and sisters are boarding the van but he wants some of mommy’s attention and grabs on to the bottom of her coat. She ignore him and by the angry expression on her face she is yelling at some of the other kids. He looks away trying to ignore her anger as he is waiting to get a moment of alone time with mommy to regain some self esteem after being yelled at in front fo everyone about his coat being on the ground a little while earlier.
Next we see Kate’s anger escalating as she is super pissed at Colin as evidenced by the look of rage in her facial expression for grabbing her coat and pulling it. You can see how the coat is pulled away from Kate. He was innocently doing this to get Kate’s attention, but it obviously did not sit well with her that he grabbed her coat, so she let hm have it as you see in the first three photos posted at the top of the blog.
WHAT KATE COULD HAVE DONE
After looking at these series of photos, there was no doubt that little Colin felt bad at being yelled at earlier, and waned some of mommy’s loving attention. Instead he got emotionally slapped.
Colin clearly did nothing to merit Kate’s abuse in my opinion. All the boy did was ask for a little attention and wanted to make nice after she yelled at him about his coat. It was his 5 year old way of offering an apology for upsetting mommy. Instead, th poor little guy got abused even more.
If a child is overly chatty or yelling at the top of his lungs, or even hurling out obscenities , which Colin was not doing according to these photos, you don’t ever do what Kate did to Colin. Instead, you do like Nanny 911 or Super Nanny Jo taught us to do. You bend down to the child’s physical level so that they can see you eye to eye. Then, you look directly into their eyes so they can see your face.
You can even hold their little hands as you look into their eyes and say” No this is not acceptable.” Maybe while you are down there, you may even want to ask them what is bothering or what they are so upset about. What you say is up to you. But NEVER do what Kate did! That is egregious behavior in my opinion.
NO MAN WANTS AN ABUSIVE WOMAN SO HER NEW TLC SHOW WILL BE A WASTE OF TIME
If Kate treats her children as abusively as she treated Colin in these photos , no man will be attracted to her no matter how many hair extensions TLC makes sure are in her head. If TLC wants to do a new show with Kate and that focus of the show is a dating type of show (getting her a new man), it will be a failure unless they do what I said in an earlier blog. They need work on Kate’s inside and not just focus on her outside in order to make her more appealing to the opposite sex. Pretty IS as pretty DOES- and Kate’s abusive behavior towards Colin IS NOT PRETTY!
Seeing Kate in action where she is sarcastic, self-centered, hostile, and or abusive as she was with Colin makes me stand by my belief that this woman is clearly not ready for prime time or ready to have any television show whatsoever until she gets herself sorted out internally.
Who would want to watch this woman when you know that she is so abusive! She was like that with Jon which I am convinced has a lot to do with his aberrant behavior. On her last show of Kate Pus 8 she was verbally abusive to Aden, telling this 5 year old to be a “man,” and now she has clearly abused and humiliated little Colin. The way she treated him in these photos now makes me understand why little Colin was so abusive to his brothers and sisters in the past- something we all witnessed on the show.
MESSAGE TO ALL KATE LOVERS
Now for all of you Kate lovers out there who will no doubt write me to tell me I hate Kate, like you have in the past, here is my response to you directly from my mouth. I DO NOT HATE Kate.
I DO HATE Hitler, Stalin, Ahmadinejad (the horrific Iranian hate monger we all saw during his ugly speech at the UN), Osama Bin Laden, terrorists who try to kill innocent people by blowing themselves up and blowing up buildings and planes, the Austrian monster Fritzl who impregnated his daughter and held her prisoner for a lifetime, any child murderer, murderers in general, any child or animal torturer, socio/psychopaths, and people who do verbatim copying of my intellectual property and violate my copyright and trademark, and those who give their book the identical name as my best -selling book, written over a decade earlier.
Since you do not see Kate Gosselin’s name on my list, you can rest assured that I do not HATE her. Instead, I disapprove of her abusive, snarky, and self- centered entitlement behavior. And if after looking at the photos and you do not think she was not being abusive to little Colin, I say ”TAKE OFF YOUR BLINDERS AND GET YOUR HEAD OUT OF THE SAND!
PRETTY IS AS PRETTY DOES AND KATE’S ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR IS NOT PRETTY!
In my opinion Kate needs to work on what is underneath her $7,000 hair extensions and stop abusing her children like we saw he do with Aden and now with Colin. She needs to get on her knees every day and say a huge thank you to good Lord above for giving her physically healthy, bright, and beautiful children.
What does along with that prayer of gratitude must be her actions towards those wonderful innocent children. She needs to treat them with the respect and dignity they deserve. Abusing them by stifling their airflow and their communication, just because they want a little love and affection, is definitely NOT giving a child respect or dignity in my opinion. www.drlillianglass.com