Chris Brown’s Punching Dancing Body Language and Spiked Glove on DWTS Reflect Inner Anger

As the Body Language Expert for Dancing With the Stars   on Season 8 and doing analyses for Entertainment Tonight and various magazines, all I can say is that I am appalled that Chris  Brown was allowed back into the ABC Family after his window punching incident last week.

I am not alone in  my disgust that he was allowed on DWTS  as host Tom Bergeron and top female dancer Cheryl Burk were equally disgusted. Although Tom tried to be the pro that he is, his stiff body language and half smile gave away his displeasure. He even mentioned publically that he wasn’t thrilled about Chris being there and it showed in his  ambivalent half smile and  in Tom’s tight  body language on the show.

 Cheryl who publicly spoke of her own abuse was disgusted that an abuser would appear on the same show are herself. She said that even though she could do nothing about it she wasn’t happy  but did what she could do to in speaking out and expressing her displeasure.



His anger not only appeared off the stage it appeared on the stage as well with his punching dance moves that looked like he would be better in a boxing ring than on a dance floor. In the photo above you can see the anger in his clench fists and extended knuckles. 


Before Chris appeared in his devil red and black suit with chains on the  there was what I thought a very contrived and cheap shot. A little boy in a white suit yelled out “ Hey it’s Chris Brown” as the little boy  began to tumble on to the stage and break danced.  

That disgusted me that a little kid was being used to promote  Chris Brown. I think associating Chris Brown with the little excited kid was a  disgusting ploy to enroll other kids. The fact that a kid essentially introduced Chris Brown’s performance and then began to perform himself was merely used as a distraction to help mollify Chris’ negative perception. After all who can;t feel warm and fuzzy towards a little break dancing kid in a suit?

As Chris took to his singing and dancing he began what I thought was indicative  of who he is as a person– an angry hostile man.   His punching moves in his first dance were a complete a turn off  and highly inappropriate .  If he was there to rectify his image he certainly didn’t do it with his dancing moves.

While his acrobatics were impressive I still couldn’t shake the photos etched in my brain of Rihanna’s face  that was pummeled by him.

 As I recalled what he did to the window at ABC I got even more disgusted by him. To  think of the  force he used in breaking this sealed and reinforced  window was also repulsive to me. Anyone else would have been arrested  and put in jail but celebrity justice is no doubt what kept him free. I kept thinking of that and it was maddening.  He was even invited back to GMA to explain himself which further sickened me as anyone else would NEVER have been invited back to GMA or to any show ever again for that  hateful and dangerous antic.

Thus, it was impossible for me to appreciate any of  his talents. When I heard the audience clapping loudly and standing to their feet , there was no doubt in my mind that this was choreographed as well. It further disturbed me as to why this nasty violent creature was being celebrated in any shape or form.Why he was allowed on the DWTS stage in the first place was beyond my comprehension.

But clearly, someone high above made sure that Chris would be successful in spite of himself. It no doubt appears to be  all about  dollars and cents.

  But to me, this violent out of control creature simply looked   like a  mean devil dressed in red and chains. I would never purchase anything  with he was associated. In fact I would encourage others to boycott him as well. We simply cannot showcase and honor those who  are violent. There is enough world violence out there and we certainly don’ tneed it in our artists who’s aim is to entertain and bring us joy.

Then he was introduced for his second song set as he wore a white suit with lights on it that changed colors designed to  distract people . I did like the lighted suit that changed colors as I did like the  backup dancer’s neon looking outfits and the choreography. But that still didn’t change the reality. To me he is still a  Toxic Man who happened to be wearing a lighted suit that changed colors.  

Then Chris was done performing and  I saw Chris Browns face drenched in sweat as he held  his  silver metal spiked fingerless  glove up to his face as he as in a praying hand position with his hands clasped together. I found this incongruity of  prayer and violence sickening  and hypocritical. Brown was thrilled the  DWTS audience received him well and pressed his praying hands together as an act of humility and forgiveness. But to me it said cockiness with is head even cocked to the side. He “got over” on everyone.  His mindset was that even though he was violent and out of control, he was  still loved and revered !    

As a violent creature who beat up Rihanna a beat up a window, in my view Chris Brown should not be wearing  that glove as it could prove to be a lethal weapon if used  inappropriately on someone.

His handlers  who were so concerned about his image forgot a crucial element. They forgot to not allow him to dress in a spiked  metal violent  glove. So their image makeover with his hair back to black and his DWTS appearance backfired as the boxing like punching dance moves , hostile hands and  hateful and hostile weapon- like glove said it all!


Body Language Analysis of Dancing With the Stars Season 12 Week 1


I have a special relationship with Dancing With the Stars having been the Body Language Expert on the show. Today I am taping a segment which should air this evening on  CBS’s Entertainment Tonight about what the stars body language really said. It still amazes me how what goes on off the dance floor is reflected on the dance floor.  Below are my observations of  Episode  1 Season 12.

 Chelsea Kane  was stiff and nervous  when she first met her dance partner. She appeared very nervous before she even began. She didn’t exclude enough confidence. When she was in front of the judges her shoulders were hunched over indicating she felt very insecure. That is understandable considering she was the first  one to dance. It confirms what I have said all along that what one does off the dance floor occurs  on  the dance flor as Kerry Ann Inaba told Chelsea to “watch your shoulders.”   When it came time to get her score she was literally sick to her stomach as she no doubt felt the butterflies as she put her hand over her stomach as she was hunched over.

  Wendy Williams   had a great chemistry with her partner. She is open and  has a great deal of warmth. She is so  real  with regard to her emotions and not embarrassed by them  to the point of wiping her eyes with one of her wig. She was clearly spooked when she got to the dance floor on  stage as she didn’t act like the Wendy we all know and love. Her body language was stiff and she showed a lot of FEAR. Her face was tense and shows she was petrified which came out in her stiffness while dancing.  Her fear was  also displayed  in her timid movements. I think she needs to get over being self conscious and just go for it so that next week we can see the real large and in charge Wendy!

 Hines Ward  was having a lot of fun as determined by his relaxed smile and  exuberant smile. Unlike Wendy, Hines  wasn’t afraid  to let go as it made him a very confident and radiant performer.  There was also a very nice chemistry between him and his dance partner.

 Petra Nemcova was gracious and elegant when she met her partner and it reflected on the dance floor.  When you think of what she had gone through in the Thai  Tsunami with her broken pelvis and losing her fiancé  it is amazing to see how far she has come. So when the Tsunami hit in Japan on Friday  it clearly  restimulated  all of the devastating  feelings she once had as she broke down. One has to give Petra so much credit for her inner strength and soldiering through and delivering a beautiful  gracious performance.  Her graciousness showed on and off the dance floor. She is stiff lower bodywise because of the residual effects of her once broken pelvis but she compensates for it beautifully with her upper body movements.      

 Romeo Miller   showed that he was a very  poor loser as she leaned away from his partner when he was getting his scores from the judges and had to listen to their critique.  He was all over the place withhis dancing which showed he was not  very disciplined.

 Sugar Ray Leonard  was very emotional when he was working with his partner. He was not ashamed to cry which was rather touching. It showed his vulnerability.  His shoulders were hunched which indicated that he was clearly not confident, As the scores were being read,  his shoulders were squared which indicated that he was confident and was prepared to man up and hear the results of his performance.

 Kendra Wilkenson  was so  open when she met her dancing partner. She should her good natured  personality. Her openness showed on the dance floor.  She appeared a little insecure as she was a bit  hunched over when receiving  her scores which indicated she as a little self conscious.

 Ralph Macchio seemed a bit  timid and unsure of himself when he first began practicing,  but those feelings quickly left him when he hit the dance floor.  When he hit the dance floor he became confident as he held his head high. He  obviously mustered up his performance skills  and showed that he was the true exceptional  performer he was when 27 years earlier . He ended up being the best performer of the evening, receiving  the highest score for his Fox Trot.

 Chris Jehrico  the WWE seemed stiff in his rehearsals with a lot of upper chest and shoulder tension. But his partner certainly Cheryl  certainly worked on that with him. When he hit the dance floor she was charismatic and completely connected with the audience showing what a great performer he was.  He also has a great deal of chemistry with Cheryl. When they were waiting for their scores, he pulled her close to hiand after his score was read he kissed her. He feels extremely comfortable with her  as she does with him.

 Mike Catherwood of Love Lines  had no chemistry with Lacey which is not a good thing for success on DWTS. When he initially saw her she gives a poor hug and doesn’t even look at her , There is a disconnection between the two.  He is uncomfortable and very self conscious as he crosses his arms over his chest while his shoulders are hunched over.   He appears to be too self absorbed to connect with his partner or the audience. As he was given his criticisms from the judges it was apparent that it was very hard for him to take it.  He was overly serious and doesn’t seem as though he can easily laugh at himself in this situation. He doesn’t connect with or look at partner as there is too much physical distance between them. He feels very vulnerable which is indicated by his placing his hands over his genitals as a form of protection.


 Kirstie Alley was  good natured from the get go. As soon as she and Maxim met she was warm and affectionate and could easily laugh at herself . These are all great traits for someone who has the potential to be a winner  on DWTS. There is great chemistry between she and Maxim. You could see it when she was getting her scores from the judges. They were both affectionate with one another with Maxim hugging her and being totally supportive. One thing we have learned from seeing Maxim all these years is that has no tolerance for laziness or for people who are not dedicated to the dance. Kristie has definitely stepped up to the plate and that is why Maxim adores her.

 For the entire season, I will be bringing you weekly updates regarding my Body Language Analysis on DWTS.

Gosselin Children’s Body Language Show Sadness, Humiliation, Upset, and Distance Around Kate


Whenever you see anyone with bowed head and rounded shoulders,  it means they feel shame or embarrassment or humiliation. It is interesting that the three  kids  in closest proximity to Kate,  Colin, Hannah, and Alexis are the ones who show this distinctive body language.

They also show sadness on their faces.Perhaps she yelled at them or scolded them or shamed them.  In any event, it is clearly  reflected in their body language.


Kate, on the other hand, is fiddling with her hair, no doubt making sure her extensions are in place and that  she looks good for the papps she says she hates. Kate’s open mouth and lack of smiling eyes and non-  raised cheekbones may indicate that she is upset or complaining about something.


It is also interesting that Kate is being consistent in favoring  one of the girl sextuplets, Hannah. Hannah   appears to be the only child  who’s hand Kate is holding.

Even her favorite child’s head is bowed and shoulders are rounded, as Hannah looks down at the ground. This indicates that  Hannah also may be feeling  shame, upset,and embarrassment as well.


Alexis  walks  a step ahead of Kate to Kate’s left. Alexis’  head is the most bowed and her shoulders appear to be the most rounded  of the three.

Her head  seems to be bowed the lowest of the three  children, which may indicate that she is still being shamed or perhaps even yelled at  by Kate in this photo ,as she  appears to be  in Kate’s direct line of vision.


Little Colin, no doubt  also feels the same negative emotion  as his  two sisters, based on his similar dejected body language.  He is  five steps away to the right of Kate and seems to be cut off  from the entire group.

He too, does not look very happy as he looks down.  So, in a protective move, Colin appears to have distanced himself from his mother as well as the entire brood.


The other children  trail three steps behind Kate. But they do not look shamed or embarrassed. Perhaps they are too far back to hear Kate’s vitriol.


Aiden’s body language shows that he is alerted that something may not be right ahead.

He looks up-and turns his head to be in the line of vision of his mom, Kate.


Mady, the younger of the twins who used to be the one to act up and demand attention and cry all the time on the show and the one who never seemed to help with the other  kids, now  seems to show a maternal side in this photo.

She reaches out and places her hand on Aiden’s back in what appears to be a comforting  gesture. Mady also seems to have a caring and concerned expression on her face.


Maybe Kate wanted to look her best for the papps she hates, so she didn’t want to ruin her photo op by shlepping two huge stuffed animals around.  That is why she may have delegated the task over to the twins Cara and Maddy.

Mady seems to just be carrying her own toy under her arm, while poor Cara, the one who was seen as the responsible and mommy- helping twin on the show, seems to be struggling with a large bag which appears to be dragging.

The bag contains her toy, an identical one to Mady’s  and a lot of other items as well.  She is off to the side and appears to be focusing on being able to carry all of the items.


Kate always used to describe  little Joel as being” under the radar. ” Well he certainly is in this photo.  His head isn’t bowed so he did not hear any of Kate’s possible harsh or shaming  words. He stands close to the nanny , who  also  stands in back next to him holding his little  hand.

The nanny also appears to be holding the littlest of the Gosselin sextuplets, Alexis’ hand as well.

Leah  has upright posture, which shows she isn’t  shamed or feeling humiliated. She stands close to the nanny holding her blanket over her arm and  focusing  on what’s ahead of her.


Jon no doubt worked out a deal where he allowed the kids back on TV in exchange for forgiving his debt to TLC. Do I think that it is a good idea for school age kids to be on TV and have cameras following them around all the time? Not really.

When they were younger it was sweet to see them grow up right before our  eyes. But now that they will be going to school and interacting with their peers, it may create some additional problems for them.

If their peers tell them that they saw them on TV, the correct answers IS NOT as Kate instructed Leah  to once say to her classmates on one of the last shows”  I don’t want to talk about it.”  I hope Kate is not continuing to  misguide her children to say this. If she continues to encourage this , she will be responsible for having them alienate their fellow students.

Personally , I think that the kids have enough money with trust funds set up for them for their future, so they really don’t need to be on TV to earn more money. But that is a choice Kate made, Jon caved into, and TLC has definitely made, in order to secure continued revenue from a  winning media franchise.

I think that a show featuring the kids will do very  for TLC  as a lot of people will love the kids and will watch it. Perhaps TLC gave Kate her own show as an insurance policy in case Jon ever  changes his mind decides that he doesn’t  want  the kids on TV anymore.

Personally I think they should offer a show to Nadya Suleman  rather than giving Kate her own show. Nadya  really needs the money and their guardian angelship.Maybe they can just film Nadya’s  babies growing up and leave the school age kids alone so that they can have some privacy.


Personally I cannot imagine a successful  a show featuring  ITLESS Kate alone without her kids. Let’s face it, the only reason  she is in the media at all is because  of her kids.

The woman in my view has absolutely nothing  whatsoever to bring to the table. She is not a professional. She is not knowledgeable. She has not been the “mother of the year” with being abusive to  ex husband in front of her kids as well as being verbally abusive to them.

She is not interesting or watchable in my view. She is not talented and she is definitely NOT likable. No matter how hard TLC tries to revamp her image by dressing her up and placing hair extensions in her head,  or getting her to cry on cue or coaching her what to say in interview, she is still Kate. The real Kate will always emerge and it will take years of therapy to see a real change,  if change if we can ever see a change at all.

Personally I think her personality issues that we have all seen run very deep. Her inner anger, self absorption, not getting along with family members and alienating so many who were her friends and who worked with, her speak volumes. Since she would need a licensed therapist to diagnose her underlying pathology. Therefore,  I will leave that to them.


I truly  wanted to give Kate the benefit of the doubt  before she began on DWTS. I figured that it was strain of her bad marriage, being the  only breadwinner, and caring for all the kids that made her behave so poorly on Jon and Kate Plus 8.

But after I saw her egregious behavior on DWTS, I soon realized that this is who Kate is and nothing can change her.

I can never forget how she treated the sweetest man alive ,Tony Dovalani on DWTS, causing him to almost quit. He was gracious to the end. Even though he said the right words, his body language couldn’t lie. He was thrilled that this nightmare was over!  He was thrilled that he didn’t have to work with this rude, self absorbed  and disrespectful woman any longer.


In his final interview, Tony spoke about Kate  in glowing terms. He said how hard she worked and how she had many things to deal with during the show.

But  his usually animated voice was devoid of inflection which indicted insincerity with regard to what he was saying about Kate.

He smiled with his lips spread across his face,  but clearly was not smiling with his eyes.  You could see no raised cheeks.

In addition, he  looked down and away from Kate as he sang her praises. It was a though he could no longer look at her. He clearly had enough and it showed in his final interview.


Kate’s rudeness and speaking while the other contestants were getting their scores spoke  volumes about her not caring about anyone else but herself.

And those PHONY non- tears! When she said to Tom Bergeron ,” Give me a minute.” as he tried to interview her right after she was  voted off the show, she no doubt needed a minute to conjure up those fake non tears.

It was very disturbing to watch. Kate’s  empty monotone devoid  of any inflection and emotion, clearly reflected her  false words in saying that she “loved” everyone on the show.No doubt the only one she loved on the show was herself.


As I said the public is not stupid and can see through all of this. They got who the real Kate is and  it was not pleasant.  In fact, it was disturbing!  No matter  how they try to spin  her new  show  by putting her in different job situations  or they do a show that will show her outer and inner changes, the public will never buy it.

The real Kate will always leak out. It is the same Kate we saw on Jon and Kate Plus 8, DWTS, the View and all the other shows she was featured on.

The FAKE- non tears are getting old. I hope the powers that be at TLC  don’t think that Kate’s crying which she did on every show she has been on, will garner ratings.

Instead it will be a sure fire way to turn even more people off with her.


Kate Gosselin’s TOXIC Personality Comes Out On Dancing With the Stars as She Not Only Disrespects Her Teacher Tony Dovolani But the Other Contestants


After Kate and Jon divorced and Kate got her new “image makeover”  and proclaimed in the press that she was now “Clean Slate Kate,” I was very open-minded.

In fact, I wanted her to succeed as I realized that she was essentially a  single mother of 8 with a husband who was not going to contribute to the family finances. I knew that she was the breadwinner and that it was important for her to succeed. So I was  aware of that.  I hoped that there would be an inner makeover to go with the outer makeover.


In the past I has been very disturbed by how abusively Kate treated Jon ,who mind you is no saint. But still, he did not deserve the physical and verbal assaults she  constantly gave him.

While I realize 8 kids are a handful, the way she spoke to them and her verbal abuse towards many of them  (especially on the last episode) was appalling to me.

Her snarkiness, rudeness, (throwing papers on the floor after she was done answering questions) self entitlement, selfishness and self centeredness in her TV specials and interviews were also very offensive to me.


Then Kate and her handlers at TLC no doubt decided that  she should have a complete makeover.

I thought they did a fantastic job on Kate’s outside.  Her hair extensions, toned figure, eyelash extensions, and whatever else they did to her looked great.

But as  I mentioned in my previous blogs, outer beauty only goes so far. It is what is inside that  really counts!

So then we heard all the right rhetoric that Kate was making significant changes in her life.

Even her hairdresser got into the media fray and did an interview stating how Kate was working on her inner self.

Her handlers at TLC no doubt  put her all over the media to show off her new look and her new self.

She was guest hosting the View on several occasions  as she had the support of Barbara Walters in her corner. In fact to the dismay of many, Barbara  made Kate  one of her  2009’s  “Most Intriguing People.”

Kate was everywhere in the media. She even threw out a teaser on Jay Leno saying how she wanted to be on Dancing With the Stars.


I thought that was a bad idea  for Kate  to be on DWTS because of  her not seeing the kids and knowing up close and personal,  how physically and emotionally demanding it can be for contestants  on the show.

But then,  they built a studio in her home basement, so she could be with the kids. They even gave her the kindest sweetest most supportive teacher- Tony Dovolani.

After hearing  that, I actually thought we could now be able to  see her inner makeover as well as her outer makeover  on the show.

I   thought that she might shine on the show and reveal a different Kate- a non hateful Kate.


I really wanted to give Kate  the benefit of the doubt. However,  many of my readers were annoyed with that decision  and made comments like “ leopards  can’t change their spots” and you can put lipstick on a pig, but  its still a pig,” and “once a bitch always a bitch.”

Still, I had a wait and see attitude. Being the optimist that I am, I hoped for the best for Kate’s sake and for the sake of her kids.


I have not written about Kate Gosselin since she has been on Dancing With the Stars, not because I am the Body Language Expert for Dancing With the Stars and I don’t want to say anything that may offend them.  That is not how I operate.

I am sought out by various media venues because I tell the truth and because  my body language analyses are credible.

I am in no one’s pocket and cannot be paid to say what isn’t true. So that is why I have  gained the respect of not only ABC’s DWTS, but Nancy Grace, msnbc, VH-1, NBC,  CBS, FOX,  CNN, HLN, and The Insider and Entertainment Tonight, as well as in my own column in Cosmpolitan Magazine, US Weekly and every other media outlet in which I appear.


What I saw on last night’s Dancing With the Stars made me see that Kate,  no doubt, in my view  may have  some serious  issues in terms of her personality that a makeover can NEVER help.

It would take years and years of therapy In my opinion for her to deal with her issues as I see them.

Her self -absorption, self centeredness, lack of compassion towards others, lack of communication skills, immaturity, combined with her  inner anger runs so deep.

We not only saw this on last nght’s show. We saw it all along.

But the way she spoke to Tony, a champion dancer and the consummate professional, not to mention one of the sweetest men around, was  unforgivable!


First Kate  talks to Tony  in the tone you would use to a naughty five year old and admonishes him for not teaching her how she needs to be taught. She insults him as a professional and as a man.

She walks away from him like an immature,  non communicative baby,  saying that she “had enough ,” which  finally prompted Tony  to say “I quit.”

Then as Kate  whined and said” you can’t quit,” she felt no remorse whatsoever , as she wiped away her fake non-tears. The tone of her voice also did not sound apologetic.


Then when She said “I don’t get it!” and threw her arms up in the air, that was the only thing that rang true. SHE DOESN’T GET IT!!! She doesn’t GET  that she can’t disrespect people and constantly abuse people and  have them stick around. She doesn’t GET  that even a season professional can only take enough abuse and disrespect, until he decides that it isn’t worth it.


Kate also doesn’t “GET  that it is not just about HER on Dancing With the Stars. This was her chance to not only shine as a dancing mother who never danced before,  but to shine as far as her personality goes.  She did neither!

There was nothing redeeming about her behavior, which was more important  than her hair and eyelash extensions, Restylyn injections, and sequined gowns.

Besides the altercation with Tony where she tried to emasculate him as she did with Jon, through her condescending tones and hostility, she DIDN’T GET  that you need to be respectful to the OTHER  contestants. She didn’t GET that it is rude to chatter and speak when they are on camera getting their scores.


When Nichole Sherzinger and Derrick Hough got the perfect 10’s of the evening, everyone of the other contestants clapped and smiled. Kate was obviously so self absorbed and in her own little world that she had NO reaction- no clapping- no smiling- nothing!

Then a when she realized that the focus was not on her, she gave little lame clap minus a smile. That body language speaks to who she is as a human being- self absorbed and self centered who has lack of compassion for anyone other than herself,  in my observation.


Yesterday, US Weekly Magazine asked me to analyze Kate’s body language with Tony.

I could see her leaning away from him in disrespect in week one. She was literally giving him the cold shoulder. I observed a lot of tension between them and it wasn’t the good kind of tension- sexual tension. Instead, it was the bad kind- the kind that causes havoc in everyone’s life as we saw.

Tony has spent a lot of hours with Kate and obviously the tension buildup showed last night, to the point that he had to walk away. If it was up to Tony, he would have left her immediately. But no doubt, some executive must have had a little talk with him and encouraged him to go back and grit his teeth and  try again.

I was thrilled  that Tony showed that he had boundaries and would NOT be abused and disrespected by anyone.

If  anyone needed to apologize it was Kate, which she did NOT do. It was Tony who showed that he was the bigger person.

It took two weeks for this to happen. If she had Maxsim as a teacher, which I had hoped for, it would have taken two seconds for Max to walk away and NEVER look back. No way would  Maxim put up with any of her shenanigans. He would NEVER stand for it!!


If looks could kill, Kate’s facial expression threw out daggers to the judges,  both in week one and now in week two.

The cold eyed stare and hatred emanating from her eyes and facial expression was chilling. She clearly didn’t like hearing what she did wrong. She didn’t like anyone telling her she needed improvement. Her inner ice coldness and hatred was  clearly reelected on her face.

This was her time to show her good nature- to dispel all previous talk that she was a mean and hateful bitch.

This was her time to show that her past behavior was due to the stress of being in a bad marriage and having all those kids.

But  now it is clear who Kate is and she is NOT a likeable or sympathetic character in any way in my view.


When Kate said that she was glad that Tony came back and apologized, it made me sick. She was the one who needed to apologize to him for treating him so badly that he had no choice BUT to walk out!

Any healthy person with a healthy self esteem as obviously Tony seems to have, would do the same thing.

Then she said she was glad that he came back because so many people in her life has walked out on her

WHAT????? It’s like a child killing his parents and then playing the victim card that he is upset that he is now an orphan!! Well if he hadn’t killed his parents in the first place he wouldn’t be an orphan.

Similarly if Kate hadn’t killed her relationship with Tony and alienated everyone who crossed her path, then no one would walk away from her.


TLC is no doubt hell bent on making “a silk  purse out of a sows ear”. But as the expression goes, you CANT make a silk purse out of a sows ear.”
Similarly you can’t make a successful TV talk show personality out of an ITLESS, clearly emotionally dysfunctional and disturbed woman with a miserable and hateful personality as  Kate appears to have in my view. It will ONLY backfire.

Maybe Kate will be the Omarossa type – the villain you love to hate. But that only goes so far!

Producers  tried to do a show with Omarossa and it was impossible, from what I heard. She was impossible and the show subsequently tanked.

Villains only go so far.  Kate is cast as the VILLAN. She was the villain on Kate Plus 8 and now is the villain on DWTS. You can’t spin or bullshit the public. In most of their eyes she is CLEARLY  perceived as a villain.

TLC can try all they want  to make the Mother Theresa version of the single mother role model of 8 children, but the public is not stupid. They will not but it! They may tune it at first like you would tune in to see  a bad car accident ,  but then they will get sick of her no doubt.

They get who she is and no matter if  they  do a repeat show like the old Paris Hilton and Nichole Richie “Simple Life,” where Kate  is put into new situations, or they do a show where she is the next Oprah and does helpful mom tips, or does a complete inner makeover on herself, no one will buy it.

They will see that it is contrived and that they are no doubt being manipulated.  They public is not stupid. TV programmers must NEVER forget that or their will fail!

I say cut your losses TLC and find another person to give a show to who is deserving and who is not an emotional train wreck in my view. And if you insist on showcasing train wrecks,  there are more  interesting train wrecks  out there to showcase than Kate Gosselin.


Nothing  Kate  can do now  that she had every opportunity to repair her villain image  while appearing on  DWTS,  will succeed.

After last  night’s debacle  where Kate  abused Tony, she is cast as a villan forever! Nothing DWTS can do will change it, IF they do, and make her sweet and vulnerable, the public will perceive it as being phony.

TLC  and DWTS and ABC and Jimmy Kimmel Live, and the View and Jay Leno and everyone else who was reached by  TLC’s  long PR tentacles,  gave her every opportunity to shine and come across as a hero and as a lovely human being.  But she completely blew it!. She blew every golden opportunity to salvage her TOXIC image. It was TOXIC in the past and continues to be in the present and most likely will be in the future.

Even if she finds a cure for cancer or raises millions of dollars for the homeless in Haiti or Chile, she will always be seen as the VILLAIN who cured cancer or the VILLAIN  who raised millions of dollars for the homeless in Haiti or Chile.

Not that she would ever do those things as she apparently  too self absorbed to help anyone but herself. She can NEVER repair the damage she created concerning her IMAGE!

We now know who Kate is for sure and a TV show with her will only  be more of the same, no matter how they spin it or edit it!

The true Khate will come out and it’s definitely not a pretty sight to see on a steady basis, no matter how many hair or eyelash  extensions or Resytlyn injections they  put into her. Her inner hatred and inner demons will always come out , “as the body doesn’t lie.’


And for those of you that will no doubt email me to tell me I am jealous of Kate- you are dead  wrong. I am jealous of no one! Instead I am grateful for who I am and ALL of the blessings I have been given.

For those of you that accuse me of being a “hater,” I  can assure you that  I am Not!  I am not filled with hate. Instead  Kate, whom you apparently admire is the one filled with hate and anger.

It t reflects all over her body language, her tone of voice and her facial expression. If you don’t believe me, go back and look at all the Jon and Kate  Plus 8 episodes and look at  her last night’s DWTS  behavior. Don’t just watch how she moved on the dance floor. Watch how she moved off the dance floor.

For those of you that say Kate is a wonderful mother, I say you cannot say that!  Only her children will be able to make that assessment when they are adults, just like you made YOUR assessment about whether or not you had good parents after you grew up and became an adult.

And for those of you that will no doubt write me  nasty comments  and put out your hateful emails to me and comments  simply because I mentioned your  beloved heroine Kate, to you I say, get you head out of  the sand and take off your blinders and look at what IS and  not what you fantasize Kate to be!


If you can look up to a woman who knew better as an OB_GYN  nurse who  took fertility drugs to have multiple children, whom she couldn’t afford without the  financial assistance of others,

was consistently  abusive and disrespectful to  her husband and her  kids,

has no relationship with  anyone in  her immediate family including her estranged parents and bothers and sisters (they can’t ALL be bad) ,

has fall outs with practically everyone she encounters,

is rude and hostile, insensitive, has no filter, is selfish, self centered,  and self entitled as we have repeatedly seen,

and most of all not being grateful for all that that she has been given and instead feels more and more entitled to be given more and more,

then you need to re-examine your priorities and who you look up to . It speaks volumes about you!

And finally can you really admire a woman who acted like a spoiled immature baby by first walking out on Tony until her had enough of her and wanted to quit?

Do you realize that her 8 kids had to witness their mother acting like a complete TOXIC bitch on the show? Do you think that is good for them to see? Do you think it helps them in any way? Maybe it helps them financially, but certainly not emotionally.

Tony Dovolani is the one to be looked up to in my book, to put up with ‘ whining, abuse, disrespect  and nastiness. I certainly hope that DWTS gives him a bonus in pay for having to put up with her and working well above and beyond his call of duty with Kate.

I don’t care how hard you say she has it with 8 kids!  No one forced those fertility tablets down her throat!

If you want to look at a heroine, look at the single mother,  who whether she has one or ten kids,  doesn’t bitch and moan about it,  but works several njobs to support them without the help of nanny’s and maids, and house cleaners, drivers, makeup artists, and camera crews.

Look up to those women who can’t afford a new dress,  let alone hair extensions because they need that money to put food on the table to feed their children. These are the women to admire not Kate Gosselin, who has had it so  easy from day one thanks to TLC.


I don’t feel that Kate Gosselin is  ready to have a show for so many reasons, let alone the main one being psychological–  a very good reason. It will ,in my view, have a negative effect on her and on her children in the long  run. I think it is  a bad  and irresponsible thing to give someone a show who has repeatedly demonstrated red flag signals.

To me it is a disaster waiting to happen. This woman should not be rewarded a show because her infamy makes for great TV and good viewership who will tune in to see what kind of bitch she will be the next week.

That is sickening in my view and does no one any good. There is more to life than ratings!

If I were advising Kate I would tell her to take years off off being on TV.  She has enough money to support those kids now for the rest of their lives. She has earned millions from the show and books and appearances already. How much more does she need?

She is also ITLESS and in my view doesn’t contribute anything new on TV. The novelty of a woman with multiple kids is over.

The only thing  that had any merit was seeing the kids grow, not seeing her obnoxious behavior. If  TLC now goes back and does a show with the kids now that they are already grown  because Jon wants out of their legal suit and reluctantly agreed to it, I will have lost all respect for TLC.

Putting them back on the air will do them harm and no good in my view. They need the chance to live a non- camera centered life.

In my view, Kate needs to stay home with them and raise them and get professional help to deal with her very troublesome  issues in my view.

Kate Gosselin’s Body Language Shows Poise and A Much Softer Side on Jimmy Kimmel Live

After watching Kate Gosselin on Jimmy Kimmel Live the other night I can say that she is coming across a lot more polished and a lot more poised. She looked absolutely beautiful with her softer hairstyle, toned body and gorgeous dress.  Her posture was excellent. This was clearly  her best  television appearance  yet. She was actually very pleasant, cordial and laughed appropriately at Jimmy’s jokes and at herself. She was even humble when she said she couldn’t dance.

But then at the end when she said”  I am  going to win,” it seemed like it was right back to the old Kate. If she hadn’t said that, I would have rated her performance on Kimmel Live as a near perfect. She needed to say that she would try her best and hope that she would win, not that she will win. Being  cocky like that does not put anyone in a good light, let alone Kate.  Kate really needs to work on her humility in my view. If she does that, she will be so much more appealing to audiences.

 There are obviously some changes taking place with her not only on the outside but on the inside as well. No doubt her handlers  are working to get her more likeable  and camera ready for her upcoming show.

 That is no doubt why she is doing Dancing With the Stars- one of the highest rated shows. It will let more people see her who haven’t seen her and it will allow those who have seen her to see her in a different light-hopefully in a better light.

At first I was concerned that she would be doing a show that demanded so much and that she would be away from her kids. But she explained on Kimmel Live that her partner (Tony Davolani) will be coming to her home in Pennsylvania to work with her in her basement so she won’t be away from the kids. Then she will be coming to LA once a week to do the show. I think that is GREAT! Being away from her kids for so many weeks was my main concern for her in doing DWTS. But now I think it will work out well.

Kate also mentioned how positive Tony is. That is exactly the type of person Kate needs to be around. Perhaps some of his positivity and kindness towards others will rub off on her. There was no doubt that being around Jon for all of those years brought out the worst in her and vice versa.

After witnessing Jon’s immature and self-destructive behavior and how he treated his girlfriends, it is no wonder that Kate had so many issues with him.

Hopefully her being around a positive kind dancing partner like Tony will  contribute to the positive changes that seem to be taking place with Kate.

Kate Gosslin’s Body Language on Jay Leno Shows She’ NOT Ready for Prime Time And Unrealtistic Expectations In Wanting to Appear on Dancing With the Stars


Before Kate is ready to appear on camera other than a mother disciplinining her husband and kids she needs a lot of work in my opinion. Her constant phony laughter on the show where there was no associated eye movement or cheek movement but just a loud laugh which was inaapropriate at times, her mugging for the camera, snarky sacrsasm,shoulder shrugs, and amature timing reflects that she does not have the IT factor required for on camera personalities.


As the Body Language Expert on Dancing With the Stars, I have personally seen the tremendous hard work and dedication that it takes to participate in this show- up close and personal. When you sign up to be one of the dancers you might as well kiss your life as you knew it goodbye. You will rarely see your family for months and if you do it will be for a very short period of time. That would be a horrible thing for her 8 kids. They would not be seeing their mother very often and that is for sure!

Anyone appearing on the show as a dancer has to be prepared for a lot of physical pain that may possibly even debilitate them for a while . This is especially true if they happen to break a bone, pull a ligament, or sprain an ankle. This could put a mother of 8 who needs to remain in tip top physical condition, out of commission when she needs to be there for her kids 100 per cent. She is definitely not considering her kids in her decision. She is obviously just considering herself and not her kids to even consider appearing on the show without thinking about that. While Marie Osmond was a mother with children, she didn’t have 8 little ones who were very dependent on her as Kate’s children are.

The dedication and the requirements to learn the dance routines each week is tremendous. It is not a frivolous show on which you appear to “laugh at yourself” as Kate said on Leno. The routines and the hours and the hours and of practice required and the physical stamina has been a challenge to world class and Olympic athletes. So when she said she is not a dancer and it was embarrassing to hear her speak and make light of this show.

As I said in my last blog, Kate needs to spend the time raising her 8 kids and giving them the attention they need and address any and all psychological needs they may have as a result of the fallout from her nasty divorce with Jon and their trashing one another in the media. She does not need to be away from them for months with only a few meager visits when they need so much attention at this crucial age.


Many may feel that since Kate rubs so many people the wrong way, it may be a bad idea to put her on such a popular well rated show as DWTS, as it could reduce the show’s ratings, with people turning it off if Kate appears on it. Personally, I think that the ratings would go up, but only if they paired her up with one of my favorite professional dancers Maksim Chmerovskiy.


If Kate does appear on DWTS, the only salvation would be if she gets partnered up with no nonsense Maxim Chmerkovskiy . Maxim is pretty hard on his partners if he detects any BS, attitude, or the dancers don’t live up to his professional expectations.

He would definitely give Kate a reality check. He wouldn’t let her get away with any of her nonsense. He would for sure give her a taste of her own medicine so she will completely get what it feels like to be treated the ways he treated Jon or her kids. Heaven help her if she tries to bully Maxim around! Now that would be GREAT reality TV! She can then see what it feels like when the tables are turned on her.


I am not the only one that thinks her performance on Leno was wooden and vey amaturish or thinks she performed so poorly on Leno that it was an embarrassment.

And for those of you who may say that I don’t know what I’m taking about, for the past two and half decades that is exactly what I did for people in Hollywood, helping them to get ready for “prime time” and learn how to effectively appear on television. In fact a lot of people who see on camera – talk show hosts, news personalilities as well as actors, political people and others have been trained by me. So I say with complete confidence that Kate needs a LOT of training!

TMZ said : Kate Gosslin- No Future in Showbusiness! With her appearance on that Jay Leno thing last night, we can now say with 100% certainty Kate Gosselin has absolutely no on-camera talent whatsoever … beyond yelling at children, of course.”

“Perez Hilton Said Shameless! Kate Gosslein Fishes for Work! Leno asked the mother of eight if there was a certain reality show she’d like to appear on.”Yes, Dancing with the Stars because I cannot dance,” Kate quickly offered. “I want to laugh at myself. I so cannot dance. It would be a sad sight.” Is that your open plea to ABC, Kate Gosselin??? Sad!”

The Baltimore Sun said “ TV: Kate Gosselin on Jay Leno: TV mom bombs again”

Radaronline Said “ Friday night’s Jay Leno show featured Kate Gosselin for the 10 @ 10 segment — that’s 10 questions at 10 pm, for those of you who’ve never seen it — and the newly-divorced reality star had just one quirky revelation.When Jay asked if there was another reality show she’d like to compete in, her answer was Dancing with the Stars. Although the former Jon & Kate star said she’d do it just as a laugh because she can’t dance at all, we have the feeling she was seriously floating the idea to producers.”


In a way I do hope that producers put her on so that even more people can be turned off by Kate’s whining, entitlement and self absorption so that they won’t want to tune into her own upcoming show on TLC .

When she isn’t able to take off and see her kids whenever she wants to because of her grueling workout schedule, she will not be laughing .

When she isn’t able to walk after the first week because of all the muscle pain and all the physical hard work it takes she will quickly see that she won’t be doing the show for “laughs.”

And finally when she gets a reality check from Maksim ,if the show pairs her up with him, I can assure you that she will not be laughing- but crying if she tries to pull any of the obnoxious behavior we have see her exhibit on television thus far.

If Kate wants a career on television, in my opinion she definately needs to get some professional training because being a mother on a reality show isn’t the experience you need to sustain a bona fide television career.

White House Gate Crasher’s Manipulation , Lies, and Lack of Remorse Show Signs of Sociopathic Behavior

Today I appeared MSNBC to discuss the White house party crashing Salahis from a psycosocial standpoint. I discussed why they did what they did. Here are some more of my thoughts on these two Sociopaths.


We have yet to hear what these two White House party crashers have to say for themselves, since they cancelled Larry King Live in order to hold out for an interview that would pay them six figures. This in itself is very disturbing as it reflects manipulation, something a lot of Sociopaths do. There are a number of other things to which I have been paying close attention. In researching their writings and their backgrounds I see a lot of signals that indicate Sociopathy according to the Hare Scale of Psychopathy.


Before I begin I want to share with you the difference between a Psychopath and a Sociopath. A Psychopath is more methodical and organized and not as spur of the moment as the Sociopath. Otherwise they are essentially the same thing.

The major characteristic is their lack of empathy as they use charm manipulation to get what they want. Since they do not have a conscience and empathy, they take what they want and do as they please. In essence, they violate social norms and expectations without guilt and remorse.

They are glib and superficially charming and can even mimic human emotion. Some, like the Salahis can blend in quite well for a long time until they are caught. Even if they are busted as in the case of the Salahis, it doesn’t seem to faze them in the least. They show unmitigated gall as the Salahi’s have shown in manipulating the press for the highest interview fee. There is no cure for the Sociopath as one percent of the population have this disorder.


Besides whoring out for money and seeing which media venue would be their biggest “John,” the next two things that bothered me about these two which point them in the direction of being Sociopaths is their lack of remorse and lack of taking responsibility for what they did.

The Secret Service manned up and showed remorse as they said they took full responsibility and felt terrible about what happened. But we certainly did not hear from the Salahi’s in this regard. I am sure they are noT remorseful at all. They are thrilled as it put these two self absorbed narcissists on the map. It gave them the attention they craved. So they don’t feel bad about what they did like normal people would feel . Instead, they feel GREAT!


The fourth and fifth and sixth things that bothered me about these two is their glibness and superficial charm as these wanna be’s try to Hob Nob with the movers and shakers.

If you look at EVERY single photo of the wife Michaelea Salahi she is posed. She obviously knows how to act and how to behave at these VIP soirees.
She clearly looks like she can put on the charm and she does.

In examining a variety of photos of her over the internet with celebrities you state to see a pattern emerging. With her hand strategically placed on VP Biden’s chest, hugging on to fahionista Betsy Johnston,

and displaying a way too close for comfort pose with Dancing With the Stars winner Donny Osmond, to finally
finally her looking directly into Obama’s eyes as she did at the crashed event, she clearly knows how to manipulate and weasel her way into things.

She does it by using her good looks to the fullest extent. Since she is so pleasing on the eye, people are charmed by that alone. So they let her in and have let her get away whatever she wants. She has relied on her good looks for years and used them to gain entry and charm .


Michaela is model thin and has a gorgeous wardrobe . Her hair is shiny blond and her face, although it is nothing special is symmetric, thereby making her attractive. With the right makeup, her imperfections from a long nose and crooked teeth are not that noticeable. With all the right pampering (7 hours in a DC Salon to get ready for the White House crashing) and botoxing , she no doubt looks much younger than her late forty something age. Her slender figure also keeps her youthful looking.

She looks like a celeb, so celebs initially react to her as if she is one . Gate keepers may let her into places us mortals cannot go, simply because she looks and carries herself like a VIP. The first thing she does when she sees a celeb is grab her on hand photographer husband Tareq to snap a photo of her and whomever ,like Donny Osmond . She gets cuddly and close and voila (she is their new best friend) But the celebs don’t mind . They think she must be a celeb too. Because she is no doubt, so overly friendly and charming, they don’t want to embarrass her or themselves by not remembering her or if and where they met her, so they play along . The smile nicely for the photo op and then it is over.


She not only looks posed with the celebs where she leans her head in like she is their best friend. She even looks posed in the video and photos of her own wedding .

Her mask like smile also disturbs a lot of people. In fact one comment from her wedding video ( which was professionally produced so it looked like it was a Royal wedding with 30 bridesmaids dressed in flesh colored gowns) was “her smile is so phony I could puke. ” What this viewer is reacting to is something to which we all react- a mask like empty smile that so many sociopaths exhibit. Ted Bundy. Bernie Madoff, and wife and baby killer Scott Peterson has the same mask like Cheshire cat smug smile.

Remember how charming Ted Bundy was as he lured in all those women which he subsequently murder? Remember how charming Amber Frey said Scott Peterson was so charming as he lured her in? Well the Salahis may not murder a person’s body, but they very well may murder their pocketbook and swindle like a Madoff.
Look at all the photos of Michaela on the internet.

They are all of her with that the same mask like expression. If you see one or two photos, you don’t notice it. But if you see a lot of them it begins to give you the creeps. There is something wrong- very wrong!


We all saw her feelings of grandiosity when she first walked into the room to be announced at the White House. The White House press snapped photos of her. Michaele and Tareq walked by and photos were snapped. Buy she wasn’t satisfied. She went back and stood in front of the press corps for them to take more photos of her. No one else did that- just her! It was an obvious display of malignant narcissism.


Reports also show that in Aspen at a Snow Polo Event although the husband Tareq paid the 3000 dollar entry fee, he failed to pay the rest of the fee and stiffed people. The Salahi’s have apparently left a trail of debts behind them. They appear to be mired in debt and lawsuits against them where they owe a lot of money, according o sources and reports.


The superficial charm and lack of boundaries also concern me in the photos. Michale’s putting her hand on a Vice Presidents chest in such an intimate gesture with her hand on his heart is disrespectful and unconscionable.

If you look at every single photo of Michaela her head is cocked towards the person like she is their best friend. But the give away is this mask like appearance. She is an obvious wanna be phony.

When she double cupped Obama’s hands with both of her hands it means in body language talk that you are trying to influence someone. No doubt she was trying to influence Obama with her charm. It was unacceptable and showed her disrespect for the office of the President. You never double cup a President’s hand. He is in power and if anyone is gonan double cup it is him- not you. You need to respect that protocol and reflect it in your body language.



The LYING is also great cause for concern. While there is evidence the Salahis had their photo taken with Obama at an event in 2005, they were not “dear friends.” She was delusional when she revealed on her twitter page back on Sept 26:
“Honored to participate in the Black Caucus Gala this evening, and meet with my dear friends President Obama & DNC… 9:27 PM Sep 26th from Facebook

If she was “dear” friends with the Obamas, they would have immediately come to her rescue and said they knew her and Tariq and all would be fine. But that is not what happened. Obama is upset about this security breach and upset they got into the Party uninvited.

We are now discovering that Michaela is full of lies. She said she was a member of the Redskins cheerleading squad back in the ’90s, but team officials have no record proving her claim.

If this is the case this is one sick and scary woman! And to think she got so close to our President. Nothing happenedm but it could have happened with her just as it could have happened with any other sick lying Sociopath.


These two had all the trappings that made them look like rich folk, They were heading up Polo Events which they hosted so that they could stalk their prey. They had a winery which apparently Tarequ the husband sued his mother to obtain and which he ran into the ground financially.

With a Winery and Polo it seemed like great stalking ground for wanna be’s to tap into the lives and the pocketbooks of the rich and the famous. The hoped that some of the celebrity and fame of those who attended their polo events rubbed off on them. They also hoped some the celebrity money would rub off into their pockets as well.


No doubt Michaela told the Housewives of DC production company that she could get them into the White House so they needed to film he . That is why someone was seeing following her around with a camera while another was seen powdering her face and primping with her hair by NBC’s Brian Williams. He astutely saw that something was very wrong with that picture.

I certainly hope that the Housewives of DC don’t put her on and indulge this sociopathic narcissist. They may feel they have an obligation to put her on the show because she did after all put them on the map. Who heard of them before that? No doubt they would garner ratings as she would be the one you love to hate- the Omarossa of the wives set. It might work at first but in the long run, it might come back to bite them . People could gang up and boycott the show after the first episode. People are LIVID at the Salahi’s and would be livid if any show made reality stars out of them. They would be rewarding bad behavior and there would be protests. It wouldn’t be worth it.


There is NOTHING and I mean NOTHING Michaela and Tareq Salahi can to do repair their image. No top PR agent, no spinmeister, no one can ever fix what they did. It is unfixable. No one likes a cheater and a liar. No one likes people who feel entitled that they don’t follow rules and protocol when it is essential to do so. No one likes a manipulator. No one likes phoniness. No one likes a mask like smile.
Nothing can repair their lack of remorse and their holding out for a better offer than Larry King! No one will tolerate this. We have seen enough of these non talented zeros with nothing to offer- trying to be famous for being famous. Their 15 minutes are over! They are not interesting ‘

I just hope that NO media venue comes forward to offer them money. That would speak volumes about the venue and people would in turn disrespect that venue. It may also cost the venue in the long run- just like the Gosselin’s cost TLC in bad press. Ratings may happen initiallybut they need to be sustained so it wouldn’t be worth putting these sociopathic low lifes on any show.