There is a saying that ” when you point the finger at someone, there are three fingers pointing back at you.” So, when ex -Playboy Playmate, Dani Mathers body shamed an innocent woman by taking the woman’s photo while the woman was naked and showering at LA Fitness- a woman who was doing something good for herself like going to the gym and getting fit, it was appalling.
What kind of person would do this? It is a person who has an overly inflated sense of self, who thinks they are so pretty and look better than others. But truth be told, pretty is as pretty does and Dani Mathers is pretty ugly in terms of her character as far as I am concerned. And further truth be told, deep down to the core of her soul, Dani Mathers most likely does not feel that good about her own flawed areas of her face and body, or she would never have projected her own body shame on to someone else. Because she was able to hide behind the Playboy brand for so long and all the perks that came with it, it masked her true self loathing. Unfortunately for her, millions of people have now seen the truth about Dani Mathers and her life will never be the same as she will be shunned, perhaps forever.It’s starting to happen now as she was fired from her radio gig and she will see that life will become very hard for her to get ahead in life. Some things are forgivable, but this is not one of them because it speaks to her character and to the core of who she is.
I have known so many Playboy Playmates throughout the years.Unfortunately there are those who think much like Dani Mathers. I have worked with so many of them as my clients in my private practice, to help them improve their communication, speaking, and voice skills when they have to do interviews, acting roles, or have to open their mouth in public.
It is ingrained in them by their fellow Playmates, Hugh Hefner, his staff, and men in general, who look up to the Playboy myth, that these girls are special. Men literally drool over them. I have seen it with my own eyes. They can’t wait to get close to them. Men ask for their autographs on photos and pay these women to write something nice to them. Men will pay a ridiculous amount of money on ebay to purchase their used bras, panties, old shoes, tee shirts, and whatever else these entrepreneurial Playmates are selling online -from porn videos to nude photo shots of them.Others manage to bag suckers who feel that it is honor just to pay their bills, with little or nothing in return. For some men, only a weekly or monthly phone call from the Playmate will do. For other men, a weekly meal will suffice. These smitten men often pay monthly rent, phone bills, wireless services, acting classes, modeling photos, car payments, insurance bills, and even give them a monthly stipend. Others buy them cars, pay for plastic surgery, botox, fillers, makeup, clothes, computers, mobile devices, lavish meals, and trips to exotic places.
Men shower them with gifts, clothes meals, and free travel on a regular basis. This constant attention from so many different men gives these Playmates an attitude – an attitude that they have power (which they do have when they are young and pretty and which they lose as soon as they age) and that they are above anyone else. This spoils so many of them. Doors open for them left and right, like it did for Dani and that spoils them as well. They have the contacts and the Playboy brand that carries many of them pretty far.
When they are young, many Playmates often feel they can get away with anything and they can. Lots of men line up to date them because they think it is prestigious among their peers to have a Playmate on their arm, date her, or even marry her. The smart Playmates or lucky ones marry well. They find some incredibly wealthy man who supports them in high style for the rest of their life, like Barbie Benton (Hugh Hefner’s ex) did when she married real estate tycoon George Gradow. Others aren’t so lucky or smart as they end up marrying sick fanatics who try to control them, end up abusing them, or even killing them. That is the other extreme and sadly what happened to Playmate Dorothy Stratton.
Many go from one rich boyfriend to another, to keep them in style and pay their expenses. Others may join high end escort services, where they meet top men from politicians to rock stars, A list actors, corporate owners, producers, directors, and even princes. Did you ever wonder how some famous well known guy met his wife , who happened to be a former Playmate? Well now you know. Others may even possibly become high end call girls.
Some of them actually have a charismatic personality and talent like radio host and former View cast member, Jennie McCarthy. The Playboy brand allowed her and others access to people who could help them with their careers. If Kendra Wilkinson or Holly Madison had not been Playmates, appeared with Hef on “The Girls Next Door” reality show, and used their connections, they would never have their own reality shows, highlighted in Vegas, endorsed products, appeared on Dancing With the Stars , married a high profile athlete, or appeared in the tabloids on a daily basis. No one would even know their name.
To keep up the perks that come with being a former Playmate, most know they have to keep up their looks. Otherwise, the reality is that it is over for them. This has happened to a number of former Playmates I know. So those who want to still stay in the game, go to all lengths to make sure their body is thin by getting lipo, ribs removed, fat injected, breast and butt implants, face peels, and lip fillers. And who pays for this when so many of them don’t hold a job, other than an occasional model or acting gig? With so many of these women, especially as they begin to age, it is often the smitten man or many smitten men. In the past they would never give these men the time of day. But now since they are aging and need the upkeep, they will gladly deal with these once shunned men, just because they will pay for different aspects of upkeep for that Playmate image.
So no doubt, Dani Mathers had a lot of perks for being a Playmate. She even had over one million Facebook followers who liked her page. That is a lot of followers, many of whom sang her praises on a daily basis, flattered her ego, and told her how beautiful she looked in the latest photo she posted. She got modeling opportunities and doors opened for her.
She got a lot of business opportunities to represent certain products because she had so many followers . In fact she hawked her own edible marijuana line to her over a million followers.
She even had a gig as a radio host, something that may have never happened had she not been a Playmate. But unfortunately for her that radio gig appears to be over.
All of this fan adulation, open career opportunities, and socializing with celebrities must have gone to her head, just as it has done with so many Playmates of the past I have known. It is no doubt that she most likely really believed that she was above everyone and that any woman who didn’t spend the fortune to have all the cosmetic enhancements or those who were not fellow Playmates, were beneath her. Others were worthless and disgusting in her mind. That is why she essentially wrote that she was disgusted looking at the naked woman in the gym and that her eyes could not unsee what she saw.
All of the perks she was lucky to receive in her life since being a Playmate, clearly didn’t build her character , as she showed little compassion or concern about anyone other than herself. That is why she showed no compassion and felt the necessity to put someone down . Her true character was also revealed when she wrote a letter of apology to the Playmates, and not to the woman she harmed and shamed or to a letter to the the gym, where she most likely got a free membership like other Playmates in the past.
But if we look closer at Dani, we will see that she does have some body issues of her own that I am sure she is well aware. We all have flaws and none of us is perfection when it comes to our body and face. In fact many of the Playmates you see in the photographs are either airbrushed or photoshopped. They are well made up and well lit and placed in very flattering positions, using the right camera angles.
As someone who knows a great deal about body language and body image and body aesthetics, I will point out Dani Mather’s body and facial flaws, which she is no doubt well aware, which will show you why deep down, she may have felt so badly about herself that he felt so compelled to trash someone else’s body.
For one, Dani’s body is out of proportion. Her arms appear too skinny in contrast to her breasts. Her hips are too large in relation to her breasts and her legs.
She is also very boney in appearance if you look at her back. It is not attractive and makes her look fragile. Her breast implants don’t look natural.
Her breast implants leave a lot be desired as they seem to just have been just placed on her chest. In fact, her cleavage looks odd and indented as she is too thin and boney to have such a large sized cup. There are also unattractive moles on her chest and abdomen area. In my view, she needs to get them removed now or they will grow much larger as she ages and will look unsightly. Additionally, her arms look skeletal and odd, especially in this photo.In my view it is not sexy or attractive.
Here is another photo of her skeletal arms and legs which seem incongruous to her breast implants.
Her buttocks are flat, misshapen and bony, and she suffers from swayback where there is too much curvature in her lower spine. Without makeup you can also see that he skin tone appears to be rather pasty.
Her abdominal area is misshapen and it looks as though she may have had some bad liposuction or bad body sculpting. You can see her hip bones, but there is fat protrusion around the hip area which is odd. The lower area of her stomach also protrudes.In my viwe this does not look attractive. Also her arms appear too thin and th boney elbows make them look out of proportion.
Overall, her body proportions look off as she appears to be high waisted. Her knees als look knobby and bony. In looking at her photo in comparison with other Playmates, she appears to be one of the shortest Playmates in stature, which would eliminate her chances of becoming a model. Perhaps her lack of height also contributes to her low self esteem.
Facially she is out of proportion as well ,with a wide based, troll- looking , ski jump nose ala Richard Nixon style. The columela of her nose droops down too much in relation to her nostrils, which is not perfection as far as nose aesthetics is concerned. Her smile is also not that attractive with prominent chin and masculine appearing jawline. The indented lines on her face under her cheeks are too deep and seem to age her For an almost 30 year old, these lines are a bit too deep.
She also has an abnormally large and wide mouth which seems to take up most of her face when she smiles or laughs as you can see which makes her face seem out of proportion.
No doubt, she must be well aware of her own her body imperfections which were pointed out above. The illustration of her body flaws are not done to be mean, but rather to show you what she may also be seeing on a subconscious level when she is alone and naked and looking into the mirror at herself.
On a surface level, she has convinced herself that she looks great and is flawless. This is is why she openly posts the flawed photos of herself. It is as though she is in denial. In addition, there are so many followers, fans and smitten male worshipers telling her she looks great, that a part of her has come to believe she looks great. But deep down, probably knows better. Otherwise, she would have never body shamed the innocent woman. In shaming the woman,she projected her own self loathe on to this woman.
The tone of her voice was equally as troubling when she made her public non heartfelt phony apology. It was not an apology to the innocent woman, but rather a statement insisting she’s not like that and she won’t do it again. It was pure selfishness and narcissism at it’s peak. It was ALL about her and not about the other woman she shamed and harmed. There was not an ounce of sincerity on her facial expression or in her tone.
Dani said she was Snapchatting and wasn’t familiar with how Snapchat worked. Once again, it was about her, not the woman she shamed. She said she was Snapchatting to a personal friend when she wrote “ If Can’t Unsee This You Can’t Either.” What kind of person makes fun of another person and sends it to a friend? A TOXIC BULLY does this. A TOXIC MEAN GIRL does this. This video she made added fuel to the fire and angered people more because they knew it was phony and non heartfelt.
Dani Mathers revealed her true character. She is Toxic Person. I know a thing or two aboyt Toxic People having written the best selling book on the topic. She is not a good person because no good person would think of shaming or bullying another innocent person and make fun of them. There are some things which cannot ever be forgiven and this is one of them in my book.
She has not only hurt this innocent woman, she has hurt other women who wake up each day not feeling good about their bodies. She hurt women who do whatever it takes to get themselves to the gym to try and help their bodies. She hurt every woman who is uncomfortable seeing herself naked. She hurt every woman who has been teased and humiliated about her weight.
Apparently LA Fitness was having none of this and did the right thing by calling the police and reporting her. But the police may not be able to do anything about it unless the woman comes forth and presses charges. I hope this is the case. I hope that the woman sticks up for herself and fights back. I pray that she doesn’t retreat into herself, become depressed and devastated by what has happened to her. I hope the woman seeks financial remuneration for her emotional distress that this horrible incident will have caused. With her million followers and edible marijuana business, Dani may very well be able to afford the lawsuit filed against her. It would case any woman emotional distress. In fact, it has caused most women who found out what Dani Mathers did to this woman, emotional distress.