Bullied Columbine Killers and Resulting Consequences

 

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There has been an uproar about Columbine Killer Dylan Kiebold’s mother Sue Kliebold going on a  book tour  to discuss her son and the 17 years of guilt she experienced since Columbine.  Many of the survivors  feel that she has no right to make money and profit from their misery. After observing Mrs. Kliebold’s interview with Diane Sawyer , it is clear Sue Kliebold is still in denial as she says she didn’t see any warning signs. Previously she even said  that she and her husband don’t understand why their son took part in the massacre.

If she  paid closer attention to what was happening to him at school she would have understood why her son took part in the massacre.  Had  she engaged in some heart to heart talks with Dylan or analyzed her son’s writings, she would have discovered  why he was so hateful. She would have known about the relentless bullying her son  endured that led him down the dismal  path of revenge and murder.

Dylan suffered from mental illness.  In fact his mother is donating the profits from the book to  mental illness facilities.

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Mental health concerns are all the more reason why bullying needs to be stopped in our schools once and for all. Those who are fragile and who  have mental illnesses can easily break down mentally and lash out, just  as Dylan and his friend  Ed Harris lashed out. Apparently Ed Harris , whom you see on the right in the above photo, suffered from extensive mental illness and was on the prescription medication luvox for his problem.

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Sue Kliebold’s son Dylan  was bullied so severely that he unfortunately took matters in his own hands. After being bullied to a pulp for years, having bottles hurled at him by students driving by in their cars  as reported by Dylan and witnessed by fellow students, and having his  complaints to teachers falling on deaf ears, Dylan  finally had enough.

Normally, when we think of the results of those who have been bullied, we think of  someone who goes inward and suffers in silence. They turn their hate  inward towards those who bullied them. That is why we hear about the countless suicides and other self destructive behaviors by those who have been deemed social outcasts by their peers.

But sometimes that hate, as a  result  of what bullies said and did to them, may be turned outward. This  was the case in  the Columbine killers  and with other mass killers on school campuses. All of these killers  had one thing in common. They were all  bullied. They all expressed that they had enough and  unleashed their hatred back to those who bullied them. Sadly, there were innocent bystanders who did not bully, who also suffered the killer’s  wrath.

When Dylan and his friend  Ed committed their acts of violence, they felt  joy- no pain and no remorse. In fact  it was reported that  Dylan  felt justified when he scratched some hateful words on another student’s  locker in school.  It was his act of revenge. In his diary he wrote  that he would ” Feel no remorse, no sense of shame” for any acts of violence he would commit.

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As further proof of his hatred towards his self entitled bullies, Dylan also wrote the following in his diary:  ” I mow down a whole [expletive] area full of you snotty ass rich mother [expletive] high strung godlike attitude having worthless pieces of [expletive] whores.”.

He goes on to say “YOU KNOW WHAT I HATE, When there is a group of [expletive] standing in the middle of a hallway or walkway, and they are just STANDING there talking and blocking my [expletive] way!!!! Get the [expletive] outta the way….Dead people can’t do many things, like argue, whine b*tch, complain, narc, rat out, criticize, or even [expletive] talk.”

His diary also  included disturbing imagery of inflicting pain on others as he wrote ” I felt like getting a baseball bat, breaking it over his head, and then STABBING him with the broken end!!!!” His revengeful entry  most likely reflected the inner pain he had experienced as a result of those inflicting emotional pain upon him.

While what he and his friend Ed Harris  did was horrific, we cannot deny that his actions and raw hate were the consequence  of  being so bullied and tormented  that they finally decided they were not   going to take it anymore. They fought back in the most brutal and severest of ways. Their mental state and lack of mental health , unfortunately resulted in thirteen people ending up dead and countless others suffering from  physical and emotional scars they will have to endure for the rest of their life.

Dylan Kliebold and Ed Harris’  pain emotional scars left them emotionally detached- emotionally dead. Just as those who are bullied who end up emotionally  dead  and  turn their pain inward and commit suicide, these  two young men were also emotionally dead. They that  didn’t care about the consequences of their actions. They were prepared to kill and be killed as they turned their emotional pain outward.

What happened in Columbine clearly shows us that there is another side of bullying. The  consequences  of  that bullying are  extremely severe as we saw. That is why ALL schools MUST have a ZERO Tolerance when it comes to bullies and being bullied.

Whether the bullying takes place on a school grounds or over the internet there must be  serious and severe  legal consequences  in place  for anyone who bullies another student.

 

Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer Song About TOXIC Bullying Added Verses In This Age of Zero Tolerance Against Bullying

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The other day I was in the car listening to the radio,  when the popular Christmas song Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer came on . I began singing along with it and for the first time realized how the words to this catchy tune tell a very sad story.

t starts off fine describing a reindeer with  his red nose  as the lyrics are:

 Rudolph the red nosed reindeer                                                    

Had a very shiny nose

And if you ever saw it,

You would even say it glows

Then it goes on to describe how the reindeer was bullied and ostracized, simply  because he looked different. This verse actually saddened me as I listened to the following verse:

All of the other reindeer

Used to laugh and call him names

They never let poor Rudolph

Play in any reindeer games.

Luckily for Rudolph, Santa became  Rudolph’s savior as Santa  came to his rescue by  acknowledging Rudolph’s difference and turning his physical  difference and uniqueness into an advantage and an asset. It was because of Rudolph’s   unique difference which allowed    Santa to  navigate his sleigh through the foggy night.The lyrics are as follows:

 

Then one foggy Christmas night

Santa came to say

“Rudoph with your nose so bright

Won’t you guide my sleigh night?

 

Now here is the part that disturbs me. Only because Rudolph was useful and did something heroic based on his  physical difference did the other reindeer finally accept him.  Otherwise , they would never have  accepted him into their group and allow him to play reindeer games with them. Below are the lyrics which disturbed me.

 

Then all the reindeer loved him

As they shouted out with glee

Rudolph the red nosed reindeer

You’ll go down in history.

These superficial  reindeer needed to accept Rudolph red nose and all from the beginning, not because he did something which helped Santa. Obviously these  TOXIC reindeer only liked him because he  now had Santa’s blessing who accepted Rudolph’s uniqueness which allowed him to become a  hero.

I don’t think the song  should end there. To me, it is not is finished.  It’s missing several  verses in my view so I took  my songwriting and skills to task and took the  liberty to  write some very much needed verses that apply in this  his day and age of zero tolerance for bullying.  So here are the additional lyrics I wrote  to the tune of Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer. 

Then Rudolph told all the reindeer

You hurt my feelings when teasing me

Just cuz someone looks different

You don’t have to be a bully 

 

We come in all shapes and sizes

And  just  to be direct

We all want  love and kindness

And  to be treated with respect.

 

I hope you learned your lesson

That teasing makes others blue

Everyone has feelings

Just like  me and you .

 

So in the  Spirit of  Christmas 

Where forgiveness is number one

Never  tease others

Cuz you can  really hurt someone.

 

While the song written back in 1939  by Robert L. May and  published by Montgomery Ward  and adapted into songs, television specials feature films and has become a figure of Christmas folklore, I believe that these  additional meaningful verses are  now needed  to teach children about the consequences of bullying  and hurt feelings in this age of Zero Tolerance for  Bullying.

                                                                                                   

  MERRY CHRISTMAS   XO

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Toxic Men: School Shooter in Ohio Caused By ” Silent But Deadly Erupting Volcano” Who Was Bullied

As the author of the best selling book Toxic Peoplehttp://www.amazon.com/Toxic-People-Ways-Dealing-Miserable/dp/0312152329/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1330452498&sr=1-1  

as well as my latest book Toxic Men http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Men-Ways-Identify-Miserable/dp/144050007X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1330452562&sr=1-1which has just been released in paperback, I came up with the category of Silent But Deadly Erupting Volcano. This category says it all when it comes to 17 year old T.J. Lane who shot and killed fellow classmates and injured others in his Ohio high school.

Many of his fellow students said  he was “quiet”. Others  said he was sweet. One student who played basketball with him after school several years ago said he seemed happy when he was around him and that he was shocked because he wasn’t a violent kid. Another student at his church group said that he was  “a nice boy.”

But others said had a “simmering temper”. And  my view is that “simmering temper’ was fueled by inner rage that was not verbally expressed.

To read more click link below 

http://drlillianglass.com/body-language-blog/2012/02/28/toxic-people-ohio-school-shooter-silent-but-deadly-erupting-volcano/