Jodi Arias’ Body Language May Do Her In

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On opening day of Jodi Aria’s trial, she  “cried” when the prosecutor spoke of her alleged evil deeds in stabbing her boyfriend 27 times and slashing his throat and then shooting him in the head. She also “cried” when her defense lawyer said that  her acts we in self defense. But the crying she did for  both  the prosecution and defense’s arguments  looked like what you see in the above photo, She hid her face and looked down.

That type of body language will not bode well for a jury because it looked fake and manipulative.

Screen Shot 2013-01-03 at 4.23.17 AMThere has  been a lot of talk  that because Jodi Arias is so attractive, a jury will not convict her or give her the death penalty. There is a lot of truth to the fact that those who are judged to be more physically attractive are judged to be less guilty of committing crimes. Research for the past three decades has validated this.  In the above photo blond, and curvy Arias looks very attractive.
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She also looks very beautiful as a blond in various modeling shots which were taken of her. 

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But in court, she did not look that pretty or glamorous  or sexy.  Instead  she looked like an average woman, which will put her on a evel playing field as far as the jury is concerned.   The crying she showed in court was no doubt designed to make her look like a vulnerable victim. But in reality  she oozes too much self confidence that verges on cockiness that the jury will detest.

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The jury  got a glimpse of this in an interview she  did with Inside Edition where she stated emphatically  that a jury will not convict her and to mark her words. I cannot imagine any attorney  allowing their client to go on a tabloid magazine show to declare her innocence, So I can only assume that she did this on her own. It was a huge mistake for her to do this if she wants a jury to not convict her.

She also changed her story too many times which is a huge red flag to a jury. It says that she is a liar and they will assume the worst. The jury was shown the sexual and bloody  photos of what she  did to her boyfriend from photos that were  retrieved from a  camera she put in a washing machine to wash away the evidence.

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A jury will never believe that she was  a victim as they see the body language of photos of the two of them together.In this photo she looks like she is the dominant one in the relationship as she grabs her boyfriend by the chin in a move to try and control him.

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This is another telling photo body language wise as he is pulled away from her while she leans on him.

She appears to have a sickening sweet tone which will turn a lot of people off. Whenever you hear someone with a high pitched baby girl tone, run, because there is often hidden anger  and rage under such a contrived tone. There is  also a monotone which is disconcerting and off-putting. Finally she appears  to have a mask like appearance devoid of emotion. There is also  a coldness to both her tone and facial expression which will not reflect well, especially of she takes the stand.

My view of what likely happened was that she got involved with a sexually inexperienced an naive young man with a Mormon background. According to his friends, he lost his virginity to her. At first it was exciting for him and he may have allowed her to take control over things, but as he spent more time with her he  realized, as he confided to his friends , that she was not the type of woman she wanted to settle down with and marry.

When he apparently began dating other women, she  obviously lot her control and hold  over him which angered her. He tried  to break up with her according to friends  but she wouldn’t hear of it.  Even though he wanted out there was a part of him that still enjoyed her sexually and that is why they were  obviously together on the last day  of life.

While she was taking photos of him  in the shower and engaging in sex with him she must have felt there was hope  for the relationship but  then something  happened that set her off. Perhaps he didn’t agree to get back together as a couple, or reciprocate and tell her that he loved her. Something that was said  or not said clearly angered her  to the point that she grabbed a weapon to stab him and keep stabbing him 27 times. She was in a fit of violent rage over the thought of not  having him.  She was so angry and violent with him that she slit his throat and just to make sure he was dead, shot him in the head.

To me this is clearly a crime of passion. The fact that she had a gun with her indicates that she must have thought about killing him that day. Who brings a gun to their boyfriend’s hime unless they plan to go to a gun range together, go hunting, or use it on the person?

In my view, she had plans to use the gun on her boyfriend if things didn’t go her way. Things  obviously didn’t go her way and she used the weapon. So there was premeditation involved in my view.It was in my view a premeditated crime of passion that could have gone either way, depending on whether she thought she could win him back,

The three different stories she told after  finally admitting she killed him in self defense will not make jurors sympathetic to her. As we will most likely hear in the testimony of his close friends and family, he  will have had  no history of being abusive.

Jodi does not appear credible or likable and the body language she has displayed thus far will seal her fate. While she will most likely be convicted she may or may not get the death penalty. There may be jurors who will sympathize  with her Some jurors may even feel that her boyfriend lead her on and  mentally abused her, based on the fact that they engaged in sex after he tried to dump her.

Unlike what the media has portrayed, this is not a case which is at all similar to the Casey Anthony case. There is no child involved and this woman doesn’t have enabling parents who are front and center trying to enable their daughter.Thus there are no parallels here.


Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer Song About TOXIC Bullying Added Verses In This Age of Zero Tolerance Against Bullying

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The other day I was in the car listening to the radio,  when the popular Christmas song Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer came on . I began singing along with it and for the first time realized how the words to this catchy tune tell a very sad story.

t starts off fine describing a reindeer with  his red nose  as the lyrics are:

 Rudolph the red nosed reindeer                                                    

Had a very shiny nose

And if you ever saw it,

You would even say it glows

Then it goes on to describe how the reindeer was bullied and ostracized, simply  because he looked different. This verse actually saddened me as I listened to the following verse:

All of the other reindeer

Used to laugh and call him names

They never let poor Rudolph

Play in any reindeer games.

Luckily for Rudolph, Santa became  Rudolph’s savior as Santa  came to his rescue by  acknowledging Rudolph’s difference and turning his physical  difference and uniqueness into an advantage and an asset. It was because of Rudolph’s   unique difference which allowed    Santa to  navigate his sleigh through the foggy night.The lyrics are as follows:


Then one foggy Christmas night

Santa came to say

“Rudoph with your nose so bright

Won’t you guide my sleigh night?


Now here is the part that disturbs me. Only because Rudolph was useful and did something heroic based on his  physical difference did the other reindeer finally accept him.  Otherwise , they would never have  accepted him into their group and allow him to play reindeer games with them. Below are the lyrics which disturbed me.


Then all the reindeer loved him

As they shouted out with glee

Rudolph the red nosed reindeer

You’ll go down in history.

These superficial  reindeer needed to accept Rudolph red nose and all from the beginning, not because he did something which helped Santa. Obviously these  TOXIC reindeer only liked him because he  now had Santa’s blessing who accepted Rudolph’s uniqueness which allowed him to become a  hero.

I don’t think the song  should end there. To me, it is not is finished.  It’s missing several  verses in my view so I took  my songwriting and skills to task and took the  liberty to  write some very much needed verses that apply in this  his day and age of zero tolerance for bullying.  So here are the additional lyrics I wrote  to the tune of Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer. 

Then Rudolph told all the reindeer

You hurt my feelings when teasing me

Just cuz someone looks different

You don’t have to be a bully 


We come in all shapes and sizes

And  just  to be direct

We all want  love and kindness

And  to be treated with respect.


I hope you learned your lesson

That teasing makes others blue

Everyone has feelings

Just like  me and you .


So in the  Spirit of  Christmas 

Where forgiveness is number one

Never  tease others

Cuz you can  really hurt someone.


While the song written back in 1939  by Robert L. May and  published by Montgomery Ward  and adapted into songs, television specials feature films and has become a figure of Christmas folklore, I believe that these  additional meaningful verses are  now needed  to teach children about the consequences of bullying  and hurt feelings in this age of Zero Tolerance for  Bullying.



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Does Balloon Dad’ Body Language and Communication Show Signs of Sociopathic or Psychopathic Behavior?

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Before I begin discussing Balloon Dad, Richard Heene, I want to state loud and clear that I am
NOT diagnosing his Psychological condition, nor am I doing any type of Therapy with him.

The reason I bring this up, is because a few years ago, a blogger , who went by the moniker
“dissent” obviously saw me throughout the media and ridiculously accused me of diagnosing
Britney Spears when Britney was going through her problems. The blogger’s allegations were
absolutely silly because as anyone knows, you can’t accurately diagnose anyone, unless you run a comprehensive battery of tests on them and see them up close and personal. But you can speculate.

As a Media Psychologist, who has also been formally trained as a Journalist, it is my duty to
present ALL the possibilities that could account for someone’s behavior. It is the responsible
thing to do to speculate on all aspects of their behavior that is analyzed. It is what ALL of my
fellow Media Psychologist colleagues do, especially those of us who appear regularly on the Nancy Grace show, (all of whom I respect and admire). We ALL give our POSSIBLE takes on the matter at hand. That is what we are there to do- to educate and inform the public.

But blogger, “dissent” I discovered, seemed in my view, to have an “axe to grind.”
Apparently, she couldn’t stand “Media Psychologists” and let that be known in her blogs. I wanted to correspond with “dissent” to intelligently express my point of view to what I
thought in my opinion, were her malicious and nasty comments and unfounded claims, but I
couldn’t do so. I couldn’t communicate with her directly because she was “anonymous”.

So, I used my body language analysis skills and discovered her identity from reading all of her
blogs and analyzing what she wrote in her own word. I found out her name (initials L.E.P.)
address (New York, but not Manhattan), family situation ( a husband and a son and a daughter), her gripes (Media Psychologists) , and what she does for a living , just from reading her blogs.

As it turns out, “dissent” was another Psychologist – not a Media Psychologist, like myself, but rather a Tourette Syndrome Psychologist, who’s motivation was definitely, in my opinion, was
nothing other than “professional jealousy.” My opinion regarding her “professional jealousy”
towards me was confirmed after L.E.P. apparently saw me on the Nancy Grace Show and wrote a blog under her moniker of ”dissent” trashing Body Language and calling it pseudoscience. Actually, body language is both an art and a science.

It couldn’t be that much of a pseudoscience as she claimed, since it was the science of my body language analysis skills and the art of how I do my analyses, that lead to my identifying L.E.P. as the anonymous blogger “dissent.”

To me, L.E.P. ‘s behavior seemed similar to the recently publicized case where a jealous
wannabe trashed a gorgeous Vogue model in her blogs by calling her a “skank” and who’s
identity was subsequently outed by Google. But I didn’t need Google to discover the identity of
“dissent”. I only needed my body language analysis skills.

So, to L.E. P. or “dissent” and to others who may have similar “axes to grind”, or who are “haters,” troublemakers, or who claim to know me when they in fact do not, let me assure you that whether not you like me or Media Psychologists in general, I am doing my duty in a very responsible manner. I am doing as I have been trained to do and have done for the past two
decades, ever since beginning as a Psychology Reporter at KABC Television in Los Angeles.

Now, about Balloon Dad, Richard Heene. There has been a lot of talk in the media from
people who know him “up close and personal” like comedienne Sunda Coonquist and others
that Richard may be Bipolar. They speak of his rapid mood swings and violent temper which
many people with Bipolar Syndrome may possibly have. We have all seen his violent temper on Wife Swap and in a video where he violently yelled at Mayumi. So, it is easy for people to
assume that he may be Bipolar.

But I wonder if another reason he behaves as he does may be due to other conditions.
People who know Balloon Dad up close and personal have also claimed he is a “ narcissist,”
thinks he’s better and more intelligent than everyone, and has an over inflated opinion of
himself. We have all observed his irresponsible behavior and seen his lack of remorse on

Famed Canadian psychologist, Dr. Robert Hare, developed a checklist called The
Hare Psychopathy Checklist-Revised (PCL-R) which is a diagnostic tool of 20 traits
assessed by a scoring system used to rate a person’s psychopathic or antisocial
behaviors. They include :

1.glib and superficial charm,
2. grandiose (exaggeratedly high estimation of self),
3. need for stimulation,
4. pathological lying,
5. cunning and manipulativeness,
6. lack of remorse or guilt,
7. shallow affect(superficial emotional responsiveness),
8.callousness and lack of empathy,
9.parasitic lifestyle,
10. poor behavioral controls
11.sexual promiscuity,
12. early behavior problems,
13. lack of realistic long-term goals
16.failure to accept responsibility for own actions,
17.many short-term marital relationships,
18.juvenile delinquency ,
19.revocation of conditional release, and
20.criminal versatility.

The degree of Psychopathy depends on how many of these traits one has. Dr. Hare’s Scale has been used by criminal law enforcement throughout the word. So I’m JUST
ASKING, what do you think? He certainly fits a lot of the criteria that Dr. Hare mentions,
on the list doesn’t he? It would be very interesting to see if they ran a battery of tests on Balloon Dad if and when he gets to jail that may give some insight as to what is his
Psychological state is and what his issues are. Even though there may be privacy issues and
we may very well find out about his psychological state because this evidence may be brought up in court during his trial, if indeed he has one.