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Thirteen year old youtube sensation Caleb Logan Bratayley was a star.  He had “it” as they say in Hollywood- good looks, a brightness, and an effervescent personality. He was highly watchable on his family’s daily vlog. Then all of a sudden this boy is dead. The family released a statement that he died of :natural causes.”  There is nothing natural about a 13 year old dropping dead for no reason. They also left a  rather strange and disturbing  statement  at the end of their vblog  where they said

” Unfortunatey Caleb passed away right after we made the video. He will never get to meet his future self. None of us will and we are sad because he could have been great. “

Then they go on to say to kiss your kids and tell them that you love the everyday. “You never know what day will be their last.”
WHAT????? The last thing parents think of is that their child will die before them. The Bratayley’s giving encouraging advice for people to kiss their kids is absurd in light of their circumstance.

It shows that this family was more concerned about their youtube presence and their vlog and their 15 minutes of fame than they were about their son’s death.

In closely examining the boy’s last video I found it strange. While he and his 2 sisters are eating breakfast, He can barely focus  and looks out of it. His eyes are half closed  as you can see below.

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Then he looks into the distance and doesn’t focus n the question he is asked by his mother.

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His eyes look even more at half mast. As he slowly chews his muffin, he suddenly closes his eyes as he can barely keep them open.Tthe muffin suddenly drops out of his hand.

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His head and body collapses on to the counter. After a few seconds he lifts his head up and holds up his head with his hand. You hear the mother saying  that he’s not a morning person. What???? The child just collapsed on the counter and this is what she says?

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Unsteadily, he  rocks back and forth in his seat as he still can barely keep his eyes open.

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He then saunters over to the sink where he looks off to the side and leans over the counter as though he is not feeling well. He  remains in that position for a few seconds.  His mother who is filming the entire time neglects to address this. Instead she says “Isn’t he cute?’

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He then turns around and stumbles twice  as he walks and eventually ends up lying down on the couch. The mother doesn’t seem to notice as she is too busy trying to be cute for the camera talking about how she will film how the “Bratayley eat lunch.”

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Then he buries his head in his arms as he continues to lie on the couch. He then moves his head around to get into a more comfortable position.

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Next we see a shot of the boy not looking great as he stumbles around. Then he mumbles that he caught the camera he almost dropped which sounded like he said “he dropped a narcotic”. But he looks a little too surprised and reactive for this as he opens his eyes widely and does a second take of surprise.

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But he looks a little too surprised and reactive after he says  this. Then seconds later  he oddly shuts his eyes as if he is doing a double take and so surprised that he caught the camera he was about to drop. Then he opens his eyes wide and looks into the camera  seconds later and says WOW!  My reaction to his was that maybe he did say he “dropped a narcotic” as his reaction was akin to those may have ingested a narcotic with slow reaction time and being amazed at the most benign occurrence and pondering over it.

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He then seems confused as he tries to answer a question as he continues to mumble. He can barely focus and  read the question he is supposed to answer as he stammers and stumbles over his words as he reads the question-” What he would ask his future self.” He then mumbles  and slurs his words “Is Taco Bell still around?”

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Then he looks pained and looks away from the camera as he mumbles what he would really ask is if there are any new sports. He then licks his lips which may indicate that he is getting cotton mouth or that his mouth is dry. Perhaps  that was another indication that something was not right with him. He then says he would ask if there are any new sports. He looks pained as he says this. Then he stcks out hs tongue and makes an inappropriate motor boat type of noise.It made no sense in terms of the context in which he was speaking.

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Then he does something that is even more absurd. He pulls his cheeks and asks if his cheeks look fat. This is clearly a young man that has spent too many hours in front of the camera as his vanity seems to have gotten best of him. It made no sense whatsoever. Then he scrunches up is face and begins to make absurd noises and sounds no one can understand.

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Then he goes through an array of facial expressions that also make no sense as he seems to be mugging into the camera.

Then he goes back to the question he was asked and mumbles something about his 5 second earlier self talking to his other self. It  sounded like something someone who may be  high on something would ponder about.

He continues to make  more inappropriate and over the top facial expressions  as you see above.

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He continues to mumble and make inappropriate noises. Then we see a statement on the video that the boy “unforuntaley” died shortly after doing this video.

WHAT???? It was such a cold statement and not a normal reaction from any parent who just lost a child. Also who would be releasing a videotape of something like his if the person just died?

This is makes me very suspicious that something was wrong with this boy and the parents neglected to take care of the problem. Many questions arise.

Was he on medication and had a bad reaction to it?

Did he have an underlying illness?

Did he have some underlying neurolgical condition that affected his behavior ?

Did he take narcotics?

Did he commit suicide?

Was there foul play?



Now the parents have released a statement that Caleb had an undetected medical condition but have yet to release to the public what that medical condition was that took This young and precious boy’s life.

Perhaps if  these parents  had spent more time observing Caleb’s  off behavior when they were filming him right before he died and sought medical attention for him, perhaps his undetected medical condition may have been detected.

The parents have also decided to livestream their child’s funeral which shows you just how far people are willing to take it to in achieving their 15 minutes of fame.

In any event it is very sad that this beautiful and vibrant young man who had  all the hopes of a full life ahead of him is gone.

While ESPN’s Britt McHenry Shows Toxic Behavior By Fat, Dental, Job, and Education Shaming, Tow Worker is Toxic for Releasing Tape

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Yes  ESPN’s Britt McHenry clearly showed what a Toxic  entitled character she had by verbally  hitting  the tow company worker below the belt as she fat shamed, dental shamed, job shamed, and education shamed the woman who no doubt,  did something to aggravate Britt.  Since nothing happens in a vacuum,  there is no doubt  in my mind that the tow worker  did  something that made Britt go off on her.Maybe she was robotic, insensitive to Britt’s  plight, cold, uncaring, had an attitude, or maybe she said something provocative that ticked off Britt.

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But by warning  Britt that she was on tape and stating she would show it, it demonstrates  how passive aggressive the tow worker was acting. By actually releasing the tape publically to get back at  Britt and now turning the tables and   shaming  Britt, it shows how Toxic  and vindictive  the tow worker  really  is.

This was a petty situation between two women. No ones life was at stake.

As soon as Britt realized she was on tape she put her hand up to her throat indicating that she was suddenly feeling vulnerable. Her large eyed look whereby you can see the whites or sclera shows her surprise and shock. No doubt when the tow worker threatened that she would show it, it frightened Brit as revealed through her body language.

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The tow worker  needed to speak up  immediately and tell the  reporter she was going too far and not not speak to her this way.She needed to tell the reporter she wouldn’t help her if she continued to speak to her like that and that she would get another employee to help her. Then he needed to get that employee to help Britt calm down and finish her business. Obviously the tow driver was too wraped up in her own feelings  instead of calming her customer down with soothing words and trying to diffuse the situation. She needed to say how it was hitting below the belt and how she  was hurting her feelings.

But the tow worker said nothing as we heard on tape. She merely displayed her  vindictiveness  at being fat shamed, education shamed, and teeth shamed by getting  back at the sportscaster by publicly releasing the tape and shaming her. If there was a nurse or a doctor  or dentist who did something to jeopardize your health, one should  out them to help protect the public and warn them about that person’s dangerous and toxic  behaviors.  After all that is what Yelp  and Health Grades is all about. But to out  a customer for a petty attitude issue is a whole different issue.

The tow worker could have also spoken up on the tape and said look, don’t speak to me that way or I won’t help you and I will get someone else to assist you if you treat me that way, or you really hurt my feelings by what you are saying. It needed to be dealt with between the two women. But she got the public involved and in my view she is just as Toxic as the reporter if not more. The reporter’s behavior is  unfortunately often what is seen in the showbusiness world- entitlement and thinking they are such a big star and talking down to others.  I have seen it countless times in Hollywood. Not all celebrities are like that but the newer ones who haven’t yet hit hard times and think that they are all that and believe their press often pull this behavior.

Since  Britt flaunted her TV career, the tow worker could have sent the tape  to the authorities at ESPN to show her action instead of showing it to the world and helping to destroy the women’s career.  Perhaps the ESPN authorities would have given her a reality check and put her on the right path in terms of how to behave with others now that she is  a public figure.

I really think it needed to be handled by both women as grown adults  and  the incident should not have  involve a third party.

There are definitely times where  Toxic people in the service business need to be called out when they exhibit Toxic behavior.  if someone is belittling, being condescending, being hateful, or harming you always need to let them know how their actions won’t be tolerated and  you need to hold them accountable.

But if  you  decide to go off on them verbally, which can often happen, there are certain rules you MUST follow.

1. You cannot berate their physical looks.

2. You cannot berate  their job and whether you think it is beneath you.

3. You cannot say how superior you are to them or how much more educated you are then they are.

4. You cannot  fat shame them and name call.

5. You cannot teeth shame them. But if they have such bad breath and unkempt teeth that makes you feel like to vomit, you can gingerly suggest they monitor their bad breath or use oral hygeine, especially if they are dealing with the public   if  their offensive smell has invaded your  air space via your nostrils you have the right to let them know about it.

6, You cannot shame their dress  or style unless they are disheveled and dirty and serving you food or touching your body, your hair or your children (waiter, waitress, facialist, hair stylist,  nurse, health care worker, child care worker).

So when ESPN reporter did all of the above, she showed who she was- a very toxic person who thought she was all that  simply because  she was on TV and no doubt probably being told her entire live how cute she looked). Well she certainly lost a lot of points in the cuteness department, because cute is as cute does .

While she was suspended it remains to be seen whether or not she will be fired. That all depends on how  the audience will tolerate her. Since the ESPN audience is mostly made up of men and since a lot of men out there can overlook Toxic behavior in a woman as long as she is cute and has a nice body and appeals to them as eye candy, she may still keep her job.

But as far as rising up the ranks and becoming a bonafide respected news reporter, she can forget it. Look at what happened to lying  Brian Williams. In my view she needs to be fired stat. There are too many other  cute young women out there who aren’t as Toxic who could do the job. Shaming others is a huge no no and makes you unlikeable. As a reporter who wants a long career, you need to be likeable.

Mainstream audiences  of both men and women may never be  forget how highly she regards herself at the expense of others. She showed a lot of insensitivity and went below the belt when she tore the woman’s looks  and who she was, to shreds.

Britt is NOT as educated as she thinks she is. Graduating from Northwestern or getting an advanced degree means nothing if you don’t have the education of how to respectfully kmy treat others. You will never advance and you will lose if you act like a superior entitled brat.  Personally, I think her getting fired would be the best thing to happen to this young lady as it would humble her and give her a reality check. She needs a complete inner makeover of her soul so she acquires more compassion, less entitlement, and less feelings of superiority to others.

In addition,  the tow worker should be fired for releasing the tape and being just as  or even more toxic by her sneaky passive aggressive behavior. The tow worker is not rthe victim here and should not be portrayed as one. She had a huge role in this debacle as well.

Tina Fey- The Real Mean Girl Who’s Shaming Famed Dermatologist May Have Lead to His Death

Tina Fey’s humor of making fun of others is not funny. It is Toxic, cruel and mean. . Based on what happened with famed dermatologist Dr. Fredric Brandt, she owes his heirs and apology and needs to be held accountable for her actions.

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Apparently she created a character in her netflix show called the Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt that was poking fun at the 65 year old smooth skinned, tanned, platinum haired dermatologist  with a hyperarticulate high pitched voice named Dr. Franff, ( a play on his name Dr. Brandt) played by Martin Short.  When the NY Post brought the similarity between the fictional and the real character to light in an article last month, the doctor felt humiliated. He told friends and colleagues that he was devastated by this portrayal of him. In fact his PR agent Lesley Abravanel shared this tweet about how devastated Fr. Brandt felt over the comparisons on Tina Fey’s show.

Though Abravanel suggests that Dr Franff is a protagonist on the show, Martin Short's character only appeared in one episode of the first season

It was too much for the doctor to take and he committed suicide at his home in Coral Gables, Florida.

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The news of this doctors death and his public humiliation is devastating. Here is a  bona fide physician who spent years in medical school and in a residency, who built up a top notch dermatology practice in Miami and in NY of A list clients like Madonna,  model Stephanie Seymour, talks show host Kelly Rippa, fashion designer  Marc Jacobs, and so many others,  as well as developing his own brand of collagen booster,only to be publicly humiliated  and  ‘devastated’ by unflattering comparisons to Dr Franff on the show Kimmy Schmidt.

Allegedy the doctor had suffered from issues of depression in the past but  many believe that this public humiliation  by Tina Fey must have pushed him over the edge.  Sadly he died alone and was discovered by his maid at his Miami mansion.

This type of mean humor to poke fun at someone’s appearance, the way they speak no longer works in this day and age. neither does humor of race, religion, sexual orientation, or ethnicity. Years ago this type of humor was prevalent and tolerated but it is no longer the case. The Don Rickles, Joan Rivers and now Tina Fey type of humor where people are made fun of  because of their looks, ethnicity,  or demeanor is not tolerated. Prior to her death, Joan Rivers was called out for calling Michelle Obama a tranny and rightfully so. Jamine Fox was also called out for his jokes making fun of Bruce Jenner’s transsexuality.

This type of humor is mean spirited and should not be tolerated or encouraged. There are consequences to making fun of people, which is  essence  a form of  bullying them. That is what Tina Fey did to Dr. Brandt. This type of “humor” can push people over the edge like it did with the famed dermatologist. Monica Lewinsky even spoke about how she was close to ending her life after constantly hearing jokes about her.


 I have always respected  newsman Chris Wallace’s professionalism just as I respected his late father. Mike Wallace who was a journalist for decades at 60 Minutes. So when I heard that  Fox New’s Chris Wallace  onThe Mike Gallagher Show  “fat shamed American Idol singer Kelly Clarkson by saying, “Kelly Clarkson’s got a lovely voice. She could stay off the deep dish pizza for a little while.” I was appalled.

It didn’t stop there as Mike Gallegher said “Have you seen Kelly Clarkson? You know the singer, Kelly Clarkson? Holy cow, did she blow up,” as both he and Chris joked about Clarkson’s weight.

Mike and Chris need to offer up an apology for their insensitivity. They need to do it ASAP!  How do they know Kelly isn’t  taking some medication that has “blown her up” as they said. How do they know she does not have some type of medical condition or an eating disorder.

One thing we know for sure  is that the woman recently had a baby. Perhaps she is retaining her baby weight. Perhaps she is content with being a mother and wants to focus on her baby and not her calorie count. Perhaps her days are so filled with motherhood and tending to her baby that she doesn’t have time for herself or for a workout. Perhaps she no longer cares about being thin and wants to live her life as she pleases and eat what she wants to eat.

Whatever the case as to Kelly Clarkson”s weight gain men who snicker and make fun of a woman;s weight speaks volumes about them and their toxicity.  It is immature and secxist, not to mention insensitive and hurtful.  For news men and media personalities to cut down someone’s physical appearance is unacceptable.

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When women who are in the public eye gain weight it is a as though they have committed a crime in the eyes of certain people. Jessica Simpson, Kim Kardashian, Khloe Kardashian, Demi Lovato, Christina Aquilera,  Kelly Osborne, Kate Upton, Jennifer Lawrence, and countless others have been vilified just for putting on the pounds. It must stop and can no longer be tolerated!

Instead those like Chris Wallace and Mike Gallegher need to be vilified for their hurtful and insensitive comments. They need to be held accountable for their vulgar words and fined, suspended  or be taken off the air for making fun of someone;s physical appearance.

Kelly Clarkson is happily married and a  new happy mother with a gorgeous baby. She has made a lot of money, is a respected singer with a gorgeous voice and seems like a genuinely nice and kind person who hasn’t hurt anyone.

Whether she is thin or has a few pounds on her she is still the same person. Saying something derogatory abut one;s weight is as hurtful as saying something derogatory about one; sex or race, or religious beliefs. It must NOT be tolerated and those who fat shamed must be called on their Toxic Behavior and held accountable.

Accused Bill Cosby’s Silence About Rape Often Points To Guilt

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Back in the day when there was a scandal among celebrities, the advice was to remain silent until it blew over and was forgotten. Well those old school  days have long gone. With social media and the immediacy of news and information and the ability to dig up one’s past and verify it, this philosophy no longer applies. In fact it can backfire. Bill Cosby’s not speaking out and defending himself  and remaining silent against his rape allegations has clearly backfired on him.

When people are innocent of something, they speak out. In fact they scream out that these allegations are” false”.  When something a serious as a rape allegation is made one has to  speak out against it, especially  if they have not committed such a vulgar act.

Even though our American justice system and various justice systems around the world may not require the accused to speak out for themselves  and defend him or herself, in the back of many jurors minds is still the question, “If they are innocent, then why don’t they testify and speak up for themselves and defend their innocence?”

Most recently, Cosby refused to answer a journalist’s questions on NPR that concerned his alleged rape. Queen Latifia and David Letterman cancelled his show appearances. People wrote horrible things about him on twitter related to his alleged raping.

While Cosby’s raping allegations were recently called out by comedian Hannibal Burris, rumors about Cosby’s unwanted sexual advances and subsequent rape allegations have been talked about in Hollywood for for the past three decades. With his constant visits to the Playboy Mansion, many in the Hollywood saw him as a lecherous cheater on his wife Camille.

Cosby has been a super star for decades  and there is no doubt that he took advantage of his status, like so many stars have done in the past and present. and will most likely do in the future.

No doubt there may have been many aspririing actresses who would think nothing of having sex with Cosby in exchange for his connecting them up with an agent, a movie or tv role, or with others who could further their  careers.  There may be those who  may have put out for him and when he did  not reciprocate with his promises or with their expectations, they may have felt used and abused angry. They may have and felt they were  physically and emotionally raped and discarded and rightfully so.  Then there may have been  others, who like his most vocal accuser who stated Cosby raped her at 19,  inist she was actually violently raped by him. Perhaps these women saw was one of the most Toxic People with a sadistic and monstrous side. The fact that he settled with one of his rape accusers also doesn’t look good for him.

Evidently, Cosby was not the All American, beloved and humorous, Dr. Huxtable he played on TV, complete with a high moral compass who would never think of cheating on his wife or taking advantage of young starlets.

Cosby’s silence speaks volumes to me. Until he breaks his silence and comes clean and either admits his alleged egregious behavior or provides us with a defense or an explanation  his phenomenal career is essentially over . No one wants to watch a rapist or someone they assume is a rapist, so they networks might as well pull the plug on his upcoming show.

Toxic CNN Anchor Creates Hostility Driving Joan Rivers Off Set But Obama Gay Michelle “Tranny” Joke May Be River’s Undoing

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There is nothing more TOXIC then someone being the instigator and then trying to make out like they are the victim. That is what happened with the passive aggressive actions of CNN anchor Fredericka Whitfield. Whitfield was the one who instigated the hostile tone of the interview by calling Joan mean when Joan appears on Fashion Police, calling Joan out on making fun of serious situations like Casey Anthony’s dead daughter and critiquing Joan’s book cover of her new book Diary of a Mad Woman where Joan is wearing fur.

Whitfield laughs a phony laugh and mugs for the camera when Joan walks off the set, acting surprised that Joan left yet mugging and phony smiling all the way. Initially Joan tried to explain that Fashion Police was not mean and that Joan didn’t attack the celebrities, she attacked the clothing and fashion.

Whitfield glossed over River’s answer and proceeded in a hostile tone to attack her over the Casey Anthony daughter humor. Joan once again tried to explain that you can take a horrible situation and add humor (albeit dark humor) it gives the person a moments respite from the tragedy. Rivers further went on to describe how Winston Churchill described this type of humor as a moment’s vacation. Once again Whitfield glossed over her answer and began to attack Joan over wearing fur on her book cover. Joan tried to explain and immediately went on the offensive asking Whitfield if she wore leather and told her to shut up and talk to her when she wears a paper belt.

Then Joan pulled out her earpiece and walked out. On one breath Whitfield was complimentary and on the other breath began her series of attacks. This is called passive aggressive behavior and highly toxic in my book. Rivers told Whitfield that all her questions had been “negative,” and added “You are not the one to interview a person who does humor, sorry,” before Rivers walked off. Rivers was right. She came to speak of her book, not the show and not her furs. It was the attacking staccatto and hostile tone of voice Whitfield used that got Joan worked up.

Had Whitfield said ” What would you say to people who comment on you wearing fur” instead of directly attacking Joan that she was wearing fur on the cover of her book, it would have been a different story. Had she worded her questions differently, Rivers would not have walked off the set. So needless to say I believe Joan was absolutely right not to subject herself to this amature, unprofessional, and hostile interview.

While the incident was unfortunate it put Joan high up in the press and now makes more people aware of her new book. It also put Fredericka Whitfield on the map as before this, most people had no idea who she was.

On the show Joan Rivers was defending herself in saying that she has made people laugh for 50 years.Before all of the current political correctness which permeates our society her humor obviously worked very well. She skewered the Royal family and Elizabeth Taylor as well as racial and ethnic groups without a thought. People loved this and her Vegas shows and nightclub acts around the country sold out regularly. It was the Don Rickles put people down type of humor that people seemed to love.

But today it has changed. People are much more tender and sensitive and don’t find any humor in tragedy such as Caylee Anthony’s death (me included). They will also not tolerate Holocaust jokes as Joan has made in the past or Black jokes. They will also not tolerate gay or gender identity jokes like the recent one she made about The President and First Lady.

When a reporter  recently questioned Rivers if she thought there would be a gay President in the White House she remarked that we already have one- Obama and that his wife Michelle is a tranny.

In my view it is not Joan’s walking off the CNN set that may be her undoing but this joke about the President and First Lady that in my view that hits well below the belt. It’s not funny and in my view oversteps all boundaries. Whether or not you are a fan of Obama and his wife, we can all agree that this was a pretty shocking thing to say, especially that Michelle is a “tranny.” While there has been tabloid press in the past  alluding to Obama’s being gay, there is nothing to even suggest that Michelle is transgender. It seem libelous to me.

While shock value has been what has sustained Rivers throughout the years, this shock value may be what finally does her in.

TOXIC Kate Gosselin Reportedly Abused Her Children and Dogs Needs to Be Off Air Forever! New Book An Eye Opener




Because  I had been vocal in my media interviews and in my blogs about the body language of Kate Gosselin and her verbally abusive behavior towards  Jon and her kids, I was sent a review copy of  KATE GOSSELIN: HOW SHE FOOLED THE WORLD – The Rise And Fall of a Reality TV Queen

I have always said I am not a Kate hater. I am merely a reporter of newsmakers communication and body language. And I reported some very TOXIC things I saw with Kate Gosselin.

At first I didn’t want to read this book.  I felt I  learned all I needed to know about Kate from watching  her body language on the TLC shows, including  parts of the recent special she did. In that special I saw her Toxic sadism as she kicked a ball towards Mady to the repercussions of that hostile act where  Mady refused to forgive her.

I also saw the lasting effects of Kate’s years of verbal abuse on Mady which we all saw on previous shows. Now Mady has poor self esteem as she put herself down and showed visible signs depression. We also  saw Cara as a verbal cripple where she was afraid to utter a word around her Toxic mother.

As I made the decision to finally to read the book I wondered if there would be anything new in the book that  a.  I didn’t already know and  b.  if there was anything in it that Kate’s lawyers would use to sue this author Robert Hoffman.

Turns out, while there were many things I did know based on my observations, there were things I did not know which both  shocked and disgusted me. One of those things was Kate’s physical abuse of her children and her sadistic abuse of the dogs.

As for any legal issues concerning Robert Hoffman,  in my view any lawsuit by Kate would be seen as a frivolous claim in my view. The man is a journalist and wrote what he saw and culled data from  many interviews from others. He also reported on Kate’s own words. He did not break into her home and steal her hard drive. He did not do anything illegal or nefarious.

He did what many resourceful journalists and lots of detectives  have done-  look into the person’s trash to find discarded information about them. What Hoffman found was a goldmine in the garbage Kate Gosselin, herself,  threw away outside and left to be picked up. If she didn’t want any of her own words out, she needed to invest in and use a shredder as that is what they are for . In addition, she needed to hire someone to erase her hard drive if she wanted to trace left of what she said.


The two pieces information  I did not know that I learned from this book,  which was merely reporting Kate’s own words based on her self written journal  was that

1. Kate physically abused her children and and

 2. She abused her dogs.

For those two reasons alone,  I strongly believe TLC MUST NEVER PUT her on a show again or  never again be the strong wall behind her that protects her with ridiculous PR Spin and  puts her on such shows as Today, Access Hollywood, People Magazine  or even the Apprentice to get her back into the limelight so people would watch her special.

This woman in my view needs to be off the air for good. Look what they did to Paula Deen who self admitted she said the N word 30 years ago. They need to do the same to Kate Gosselin. All of those sponsors who support Kate should terminate Kate’s agreements in my view based on these two horrible acts and based on what we saw on the last special of how she treated her children. All the endorsement, speaking engagements and  free bees need to stop.

In the book Robert Hoffman pulls out a contract of Kate’s and TLC’s and says how Discovery which owns TLC backed Kate from day one. He seems surprised by this.

As someone who has signed extensive entertainment and sponsorhip  contracts myself, I am not at all surprised that Discovery would back Kate for as long as she was useful to them and kept making money.

They would do anything to keep her PR machine going even if it meant discrediting people like  child actor activist Paul Petersen who publicly spoke out against Kate and what harm she did to the kids. They would do anything to protect their brand as they proved to Jon Gosselin during his divorce from Kate by tying his hands every which way. If he veered out of line,  they made sure he would be sued and essentially left homeless if he did anything against their cash cow and money making machine, Kate.

But now that the cat is out of the bag through this book, Discovery and TLC need to quit Kate Gosselin, especially after the poor ratings on her last special. It is interesting that they realize she is no longer a big deal for them ad their PR machine does not appear to be ramped up very high since Hoffman’s book has been released.


Hoffman says in the book he thinks she is a very mentally sick woman. A very mentally sick woman who can’t seem to get along with anyone from her own parents, sibilngs, relatives, aunts, and uncles,  long time babysitters, help,  producers, people on DWTS  like beloved dancer Tony Dovalani.

Journalist Hoffman and others report her as being,  narcissistic, bipolar and a boarderline personality. The reason why Kate has so many haters is because people see her disturbed behavior and don’t like it.  The tagline of Kate being the “person you love to hate”  to help attract more viewers is exploiting Kate’s alleged  mental issues and taunting viewers to dare to watch.

No one loves to hate. People hate Kate because she does things that are hateable like hitting children and abusing dogs. She needs to be off the air permanently for the sake of her kids at least.

Now that the kids are older we can see by their body language they hate to be on the show.  Most  are not happy being there. In addition they are not talented or charismatic children. They simple average kids, many who are repressed and others who look very sad. The only one who shows life is Mady,  but she is angry and depressed all the time. These kids have no business being on air based on that alone.There are too many delightful exciting non sad and non abused kids out there.

Here is what Hoffman says in the book about the responsibility  of  Discovery, TLC and  it’s producers:

Every producer, crew member or person employed by Discovery/TLC/Figure 8 Films who witnessed any abuse of the Gosselin children bears some responsibility for allowing it to continue and for not reporting it. Every executive who knew about the abuse is responsible.

Everyone who turned a blind eye to the abuse bears some blame. It is probably safe to say that no damning, un-aired Gosselin film where Kate is screaming at, threatening and spanking her children will ever see the light of day.

That unseen film is proof that all the adults who witnessed the abuse, or saw signs that made them strongly suspect abuse, and who could have and should have done something to protect those children, failed them – all because there was a boatload of money to be made off of them. The Gosselin children were nothing more than collateral damage in a business driven by greed, where profit trumps the safety and well-being of our most innocent. The welfare of those children was everybody’s business.”

TLC and Discovery have other successful shows that are quite wonderful and inspiring  like The Little Couple, Say Yes to the Dress, the Duggars (who have so much love in that family), and even the Sister Wives who are a rather unique unconventional yet loving family. TLC’s shows about the Amish way of life  and even the Gypsy way of life are great as you get  a glimpse into this never before seen lifestyle and way of thinking. So they don’t need to showcase a child abuser and an animal abuser.

At first the network made the right decision to see a young family raise multiples. But now that the babies are all grown,  it is no longer cute. Instead  it is a trainwreck and a nightmare as even indicated by their latest not great ratings from their special.

In my view,  this show needed to be off the air much earlier as it was reported by Hoffman that many producers witnessed  Kate’s abuse. In my view they need to be held accountable for not doing anything about it. No job is worth keeping when you see a baby being abused.




After page 127 the book documents Kate’s abuse on the babies. It is a very hard and disturbing read but says it all.  It needs to be seen by both the Kate haters and kate lovers so they can decide for themselves in an objective manner. Here are only 16 of  actual excerpts of the book about Kate and her abuse:

1. ” Kate  spanked 2-year-old babies for doing exactly what 2-year-old babies do and said on air  she put a “soaking and dripping wet” Alexis into her crib and left her there until Jon got home, which made her  uncaring and  inept.


2. “Kate said that she was instantly so SO angry that she grabbed him and spanked him as hard as she could and thought that she may seriously injure him so she sent him to his crib and whipped him into it very hard! Kate Gosselin said that for the first time she thought she might really lose it and she was glad that she left him in his crib until Jon came home from work. Kate wrote today was the day that she felt like she may really seriously injure a child!”



3. “Kate goes on to pontificate about Collin saying she doesn’t understand him. She says he’s usually kind and caring and tender and nice until his (two-year-old) temper flairs. Kate says she doesn’t like that little Collin doesn’t know how to handle his frustration and anger, but apparently beating him and screaming at him is her way of trying to calm him down and make him understand. Kate then laments that she didn’t even get the chance to have Collin apologize to her because she had other things to do.”


4. “…Collin and that’s when Kate REALLY lost it and pulled Collin up by the hair and spanked them all so hard!!! Kate says she loves them but she was so very angry with them for eating mini M&Ms that were obviously left out where toddlers can get their little fingers on them.”


5. “Kate says that she put them back into their beds for their own safety. Kate saw her father in herself today and she says that really scares her. “


 6. “The children just stood there terrified. Then she dragged one of the boys into the bathroom and spanked him five or six times with a large plastic spoon.”


7. “You could hear Kate forcefully whacking the child and the child screaming at the top of his lungs. People told me it happened more than once, but it was off-camera because Kate didn’t want it in the show.”


8.” Kate talks about Aaden’s fifth day of potty training. He had an accident and pooped on the floor. Kate said she screamed at the top of her lungs as she picked him up. She spanked him after the clean up because, as she says, they are not dogs and Kate felt that five days was more than enough time for a two-year-old boy to become potty trained.”


9. Think about these words from Kate’s journal:

 “I spanked them so hard!!!!”

 “I felt like I may hurt his children.”

 “I grabbed him and spanked him as hard as I could and thought I may seriously injure him.”

 “I was out of control.”

 “Now read them again, and picture six tiny children in nothing but diapers, being brutally spanked by their enraged and clearly out-of-control mother. That is not a loving parent disciplining her children. That is violence and abuse. And remember – these are the things that Kate was comfortable documenting in her journal as source material for possible inclusion in her book, I Just Want You To Know – Letters To My Kids On Love, Faith, and Family. These are normal, everyday occurrences in the Gosselin children’s lives. These are things that Kate was prepared to share with the world if an editor at Zondervan hadn’t gotten his or her hands on them first.”


10. “After more than 30 minutes of Collin sitting, trying to go potty, Kate turns the light out on Collin, leaving him alone to sit in the dark on the potty, and telling him, “Don’t get up ’til there’s pee in there. Understand?”  


11. “She actually yelled at her twin daughters in front of the cameras for coming down to the kitchen a few minutes early, before their scheduled 6:03 morning kitchen entrance time. The poor girls looked dejected and beat down as they were belittled and sent away…for the television audience’s viewing enjoyment.”


12. “Kate was given the bottle of water, unscrewed the cap, and took a sip. She then put the bottle down on the floor next to her chair without offering any to a clearly distressed Mady. Mady pleaded, “I need a drink now.” Kate told her to “Be quiet.” Mady then said, “You’re really, really mean! You drank it right in front of my face.”


 13. “After her divorce from Jon, Kate was caught on video violently spanking two of the boys in the driveway of their home, the moment they got out of the van from returning from an overnight with Jon. The other children just watched in fear as the spanking took place, perhaps not knowing if they were next. I later found out the reason for the beating was because the boys told Kate they wanted to stay longer at Jon’s house because they were having too much fun. Kate now promises the children presents and trips to Toys R Us for toys if they tell Jon that they don’t want to go to his house.The paparazzo who shot the video didn’t release it because he shot it from private property.


14. “Beating or spanking her children isn’t the only way Kate gets her message across to them. Kate recently pushed one of the boys outside in below-freezing temperatures without his coat, gloves or hat for fifteen minutes because the boy didn’t close the door all the way when he came inside from playing in the snow. The child was screaming and crying and banging on the doors all around the house. His face was bright red from being so cold when Kate finally allowed him to come back into the house.”


15.”Kate Gosselin had one babysitter who would actually administer her own beatings to the Gosselin children at Kate’s direction when she was away. The sitter was given the authority by Kate to carry out Kate’s way of ‘teaching’ the children for even the smallest of infractions. This included spanking the children, withholding meals from the children and locking the children in a room for hours at a time. This same sitter was told by Kate to lock one of the boys in the bathroom for her entire shift because he left splashes of water on the sink and floor without toweling it off.


16. “On one occasion, one of the boys was punished for having Shoka in the basement when he was supposed to be outside. Shoka had an accident by the door and Kate was so enraged that she brought the boy down to the basement and screamed at him while showing him the mess. To show her complete domination of the child, she grabbed him by the back of his neck and forced his face down to within inches of the mess, trying to rub his face in it. He struggled and resisted and ended up with only a spanking instead” of a face-full of dog feces.”


Kate also abused the dogs as Hoffman documents from these actual quotes from his book:

1, “The Gosselin dog’s normal wasn’t much better. In fact, it was very similar to the children’s normal. That’s why they were sent away after only a short time as being ‘part of the family.’


2.”Both Gosselin dogs, Shoka and Nala, were abused by Kate during the separation and divorce when Jon was away from the house. Kate treated the dogs and the kids in the same manner but the dogs resisted and ‘fought back.’ Kate would use a stick, a spoon, a tube or whatever else she had handy to discipline the dogs for minor infractions that dogs commit, like tracking mud into the basement after being brought in from being outside in the pouring rain and…mud.”


3. “If Kate got growled at by one of the dogs for hitting them for minor animal infractions, she would banish them to the outdoors overnight. She talked to them like people and thought she could reason with them. She locked them outside in the freezing rain and snow and left them to watch the family through the basement windows. One freezing cold night, she sadistically went to the glass door where the female dog Nala was howling to come inside and she smiled and waved to her and told her how warm it was inside and that maybe she’ll think about her actions so she could come back in the following morning. She got down on the floor to pet Shoka who was laying by the door looking out at poor Nala. Kate Gosselin is cruel and she seems to enjoy the power that she has over children, animals and adults.”


 If the book did not include Kate’s own words from her own diary she herself discarded, you might be suspect about someone trying to do a smear job on Kate.

But the truth of the matter is that she said these horrible things. You cannot deny that or make any excuse for it like she was in a bad mood or spin it that those were thoughts she never meant.  They were in her computer on her own hard drive and who else would write them,  let alone have access to her computer?  Even worse we all saw her do many of these horribly abusive things to her kids on TV, many of which I reported in my previous blogs.

Kate has done enough damage to the kids and by TLC and Discovery airing her show or doing anymore specials they are contributing to the demise of these children’s already poor self esteem as we already  just saw with Mady and Cara. Collin and other children had school issues where they were abusive to teachers. They clearly learned this Toxic behavior from an abusive mother just as Kate reported in the book she learned it from her own abusive father.

These children DO NOT need to be used to be on TV for Kate’s narcissistc  gain. The network needs to stop it effective immediately. She has earned enough money – millions upon millions of dollars and there are trust funds for each child that she never has to  worry about their education. She never has earn money on TV again.

This abusive, non generous,mean spirited, bullying, greedy, manipulative, self absorbed, woman who essentially  took fertility drugs had six children at once and became  famous by using her  her kids to be in the media no longer has a place in the media for her egregious actions as far as I am concerned.


Essentially  she is nobody without those kids. She has nothing to offer or   redeeming qualities as far as I am concerned. Reading Kate’s own words and witnessing her actions will  make everyone a hater who with any sense of decency  and compassion realize that they could never  support or promote a woman who beats children, abuses teenagers as we just saw in her special, and abuses dogs.

 If you say the N word, show racism as Kate has also done as reported in the book based on her own words,  and  abuse children and animals based on her own words and eyewitness reports,  you need to be finished as a public entity and be removed from the public eye.

I for one can no longer look at Kate without disgust and revulsion for hitting those babies for such minor infractions like soiling their diapers and for abusing those innocent dogs. I will not play “the emperor” or “empress”  has new clothes” when all can see the naked truth about this TOXIC WOMAN.