U of Iowa Mascot’s Angry Facial Expression ‘Traumatizing’ Students- Is Barney A Better Choice for These Big Babies?

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When actor Clint Eastwood recently called the new generation a “Pussy Generation”-a  generation of weaklings with no backbone, who are easily offended, he may have been right on target, especially with what recently happened at the University of Iowa.

Apparently, the U of Iowa has a school mascot named Herky the Hawk, a cartoonish gold and black figure. The Hawk has an angry, aggressive  look, complete with furrowed forehead. This depiction is to reflect the fighting spirit during university sports games.

Apparently, a University of Iowa professor has requested that the U of Iowa athletics department change Herky the Hawk’s facial expression and make him look friendlier because the character’s current  facial expression is apparently traumatizing students.

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Resmiye Oral,  seen in the photo above, a clinical professor of pediatrics, apparently wrote  an email to the athletic department officials as well as to the U of Iowa Faculty Senate  where she stated,  “I believe incoming students should be met with welcoming, nurturing, calm, accepting and happy messages.”

“And our campus community is doing a great job in that regard when it comes to words. However, Herky’s angry, to say the least, faces conveying an invitation to aggressivity and even violence are not compatible with the verbal messages that we try to convey to and instill in our students and campus community,” she argued.

This Toxic professor in my view also told the Iowa Press- Citizen newspaper that she has been concerned for some time about Herky the Hawk’s lack of emotional diversity as she further stated ” “As we strive to tackle depression, suicide, violence, and behavioral challenges and help our students succeed, I plead with you to allow Herky to be like one of us, sometimes sad, sometimes happy, sometimes angry, sometimes concentrated.

In my view professor Oral needs to put her efforts on doing some meaningful research in her field instead of worrying about Herkey. Herkey has been around for generations and as not caused any lasting damage to any student’s psyche.

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If these big babies  with such tender psyche’s at the U of  Iowa can’t handle angry Herkey, perhaps they would be best suited to have another character as their mascot-purple “Barney” the dinosaur , who also happens to be a  huge hit with toddlers.

This is frightening to think that students cannot handle a cartoon mascot’s  angry facial expression. If it is  violence,  Professor Oral is concerned about, then she needs to not focus on the mascot,  but  rather, on the game of football. Will her next email missive be to banish the violent sport of football at the U of Iowa?  Does she believe football is too violent for student’s psyche’s and for their tender eyes to see?

And what about other sports? This can go very far if it is not stopped. Apparently officials with the U of Iowa  Faculty Senate told the  Iowa Press-Citizen that they are currently tackling the larger issue of ensuring that the university climate is one that is “safe and inclusive.”

Well here is the reality of life, U of Iowa students and any other student at any other university, as well as any faculty member who has been hiding behind the walls of the ivory tower of academia for so long,  they no longer have a clue as to how the real world operates and functions.

The world’s climate is NOT ” safe and inclusive” and that is the reality of life.  What better way to learn this message than at a university. At a university, you will have a glimpse of what life is really like, so that you can be better prepared to handle any of life’s annoyances and disappointments which you, like everyone else, will surely experience.

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In the university setting, not every student will get an award, a scholarship,  or be invited to join a sorority or a fraternity. A boy or a girl that you fancy may not be attracted  to you. In fact, they may ignore you. If you end up dating them, they may cheat on you, or  ghost you- dropping you like a hot potato for a reason unknown to you.  Not all students will make good grades and some will even flunk out. Some will be given grades that they deem unfair, while others will not be allowed to play on any one of the university’s sports teams. Some will  have to drop out because of financial  or family concerns. Others will excel in school and be admitted to grad schools, law, vet, or medical schools, while still others, will be admitted nowhere. Some will get excellent grades and even graduate with honors, only to find they can’t find a job and have to work in a department store as a sales clerk, summa or magna cum laude or not. Such is life. Life is full of ups and downs and it is not fair. Life is not “fair and inclusive.” Any university that gives students the illusion that it is, is not doing their job  in preparing students to survive in the real world.

In the real world, there are lots of people with lots of opinions. Some opinions will be similar  to yours, while other’s opinions will be the complete opposite. Just because someone has a different philosophical, religious, or political view, you need to respect that they are entitled to their opinion. Like any mature adult you need to learn to “agree to disagree”. You don’t need to kick them out of your life, avoid them, resent, hate them or find a “safe place” to run away from them.

In the real world, some people won’t like you for no reason at all. Other’s won’t like you because of where you are from, your family background, the color of your skin,  your personality, the color of your hair, how you look,  how much or  how little money you have, how successful or unsuccessful you are,  or how attractive or unattractive you are. Like it or not, that is the reality of life.

What you learned in the first grade -that everyone has to like everyone and get along is what your first grade and subsequent school teachers told you because they didn’t want to deal with a classroom of chaos and fighting children. But the truth is that in the real world,  you will NOT like everyone and not everyone will like you and that is OK. Some people will be Toxic to you and you will be Toxic to others. That is a reality of life, not only for  for human beings, but for animals as well.

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When I am at the park with my goldendoodle Annabella, even though she likes most dogs, there are some  dogs, she simply  doesn’t care for. She is not playful or friendly to them, like she is to others. It is her animal instinct kicking in that tells her who is friend or foe. The same is true for us humans. Our instincts also tell us who is Toxic, who to like, and who not to like.

And here is a “newsflash” for the real world:  THERE ARE NO SAFE PLACES! If someone offends you with their ideas and beliefs – (and they will), get over it!  Move on. Don’t sulk and brood and cry. Mommy and daddy, may have provided a safe physical and emotional haven for you at home. But in real life,  there are no safe havens. Maybe you got an award for just showing  up at a team sports game when you were younger. Maybe your parents helped you with your homework or may have even done it for you. If you had trouble with a classmate, friend, or teacher, perhaps they were there to fight your battles. But in the real world you can no longer rely on your” helicopter parents.”

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When I read that  students said they “didn’t feel “safe”at one of  the most prestigious universities in the south, Emory University in Georgia  simply because someone wrote the word TRUMP on the sidewalk, I was appalled. They clamored that they were “in pain” over this. Well if writing the name of a political candidate  in chalk brings you pain, then you will have a very miserable and painful life.

Students at Emory University, claimed that  writing ‘Trump 2016′ on Sidewalk Is a Racist Microaggression …,” with references to students needing “trigger warnings” and “safe spaces” to protect them from presidential candidates’ names and slogans. For many, it was another sign of college students being so overly sensitive, that even political campaigning could be seen as hate speech.

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Well, college students, get over your being overly sensitive. There are two major political parties in this country. While you may prefer one candidate, there are others out there who may prefer the other candidate. If someone supports a candidate you don’t like, they are  not  committing a hate crime. Conversely, if you support a candidate someone else, likes, you are not committing a hate crime.

So whether it is dealing with an angry looking school mascot, who has harmlessly been around for decades,  or having a difference of  political opinion from someone else, grow up and stop acting like a toddler- hiding in a safe place like mommy’s skirt or in a special room.

Not everything will make you feel comfortable in life.  So deal with it! That is what grown ups, not babies, do in the real world.

Huma Abedin’s Body Language Showed Long Time Disgust-Finally Kicks Serial Sexting Weiner to the Curb

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When I saw the documentary “Weiner” about Anthony Weiner’s sexting scandal and how he attempted to run for Mayor of NY, I cringed every time his wife Huma appeared on screen. She clearly didn’t want to be there. In fact, her body language screamed “get me out of this relationship.” There was a lot of eye rolling on her part  as well as a great deal of  physical distancing between her and her husband.You could see and feel the tension between them throughout the documentary.

In the above photo of her in the film,  we see her at a group campaign staff meeting, discussing how to spin her husband’s debacle. As you can see, her arms are crossed and she looks disgusted.  He body is tense. Eventually, she walks out of the room, leaving the group  and Weiner to fend for themselves.

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Whenever the two were seen on screen together, she often rolled her eyes, didn’t smile, looked sad, and appeared tense. Here you can see the tension in her face, especially in her jaw region. This photo above says it all. It says she is completely disgusted and turned off by her husband and at the time of the film, was  just “standing by her man” mostly for political reasons.

But Abedin finally had enough when she found out that not only was her husband sexting again with other women, but he did in when he was in his bed, sleeping next to his son. The fact that this is now made public has humiliated Huma to the core of her being.

Her statement to the press was   “After long and painful consideration and work on my marriage, I have made the decision to separate from my husband.

Apparently, Weiner has been sexting a woman from January 2015 until now, when the woman revealed what he was doing- showing off his abs and his crotch, She revealed tghat  they talked about sex.

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In one message, Weiner  wrote, “Someone just climbed into my bed.”He then texted the woman a photo showing him in his underwear with erect genitals, as his 5 year old son lay curled up next to him.

While it is one thing to cheat on his wife and sext, it becomes a whole different story when a child’s photo is taken and someone sexts a photo where the son is included . It shows that Weiner has no boundaries and extremely poor judgement.

So why did Anthony Weiner keep sexting women after his wife gave him a second chance? There many reasons:                                                                                                                                      a. He has a compulsive sexting addiction.                                                                                                 b.  He has a need for attention with a variety of women.                                                                      c. The desire to live in the  danger zone on the razor’s edge and sext strangers who could           potentially expose him is thrilling for him.                                                                                      d. He has such self loathe, that subconsciously he wants to sabotage his life.                             e. He’s in a loveless sexless, marriage where his wife is never there because she is at                  Hillary’s  side as opposed to being with him. So this is his sexual outlet.                                 f. He resents Huma and all the fame and  public attention she has  which is a constant                reminder of the fame and public attention he no longer has.                                                         g. He knows that if Hillary should win, Huma will have a major position and that will                  make him feel even worse about himself.                                                                                             h. He is bored and has nothing else to do all day long.                                                                        i. He is depressed and this is a distraction from how bad he feels about his life.

The bottom line is that subconsciously he wanted out of his marriage and finally got his wish. No doubt, Huma feels relieved that she is finally untangled from this Weiner mess. For her, this may be a blessing in disguise. While she may have wanted to dump him earlier, she followed in the footsteps of her mentor Hillary, who was equally as humiliated by her own husband Bill, for years. Like Hillary, Huma was determined to “stand by her man.”

What has happened to Huma has reawoken what happened to Hillary in the past, where people questioned why she didn’t leave Bill after he  publicly humiliated her with so many alleged affairs.

But, in Huma’s case, she could no longer allow Weiner to humiliate her, especially when he included his son in his sexting. Even Donald Trump weighed in with support for Huma as he said,” She is probably better without him.”

 

 

Toxic Ex Playmate Dani Mathers Body Shames Woman Due to Her Own Flawed  Body and Face Issues 

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There is a saying that ” when you point the finger at someone,  there are three fingers pointing back at you.” So, when  ex -Playboy Playmate, Dani Mathers body shamed an innocent woman by taking the woman’s photo while the woman was naked and showering at LA Fitness- a woman  who was doing something  good for herself like going to the gym and getting fit, it was appalling.

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What kind of person would do this? It is a person who has an overly inflated sense of self,  who thinks they are so pretty and look better than others. But truth be told, pretty is as pretty does and Dani Mathers is pretty ugly in terms of her character as far as I am concerned. And further truth be told, deep down to the core of her soul, Dani Mathers most likely  does not  feel  that good  about her own flawed areas of her face and body, or she would never have projected her own body shame on to someone else. Because she was able to hide  behind the  Playboy brand for so long and all the perks that came with it, it masked her true self loathing. Unfortunately for her, millions of people have now seen the truth about Dani Mathers and her life will never be the same as she will be shunned, perhaps forever.It’s starting to happen now as she was fired from her radio gig and she will see that life will become very hard for her to get ahead in life. Some things are forgivable, but  this is not one of them because it speaks to her character and to the core of who she is.

I have known so many Playboy Playmates throughout the years.Unfortunately  there are those who think much like Dani Mathers. I have worked with so many of them as my clients in my private practice, to help them improve their communication, speaking, and voice skills when they have to do interviews, acting roles, or have to open their mouth in public.

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It is ingrained in them by their fellow Playmates, Hugh Hefner, his staff, and men  in general, who look up to the Playboy myth, that these girls are special. Men  literally drool over them. I have seen it with my own eyes.  They can’t wait to get  close to them. Men ask for their autographs on photos and pay these women to write something nice to them. Men will pay a ridiculous amount of money on ebay to purchase their used bras, panties, old shoes, tee shirts, and  whatever else these entrepreneurial  Playmates are selling online -from porn videos to nude photo shots of them.Others manage to bag suckers who feel that it is  honor just to pay their bills, with little or nothing in return. For some men, only a weekly or monthly phone call from the Playmate will do. For other men, a weekly meal will suffice. These smitten men often pay  monthly rent, phone bills, wireless services, acting classes, modeling photos, car payments, insurance bills, and even give them a monthly stipend. Others buy them cars, pay for plastic surgery, botox, fillers, makeup, clothes, computers, mobile devices, lavish meals, and trips to exotic places.

Men shower them with gifts, clothes meals, and  free travel on a regular basis.  This constant attention from so many different men gives these Playmates an attitude – an attitude that they have power  (which they do have when they are young and pretty and which they lose as soon as they age) and that they are above anyone else. This spoils so many of them. Doors open for them left and right, like it did for Dani and that spoils them as well. They have the contacts and the Playboy brand that carries many of them pretty far.

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When they are young, many Playmates  often feel they can get away with anything and they can. Lots of men line up to date them because they think it is prestigious among their peers to have a Playmate on their arm,  date her, or even marry her. The smart Playmates  or lucky ones marry well. They find some incredibly wealthy man who supports them in high style for the rest of their life, like Barbie Benton (Hugh Hefner’s ex)  did  when she married real estate tycoon George Gradow. Others  aren’t so lucky or smart as they end up marrying sick  fanatics who try to  control them, end up abusing them, or even killing them. That is the other extreme and sadly what  happened to  Playmate Dorothy Stratton.

Many go from one rich boyfriend  to another, to keep them in style and pay their expenses. Others  may join high end escort services, where they meet top men  from politicians to rock stars,  A list actors, corporate owners, producers, directors, and even princes. Did you ever wonder how some famous well known guy met his wife , who happened to be a former Playmate? Well now you know. Others  may even possibly become high end call girls.

Some of them actually have a charismatic  personality and talent like radio host and former View cast member, Jennie McCarthy.  The Playboy brand allowed her and others access to people who could help them with their careers. If  Kendra Wilkinson or Holly Madison had not been Playmates, appeared with Hef on “The Girls Next Door” reality show, and used their connections,  they would never have  their own reality shows, highlighted in Vegas, endorsed products, appeared on Dancing With the Stars , married a high profile athlete, or appeared  in the tabloids on a daily basis. No one would even know their name.

To keep up the perks that come with being a former Playmate, most know they have to keep up their looks. Otherwise, the reality is that it is over for them.  This has happened to a number of former Playmates I know. So those who want to still stay in the game, go to all lengths to make sure their body is thin by  getting lipo, ribs removed, fat injected, breast and butt implants, face peels, and lip fillers. And who pays for this when so many of them don’t hold a job, other than an occasional model or acting gig?  With so many of these women, especially as they begin to age, it is often  the  smitten man or many smitten men. In the past they would never give these men the time of day. But now since they are aging and need the upkeep, they will gladly deal with these once shunned men, just because they  will pay for different aspects of upkeep for that Playmate image.

So no doubt, Dani Mathers had a lot of perks for being a Playmate. She even had over one million Facebook followers who liked her page. That is a lot of followers, many of whom sang her praises on a daily basis, flattered her ego, and told her how beautiful she looked in the latest photo she posted. She got  modeling  opportunities and doors opened for her.

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She got a lot of business opportunities to represent certain products because she had so many followers . In fact she hawked her own edible marijuana line to her over a million followers.

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She even had a gig as a  radio host, something that may have never happened had she not been a Playmate. But unfortunately for her that radio gig appears to be over.

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All of this fan adulation, open career opportunities,  and socializing with celebrities must have gone to her head, just as it has done with so many Playmates of the past I have known.  It is no doubt that she most likely  really believed that she was above everyone and that  any woman who didn’t spend the fortune to have all the cosmetic enhancements or  those who were not fellow Playmates, were beneath her. Others were worthless and disgusting in her mind. That is why she essentially wrote that she was disgusted looking at the naked woman in the gym and that her eyes could not unsee what she saw.

All of the perks she was lucky to receive in her life since being a Playmate, clearly  didn’t build her character , as she showed little compassion or concern about anyone other than herself. That is why she showed no compassion and felt the necessity to put someone down . Her true character was also revealed when she wrote a letter of apology to the Playmates, and not to the woman she harmed and shamed or to a letter to the  the gym, where she most likely got a free membership like other Playmates in the past.

But if we look closer at Dani, we will see that she does have some body issues  of her own that I am sure she is well aware.  We all have flaws and none of us is perfection when it comes to our body and face. In fact  many of the Playmates you see in the photographs  are either airbrushed or photoshopped. They are well made up and well lit and placed in very flattering positions, using the right camera angles.

As someone who knows a great deal about body language and body image and body aesthetics, I will point out Dani Mather’s body and facial flaws, which she is no doubt well aware, which will show you why  deep down, she may have felt so badly about herself that he felt so compelled to trash someone else’s body.

For one, Dani’s body is out of proportion.  Her arms appear too skinny in contrast to her breasts. Her hips are too large in relation to her breasts and her legs.

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She is also very boney in appearance if you look at her back.  It is not attractive and makes her look fragile. Her  breast implants don’t  look natural.

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Her breast implants leave a lot  be desired as they seem to just have been just placed on her chest. In fact, her cleavage looks odd and  indented  as she is too thin and boney to have such a large sized cup. There are also unattractive moles on her chest and abdomen area.  In my view, she needs to get them removed now or they will grow much larger as she ages and will look unsightly. Additionally, her arms look skeletal and odd, especially in this photo.In my view it is not sexy or attractive.

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Here is another photo of her skeletal  arms and legs which seem incongruous to her breast implants.

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Her buttocks are flat, misshapen and  bony, and she suffers from swayback where there is too much curvature in her  lower spine. Without makeup you can also see that he skin tone appears to be rather pasty.

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Her abdominal area is misshapen and it looks as though  she may have had some bad liposuction or bad body sculpting. You can see her hip bones, but there is fat protrusion around the hip area which is odd. The lower area of her stomach  also protrudes.In my viwe this does not look attractive. Also her arms appear too thin and th boney elbows make them look out of proportion.

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Overall, her body proportions look off as she appears to be high waisted. Her knees als look knobby and bony. In looking at her photo in comparison with other Playmates, she appears to be one of the shortest Playmates in stature, which would eliminate her chances of becoming a model.  Perhaps her lack of height also contributes to her low self esteem.

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Facially she is out of proportion as well ,with a  wide based, troll- looking , ski jump nose ala Richard Nixon style. The columela of her nose droops down too much in relation to her nostrils, which is not perfection as far as nose aesthetics is concerned. Her smile is also not that attractive with prominent chin and masculine appearing jawline. The indented lines on her face under her cheeks are  too deep and seem to age her For an almost 30 year old, these lines are a bit too deep.

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She also has an abnormally  large and wide mouth  which seems to take up most of her face when she smiles or laughs as you can see which makes her face seem out of proportion.

No doubt, she must be well aware of her own  her body imperfections which were pointed out above.  The illustration  of her body flaws are not done to be mean, but rather to show you what she may also be seeing  on a subconscious  level when she is alone and naked and looking  into the mirror at herself.

On a surface level, she has convinced herself that she looks great and is flawless. This is  is why she openly posts the flawed photos of herself.  It is as though she is in denial. In addition, there are so many followers, fans and smitten male worshipers telling her she looks great, that a part of her has come to believe she looks great. But deep down, probably knows better. Otherwise, she would have never body shamed the innocent woman. In shaming the woman,she  projected her own self loathe on to this woman.

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The tone of her voice was equally as troubling when she made her  public non heartfelt phony apology. It was not an apology to the innocent woman, but rather  a statement insisting she’s not like that and she won’t do it again.  It was pure selfishness and narcissism at it’s peak.  It was ALL about her and not about the other woman she shamed and harmed.  There was not an ounce of sincerity on her facial expression or in her tone.

Dani said she was Snapchatting and wasn’t familiar with how  Snapchat worked. Once again, it was about her, not the woman she shamed. She said she was Snapchatting to a personal friend when she wrote “ If Can’t  Unsee This You Can’t Either.” What kind of person makes fun of another person and sends it to a friend? A TOXIC BULLY does this. A TOXIC MEAN  GIRL does this. This video she made added fuel to the fire and angered people more because they knew it was phony and non heartfelt.

Dani Mathers revealed her true character. She is Toxic Person. I know a thing or two aboyt Toxic People having written the best selling book on the topic. She is not a good person because no good person would think of shaming or bullying another innocent person and make fun of them. There are some things which cannot ever be forgiven and this is one of them in my book.

She has not only hurt this  innocent woman, she has hurt other women who wake up each day not feeling good about their bodies. She hurt women who do whatever it takes to get themselves to the gym to try and help their bodies. She hurt every woman who is uncomfortable seeing herself naked. She hurt every woman who has been teased and humiliated about her weight.

Apparently LA Fitness was having none of this and did the right thing by calling the police and reporting her. But the police may not be able to do anything about it unless the woman comes forth and presses charges. I hope this is the case. I hope that the woman sticks up for herself and fights back. I pray that she doesn’t retreat into herself,  become depressed and devastated by what has happened to her. I hope the woman seeks financial remuneration for her emotional distress that this horrible incident  will have caused. With her million followers and edible marijuana business, Dani may very well be able to afford the lawsuit filed against her. It would case any woman emotional distress. In fact, it has caused most women who  found out what Dani  Mathers did to this woman, emotional distress.

 

 

 

Huma Abedin’s Body Language in Documentary ‘Weiner’ Shows Agonizing Emotional Devastation of A Humiliated Wife

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After seeing the  documentary “Weiner”  which won best -film at the sundance Film Festival and is about Weiners attempted comeback as a NY mayoral candidate, I found the film o be  very disturbing.

While there were some humorous moments throughout the film, fascinating behind the scenes footage where you can really see how political people and their teams spin things,and electrifying moments showcasing  Anthony Weiner’s intense charisma, the film saddened me.   Continue reading

Orlando Terrorist’s  Father ‘s Body Language Shows Duping Delight, Detached Monotone, and Defensiveness When Discussing Son

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After listening to several interviews given by Siddique Mateen the father of Orlando shooter Omar Mateen it is my personal opinion that he may possibly know much more than he is expressing about his son in interviews. I make this observation for many reasons which I will share in this blog. The one thing that bothered me is his intial cool calm and collected demeanor. He also looks way too polished with a well fitted most likely designer suit complete with scarf and matching tie and a crisp shirt. He seems too well dressed for the occasion.But that all changed towards the end of the interview when he was directly confronted with what his son did. Throughout the interview  in my view, he appeared to know a lot more about his son than he was revealing to the press.

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On msnbc he was asked “Was your son radicalized” The elder Mateen, shakes his head no and then breaks eye contact and immediately  looks down which seems to me to be a signal of deception and may indicate that  he may have know  that his son was indeed radicalized.

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Then Siddique  leans in really really close to the interviewer as though he is desperately wanting the reporter to believe he is telling the truth when that may not be the case

Then he immediately pulls away as he says how his son came to his house and was relaxed , He kept looking down and pulling away when the reporter pressed him to say more. The father kept saying his son was relaxed. He says he didn’t see something different and then he gets physically close to the reporter once again stating that he wished he would see something different or he would have stopped it and taken action. He went on to say how his son  was a polite boy.  The fact that he refers to his son as a “boy”  when in actuality his son is an almost 30-year-old man  . His statement somehow did not ring true to me in my opinion.

Then the reporter lets  him know that his son did a horrific act and that this was a side of his son and he was no polite by when he did this.

Surprised by this, the father replies” I know: I wish he was alive so I could ask him a question But he says it in an unemotional monotone that just doesn’t seem to be genuine to me. something happens which I find quite revealing and upsetting at the same time.

Then something happens with the father’s facial expression  which I find quite revealing and upsetting at the same time. It is called “duping delight.”. It is what happens when someone leaks out a smile or a pleased look when asked a significant question. Here the father  says he would ask his son “why did he do that”. All of a sudden as you can see there is a flash of  a smile on his face which seems very out of place. It is often an indication that someone may be deceptive or that they secretly may be pleased at what had taken place.

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Here you can see that ‘duping delight” smile.He goes on to say how  his son was born and educated int he United States and how he was living in his own home and when he came to visit his  father his father didn’t notice any emotional behavior  from his son.

He then said that one time when he was in Miami he noticed the behavior of on couple in Miami and  a little  got ticked off  and said look at this. He said that the two guys were kissing each other in front of his family and kids. As Siddeque says this his jaw juts forward, indicating that this thought seemed to make him  made him angry as well. There is also a look of disgust on his face as he says it.  When asked what he said in response to his son

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When asked what he said he looks down and breaks eye contact which may mean that he is trying to manufacture something that he said to his son.

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And then he comes up with Yes showed it;s just a normal, But as he says this we see a side glance which means he most likely didn’t make  this tolerant statement  to this son.

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Then Siddeque, on the next breath, said that his son had a “normal reaction” and that;s it. If he considered his son getting ticked ofd as being a “normal reaction” than he must have felt the same so we see that he may not have been truthful in what he was saying.

When asked how he felt that his son targeted the gay and lesbian community on a club and killed 50 people and is asked what triggered his son. His father looks away and  says that I don;t approve of this and that everyone in the Unites States has the freedom to run his life as he likes his life and no one has the right to impose anything, As he says this he fidgeted in his seat which may mean that he is uncomfortable saying what he said and may not really believe what he is saying. He then says he doesn;t approve of what his son did,

Then he says for the second time, regarding his son : I wish he was alive, I want to know.: This indicates that he was upset that his son has been killed , He then defends his son by saying “He was the type of person that he got enough attention from the family good education and  had a good job so I am as shocked as you are. But he says this isn a calm unemotional monotone whuch makes one wonder if he was that shocked about his son or if he knew a lot more than he is saying.

Then all of a sudden the reporter sais Did you know he had these weapons? And for the first time you hear a change in his monotone voice and his pitch goes up and he  becomes more animated in his voice and body language and says No I wish I did know. His voice gets louder.

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He then points to his  own chest and defensively says “If I did know that he purchased that weapon this would not have happened . I would have had him arrested.”

Then the reporter says this is hard to understand that he just say his son hours before he went on this rampage, And the father defensively answered”Exactly” as he pulls his body back and claims that his son who went on this rampage was a different person.

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As soon as the reporter says that his son pledged his allegiance to ISIS, the father stammered and pulls his head and body back and says “I don:t believe that: but then immediately contradicts himself and says : Why did he do that? If he did do that he was wrong.” I di not know what he called  ( Allah Akbar) If he did do that he was wrong.

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AS his father says that he looks away which may indicate that he may not actually believe what he was saying.

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His father then contorts his face as  he says ” based on what I know of him I didn’t see any indication , I hate terrorism and I hate those people ISIS and they should be destroyed.” When asked if he taught these things to his son his  reaction was \as he raised his eye and shrugged that “Terrorism was the enemy of the holy man.”

In my view something is amiss with regard to the father’s  words and his body language, If he told his son that :terrorism was the enemy of the holy man, it means they obviously had a talk about terrorism” so Siddique may very well  have known his son’s thoughts on the subject.

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In doing research for my book my book The Body Language of Terrorists which I wrote with former FBI Special Agent D. Vincent Sullivan,  I find it hard to believe that the son didn’t exhibit some type of emotional reaction before he was going to commit his act of terror. Usually, there would be evidence of being in an altered state or some type of emotional reaction. Yet the father insists that his son was “normal.”  To me,  this may indicate that his father may have observed and perhaps knows a lot more about his son than he was telling the press.

 

Teacher Intentionally Put Students Into Gorilla Cage With Gorilla

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I  am shaken up by the  killing of  innocent  Harambe, the  gorilla at the Cincinnati Zoo. I am also  angry at the negligent parents, who according to witnesses,  let their child run wild and  who, smilingly  and cavalierly told the press “accidents happen.”  It was not news to them that their child was rambunctious. That is why they needed to be even more vigilant  This disturbing incident  bothers me so much becuase it personally  hits close to home for me. I too was in a gorilla cage with a gorilla. I wasn’t there because I fell  into the cage like the little 4 year old boy. Instead, I was in a cage with a gorilla becaused  I was forced  into the cage   by my high school journalism teacher , the late  Marlene  E. Adams.

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Gorilla With Human Emotions Who Tried To Protect Boy Should Never Have Been Killed

 

Screen Shot 2016-05-30 at 6.34.26 AMWith all that we have learned about Gorilla communication throughout the years  and how intelligent  and loving they are and how they can communicate with humans via sign language, I am devastated  by  the murder of Harambe a 17 year old Silverback Gorilla at the Cincinnati Zoo. Gorillas have  similar emotions  to humans as we have learned from researchers and Koko, the famous  signing Gorilla. It must have been  emotionally devastating for Harambe  in his final moments when he realized a gun was pointing at him.

He was not harming the child even though he picked  up the child .

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Most likely he was moving the child away to protect the child. This was not a Gorilla who had a history of violence,.He was most likely doing what the famous sign language Gorilla did  with her pet kitten and that was to comfort it.

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Apparently the child was running around  and fell into to Gorilla’s habitat. It is unconscionable that a beautiful animal is dead as a result of a mother’s negligence of her wild child. The child who was 4 should have been taught better and should not have been running around unsupervised. Even though the child was in the Gorilla’s space there was no indication that the boy was being harmed.

It was an ignorant Zoo worker who made that call  and used firearms which caused the Gorilla to die.

Let’s say for argument’s sake that  the boy was being harmed. Why use a weapon to kill the beautiful anima?. Why not use a tranquilizer gun? Why not use medicine instead of bullets?

The whole ordeal  particularly sickens me in that I have  studied animal communication throughout my career. As a result,  I  know how Gorilla’s think and communicate.

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Look at this photo above, Look at how a gorilla is able to express their emotions and to express their needs.They not only do it when they are trained, they do it naturally, in the wild . That is how they communicate with one another.

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One of the most extraordinary experiences I had when I was visiting the Tsavo in Kenya was witnessing  a baboon using sign language when she encountered tourists on a bus  where she  signed ” Feed me”.

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I was fortunate enough to have documented this incident in photos which I have now framed and hung in my office to always remind me how we are all one and how communication is the essence of life.

While that was a Baboon, Gorillas also communicate without being taught sign language as they do it with one another in the wild.

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They can even paint and have their own sense of creativity and art as you can see in this photo above.

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Critics on social media have blamed the mother, which is justified in my view. Discussion is that she will have to pay for what happened. But she is not alone in this mess. The Zoo should be held accountable ,along with the person who used a real gun as opposed to a tranquilizer gun.There is no excuse for this. There should have been a plan in effect for a situation like this which would arise where a tranquilizer gun is kept near the habitat for such emergencies.

I am almost certain that the Cincinnati Zoo will lose revenue for this horrific incident as many people have reported that they would boycott the zoo and never go there again.I can’t blame them.

I am not a fan of zoos with the exception of the San Diego Zoo where the animals are allowed to roam free. I love going there and seeing how the giraffe’s hang out with other creatures.  That in my view is the only  way  to have a zoo. RIP Harambe.