Ted Cruz Starts Toxic Wife Feud By First Posting Photo of Melania and Then Cries Victim When Trump Fires Back

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It seems that  Donald Trump is being criticized by the media for attacking Ted Cruz’ wife’s looks. But what the media doesn’t mention is that Cruz started this whole debacle by doing a campaign ad where he showed Trump’s wife n a sexy pose done years ago when she was a top model.Cruz’ headline read ” Meet Melania Trump Your Next First Lady.”

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Then on the bottom of the ad Cruz says ”

Screen Shot 2016-03-24 at 1.35.58 PM“or you can Support Ted Cruz on Tuesday”  as you see in the above photo. It was Cruz’ attempt to take a punch at Trump via his wife indicating that she was a woman of loose morals to pose provocatively in this photo.

In essence Cruz was attempting to pander to the evangelicals who may take offense with this pose. But what Cruz didn’t expect was that his Toxic plan backfired on him as his opponent certainly had something to say about his wife Melania being put up for ridicule in his political  opponent’s campaign ad. It should also be noted that Melania’s photo occurred close to a decade ago before she was Mrs. Donald Trump.

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So in defense of his wife and to express his displeasure, Donald tweeted  “Lyin Ted Cruz just used a picture of Melania from  a GQ shoot in his ad. Angered, Trump then went on to warn Ted Cruz to be careful or that he would spill the beans about his wife.

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What Trump was most likely referring to was the  above headline  which indicates  that a police officer found Heidi Cruz sitting on an expressway with her head in her hands.  Perhaps she may  have been having some type of mental breakdown at the time, which was 10 years go.  So if Cruz was going to bring up Melania’s photo from 10 years ago, Trump decided that he too, would bring up something from Heidi’s past.

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Then Trump decided against “spilling the beans” about Heidi’s issues and just put up a photo of Heidi along side of Melania. What  Trump was really saying was that his wife is more beautiful. The meme received a lot of criticism because it was a bad photo of Heidi Cruz, while it was a good photo of Melania in repose.

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Then Cruz had the audacity to cry to the press that Donald was awful. Cruz then  displayed false bravado and toughness he said” no one messes with my wife or my kids.”  If Cruz wanted wives off limits then he shouldn’t have started with Melania un the first place.

In essence, it showed his true character, It showed that of someone who was an Instigator- one of the 30 types of Toxic Terrors I discuss in my best -selling book Toxic People. 

 

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Ted Cruz was willing to dish it out and start the dispute. But  when someone fought back, Cruz  acted Toxic and cried that this was unfair and how mean Donald was being by insulting his wife. Cruze was the one who insulted Melania. It was childish and immature and speaks volumes about his lack of character in this situation.

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So Donald Trump retweeted photos of his wife and Heidi Cruz, using a more flattering photo of Heidi, which showed they were both attractive women. This was his gesture and way of wanting  to stop the feud and lay off any wife criticism.

But in this entire feud where so many have commented and have pointed a finger at Donald trump, most have failed to realize or recognize that it was Cruz who started it all by first posting a provocative photo of Melania with an equally provocative headline and caption. That is what I wanted to point that out in this blog.

Once again, as a journalist and body language expert who regularly appears in the press to provide my expertise, I  want to remind my readers that this blog is not a political statement towards one candidate or another.  I remain objective in my reporting and observations.

 

Elections A Sad Time for Personal Relationships

 

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Elections are a sad time for relationships and friendships. It is a time where people  often show their narrow mindedness as they are willing to pull the trigger and  end lifetime relationships ,  just because they can’t simply can’t “agree to disagree.” Marriages have suffered and schisms between family members have  deepened -all because of how people feel about one candidate or another. Sometimes their discovering  differences in your political belief may be the catalyst  they needed to lash out at you as they  may never  have  really liked you. Or worse, they may have always  been jealous or envious of you and now this is their  opportunity to  express their jealousy by speaking ill to you and to letting you have it.

When I look at the comments  on Facebook telling friends to unfriend them if they vote for a certain candidate , it is extremely  disturbing. People who have had lifelong friendships and relationships have now ended all communication  because they don’t see eye to eye in terms of which candidate they support. For many, it is their attempt to associate with those who are like-minded to and reject anyone who thinks other than their way.It is a shame because there is much more to a relationship and a friendship than your political beliefs.

As a human behavior and body language expert, I NEVER put my personal views out in public as I  MUST remain neutral at all times. I have done this since the 1980’s when I was first asked to give my feedback on various candidate’s body language in terms of how they performed during various debates.

But no matter how many times I state upfront that I am not a political person or  that I am not supporting any candidate when I provide my insight, there are still a few ignorant individuals who insist that I am supporting one candidate over another.

This happened to me during the  last election where Obama was debating Romney. As we can all recall, Obama’s performance during his initial debate was less than stellar, as he later admitted. As a result, I  expressed in the media in the Associate Press , how poorly he had performed. While most agreed with me, there were some Obama supporters who couldn’t see past their nose when it came to Obama. They appeared to play the “Emperor has new clothes” game  when in fact he was “naked” as they refused to see Obama’s poor performance at the time – something that Obama himself acknowledged.

While there are always haters out there, two of my  haters were people with whom I had gone to high school. One of the haters , whom I never even  knew went to my high school, was in my third-grade class. I hadn’t  thought about her in decades and was even unaware that she had friended me. All I remember was that in grade school, she was a frizzy dark haired girl who used to oddly hold her mouth open whenever she drew pictures.

The other hater was someone whom I had nothing to do with in high school. Since I never associated with her in high school or paid her any mind, from  what I learned from several who apparently knew her back in the day,  she  apparently was not very bright and was  a  “mean girl.”  This “mean girl clearly grew up to be a “mean woman.”

The frizzy- haired  first hater  whom I hadn’t  thought of since third grade, unloaded a barrage of hate  towards me in defense of Barack Obama.  Even though I tried to quell her hate by assuring her that I was merely reporting as a body language expert and not someone who had a political agenda, she  continued to ignore this, unleashing even more hateful remarks. My Facebook friends and fans took offense at what this hater was doing and let her know in no uncertain terms that she couldn’t communicate to me in the way she was communicating and tried to drum it into her that I was not saying anything political, but  merely reporting what I observed during he debates. But this didn’t seem to phase this hater, who continued her tirade until I unfriended her and blocked her.

The second hater ( whom I met and chatted with during a  class reunion) was a friend to the first hater. She let me know that she didn’t appreciate how I  and my fan base reacted to  her friend- the first hater. She then proceeded to let me  have it. She actually went off on me as she defended Obama and chastised me for my observations in the press.

Then she suddenly emerged from the  alleged “mean girl” into  a  “mean woman”  by personally attacking me by telling me I was nothing more than a “talking head” on TV and how some of her other high school friends (including a former cheerleader )felt the same way. As she said this to me, I had to laugh  for two reasons. One was that she was acting just like an immature high schooler and secondly, as others reported to me that she wasn’t that bright back in the day,  she still was seemingly not that bright as an adult. In her attempt to insult me by calling me a “talking head” anyone who speaks in front of the camera and gives commentary as I do is a “talking head“. Unbeknownst to her, the term  is not a pejorative adjective as this hater intended it to be. Instead, it is a noun –  what someone is and does. Needless to say,  I defriended and blocked this hater as well.

Sometimes, the fact that you have a political opinion that is different than someone else’s opinion, is just the opening they need to unleash their true inner feelings towards you. While their verbal volcano may explode  under the guise of a difference in politics,  but the truth of the matter is that it is often something deeper with them as they take  the opportunity to let you have it. Perhaps they did not  like you all along or were jealous of you  and your achievements or where you are in your life as opposed to theirs. So this is their opportunity to let you have it, just like the “mean woman” did to me.

So if you find people unleashing on you just because you support one candidate over another know that there is often something a lot deeper going on  with them like jealousy inner hate, or their lack of self-worth. Mature people who have a solid and positive sense of self and know who they are  can”agree to disagree.”  They don’t have to hate on you just because your politics differ. While they don’t have to accept your candidate they can accept you as a person and as a friend. As the saying goes,  they don’t throw the baby out with the bathwater.”

 

Bullied Columbine Killers and Resulting Consequences

 

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There has been an uproar about Columbine Killer Dylan Kiebold’s mother Sue Kliebold going on a  book tour  to discuss her son and the 17 years of guilt she experienced since Columbine.  Many of the survivors  feel that she has no right to make money and profit from their misery. After observing Mrs. Kliebold’s interview with Diane Sawyer , it is clear Sue Kliebold is still in denial as she says she didn’t see any warning signs. Previously she even said  that she and her husband don’t understand why their son took part in the massacre.

If she  paid closer attention to what was happening to him at school she would have understood why her son took part in the massacre.  Had  she engaged in some heart to heart talks with Dylan or analyzed her son’s writings, she would have discovered  why he was so hateful. She would have known about the relentless bullying her son  endured that led him down the dismal  path of revenge and murder.

Dylan suffered from mental illness.  In fact his mother is donating the profits from the book to  mental illness facilities.

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Mental health concerns are all the more reason why bullying needs to be stopped in our schools once and for all. Those who are fragile and who  have mental illnesses can easily break down mentally and lash out, just  as Dylan and his friend  Ed Harris lashed out. Apparently Ed Harris , whom you see on the right in the above photo, suffered from extensive mental illness and was on the prescription medication luvox for his problem.

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Sue Kliebold’s son Dylan  was bullied so severely that he unfortunately took matters in his own hands. After being bullied to a pulp for years, having bottles hurled at him by students driving by in their cars  as reported by Dylan and witnessed by fellow students, and having his  complaints to teachers falling on deaf ears, Dylan  finally had enough.

Normally, when we think of the results of those who have been bullied, we think of  someone who goes inward and suffers in silence. They turn their hate  inward towards those who bullied them. That is why we hear about the countless suicides and other self destructive behaviors by those who have been deemed social outcasts by their peers.

But sometimes that hate, as a  result  of what bullies said and did to them, may be turned outward. This  was the case in  the Columbine killers  and with other mass killers on school campuses. All of these killers  had one thing in common. They were all  bullied. They all expressed that they had enough and  unleashed their hatred back to those who bullied them. Sadly, there were innocent bystanders who did not bully, who also suffered the killer’s  wrath.

When Dylan and his friend  Ed committed their acts of violence, they felt  joy- no pain and no remorse. In fact  it was reported that  Dylan  felt justified when he scratched some hateful words on another student’s  locker in school.  It was his act of revenge. In his diary he wrote  that he would ” Feel no remorse, no sense of shame” for any acts of violence he would commit.

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As further proof of his hatred towards his self entitled bullies, Dylan also wrote the following in his diary:  ” I mow down a whole [expletive] area full of you snotty ass rich mother [expletive] high strung godlike attitude having worthless pieces of [expletive] whores.”.

He goes on to say “YOU KNOW WHAT I HATE, When there is a group of [expletive] standing in the middle of a hallway or walkway, and they are just STANDING there talking and blocking my [expletive] way!!!! Get the [expletive] outta the way….Dead people can’t do many things, like argue, whine b*tch, complain, narc, rat out, criticize, or even [expletive] talk.”

His diary also  included disturbing imagery of inflicting pain on others as he wrote ” I felt like getting a baseball bat, breaking it over his head, and then STABBING him with the broken end!!!!” His revengeful entry  most likely reflected the inner pain he had experienced as a result of those inflicting emotional pain upon him.

While what he and his friend Ed Harris  did was horrific, we cannot deny that his actions and raw hate were the consequence  of  being so bullied and tormented  that they finally decided they were not   going to take it anymore. They fought back in the most brutal and severest of ways. Their mental state and lack of mental health , unfortunately resulted in thirteen people ending up dead and countless others suffering from  physical and emotional scars they will have to endure for the rest of their life.

Dylan Kliebold and Ed Harris’  pain emotional scars left them emotionally detached- emotionally dead. Just as those who are bullied who end up emotionally  dead  and  turn their pain inward and commit suicide, these  two young men were also emotionally dead. They that  didn’t care about the consequences of their actions. They were prepared to kill and be killed as they turned their emotional pain outward.

What happened in Columbine clearly shows us that there is another side of bullying. The  consequences  of  that bullying are  extremely severe as we saw. That is why ALL schools MUST have a ZERO Tolerance when it comes to bullies and being bullied.

Whether the bullying takes place on a school grounds or over the internet there must be  serious and severe  legal consequences  in place  for anyone who bullies another student.

 

Martin Shkreli’s Arrogant Body Language Will Do Him In During His Trial

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As a litigation consultant who helps people prepare for court cases so they can best present themselves in front of a jury, as  as well as being  someone who helps select I can assure you that after seeing  the body language and how pharmaceutical executive Martin Shkreli, the man  who gouged prices drugs, acted in front of Congress, he will never succeed in front of a jury.

While he had every right to invoke his Fifth Amendment rights, his arrogant body language spoke volumes about him. It left a lot to be desired .

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His crossed arms indicated defiance as did his smug facial expression. He repeatedly read from a piece of paper which stated  that he was invoking his Fifth Amendment rights to not incriminate himself  and therefore refused to answer any question that was posed to him..

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His inappropriate smiles and his looking around the room instead of facing ahead and respectfully acknowledging those who were speaking, will raise ire among jurors if he exhibits those behaviors in a court of law.

Martin Shkreli  is the one who  hiked the price of a life-saving drug from $13.50 to $750 and showed no sympathy or compassion when asked how it would affect others who needed the drug but who could not afford it. The drug at the center of  the questioning is  Daraprim, used to treat toxoplasmosis, a parasitic disease that affects those with weakened immune systems.

Even though he is 32 years old, he acted like an immature 1o year old as he  continued to smirk and grin as he refused to answer any question, with the exception of his name. But he managed a disrespectful tweet right after leaving the hearing, tweeting “Hard to accept that these imbeciles represent the people in our government.

Shkreli is accused of  repeatedly losing money for investors and lying to them and illegally taking assets from one of his companies to pay off debtors in another, running his company like a Ponzi scheme where he used each subsequent company to pay off defrauded investors from the prior company, according to  Brooklyn U.S. Attorney Robert Capers.

When he does go to court, if she shows this arrogant and immature behavior, there will be no mercy or sympathy towards him from either a judge or a jury. He may end up with the same fate as another  infamous Ponzi Schemer, Bernard Madoff, who is  now serving 150 years in prison. Then Mr. Shkreli will find out who is the real “imbecile.”

 

 

 

BODY LANGUAGE OF 13 YOUTUBE STAR CALEB LOGAN BRATAYLEY VERY ODD BEFORE HE DIED

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Thirteen year old youtube sensation Caleb Logan Bratayley was a star.  He had “it” as they say in Hollywood- good looks, a brightness, and an effervescent personality. He was highly watchable on his family’s daily vlog. Then all of a sudden this boy is dead. The family released a statement that he died of :natural causes.”  There is nothing natural about a 13 year old dropping dead for no reason. They also left a  rather strange and disturbing  statement  at the end of their vblog  https://youtu.be/oZpJN86pNoA  where they said

” Unfortunatey Caleb passed away right after we made the video. He will never get to meet his future self. None of us will and we are sad because he could have been great. “

Then they go on to say to kiss your kids and tell them that you love the everyday. “You never know what day will be their last.”
WHAT????? The last thing parents think of is that their child will die before them. The Bratayley’s giving encouraging advice for people to kiss their kids is absurd to me in my view in light of their circumstance.

It may perhaps  show that this family may have been more concerned about their youtube presence and their vlog and their 15 minutes of fame.

In closely examining the boy’s last video I found it strange. While he and his 2 sisters are eating breakfast,  he can barely focus  and looks out of it. His eyes are half closed  as you can see below.

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Then he looks into the distance and doesn’t focus n the question he is asked by his mother.

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His eyes look even more at half mast. As he slowly chews his muffin, he suddenly closes his eyes as he can barely keep them open.The muffin suddenly drops out of his hand.

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His head and body collapses on to the counter. After a few seconds he lifts his head up and holds up his head with his hand. You hear the mother saying  that he’s not a morning person. What???? The child just collapsed on the counter and this is what she says? I personally found that disturbing.

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Unsteadily, he  rocks back and forth in his seat as he still can barely keep his eyes open. Perhaps the mother needed to interject whether the child was Ok at this point.

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He then saunters over to the sink where he looks off to the side and leans over the counter as though he is not feeling well. He  remains in that position for a few seconds.  His mother who is filming the entire time neglects to address this. Instead she says “Isn’t he cute?’  I would have asked if the boy was OK at that point.

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He then turns around and stumbles twice  as he walks and eventually ends up lying down on the couch. The mother doesn’t seem to notice as she is too busy trying to be cute for the camera talking about how she will film how the “Bratayley eat lunch.”

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Then he buries his head in his arms as he continues to lie on the couch. He then moves his head around to get into a more comfortable position.

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Next we see a shot of the boy not looking great as he stumbles around. Then he mumbles that he caught the camera he almost dropped which sounded to many people  like he said “he dropped a narcotic”. He may or may not have said that.  But he looks a little too surprised and reactive for this as he opens his eyes widely and does a second take of surprise.

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But he looks a little too surprised and reactive after he says  this. Then seconds later  he oddly shuts his eyes as if he is doing a double take and so surprised that he caught the camera he was about to drop. Then he opens his eyes wide and looks into the camera  seconds later and says WOW!  My reaction to his was  what did he say?  Did he say  maybe  he “dropped a narcotic” like many thought he said.  Many may  hear that and  may  think that his reaction was akin to those may have ingested a narcotic with slow reaction time and being amazed at the most benign occurrence and pondering over it.  But it should be pointed out that there is some question as to exactly what he said (dropping a camera etc.)  but his mumbling was cause for concern.

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He then seems confused as he tries to answer a question as he continues to mumble. He can barely focus and  read the question he is supposed to answer as he stammers and stumbles over his words as he reads the question-” What he would ask his future self.” He then mumbles  and slurs his words “Is Taco Bell still around?”

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Then he looks pained and looks away from the camera as he mumbles what he would really ask is if there are any new sports. He then licks his lips which may indicate that he is getting cotton mouth or that his mouth is dry. Perhaps  that was another indication that something was not right with him.

He then says he would ask if there are any new sports. He looks pained as he says this. Then he stcks out hs tongue and makes an inappropriate motor boat type of noise.It made no sense in terms of the context in which he was speaking.

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Then he does something that is even more absurd. He pulls his cheeks and asks if his cheeks look fat. This is clearly a young man that has spent too many hours in front of the camera as his vanity seems to have gotten best of him. It made no sense whatsoever. Then he scrunches up is face and begins to make absurd noises and sounds no one can understand.

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Then he goes through an array of facial expressions that also make no sense as he seems to be mugging into the camera.

Then he goes back to the question he was asked and mumbles something about his 5 second earlier self talking to his other self. It  sounded like something someone who may possibly  be  high on something would ponder about.

He continues to make  more inappropriate and over the top facial expressions  as you see above.

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He continues to mumble and make inappropriate noises. Then we see a statement on the video that the boy “unforuntaley” died shortly after doing this video.

WHAT???? It was such a cold statement and not a normal reaction from any parent who just lost a child. Also who would be releasing a videotape of something like his if the person just died? I personally found that to be problematic

This is makes me very concerned to wonder whether  that something was wrong with this boy. Did the  parents neglect to take care of the problem. We don’t know at this point. Many questions arise.

Was he on medication and had a bad reaction to it?

Did he have an underlying illness?

Did he have some underlying neurolgical condition that affected his behavior ?

Did he take narcotics?

Did he commit suicide?

Was there foul play?

These are fair questions to ask whenever a child dies unexpectedly. These questions in no way accuse or insinuate any of these  things happened. They are merely questions most people consider under these circumstances.

ADDENDUM

Now the parents have released a statement that Caleb had an undetected medical condition but have yet to release to the public what that medical condition was that took This young and precious boy’s life.

In my personal opinion, maybe if  these parents  had spent more time observing Caleb’s  off behavior when they were filming him right before he died and sought medical attention for him, perhaps his undetected medical condition may have been detected. It is just a cause for concern.

The parents have also decided to livestream their child’s funeral which I also personally found disturbing.

In any event it is very sad that this beautiful and vibrant young man who had  all the hopes of a full life ahead of him is gone. May he Rest In Peace.

ADDENDUM # 2

For Caleb’s and the Bratayley family fans I understand  that this is a very difficult time for many of you in terms of continuing to mourn Caleb’s sudden and unexpected death. If you are having difficulty coping, talk to someone who is a professional who can help you during your grieving process. Many of you may be going through the various stages of grief from shock, to denial to anger etc.

There have been a few  individuals who are clearly going through their anger phase of the grief process who have decided to take their anger out on this blog .  They have misinterpreted what was said in the blog and have made personal attacks.

No personal attacks, or hate will be tolerated in this blog. If you have a difference of opinion you are certainly  welcome to express yourself in a civil and respectful manner. Otherwise your comment will not be read and will be  be deleted. I stand by what I said in the blog. While I do not blame anyone for Caleb’s death, my only concern was that his parent kept filming when there was clearly something wrong as I saw it in the  video and relayed in these screen shots.  Perhaps the mother’s focus  was on her filming  that didn’t notice something was wrong. At any rate,  I  personally found that  to be disturbing .

ADDENDEM #3

It is also  important to note that if you are not  18 years of age or over you are not permitted to  comment on this blog.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

While ESPN’s Britt McHenry Shows Toxic Behavior By Fat, Dental, Job, and Education Shaming, Tow Worker is Toxic for Releasing Tape

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Yes  ESPN’s Britt McHenry clearly showed what a Toxic  entitled character she had by verbally  hitting  the tow company worker below the belt as she fat shamed, dental shamed, job shamed, and education shamed the woman who no doubt,  did something to aggravate Britt.  Since nothing happens in a vacuum,  there is no doubt  in my mind that the tow worker  did  something that made Britt go off on her.Maybe she was robotic, insensitive to Britt’s  plight, cold, uncaring, had an attitude, or maybe she said something provocative that ticked off Britt.

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But by warning  Britt that she was on tape and stating she would show it, it demonstrates  how passive aggressive the tow worker was acting. By actually releasing the tape publically to get back at  Britt and now turning the tables and   shaming  Britt, it shows how Toxic  and vindictive  the tow worker  really  is.

This was a petty situation between two women. No ones life was at stake.

As soon as Britt realized she was on tape she put her hand up to her throat indicating that she was suddenly feeling vulnerable. Her large eyed look whereby you can see the whites or sclera shows her surprise and shock. No doubt when the tow worker threatened that she would show it, it frightened Brit as revealed through her body language.

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The tow worker  needed to speak up  immediately and tell the  reporter she was going too far and not not speak to her this way.She needed to tell the reporter she wouldn’t help her if she continued to speak to her like that and that she would get another employee to help her. Then he needed to get that employee to help Britt calm down and finish her business. Obviously the tow driver was too wraped up in her own feelings  instead of calming her customer down with soothing words and trying to diffuse the situation. She needed to say how it was hitting below the belt and how she  was hurting her feelings.

But the tow worker said nothing as we heard on tape. She merely displayed her  vindictiveness  at being fat shamed, education shamed, and teeth shamed by getting  back at the sportscaster by publicly releasing the tape and shaming her. If there was a nurse or a doctor  or dentist who did something to jeopardize your health, one should  out them to help protect the public and warn them about that person’s dangerous and toxic  behaviors.  After all that is what Yelp  and Health Grades is all about. But to out  a customer for a petty attitude issue is a whole different issue.

The tow worker could have also spoken up on the tape and said look, don’t speak to me that way or I won’t help you and I will get someone else to assist you if you treat me that way, or you really hurt my feelings by what you are saying. It needed to be dealt with between the two women. But she got the public involved and in my view she is just as Toxic as the reporter if not more. The reporter’s behavior is  unfortunately often what is seen in the showbusiness world- entitlement and thinking they are such a big star and talking down to others.  I have seen it countless times in Hollywood. Not all celebrities are like that but the newer ones who haven’t yet hit hard times and think that they are all that and believe their press often pull this behavior.

Since  Britt flaunted her TV career, the tow worker could have sent the tape  to the authorities at ESPN to show her action instead of showing it to the world and helping to destroy the women’s career.  Perhaps the ESPN authorities would have given her a reality check and put her on the right path in terms of how to behave with others now that she is  a public figure.

I really think it needed to be handled by both women as grown adults  and  the incident should not have  involve a third party.

There are definitely times where  Toxic people in the service business need to be called out when they exhibit Toxic behavior.  if someone is belittling, being condescending, being hateful, or harming you always need to let them know how their actions won’t be tolerated and  you need to hold them accountable.

But if  you  decide to go off on them verbally, which can often happen, there are certain rules you MUST follow.

1. You cannot berate their physical looks.

2. You cannot berate  their job and whether you think it is beneath you.

3. You cannot say how superior you are to them or how much more educated you are then they are.

4. You cannot  fat shame them and name call.

5. You cannot teeth shame them. But if they have such bad breath and unkempt teeth that makes you feel like to vomit, you can gingerly suggest they monitor their bad breath or use oral hygeine, especially if they are dealing with the public   if  their offensive smell has invaded your  air space via your nostrils you have the right to let them know about it.

6, You cannot shame their dress  or style unless they are disheveled and dirty and serving you food or touching your body, your hair or your children (waiter, waitress, facialist, hair stylist,  nurse, health care worker, child care worker).

So when ESPN reporter did all of the above, she showed who she was- a very toxic person who thought she was all that  simply because  she was on TV and no doubt probably being told her entire live how cute she looked). Well she certainly lost a lot of points in the cuteness department, because cute is as cute does .

While she was suspended it remains to be seen whether or not she will be fired. That all depends on how  the audience will tolerate her. Since the ESPN audience is mostly made up of men and since a lot of men out there can overlook Toxic behavior in a woman as long as she is cute and has a nice body and appeals to them as eye candy, she may still keep her job.

But as far as rising up the ranks and becoming a bonafide respected news reporter, she can forget it. Look at what happened to lying  Brian Williams. In my view she needs to be fired stat. There are too many other  cute young women out there who aren’t as Toxic who could do the job. Shaming others is a huge no no and makes you unlikeable. As a reporter who wants a long career, you need to be likeable.

Mainstream audiences  of both men and women may never be  forget how highly she regards herself at the expense of others. She showed a lot of insensitivity and went below the belt when she tore the woman’s looks  and who she was, to shreds.

Britt is NOT as educated as she thinks she is. Graduating from Northwestern or getting an advanced degree means nothing if you don’t have the education of how to respectfully kmy treat others. You will never advance and you will lose if you act like a superior entitled brat.  Personally, I think her getting fired would be the best thing to happen to this young lady as it would humble her and give her a reality check. She needs a complete inner makeover of her soul so she acquires more compassion, less entitlement, and less feelings of superiority to others.

In addition,  the tow worker should be fired for releasing the tape and being just as  or even more toxic by her sneaky passive aggressive behavior. The tow worker is not rthe victim here and should not be portrayed as one. She had a huge role in this debacle as well.

Tina Fey- The Real Mean Girl Who’s Shaming Famed Dermatologist May Have Lead to His Death

Tina Fey’s humor of making fun of others is not funny. It is Toxic, cruel and mean. . Based on what happened with famed dermatologist Dr. Fredric Brandt, she owes his heirs and apology and needs to be held accountable for her actions.

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Apparently she created a character in her netflix show called the Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt that was poking fun at the 65 year old smooth skinned, tanned, platinum haired dermatologist  with a hyperarticulate high pitched voice named Dr. Franff, ( a play on his name Dr. Brandt) played by Martin Short.  When the NY Post brought the similarity between the fictional and the real character to light in an article last month, the doctor felt humiliated. He told friends and colleagues that he was devastated by this portrayal of him. In fact his PR agent Lesley Abravanel shared this tweet about how devastated Fr. Brandt felt over the comparisons on Tina Fey’s show.

Though Abravanel suggests that Dr Franff is a protagonist on the show, Martin Short's character only appeared in one episode of the first season

It was too much for the doctor to take and he committed suicide at his home in Coral Gables, Florida.

Television personality Kelly Ripa and Dr. Frederic Brandt attend Dr. Fredric Brandt's SiriusXM launch event at SiriusXM Studio on September 26, 2011

The news of this doctors death and his public humiliation is devastating. Here is a  bona fide physician who spent years in medical school and in a residency, who built up a top notch dermatology practice in Miami and in NY of A list clients like Madonna,  model Stephanie Seymour, talks show host Kelly Rippa, fashion designer  Marc Jacobs, and so many others,  as well as developing his own brand of collagen booster,only to be publicly humiliated  and  ‘devastated’ by unflattering comparisons to Dr Franff on the show Kimmy Schmidt.

Allegedy the doctor had suffered from issues of depression in the past but  many believe that this public humiliation  by Tina Fey must have pushed him over the edge.  Sadly he died alone and was discovered by his maid at his Miami mansion.

This type of mean humor to poke fun at someone’s appearance, the way they speak no longer works in this day and age. neither does humor of race, religion, sexual orientation, or ethnicity. Years ago this type of humor was prevalent and tolerated but it is no longer the case. The Don Rickles, Joan Rivers and now Tina Fey type of humor where people are made fun of  because of their looks, ethnicity,  or demeanor is not tolerated. Prior to her death, Joan Rivers was called out for calling Michelle Obama a tranny and rightfully so. Jamine Fox was also called out for his jokes making fun of Bruce Jenner’s transsexuality.

This type of humor is mean spirited and should not be tolerated or encouraged. There are consequences to making fun of people, which is  essence  a form of  bullying them. That is what Tina Fey did to Dr. Brandt. This type of “humor” can push people over the edge like it did with the famed dermatologist. Monica Lewinsky even spoke about how she was close to ending her life after constantly hearing jokes about her.