Former New England Patriots player Aaron Hernandez is on trial in a Massachusetts courtroom for the murder of his fiance’s sister Odin Lloyd. . While prosecutors their case case that he killed another man.
While he has a serious facial expression as he appears to listen carefully to the evidence against him displayed on the monitors, he often laughs and jokes with his fiance or with his family members when they are present.In fact, he appears very charming and beams his dimpled smile.
He has been reported to have a swagger when he walks as well and a cocky demeanor as he sits in his seat.
What he doesn’t realize is that his body language and facial language will be working against him.Jurys as well as judges don’t like seeing happy or cocky people when they are on trial for murder. So this may very well influence how the jury voices as well as his sentencing.
Is Tom Bray a liar?
Here are some signals of deception which I observed during his press conference in response to the crucial questions he was asked.
1. Smiling when asked if he’s a cheater Hiis reponse is ” I don’t think so” Someone who would be asked if they were a cheater would not usually be smiling if they were not a cheater as they would be angry about the accusation and reflect their anger in their facial expression.
2. Shoulder Shrugs
3. Gestures using back of his hand instead of palm of hand
4. Rocks back and forth
5. He often swallows hard a licks his lips and shows “cotton mouth”
6. Scratches his head
7. Repeats words and phrases and often stammers
8.Blinks eyes rapidly,
9. Shakes head no when he should be nodding it yes, especially seen when he is talking about fair play.
10. Dies off at the end of sentences where he can barely be heard,
11. Breathing changes as he suddenly goes to upper chest breathing,
12. Says “you know” often
13. Tension in midface (nasal area) when saying he doesnt know what happened
14. Lots of duping delight (inapproriate smiling) when talking about balls being touched and in other answers
In my view he showed multiple signals of tension and deception during the press conference which disturbed me. if someone was not showing these signals they would have spoken with more gravitas and would have shown different facial and body language and speech and voice characteristics.
Janay Rice, left who is the wife of running back Ray Rice right of the Baltimore Ravens sat by her Toxic abusive husband
Ray Rice’s side as Ray spoke at a news conference at the Ravens training center on May 23, 2014 in Owings Mills,
Maryland. It was at that tine that RAY Rice spoke publicly for the first time since facing felony assault charges stemming from a February incident involving Janay at an Atlantic City casino.
We see Janay hunched over with shoulders rounded in defeat and pursing her lips in anger at having to sit there and listen to her abuser make excuses. She is angry and rightfully so as her hands reveal. They are balled up into fists. Her pursed lips and jaw tension also shows her anger at having to listen to this toxic man.
As he rambles on she knows what he is saying is nonsense and she fiddles with her hands and digits. She bows her head low in humiliation as she sates down while he is speaking.
Throughout the interview she constantly looked down. Here she fiddles with her hands which are still in a fist like position.
Here we see her hand on her thigh as she begins to scratch herself. this indicates that her autonomic system is working overtimes and her blood flow has had a sudden surge as she is forced to listen to his lies.
Her autonomic nervous system working overtime to maintain her poise when she is emotionally devastated as she becomes dry mouthed or cotton mouthes and licks her lips. her Ray is saying how he aims to be a better father. She can’t even look at him as she glances off to the side.
In order to keep up pretenses and act like everything is all right Janay was forced to speak. She pulled out her notes and speaks in a hoarse voice which indicates she must have gone through a great deal of emotional devastation, However she tries not to reveal how she really feels as she speaks in an emotionless monotone. her shoulders are hunched over as she, like most victims of abuse says she is at fault and deeply regrets the role she played in all of this.
She looks down in embarrassment and her shoulders are raised and body muscles are tense and tight . She knows what she is saying isn’t true and that she was forced to do this in order for her husband to keep his job and her life. As she says that she is undergoing therapy individually and collectively and how she is going to be a better parent and role model in the community you can see and hear that she does not believe what she is saying as she shrugs her rounded shoulders and speaks as though she robotically memorized what she was forced to say. She seemed to be in fear.
And after being pummeled on the elevator and knocked out, it is understandable why she was in such fear for her life and couldn’t even look at the Toxic monster sitting next to her.
This man deserves to be in prison for the rest of his ice for attempted murder. How dare he do what he did. It is great that the Falcons stepped up and did the right thing and eliminated him from the team. This should have been done long ago.
What is equally as disturbing as seeing what Ray Rice did to his wife is some of the youtube videos and comments which condone his actions. They say that his wife deserved it for mouthing off to her husband. This mentality is sickening and barbaric. An animals doesn’t even act like this.
A few years ago I wrote a book called Toxic Men- how to Heal and Deal with Men Who Make Your Life Miserable. I plan to reach out to Janay and give her a copy of this book to help her heal from her abusive relationship with her husband Ray.Like So many abused women, Janay stayed with Ray. WE can;t fault her. She may have wanted to keep up the image for his career. She may also have been afraid to leave because of further abuse from Ray. She may have wanted to stay for the sake of her child. Well now that the cat is out of the bag so to speak,s he needs to leave immediately.
There is no doubt that he will be enraged now that he is no longer a Raven and cannot be signed to any other team. He may very well continue to take his anger out on his wife and even on their child. Janay needs to leave the home asap as her safety comes first . Next, she needs to hire a divorce lawyer.
As someone who spent the early part of her career working the craniofacially deformed individuals, including patients with Ectodermal Dysplasia, a condition affecting the skin and teeth and sweat glands with protrusion of the upper part of the skull, and I am completely sickened by what basketball star Shaquille O’Neal did to a young man from Detroit, Jahmel Bionion, who is suffering from this condition.
To me, Shaquille is now as Toxic as Donald Sterling as I am sickened by both of their egregious actions. Please don’t tell me that one is different from the other. It is not.Both O’Neil’s and Sterling’s words and actions are devastating to others. While Sterling showed abusive discrimination towards Blacks, Shaquille O’Neal showed the same abusive discrimination towards a genetically challenged person. I can NEVER respect Shaquille again just as I can NEVER respect Donald Sterling.
I especially can never look at Shaquille the same way after I saw the video if the young man, Jahmel Binion, talking about how hurt he was by Shaquille O’Neal ( who was once one of Jahmel’s hero’s ) I shed tears. below is a link to the video.
What Shaquille did is awful!! It is NOT funny to make a face and mock someone else, especially if they are disabled. Shaq of all people should know better as there by the grace ofGod goes he.
If it wasn’t for basketball, Shaquille too may have found himself victimized and made fun of due to his giant size . While he has served as a volunteer reserve officer with the Los Angeles Sherrif’s department when he was a Laker, as law enforcement was one of Shaquille’s childhood dreams, the reality is that his extreme height and size would have made him ineligible for any police department or law enforcement organization due to their height and weight regulations. Had he not been a celebrity. He could have been easily turned away from many a job opportunity because of his size and height.
Even though the internet is filled with people who feel as horribly as I do about what Shaquille did to this young man , he has yet to offer up an apology, or a face to face meeting with the young man, or to help repair the damage he contributed to this young man’s self esteem. If he does happen to apologize to the young man, in my view it is too little too late. He needed to do it immediately, not after there was public disdain.
Just as I have boycot tDonald Sterling, I am doing the same to Shaquille O’Neal, whom I once considered one of my favorite basketball players. I can’t even look at him for the added abuse he did to Jahmel’s already fragile self esteem. Just as what Donald Sterling said and did is unforgivable, Shaquille O’neal’s Toxic and sickening actions are unforgivable as well.
While his family denies that disabled champion runner Oscar Pistorius took acting lessons to prepare himself for trial and others swear that he did take lessons, the bottom line is that something is not right in terms of how he presents himself in the courtroom.
As a jury consultant and someone who has prepared witnesses for trial, I can assure you that acting lessons are the absolute worst thing a person can do to prepare themselves. People need to be genuine and show genuine emotion and speak in a manner. They need to show body language that will not alienate a jury, but rather objectively allow them to hear the message.
In observing Oscar Pistorius’ body language throughout the trial, I noticed many things that are rather odd. His emotions often do not seem to match the situations being discussed or his body language seems to be over the top as far as his emotions are concerned.
He seems to be tuning out which will not endear himself to the judge who, is the only one who will be deciding his fate.
The one thing that I noticed is that he is always covering his ears. In essence he doesn’t want to hear all the gory details about what he did to Reeva. He wants to block it out and that is what he is doing by literally blocking his ears. But that behavior is off putting. He needs to sit there without his hands over his ears and listen to every word. If he shed emotion, it needs to be genuine . He needs toface the details of what he is accused of doing.
Not only does he cover his ears, but he covers his head with his papers as you see in the photo above. It is akin to someone wanting to pull the blankets over their head and not leave their bed or the house. This signals extreme shame and guilt over what he did. He wants it to all go away as he is in essence, hiding.
As well as not wanting to hear the details at the trial, he also does not want to see them. He does not want to see the results of his actions via the gory photos as he tightly shuts his eyes and pinches the bridge of his nose in a self comforting gesture.
The gesture where he pulls down the skin on his face is a self mutilation type of gesture which often occurs when a person is feeling guilty and there is no way out. It is a literal form of self punishment as we see Pistorius doing here.
This photo is of Pistorius’ aunt and uncle crying. With their furrowed brows and squinted eyes, they show genuine tears of sadness at what happened in this tragic situation.
In contrast here are Pistorius tears. He hides his face as he cries which to many observing him may indicate that he is faking his cry. Usually when one is in emotional pain, they don’t care who sees them cry. They just express their sorrow and upset openly. Many may feel this is contrived and he may have something to hide.
He cries too often and his recovery time from his cry is too fast. When people recover too quickly from a cry to a normal non crying facial posture it takes them time to recover. He does it almost immediately which may indicate that he is doing all of this crying for affect.
The above cry seems too intense . This facial gesture would occur if someone is in severe extreme grief, where they cannot contain themselves or control their emotions. His hand over his mouth shows that there is something he doesn’t want to reveal. And his tightly squinted eyes are not congruent with the crying emotion he is attempting to display. With a squinty eyed cry the mouth is usually open. That is not the case here.
As a body language I feel that something is off with Pristorius and his emotions. Usually I see an incongruent emotion and body language when the person is medicated or on drugs. But that emotion is usually a more dull or blank facial appearance.
When someone shows the inconsistency of emotion as Pristorius has been doing throughout the trial, it shows me that either he has forced this on his own in terms of trying to project what he thinks the judge wants to see, or that he has been prepped or coached in some way.
If he did take acting lessons, he did himself a huge disservice as he looks like a very bad actor trying to force emotion. It takes years to perfect acting skills, not a few weeks or months. So if he did take the lessons, they clearly did not work. On the other hand if he did not take lessons and he is acting like this on his own, he is also doing himself a huge disservice because he is not putting his position across in a genuine manner.
In the US judicial system if he was in front of a jury of his peers my belief is that he would be convicted based on his body language and vocal tone alone. Whether you want to believe it or not the truth is that juries can and have often judged someone on these things even if all the evidence points in their favor. But Pistorius only has to convince one person whom he refers to as “My lady” throughout the proceedings.
If My lady” uses her legal skills along with her genuine common sense and pays attention to the defendant’s body language, facial, language, and vocal tone, she will come up with the right verdict for Oscar Pistorius as his communication skills and body language speak volumes.