Aaron Hernandez Cocky Body Language and Smiles in the Courtroom Will Turn Off Jurors

Screen Shot 2015-03-08 at 10.42.40 AM Former New England Patriots player Aaron Hernandez is on trial  in a Massachusetts courtroom for  the murder of his fiance’s sister Odin Lloyd. . While  prosecutors their case  case that he killed another man.

While he has a serious facial expression as he appears to listen carefully to the evidence against him displayed on the monitors, he often laughs and jokes with his fiance or with his family members when they are present.In fact, he appears very charming and beams his dimpled smile.

He has been reported to have a swagger when he walks as well and a cocky demeanor as he sits in his seat.

What he doesn’t realize is that his body language and facial language will be working against him.Jurys as well as judges  don’t like seeing happy or cocky people when they are on trial for murder. So this may very well influence how the jury voices as well as his sentencing.

Tom Brady’s Body Language Shows Multiple Signals of Deception

Is Tom Bray a liar?

Here are some signals of deception which I observed during his press conference in response to the  crucial questions he was asked.

1. Smiling when asked if he’s a cheater  Hiis reponse is ” I don’t think so” Someone who would be asked if they were a cheater would not usually be smiling  if they were not a cheater as they would be angry about the accusation and reflect their anger in their facial expression.

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2. Shoulder Shrugs

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3. Gestures using back of his hand instead of palm of hand

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4. Rocks back and forth

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5.  He often  swallows hard a licks his lips and shows “cotton mouth”

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6. Scratches his head

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7. Repeats words and phrases  and often stammers

8.Blinks eyes rapidly,

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9. Shakes head no when he should be nodding it yes, especially seen when he is  talking about fair play.

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10. Dies off at the end of sentences where he can barely be heard,

11. Breathing changes as he  suddenly goes to upper chest breathing,

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12. Says “you know” often

13. Tension in midface  (nasal area) when saying he doesnt know what happened

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14. Lots of duping delight (inapproriate smiling) when talking about balls being touched and in other answers

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15. Lip pursing
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In my view he showed multiple signals of tension and deception during the press conference which disturbed me. if someone was not showing these signals they would have spoken with more gravitas and would have shown different facial and body language and speech and voice characteristics.

Ray Rice’s Wife’s Body Language Shows A Fearful, Defeated Abused Woman At Press Conference to Discuss Abuse

Screen Shot 2014-09-08 at 7.08.07 PMJanay Rice, left  who is the wife of running back Ray Rice  right  of the Baltimore Ravens sat by her Toxic abusive husband

Ray Rice’s side as Ray spoke at a news conference at the Ravens training center on May 23, 2014 in Owings Mills,

Maryland. It was at that tine that RAY Rice spoke publicly for the first time since facing felony assault charges stemming from a February incident involving Janay at an Atlantic City casino.

We see Janay hunched over  with shoulders rounded in defeat and pursing her lips in anger at having to sit there and listen to her abuser make excuses. She is angry and rightfully so  as her hands reveal. They are balled up into fists. Her pursed lips and jaw tension also shows her anger at having to listen to this toxic man.

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As he rambles on she knows what he is saying is nonsense and she fiddles with her hands and digits. She bows her head low in humiliation as she sates down while he is speaking.

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Throughout the interview she constantly looked down. Here she fiddles with her hands which are still in a fist like position.

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Here we see her hand on her thigh as she begins to scratch herself. this indicates that her  autonomic system is working overtimes and her blood flow has had a sudden surge as she is forced to listen to his lies. 

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Her autonomic nervous system working overtime to maintain her poise when she is emotionally devastated as she becomes dry mouthed or cotton mouthes and licks her lips. her Ray is saying how he aims to be a better father. She can’t even  look at him as she glances off to the side. 

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In  order to keep up pretenses and act like everything is all right Janay was forced to speak. She pulled out her notes and speaks in a hoarse voice which indicates she must have gone through a great deal of emotional devastation, However she tries not to reveal how she really feels as she speaks in an emotionless monotone.  her shoulders are hunched over as she, like most victims of abuse says she is at fault and deeply regrets the role she played in all of this. 

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She looks down in embarrassment and her shoulders are raised and body muscles are tense and tight . She knows what she is saying isn’t true and that she was forced to do this in order for her husband to keep his job and her life. As she says that she is undergoing therapy individually and collectively and how she is going to be a better parent and role model in the community you can see  and hear that she does not believe what she is saying as she shrugs her rounded shoulders and speaks as though she robotically  memorized what she was forced to say. She seemed to be in fear. 

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And after being pummeled on the elevator and knocked out, it is understandable why she was in such fear for her life and couldn’t even look at the Toxic monster sitting next to her. 

This man deserves to be in prison for the rest of his ice for attempted murder. How dare he do what he did. It is great that the Falcons stepped up and did the right thing and eliminated him from the team. This should have been done long ago. 

What is equally as disturbing as seeing what Ray Rice did to his wife is some of the youtube videos and comments which condone his actions. They say that his wife deserved it for mouthing off to her husband. This mentality is sickening and barbaric. An animals doesn’t even act like this. 

A few years ago I wrote a book called Toxic Men- how to Heal and Deal with Men Who Make Your Life Miserable. I plan to reach out to Janay and give her a copy of this book to help her heal from her abusive relationship with her husband Ray.Like So many abused women, Janay stayed with Ray. WE can;t fault her. She may have wanted to keep up the image for his career. She may also have been afraid to leave because of further abuse from Ray. She may have wanted to stay for the sake of her child. Well now that the cat is out of the bag so to speak,s he needs to leave immediately.

There is no doubt that he will be enraged now that he is no longer a Raven and cannot be signed to any other team. He may very well continue to  take his anger out on his wife and even on their child. Janay needs to leave the home asap  as her safety comes first . Next, she needs to hire a divorce lawyer.  

 

Shaquille O’Neal As TOXIC as Donald Sterling As He Makes Fun of Genetically Disabled Man

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As someone who spent the early part of her career working the craniofacially deformed  individuals, including patients with Ectodermal Dysplasia, a condition affecting the  skin and teeth and sweat glands with protrusion of the upper part of the skull, and  I am completely sickened by what basketball star Shaquille O’Neal did to a  young man from Detroit, Jahmel Bionion,  who is suffering from this condition.

 

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To me, Shaquille is now as Toxic as Donald Sterling as I am sickened by both of their egregious actions. Please don’t tell me that one is different from the other. It is not.Both O’Neil’s  and Sterling’s words and actions are devastating to others. While Sterling showed  abusive discrimination towards Blacks, Shaquille O’Neal showed the same abusive discrimination towards a genetically challenged person. I can NEVER respect Shaquille again just as I can NEVER respect Donald Sterling.

 

I especially can never look at Shaquille the same way after I saw the video if the young man, Jahmel Binion,  talking about how hurt he was by Shaquille O’Neal ( who was once one of Jahmel’s  hero’s ) I shed tears. below is a link to the video.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_4LKepphE0k

 

What Shaquille did is awful!! It is NOT funny to make a face and mock someone else, especially if they are disabled.  Shaq of all people should know better as there by the grace ofGod goes he.

If it wasn’t for basketball,  Shaquille too may have found himself victimized and made fun of due to his giant size . While he has served as a volunteer reserve officer with the Los Angeles Sherrif’s department when he was a Laker, as law enforcement was one of Shaquille’s childhood dreams, the reality is that his extreme height and size would have made him ineligible  for any police department or law enforcement organization due to their height  and weight regulations.  Had he not been a celebrity. He could have been easily turned away from many a job opportunity because of his size and height.

 

Even though the internet is filled with people who feel as horribly as  I do about what Shaquille did to this young man , he has yet to offer up an apology, or a face to face meeting with the young man, or to help repair the damage he contributed to  this young man’s self esteem. If he does happen to apologize to the young man, in my view it is too little too late.  He needed to do it immediately, not after there was public disdain.

 

Just as I have boycot tDonald Sterling, I am doing the same to Shaquille O’Neal, whom I once considered one of my favorite basketball players. I can’t  even look at him for the added abuse he did to Jahmel’s already fragile self esteem.  Just as what Donald Sterling said and did is unforgivable, Shaquille O’neal’s Toxic and sickening actions are unforgivable as well.

 

 

 

 

Oscar Pistorius Body Language in the Courtroom Casts Doubt

 

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While his family denies  that disabled champion runner Oscar Pistorius took acting lessons to prepare himself for trial and others swear that he did take lessons, the bottom line is that something is not right in terms of how he presents himself in the courtroom.

As a jury consultant  and someone who has prepared witnesses for trial, I can assure you that acting lessons are the absolute worst thing a person can do to prepare themselves. People need to be genuine and show genuine emotion and speak in a manner. They need to show body language that will not alienate a jury, but rather objectively allow them to hear the message.

In observing Oscar Pistorius’ body language throughout the trial, I noticed many things that are rather odd. His emotions often do not seem to match the situations being discussed or his body language seems to be over the top as far as his emotions are concerned.

He seems to be tuning out which will not endear himself to the judge who, is the only one who will be deciding his fate.

 

The one thing that I noticed is that he is always covering his ears. In  essence he doesn’t want to hear all the gory details about what he did to Reeva. He wants to block it out and that is what he is doing by literally blocking his ears. But that behavior is off putting.  He needs to sit there without his hands over his ears and listen to every word. If he shed emotion, it needs to be genuine . He needs toface the details of what he is accused of doing.

 

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Not only does he cover his ears, but he covers his head with his papers as you see in the photo above. It is akin to someone wanting to  pull the blankets over their head and not leave their bed or the house. This signals extreme shame and guilt  over what he did. He wants it to all go away as he is in essence, hiding.

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As well as not wanting to hear the details at the trial, he also does not want to see them. He does not want to see the results of his actions via the gory photos  as he tightly shuts his eyes and pinches the bridge of his nose in a self comforting gesture.

 

Screen Shot 2014-04-22 at 9.33.34 AM The gesture where he pulls down the skin on his face is a self mutilation type of gesture which often occurs when a person is feeling guilty and there is no way out. It is a  literal form of  self punishment as we see Pistorius doing here.

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This photo is of Pistorius’ aunt and uncle crying. With their furrowed brows and squinted eyes, they show genuine tears of  sadness at what happened  in this tragic situation.

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In contrast here are Pistorius tears. He hides his face as he cries which to many observing him may indicate that he is faking his cry. Usually when one is in emotional pain, they don’t care who sees them cry. They just express their sorrow and upset openly. Many may feel this is contrived and he may have something to hide.

 

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He cries too often and his recovery time from his cry is too fast. When people recover too quickly from a cry to a normal non crying facial posture it takes them time to recover. He does it almost immediately which may indicate that he is doing all of this crying for affect.

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The above cry seems too intense . This facial gesture would occur if someone is in severe extreme grief, where they cannot contain themselves or control their emotions.  His hand over his mouth shows that there is something he doesn’t want to reveal. And his tightly squinted eyes are not congruent with the crying emotion he is attempting to display. With a squinty eyed cry the mouth is usually open. That is not the case here.

As a body language I feel that something is off with Pristorius and his emotions. Usually I see an incongruent emotion and body language when the person is medicated or on drugs. But that emotion is usually a more dull or blank  facial appearance.

When someone shows the inconsistency of emotion as Pristorius has been doing throughout the trial, it shows me that either he has forced this on his own in terms of trying to project what he thinks the judge wants to see, or that he has been prepped  or coached in some way.

If he did take acting lessons, he did himself a huge disservice as he looks like a very bad actor trying to force emotion. It takes years to perfect acting skills, not a few weeks or months. So if he did take the lessons, they clearly did not work. On the other hand if he did not take lessons and he is acting like this on his own, he is also doing himself a huge disservice because he is not putting his position across in a genuine manner.

In the US judicial system if he was in front of a jury of his peers my belief is that he would be convicted based on his body language and vocal tone alone. Whether you want to believe it or not the truth is that juries can and have often  judged someone on these things even if all the evidence points in their favor. But Pistorius only has to convince one person whom he refers to as “My lady” throughout the proceedings.

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If My lady” uses her  legal skills along with her genuine common sense and pays attention to the defendant’s body language, facial, language, and vocal tone, she will come up with the right verdict for Oscar Pistorius as his communication skills and body language speak volumes.

 

Lance Armstrong’s Body Language on Oprah Showed No Contrition, Lack of Emotion, Blaming Others, and Possible Sociopathic Behavior

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Lance did NOT want to give this interview based on his body language as he constantly pursed his lips throughout this interview. In addition

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He would constantly look down and not look directly at Oprah when she asked direct hard hitting questions. There was a tone of arrogance and a disturbing monotone which indicated that the only thing he was sorry about was getting caught.

Oprah’s interview with Lance Armstrong was one of the most disturbing things to watch as the one thing that kept running though my mind was” Is Lance Armstrong a Sociopath?”  Here are some traits of a sociopath

a) Glibness 

b)Grandiose sense of self-worth

c) Pathological Lying 

d)Cunning/manipulative

e) Lack of remorse or Guilt 

f)  Shallow affect (genuine emotion is short-lived

g)Callousness; lack of empathy

h)Failure to accept responsibility for own actions

It seems that Lance exhibited all of these traits when one listens to his interview.

When Oprah asked Lance Armstrong if he felt what he did was wrong or if he felt guilty or if he felt he CHEATED  he said NO!  That was the most chilling and revealing part of the entire interview. It made me wonder if this man was a sociopath.

He seemed to blame everyone else but himself.  He first blamed the culture, his fans, the story which was too good to be true to a cyclist who had the disease who won the competition. He also  the fact that he had the disease (as he refused to say cancer) that made him feel driven. He blamed his mother for being a fighter and said he was a fighter too.  He blamed fellow cyclist  Floyd Landis’ accusation as getting back at him because he wasn’t on the team.

What was also disturbing was he kept  referring to himself in the third person as a “flawed character instead of saying that his character was flawed. It was a form of distancing himself.

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As further indication that he really  didn’t want to  be there and talk was a tell tale sign of  his  head scratch. His autonomic nervous system was in full play here as it showed that he was getting anxious as Oprah asked ” How did it all work?”

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Here we see Lance putting his fingers over his mouth indicating that he is guarded and doesn’t really want to talk.

His thought process also seemed sociopathic. When you ask a sociopath a question they may answer it one way such as Did you threaten anyone to take drugs? Lance insisted that he did not. But then when you ask the question another way like  Did you insist the members of the team see Dr. Ferrari ( who allegedly provided the drugs) he answered yes.  In keeping with this sociopathic line of thinking he was asked if fellow cyclist  Floyd Landis who spoke to the press about Lance’s doping felt rebuffed? Lance said No. But then when asked in a different way, if  he blew Landis off, Armstrong admitted that he did indeed blow Floyd off as he said that Floyd was upset because ” I didn’t put him on my team.”This  thought process is how sociopaths tend to think.

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When Oprah showed his deposition tapes you clearly saw how he was lying as he shook his head yes when he was saying No.

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When he was watching himself we he discomfort as he swallows hard and we see his jaws clenching.

he blatantly lies when he states to Oprah that he never failed a test. Then in his sociopathic thought  process he admits that retroactively he failed a test.

He tended to minimize what happened by saying “all this is a process.’ Again it was a form of distancing himself from what is happening with him.

When he said he is happier today than he ever was and Oprah confronted him and he back pedaled a sickening feeling came over me as I wondered again if he was a sociopath.

When asked why he sued people when he knew they were right and when I heard his monotone rote answer it once again made me wonder about sociopathy in relation to blaming others. He then talked about feeling attacked so he sued . He called one of his accusers a Bitch and Crazy but then says that he never called her fat. This was one of the most disturbing moments as you see is pathological thought process in action as he made it OK and justifies his actions of name calling because he didn’t use all three insults but only two.Oprah appeared to be disturbed by this as well.

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There was a lot of chin itching and scratching which indicated that  was not happy about being confronted about his actions  in such a detailed manner. he blames his comeback for causing all of his troubles and tells Oprah that they wouldn’t be sitting there if he didn’t have a comeback.Once again his statement smacked of sociopathy.

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This interview did not help Lance Armstrong’s image. In fact it made it worse. We saw arrogance, defiance, anger, blame, and someone who really needs to be out of the public eye in my view. In my view he is a very disturbed individual who is very TOXIC!

Part two will focus on his charity, his sponsors,  and his family and how this has affected them so stay tuned for some more  behavior analysis and body language analysis.

Jerry Sandusky’s Voice and Speech Content Show Signals of Deception Guilt In Costas Interview

Bob Costas asked Jerry Sandusky if he ever touched the genitals of any boy. As Sandusky replied  that he didn’t,   his voice quality sounded shaky and tentative.

Then Costas said if this is not so,  then you must be the unluckiest man and most persecuted man we have ever heard of.

Jerry pauses for several seconds and then chuckles. This reaction is contrary to anyone who was not guilty. An innocent person  would immediately jump in with no pause time ans say YES, I AM,  using a very formidable  and unwavering tone.

Costas then says it again and Sandusky pasues for five seconds and chuckles a nervous laugh and  immediately releases a burst of air. Needless to say this question has taken literally taken the wind or the air out of him as you literally hear it in the audio.

Then Sandusky says in a weak tone, I don’t know what you want me to say WHAT????? Want you to say????  This is a signal of guilt. He is now depending on what others want him to say and does not relay what he needs to say. In essence he    nothing  to say except that he is guilty.

You can believe that his attorney is helping him to spin what to say. Also why is this man doing interviews if he has an attorney? Is he defying his attorney? Is he defying his attorney? What kind of attorney wiuld allow his client to speak out at this point?

Sandusky’s voice quality and speech behaviors alone are incriminating him in my view.

Then he says  I don’t think theses have been the best days of my life as he burst out air . This air  burst indicates that he is having a hard time coordinating his breathing with his talking which is a HUGE indicator of nervousness and deception. His statement also minimizes the serious of what is happening to him which indicates that he is in the initial shock phases and in a state of denial.

Costas then asks him a great question. Costas asks  how would you define the part you played?  What are you willing to concede  that was wrong and   and you wish you hadn’t done it?

Sandusky once again takes a gulp of audible air indicating that this question has once agin knocked the wind out fo him. He then practically wispers and mumbles his answer , which is an  indicator guilt and shame . He says   I  I  should have   (long pause) showered with those kids. The telling part here vocally speaking is that he goes up at the end of the sentence on the words  kids  as though he was asking a question.  The empahasis on the world kids means  that deep down he really didn’t think it was wrong to shower with those kids.    It’s only wong because he got busted.Also the hesitation is a signal of extreme distress.

Then he mumbles a guilty sounding you know so . In essence , he is trying to minimize his actions and seeking reassurance with the words you know . He ends his statement on the word so because he has nothing else to say .

 Here is the give away “tell” or signal  that says it all.  Costas asks him if he is a pedophile. Sandusky  immediately replies  No! Then Costs rephrases the question ands says Are you sexually attracted to young boys?  Just so you are aware, this is how sociopaths often respond to questions. You may ask them a direct question and get a completely different answer than when you rephrase the question.  Sandusky also  parrots the question and repeats Am I sexually attracted to young boys?

When someone answers a question with a question or repeats your question, they are  usually GUILTY!!! That is one of the biggest tells of deception.

Then Sandusky further inceiminates himself verbally by  contimuing on and saying  sexually attracted.  I I enjoy young people.’

 His repetion of the words sexually attracted thrown out there  without a pronoun or a verb speaks volumes, Singling these two words out as a phrase in itself ndicates that  he very well may be  sexually attracted to them.

Then he says I I love to be around them . But no I’m not sexually attracted to young boys. He dies off at the end of his statement which is very significant in my view. As he in essence is swallowing his words and swallowing the truth. Note how he calls young boys them . It illustrates how he has objectified his victims.

Jerry Sandusky shows us that no matter who a person is or what their position is, it in possible to find pedophiles in any walk of life  and in any socioeconomic group or social strata. Even pillars of society who do charity work can be sexual deviants. We need to stop playing The Emperor Has New Clothes when he in fact is not wearing any. We need to see what is,  not what we want to see. As soon as we see this behavior we need to make sure the person is held accountable for their actions.

There is no question in my mind that he is acting like a person who has a lot of guilt , shame, and embarrassment  at being exposed and who most likely is guilty.

After reading the Grand Jury transcript I felt like throwing up. This is an extremely deviant and sick man.  True they are just allegations and he has not yet been found guilty by a court of law at this time. But in reading these allegations , it appears that they all have a pattern to them that is both shocking and sickening. He is either wrestling, showering,  or cracking some young boy’s back. Like most predators he has followed a similar ritual in abusing  his victims.

There is no rehabilitation for a pedophile because they are imprinted with this sexual perversion forever.He needs to be locked up forever with no possibility of parole. He has essentially  murdered the souls and the psyches of these young boys, many who have now grown  into  young  men.

All the millions of dollars he has earned during his coaching years needs to go for psychological treatment for these boys because after he got his hands on them, they were never the same. What makes matters even worse is that he took full advantage of young boys who were troubled and/or disadvantaged. That makes his crime even more egregious.

I say lock him up and throw away the key and make him do some hard labor in prison instead of  his sitting around doing nothing on the taxpayers money. I say get as much use out of him, whether it be  making license plates or some other item that is made in prisons.

He needs to be released into the general population so he can see what it feels like to be helpless and victimized. No doubt  if this is the case, he will not  survive long which may actually  be a blessing to all.