Does Amanda Carpenter’s Body Language and Speech Reveal Truth About Alleged Affair With Ted Cruz?

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Amanda Carpenter, who is at the center of the Ted Cruz Sex Scandal, has made the rounds on TV in an attempt to clear her name. But what is her communication and body language really saying? Is she being forthright? Is she telling the truth that she did not have an affair with Ted Cruz? Is she lying?

It seems that her appearances may have done her more harm than good based on her on-camera delivery, in my view. What she should have done was to look directly at CNN’s Jake Tapper, her interviewer,  and  emphatically say that she did not have an affair and leave it at that. But instead,  she did way too much explaining and went off on tangents, which may have done more self-damage by  perhaps making  people more skeptical of her.

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As she looks down, she squinches her forehead as she says he has been 100 percent faithful to her husband. But she says this in a monotone devoid of emotion.To sound more credible, in my view, she needed to look directly at Tapper and not look down or away.

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Then she finally looks up and says that there is nothing more important to her than being a good wife and a good mother. She says this in a staccato tone, which  tended to make her sound a little too defensive.

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When Jake Tapper asks her about the sports jacket she was wearing and it being the same jacket that Cruz was wearing,  she seemed to be flustered by this question as she once again  looks down and  while breaking eye contact with Tapper. She  also shrugs her shoulders (often regarded as a signal of deception) and blames it on conspiracy theories.

Had she looked  directly Tapper in the  eye and said that she was cold and Cruz gave her his jacket to wear,  that may have put an end to speculation about the two. But she did not do that. Instead,  she was flustered and continued to  sound defensive. Then she gets testy in her tone as she says she can’t understand why the Trump campaign is doing this and how no other campaign would touch this kind of stuff. This is the first time she displays any negative emotion.

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By deflecting blame on Trump, she once again makes one wonder if indeed something personal was going on with her and Cruz. She needed to sound more direct and state her truth in a more powerful tone to add to her credibility.

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As she says it’s really a conspiracy theory, she shakes her head “no” perhaps indicating that she  may perhaps subconsciously know that it may  not  be a conspiracy theory as she verbally stated.

She also  does a lot of “uptalk,” where her inflection goes up at the end of sentences. This can  often make others question whether what she is saying is true as she denies any personal involvement with Cruz.  She says this with the phrases “defending myself” which makes her sound  tentative as though she is asking a question and is insecure about what she is saying.

Then she tries to take the oneness off of her and encourages people to look at the broader aspect of the campaign. She  says “there is  toxic culture” and “go into it with both eyes open and not be afraid to confront it.” In making this statement, she is attempting to take the attention off of herself and deflect it outward.  She also wanted Trump to put a stop to this but said she was disheartened when Trump said that the National Enquirer got it right before. In essence,  she was upset that Trump didn’t come to her defense.

When Tapper asked  her if she was going to take any legal action she leaked out “I talked to” and then immediately changed her rhetoric by saying she wanted to  get through this and protect her reputation, her career and her  family. Then she mumbled out something that sounded like ” I’ll continue to talking to lawyers.” So it seems that she is looking into taking legal action concerning this matter. It is clear that she doesn’t want this incident to hurt her career. But the fact that she is  out front on the national pages  may have helped her career. No one knew who Amanda Carpenter was before this scandal. This may have helped her career by putting her on the map. Who knows, she may even get her own show after this scandal. After all, look how well Kim Kardashian did after her scandal.

It is clear that she doesn’t want this incident to hurt her career. But the fact that she is  out front on the national pages,  ironically may have helped her career. No one knew who Amanda Carpenter was before this scandal. This may have helped her career by putting her on the map. Who knows, she may even get her own show after this scandal. After all, look how well Kim Kardashian did after her own  sex scandal.

Whether or not Amanda had an affair with Cruz is only something she and Cruz know for sure.  So one cannot accuse her of having an affair if  there is no proof or actual witnesses.  But one can definitely say that she did not come across very well in her interview. Therefore,  she  may have created more doubt in the minds of the public, based on her performance.

Personally, I believe she needs to lay low and not do further damage to herself by appearing on camera for a while. Then she needs to reinvent herself  and get back out there after this scandal dies down, where she is not a part of the news, but rather reporting the news.
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Brussels Bombing: BODY LANGUAGE OF TERRORISTS book can help save your life

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Today I woke up to the news that there was a suicide bombing at the American Airlines Desk at the Brussels airport and at one of  the city’s metro stations, killing at least 31 people and wounding dozens.The  suicide bomber left behind the chilling scene of splattered blood in the departure lounge as windows were blown out, ceilings collapsed and travelers streamed out of the smoky building. About an hour later, another bomb exploded on a rush-hour subway train near the European Union headquarters.

Terrified passengers had to evacuate through darkened tunnels to safety. In light of these latest  horrible events, there is no question that  people need to know how they can protect themselves. That is why they must arm themselves with the knowledge of what to look for in terms of those who may commit these terrorist  acts of violence. This is why I urge everyone to read the book  Body Language Of Terrorists    http://www.amazon.com/Body-Language-Terrorists-yourself-potential/dp/1929873484   Continue reading

Body Language of Rupert Murdoch and Jerry Hall Show Mutual Love and Give Others Hope For Finding It At Any Age

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Media mogul Rupert Murdoch found  true love at 84 with former supermodel and ex-wife of Mick Jagger, 60-year-old Jerry Hall. They both met their match as you can see in the body language in their photos. Above you see Ruppert kissing her as she nuzzles into him with a genuine smile.

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In this photo above, you continue to see Jerry’s genuine smile and Rupert’s genuine smile. We have never seen him this happy in almost any previous  photo His being expressive makes it clear that it is the real thing between these two.

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While many critics might dismiss this marriage as Jerry’s being a gold digger, this is clearly not the case. She and Mick, who had had three children together , were married for more than 30 years before their relationship ended  in 1999. It has been reported that Mick’s  divorce from Jerry could have cost him over $1.2billion dollars.So clearly marrying for money does not appear to be her motivation.

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Their marriage inspires us that  we can find love  at any age. Women don’t have to  be perfect- have the perfect teeth, have the tight and skinny body,  or have a face devoid of wrinkles. Jerry Hall at 60 shows us that a woman can wear her age and still be loved and adored.

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All too many people give up in searching for the person of their dreams after a certain age. They think there is no hope for them. Well,  Jerry and Rupert are an inspiration to everyone, especially those approaching and who are in their senior years.  This couple clearly shows that there is indeed hope.

More than ever those over 40 are discovering that there is a second , or third , or even a fourth chance for  finding love. So the moral of this story  is- Never give up!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dr. Lillian Glass Always Maintains Her Integrity When It Comes to Body Language Analysis

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Today I just got a call from a  magazine journalist asking me what I thought about some celebrity photos. These particular batch of  photos were of Blake Shelton and some  dark haired woman. They wanted to know if  Blake was cheating on his latest love Gwen Stefani and if there was anything going on between him and this woman in the photo.

As I looked at the photos it was clear  to me that there was nothing going on  with Blake and this dark haired woman, except  for a warm friendship between the two . I determined that based on their mutual facial expressions, the distance they appeared towards one another and their arm and body position.

So when the journalist called me back to discuss my findings  on several of these photos, I told the truth. I informed the journalist that  because Blake’s arm was over the woman’s shoulder and there was so much distance between them in the photos and based on their facial expressions, there appeared to be nothing more than just warm friendship between the two.

Apparently my evaluation was not enough for  the reporter. She wanted more,  so she pressed and pressed me with more and more questions like” Don’t you think the average person who is not a body language expert would think there was something going on between these two?” I answered , ‘No, not at all.Everyone can see  from these photos that they seem like good friends and that there are no signs they are romantic with one another.” That was not the answer she wanted to hear as she  continued to rephrase her question to get some tiny snippet from me that something could possibly be going on so she could spin it  the way she wanted for her magazine.

Knowing exactly what she was doing, I called her out on it. I said, “I know exactly what you are trying to do. You need a sensational story to entice your audience, but I can’t participate in that.

She then ignored what I had to say and tried another way to ask the question. finally told her that I always keep my integrity when I do my body language analysis so there was no way I could help her spin the story the way she wanted it. I also told her that I thought it was unfair to do this to Blake and try and conjure something up. She then said that she appreciated my honesty.

As hung up the phone, I was really disturbed by this.  Just days earlier at the Grammy’s Blake was seen with his love Gwen Stefani where it was obvious based on his body language that he and Gwen were intimately involved with one another . As you can see they seemed happy and in love and involved as Gwen sits between Blake’s legs as they held on to one another with glowing genuine smiles.

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Know that I will never allow myself to be manipulated for any story just so a journalist could spin it a certain way. This is not  the first time this has happened to me and I am sure it won’t be the last.

A few years ago,  I had a regular monthly column for Cosmopolitan Magazine where I did body language analyzes of celebrities and discussed what was really going on between the lines. All too often, whenever I would pitch a story for a new issue, I was met with the news that I had to tone something down  becuase the magazine couldn’t run  my story because the celebrity might get upset or that they would be appearing on the cover and the magazine  wouldn’t want to ruin their relationship with that particular celebrity , who may in turn. cancel out on appearing on the cover. That was surprising and very disappointing news for me to hear. As a journalist, I was trained to report in what ” IS” not what you “WANT the story to be.”

Today I was asked to comment on another story for a popular online publication who also shares my view of keeping it real and not spinning things. So I  openly gave them my observations  on a  celebrity couple’s body language. In the past whenever they asked me for a body language analysis, if I found nothing of significance, they would eliminate the potential the story and not try to manufacture it. This is something I both appreciate and respect.

I will never compromise my integrity and professional reputation for any price in the world. Nothing means more to me than telling the truth and presenting things as they are.Whenever I lend my name to a body language analysis, rest assured that it has been given careful thought and complete scrutiny.

 

 

 

 

 

Dr. Lillian Glass Never Said Obama Was a Psychopath- Meme Got It Wrong

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“Body language expert Lillian Glass said a popular meme misconstrued one of her quotes and made assertions that aren’t credible or ethical.

CLAIM: According to a body language expert, a photograph of President Obama crying reveals he is a psychopath.

FALSE

EXAMPLE: [Collected via Facebook, January 2015]

The origin of the claim contained in this graphic seems to come from a 2013 book by Lillian Glass titled, “The Body Language of Liars.” Yet, as we all know, this isn’t an exact science in any way. Furthermore, the author, though seemingly educated in this field, seems to have a found a niche in which to capitalize on people’s fears. A title of another of her books is, “Guide to Identifying Terrorists Through Body Language.” Another is “The Body Language Advantage: Maximize Your Personal and Professional Relationships with this Ultimate Photo Guide to Deciphering What Others Are Secretly Saying,in Any Situation.”
Nevertheless, opponents of the President are using something she wrote to some degree of success.
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ORIGIN:On 5 January 2016, President Obama proposed several measures to curb gun violence while delivering remarks on the topic in the East Room of the White House. As he discussed gun deaths involving children, the President began crying (as seen at the 0:44 mark in the video embedded below):

The following day, a meme about President Obama’s show of emotion began circulating online, holding that according to body language expert Lillian Glass, the Commander-in-Chief’s tears bore hallmarks of psychopathy (and implied that the body language he demonstrated was evidence he is himself a psychopath):

Some versions of the meme attributed its claims to Dr. Lillian Glass:

In her 2013 book “The Body Language of Liars,” behavioral analyst Lillian Glass wrote that psychopaths are really bad at crying:

“When psychopaths cry, they will often wipe underneath each eye, one at a time. When people cry genuine tears they cry with both eyes, and so they will tend to wipe both eyes at once.”

A brief online search indicated that the quote cited above was lifted directly from a 6 November 2013 Business Insider article titled “7 Signs You’re Working with a Psychopath.” The article predictably described an entirely different context:

They are really bad at crying.

“When [Susan Smith] gave a press conference and cried about her missing children, her fake tears were actually what raised suspicions that she was the killer,” says Glass.

When psychopaths cry, Glass says they will often wipe underneath each eye, one at a time. “When people cry genuine tears they cry with both eyes, and so they will tend to wipe both eyes at once.”

In their original context, Dr. Glass’ observations clearly pertained to video footage (not a still image). Dr. Glass’ web site includes a blog wherein her observations consistently describe analysis of subjects in context and motion (utilizing photographs to illustrate the body language she described in a broader context throughout). Nowhere in her writings did we locate an example of her making such a definitive diagnosis based upon a single still image, nor of her throwing around severe diagnostic language such as “psychopath.”

We contacted Dr. Glass regarding the meme and the use of language from her 2013 book The Body Language of Liars. Dr. Glass told us she was aware of the quote’s newfound popularity and was deeply dismayed by the lengths to which her words and work had been misconstrued due to the meme (and related articles).

Dr. Glass strongly repudiated the assertions of the meme, noting that the quote originally appeared in her 2013 book and was used for the Business Insider piece in a very different context. Moreover, she stated that she would never engage in body language analysis so flippantly, nor did she consider the subject matter of the meme appropriate for such observations. Mostly, Dr. Glass was dismayed at the virality of a grossly misconstrued, unrelated, out-of-context quote from her book in a meme that misrepresented her work.

According to Dr. Glass, the thrust of the meme is unequivocally false. Whether folks believe President Obama’s tears at the 5 January 2016 appearance were legitimate or not, the meme based on that moment in no way represents the analytical work of the body language expert to whom it is attributed.

LAST UPDATED: 07 January 2016

ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED: 07 January 2016

Dr. Lillian Glass Worked to Feminize Caitlyn Jenner Voice and Body Language

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I had the opportunity to work with Caitlyn Jenner to try to help her feminize her voice, speech patterns and body language. Our session was filmed for her reality show I’m Cait. Unfortunately it will not be shown this season. But my management team at Sirena Media received this  very nice email from the show’s producer:

Hi Karin!
Unfortunately, that scene did not make it into the series. We had to make some tough cuts because we filmed for 12 weeks but only ended up with eight 42 minute episodes. We so appreciate Lilian working with Cait and all the help she offered and maybe we can have her back next season.
Best of luck to you both and thank you again!

Andrea Metz
Executive Producer

So there is a possibility I may be on her show next season. Because I am bound by a confidentiality agreement I signed with Bunim Murray, Caitlyn’s production company I can’t go into detail as to what specific work I did with Caitlyn and what we specifically discussed during our time together.

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I will say that she was a lovely and I thoroughly enjoyed working with her and let her know that I am totally there for her.

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I will say that I used the same techniques that I used to teach Dustin Hoffman how to sound like a woman for the film in which he won an Academy Award- Tootsie

We addressed vocal pitch, using more inflection, drawing out vowels so the tones are more flowing, slowing down the speech, using more feminine gestures from sitting, to standing, to head posture, to facial language as well as gesturing,  like gesturing towards the body as opposed to away from the body like I am showing here when I Dustin played the Dorothy Michael’s character.

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While it takes more than the three hour session I had with Caitlyn while we filmed the show, I was able to give Caitlyn a copy of my best selling book He Says She Says Closing the Communication Gap Between the Sexes. The book contains all the information you will ever need to know about how men and  women communicate. It discusses differences in voice, body language, speech, and behavior, what is said and how it is said.

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In fact it has just been released on  Amazon  for kindle

http://www.amazon.com/He-Says-She-Closing-Communication-ebook/dp/B0102Q2G3A/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

There is also an audio version on my website at http://www.drlillianglass.com http://www.drlillianglass.com

This book can not only be of benefit to the transgender community but can help anyone who wants to have better communication with the opposite sex in business, in their social life, and in their intimate life.

Having worked with many people in the transgender community, perhaps the most difficult aspect of their transition is to sound   like the opposite sex. To sound like a  woman (for those undergoing male to female transition as Caitlyn is doing), or to sound like a man (for those undergoing female to male transition) it takes time and a lot of hard work. It takes the knowledge of knowing exactly what to do and what the differences are for the specific sex one is transitioning to. It also takes a lot of practice and a lot of patience.

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I read in Caitlyn’s blog  several weeks ago that when she watched the video of herself  speaking at the ESPY Awards, she said that she still felt like she had a man’s voice. It is understandable for her to feel that way  as you can’t learn how to sound like a woman and have it become a part of your daily life in just one session. It takes time and a lot of practice.

I was able to assure Caitlyn that what she was feeling was not out of the ordinary and to be patient.  I communicated to her that she not be hard on herself because working on feminizing your voice is a process and cannot be done in only one session as we did for the show.

I  encouraged her to not focus on  what she thought she did wrong, but instead, focus on the many things she did right during her ESPY Speech  such as:

1. flowing out her tones

3. using her inflection ( going up several notes)

4 not having a choppy speech pattern

5. opening her jaw when you spoke

6. not speaking so fast

7. not having a creaky sound at the end of sentences (glottal fry)

8. using many feminine gestures.

9. not attacking her initial sounds when she spoke

I clearly let her know that I was very proud of her. I also reiterated specific things she needed to work on in the future regarding the way she spoke so that she would be more satisfied and not see or hear herself as sounding like a man.

Working with Caitlyn was a very rewarding experience for me as I shared with  Caitlyn’s  my knowledge  of what it takes to sound like her genuine self- a woman.  I found her to be a lovely, elegant, and beautiful  woman who was very eager to incorporate all that we discussed.

She is truly an inspiration not only to the transgender community, but to so many others who are motivated by her  personal  decision to live an authentic and honest life and to be true to herself. At age 65, she decided to live out her dream, which goes to prove that it is never too late in life to do what you really want to do with your life. I have the utmost respect for anyone who is true to themselves, regardless of what anyone else may say.

Hillary Does NOT Put on Southern Accent- Press Makes It Up! Instead Hillary Shows Warmth and Charm

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There is nothing more that irks me than when I see my fellow journalists getting on the bandwagon and make things up just for the sensationalism and to get a headline that attracts eyeballs. As I have said countless times, I am NOT  a political person. I  ONLY report things as I see them from a body language and communication standpoint, not a political standpoint. That is why when I read the headline “Hillary Puts on A Southern Accent” I had to speak up.

As a person who is well versed in accent and dialects having taught a large number of A list Hollywood actors how to gain various accents for specific movie roles as well as how to lose accents, I can assure you Hillary DID NOT put on a Southern accent during her recent interview in the South.

What she did do, is something,I suggested she do in my last blog about her, when she did her first campaign speech. That was to use more vocal inflection and get rid of that stiff staccato tone and flow out her tones. She incorporated what I suggested  this new etah interview.

What not knowledgeable  journalists in the area of voice, speech, accents, and communication skills  like Shoshanna Weissmann reported as Hillary having an accent,was simply Hillary using great communication skills for the very first time.

She was warm, flowing in her tones , smiled genuine smiles and was not as stiff as she usually is when speaking. Her  gestures

Screen Shot 2015-08-05 at 8.26.08 AMHer gestures were much better but she still used the off- putting finger point which is very alienating to those listening to her. She needs to put a top to using that gesture and only use it whenever she is angry. Finger pointing  with the index finger extended towards someone is a universal signal that is used around the world to express  Anger.

As you can see Hillary is smiling. She is not angry. She is talking about things that are not anger proucting so she needs to stop this gesture.

Then she used another gesture which she also needs to lose. It is the hand balled into a fit with the thumb extended that all Presidents and Presidential hopefuls used to get their points across.

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It is a stupid gesture who’s origins date back to the Kennedy era whereby some ignorant speech coach told JFK to use it and unfortunately it has stuck. It is a gesture  that makes no sense in my view because it shows incongruency.  For instance a fist shows anger. A thumb up shows things are good. So what this stupid gesture says in reality is ” I am angry things are good.” It makes no sense and Hillary needs to lose it asap.

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The next inappropriate gesture she needs to lose is the karate chop gesture when she speaks. It doesn’t work and makes no sense in terms of what she was discussing- running for her first term and not her husband’s third term. It is an angry gesture that is alienating and reflects that she is angry that people may assume she is continuing her husband’s and Obamas’s terms as she mentioned.

So my fellow journalists, my message to you is STOP SPINNING IT! Report what you see and hear that is accurate. Do not report what you don’t see and hear in hopes of getting a nationally read story. When you do  this, like was done here, you lose your credibility. That is why the public  so often doesn’t believe what they read from journalists. The public is  not dumb. They know that there is spin like the spin that was demonstrated here. No Southerner or Northerner, Easterner or Westerner would ever agree there was a Southern accent put on by Hillary. It is false reporting and makes you, fellow journalist, look bad.

And for Hillary, my advice to you is to stop making wrong gestures- misleading gestures. Instead stay real and genuine like you did during this speech when you spoke. Show that vocal warmth with lots of inflection in your tones to express what you want to say. Smile like you have done as it is very inviting and makes people want to hear what you have to say.

Phoniness will not work in this election. People want real  gestures that match what is said. They don’t want choreographed or contrived speeches and rhetoric and gestures.  Being honest, sincere and genuine  is universal language of today.

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