The biggest debate of the century will take place Monday night on September 26, 2016. There is a lot riding on this debate because it will tell us so much about both candidates as we see them up close and personal.As a body language expert and communciation expert I am sharing my advice for ech of them indivudually and for both of them as candidates.
No matter how confident Donald Trump has come across in the past, there is no question that he may have a lot of concerns regarding this debate in terms of how to best handle himself. The same is true for Hillary Clinton. Trump may be wondering how aggressive to come across towards Hillary, especially when there has been such public speculation with regard to her health issues. Hillary onthe other hand, may be wondering how to address Trump should he come out swinging- verbally that is.
The key body language tell that viewers will be looking for deals with the level of the candidate’s confidence. Do they come across Presidential or not? Do they do or say things that reflect the office? Do they show tentativeness or nervousness?
So what are the signs to look for to help us determine if a candidate is nervous vs confident? Here is a list below: They may be a. perspiring indicated by wiping their face or hands or sweat above upper lip and forehead b.rocking back and forth or fidgeting c.having extraneous hand movements d. saying like um or uh a lot e. licking their lips a lot f. taking deep breaths to oxygenate themselves g. looking down h. talking too fast i. taking too slow j. not getting to the point k. rambling and talking too much l.excessive eye blinking m. throat clearing n. nose pulling, scratching or wiping o. face scratching
Many of these “tells” can also signify whether the candidate is telling the truth or lying That is why you must listen for the context as deception can only be discovered in the specific context. For instance if Hillary is asked about her emails and you see any of these body language tells, it may indicate that she may not be telling the truth. Similarly, if Trump is asked about his taxes and you see any of these signs in the context during which he was asked the specific question, then you may question whether or not he is forthright.
The advice I have for Donald trump is
- Don’t talk about how great you are. We already know it as we have heard it way too often from you. 2. Don’t yell and get overly hostile or aggressive. Keep your cool and show that you can be level headed under pressure. 3.Use inflected and modulated tones so it doesn’t appear that you are shouting at Hillary, which will alienate people. 4. Don’t go over the top with high dramatics. 5. Stick to the issues and don’t get off point,no matter how much you are tempted to do so. 6. Keep being real with your gestures and body language as that is what makes people relate to you. 7. Tone it down by not doing or saying anything embarrassing as this is your moment to shine in front of 120 million people.
The advice for Hillary is:
1. Do not cough as it will validate what so many feel about you- that you are ill. Take a cough suppressant before you go on stage so you won’t have that issue since they are not stopping the debate incase you have a choking fit. 2. Get more animated. Don’t sound so boring. 3.Don’t use that sing song cadence where you lose the message in terms of what you want to convey. 4. Don’t shout to get key points across. Instead use inflection to make your point. 5. Stop with the phony pointing gestures used by JFK back in the 60’s because his speech coach said it was the right thing to do. It is NOT the right thing to do. If you are angry or you want to make a point- point with your pointer finger instead of using that phony gesture where you pinch your pointer and index finger to your thumb. 5. Stop smiling when you are upset as it make you look phony. 6. Don’t spin things as it only makes you look worse. Instead, tell the truth and if you messed up give a sincere apology. 7. Stop having a defensive tone. If you are upset let you face say ot along with your words.Make sure your facial expression matches the tone of what you are saying.
And to both candidate here is some major advice: 1. Please be respectful to one another. Both of you have worked extremely hard to get to this point and need to be commended on your victories thus far. 2.Do not attack one another and say what the other candidate did or thinks. Let them speak for themselves without your putting words in their mouth to make them look bad. What you don’t realize is that when you do this, it make you look bad. So don’t get nasty and hit below the belt. Keep it classy and elegant. 3.Stick to the issues and get your specific points across. Tell us what you will do without discussing your opponent in an attempt to make them look bad. Make yourself look good by not making the other person look bad. All the voter is interested in is the issues not your personality. We want to know how you really think and feel about the issues athand and how it will affect our lives in the future.