Yes ESPN’s Britt McHenry clearly showed what a Toxic entitled character she had by verbally hitting the tow company worker below the belt as she fat shamed, dental shamed, job shamed, and education shamed the woman who no doubt, did something to aggravate Britt. Since nothing happens in a vacuum, there is no doubt in my mind that the tow worker did something that made Britt go off on her.Maybe she was robotic, insensitive to Britt’s plight, cold, uncaring, had an attitude, or maybe she said something provocative that ticked off Britt.
But by warning Britt that she was on tape and stating she would show it, it demonstrates how passive aggressive the tow worker was acting. By actually releasing the tape publically to get back at Britt and now turning the tables and shaming Britt, it shows how Toxic and vindictive the tow worker really is.
This was a petty situation between two women. No ones life was at stake.
As soon as Britt realized she was on tape she put her hand up to her throat indicating that she was suddenly feeling vulnerable. Her large eyed look whereby you can see the whites or sclera shows her surprise and shock. No doubt when the tow worker threatened that she would show it, it frightened Brit as revealed through her body language.
The tow worker needed to speak up immediately and tell the reporter she was going too far and not not speak to her this way.She needed to tell the reporter she wouldn’t help her if she continued to speak to her like that and that she would get another employee to help her. Then he needed to get that employee to help Britt calm down and finish her business. Obviously the tow driver was too wraped up in her own feelings instead of calming her customer down with soothing words and trying to diffuse the situation. She needed to say how it was hitting below the belt and how she was hurting her feelings.
But the tow worker said nothing as we heard on tape. She merely displayed her vindictiveness at being fat shamed, education shamed, and teeth shamed by getting back at the sportscaster by publicly releasing the tape and shaming her. If there was a nurse or a doctor or dentist who did something to jeopardize your health, one should out them to help protect the public and warn them about that person’s dangerous and toxic behaviors. After all that is what Yelp and Health Grades is all about. But to out a customer for a petty attitude issue is a whole different issue.
The tow worker could have also spoken up on the tape and said look, don’t speak to me that way or I won’t help you and I will get someone else to assist you if you treat me that way, or you really hurt my feelings by what you are saying. It needed to be dealt with between the two women. But she got the public involved and in my view she is just as Toxic as the reporter if not more. The reporter’s behavior is unfortunately often what is seen in the showbusiness world- entitlement and thinking they are such a big star and talking down to others. I have seen it countless times in Hollywood. Not all celebrities are like that but the newer ones who haven’t yet hit hard times and think that they are all that and believe their press often pull this behavior.
Since Britt flaunted her TV career, the tow worker could have sent the tape to the authorities at ESPN to show her action instead of showing it to the world and helping to destroy the women’s career. Perhaps the ESPN authorities would have given her a reality check and put her on the right path in terms of how to behave with others now that she is a public figure.
I really think it needed to be handled by both women as grown adults and the incident should not have involve a third party.
There are definitely times where Toxic people in the service business need to be called out when they exhibit Toxic behavior. if someone is belittling, being condescending, being hateful, or harming you always need to let them know how their actions won’t be tolerated and you need to hold them accountable.
But if you decide to go off on them verbally, which can often happen, there are certain rules you MUST follow.
1. You cannot berate their physical looks.
2. You cannot berate their job and whether you think it is beneath you.
3. You cannot say how superior you are to them or how much more educated you are then they are.
4. You cannot fat shame them and name call.
5. You cannot teeth shame them. But if they have such bad breath and unkempt teeth that makes you feel like to vomit, you can gingerly suggest they monitor their bad breath or use oral hygeine, especially if they are dealing with the public if their offensive smell has invaded your air space via your nostrils you have the right to let them know about it.
6, You cannot shame their dress or style unless they are disheveled and dirty and serving you food or touching your body, your hair or your children (waiter, waitress, facialist, hair stylist, nurse, health care worker, child care worker).
So when ESPN reporter did all of the above, she showed who she was- a very toxic person who thought she was all that simply because she was on TV and no doubt probably being told her entire live how cute she looked). Well she certainly lost a lot of points in the cuteness department, because cute is as cute does .
While she was suspended it remains to be seen whether or not she will be fired. That all depends on how the audience will tolerate her. Since the ESPN audience is mostly made up of men and since a lot of men out there can overlook Toxic behavior in a woman as long as she is cute and has a nice body and appeals to them as eye candy, she may still keep her job.
But as far as rising up the ranks and becoming a bonafide respected news reporter, she can forget it. Look at what happened to lying Brian Williams. In my view she needs to be fired stat. There are too many other cute young women out there who aren’t as Toxic who could do the job. Shaming others is a huge no no and makes you unlikeable. As a reporter who wants a long career, you need to be likeable.
Mainstream audiences of both men and women may never be forget how highly she regards herself at the expense of others. She showed a lot of insensitivity and went below the belt when she tore the woman’s looks and who she was, to shreds.
Britt is NOT as educated as she thinks she is. Graduating from Northwestern or getting an advanced degree means nothing if you don’t have the education of how to respectfully kmy treat others. You will never advance and you will lose if you act like a superior entitled brat. Personally, I think her getting fired would be the best thing to happen to this young lady as it would humble her and give her a reality check. She needs a complete inner makeover of her soul so she acquires more compassion, less entitlement, and less feelings of superiority to others.
In addition, the tow worker should be fired for releasing the tape and being just as or even more toxic by her sneaky passive aggressive behavior. The tow worker is not rthe victim here and should not be portrayed as one. She had a huge role in this debacle as well.