I was looking a Facebook post from one of my comedian friends who has never been mean spirited. So I was shocked when I read his postabout his wanting to hit a child with a baseball bat. Then I looked at the video of the child to whom he wasreferring. She was a young fashion designer Cecelia Cassini being interviewed on the red carpet. It turns out that my comedian friend was not alone. In fact close nine thousand Youtube posts – (ALL of then negative and hateful) shared the same sentiment.
I decided to dissect why there was such a torrent of vitriol towards this young lady and came up with the following reasons. She
1. acted entitled, spolied and rotten. When asked if she got her sewing machine at the age of 6 she said in a snotty tone with hand on her hip and eyes rolled, “Yes after begging for it for a year.”
2. had an “I’m better than you” attitude. Her erect head pulled back with chin out showed arrogance and a condescending attitude.
3. had over the top affectations in her body language and in her speech pattern where she leaned back and shook her finger as she described hr dissatisfaction with using ponytail holders to pull her dress back. Wouldn’t it be like “Uh (goes up in pitch) amazing if I had a sewing machine to sew and to fit me prop= per- ly (over enunciated) which she said in a sarcastic manner.
4. was disrespectful to elders ( her sewing teacher) and showed anger and disgust towards her teacher. She says” I took sewing classes but I didn;t really like my teacher because she was like rude (laughs about it) like she told me that some frabrics didn;t match what i thought they did (smacks her lips) so I didn’t go to her anymore. So I basically just taught myself.” This is the epitome of arrogance and rudeness and disrespect towards someone much older and more experienced than her- her teacher.She also looked very self satisfied as she relayed this story.
5.had arrogant body language as she reaches out her hand with palms up in a very campy way as she says how every little girl needs a dress and how they don’t need pants. Well for one thing this little know it all is not as savvy a fashion designer as she thinks since pants are a huge part of fashion. perhaps all she knows how to do at this point is make dresses as pants may be much harder to make. So she poo poos the idea of pants on little girls. Maybe if she would have continued her sewing lessons with her sewing teacher she would have learned how to make pants.
6. over the top gestures and over the top speech patterns that were not fitting for a girl her age. She flexes and flicks her wrist and tenses her lower saw as she says Carl Lagerfeld and Diane Von Furstenberg are her favorite designers and how they are “works of art” (said in an over articulated way- arrttt) . No child uses those terms so it makes her sound very affected, pretentious, and phony.
6. sounded insincere and condescending with her monotone voice, When asked about her website, instead of just giving her website address, like a seasoned salesperson she manages to obnoxiously get in that you can buy her designs online or at Fred Segal. After she says this she has a tightlipped smug look on her face which makes her look arrogant. Her raised head and jutting chin are also not endearing but reflect her sense of entitlement.
It’s clear that this young girl has come to believe her own press about how great sheis. As quickly was her rise to the top is as quickly as her fall to the bottom will beunless she changes up her attitude.
She didn’t start out this way. Initially her heart seemed to be in the right place as sheused her talents and volunteered dress homeless children and children in hospitals.As you can see from this video which was done several years before her most recentred carpet fiasco, she didn’t seem affected, arrogant, ort obnoxious. Instead, she seemed grounded and generous.
But something happened to her between then and now. Evidently, she got big headed with all the publicity and fame she received and with having celebrities buy her clothing for their kids and having child actors praise her designs. Her being invited to sell her clothing at the in my view ridiculously overpriced but prestigious Fred Segal’s didn’t help foster her now out of control ego.
She clearly lost sight of the humanity that got her in the public’s eye the first place -doing something for others and not being so self absorbed.
Unfortunately Cecelia is not alone as this is what happens to a lot of people who start out kind and nice and with a purpose to do good for others. Then they become toxic egocentric people after they get a little taste of fame. We see it all the time with actors, television personalities, bloggers, and even athletes. But to see this toxic behavior in the form of a little girl is both shocking and intolerable. It is like a very unpleasant caricature of human behavior.
There is no doubt that this child has talent as her dresses are cute in my view, but definitely not worth the $!00 to spend on a child who will undoubtedly outgrow the dress in a few months. But her talents mean nothing unless this pintsized designer reigns in her oversized ego and sense of entitlement.
Someone needs to sit her down and let her know that she is still a little girl with a lot to learn. In order to be a great fashion designer you need to have an open mind to learn knew things and not think you know it all. You need to respect others, even if you don’t necessarily agree with them. Cecelia needs to be taken her back to the children’s hospitals and homeless shelters where she first began to showcase her clothes, She needs to sit down and really listen to those little girls to get a reality check to see that arrogance and entitlement are not what life is about. She needs to gain some humility and compassion towards those who’s lives are not as comfortable and rosy as her life.
I don’t blame her parents because she wasn’t always like the mean girl she displayed on the red carpet video. In fact I applaud her parents for helping her live out herdream by connecting her with the right people and encouraging her talents at such a young age. But now they unknowingly created a little toxic monster , so to speak, and they need to rein her in before ti is too late. They need to show her the video and point out that this is not to behave. They need to have her :
1. be grateful to all of the opportunities she has been given and express it verbally
2. stop sounding so affected with her vocal tone
3. stop the over the top gesturing
4. never say anything negative about anyone, especially about sewing teacher who tried to help her
5. stop being so self involved
6. stop being so entitled
I only hope that her parents now put in the same effort into redirecting their child’s toxic behavior as they have in encouraging her to live out her fashion dreams.If they don’t nip her Toxic behavior in the bud now, young Cecelia will never have the opportunity to carry out her dreams as an adult because no one will want to be around her, no matter how talented she is or thinks she is.