Deep down, Paula Deen did not feel that she did anything wrong. Hence you hear her empty sounding hollow apologies. She made three apologies, one worse sounding than the other.The body doesn’t lie and neither does the voice.
Her tears were non-tears with no liquid in them. And worse or all she used a phrase”I is what I is” which is the punchline of a racist joke. She went from the fire into the frying pan and fried her reputation for good.
Had she said, “Look I said that 20 something years ago out of anger at one particular person. I am ashamed of it. Let’s move on because I am not a racist and for anyone to think so is wrong. But let us use this as a teaching moment that whether we are black or white we must eliminate that word from our lexicon because it brings hurt to everyone.Let’s stop using it in our music and everywhere else.”
She also needed to put her money where her mouth was and say that she was starting up an educational fund where she would go to schools along with other professionals to teach children about not using hurtful words and telling racist jokes to hurt others.
But instead she got way too defensive about a black guy having a gun to her head and then ending it with an over the top dramatic statement about throwing a stone so hard that it should kill her and then shockingly saying “I is what I is.” She didn’t say “i am what I am”but made reference to racist joke.
Here is the joke:
There was a black guy and a white guy.
They were debating over whether god was white or black.
The white guy said that there was only one way to find out and that is to
So they go up on a hill and they pray, and pray, and pray.
Finally they hear a voice say, “I am what I am.”
The white guy jumps up, and says, “Aha, I told you he was white.”
The black guy jumps up and says, “What do you mean? That didn’t prove
“Yes it did. Because if he was black he would’ve said I is what I is.”
Her insincere apology and defensive explanation on the Today show is the reason why she has been dropped by so many including Walmart and Target and her diabetes drug company.
It is not that she said the N words over two decades ago. It is that she now showed no remorse . it was her body language and how she said it that turned people off.