If you look at the earliest photos of Arnold and Maria and follow them to throughout the years to the present day, you will see a common theme. That theme is that they are completely not like minded. They never appear to be looking in the same direction, which reflects the fact that they were never on the same page. Look at the photos below and you will see how they consistently look in different direction,
Maria is looking towards the camera while Arnold looks off to the side when they were first dating.
In many photos of the two of them together, there is a great deal of physical distance between them, which is a very bad sign for any relationship.
There are also countless photos where Maria trails behind Arnold. They are not on equal footing. He always seems to be stepping out ahead of her. It indicates that it is all about him and that she is a mere appendage. She is there to make him look good.
In their later years together, it appears that could Arnold doesn’t even seem to acknowledge Maria. He essentially ignores her. It appears as though it could be anyone standing next to him. Body language wise, they continue to look in different directions which mirrors what they have done throughout their lives together.
Maria clearly adored Arnold as can be seen in so many of the photos. She looked at him with love and affection, but he rarely if ever, returned her affections publicly.
When she would reach out to him as you can see in this photo, he would essentially ignore her.
She was often the aggressor in their public displays of affection as she initialed kisses and other displays of affection,He continued to appear awkward and non responsive as he did not reciprocate her affections.
He continued to ignore her throughout the years which rendered her looking very unhappy.
In fact, in their later years together , she looked absolutely miserable whenever she was around him.
No doubt, when she learned of his constant alleged womanizing, she became increasingly unhappy. So when it was announced that Arnold had an affair and impregnated his mistress while there was an initial shock, it is no surprise. Rumors of affairs and harassmentswirled around him for years.
But what did come as a surprise and spoke volumes about Arnold was that his and Maria’s housekeeper was the mistress and lived and worked under the same roof as they did for two decades.To me that is the ultimate in Toxic Behavior.
Apparently the housekeeper told Arnold that the baby was his when the baby was a toddler. Arnold did the right thing and financially supported the boy and the mother. But who knows if he supported the boy emotionally. Now the boy is ten years old and it is said that he looks exactly like Arnold as reported by TMZ. In the pixeled out photo above, you can see how the boy resembles Arnold especially around the mouth and jaw area.
My main concern is about the psyche of this young boy who has had to keep his father’s identity a secret until now. Who knows if he even knew Arnold was his father until now? I do hope that Arnold has the sense to put the boy in therapy to help him cope with the public’s now knowing that he is Arnold’s illegitimate son.
There is no doubt that some agressive journalist will out this innocent young boy and not respect his privacy. After all there is a lot of money in paparazzi photos of a young newly discovered mini-Arnold. Perhap the mother and the boy will expose themselves publicly on their own. Whatever the case, the boy will need a strong support system for what lies ahead of him.
The pain Maria must be experiencing must be excruciating. She has been humiliated, betrayed and used in a very public way. Arnold sought her out and married her as a vehicle to help him achieve the American Dream. What better way of achieving the dream than by marrying into the Kennedy family. Her Kennedy family immediately legitimized him. It transformed him from a caricature of a muscle head bodybuilder to member of America’s most a respect and revered clan. It gave him even more contacts and pushed him up the social ladder until he became Governor of California. After achieving his goal, it appeared that he had no more use for Maria. He had nothing to lose by coming clean ten years later when he was finally out of office.
But now he now, he claims that he wants her back. It may be because of the negative repercussions on his ego and on his reputation and not because of anything else. Arnold was the untouchable Golden boy ever since he landed int he US. He was an action hero on film and an hero to some in real life. Now he has quickly gone from hero to zero.
But if he does happen to wins Maria back and does a mea culpa, things will look up for him once again as he does the Media Forgive Me tour.
While many feel that Maria should never allow him back into her life, love is stronger than anyone’s opinion, There is no doubt that she clearly loves him. That is one of the main reasons she has not rushed to file for divorce. Her strong Catholic faith may also sway her in the direction of keeping him. In the end, is her decision alone as to what she needs to do for herself. Will she follow in the footsteps of her grandmother and the other Kennedy women who were constantly cheated upon, yet grinned and bared it? Or will she be the first of the Kennedy women to actually leave and show some self respect ? .
Even though she has asked for people’s advice and feedback during her transition period, ultimately, she has to listen to what is in her heart.
The woman has recently gone through the loss of her uncle Ted who had brain cancer , her mother who had cancer, her father with Alzheimer’s, th ending her reign as First Lady of California and all that the position entailed, her kids maturing and headed for lives of their owny and eight years of being away from a high profile media career .
The last thing she needed to add to her already existing pain was to discover that her husband of over two decades fathered an illegitimate child with a housekeeper, who worked for her. The woman added to her pain fo betrayal by carrying on an affair with Arnold right under her nose and under her roof. If the housekeeper worked for Arnold and Maria for two decades, no doubt that Maria must have felt she was a loyal employee. So to be betrayed by a husband and a trusted employee is enough to send anyone over the edge. www.drlillianglass.com