The letters of Cindy Anthony to her daughter Casey who sits in jail as a result of her reporting to police that the car Casey was driving smelled like there was a dead body in it, are most revealing. It reveals a profile of someone who is experiencing guilt, denial, arrogance, aggression and omnipotence, who has to be in control. The level her smallness in the name calling of a Channel 9 reporter also reveals her level of immaturity.
Cindy writes They are still waiting for you to crack. I will not let that happen. This statement shows her controlling nature and feelings of omnipotence as she tells Casey that she will not let Casey crack. The reality is that she has no control over Casey and whether or not she will crack. Maybe she did in the past, but she certainly has no control over Casey now.
Then you see a slice of arrogance and defiance when she writes I don’t care who reads my letters.” It is the same defiance we have seen in Casey so it makes us more aware that the apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree. She also writes How much of this insanity are we supposed to endure ? Once again this reflects her victim mentality as in “look what they are doing to poor me.”
CINDY CONTROLLING FAMILY DYNAMIC
Cindy continues to show her controlling nature as she attempts to control the family dynamic by reassuring Casey that her brother Lee and father support her. This also shows her denial. In my view there is no possible way that Lee or George can fully support Casey when a. they must know deep down that she killed Caylee and b. she outed them for sexually molesting her. If she lied, how can they support her for falsely accusing them? If she is telling he truth, how can they support her for outing them?
CINDY IN DENIAL
Cindy writes “Lee has always been a very private person, so his wisdom has kept him away from most of this nonsense,” This clearly shows how much denial Cindy appears to be. First of all Lee is not so wise. We have all seen him act life a buffoon with his inappropriate laughter during depositions and on the witness stand. We have seen him inappropriately mouth “I love you” to Casey when he was on the stand. That in my view is not wisdom. Instead, it is stupidity. When she write ..kept him away from all of this nonsense it really shows her state of denial. One would never call having her daughter on trail for her life for killing her granddaughter nonsense.
CINDY’S GUILT AND PROJECTION
Her statement “Don’t let them destroy you.,” reflects the guilt she is no doubt feeling . Cindy is feeling destroyed about Casey and her present situation. It was Cindy who told Casey in a fit of anger that she was throwing her out and keeping Caylee. That is when Casey left with Caylee, who was never to be seen or heard from again. It is clear projection on Cindy’s part when she says not to let them destroy Casey because what has happened has clearly destroyed Cindy . It is obviously too painful for her to admit her role in all of this so she tells Casey to
“Hold on to the truth and know that Jesus is with you. He will protect you from your enemies.”
CINDY’S BLAMING THE ENEMIES
Once again we see the: us against them: denial pattern and blaming everyone else out there—the enemies” for her and Casey’s situation. It also reflects Cindy’s lack of taking responsibility and for allowing a dysfunctional stealing, lying. daughter to get away with her antics for a lifetime. Now that it has come to the point that her deviant her daughter is facing the death penalty, all she can do is play the victim and blame others instead of looking at herself and her role in all of this.
CONTROL FREAK CINDY RESURFACES
Her Control Freak nature surfaces once again as she gives Casey orders in command terms by writing I need you to stay focused and strong. Don’t let all of the games that the state’s attorney’s office is playing get to you. Referring to it as a “game” speaks volumes. rest assured that the Prosecution is not looking at this as a game.
CINDY’S FOCUS ON CASEY’S PHYSICAL APPEARANCE
Cindy also holds Casey’s looks and appearance at a premium as she comments on Casey’s hair length and how beautiful she looked. It is no wonder why Casey is so self-conscious in the courtroom and constantly grooms herself. Casey no doubt believes that her only worth in her mother’s eyes is evidently in how beautiful she looks . When a person’s daughter is facing the death penalty, their looks should be the least thing on a parent’s mind.
CINDY’S DISTORTED THINKING BY BEING “PROUD ” OF CASEY
When Cindy wrote in a letter to Casey, “I’m proud of you.” we can defiantly see how she has a distorted way of thinking. What is Cindy proud of? a. her daughter killing her granddaughter? b. Casey’s ignoring her and not acknowledging her in the courtroom as she strains to get Casey’ s attention? c. Casey’s sending law enforcement on a wild goose chase and lying to them? d. Casey’s trying to pin the blame on a fictitious Zanny the Nanny or e. All of the above? No one in their right mind would be proud of Casey under any circumstance.
CINDY’S IMMATURITY IN NAME-CALLING
Once again in blaming mode and making others the enemy, Cindy refers to a reporter as “Little Ms. witchy pooh from Channel 9. No doubt she was referring to Cathy Belich who asks provocative questionsn and who’s physcial appearance may not be up to Cindy’s standards. It also reflects Cindy’s immaturity level in having to resort to name- calling to make herself feel better and to release her anger and animosity at the reporter.
PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE ANGER AT CASEY
But when Cindy writes to Casey that she wants justice for Caylee more than anyone and says “I will not rest ever until that happens,” her comment may be a passive aggressive dig at Casey. It may be her attempt to indirectly lash out at Casey. She must know deep down what Casey did to Caylee, especially after reporting that the car smelled like a dead body was in it She wants justice for Caylee and no doubt is letting Casey know that she wants Casey to pay for what she did to Caylee.
We also see a sense of false idealization , The ways he signs off in each leeetr shows how she would like to feel about Casey. But unfortunately the reality is different. In all of her letters Cindy signs them Love you always and forever.I wonder if Cindy will love Casey always and forever as the trial begins and as she hears the gruesome accounts of what Casey no doubt did to Caylee. I wonder if she will love Casey always and forever when she is grilled on the stand and some unpleasant things come out about her pertaining to Casey. I wounder if she will love Casey always and forever if and when a unanimous jury finds her daughter guilty of murdering her granddaughter and sentences her to death.