Unlike his previous initial press conference several months ago when his body language reflected that he was not very sincere in his apologies, Tiger Wood’s recent press conference following now ex wife Elin’s post People Magazine interview, tells a completely different story.
It shows a very different Tiger- a sincere, upset, and extremely sad, reflective, and humbled Tiger.
Even though he tried to keep his emotions in check he was not successful at it. They leaked out anyway via his body language. In the above photo as he says that he is going through a sad time you not only see the sadness leaking out of his face as he is about to cry, buy you feel his pain and anguish.
LOOKING DOWN AS HE SPOKE TO SHOW UNEASE AND EMBARRASSMENT
When Tiger spoke he often looked down as it was often hard for him to maintain eye contact. This was especially true at the beginning when he spoke of Elin.
He appeared to be embarrassed and clearly shaken emotionally as he began to grasp the finality of the situation between he and Elin.
EYE BAGGAGE AND CIRCLES
His eyes were puffy and there were uncharacteristic circles and bags under his eyes. It may be due to time he may have spent crying in his private moments.
No doubt, the lack of sleep during these trying emotional times may have also contributed to these bags and darkened circles under his eyes.
DEEP EXHALES AND EMOTIONAL RELEASE OF BREATH
The most significant body language signal that tells us how a person really feels is reflected in their breathing patterns.
Tigers deep upper chest breathing and large exhalation bursts of air show that he was clearly upset. He was trying to gain control over his emotions though his numerous and obvious deep breaths but it wasn’t working.
EMOTIONAL STAMMERING AND REPETITIONS
When a person repeats words and phrases it often indicates they are uneasy about something. He was clearly uneasy as he spoke about Elin as he stammered ” I wish I wish her the best in everything “
Right after he sai this he took a deep breath to release the emotional tension he was harboring as he made this emotional filled statement.
He continued to stammmer and repeat words as he spoke of his sadness and Elin, He repeated words and phrased , “You know it’s it’s a sad time in our lives. And you know were looking forward it out lives”
FINALLY SETTING HIS PRIORITIES STRAIGHT.
The first time we actually saw Tigers eyes during his press conference was when he said “ As far as practicing and my game is concerned that is secondary.”
He looked up as he spoke those words as he was very sincere.Unfortunately it was too little too late as far as his now fractured family was concerned . But it showed that this was the awakening of a different Tiger Woods.
It seemed as though he finally ” got it” He not only saw how his actions hurt his family , he felt it. He then spoke of ” trying to get our kids situated in our new living conditions. ” As he spoke those words, he appeared to be forthright and serious as though he meant every word in this statement. His kids and their welfare are clearly his new priority.
AN OPEN TIGER
Tiger has never been this fluent, fluid and open. It was actually quite refreshing to see a connected Tiger as he spoke of his career. His tonal quality indicated that he spoke from his heart
When Tiger said “ My decision in playing golf had nothing to do with going our separate ways. ” he sounded believable. He then looked directly at the persona asking the question, thereby reflecting his sincerity as he paused for a time to reflect on what he said.
AN INSPIRATIONAL TIGER
When asked if it was a lost year, Tiger said that he didn’t look at it this way , he said that even though there were a lot of negatives it was actually a good thing because I leaned a lot about myself and how I could be come a better person .
He said something like that in his first mea culpa press conference, but it did not ring true. At that time, it was awkward and contrived.But this time, he sounded very believable and sincere.
A SAD TIGER WHEN REFLECTING ON HIS MARRIAGE
As Tiger said ” You dont go into a marriage thinking your going to get divorced” you can see him shake his head no. This indicates that his words were consistent with his thought.
He was then asked” Do you have any regrets ? His reply was ” Certainly my actions lead us to this decision.” For the first time Tiger not only sounds believable, but his words and tone indicate that he is actually taking FULL responsibility for his behavior.
There is no rehearsed rhetoric or blame. Instead, he fully owns it. It was actually humbling to see and hear .
A HUMBLED TIGER
He looked down as he looked very sad when he reflected on his statement “ I made a lot of errors in my life and that is something I;m gonna have to live with.” As he said this you could literally see that he was processing the full impact of these intense words. The tone of his voice cracked a bit as this was clearly a unique and emotional moment for him.
COMPASSION AND FORGIVENESS
Gone s the arrogant cocky self absorbed insincere Tiger. Instead, Tiger appeared genuine, hurt and extremely vulnerable. He obviously got what was important to him and no doubt he felt it for the first tome in his previously entitled life.
It was a hard lesson to learn and it cost him a lot, He paid the ultimate proce for his actions, the loss of his beloved family. Maybe Tiger will be changed man from this. Even with his recent losses, he’s already been the best golfer. But now his challenge is to be the best person he can be.
He knows that he hurt and disappointed a lot of people. Before his divorce was final these were merely empty words. But now, based on his body language and vocal tone, his words appeared real and meaningful. .
Perhaps this is the start of our seeing a new an improved Tiger and the better person he strives to become.