First and foremost I want to make it clear that I am not Jon bashing. I am merely asking a question here. In the past we have seen these two go at it to make one another look bad. I was wondering of this was one of those times or if those kids are really suffering at the hands of Kate. The tone of their crys were haunting. As someone who knows a lot about the human voice and sounds made from that voice, including crying,I can tell you for sure that those were not crys of hunger, or lack of sleep, or not getting what you want such as a a toy. They were crys of fear, terror,a nd angusih.
Not that I am defending Kate by any means, I am just curious as to whether things are that bad or manipulate to look that bad.
I recently received countless emails from my dear readers and fans asking me to analyze the body language of Jon Gosselin and the Gosselin kids when he drove them up to the gate of their home and they were sobbing. Many reported that they felt the video was heartbreaking and wanted me to analyze what I thought was really going on.
I have to admit that after initially watching the video, my heart went out when I heard terror in the sound of the voices of the sobbing children. It seemed that they could not stop sobbing. At first glance it looked like the kids were sobbing because they love their father so much and they didn’t want him to leave them after spending time with him. It appeared that they felt terrorized that they had to go back home to Kate. Maybe that is the case.
SOMETHING IS OFF HERE
But there may be another side to the situation as well. On a closer inspection, it appeared to me that the whole video might possibly be contrived and manipulated by Jon in order to get some media attention and public sympathy and to make Kate look bad. Not that Kate hasn’t proven to look bad on her own. The whole situation makes me want to ask a number of questions . Not that I am not accusing Jon of anything, I am just asking questions.
First of all how come there is only one paparazzi there? Usually there are lots of papps but that day there was only one. And how come the papp was asking such leading and spinful questions? And how come Jon spoke to the papp when he was instructed to never speak to them? It was my undertsanding that as part of Jon’s legal agreement with TLC he is to not say even one word to them.
The papp loudly and openly asks Jon if Kate will come out to meet him. To me , it seems that the question was rehearsed. Jon immediately responds, as if on cue, that probably the nanny will be the one to come get them. As I said, it is odd in that Jon has been instructed to not speak to the papps. But in this case, he speaks. It’s like this little movie scene was shot with the purpose of letting the audience know that Kate can”t even bothered to pick up her own kids and that the nanny has to do it.
It is also very odd that does Jon not have the entry code to get through the gate to drop his own kids off in front of their own home. I am told that Jon has been banned from entering the gate of the home, but I would think that he would be given the code in case of an emergency situation. If that is the case, I think it is very wrong. Those are his kids and he needs to have the code.If Kate doesn’t want Jon to bring his girlfriends or anyone else on the property then Kate needs to work that out with him. But to not give him the code is unconscionable. If that is the case and he does not have a code it is as though he is waiting therein the role of a delivery person,insted of the is the father.
When Jon reached out to touch the intercom and said “I can’t hear you.” It was said in a monotone devoid of inflection or concern. Granted he has always had a monotone,but most people who were tired and couldn’t get thorugh after a long day and upset kids, would should a little more inflection and upset in theor voice. Who was on the other end of the intercom and why could Jon not hear them? Why didn’t he try and try again to contact them or to push specific buttons until he could finally hear them? Was there really anyone at the other end of the intercom at all? Did he pretend there was someone there? Why did he give up so easily? Why didn’t he use his cell to call the house to tell whomever was there to open the gate to get the kids into their home? I am just asking these questions, as another point fo view.
Then Jon gets out of the van and says “I love you too. hold on.” He then goes over to the sliding door of the van to get access to the kids . As he enters the van and confronts the kids he says the words “don’t panic,”
Why would he say “don’t panic” , That was an intersting choice of wors. As he said that I could definately hear that the crys were crys of panic and terror. Were they really panic and in terror becuase they had to go home to Kate;s house> What is going on in there to cause them so much panic? Or the other side of the coin is , did Jon possibly say something to them which frightened them or caused them to panic ? Did he say something to them scared and afraid?
Instead of closing the door behind him to console several of the crying children, he manages to leave the van door open so that papp can conveniently shoot all the footage. The kids definatey sound terrorized.
Were the kids really crying becuase they were so frightened to go home becuase they felt something bad would happen to them or did Jon say something to those kids to get them to cry like that? Why are they all crying at once? Why do they sound so scared?
As a body language and communicaiton expert I have studied various crys and what they mean. That is why I am even writing this blog. That cry is not the whining cry of not wanting to do someting or the cry of being overtred and cranky. Those crys were crys of fear and terror. They were jarring, unlike other crys. The fact that the same type of cry was amplified by all of those kids was very disturving.
Maybe one or two kids might cry at once, but the fact that ALL of them seemed to be sobbing in unison makes me wonder if he didn’t say something to ALL of them that indeed caused then to “panic.” or they were indeed panicked to be at Kate’s home. I don’t ever remember any of the kids crying in unison like that on any of the previous Jon and Kate shows.
Jon gets to the first row of kids and hugs one of them. Then more screaming and wailing little voices are heard as Jon goes to the next row of kids and attempts to comfort them as well. Then Jon goes back to the first row of kids and comforts them. Why do these kids need all that comforting? . Six year olds can usually be comforted with reassuring words. It is difficult to comfort infants becuase they don;t have the words to tell you what is wrong. But had the words to express themselves, yet their emotional distress did not ease, even after they were allegedly comforted by Jon. That is diconcerting.
Even though there are still wails and screams, Jon steps out of the van. Conveniently, younger twin, Maddy shows up with outstretched arms with two little fists at the end . In essence she is requesting a hug from daddy. But her clenched fists show hidden anger. So does her lack of genuine smiling. She is upset about something. Maybe she was upset that she didn’t get to spend indicudual time with Jon or maybe she was told to come out to greet the van and maybe she didn;t want to do it.
They hug in an awkward embrace as Mady then turns her head to the side as if to purposefully face a camera man. She then walks into the van and Jon follows her in. Maybe he called her to help quell the sextuplets.
Suddenly, her her twin sister Cara shows up and waits her turn to hug Jon.
She awkwardly waits outside the van until Jon comes out. At one point she reaches her arms out Jon as if to hug him, but his back is turned. In the meantime, Jon is still comforting the screaming kids with MAdy ont he van as well. It is not helping.
Then he closes the door and awkwardly hugs Cara from the side , who like Mady turns her head towards the camera sans smile. It looked odd and unnatural, as though she wasn’t that happy to see Jon. It looked as they were hugging in a position to get a good camera angle. Jon spends several seconds hugging her. Was that done for the camer or was she summonded to the van to help him quiet the upset children?
Meanwhile, all the kids are still screaming and Jon suddenly goes from the loving looking action of hugging to severely yelling at the kids as he turns away from Cara and towards the van.
He loudly screams ‘ENOUGH! THAT’S ENOUGH! The kids still scream and sob as he helps Cara into the van. He is obviously frustrated and had enough of their terrorized screams. My only question is why are they screaming?
He then walks away from the van with six screaming kids and the twins locked up inside of the van. His hands are in his pockets and he looks down as the papp conveniently says in a tone that makes him sound like a bad actor “The kids seem really upset to leave you. I imagine you feel the same.” To me this may have possibly sounded scripted. It sounded like it was a planned act to get the public to think that the kids were sobbing because they were leaving their “wonderful” dad and forced to go back to their “mean” mother that he was devasted to leave them becuase they were going onto a house of terror. My only question again is are they really that terrorized or did Jon say something to them, even inadvertenly that created this panic int hem. Jon then gets into a male friend’s car.
Did Jon do this in order to get the public to think they didn’t want to go back to their mother’s home, but rather wanted to stay with him becuase life with Kate is unbearable?
While Jon has been and affectionate and loving parent on a consistent basis , did he cooperate with the papp to to gain attention and to once again be in the press or is this a real problem for the children? The only way we will ever know what really happened is the find out from the kids and until they are old enough to write a book about their experiences int he Gosselin household then we will never know for sure.