Naomi Campbell’s Body Language and Vocal Tone On Oprah Indicates She May Continue To Be A Danger to Others As She “Sees Red,” Is In Denial, and Full of Blaming Others


NAOMI NEEDS TO BE TALKING TO  A MENTAL HEATH PROFESSIONAL INSTEAD OF  OPRAH

Perhaps one of the most disturbing interviews I have ever seen was watching model Naomi Campbell on Oprah.

Naomi’s :

crying for no reason for no reason  at all

not knowing why she was crying  when asked by Oprah,

her telling Oprah that she” sees red’ and then doesn’t remember anything and

her making countless excuses for her egregious behavior

leads me to believe that she is a clear  danger to anyone who has to  work with her or deal with her personally or professionally.

A  person with  no clue why they act the way they do and  abuses others because they   don’t do exactly what is expected,   is  a TOXIC PERSON  and frightening to be around.

Perhaps Oprah may have even sensed that Naomi might possibly  be dangerous and go off on her as well, especially after Naomi said that she “sees red” and then doesn’t remember what happens after she goes off on someone.

Maybe that  is why  Oprah’s body language indicated that she was particularly gentle with Naomi on her show. Perhaps she didn’t want to upset Naomi to the point that she  saw  red and ended up throwing  something at Oprah.

WHY OPRAH HAD NAOMI ON THE SHOW AND WHAT NAOMI WAS TRYING TO ACCOMPLISH BY BEING ON THE SHOW?

We obviously  know why Oprah had Naomi on the show- sweeps ot  ratings season.  But what was Naomi’s reason for being on Oprah’s show?

She had nothing to promote and really had nothing  of value  to say except make excuses for her bad behavior and to display how TOXIC she was.

Sometimes people go on Oprah to set the record straight. They want to tell their side of the story and to let the public know who they  really are.

Well Naomi’s appearance definitely let everyone know who she is- a  very disturbed woman  in my view who needs to be  feared until she gets some major professional help and gets her anger in control .

Looking at the little red Kabballah bracelet tied to her wrist, it will take a lot more than Kabbalah, Madonna’s  organization  to set this woman straight. It will take hours and hours of serious  therapy by a qualified professional.

NAOMI BEING A SELF ADMITTED” CONTROL FREAK”  SPEAKS TO HER IMMATURITY, LACK OF SELF CONTROL, BOUNDARIES AND IMMATURITY AND BEING A  TOXIC PERSON

While not everyone who is a self admitted control freak is abusive, being a control freak and not being flexible and tolerant of others can  often lead towards abusing others.

Look at another self admitted “control freak,” Kate Gosselin and how she abused her former husband Jon, her kids, and most recently, her dancing partner on Dancing With the Stars, Tony Dovalani.

While Kate has been seen throwing clothing and toys,  Naomi’s throwing items like cell phones and other items and hitting people and  ABC cameras shows that this woman is out of control herself.

This is the case with most control freaks. They cannot control themselves and their own impulses , so  they try to control others and everyone around them.

When A baby doesn’t get their way, they cry or often throw a tantrum.  That is exactly what Naomi does. She obviously hasn’t grown up. She still resorts to this immature and infantile behavior.  Mature grownups use words. They don’t throw  things at others and hit them.

BRINGING HER  MARRIED BOYFRIEND ON THE SHOW DID NOT ENDEAR NAOMI TO MANY VIEWERS


For someone who espouses to do the right thing and encourages moral turpitude, it didn’t seem very  Oprah-like to me to allow Naomi to display her married boyfriend on the show like a first grader brings a pet turtle to school for “show and tell.”

I don’t care if the man is  a handsome Russian or  looks like he stepped  out of the pages of Gentleman’s Quarterly, or that he has been separated for ten years.

I don’t care if he said it twice or twenty times. The fact is that  he is still a  married man and doesn’t sit right with a lot of viewers. That did not help Naomi in trying to rehab her image on Oprah in my view. Instead, it showed very poor judgment on her part.

Control Freaks as Naomi  described herself, may be on their best behavior with a  lover  Naomi  says she likes to have a man in control. So  no doubt,  her Russian married boyfriend agrees with this philosophy or  he wouldn’t be with her for very  long.

But eventually one’s the real personality  comes out. So no doubt when Naomi starts showing more signs of a  her control freak nature, who uses violence to get her way, her married Russian lover may go back to the  wife to whom he was separated  from for the past  ten years.

NAOMI  IF FULL OF THE BLAME GAME  FROM ACCUSING ABC OF PUTTING IN SOUND EFFECTS WHEN SHE HIT THE CAMERA TO HER EMPTY WORDS ABOUT AN ABANDONED CHILDHOOD

As soon as Naomi  spoke she turned millions off  viewers. While she had every right to not speak  about an issue when she was interviewed and  even had a right to walk off the set if it upset her that much, she did NOT  have  right to slap a producer’s camera on her way out.

She could have done some major damage to extremely sensitive and sophisticated equipment.

Naomi claimed to Oprah that there was “a sound effect” added to the ABC News reports on the incident. ABC News claims that they  did not add any sound effects to the ABC News reports on the alleged blood diamond gift, which aired April 22 on both World News and Nightline.

I believe them as  news organizations do not do such things. Having worked for ABC’s Los Angeles’ affiliate  myself as a reporter, I can assure you that this does NOT happen.

Naomi had no accountability whatsoever.  ‘She actually smiled  as smug smile as you can see in the above photo. She spoke about her lashing out as though she was proud of her TOXIC  behavior.

EXCUSES, EXCUSES , AND MORE  EXCUSES  AS SHE EXPLAINS HER THROWING THINGS COMES FROM  ABANDONMENT ISSUES

Naomi had to clarify that it was not a jewel encrusted phone that she threw at the housekeeper but a regular one!

When Oprah calmly asked her “What it is in you that tells you it’s OK thow throw things?” Naomi looks away  and says  sees red  as she said she didn’t even remember why she threw the phone at the housekeeper who couldn’t find her jeans. She says  “ I don’t remember  I just threw the phone .

She then goes on to say “I’m ashamed.”  Nut Naomi showed no visible body language signs of shame  and no vocal signs of shame. It was clearly  noting more than rehearsed rhetoric, especially when she attributed her actions to “abandonment issues.”

After  Naomi had no clue or  insight as to why she behaves as she does, she decided to bring in some psychology  101 and discuss “abandonment issues.”

As she discussed this she looked down. She couldn’t even look at Oprah as she knew this was complete BS.  Like Oprah remarked in a calm monotone, lots of people have abandonment issues and mamma issues and  they don’t throw things.

When Naomi tied to  lamely explain that since she was abandoned she keeps trying to build   up a family around her “ that’s not my immediate family.” She goes on to say that  if  she feels  a mistrust then”  she let’s loose with her violent behavior.

Well here is a clue  Naomi. Your helpers and assistants and cab drivers and people on airplanes and taxi drivers are NOT your family.

I would say create a real family of your own, but on second thought until you get your anger and your psychological issues sorted out, it would be a tragedy to bring anyone into your life and abuse them like you have constantly abused others.

NAOMI”S MOTHER SPILLS THE BEANS


While Naomi tried to attribute her issues on to her mother, he mother let out some very valuable information about Naomi.

She said that she worked hard as a 19 year old mother and sacrificed a lot so that Naomi could have everything she wanted and get a great education and attend private schools.

This screams at what an ingrate Naomi is. Instead of focusing on what she didn’t have – her mother’s time, she needs to focus on what she did have- and how her mother made  every opportunity possible like going to private school.  Perhaps that would help her diffuse her internal rage.

PLAYING THE VICTIM ROLE COMPLETE WITH TEARS


When a person cries  and cries  and can’t tell you why they are crying, a possibility is that they are in a depression.

But when one is  on Oprah and  doesn’t wipe off their tears and leaves them there to glisten, chances are very high that they are using their tears as a form of manipulation in leaving them there for effect. They want  you to feel sorry or pity for them.

I have no doubt that this was the case with Naomi. Oprah offered her a kleenex,  but the tears were still there, glistening. Also when she wiped away some non tears that is when I was convinced it was all for effect and all for control and manipulation.

THUMBING HER NOSE UP AT HER PUNISHMENT FOR COMMUNITY SERVICE


When Naomi had to undergo hours of community service she wore her designer clothing complete with evening gown.  This was an obvious message to the powers that be. She tried to explain it away that she had a photo shoot afterwards.

One does NOT come to photo shoots in a designer gown.  The gown is usually put on  at the time of the photo  shoot as to not ruin it  with perspiration or dirt.

If she was doing her community service washing out toilets and floors, there is a high percentage that she would get some dirt and grime on her gown. So what she was saying was ridiculous.

She then tried to spin it that she had nice clothing  and likes to dress well and so she wore what she usually wears.  Puhleeze!

It was clear as to what Naomi was doing and saying by this action.  Her message was  “ I am above it I am entitled and I will show you!  I will wear  designer elegant gowns to your lowly common community service to further rub in your face just who I am!”

It was clear that she was thumbing her nose at the system in a very immature way.

PRETTY IS AS PRETTY DOES AND  NAOMI IS NOT PRETTY


Watching Oprah fawn over Naomi and drool over how beautiful she was and the perfection 0f her body was absolutely  sickening to me. In my eyes. When Oprah spoke about how she envied Naomi and her glamorous life, it spoke volumes about Oprah and her insecurities about her looks and self admitted weight issues.

Naomi is anything but pretty, attractive, or  beautiful in my eyes.  In fact she is quite the opposite. I strongly subscribe to the “pretty is as pretty does” philosophy.

So what is she has a proportional figure which makes her sexy to men as Bono said.  Maybe in her past she took cocaine to keep thin and keep her model figure as so many models did back in the day.

But now that she is 40,  she showed that she spends hours and hours a day of grueling exercise to keep that figure. That is her job.  As a live mannequin , Ii she gets flabby she won’t look as good in the clothing  which people pay her a  lot of money to showcase.

Anyone who is that nasty, clueless, in denial, unaccountable for their actions,  superficial and remorseless is anything but pretty in my eyes !

NO REMORSE  IN VOCAL TONE AS SHE CLAIMS  TO WANTS TO BE A BETTER PERSON

Wearing her  her little red $20  Kabbalah Center string on her wrist, Naomi wipes away  her contrived  tears as  in a monotone, she  says  that she wants to be a better person.

Based on her lack of emotion in her tone and her looking away, and lack of  remorse in her facial expression or body language,  those appeared to be empty words. They sounded good but they were  not heartfelt.

If Naomi wants to be a better person, the first thing she needs to so is stop working and gallivanting around and get into some serious  and intensive therapy before she interacts with others.

She needs to give some of her millions that she earned throughout the years to charitable causes like the Smile Train  Foundation or Doctors Without Borders who operate on patients with facial deformities.

A better person gives and is not  only consumed with themselves. They donate their time and efforts to help others.

Maybe Naomi needs to start at modeling school or class  for inner city young women to help them build their self esteem.

Finally anyone who wants to  be a better person does the right thing. That includes  not going with a married man – even if he has been separated for ten years. If he hasn’t divorced his wife and made a commitment,  it means that he is still connected to his wife.

Oprah’s last words to Naomi was that she hopes she finds peace and that Naomi not spend as much time on her  external  world  and more on her  internal world.

That is like asking a duck to use a computer.  What Oprah really needed to say was, “run and see a therapist as soon as you can because you have clearly demonstrated  on this show that you are in serious need of help.” www.drlillianglass.com

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One thought on “Naomi Campbell’s Body Language and Vocal Tone On Oprah Indicates She May Continue To Be A Danger to Others As She “Sees Red,” Is In Denial, and Full of Blaming Others

  1. Perhaps Naomi appeared on Oprah for compassion or attention. If her motivation was the latter, she probably left frustrated because Oprah is rather attention-seeking herself. Back to Naomi, though. Her self-report could indicate Borderline Personality Disorder:

    “The main dynamic in the Borderline Personality Disorder is abandonment anxiety. Like codependents, borderlines attempt to preempt or prevent abandonment (both real and imagined) by their nearest and dearest. They cling frantically and counter-productively to their partners, mates, spouses, friends, children, or even neighbors. This fierce attachment is coupled with idealization and then swift and merciless devaluation of the borderline’s target.

    Exactly like the narcissist, the borderline patient elicits constant narcissistic supply (attention, affirmation, adulation, approval) to regulate her gyrating sense of self-worth and her chaotic self-image, to shore up serious, marked, persistent, and ubiquitous deficits in self-esteem and Ego functions, and to counter the gnawing emptiness at her core.

    “(Borderlines) shift dizzyingly between dysphoria (sadness or depression) and euphoria, manic self-confidence and paralyzing anxiety, irritability and indifference. This is reminiscent of the mood swings of Bipolar Disorder patients. But Borderlines are much angrier and more violent. They usually get into physical fights, throw temper tantrums, and have frightening rage attacks.

    When stressed, many Borderlines become psychotic, though only briefly (psychotic micro-episodes), or develop transient paranoid ideation and ideas of reference (the erroneous conviction that one is the focus of derision and malicious gossip). Dissociative symptoms are not uncommon (“losing” stretches of time, or objects, and forgetting events or facts with emotional content).”
    http://samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders18.html

    The last paragraph is significant in that Naomi “sees red” and doesn’t remember what happens. Anger and rage, grandiose thinking, history of substance abuse, controlling and manipulative behavior, are associated with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Bipolar Disorder as well. Personality disorders are usually co-morbid with mood and anxiety disorders. Crying for no reason certainly is a symptom of depression.

    I believe Naomi has been told by a therapist that she has abandonment issues, but she seems to try to rationalize her behavior. There is no rationalizing these disorders. They are Cluster B disorders, linked to emotion and occur in persons of certain innate emotional temperaments.

    Kate Gosselin, who is narcissistic if not somewhere in the bipolar spectrum, recently told a TV host, “My gut feelings are always right.” Personality disorders are themselves defense mechanisms on a grand scale. They are thought to begin in childhood or early adolescence as problems in personal development. The problem is exacerbated by environmental factors such as rejection by a parent or repeated abuse. Cluster B disorders are perhaps the most difficult to treat because the patients generally do not find their behavior objectionable or alien to themselves.

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