As the Body Language Analyst for The Insider, I was at CBS Studios yesterday doing a language analysis post mortem on Gary Coleman’s behavior after he stormed off the set. Gary was interviewed by the panel consisting of anchors Lara and Chris, steady guest panelist Neece Nash and guest panelist Lisa Bloom. He became very hostile and verbally abusive towards Lisa which was frightening to watch.
It was equally shocking to see how once loveable Gary tuned out. His defensiveness and his telling that he has thoughts of not being on this earth were raw were painful to watch. But what was even more painful to watch was his shocking behavior on the set of the Insider.
EMBARRASSMENT AND ESCALATION OF ANGER
Throughout the interview, you could see Gary’s anger escalate. He was very uncomfortable talking about his recent arrest and having to spend time in jail.
It was embarrassing to him, You could tell he was embarrassed as when he spoke he often had his eyes closed, He didn’t want to look at anyone as he spoke about these obviously embarrassing and painful issues. When someone closes their eyes whent hey speak to you, it usually means that they want to disconnect from you and not face you. It reveals embarrassment and shame.
DEFENSIVE AND HOSTILE VOCAL TONES
His tone was extremely defensive and hostile . He made excuses for his behavior and appeared to be in denial as he discussed why he landed in jail. There was also a whininess in his tone which was further indication that he was on the defensive. He seemed to blame everyone instead of taking responsibility for his actions. He blamed his wife and even blamed everyone including his fans.
SHOCKING REVELATIONS OF SUICIDAL THOUGHTS
What was the most shocking revelation was when Gary spoke of his thoughts of ending his life and not being on this earth. He was serious as there was conviciton in his voice when he said these words. This was scary and cler indication that he definateLy needs medical attention. He also mentioned that he had bipolar disorder.
PROBING QUESTIONS ON THE HOT SEAT APPEARED TO BE TOO MUCH FOR GARY
Gary was asked whether or not he was still a virgin by Neece Nash – a question Gary refused to answer directly. Even though he admitted he was a virgin when he was 40, he was not married at the time. He was flustered by this line of questioning and perhaps rightfullyso.
But instead of giving an simple yes or no direct yes or no answe,he skirted the issue which made one wonder of he was still a virgin and whether his physical or medical condition prevented him from consummating his marriage. In an exasperated and angry tone he repeatedly answered that he was married and asked “what you do think?” You could see him becoming very stressed at this point.
CONCERN FOR GARY
When Gary spoke of thinking about ending his life, the whole panel became concerned and appeared to reach out to him. In fact, former prosecutor Lisa Bloom initially reached out to him and touched his arm to reassure him that there was help available for him with his condition.
MEDICATIONS MAY NOT WORK FOR EVERYONE INCLUDING GARY
He shot back that the medications couldn’t help him. This may very well be the case as it pertains to him. In fact int he recent issue of Newsweek Magazine the cover story is about the ongoing debate about Antidepressants not working for patients. In some people medications do not work.
In others there is such an extensive trial and error period to find the right medication and the right dosage that this alone could be debilitating.
In others, the side effects of the medication may be worse than the disorder. And still in others certain medications may not work well when combined with other medications and other medical procedures.
The fact that Gary reportedly goes through dialysis for his kidney problems on a daily basis and may possibly take other medications may be an issue as well. So when he said that medications don’t work for him, he may have a point .
FINGER POINTING AND GARY CURSING LISA OUT
Then body language wise, Lisa may have unknowing done something that Gary perceived as even more hostile. She pointed her finger at him as she spoke. You can see him physically back up as she does this. Then Gary lets loose with a tirade of vulgarities and in essence curses Lisa out.
She then asks him pint blank if he speaks this way to his wife, He says that he doesn’t unless he has to.
If he spoke this way to a perfect stranger, Lisa Bloom, no telling how he is speaking to his wife at home. You could see Gary’s anger escalate as the veins in his temple region became visibly prominent. He even pointed his finger back at Lisa as she spewed forth obscenities.
Luckily, Gary took off his microphone and left the set. He left the set cursing all the way to his limo, but nevertheless he left without punching anyone out or using a weapon.
THE PSYCHIATRIST WEIGHS IN ON GARY BEING A DANGER
Even psychiatrist Dr. Charles Sophy who came on the set to discuss the aftermath of Gary’s behavioral tirade, said that it was frightening and he could have been dangerous right before he walked off the set.
Gary did admit on camera that he had bipolar disorder. The worst thing for someone with Bipolar disorder is stress as it brings out the worst behavior in a person with that condition. No doubt that Gary was completely stressed out when he was being interviewed and being on the hot seat . Talking about the arrest, his marriage, his intimacy, and feeling as though he was put into a corner. It obviously brought out the worst in him.
GARY KNEW AHEAD OF TIME WHAT HE SIGNED UP TO DO
While Lisa is great and a wonderful legal analyst and prosecutor, in retrospect, think that after Gary reveled he was bipolar, perhaps she could have not been so aggressive with him in terms of her tone and the finger pointing behavior. It was the finger pointing in my view that casued Gary to back u and become very hostile towards her.
While the confrontation made great TV, it certainly was jarring to Gary for him to react as he did.
On the other hand, Gary knew that this would be the focus of the show and that he would be on the hot seat and would be grilled. He is a seasoned professional and knew what he signed up for and he did not have to be there. No one forced him to do the show. In fact at the beginning of the show he said that he was there for the money.
WALKING OFF A SET IS PROFESSIONAL SUICIDE
Gary being the professional he is and literally growing up on television and film sets, knows that you NEVER walk of any set. You handle yourself and deal with what has to be dealt with while the cameras are rolling, no matter what. You NEVER walk off any set! That is the professional suicide. But obviously the stress was so intense he had to break it, by leaving the set.
At one point during his interview he also tries to break the stress level my changing the subject and telling Chris he looks like Matt Lauer which was a complement. But then he takes that compliment back by telling Chris he doesn;t want hin to get a swelled head. It was said as a tension releaser.
GARY’S PARTING SHOT
His parting shot was to obscenely put up his finger and shout an obscenity into the camera as he got inside the awaiting limousine, which ironically happened to be Lisa Bloom’s limousine.
In the wake of Gary’s tirade, he left a lot of frightened and upset people. Many of the cast and crew were frightened by his behavior, especially towards the end. There is no doubt that seeing this scenario unfold on camera is jarring to Gary’s many fans who grew up watching and loving him.
It is clear from his anger filled behavior that Gary needs to get himself sorted out before he makes any additional public appearances. He needs to put himself in situations where he doesn’t get that stressed, especially of he isn’t taking medication to help control his Bipolar disorder.
PRAYERS FOR GARY
I pray for Gary that he does not self- destruct. He needs to take a more positive approach to life and count his blessings. There are people who really love him out there, like one of his fans who bailed him out of jail, whom he has yet to thank.
Gary has been through a lot of hell with his health issues that he has discussed publicly. He has been through a lot with his TOXIC parents literally ripping him off financially and leaving him destitute. He has had to endure a lot of public ridicule throughout the years.
He reportedly felt the public humiliation at having to work as a mall security guard to earn a living after being at the top of a show business career. He felt humiliated by the play Avenue Q where he was parodied and felt helpless because he didn’t have the money to sue. He has had many runs ins with so may people that landed him in the headlines in a negative way.
My heart goes out to Gary because there is no doubt that life has been difficult for him . But life has also been great for him and he needs to look at all of those great things in his life and count his blessings.
Maybe that will help him eliminate some of the internal stress and hostility he harbors and give him a happier more productive life. There is no doubt that Gary needs professional help. Even if he doesn’t take medication,in my opinion he needs to have someone on hand whom he can speak with on a regular basis to help him cope with his issues.
You can see my body language analysis of Gary Coleman on the Insider tonight on CBS at 7:30 PM http://www.drlillianglass.com