The Body Language of “Itless” Infamy On TV And the Message It Send To Young Girls

It never ceases to amaze me when I see who shows up on a TV gig or their own show these days. In many instances, it doesn’t matter if they have talent, a skill, and education, on camera experience, charisma or the IT factor. It seems that these days if  some women take of their clothes, sleep with a rich and powerful married guy, make a sex tape, have lots of babies at once, or are a train wreck, there is a good chance you may make it to the TV screen for your 15 minutes to one hour of fame if not more.


While Rachel Uchitel May have IT in the bedroom, based on her affairs with rich and powerful men including, Tiger Woods, in my view she was clearly ITLESS as she appeared on Extra with her nasal monotone, choked off , throat- closing voice, and lack of charisma .Even so, this ITLESS non- camera talent, like her or not, has a regular gig on Extra where she will be covering the party scene.


Equally “ ITLESS” non-camera talent who obviously had IT in the bedroom was prostitute Ashley Dupree, who’s liason with former NY Governor Elliott Spitzer, stripped him of his office. As much IT as she had in the bedroom, was as much” ITLESSNESS” she had when she appeared throughout the media giving advice to the other prostitute/ call girls/ mistresses and to Tiger’s wife Elin. Dupree consistently wore a mean-looking mono- faced expression as she doled out her limited and in my view lame advice!

Yet, she is not only giving that advice over the airwaves on top rated shows, this uneducated unprofessionally trained Elliot Spitzer prostitute, is disseminating advice on a regular basis in print , in the New York Post.



Tiger’s whores and mistresses and call girls are also cashing in big and getting their share of fame. Jaime Grubbs who is now posing for Maxim magazine and Jaime Jungers both got their 15 minutes of fame by appearing on top rated shows as the Today Show and Access Hollywood. Apparently there is also talk of a reality show consisting of all of Tiger’s mistresses.

While Jungers is monotone and monofaced, I do believe that Jaime Grubbs, actually seems to have little bit of the IT factor.

She has some life to her based on how she comes across in her interviews. I especially saw some watchability and likeability in her personality as she recently appeared in a Radaronline interview discussing her Native American heritage.


Now, ITLESS  Nadya Suleman who’s claim to fame was irresponsibly undergoing fertility treatment to have 8 more children when already had 6 that she could barely care for, is allegedly in talks with the Game Show Network about doing a dating show with her.
While she definitely needs the money to feed and care for her brood, getting your own show when you have no media experience is absurd. If she hosts a talk show I think that is a bad idea.

But if she  has a show where the premise of the show is to find her a boyfriend or a husband to help her with her babies, that might be a good idea. After all, why shouldn’t Nayda get some love in her life? I only hope it is not a show where her babies will be ever exploited. So far she has been really good about not exposing them.


Then there is the other woman who also rose to public fame as a result of taking fertility pills and ending up with sextuplets. On her Jon and Kate Plus 8 Show we saw Kate Gosselin abuse her husband, yell at her kids, throw things, and have multiple tantrums. It was not a pretty sight.

On her TLC Specials we saw her self -centeredness, sarcasm, snarkiness and arrogance up close and personal, as we watched her disrespectfully throw her papers on the ground containing viewers questions. Then we had to endure her fake tears as she publically complained about the father of her children.

Nevertheless, TLC is rewarding Kate’s abusive and bad behavior with her own show. They aren’t even sure of the format. At first they said it would be a talk show. Then it was changed to a dating show and apparently now it is a show where Kate does various jobs, like the old Simple Life on MTV with Paris Hilton and Nichole Richie.

While they are trying to give Kate some experience and develop her chops by having her serve a guest host on the View, in my personal view she still remains ITLESS. No matter how many image makeovers or hair extensions they give her and how much money she needs to support her brood, I personally can’t seem to erase the images of all of her egregious and abusive behaviors that have been engrained in my mind as I recall her previous antics on TV and in photos throughout the years.

And please don’t tell me what inspirational single mothers Kate and Nadya are and how difficult it is to have so many children to raise. No one forced the fertility drugs down their throats. They knew the risks, especially Kate who was a bona fide nurse at the time.

These two have an army of nannies and helpers, giving them plenty of time to get hair extensions and their nails done regularly, go to the gym, and pick out nice outfits to wear, as they gallivant around in limos to get them their various TV gigs.

Instead, tell me about the single mothers who have to do it ALL by themselves- the cooking the cleaning the clothes washing, the driving, the care taking on a full-time basis, so they don’t have time to go to the gym or get their hair done or nails manicured .

Tell me about the mothers who have to raise their kids on their OWN with NO HELP and yet stay up late and during their kid’s nap times and school times, take classes on- line so they can get a college education and earn a degree to better their lives. These women are inspirations to me and would be to any young woman out there.


While Kim Kardashian is very pretty, after she opens her mouth and you hear her uptalk, nasality and monotone in my opinion, that is where her prettiness ends. Why is this woman famous and how did she become famous enough for her and her entire family to now have a reality show on E!

“No one heard of Kim Kardashian until she made sex tape where her ample butt was featured. That paved the way for her and her sisters to become household names. Today they are featured in practically every magazine in the country on a regular basis.


Then there is Tila Tequila who everyone seemed to forget about after her show, “A Shot With Tila Tequila” 1 and 2 on MTV ended. But recently, after a sex tape of her surfaced giving oral sex to someone, being allegedly abused by a former boyfriend, and becoming engaged to now deceased Johnson and Johnson heiress Casey Johnson, and now her alleged developing pregnancy, she is suddenly back in the limelight where her every move appears to be documented on Radaronline.


Now an alleged  sex tape and definate naked photos have allegedly surfaced of diminutive Snooki of the Jersey Shore, no doubt insuring that she will retain top star status of her show, if not a spinoff of her own show which she has mentioned she wants. She’s even names it “Sookin for Love.” There is no doubt that someone will eventually give her some type of show.


While I’m all for being making a living and even making that living on television, in my view, I feel that rewarding women for bad, vulgar or lewd abusive, or irresponsible behavior by giving them a show and an opportunity to be a role model, gives a very bad message to our future generation of young women.

I see it as a setback to women who have struggled so hard to gain respect and dignity that has been so difficult to achieve.

Women have worked very hard for equality and respect over the past three decades. Today women are in positions that they would never have been in decades ago. They are doctors, lawyers, CEO’s, politicians, judges , businesswomen, philanthropists, entrepreneurs, and world leaders.


Some of the top movers and shakers in the world are women. These are the women who are talented and accomplished and  have so much to offer

They inspire others and need to be rewarded and looked up to as role models in my view. Women who have made it on their own, against all odds ,and who have done unselfish things for others also need to be looked up to and admired and rewarded in my opinion.


No matter what you think of Angelina Jolie, she in my view , a wonderful woman who is as beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside. She is a great role model to women. Not only did she adopt needy children, she raises social awareness of what is going on with women and children in third world countries.

Even young and beautiful actress Hayden Panettiere is someone to be looked up to as she puts her passion into a worldwide crisis — being dedicated to save dolphins.

Their positive behavior, education, unselfish actions, awareness and genuine accomplishments need to be rewarded- not the reverse.

In my view I think that having these type of women on a television show where they can be a voice to other women and serve as a role model would be so beneficial to young people.


Mind you thes type of women on TV do exist in the form of Oprah, Ellen, Nancy Grace, Diane Sawyer, Katie Couric, Mary Hart, Joy Behar, Meredith Viera, Heidi Klum, Jane Velez Mitchell, Greta Van Sustern, Tyra Banks, Robin Roberts, Barbara Walters, Julie Chen, Chelsea Lately, Rachel Ray, and Whoopie Goldberg. Seeing these type of wonderful women over the airwaves needs to happen more in my view.

Young women need to look at these women and others as a means of inspiring them towards being the best they can be!

They need to see that it is a woman’s brains, behavior, actions, accomplishments talents, and abilities that should inspire them- not the fact that someone has spread their legs, shown off their booty, shown ugly abusive and self-centered behavior or are talentless and ITLESS.

There are way too many other women out there who have worked hard to gain the respect and recognition they deserve They have proven talent and abilities and have IT.

Let’s go forward with these type of women, not backward! Let’s feature women who can inspire our future generation of young women.


4 thoughts on “The Body Language of “Itless” Infamy On TV And the Message It Send To Young Girls

  1. I think the truly wonderful women in our society are actually not the ones you are likely to see on TV – they are instead our sisters, mothers, grandmothers, friends, co-workers and neighbors who may not have the “IT” factor, but instead they provide real, honest and sincere care, love and assistance not only to those around them but to those all across this great world of ours. They don’t do it because it’s expected, because they have the means or because it helps to improve their imagine, they do it because they want to make the world a better place. I’d like to give a shout-out to all of those unnamed women out there who have made a life better just because they lived.


  2. The message is completely crazy. My friend is having a hard time convincing his teen daughter that it takes more than big boobs and high shoes to get somewhere in life.

    Another weird ripple from this. To make girls feel better about themselves and their boobs, bra sizing has changed. People such as myself, that don’t need enhancement are now faced with buying bras in the most embarassing sizes. My boobs haven’t changed, at least not this much – why did I used to wear a C, now I must buy an F??? What about OUR self esteeem?


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