KATE’S OVER THE TOP DRAMA
When you hear the words “It was cut short too soon, “ you usually hear them in the context of discussing a ”human life.” You hear it in talking about a 5 year old with leukemia who just took his last breath in your arms. You hear it at the funeral of a beautiful teenager who got killed in a car accident because of a drunk driver. Both of these horrific incidents merit the words “cut too short too soon”- not a television show coming to an end. Those were not the words to use because it is not accurate.
This show was NOT “cut too short too soon.” It came to an end and the timing is perfect. Who wants to watch a show about bickering parents with so much awful tension between them? Who wants to watch a short tempered verbally and even physically abusive mother give her kids bad advice ( ie. telling Leah to tell her classmate who saw her on TC that she didn’t want to talk about it). Who wants to watch a confused dad with loser friend (Michael Lohan) making horrible decisions (womanizing) and self destructing (chain smoking and drinking). If TLC knew these things about anyone they would never have given them a show.
Those kids need a life away from the camera. They need to be kids and they don’t need their personal business broadcast all over the world for everyone to see. At this stage in their development being on camera would have caused them more harm than good.
THE GOOD SIDE OF THE SHOW FOR THE KIDS
There is no doubt that the show gave these kids and this family an opportunity to make money and to travel and do things that they would not ordinarily get to do. But now that they have earned a lot of money from the show and from books, and lectures, they can use that money to travel and continue to do things to enhance their lives. But this time, they need to do it off camera.
Those kids are beautiful, bright, precious, wonderful little souls. There is no doubt that it was wonderful watching them grow into who they are today, But enough! Now let them be and let them live!
SADDENED BY HOW JON AND KATE DIDN’T GIVE THERAPY OR COUNSELING A CHANCE
After watching this final show I was really sad. But I wasn’t sad because the show had ended. I was sad for several other reasons. First of al, l I was sad that these two stupid parents who should worship the fact that God blessed them with 8 normal healthy beautiful souls, were willing to throw it all away WITHOUT giving it a chance with therapy.
While therapy is no guarantee that a marriage will work, you at least have to give it a try! I have seen lives transform and marriages that were just hanging on by a thread not only survive, but flourish because of therapy.
These kids need 2 parents. They need the balance of both of them. They don’t deserve the ugliness that happened between Jon and Kate. These kids knew exactly what was happening between their parents. They felt it and they could see it in their parent’s faces and body language every day.
Jon was an idiot to say he “despised” Kate and Kate was an idiot to abuse Jon and humiliate him. All that back and forth for so many months was horrific! What kind of example does that set for the kids? What these two selfish creatures did will have lasting repercussions psychologically. Those children will suffer immensely unless they get help in the form of therapy.
Dr Phil could have been a good influence in Jon and Kate’s life. He may have even saved their marriage for all we know. After all, he saved Oprah so who’s to say he couldn’t save Jon and Kate? Kate with all her narcissism and self absorption took to Dr. Phil. So perhaps he could get through to her and to Jon. That was a bad decision on Jon’s part to not let Dr. Phil intervene- even if it was on TV. What’s the difference? They went on TV anyway airing their dirty laundry to people who couldn’t help them. This way they could have gone on TV and aired their dirty laundry to someone who could help them. Instead, these two clowns made their lives into a circus. Who could ever respect either of them for what they did in front of those kids?
SADDENED BY BAD PARENTING
The fact that they have not put these kids into therapy is horrible! It is bad parenting ! And speaking of bad parenting, the last show was filled with Kate’s bad parenting! It was abusive and nauseating. Thank God we won’t ever have to watch her abusing those kids again. But in a way it may have been a good thing seeing them on the air, because it allowed us to keep a watchful eye on Kate . Now we can only pray those kids won’t continue to be abused by Kate.
SADDENEDN BY ADAN BEING VERBALLY ABUSED AND NAUSEATED WHEN HE WAS TOLD TO “ACT LIKE A MAN!”
I hated how Kate treated Adan. I hated how she said those kids were whining when they were walking to their neighbor’s farm to milk the cows. You can’t walk a mile as a child if you aren’t used to it. Your feet will hurt and you will get tired and sore. Those kids were tired and sore. That is why they were whining! They were uncomfortable! Let any adult who hasn’t walked a mile in a while do it and see if they don’t get tired and whiney.
Her abusive hostile harsh tones to precious Adan sickened me . There was no need to scold him. He didn’t do anything bad. No wonder this little guy looks so stiff and tense in his body language all the time and his face is so serious and worried so much of the time . He is no doubt, in fear that Kate is going to give him hell for the slightest infraction, so he tries to tow the line.
When she said to Adan “BE A MAN YOU’RE FIVE ! DON’T CRY BE A MAN! I wanted to scream in her face “ BE A LOVING MOTHER NOT A BITCH ! IF YOUR LITTLE BOY CAN’T CRY BECAUSE HE’S HURT OR UNCOMFORTABLE- THEN YOU, KATE DON’T CRY YOUR PHONY TEARS FOR THE CAMERA! BE A WOMAN! BUCK UP! How would you like it if you were spoken to like you spoke to Adan?
What she said to Adan was clear projection ! Those are exactly the words she wanted to say to Jon” BE A MAN- BUCK UP!” But say those words to Jon. Don’t say them to a little boy and traumatize him. Those words were to be said to Jon not a sweet child who didn’t want to walk because he wasn’t used to it and his little feet hurt him.
Her insensitivity made me livid! There is no doubt that this type of behavior is a sure fire way to emotionally scar and mess up a child! Not allowing a child to express his emotions is abusive! You are training him to repress what is natural and what he feels. He could turn those emotions inward and get seriously ill as studies have shown. Or he could turn those emotions outward and really act out inappropriately. None of this is good and it falls on your shoulders in terms of how poorly you are training him.
SADDENED AND DISGUSTED BY HER DISCUSSING OF THE BOY’S AND THEIR UDDER ISSUES
You could really see the disdain and disgust in Kate’s face as she talks about the boys and their “udder issues.” No doubt,in her sarcastic tone she was talking about their penis issues as she says “I’m not ready to deal with that.” Well Kate you better be ready to deal with that and stop making everything bad, dirty and nasty and icky! Boys are great! They Are Not Icky!
SADDENED BY THE KIDS NOT BEING ALLOWED TO HOLD AND CARRESS THE KITTY
I hated what happened with the kitten and the children and how Kate selfishly wouldn’t let them hold the kitten . To me it looked like she was hanging on to that kitty, not because she liked it, but because she may have thought it made her look good and loving and compassionate when the TV cameras were rolling. In fact at the end, she dismissed the cat like it was the prop that it was for her as she said matter of factly “we’re mot taking the cat home.”
Those kids were so precious and loving around the kitten. They weren’t hurting the kitten. Not allowing them to hold the kitten was mean (Mady’s words)and cruel on her part. Those little girls were a screaming at the top of their lungs as Kate selfishly took the cat away from them. They weren’t hurting the cat, they were tenderly loving it and Kate destroyed their moment.
SAD THAT KATE MAY CONTINUE TO COLLAPSE ANGER ON THESE KIDS
It was awful to see Kate alone with those kids. She took the joy out of any situation with them, harping on them all the time and now allowing them to just BE! When we used to see her with Jon, he was the buffer. She took things out on him, so she didn’t have to take things out on the kids. Now that he is out of the picture, those poor kids may no doubt get the direct effects of Kate’s hostility.
No matter what you say about Jon, he is a loving and affectionate daddy. The kisses and hugs are so important to the kid’s psyches and to their emotional development. Hopefully his love will cancel out the effects of Kate’s harshness and nastiness towards them.
He better fight for joint custody of those kids and not be selfish. They need him desperately! He can’t leave them alone with Kate all the time. Then they will be completely messed up! This way they at least have a chance. While he is an eff up in his personal life, he is not an eff up around the kids. Kate is an eff up around the kids- a mean (Mady;s words) and nasty one. I hate how she talks to them, I hate the sarcasm and snide comments and remarks and I hate the tone of voice she uses to them.
SAD THAT WHAT HAPPENED TO JON MAY HAPPEN TO MANY OF THE KIDS
And no Jon doesn’t get a free pass but he gets some kind of a pass for having the crap bet out of him emotionally and for being physically abused with” love slaps. Yes he was much like the kids in that he didn’t speak up and set boundaries. He could as an adult but the kids can’t as kids.
When he finally spoke out, he spoke through doing all kinds of self destructive things, This may very well happen to many of the kids when they do eventually speak out, after being verbally abused and physically abused by Kate. I hate to think about it! That is why they all need therapy so badly.
Mady is speaking out NOW . As we watched the show for the past 5 seasons, we couldn’t understand why she was always so upset and rebellious. Now we fully understand. She was reacting to Kate, no doubt.
But back to Jon. It just came out through disgusting Michael Lohan’s secret audio taping of his buddy Jon, that Jon said to his best friend, “Toxic father Brutus Lohan” that "I put my kids out there to every pedophile on the planet and they never got paid for it." It is horrific enough that this private conversation was taped, but even more horrific that Jon actually spoke these words! He and Kate were clearly pimping those kids out and now he admitted it. Thank God they are off the air so they won’t be pimped any longer.
SADDENED BY BLINDED KATE LOVERS BLINDNESS TO HER ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR
And for you blinded Kate lovers, if you cannot see through her abuse and nastiness and still love her and see het doing no wrong, like I said in earlier blogs, you are identifying with her for some reason. Either your man did to you what Jon did to her, or you are like her personality -wise. Being a bitch and abusing others is not being a strong woman, In fact, It is being a very weak woman with a weak character.
There another reason you can’t see past her egregious behavior. It has to do with scientific research, that was conducted back in the in the 1970’s. Studies found that those who are physically attractive are perceived as being more successful, kinder, sexier friendlier and even less guilty of committing a crime.
That’s right, I am talking about classic studies where people were shown photos of two people and told they committed the identical crime. Those who were perceived as being more attractive, got off scot free. That is what many of you blinded Kate lovers have done here. You have given her the free pass and let her get away with her crime of verbal and physical abuse “ scott free”
There is no question that Kate is now physically beautiful – especially when you see earlier photo of her. She was cute in the earlier seasons, but now she is stunning. Objectively speaking, she is in great physical shape, ( thanks to a trainer and to Hailey Glassman’s daddy) she is now stylish in her dress, and even though her hair 1960’s do has become a joke visa Halloween wig, it does look cute on her. Her face is proportional as is her small nose and her large blue eyes are absolutely beautiful .S he has a beautiful large white shiny teeth a a lovely smile.
But when all that sarcasm comes out of her mouth and abuse and yelling it’s not lovely. She turns from being beautiful to being UGLY as sin. If you could get past her looks, you would not be giving her a free pass.
SADDENED AND MADDENED BY KATE’S DENIAL AND VICTIM ROLE ON THE COUCH
Hearing Kate’s last words as she sat on the couch talking about missing Jon in the driver’s seat and that she should be in the passenger seat I wanted to vomit. The reason Jon and Kate they are no longer is because it was literally only Kate in the driver’s seat throughout their entire relationship. She was in control and no one was allowed to drive that relationship but her.
So on the couch, once again she played poor victim Kate with the tears and stilted speech (wonder if she was being fed with a microphone through an earpiece again) Then she self justifies by saying “I never wanted this, I wanted People to step up. What people???? Why don’t you speak the truth and stop pussyfooting around and “deal with things.” You wanted JON to step up- not PEOPLE!
SADDENED BY JON AND KATE NOT THANKING GOD FOR THEIR 8 BLESSINGS AND GETTING THEM INTO THERAPY
Now that the show as we know it has come to end, and the divorce will soon come to an end, there is a good chance Jon will finally step up! But you Both need to step away from the limelight and the cameras and tend to the precious gifts God blessed you with. They are more important than any show or any episode!
Get them into therapy immediately ! Kate, stop being so mean (Mady’s words) to your kids! God gave you kids to love and to treat with kindness and affection, not to yell at and to verbally and physically abuse. There are other ways you can keep them in line. Watch Nanny 911 or Super Nanny.
You can change up your image and look pretty all you like, but always know that “pretty is as pretty does.” You need to ACT as pretty as you LOOK around these kids. Don’t continue to show them the ugliness we witnessed for the past 5 seasons! Be a good mother and get yourself and the kids into therapy while there is still some hope! And Jon- here we definitely agree with Kate on this one- GROW UP! MAN UP! AND STEP! And while you are at it get yourself into therapy as well. http://www.drlillianglass.com