You cannot keep abusing and abusing and abusing a person and expect nothing to happen to them. I am not giving Jon a free pass for his bad behavior in the past. But after seeing how Kate severely and consistently abused and humiliated him without letting up on last night’s episode when they were in the Travel Store it is obvious that Jon’s emotional damn broke. It is obvious to me that his bad behavior was clearly an act of rebellion against Kate and her horrible abuse.
JON GETTING ABUSED AND HUMILIATED IN FRONT OF THE KIDS AT THE TRAVEL STORE
In last night’s episode, Kate and the kids are all sitting on the floor in a Travel Store getting ready for their trip somewhere. They were filling out some passport cards and for the first time we see a happy little Mady. Jon, standing, says in his usual mumbled low voice “ That is what will happen if I had to show my passport in Korea.” Kate snarkily retorts with an edge to her voice, “ You were a lot younger then.” Jon still standing, turns to her and says in a regular modulated voice ( NOT in a loud voice referring to the documents ) “you put Korea and its South Korea, They are two different countries.”
Then Kate, in her most obnoxious, bitchy vocal tone says “Hello are you just not.. “She turns around to look up at him from the floor and verbally abuses him with name calling saying “ are you not NUTS?” “the whole Triple A just heard where we are going !“ ( This comment is once again indication of Kate’s deluded self and her narcissism that they whole world or whole store in this case revolves around her. Nobody was paying attention to her or her family in the store. They were too busy doing their own thing.) She continues to bitch. And abuse “ Everyone heard us.. Good one Jon ( in a nasty snarky sarcastic tone)
MADY STICKS UP FOR DADDY
Then we see something very significant. Mady has now gone over too Jon’s side as he is being bitched at. She obviously knows what is coming and what we see next is amazing from a body language standpoint. She stands next to him with a serious expression and pushes her stomach forward as far as it will go and leans her body forward as if she is literally “puffing herself up” physically to protect daddy from mommy’ s verbal wrath of hell. It is as though she is making herself physically bigger in a subconscious little girl attempt to protect her daddy. She stands straight and her feet are close together as if to indicate” I’m here daddy and I’ m standing up for you.” It was the only touching thing about the segment.
KATE CONTINUES AND CONTINUES AND CONTINUES TO ABUSE
Then we see Jon meekly apologize as he says “I‘m sorry.” But Kate doesn’t even acknowledge his apology. Instead, she continues her verbal abuse towards Jon and in a mean, school maarm, admonishing tone says, “Did you not hear when I announced we were not saying where we were going!”
In a meek, defeated voice Jon says, “ No I wasn’t here,” He apologizes again as he says “I’m sorry” for the second time. Kate continues to ignore his apology and what Kate does next is HORRIBLE. Now we see her emotionally abusing the children by humiliating their father in their presence and talkinga bout him as though he was a non person and wasn;t even there. If she talks smack about Jon to the kids when he is there can you imagine what she says to them when he isn’t there. She is turning these kids against their father and we have just seen how she does it.
One of the kids ask Kate , off camera “Why are you upset?” She answers , in front of Jon mind you, as though he is a non person “ Cuz your father just made an announcement in front of everyone that he wasn’t supposed to.” Now this is a huge exaggeration! Jon did not stand up in front of the whole store and in a loud stentorian voice make “an announcement” everyone as she said. That is not true, She is in essence lying to these children about what their dad did.
She is delusional. He did NOT make an announcement He just said to put South Korea on the card, not just Korea, He was justified in what he said, They are two different countries. He wasn’t there to hear HER RULES, He innocently said what needed to be done and for that he was abused and humiliated in front of the kids and made to feel like a piece of garbage. He was abused, humiliated and emasculated and wrongly made to look bad in the eyes of his kids when he did nothing wrong!.
Then Jon says” I’m sorry “ once again, now for the third time in a mumbled humiliated tone, But Kate doesn’t let up. Instead of moving on, she continues to contort her face into a mean expression as Jon looks down at his paper in embarrassment. Then she continues to verbally abuse him as she says in front of all 8 kids mind you,“I don’t know what planet you are on,” said in a LOUD voice for ALL to hear.
Then we see something even sadder. Mady, still by her dadys side makes a symbolic gesture, several times, where she has her finger under her eye and flicks her finger away as if she is symbolically wiping away a tear. Mind you, she is not crying, although she has a serious facial expression. But her bosy language , in is saying “ I’m crying for you, daddy. I feel sorry for you daddy.” It was so sad to see. It was also sad to see a shot of little Colin and his all serious face as he looked away trying to ignore the whole abusive mess.
Next we see Jon walk away with head handing down in shame and humiliation with shoulders hunched, looking at the ground.
KATES REFLECTION ON THE COUCH- DENIAL, MINIMIZATION, AND JUSTIFICATION OF HER HORRIFIC ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR
Next, we hear Kate voice over saying, “Seriously I couldn’t believe it. Isn’t it amazing that 8 kids don’t say where we are going but one adult does!” Then we see a shot of Kate sitting alone on the couch where she says in a montone after the TLC producer questions her about what happened “ I don’t thing I handled that that wel” DUH!! It was obviously tha Kate;s remark was a spin statement to show the audience that she is admitting her mistakes – that she is not perfect, so she can be forgiven for her outburst. It is TLC’s attempt to try to rebuld her image and get her ready for her for new solo show.
Then we hear Kate minimize her ugly horrific abusive condescending behavior towards Jon as she says with a lack of remorse of her face or in her voice, “It happened as she sighs loudly What can I say! Then this abusive and self righteous, self absorbed woman says in her attemopt to justificy her ehhregious actions, “We didn’t end up going so what can I say..”
KATE’S CONSTANT ABUSE AND LACK OF RESPECT FOR JON MADE HIM REBEL TO THE EXTREME
You can say a lot Kate! For starters, you can say I’m sorry to Jon for beating the crap over him for nothing and you can you are sorry to the kids for making their dad look like a jerk to them. You can also say goodby to any of the fans you had left and to anyone else who say this episode . Who would ever think of watching you on you own show when we have seen you up close and personal. Jon did nothing wrong. You ripped the hell out of him and in front of your kids, That is bad parentiung, Thjat is poor judgment . You didn’t just do this once you did it a lot, Who wants to watch a show with a bad parent who is an abuser? Not me and not my readers and not anyone they tell about you. That is for sure,
ALGEBRA 101 AS IT APPLIES TO KATE GOSSELIN
Ands for ALL you Kate lovers you accuse me of being a KATE HATER , I have a message for you. Until I analyzed last night’s episode, I told you I didn’t HATE KATE and that I only hated Hitler and Stalin and sociopaths and child and animal abusers. The operative word on my list is “ABUSERS”. So if you go back to when you were taking Algebra 101 and recall the “associative property you will see how it applied here. To refresh your memory, if A=B and B= C then A=C . So to apply it in Kate’s case. If I HATE ABUSERS(A=B) and KATE IS AN ABUSER (B=C) THEN I MUST HATE KATE BECAUSE SHE IS AN ABUSER ()A=C)
Yes, after seeing this abuse in light of all that we know about these two, I can say without a doubt that I HATE KATE GOSSELIN’S ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR, herself righteousness , her narcissim, her minimizing, her justifying her horrific behavior, and her abusing those children by allowing them to see how horribly she abuses their father in his presence.
If ANY of you BLIND in denial bleeding heart Kate defenders and Kate lovers ever write me after seeing this episode, I will re-direct you to watch this episode along with every other episode she has abused Jon, the kids, or both, Now, knowing what we know about the Kate and Jon situation don’t even think about writing me a love note in defense of Kate.
If you do I will know that you are only identifying with Kate because a. you may be in denial b. you are not the brightest crayon in the pack c. you may be an abuser and identify with her to justify your own guilt in abusing others, d. you are a victim in that have a lot of kids and your husband left you with the kids so you identify with Kate as the victim she isn’t but the victim image you created about her in your own mind or e. you have collapsed your own issues with the womanizer in your life cheating on you with Jon and pity poor Kate.
Here is a reality check blind Kate lover, Kate is not a victim, She is not to be pities, She is a mean (in her daughter Mady’s words) and horrible abuser! Watch this episode over and over and over again until you finally get it! This is only one segment in one episode. Cnayou imagine close to a dozen yearsof this abuse? Put yourself in Jon;s shoes for a moment. How would you feel if everything you said was minimized, ridiculed and you were yelled at and made to feel like a non person in front of your kids.> You would HATE it! You would find it DESPICABLE, especially of you had a steady diet of this!
NO WONDER JON SAID TO CHRIS COUOMO HE DESPISED KATE AS HER ACTIONS TOWARDS HIM ARE DISPICABLE!
.Now we know whey he said to Chris Coumo on 20/20 in his first interview “ I DESPISE Kate” He was just speaking his truth and being candid. After seeing this episode there is no downt in anyone;s mind and if the Kate Lovers took off their blinders they would see “Kate IS DISPICABLE!” Especially when you see what she has done to Jon.
Jon had been in denial for way to long and finally came out with a vengeance and went off the deep end. But she ripped his testicles off with each cut and nasty comment. She made him feel low and awful bout himself about himself until the damn finally broke.
How could any man feel like a man or feel sexual or achieve an erection after being so humiliated and abused day in and day out. What we saw were little snippits of his abuse like in this episode. Think about a ten years of this abuse. It would make any man or woman if it was done to a woman feel impotent and non sexual, non attractive, and unwanted. It wouold destroy anyone;s self esteem.
So Jon wanted to see if he still worked down below and if being with someone else could remedy his impotent feelings. And guess what? Someone else showed him that he was still a man and he still worked down below. Then Jon tried another and another and yet another “ sexual “band aid” as he discovered that he was no doubt not only just working down there, he was working pretty well. So he wanted to make up for lost time. Unfortunately his immaturity surfaced and he ended up hurting a lot of people. You can’t use a woman to see if you work sexually and then discard her like a used Klenex. I am not justifying Jon;; cheating. But I can certainly understand what lead him to stray- Kate;s emasculation of him
TLC’S ROLE IN STANDING BY AND WATCHING THIS HORRIBLE ABUSE
After seeing this episerode Jon should sue TLC fo their negligence and in being a part of the abuse. Why didn’t they step up? Why did they let this happen for so long? I will tell you? Ratings! They threw Jon under the bus for ratings. They sadistically allowed filming of abuse – Kate repeatedly abusing Jon.
What if Kate would have taken a belt and beat the crap out of one of the kids? Would they have filmed that and aired it ? Would they air another episode of Kate abusing the kids only this time showing her giving a kid a black eye or breaking off one’s arms?
Or would they have put a stop to it and called 9ll or Child Protective services? Would they let that happen for ratings? That is exactly what they did with Jon. They showed him with his verbally abused black eyes and verbally abused arms torn off! Jon was humiliated. They showed that, They showed an abused and broken man. I used to respect TLC, but not anymore. I am repulsed that they allowed this to happen.
I hope that the Learning Channel learns form their own behavior and never allows such abuse to take place on the air again. It is NOT entertaining. It is upsetting. I am upset and millions of viewers are upset as well. They deserve to be sued by Jon just for allowing Kate to abuse him and filming it. The show is about the Kids growing up not about Jon being abused, It was unnecessary to show. Jon deserves all the money he is suing them for.
And for TLC to give this abusive bitch Kate a show its even more unconscionable. They are rewarding the Abuser. We have seen the real Kate Gosselin and no image makeover or spin can change it. http://www.drlillianglass.com