The only people I really care about in this Jon and Kate saga is the 8 innocent children. My belief is that you can’t give a child too much love, physical affection, emotional support, kind and tender words, warmth, caring, friendly looks, and happy smiles. When you do these things they have a better chance to becoming loving adults with a healthy sense of self.
I saw none of these positive body language behaviors when I watched Kate interact with the kids after they exited their school bus. No doubt Kate was having one of her “meltdowns” which she discussed on her interview with Natalie Morales. She was clearly taking out her frustration and anger on these innocent children. After seeing the TMZ video I am more convinced than ever that these kids are in such desperate need of therapy, just to deal with the scars Kate is leaving on their little psyches.
As I watched the video I saw Kate making some hostile hand gesture to Mady, her least favorite of the children. Instead of their mommy saying “Hi Aden sweetie,” “ I love you Leah darling,” “ Hi Big Boy Joel,” etc. Kate scowls at the kids. They in turn, look miserable as they file off the bus and line up in two lines.
Mady is the first one in the back of the second line and looks absolutely miserable. In fact, each of the children’s faces looks tense and sad. They finally crowd around a woman who is holding a baby and attempt to play with the baby grabbing the baby’s hand. This is the only time they look happy.
Then you see them outside Kate’s SUV waiting to get in . Kate has a scowl on her face as she angrily flings her bags in back of the station wagon. The children were taking among themselves and you could hear their voices in a normal tone that kids use with one another when they are outside. Then you see Kate admonishing these well behaved children for nothing as she tells them to be quiet. Why?
For a mother who repeatedly claims how she loves those kids and sacrificed being on bed rest for 30 weeks, she sure doesn’t act too loving. She acts like a mean shrew. As she points her finger at them we see little Hannah backing up in fear as Kate yells “This is the kind of stuff you cannot be doing when you are five years old. Stand quietly …”
Then we see little Colin, her most physically active boy, doing what most little boys his age do- move around and do little dances. He simply couldn’t contain himself or take Kate’s irrational restrictions any more. So, in a little act of rebellion, he twirled himself around in circles. Then we see Kate admonishing him to “. Stop your feet and don’t move them.” As Kate says this we see Hannah looking down at her feet. “ Some of the other children are standing there silent with fear.
Then, as an extra threat, Kate added “If I wasn’t here you’d still be standing in the parking lot waiting.”
This is horrible behavior. She is teaching her kids to fear her. She is doing to the kids what she used to do to Jon, belittle humiliate, and admonish him. Why can’t they talk when they want and move and dance and sing and just be kids? It’s because Kate is a Toxic control freak and we are seeing her in action. It is so sad. It is awful when your kids fear you, Fear is not respect. As they get older, many of them will rebel because they simply will not tolerate her abuse for no reason. Now we understand Mady’s tantrums and tears a lot more. She is obviously upset and frustrated because of Kate’s disrespect and abusive treatment. Others may go into a shell. But ALL of them will suffer in some way if she doesn’t get them in to family counseling. With her abusive actions towards them, she will clearly be the cause of their upcoming problems.
I am all for setting boundaries for children when they act up. But these kids were clearly not acting up. They were just being normal and beautiful kids. This was Jon’s major complaint to Kate on several of the episodes throughout the years.
As much as I have my negative thoughts about Jon’s behavior lately, I will say that at least he allows them to be kids and have fun. Also except for the recent hair pulling of Hannah, he is a much kinder and loving and tender parent from what I have observed. Thank goodness they have his balance in their lives.
Jon and Kate, please get out of your owns egos and really think of these kids before you think of yourselves. That means getting these kids into therapy asap. It’s not enough to feed, clothe and bathe them. You scream to the world how you love your children and would do anything for them. In fact Kate wanted them to be served on golden platters according to her latest interview. If that is the case, then show your love by getting them into therapy.
You have to treat them with the respect and kindness they deserve. That, Kate Gossselin, is serving them with a gold platter. Get them the therapy they need during these crucial times so they won’t turn out like you. Your kids are smart and when they pick up that you are annoyed and irritated with them all the time , their feelings hurt as they may perceive that you really don’t like them deep down. They may feel that you find them a burden, annoying and irritating. Yet they are your cash cow and bring in the money directly or indirectly, so you have to tolerate them. There is no doubt that they will eventually pick this up. You make them feel bad about themselves when you abuse them verbally and facially with your scowl of annoyance. They think they did something bad, when in actuality they did not. I can only imagine what happens behind closed doors when it is just you and the kids and there are no cameras rolling. All I can say is heaven help them! http://www.drlillianglass.com