The interview Kate Gosselin did last night for yet another TLC special clearly showed us more about the real Kate. It was not attractive. While she does look very attractive with her glammed up hairstyle and makeup and pretty burgundy dress , her words and behavior were clearly not attractive.
In doing the second Kate special in two weeks, it is obvious what TLC is doing. They are upset that Jon pulled the plug on their cash cow show. So now they are trying everything possible to repair her image for the upcoming show they plan to give her. But it is not working. Kate did not come across as a sympathetic character or a likeable character. She certainly did not come across as a person you would like to spend time watching on their own show sans Jon and the kids.
I can’t imagine anyone wanting to see a show with a whiny, blaming, self righteous narcissistic, hypocritical person with a lot of inner hostility. Until she works out her mom and dad issues which were so evident when she discussed her parents, she will have a lifetime of problems. You could see the anger she has towards her parents in her body language. Kate does not get along with her parents. As she discusses them, she looks down and away so you can see the tension in her when she speaks of them. On a psychological note until she handles her mom and dad issues this will be a big problem in her life. Her anger towards them is visually apparent. She has no relationship with them other than occasional emails. Apparently they have never been in their grandchildren’s lives for the past five years. How sad for the kids not to know their grandparents.
She needs to get into therapy and get this handled before she can even think about having a show where she is supposed to be the super single mom – mother of all mothers. Kate can’t seem to get along with anyone in her immediate family parents, brother, sisters .
The theme which permeated throughout the entire interview was blame. Kate blamed her parents, her brother, the paparazzi, US Weekly and the cover story they did calling her Monster Mom, Jon, her stress for her meltdowns, the fans ( who once annoyed her) It was all about self pity. It was her against the world, It was very whiney and very unappealing. There was so much self righteousness and Kate playing the martyr. Here are some of her quotes
“You can’t blame me” (when talking about her parents)
“I’m there the majority of the time ” when talking about her custody arrangement
“I was on bed rest for 30 weeks so I could have them” ( talking about the show not
“I’m a rule follower” ( why TLC is suing Jon)
“I never quit anything” ( calling it quits with Jon)
” He wasn’t happy” ( seeing Jo in press with other women)
“approved by him always”
“HATE/HATE (relationship with the paparazzi)
“I didnt do it to be in the tabloids “(when asked about putting herself in the position)
“I dive on the phone” (when Jon calls to talk about the kids)
“They found a story line to suite them”
“I try to be positive.”
“I feel I’m really working through this. I don’t feel the anger in me” (like Jon does…)
“I want my children to have life served to them on a gold platter”
The most disturbing part of the interview was when she says I think the phone will ring and it will be the Old Jon. Kate then slips and says the kids say it and want the old Jon back… Where are they hearing this ??? From Kate. This is very damaging to them psychologically . They shouldn’t be talking about the Old Jon. She is obviously feeding this to them and they will suffer as a result.
The biggest visible LIE or body language tell of deception was when she was asked who called it quits. She licks her lips there is back and forth shifting of her eyes and swallowing as she lies and says “I don’t know who it was.” Then she backpedals and says it was mutual and you see her hands moving and some “uhms “ indicating deception.
Too many tears were contrived in many instances. If you’re crying that many times in a 48 minute time slot you need to be on a therapist couch not in an interview with a reporter. She stops for a while to build up tears. Other times she wipes away no tears as there is no liquid. There is a lot of self pity . She was then told by the reporter, “You called it quits.” Kate she fakes out some tears and “cries” for herself” as she says “ it’s hard to hear because I never quit anything.”
There is also too much defending herself against the allegations of being with the bodyguard… as in “thou dost protest too much.” If it isn’t true. most people would laugh it off or be more lighthearted about it or be calm about their answer and say no, it isn’t true and leave it at that. Kate, instead was very intense about defending herself in a whiney tone. Then another red flag is she blames Jon for giving her permission to travel with the body guard. So the verdict is still out on that one.
There was a lot of hypocrisy.
a. She says he laughs about being a celebrity but yet a week earlier she talks about being an actress in movies and wanting to do cartoon voices.
b. She says she wants peace and when asked why she doesn’t stop it all and get off the air she says because she has gone too far. That is ridiculous . It is clearly about not stopping because of all the money she is making from it.
c. She says she speaks with grace, yet she goes on all these other shows accusing Jon of taking money and leaving her penniless and how bad Jon is (which he is). That is not grace.
For those of you who think Kate should be left alone and she should not be scrutinized, think again. Kate put herself out there to be scrutinized by going on all these shows and pleading her case. So as a person who analyzes people’s behaviors and body language, I am trying to determine whether she is being sincere, manipulating everyone, lying, or being genuine. That is what I am obligated to do as a media psychologist.
Gor those of you who think I am a Kate hater, I am not. I call it as I see it. And I see a disaster waiting to happen by giving this unstable woman who is prone to meltdowns her own show. I think that she should not be given a show because it will create more of a “Knute the Bear Syndrome”. It will creating more of a narcissistic self consumed self righteous monster than already exists with even more meltdowns. It US Weekly wrote Monster Mom on the cover of their magazine, they are reporting what is going on.
I think it is highly irresponsible for TLC to give this woman her a show for many reasons. Deep down Kate knows that she doesn’t need a show. She says she wants peace. She will never get that peace with the show and the papps who, she admitted having a hate hate relationship with, will stress her out even more so. Because she hates them, they may even go out of their way to annoy her. She needs to go away. She has earned enough money. She said so. She said those kids have enough money to go to college. She has a nice home. She is set.
She needs to be at home taking care of those kids. She needs to rebuild and recover from all that she experienced. That takes time and professional guidance- therapy. The operative word here is SHE not the nannies, or camera people. She needs to be there for these kids and not traipse around on TV. She has already shown that she can’t take the stress and all that goes along with being a celebrity. I think that TLC will be responsible for the disaster they will create by giving her a show. In my opinion, everyone will suffer- Kate and especially the kids. I certainly hope that they will be there to pay for the therapy of a tragic situation that will no doubt occur by giving this woman her own show.