Kate Gosselin’s Body Language on Ellen Confirmed Her Deception and Ellen Wasn’t Buying It

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Many people asked me to look at the Ellen Show and give my opinion about what the body language and communication revealed about Kate Gosselin, so here it is.

When she first came on Ellen she looked. Humbled, based on her body language. She didn’t have the arrogant swagger or arrogant attitude. I thought that perhaps she was humbled by the awful feedback she received the day before when she did her TLC Q and A Special and people were so put off by her attitude and sense of entitlement. I was actually happy for a moment that perhaps we would see a change in Kate for the better. I really do want to see her get rid of her bitterness and nastiness for the sake of the kids. I was hoping to see that she turned over a new leaf.

But in no time at all, the real Kate emerged. She was back to her digs at Jon by first saying that the show was taken from them too soon. First of all, five years of being on a show is not too soon. Those kids need a normal life without cameras in their faces.

Then Kate proceeds to dig at Jon by saying “certain events take place that makes us sitting ducks and easy targets certain ones of us speak a lot, while others of us prefer to keep out mouths shut and make dinner for example”I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. This is woman who started it all with the trashing of Jon. He finally unleashed his fury on 20/20 after remaining silent to her attacks and now has been attacking Kate and passive aggressively humiliating her with all of his cheating, ever since. She has accused him of leaving her penniless and taking all her money. She has made all kinds of hostile accusations towards him. She has NOT as she said kept her mouth shut. She has given back the verbal vitriol and he has responded in kind, or shall I say, “in unkind.” Her statement not only reflects her hypocrisy. It reflects her lying. She knows she isn’t telling the truth because her body language and communication tells show it.

Her statement is peppered with numerous signals of deception like her looking down, not being able to look directly at Ellen, and her constant “ums” punctuating practically every word.
Her added statement to “keep our mouths shut and make dinner for example” leaked out a very hostile facial expression. It showed herself righteousness in stating how Jon doesn’t keep his mouth, shut but she is so perfect because she keeps her mouth shut and makes dinner. This behavior shows pettiness and arrogance.

People have said that I am hard on Kate and that I am a Kate Hater based on these blogs and my reporting of her body language in the press. This is not true. I only report objectively what I observe. When I see this type of hypocrisy and constant back and forth which only affects the kids in the long run, it is upsetting. I am sure that anyone especially Kate fans and Kate lovers would agree that constant bad mouthing of your soon to be ex husband in a public form is not good for the kids in the long run. They would also agree that there is hypocrisy, lying and deception with Kate and that they cannot turn a blind eye to it. It exists as plain as day. They hear it and they see it. If they say it doesn’t exist, they are in denial or have put Kate on a pedestal that they see and hear what their fantasy of Kate is, not what the reality of her is.

Even Ellen, who pretty much likes everyone, saw through Kate’s attack of Jon as she made a joke to lighten the mood by telling Kate “I don’t know what you’re saying. It’s code. I can’t understand it,” which got a huge audience laugh.
Then Kate goes into victim mode and tells how she is target and torn apart and as she speaks in fragments which indicates she is flying by the seat of her pants and not knowing what to say. This is a clear sign of BS is about to come when people speak in fragments. They are gathering their thoughts and it is coming out as a sort of stream of consciousness.

Kate then she pulls out her ace card- talking about her kids . She then zooms in for another attack on Jon for taking them off the air as she says “I would never put them in a situation that was unsafe for them.” Once again she is justifying why they should still be on the air. Then she goes into a nonsequiter that made no sense.
She said “like any mother I laid on bed rest for 30 weeks.” Eeking out every minute of my pregnancy for my little kids, There is nothing I would do to put them in danger and my focus is that. My focus is not paparazzi, my focus is not what trip I could go on or what shows I can be on as a result of this. This is my job.” This s is my paycheck and this is what I do,”
WOW is that diatribe telling. First of all she pulls out the pity card saying how she was on bed rest for the sextuplets. Well first of all as a nurse she had the knowledge that she might end up on bed rest if she had multiples and she chose to take fertility drugs to have those kids. No one made her do it. It was a conscious decision and if she wanted the children to be safe and to survive, it was mandatory to be on bed rest. So no one is feeling sorry for her because of that. Any mother who wanted a child would do the same and make the same sacrifice.

Then she talks about never putting the kids in danger, obviously referring o the show. Here’s a news flash Kat!. Those kids are in grave danger being on that show– psychological danger . It is not healthy to live your entire childhood in front of a camera. At least they have a chance now. Look at Knute the bears experience. He craves so much attention as an adult bear because of the cameras that followed his every move as a child bear, that he according to the vets is a narcissist and a sociopath with a violent temper when he doesn’t get attention.

Then Kate opens her eyes widely and purses her lips as she ends her diatribe by saying this is my paycheck, This is what I do.” She says this to justify how her paycheck has been taken away from her because they kids can no longer participate in the show because of big bad Jon. She then justifies the criticism that she received that goes on trips and sees what else she can get because of the show, minimizing it by saying it is her job.
No it is NOT her job to want to do cartoon voices (for her kids) or be in a movie. That is pure narcissism . She is caught up in her own fame and her statements are an attempt to justify it and minimize it. But we are not buying it . We already saw the true Kate as she told the world she now feels capable of being an actress sans classes or training. She feels that being a reality star where she plays herself is enough to justify that she can become an actress and do carton voices as well.
Then Ellen tells her Kate needs to have a life and date and Kate is literally taken aback. Her whole body rigidly straightens out and Kate looks shocked as you can see in her body language “You have to date,” Ellen stated as Kate recoils. This indicates she is clearly not interested or ready to date, which we can all understand. She needs to heal and has other priorities.
Then Ellen asks her about her ring. Kate she gives a ridiculous obviously made up story about telling the kids she wasn’t going to wear the ring anymore and saying “ it wasn’t fun for them.” Of course it wasn;t fun for kids to heart their parents are splitting up. But then Kate can’t resist letting her bitterness and hostility out at Jon for not allowing the kids to be on the show and make money themselves.
She says “At some point when I have a job again” Then she swallows hard and looks up with rounded shoulders, as someone who is guilty would do and know that what they are about to say or have said is wrong and that they really shouldn’t be making this dig at their ex. Also this is such BS when she says “when I have a job again” She just admitted on the Today show that she already had a job- her own show.

She then talks about how she found a ring with diamonds and mother of pearl. Once again you see the contraction in the same sentence. This is what sociopaths do. They contradict themselves in the same sentence. Now I am not saying Kate is necessarily a sociopath, but I am saying that she communicates in a very similar way as far as contradictions go. On one breath she says :at some point when I have a job again” referring to the fact that she will get a ring. Then she says in the next breath she already found the ring, and how the kids were very excited about that..
What? This is ridiculous. I am almost sure that her five year old kids, especially the boys are not excited that she found a diamond and pearl ring. Kids that age don’t even realize the “symbolism” of what diamond and pearls represent, no matter how much you explain it. They don’t process symbolism at that age. If they can’t eat it or play with it they don’t care. Ellen knew what Kate was saying was BDS so she asked if each kid would get a ring with one diamond on it And Kate disgusting replied “ absolutely, when they get a job .” This was yet another obvious dig that now that these kids don’t have the show they can’t make any money to afford a ring for themselves.

So the bottom line, as we could all see was that Ellen’s jokes clearly reflected that she wasn’t buying into Kate’s BS.

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17 thoughts on “Kate Gosselin’s Body Language on Ellen Confirmed Her Deception and Ellen Wasn’t Buying It

  1. Hi Dr. Glass – I appreciate your insight into body language. You see what the untrained eye cannot see. On another note, Kate dresses like a teenager when doing public appearances. Skirts that are way too short, tops that are too tight and “hooker” heels to complete the ensemble. Could you provide some insight into why she dresses that way? It’s not only inappropriate for her age, it’s very distasteful as well. Thanks.

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  2. I disagree. The moment Kate walked up to Ellen and gave her a hug, I could tell we were in for another show.

    The look on Kate’s face before she sat down was that of a “snotty”, I am the King of the world look.

    Kate also quickly changed her tone and almost started to “cry” for no reason. Not sure what happened. But she was either searching for words are just straight out lying.

    I’m glad Ellen didn’t fall for Kate’s BS. Can’t say the same for the rest of the viewers who are falling for every single crap Kate spew out. They eat her crap for dinner.

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  3. I think you’re a picky, picky biatch, Dr. Glass. Leave her alone. She can’t say out loud what she really thinks of her soon-to-be-ex, she HAS to keep quiet because of her kids. She must be boiling ripping furious with him, but at least she did manage to get in a few very small digs at him. I hope one day once the kids are grown up she writes a tell-all book. How she managed to not choke him to death I don’t know.

    I think she was terrific on the Ellen show. Lots of people LIKE being in the movies or doing voices for cartoon characters, or just being on TV. There’s nothing wrong with that. Why don’t you blast all of them? The kids DID NOT suffer from being on that show, they benefited greatly from it. What’s wrong with all you people who think that? If TLC and Kate have their way, and I sincerely hope they do, the filming of “Kate Plus 8” WILL go forward. That loser took her livelihood away, temporarily anyway.

    And to Lauren, I think Kate dresses beautifully. She is still a young woman and of course wants to look attractive.

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  4. irishcat35@yahoo.a
    Absolutely No need to use the B word and name call. As a body language expert I analyze nuances so from my picky, pickyness I determine various body “tells” and translate what they mean.

    Until Kate stops lying and misrepresenting herself and trying to manipulate the public I will not stop discussing her. She doesn’t need to put digs into anyone. She needs to let it go and talk about her kids and not use the media as a dumping ground for her issues and to get back at Jon. She is setting herself up. You can’t expose yourself in such a public way and not have people respond. Please don’t use the ridiculous excuse “she HAS to keep quiet because of her kids. She has been anything BUT quiet and has caused considerable damage to the kids as a result.
    I disagree that she was terrific on the Ellen show, as I expressed in my blog.
    Lots of people LIKE being in the movies or doing voices for cartoon characters, or just being on TV and of course there is nothing wrong with that but they get training. Her comment was insulting to ALL professional actors and voice over artists as she minimized what it takes to act and do cartoon voices.
    Since I assume you are not a psychologist and have not tested the children neither you or I know for sure whether they suffered from being on that show. In a way they benefited greatly from the experience and in a way they may have issues because of it. Based on Kate’s bad advice to Leah when some little classmate told Leah she saw her on TV. Kate told Leah to say “I don’t want to talk about it” That was bad advice and made the other child wrong for asking. That IS damaging!
    And the same question goes out to you “What’s wrong with you who think that?
    I agree that Jon is a loser, but he didn’t take their livelihood away. They are richer than most put together so he did not take their livelihood away. Those kids are financially set for life according to Kate. They now need a chance at a normal life without cameras so it will be a blessing in disguise. As they go through puberty they don’t need cameras following them around. That would be very damaging. SO what happened may be a blessing in disguise.

    I agree with you that Kate dresses beautifully and looks beautiful. If only her actions and behavior would match her looks. Thank you for your feedback. Dr. Lillian Glass

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    1. KImmy, I was absolutely able to see her emotional pain and I was ble to hear her words. As a person who is trained in psychology and has worked with many domestic abuse victims, Hailey’s behavior and response was very typical of a woman who was abused from her confusion to detailed descriptions of what he said to her and how he treats her. She must get help immediately. When you are trained to look for things you don;t need more than a few minutes of footage to make an assesssment. Thnak you for your comments. Lillian Glass

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  5. Dr. Glass, you say that you are reporting objectively, but I think you are actually very biased against Kate. On one hand, it’s nice to see you are knowledgeable about the show having watched it for a long time, so you understand their history and “context”, but it has made an emotional mark on you, hence you truly cannot be objective, if you are honest with yourself.

    Why do you think Kate starting “trashing” Jon first? Please give an example. For example, when she appeared on LKL recently, she was very magnanimous towards Jon and took the high road, as she usually does. In my opinion, it wasn’t until Jon forced her hand by his latest appearance on LKL and stealing the money, was she forced to reveal more details on her latest Today show appearance. I don’t think she has ever taken the offensive, unlike Jon’s subsequent appearances on the Insider and ET, where he even looked directly at the camera and said “Where’s the 1 million dollars KATE?!” Do you acknowledge that the only reason he went on LK, Insider, and ET was a ploy to force TLC to release him from the exclusivity clause on his contract? It didn’t work.

    I totally disagree with your “sociopath” paragraph which is totally ridiculous. There is no contradiction for someone to express a wishful hope to get something they really like, but can’t or shouldn’t afford at the moment. We all do that. There’s nothing wrong with that. She doesn’t have a job yet because she is not confirmed on another other show yet.

    I think you COMPLETELY MISINTERPRETED her statement about “when the kids get a job”. She was NOT making a dig about losing the show. She was saying when they get a job when they are grown up. That shows the common and correct value that children should not be buying or having precious jewelry until they are older and preferably can afford it themselves. That is exactly why the audience laughed, because it was funny. I believe the kids can understand the meaning and symbolism of a ring or 8 diamonds surrounded by mother-of-pearl. It is a great idea to help them know that their mom will always be with them and protecting them, even though the parents are divorced. It’s a great transition from a wedding ring to a mommy-kids ring. Great idea to Kate.

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  6. I really try to read your articles, but the lack of formatting makes me give up after a few lines. Your insights are interesting, I would really like to read your posts.

    Please, put a blank line between those paragraphs. Even your reply above is hard to get through.

    The latest post on Jon Gosselin with the list is much easier to read.

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  7. “Why do you think Kate starting “trashing” Jon first? Please give an example.” – Christl
    Kate started “trashing” Jon from series 1 of J&K+8! Did you not watch any episodes? Are people so blind to Kate’s faults that they couldn’t feel ANY empathy for the abuse that she hurled at Jon in many episodes of the show?
    I can’t believe how naive Kate supporters can be when it comes to her behaviour.

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  8. Dr. Glass

    I watched as you made these statements on TV, sorry but I do not see where you are getting this from. Have you not heard what she has been going through with the actions of her husband. Any woman would feel angry or seem bitter, I feel you are too one sided on this and you are swayed more towards Jon and only saying what you think the public wants to hear, sorry on that one you were also off. The ring was for the childrens sake but she wanted it to symbolize something that the kids would appreciate. Having children I truly understood why she said this. I am sorry that you dislike the women so much but aren’t you suppose to be unbiased in your field of work?? I am sorry but I do not believe your BS.

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    1. Donna
      djrnmar82@netzero.net
      99.150.144.29 Submitted on 2009/11/02 at 10:25pm
      Dr. Glass

      I watched as you made these statements on TV, sorry but I do not see where you are getting this from. Have you not heard what she has been going through with the actions of her husband. Any woman would feel angry or seem bitter, I feel you are too one sided on this and you are swayed more towards Jon and only saying what you think the public wants to hear, sorry on that one you were also off. The ring was for the childrens sake but she wanted it to symbolize something that the kids would appreciate. Having children I truly understood why she said this. I am sorry that you dislike the women so much but aren’t you suppose to be unbiased in your field of work?? I am sorry but I do not believe your BS.

      Donna
      djrnmar82@netzero.net
      99.150.144.29 Submitted on 2009/11/02 at 10:25pm
      Dr. Glass

      I watched as you made these statements on TV, sorry but I do not see where you are getting this from. Have you not heard what she has been going through with the actions of her husband. Any woman would feel angry or seem bitter, I feel you are too one sided on this and you are swayed more towards Jon and only saying what you think the public wants to hear, sorry on that one you were also off. The ring was for the childrens sake but she wanted it to symbolize something that the kids would appreciate. Having children I truly understood why she said this. I am sorry that you dislike the women so much but aren’t you suppose to be unbiased in your field of work?? I am sorry but I do not believe your BS.

      Donna
      djrnmar82@netzero.net
      99.150.144.29 Submitted on 2009/11/02 at 10:25pm
      Dr. Glass

      I watched as you made these statements on TV, sorry but I do not see where you are getting this from. Have you not heard what she has been going through with the actions of her husband. Any woman would feel angry or seem bitter, I feel you are too one sided on this and you are swayed more towards Jon and only saying what you think the public wants to hear, sorry on that one you were also off. The ring was for the childrens sake but she wanted it to symbolize something that the kids would appreciate. Having children I truly understood why she said this. I am sorry that you dislike the women so much but aren’t you suppose to be unbiased in your field of work?? I am sorry but I do not believe your BS.

      Donna

      First of all I would like to thank you for taking the time to comment and for reading my blog. But how in the world could you come up with the very wrong conclusion that I dislike women? That is ridiculous!

      I am indeed non biased when I analyze people’s behaviors and actions, body language and communication patterns. I report on what I observe. Based on my observations I interpret what I believe these actions mean. My work is based on scientific research that has been well documented in the literature, so I beg to differ with you that it is BS. It is clearly not BS as you say.

      There is no doubt Kate has suffered emotionally as a result of Jon’s very bad behavior. Of course she is bitter about that. But Kate is bitter about a lot of things as you could see on her latest TLC special. She needs to be on a therapists couch getting help from a qualified professional instead of shedding her tears with a reporter.

      I do not in anyway condone Jon’s manipulative passive aggressive behavior. There is no doubt Kate abused him and she admitted on last night’s show how she was hard on him. That clearly pushed him over the edge and based on his personality he reacted by going to the extreme which was a clear way to retaliate against Kate. The latest stunt Jon apparently had done by manuipulating Hailey Glassman to speak ill of him on the air is unconscionable.

      Yes, the ring may have been for the childrens sake but what she said about them in realtion to the ring was clearly for her sake. I am sure that the ring wasn’t the focus of those kids- especially the boys. She talked about symbolism and that is a concept five year olds do not grasp at that age. Case in point. When she mentioned that she told the younger kids about the divorce, they said “when can we get a snack?”

      In any event thank you for sharing your thoughts and your comments.

      Dr. Lillian Glass

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  9. Dr. Glass,

    Thank you for your response but I have a feeling that you are putting too much of an scientific emphasis on this which is clouding the full picture. I have lived through
    what Kate is going through now, but not to the extent that she is. She does have a lot of anger and frustration with this, but it is because of the failed marriage and raising 8 children. My statement of you being one sided on this is because I have view your site and many of your blogs are on Kate. They are primarily negative comments. If I am seeing this so are many others. Yes, Kate may want to have someone to help her through this hard time. But can you tell me who she will be able to trust??? That is where some of her bitterness, as you call it , seems to be coming from. She has stated this, those that she thought she could trust have failed her and sold her out. So yes, she does have several issues taking place but not the way you want to state it.

    As for the ring issue, yes the youngest of the children are only five years old, but there are two 9 year old girls who would understand the meaning of the symbol. I have done things like this for my kids when they were growing up, hey appreciated it that their mom was thinking of them and they were a part of it. With body language there are
    too many things that could be misread, so I do not believe in any of this. But again thank you for taking the time to respond and have a good day.

    Donna

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    1. Sorry, but if you cannot tell that Kate is a psychopathic lair, then you too are also one sided. Just because you “can” relate to Kate, doesn’t mean her actions are excusable.

      Besides, Kate just admitted on Monday that she left Jon back in October of 2008. Jon stated this on Larry King Live and no one believed him.

      October 2008. Way before Jon was partying. And who can blame Jon for partying? Kate left him to care for 8 kids for 2 years while Kate went out and traveled with Steve Neild.

      Then, 1 day, Kate decides to end the marriage and demanded that Jon “Fake” everything for the show.

      Jon got sick if it, and he got loose. Jon manage 8 kids for 2 years all by himself. With little help from Kate.

      And Kate is CRYING ON TV claiming to be a single mother? LOL

      Kate is not a single mother. Jon has 50% custody and is still caring for the kids. He actually spent more time with this kids this past 2-3 months then Kate has.

      Look at any photos, you see that the kids enjoy their time with Jon. When their with Kate, guess what, the kids look confused and awkward.

      Kate has no relationship with her kids. The only time she ever spends time with them is when their filming. Other than that, she’s off traveling or doing TV interviews.

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