Many people asked me to look at the Ellen Show and give my opinion about what the body language and communication revealed about Kate Gosselin, so here it is.
When she first came on Ellen she looked. Humbled, based on her body language. She didn’t have the arrogant swagger or arrogant attitude. I thought that perhaps she was humbled by the awful feedback she received the day before when she did her TLC Q and A Special and people were so put off by her attitude and sense of entitlement. I was actually happy for a moment that perhaps we would see a change in Kate for the better. I really do want to see her get rid of her bitterness and nastiness for the sake of the kids. I was hoping to see that she turned over a new leaf.
But in no time at all, the real Kate emerged. She was back to her digs at Jon by first saying that the show was taken from them too soon. First of all, five years of being on a show is not too soon. Those kids need a normal life without cameras in their faces.
Then Kate proceeds to dig at Jon by saying “certain events take place that makes us sitting ducks and easy targets certain ones of us speak a lot, while others of us prefer to keep out mouths shut and make dinner for example”I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. This is woman who started it all with the trashing of Jon. He finally unleashed his fury on 20/20 after remaining silent to her attacks and now has been attacking Kate and passive aggressively humiliating her with all of his cheating, ever since. She has accused him of leaving her penniless and taking all her money. She has made all kinds of hostile accusations towards him. She has NOT as she said kept her mouth shut. She has given back the verbal vitriol and he has responded in kind, or shall I say, “in unkind.” Her statement not only reflects her hypocrisy. It reflects her lying. She knows she isn’t telling the truth because her body language and communication tells show it.
Her statement is peppered with numerous signals of deception like her looking down, not being able to look directly at Ellen, and her constant “ums” punctuating practically every word.
Her added statement to “keep our mouths shut and make dinner for example” leaked out a very hostile facial expression. It showed herself righteousness in stating how Jon doesn’t keep his mouth, shut but she is so perfect because she keeps her mouth shut and makes dinner. This behavior shows pettiness and arrogance.
People have said that I am hard on Kate and that I am a Kate Hater based on these blogs and my reporting of her body language in the press. This is not true. I only report objectively what I observe. When I see this type of hypocrisy and constant back and forth which only affects the kids in the long run, it is upsetting. I am sure that anyone especially Kate fans and Kate lovers would agree that constant bad mouthing of your soon to be ex husband in a public form is not good for the kids in the long run. They would also agree that there is hypocrisy, lying and deception with Kate and that they cannot turn a blind eye to it. It exists as plain as day. They hear it and they see it. If they say it doesn’t exist, they are in denial or have put Kate on a pedestal that they see and hear what their fantasy of Kate is, not what the reality of her is.
Even Ellen, who pretty much likes everyone, saw through Kate’s attack of Jon as she made a joke to lighten the mood by telling Kate “I don’t know what you’re saying. It’s code. I can’t understand it,” which got a huge audience laugh.
Then Kate goes into victim mode and tells how she is target and torn apart and as she speaks in fragments which indicates she is flying by the seat of her pants and not knowing what to say. This is a clear sign of BS is about to come when people speak in fragments. They are gathering their thoughts and it is coming out as a sort of stream of consciousness.
Kate then she pulls out her ace card- talking about her kids . She then zooms in for another attack on Jon for taking them off the air as she says “I would never put them in a situation that was unsafe for them.” Once again she is justifying why they should still be on the air. Then she goes into a nonsequiter that made no sense.
She said “like any mother I laid on bed rest for 30 weeks.” Eeking out every minute of my pregnancy for my little kids, There is nothing I would do to put them in danger and my focus is that. My focus is not paparazzi, my focus is not what trip I could go on or what shows I can be on as a result of this. This is my job.” This s is my paycheck and this is what I do,”
WOW is that diatribe telling. First of all she pulls out the pity card saying how she was on bed rest for the sextuplets. Well first of all as a nurse she had the knowledge that she might end up on bed rest if she had multiples and she chose to take fertility drugs to have those kids. No one made her do it. It was a conscious decision and if she wanted the children to be safe and to survive, it was mandatory to be on bed rest. So no one is feeling sorry for her because of that. Any mother who wanted a child would do the same and make the same sacrifice.
Then she talks about never putting the kids in danger, obviously referring o the show. Here’s a news flash Kat!. Those kids are in grave danger being on that show– psychological danger . It is not healthy to live your entire childhood in front of a camera. At least they have a chance now. Look at Knute the bears experience. He craves so much attention as an adult bear because of the cameras that followed his every move as a child bear, that he according to the vets is a narcissist and a sociopath with a violent temper when he doesn’t get attention.
Then Kate opens her eyes widely and purses her lips as she ends her diatribe by saying this is my paycheck, This is what I do.” She says this to justify how her paycheck has been taken away from her because they kids can no longer participate in the show because of big bad Jon. She then justifies the criticism that she received that goes on trips and sees what else she can get because of the show, minimizing it by saying it is her job.
No it is NOT her job to want to do cartoon voices (for her kids) or be in a movie. That is pure narcissism . She is caught up in her own fame and her statements are an attempt to justify it and minimize it. But we are not buying it . We already saw the true Kate as she told the world she now feels capable of being an actress sans classes or training. She feels that being a reality star where she plays herself is enough to justify that she can become an actress and do carton voices as well.
Then Ellen tells her Kate needs to have a life and date and Kate is literally taken aback. Her whole body rigidly straightens out and Kate looks shocked as you can see in her body language “You have to date,” Ellen stated as Kate recoils. This indicates she is clearly not interested or ready to date, which we can all understand. She needs to heal and has other priorities.
Then Ellen asks her about her ring. Kate she gives a ridiculous obviously made up story about telling the kids she wasn’t going to wear the ring anymore and saying “ it wasn’t fun for them.” Of course it wasn;t fun for kids to heart their parents are splitting up. But then Kate can’t resist letting her bitterness and hostility out at Jon for not allowing the kids to be on the show and make money themselves.
She says “At some point when I have a job again” Then she swallows hard and looks up with rounded shoulders, as someone who is guilty would do and know that what they are about to say or have said is wrong and that they really shouldn’t be making this dig at their ex. Also this is such BS when she says “when I have a job again” She just admitted on the Today show that she already had a job- her own show.
She then talks about how she found a ring with diamonds and mother of pearl. Once again you see the contraction in the same sentence. This is what sociopaths do. They contradict themselves in the same sentence. Now I am not saying Kate is necessarily a sociopath, but I am saying that she communicates in a very similar way as far as contradictions go. On one breath she says :at some point when I have a job again” referring to the fact that she will get a ring. Then she says in the next breath she already found the ring, and how the kids were very excited about that..
What? This is ridiculous. I am almost sure that her five year old kids, especially the boys are not excited that she found a diamond and pearl ring. Kids that age don’t even realize the “symbolism” of what diamond and pearls represent, no matter how much you explain it. They don’t process symbolism at that age. If they can’t eat it or play with it they don’t care. Ellen knew what Kate was saying was BDS so she asked if each kid would get a ring with one diamond on it And Kate disgusting replied “ absolutely, when they get a job .” This was yet another obvious dig that now that these kids don’t have the show they can’t make any money to afford a ring for themselves.
So the bottom line, as we could all see was that Ellen’s jokes clearly reflected that she wasn’t buying into Kate’s BS.