Mayumi Heene Balloon Mom’s Body Language Shows Signals of Being An Abused Woman

Balloon Boy
It came as no surprise to me after it was discovered that the whole balloon incident was a hoax, that the Sheriff asked Mayumi if she wanted to stay in a safe house. Unsurprisingly she declined. Why? Because she is reacting like a typical abused woman who is in denial and who doesn’t want to upset the situation.
Before I learned about the extent of Mayumi’s abuse, I clearly saw it on television. She had to ask for permission to leave in order to tend to her vomiting child. That was a HUGE red flag for me. Most mothers would react with extreme urgency when their child was ill. It’s a mother’s instincts. But it is not an abused mothers instincts. Oven times, they sit back and do nothing out of fear.
Because that behavior of Mayumi’s was so disturbing I wanted to learn more about her so I watched the episode of Wife Swap where she became very verbally abusive to her “swapped” husband, Mr. Silver. Oftentimes when a person is abused they will mimic the behavior of their abuser. It doesn’t always happen but it did play out in Mayumi’s situation. In a sense, it is similar to the Stockholm Syndrome where you identify with your captor, but it’s really not the Stockholm Syndrome per se. The captor she is identifying with is her own captor who verbally abuses her- Richard. So she transferred his behavioral model on to the situation with Mr. Silver.
Mayumi also mirrors the words of her husband, which she revealed on Wife Swap,” that they are descendents from aliens”. I am sure that she didn’t believe this before she met Richard.
When I saw the video of Richard screaming at her at the top of his lungs when she wasn’t holding the tether to his balloon properly, I got sick to my stomach from he sample I heard.
If this is what little Falcon hears day and night, no wonder he gets sick to his little stomach as well. No wonder he vomits a lot. When talking to Diane Sawyer Richard said Falcon vomits a lot because he has asthma. No. I think Falcon vomits a lot because his father is always angry and yelling violently at his mother.
I also happened to watch Richard’s first Wife Swap show where he said in essence he was glad he was married to a Japanese woman who didn’t run her mouth like the swapped wife did. His verbally abusive behavior was also nauseating to me, but not as nauseating as his physically abusive behavior on the second show where he threw food and threw milk over Mrs. Sheri Silver’s head. I was shocked. I could only imagine what he was doing to his real wife Mayumi. And then I found out.
I read on the internet where the deputy Sheriff of Larimer County came to the Heene home after Mayumi apparently called 9ll. When the deputy got there he saw there was blood in Mayumi’ s eye, a red mark on her cheek and her eye was swelling. She made some lame excuse that her contact was giving her trouble. In fact the deputy remarked that she wouldn’t even look up so he could see her eye. She was clearly protecting her abuser.
Who knows what else Richard has done to Mayumi over the years! He definitely expects her to do all the domestic chores and doesn’t pitch in to help as was revealed on Wife Swap.
According to a former business associate of Richard’s with whom he had a falling out due to his temper issues, Barabara Slusser also became friends with Mayumi. She told ABC News that “whatever Richard says goes and that she is basically his slave” .
What Barabara says next is very disturbing and very indicative of a woman who is abused as she tells ABC “He kept her isolated and separated from everyone else. She honestly asked me one time, ‘Is there something wrong with way we live?’ She wasn’t sure that American women lived this way with her husbands.”
How incredibly sad for Mayumi. But how did Mayumi get into this situation with Richard that she has been in since she married him a dozen years ago? Why did she pick a Richard type- an abuser?
There are many reasons why women will marry and or stay with an abuser, One of the many reasons has to do with imprinting. What we experience while growing up can often stick in our psyches. So we may subconsciously be attracted to those personality types that we find familiar.
According to Barbara Slusser, she said the following to ABC about her friend Mayumi. “She’s from Japan. She told me stories about her life in Japan with her father. He was very overbearing and abusive. She came over here to be an actress,” Slusser said. “Who does she meet? Richard Heene. They met in acting school when she could barely speak English. He wowed her. She kind of went from the frying pan to the fire.”
So apparently, if what Slusser says is true, than it may make sense why she agreed to go with Richard. She may have also wanted to stay in the US to get away from her abusive father for good and become a citizen get a green card so that may be another motivation for her sticking with Richard.
Freud once said, what we don’t resolve, we repeat”. I think this may be the case working here. Perhaps Mayumi didn’t resolve her issues with her allegedly abusive father and repeated them with Richard.
Having said all of this in terms of Mayumi being a victim of domestic violence and in essence going along for the ride, I don’t really see her as a co- conspirator but rather as a tragic victim. The consequences of her sticking up for herself or telling Richard that she didn’t want to participate in the hoax may have resulted in more verbal and perhaps more severe physical violence, soi she did what he said.
I think that information about her being an abused wife should come into play in terms of whether she is charged ort not. I think it would be such a shame for her to be put in prison and taken away from those boys. She is probably what allows them to be sane and civilized. You could clearly see her tenderness and love towards her older boy as he rubbed him and hugged him.
When I heard David Lane the attorney speak on the Today show I heard him say David Lane, the attorney
“I’m not their marriage counselor, and I’m not their priest,” he said. “I’m Richard’s defense attorney, so I can only comment on the charges.”
I thought that was a rather cold and disgusting statement.
Mr. Lane, You may not be their counselor or a priest but you can certainly have some compassion to suggest that they see a counselor or a priest so Mayumi won’t eventually end up like millions of abused women around the world one day- dead at the hands of her abusive husband Richard .

PS. Comedianne  Sundra Coonquist who knew Mayumi  speaks on radaronline.com  She too is frightened for Mayumi as  she confrims  exactly what I am saying regarding Mayumi being in danger. If the sheriff offered her to go  to a safehouse they must have seen that something was not right. I strongly believe that Richard can do something drastic to Mayumi and to the children if he thinks he will be going away to prison. Rest assured that when he is in prison,  no one will be waiting on him hand and foot like Mayumi does. I pray he doesn’t harm her or the kids. He needs to be watched like a hawk. Thahnk goddness the media is camped out there to keep an eye on things.

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