I just watched Diane Diamond’s great interview which she did for ET with Jon Gosselin where she asked him the most wonderful question. She asked, “Jon was there a part of you in that courtroom , looking over at your soon to be ex wife, that said Boy I just want to walk over there and say honey we can work this out.”
What came out of Jon’s mouth in response to this question initially touched me as he took a deep breath with his shoulders raised and said “ I thought about doing that”. He then smiles a nervous smile.
But as he continued, what he said completely repulsed me. He said “ but in a public setting being a public figure you have to watch what you say and do.”
I couldn’t believe what my ears has just heard come out of Jon’s mouth. In essence, what he was saying is that he couldn’t act from his heart and go over to the woman whom he loved at one time with whom he had eight children and say, look let’s stop all this and see if we can get some counseling and get back what we once had.”’ Let’s see if we can be a family again with a counselor helping us so we can do right for our kids.” Let’s get back to our faith and our religious foundation and see if we can start there.”
But no. Jon was more concerned about how he would look to others and the fact that he was in public and now considers himself a public figure. It was his pride and ego wouldn’t let him go over to Kate and do the right thing and do what his heart wanted him to do.
Several months ago when Jon and Kate announced their breakup I was on the Early Show discussing how I thought that with counseling these two could work it out and get through this rough patch. But instead of seeking out a private counselor to help them, they chose to play out their ugliness in the media and this is the result.
The result is that they both think they are huge celebrities full of pride and ego that they can’t see past themselves and communicate so that perhaps they could have a chance to a. get back together b. be civil and respectful to one another and or c. get rid of the hostility between them so their kids won’t suffer because of them.
Jon needs to get into his head that it is HIS life and he is not playing it out for the public, especially now that he is off the air. He needs to man up and talk to Kate like an adult and let her know what he wants to do. If he can’t do it with words, he needs to write it in a letter so that she will know exactly what is in his heart.
Maybe she will have a change of heart as well. After all on the Today show she said he wanted the old Jon back. Maybe if he expressed what was in his heart that would be the first step towards her seeing the old Jon.
There is no doubt that Kate is a difficult person and a mean person as Mady expressed when Kate didn’t give her a sip of water when she is thirsty. There is no doubt that she is a manipulative person as we have seen as she cried crocodile tears on the Today show saying how poor she as on one breath and how rich she was on the other breath and how by the way she was getting her own show. There is no doubt that she was mean to Jon. We all saw it. Maybe that is why Jon has acted out so radically as he has done.
He loved Kate at one point. You can see it in the early photos of them via their body language. She got meaner and meaner to him throughout the years. But he needed to set boundaries letting her know that she couldn’t treat him that way. He didn’t, so he rebelled in a passive aggressive way. Then with all of this media back and forth and all the stress and all the hoopla he ended up doing the unthinkable- telling everyone how much he hated her on national TV.
Maybe he hated her behavior but I don’t think he truly hated her. In fact he regretted those words and subsequently kept apologizing for them on every show on which he appeared.
The fact that he went on national TV with Diane Diamond on ET and said that he wanted to go over to Kate and put a stop to the hostility and the divorce and try to work things out speaks volumes. He must do what is in his heart.
And Kate must open her heart. She claims to be a Christian and Christians forgive. Even though she is in pain she must (with the help of a counselor or Dr. Phil if she wants or a minister or whomever) forgive Jon and forgive herself so that she can but out more love instead of all the hate and ugliness she has been spewing. It will not only make her a better person but a better mother.
I think that these two must stop their fighting and their divorce because deep down I don’t think either of them really want to go their separate ways. I am sure that those 8 innocent children would agree.