Bill Cosby Needs to Speak Up As Silence Is NOT Golden In His Case
November 19, 2014

Screen Shot 2014-11-19 at 9.52.32 AMWhomever is giving Bill Cosby advice with regard to not speaking up is giving him the wrong advice in my view. Even though our court system says one is innocent until proven guilty and that the defendant does not have to speak up for themselves in a court of law, in the court of public opinion it is a different matter.

In the court of public opinion which is the one which matters greatly to celebrities in terms of their public image, silence is not golden. If Bill Cosby is innocent of these multiple allegations, then he needs to speak up and say something. Otherwise it is perceived as his having something to hide and that he may be guilty. Even in the courtroom when one doesn’t speak up or take the witness stand, there is always the underlying question for the jury as to their guilt or innocence.

Because Cosby has always been vocal and has never shied away from speaking his mind like telling young Black men to pull up their pants and to use correct grammar and speech, it makes his silence on this matter even more deafening.

It doesn’t matter if his pitbull attorneys come out to discredit accusers like they just did with Janice Dickenson. Most people know the drill. They know that this is what attorneys do  as a defensive tactic, Thus it often make no difference to the public’s already formed opinion as to what  may or may not have happened.

What matters is having Bill Cosby himself coming forth and making a statement with regard to what each of his accusers have said about him. This would be Bill Cosby’s chance to come forward and to speak about his feelings, why it has happened, and why there have been rape rumors about him for year.

This is no longer old school PR from decades past. That school of thinking was to keep quiet so that things would be blown over and forgotten. But with the immediacy of the internet and it’s “documentation forever” this line of PR thinking is a thing of the past. Cosby needs to speak up and say what happened.

While it may be easy to discredit any of these now middle aged women by asking why they didn’t report it  back in the day or why they are now coming forward or why didn’t they do X or Y like Don Lemmon did on CNN. He actually had the audacity to ask one of the women why she didn’t bite Bill Cosby when he engaged her in oral sex.  Their not taking action at the time does not mean that they are not telling the truth today.  Back in the day young women were afraid to report rapes for fear they would be vilified and not believed.

But why would they lie now? It is not as though all of them are in show business and want to regain their 15 minutes of fame. In fact some have been athletes and people out of show business. In reality they would have nothing to gain by coming forth now except for public scrutiny. Most of these now grown women were teenagers or in their 20’s. They were no doubt smitten with Cosby’s celebrity and his power. Many were naive. No doubt they believed him when he  may have said he would help them with their careers which never happened, in exchange for sex. This has gone on since the beginning of Hollywood and still goes on.

The fact that Cosby settled with one of his victims says a lot in many people’s minds. While people settle for many reasons, one may wonder why Bill settled and for what reason. He needs to speak up about this settlement as well.

But truth be told, only these women know what did or did not  happen between them and Bill Cosby and all else is speculation.

That is why  it is essential for Cosby to not listen to his old school advisors or have his battleaxe lawyers speak on his behalf. he needs to speak up for himself. Where there is so much smoke there is usually often fire. So if Cosby wants to have his once stellar career back, he needs to come clean. His deal with Netflix is now on hold and no doubt his deal with NBC will suffer as well unless he speaks out.

The public and his fans who have supported him for so many years have a right to know what he thinks and to hear what he says about this devastating fiasco.

Nori’s Body Language Shows Detachment and Still Looking Miserable Around Kim Kardashian Despite PR Spin
November 19, 2014

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Kim Kardashian no doubt reads her press about her daughter Nori looking miserable around her and never smiling. Kim attributes it to being in front of th papps all the time.So she just did a PR campaign  to show little Nori smiling in her presence.  Kim says that  this is what they look like at home . But her campaign  has backfired on Kim  as you can see by Nori’s body language.

Yes Nori is smiling, but not at Kim. Nori  is looking up. She is detached from Kim.  There is too much space between them.  She does not lean into Kim and has  not done so in the majority of the photos we have seen of mother and daughter. While Nori is smiling, she is smiling  at someone else or something else. She is not smiling at Kim. The child’s hands and fingers rest on Kim  but they are not clasped around Kim with affection.  One of her little hands is cupped which indicated tension and discomfort  around Kim in my view. Nori gets comfort, not from Kim but from pressing her thumb and pointer finger together. That is her point of physical contact.It is not with Kim.

Kim’s smile and laughter is contrived and phony looking. What is telling in the photo that validates that there is a lack of bonding  between Kim and Nori and it is too late to establish any bonding. Kim missed the boat on that one as their  imprinting has already been established.  Kim is looking at Nori and Nori ignores Kim. Nori looks up. She does not look at her mother. True bonding would look very different where both mother and daughter would be looking at one another. Kim’s smile  also does not look genuine.

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Then Kim posts this photo of the two of them together stating that this is how the look when posing for paps. First of  all this baby knows nothing about posing at this age. Nori’s  body language shows she  can’t stand being around Kim. She pulls away from Kim just as she does in most of her photos we have seen of the two of them. She looks sad and distant from Kim. Her little cupped hand shows tension. Her body is stiff when she is around her mother.

Kim is not fooling anyone by this latest spin to show how well she and Nori are getting along and how happy the child is around her. The  body doesn’t lie- especially the body of a baby.

Mama June Shannon Body Language Shows Deception, Shame, Denial, Defensiveness and Sadness on Dr. Phil
November 18, 2014

Screen Shot 2014-11-17 at 1.01.52 PMDr. Phil clearly gave June Shannon of Honey Boo Boo fame, a major reality check for her irresponsible behavior. her reaction was that she was in denial and very sad- not bout what she did and the choices she made but about Dr. Phil’s reaction to her. This is no doubt the first time someone has called this know it all mom” on the carpet for her actions.

June often stammered which is usually a signal of deception. She showed massive signals of deception when saying that she only saw the molester twice from her stammering to her monotone. She also showed these signs when she lied about the photo of her and the molester in the bed being photoshopped.

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Her shame was depicted by her hunched shoulders and bowed head. She also looked super sad with downturned mouth as Dr. Phil grilled her and she knew deep down that she was facing a losing battle.

She also tried to justify her actions when Dr. Phil showed her a photo of her and Alana and the molester on a stairwell. She immediately interjected that her kids don’t go anywhere without her. Well that made things even worse for June because one wonders how they can trust June if she is around the child with the molester. When Dr. Phil goes over her history with men who were in jail, she interruputs and makes comments that she thinks will water down her egregious behavior. She says that  her daughter Jessica’s father is locked up but interjects it had nothing to do with Jessica and seems to be annoyed as she seems to be blaming that “Catch a Predator” thing for why he is locked up.

Her defensiveness was reflected in the harsh tones in which she answered Dr. Phil where she loudly blurted out her answers to his questions in a staccato manner.

June’s being in denial was clearly evident when she said that the reason why TLC dropped her show was because she shared with them that the girls were tired of filming after 2 and a half years. She seemed to have no clue that the reason why she was dropped was becuase she was seeing  asexual predator and had her girls around him.

Kim Kardashian Body Language Shows She’s Happier Showing Off Her Naked Body Than Being Around Daughter North
November 14, 2014

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While there has been a lot of talk and opinion  about Kim Kardashian displaying a greased up body showcasing her buttocks, breasts and  private parts, what struck me the most was her extremely happy and genuine smile as she appeared naked.

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But when she does a full frontal, showing off her breasts and her female genetaiia she is absolutely thrilled. Her eyes are smiling. her cheeks are raised, her teeth are displayed and her mouth is open.  She clearly shows that she loves wat she is doing.

Whether you agree or disagree with Kim’s exhibitionism you will certainly agree that she appears to be a lot happier naked than she is when she is in the presence of her young daughter North West.

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Thes photos above are just a few of the countless examples we see of Kim with either a serious expression, a sour puss, or blank and vacant expression when she is around baby Nori.

Most mothers of such an adorable child would be smiling in the child’s presence, yet we rarely see Kim displaying happiness around her daughter. The majority of the countless photos we have seen of Mother and daughter do not show either of them smiling with one another.

As a result  of Kim’s aloofness around her, little Nori has learned not to smile around Kim as well. She often looks annoyed and upset around Kim. nShe often pulls away from him.  It’s not the papps that make the child so sad looking, it is the lack of warmth and affection Nori may be feeling towards her mother as Kim consistently holds the child at a distance.

Screen Shot 2014-11-13 at 8.41.57 PMTo me it is sad that Kim appears to get more joy out of displaying her naked  self than when she is around her daughter. Whenever I see a photo of Kim and Nori it pains me to see such unhappiness and such a lack of bonding between them.

Honey Boo Boo Mom’s Body Language Shows Signs of Lying in Her Denial Tape
October 25, 2014

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In my view it seems like June Shannon, Honey Boo Boo’s mom is not being completely honest in her video tape. She is no doubt upset about what has unraveled and her show being cancelled as you can see her puffy eyes above. She looks like she has spent a lot of time crying over this mess she got herself into.

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The first sign we hear is a lot of ums and uhs as she says that she is going to give a comment. You can also see her  fingers to the right where she fidgets with her hair. This is a signal of anxiety and the start of her deceptive body language.

She starts with Um again and there is excessive blinking which shows anxiety as she says she just got a phone call from TLC  and ther ewill be no more production of the show.

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She immediately purses her lips which indicates she is upset about what has just happened.  Then she speaks in a staccato rhythm and begins the statement with “You know.” These are two major signals of deception. She goes on to say “The statement of me dating a sex offender is totally untrue”.  Usually when people use absolute qualifiers  like totally you will find that they are often being deceptive in what they are saying. She continues on to say Pumpkin has openly said that I did not date him.  As June makes this statement we see her blinking which may indicate deception. Then she adds

“and also his son”. She doesn’t finish the sentence which also adds to the suspicion that she is not telling the truth. Then we clearly hear a deceptive signal as she says “I would never ever ever put my kids in danger uh,” The never ever ever is her protesting too much which often signifies deception.

She then says” I love my kids. That is the past. I have not seen that person….in ten years and it don’t seem I want to see that person”.  Here she refers to him as that person in an attempt to appear to be distancing herself from him. If she really had nothing to hide she would say who he was by name and not refer to him as “that person”. Then she says “it don’t seemI want to see that person”. This is a very telling statement becuase it makes no sense. If she was being truthful she would have make an emphatic statement such as ” I never want to see this person”  instead of using the words” it don’t seem I want to ..”

She also speaks slowly and laboriously. This is a huge signal of deception on June’s part as this is not her usual way of speaking. She normally speaks very fast. In fact she speaks so fast that TLC often puts a chyron under her face so viewers can read what she just mimbled.

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You then see her eyebrow raise as she leans in to say “This is a truth video”. The leaning in and raised eyebrow appears to indicate deception.

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Now we really see a major signal of deception as she gets cotton mouthed, begins her statement with “um”and then swallows hard. She does this right after she says her lie that it is a truth video. People who lie often immediately change the subject. Instead of speaking more about the situation and letting viewers know that she wasn’t dating the molester and what he did and why she would not consider having him near her, all said in  emotional tones, she completely changes the subject and talks about how she and Sugarbear broke up and how they are better off as friends.

She then goes on to say that “things happen for a reason and that you live and learn”. In making that statement, she is letting us know that she has lied and that there is no doubt she was seeing the molester.  In essence her datingt he molester was the reason TLC pulled the plug.

She then outs TLC by telling everyone that they told her to be “hush hush” so that you won’t be hearing from hr for a while. When she says this you can hear her normal fast paced speech pattern, indicating that she is being honest here. No doubt TLC told her to make this tape and then to shut up. When you listen to this rapid rate speech pattern you can hear that it is in sharp contrast to her denial statement which is slow and deliberate.

Finally she goes on to praise and thank all of her supporters who stood up for her . She sniffles as she says this which may indicate that she is feeling emotional about her fan base and is no doubt sad she will be leaving the show. This sounded very sincere and heartfelt.

Now we have come to find out that her eldest daughter Anna (Chickadee) was molested by this man and that June had lied to her daughter and betrayed her. Anna who is newly married and has a child, Caitlin, has stated that she will not be speaking with her mother and will not allow June to see her grandbaby Caitlin.

Now we know why Anna didn’t live with June and the  three other daughters, but was living with her grandmother.June has lost it all- the millions of dollars from the show and endorsements , her relationship with Anna, her never being able to see baby Caitlin and her fan base.  Dating the man who once  molested your daughter and went to prison for his reprehensible  behavior is unforgivable and many fans could never forgive June for doing this and for allowing her children near such a man.

. TLC is in the business to make money and that is the bottom line. If they pulled the show and were willing to lose money on their investment, then you can be sure they had evidence that June was indeed dating the molester. Since that would not make for a good story line, they didn’t want to risk the hate they would receive and boycotts of their network and their other shows, so they got rid of June and the show.

Ray Rice’s Wife’s Body Language Shows A Fearful, Defeated Abused Woman At Press Conference to Discuss Abuse
September 9, 2014

Screen Shot 2014-09-08 at 7.08.07 PMJanay Rice, left  who is the wife of running back Ray Rice  right  of the Baltimore Ravens sat by her Toxic abusive husband

Ray Rice’s side as Ray spoke at a news conference at the Ravens training center on May 23, 2014 in Owings Mills,

Maryland. It was at that tine that RAY Rice spoke publicly for the first time since facing felony assault charges stemming from a February incident involving Janay at an Atlantic City casino.

We see Janay hunched over  with shoulders rounded in defeat and pursing her lips in anger at having to sit there and listen to her abuser make excuses. She is angry and rightfully so  as her hands reveal. They are balled up into fists. Her pursed lips and jaw tension also shows her anger at having to listen to this toxic man.

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As he rambles on she knows what he is saying is nonsense and she fiddles with her hands and digits. She bows her head low in humiliation as she sates down while he is speaking.

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Throughout the interview she constantly looked down. Here she fiddles with her hands which are still in a fist like position.

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Here we see her hand on her thigh as she begins to scratch herself. this indicates that her  autonomic system is working overtimes and her blood flow has had a sudden surge as she is forced to listen to his lies. 

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Her autonomic nervous system working overtime to maintain her poise when she is emotionally devastated as she becomes dry mouthed or cotton mouthes and licks her lips. her Ray is saying how he aims to be a better father. She can’t even  look at him as she glances off to the side. 

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In  order to keep up pretenses and act like everything is all right Janay was forced to speak. She pulled out her notes and speaks in a hoarse voice which indicates she must have gone through a great deal of emotional devastation, However she tries not to reveal how she really feels as she speaks in an emotionless monotone.  her shoulders are hunched over as she, like most victims of abuse says she is at fault and deeply regrets the role she played in all of this. 

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She looks down in embarrassment and her shoulders are raised and body muscles are tense and tight . She knows what she is saying isn’t true and that she was forced to do this in order for her husband to keep his job and her life. As she says that she is undergoing therapy individually and collectively and how she is going to be a better parent and role model in the community you can see  and hear that she does not believe what she is saying as she shrugs her rounded shoulders and speaks as though she robotically  memorized what she was forced to say. She seemed to be in fear. 

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And after being pummeled on the elevator and knocked out, it is understandable why she was in such fear for her life and couldn’t even look at the Toxic monster sitting next to her. 

This man deserves to be in prison for the rest of his ice for attempted murder. How dare he do what he did. It is great that the Falcons stepped up and did the right thing and eliminated him from the team. This should have been done long ago. 

What is equally as disturbing as seeing what Ray Rice did to his wife is some of the youtube videos and comments which condone his actions. They say that his wife deserved it for mouthing off to her husband. This mentality is sickening and barbaric. An animals doesn’t even act like this. 

A few years ago I wrote a book called Toxic Men- how to Heal and Deal with Men Who Make Your Life Miserable. I plan to reach out to Janay and give her a copy of this book to help her heal from her abusive relationship with her husband Ray.Like So many abused women, Janay stayed with Ray. WE can;t fault her. She may have wanted to keep up the image for his career. She may also have been afraid to leave because of further abuse from Ray. She may have wanted to stay for the sake of her child. Well now that the cat is out of the bag so to speak,s he needs to leave immediately.

There is no doubt that he will be enraged now that he is no longer a Raven and cannot be signed to any other team. He may very well continue to  take his anger out on his wife and even on their child. Janay needs to leave the home asap  as her safety comes first . Next, she needs to hire a divorce lawyer.  

 

Joran Vandersloot’s Body Language in Harsh New Prison
September 3, 2014

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A video was released of psychopathic murderer and most likely serial killer Joran Vandersloot who killed two innocent women, Natalie Holloway in Aruba and Stephanie Flores in Peru, as he entered one of the harshest, coldest,and most remote prisons in the world- Challapalca Prison. This prison located high in the Andes Mountains has been cited for numerous human rights violations throughout the world.  He was sent there as punishment for threatening to kill a guard at his previous prison.

Apparently the warden of his new prison Sergio Haro,  gave Vandersloot a cell phone to record himself and later the phone was confiscated . On the video, Vandersloot speaks in Spanish and says he doesn’t know why he was told to record himself but mentions it was for his security.

No doubt this notorious prison wanted to show the world  that their new inmate was in good physical  shape when he first arrived. Actually Joran ‘s fuller face reflects that he was doing quite well in his previous prison as he put on some pounds, indicating that he was well fed. He has grown a beard and moustache since he was first processed into the prison as you can see below, he was clean shaven. 

Screen Shot 2014-09-02 at 5.56.44 PM In the photo above  his fleshy chin shows that he was clearly not deprived of food at his previous facility. As the doctor examines him we see that he has taken one arm out of  a sleeve of his sweatshirt and rests on his abdomen. Most likely his wrist is chained to a waist chain for safety as guards were taking no chances with Vandersloot. . He is not only under the watchful eye of a police officer to his side as you can see in the photo above,

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Screen Shot 2014-09-02 at 5.58.32 PMAs Vandersloot is turned facing the wall and  patted down, we see his sagging pants and his underwear showing. In the prison population this is a major signal that the person is open for sex and are available to be penetrated by other prisoners. So Vandersloot is giving a clear message that he is ready to be the receiver in a potential sexual encounter. In his new home at Challapalca Prison, there are no conjugal visits gone are his days of having sex with and  impregnating a woman as he did with his new bride as of  this past July, Leidy Figueroa. Also gone are regular visits he would have had with the  unfortunate child he  spawned as family visits are extremely expensive and the terrain is extremely difficult to traverse for any outsider.

Vandersloot will not only be deprived of  conjugal visits with his wife, access to his new baby,  home cooked meals brought in daily, and fresh new clothing,he will most likely initially suffer from altitude sickness in the the 15,000 foot elevated prison, no regular electricity or running water, overcrowding, poor medical treatment, poor food, and poor sanitation. In fact he is already feeling the misery of being there as he has allegedly gone on a hunger strike. Perhaps this is the first time Vandersloot is really feeling the consequences of his actions. 

Joan Rivers Vocal Problems- Was There Malpractice During Her Endoscopy?
August 29, 2014

 

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Joan Rivers was my client around the time  of her late husband Edgar’s death. She was referred to me by her ear nose and throat physician Dr. Edward Kantor  in Beverly Hills to help her learn to not abuse her vocal cords and to help her use her speaking voice more effectively.  So it came as no surprise when I learned today that  she went in for an endoscopic procedure at Yorktown Endoscopy Center in NYC so that her doctors  could get a closer look at the function of her vocal muscles.

We all remember Joan as having a machine gun like gutteral sounding hoarse voice as we not only heard her verbal jabs during her comedy routines, but  her vocal jabs to her laryngeal muscles and vocal cords. When a person sounds hoarse and often lose their voice,  it is not uncommon to have a laryngeal endoscopic procedure done so that the physician can visualize the vocal cords to check for how they function or  whether there is  paralysis, vocal nodules,  or vocal ulcers. 

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The procedure using a  transnasal flexible laryngoscope  or laryngeal oral scope is  used for  this office-based diagnostic procedure which is extremely well tolerated and  performed on patients of all ages from newborns to someone who was 81 like Joan Rivers.

Before the endoscope is inserted topical anesthetic is placed in the nasal cavity to avoid stinging and burning during the procedure.Then they sit in an upright position and the scope is passed along the floor of the nose into the back of the throat to a level just above the vocal cords.It is essentially a painfree simple procedure. 

Next the  patient is asked to breath deeply and say the “ah: sound which allows the physician to directly observe the structure and dynamic motion of the  vocal cords which they can view on a video screen .There are no side effects of the procedure and the anesthesia spray usually wears off in about an hour. 

So if Joan was undergoing this simple non invasive non life threatening procedure, what happened? Why was her airway cut off? Did someone do the procedure improperly? Was a technician doing the procedure or was it a licensed physician? Was this a case of malpractice? I have to ask these questions because it seems odd to me that her airway would be closed off.

Also lets say her airway was closed off,  why did a clinic of  this kind or any kind not have life saving equipment to open her airway? If she had a heart attack, why was there no immediate cardiac life saving devices on the premises? Why was she deprived of oxygen for any length of time?  Why wasn’t she given oxygen immediately? This bothers me. Why were there not life saving emergency devices available and if they were why weren’t they implemented asap? 

I am so disturbed by this for several reasons. First,  I knew Joan personally along with her daughter Melissa and I know the horrible toll it will take on Melissa and her son, not to mention the toll it will take on Joan, if she survives.

Secondly I had personal experience with something like this happening in my own family. My dearest brother Manny was intubated improperly by a doctor who was only a doctor for 7 months. As a result my brother became a vegetable and died. I can never get over this and carry this severe emotional  pain with me  my throughout my life. So I cry for Joan and for Melissa and for her son Cooper as I know exactly how they feel to know that someone they loved had to die  or become incapacitated in such a horrific manner. 

I have no doubt that with the resources available to Melissa there will be a thorough investigation as to what actually happened and who may be possibly  responsible.

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It is so devastating that Joan was looking and feeling so good as it was reported hours earlier. Now her life is changed forever- and not for the better .

Joan is now in a medically induced coma and depending  on how long she was deprived of oxygen to her brain, she will most likely never be able to do what she did before. For some people that may be viewed  as a relief because  they found her humor politically incorrect and mean spirited. For others who enjoyed her humor and her views it is a great loss.

Joan’s politics, point of  view, and humor aside, no one should be going into a non invasive relatively simple procedure and end up potentially brain damaged in in a medically induced coma where they may never be able to speak  or live.

 

 

 

Toxic CNN Anchor Creates Hostility Driving Joan Rivers Off Set But Obama Gay Michelle “Tranny” Joke May Be River’s Undoing
July 7, 2014

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There is nothing more TOXIC then someone being the instigator and then trying to make out like they are the victim. That is what happened with the passive aggressive actions of CNN anchor Fredericka Whitfield. Whitfield was the one who instigated the hostile tone of the interview by calling Joan mean when Joan appears on Fashion Police, calling Joan out on making fun of serious situations like Casey Anthony’s dead daughter and critiquing Joan’s book cover of her new book Diary of a Mad Woman where Joan is wearing fur.

Whitfield laughs a phony laugh and mugs for the camera when Joan walks off the set, acting surprised that Joan left yet mugging and phony smiling all the way. Initially Joan tried to explain that Fashion Police was not mean and that Joan didn’t attack the celebrities, she attacked the clothing and fashion.

Whitfield glossed over River’s answer and proceeded in a hostile tone to attack her over the Casey Anthony daughter humor. Joan once again tried to explain that you can take a horrible situation and add humor (albeit dark humor) it gives the person a moments respite from the tragedy. Rivers further went on to describe how Winston Churchill described this type of humor as a moment’s vacation. Once again Whitfield glossed over her answer and began to attack Joan over wearing fur on her book cover. Joan tried to explain and immediately went on the offensive asking Whitfield if she wore leather and told her to shut up and talk to her when she wears a paper belt.

Then Joan pulled out her earpiece and walked out. On one breath Whitfield was complimentary and on the other breath began her series of attacks. This is called passive aggressive behavior and highly toxic in my book. Rivers told Whitfield that all her questions had been “negative,” and added “You are not the one to interview a person who does humor, sorry,” before Rivers walked off. Rivers was right. She came to speak of her book, not the show and not her furs. It was the attacking staccatto and hostile tone of voice Whitfield used that got Joan worked up.

Had Whitfield said ” What would you say to people who comment on you wearing fur” instead of directly attacking Joan that she was wearing fur on the cover of her book, it would have been a different story. Had she worded her questions differently, Rivers would not have walked off the set. So needless to say I believe Joan was absolutely right not to subject herself to this amature, unprofessional, and hostile interview.

While the incident was unfortunate it put Joan high up in the press and now makes more people aware of her new book. It also put Fredericka Whitfield on the map as before this, most people had no idea who she was.

On the show Joan Rivers was defending herself in saying that she has made people laugh for 50 years.Before all of the current political correctness which permeates our society her humor obviously worked very well. She skewered the Royal family and Elizabeth Taylor as well as racial and ethnic groups without a thought. People loved this and her Vegas shows and nightclub acts around the country sold out regularly. It was the Don Rickles put people down type of humor that people seemed to love.

But today it has changed. People are much more tender and sensitive and don’t find any humor in tragedy such as Caylee Anthony’s death (me included). They will also not tolerate Holocaust jokes as Joan has made in the past or Black jokes. They will also not tolerate gay or gender identity jokes like the recent one she made about The President and First Lady.

When a reporter  recently questioned Rivers if she thought there would be a gay President in the White House she remarked that we already have one- Obama and that his wife Michelle is a tranny.

In my view it is not Joan’s walking off the CNN set that may be her undoing but this joke about the President and First Lady that in my view that hits well below the belt. It’s not funny and in my view oversteps all boundaries. Whether or not you are a fan of Obama and his wife, we can all agree that this was a pretty shocking thing to say, especially that Michelle is a “tranny.” While there has been tabloid press in the past  alluding to Obama’s being gay, there is nothing to even suggest that Michelle is transgender. It seem libelous to me.

While shock value has been what has sustained Rivers throughout the years, this shock value may be what finally does her in.

TOXIC Kate Gosselin Reportedly Abused Her Children and Dogs Needs to Be Off Air Forever! New Book An Eye Opener
June 23, 2014

 

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Because  I had been vocal in my media interviews and in my blogs about the body language of Kate Gosselin and her verbally abusive behavior towards  Jon and her kids, I was sent a review copy of  KATE GOSSELIN: HOW SHE FOOLED THE WORLD – The Rise And Fall of a Reality TV Queen  http://www.amazon.com/KATE-GOSSELIN-FOOLED-WORLD-REALITY-ebook/dp/B00L774BFA/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1403479276&sr=8-4&keywords=Kate+gosselin+how+she+fooled+the+world

I have always said I am not a Kate hater. I am merely a reporter of newsmakers communication and body language. And I reported some very TOXIC things I saw with Kate Gosselin.

At first I didn’t want to read this book.  I felt I  learned all I needed to know about Kate from watching  her body language on the TLC shows, including  parts of the recent special she did. In that special I saw her Toxic sadism as she kicked a ball towards Mady to the repercussions of that hostile act where  Mady refused to forgive her.

I also saw the lasting effects of Kate’s years of verbal abuse on Mady which we all saw on previous shows. Now Mady has poor self esteem as she put herself down and showed visible signs depression. We also  saw Cara as a verbal cripple where she was afraid to utter a word around her Toxic mother.

As I made the decision to finally to read the book I wondered if there would be anything new in the book that  a.  I didn’t already know and  b.  if there was anything in it that Kate’s lawyers would use to sue this author Robert Hoffman.

Turns out, while there were many things I did know based on my observations, there were things I did not know which both  shocked and disgusted me. One of those things was Kate’s physical abuse of her children and her sadistic abuse of the dogs.

As for any legal issues concerning Robert Hoffman,  in my view any lawsuit by Kate would be seen as a frivolous claim in my view. The man is a journalist and wrote what he saw and culled data from  many interviews from others. He also reported on Kate’s own words. He did not break into her home and steal her hard drive. He did not do anything illegal or nefarious.

He did what many resourceful journalists and lots of detectives  have done-  look into the person’s trash to find discarded information about them. What Hoffman found was a goldmine in the garbage Kate Gosselin, herself,  threw away outside and left to be picked up. If she didn’t want any of her own words out, she needed to invest in and use a shredder as that is what they are for . In addition, she needed to hire someone to erase her hard drive if she wanted to trace left of what she said.

DISCOVERY and  TLC RESPONSIBILITY TO GET KATE  OFF THE AIR FOREVER 

The two pieces information  I did not know that I learned from this book,  which was merely reporting Kate’s own words based on her self written journal  was that

1. Kate physically abused her children and and

 2. She abused her dogs.

For those two reasons alone,  I strongly believe TLC MUST NEVER PUT her on a show again or  never again be the strong wall behind her that protects her with ridiculous PR Spin and  puts her on such shows as Today, Access Hollywood, People Magazine  or even the Apprentice to get her back into the limelight so people would watch her special.

This woman in my view needs to be off the air for good. Look what they did to Paula Deen who self admitted she said the N word 30 years ago. They need to do the same to Kate Gosselin. All of those sponsors who support Kate should terminate Kate’s agreements in my view based on these two horrible acts and based on what we saw on the last special of how she treated her children. All the endorsement, speaking engagements and  free bees need to stop.

In the book Robert Hoffman pulls out a contract of Kate’s and TLC’s and says how Discovery which owns TLC backed Kate from day one. He seems surprised by this.

As someone who has signed extensive entertainment and sponsorhip  contracts myself, I am not at all surprised that Discovery would back Kate for as long as she was useful to them and kept making money.

They would do anything to keep her PR machine going even if it meant discrediting people like  child actor activist Paul Petersen who publicly spoke out against Kate and what harm she did to the kids. They would do anything to protect their brand as they proved to Jon Gosselin during his divorce from Kate by tying his hands every which way. If he veered out of line,  they made sure he would be sued and essentially left homeless if he did anything against their cash cow and money making machine, Kate.

But now that the cat is out of the bag through this book, Discovery and TLC need to quit Kate Gosselin, especially after the poor ratings on her last special. It is interesting that they realize she is no longer a big deal for them ad their PR machine does not appear to be ramped up very high since Hoffman’s book has been released.

 

Hoffman says in the book he thinks she is a very mentally sick woman. A very mentally sick woman who can’t seem to get along with anyone from her own parents, sibilngs, relatives, aunts, and uncles,  long time babysitters, help,  producers, people on DWTS  like beloved dancer Tony Dovalani.

Journalist Hoffman and others report her as being,  narcissistic, bipolar and a boarderline personality. The reason why Kate has so many haters is because people see her disturbed behavior and don’t like it.  The tagline of Kate being the “person you love to hate”  to help attract more viewers is exploiting Kate’s alleged  mental issues and taunting viewers to dare to watch.

No one loves to hate. People hate Kate because she does things that are hateable like hitting children and abusing dogs. She needs to be off the air permanently for the sake of her kids at least.

Now that the kids are older we can see by their body language they hate to be on the show.  Most  are not happy being there. In addition they are not talented or charismatic children. They simple average kids, many who are repressed and others who look very sad. The only one who shows life is Mady,  but she is angry and depressed all the time. These kids have no business being on air based on that alone.There are too many delightful exciting non sad and non abused kids out there.

Here is what Hoffman says in the book about the responsibility  of  Discovery, TLC and  it’s producers:

Every producer, crew member or person employed by Discovery/TLC/Figure 8 Films who witnessed any abuse of the Gosselin children bears some responsibility for allowing it to continue and for not reporting it. Every executive who knew about the abuse is responsible.

Everyone who turned a blind eye to the abuse bears some blame. It is probably safe to say that no damning, un-aired Gosselin film where Kate is screaming at, threatening and spanking her children will ever see the light of day.

That unseen film is proof that all the adults who witnessed the abuse, or saw signs that made them strongly suspect abuse, and who could have and should have done something to protect those children, failed them – all because there was a boatload of money to be made off of them. The Gosselin children were nothing more than collateral damage in a business driven by greed, where profit trumps the safety and well-being of our most innocent. The welfare of those children was everybody’s business.”

TLC and Discovery have other successful shows that are quite wonderful and inspiring  like The Little Couple, Say Yes to the Dress, the Duggars (who have so much love in that family), and even the Sister Wives who are a rather unique unconventional yet loving family. TLC’s shows about the Amish way of life  and even the Gypsy way of life are great as you get  a glimpse into this never before seen lifestyle and way of thinking. So they don’t need to showcase a child abuser and an animal abuser.

At first the network made the right decision to see a young family raise multiples. But now that the babies are all grown,  it is no longer cute. Instead  it is a trainwreck and a nightmare as even indicated by their latest not great ratings from their special.

In my view,  this show needed to be off the air much earlier as it was reported by Hoffman that many producers witnessed  Kate’s abuse. In my view they need to be held accountable for not doing anything about it. No job is worth keeping when you see a baby being abused.

 

KATES BRUTAL ABUSE OF THE CHILDREN 

 

After page 127 the book documents Kate’s abuse on the babies. It is a very hard and disturbing read but says it all.  It needs to be seen by both the Kate haters and kate lovers so they can decide for themselves in an objective manner. Here are only 16 of  actual excerpts of the book about Kate and her abuse:

1. ” Kate  spanked 2-year-old babies for doing exactly what 2-year-old babies do and said on air  she put a “soaking and dripping wet” Alexis into her crib and left her there until Jon got home, which made her  uncaring and  inept.

 

2. “Kate said that she was instantly so SO angry that she grabbed him and spanked him as hard as she could and thought that she may seriously injure him so she sent him to his crib and whipped him into it very hard! Kate Gosselin said that for the first time she thought she might really lose it and she was glad that she left him in his crib until Jon came home from work. Kate wrote today was the day that she felt like she may really seriously injure a child!”

 

 

3. “Kate goes on to pontificate about Collin saying she doesn’t understand him. She says he’s usually kind and caring and tender and nice until his (two-year-old) temper flairs. Kate says she doesn’t like that little Collin doesn’t know how to handle his frustration and anger, but apparently beating him and screaming at him is her way of trying to calm him down and make him understand. Kate then laments that she didn’t even get the chance to have Collin apologize to her because she had other things to do.”

 

4. “…Collin and that’s when Kate REALLY lost it and pulled Collin up by the hair and spanked them all so hard!!! Kate says she loves them but she was so very angry with them for eating mini M&Ms that were obviously left out where toddlers can get their little fingers on them.”

 

5. “Kate says that she put them back into their beds for their own safety. Kate saw her father in herself today and she says that really scares her. “

 

 6. “The children just stood there terrified. Then she dragged one of the boys into the bathroom and spanked him five or six times with a large plastic spoon.”

 

7. “You could hear Kate forcefully whacking the child and the child screaming at the top of his lungs. People told me it happened more than once, but it was off-camera because Kate didn’t want it in the show.”

 

8.” Kate talks about Aaden’s fifth day of potty training. He had an accident and pooped on the floor. Kate said she screamed at the top of her lungs as she picked him up. She spanked him after the clean up because, as she says, they are not dogs and Kate felt that five days was more than enough time for a two-year-old boy to become potty trained.”

 

9. Think about these words from Kate’s journal:

 “I spanked them so hard!!!!”

 “I felt like I may hurt his children.”

 “I grabbed him and spanked him as hard as I could and thought I may seriously injure him.”

 “I was out of control.”

 “Now read them again, and picture six tiny children in nothing but diapers, being brutally spanked by their enraged and clearly out-of-control mother. That is not a loving parent disciplining her children. That is violence and abuse. And remember – these are the things that Kate was comfortable documenting in her journal as source material for possible inclusion in her book, I Just Want You To Know – Letters To My Kids On Love, Faith, and Family. These are normal, everyday occurrences in the Gosselin children’s lives. These are things that Kate was prepared to share with the world if an editor at Zondervan hadn’t gotten his or her hands on them first.”

 

10. “After more than 30 minutes of Collin sitting, trying to go potty, Kate turns the light out on Collin, leaving him alone to sit in the dark on the potty, and telling him, “Don’t get up ’til there’s pee in there. Understand?”  

 

11. “She actually yelled at her twin daughters in front of the cameras for coming down to the kitchen a few minutes early, before their scheduled 6:03 morning kitchen entrance time. The poor girls looked dejected and beat down as they were belittled and sent away…for the television audience’s viewing enjoyment.”

 

12. “Kate was given the bottle of water, unscrewed the cap, and took a sip. She then put the bottle down on the floor next to her chair without offering any to a clearly distressed Mady. Mady pleaded, “I need a drink now.” Kate told her to “Be quiet.” Mady then said, “You’re really, really mean! You drank it right in front of my face.”

 

 13. “After her divorce from Jon, Kate was caught on video violently spanking two of the boys in the driveway of their home, the moment they got out of the van from returning from an overnight with Jon. The other children just watched in fear as the spanking took place, perhaps not knowing if they were next. I later found out the reason for the beating was because the boys told Kate they wanted to stay longer at Jon’s house because they were having too much fun. Kate now promises the children presents and trips to Toys R Us for toys if they tell Jon that they don’t want to go to his house.The paparazzo who shot the video didn’t release it because he shot it from private property.

 

14. “Beating or spanking her children isn’t the only way Kate gets her message across to them. Kate recently pushed one of the boys outside in below-freezing temperatures without his coat, gloves or hat for fifteen minutes because the boy didn’t close the door all the way when he came inside from playing in the snow. The child was screaming and crying and banging on the doors all around the house. His face was bright red from being so cold when Kate finally allowed him to come back into the house.”

 

15.”Kate Gosselin had one babysitter who would actually administer her own beatings to the Gosselin children at Kate’s direction when she was away. The sitter was given the authority by Kate to carry out Kate’s way of ‘teaching’ the children for even the smallest of infractions. This included spanking the children, withholding meals from the children and locking the children in a room for hours at a time. This same sitter was told by Kate to lock one of the boys in the bathroom for her entire shift because he left splashes of water on the sink and floor without toweling it off.

 

16. “On one occasion, one of the boys was punished for having Shoka in the basement when he was supposed to be outside. Shoka had an accident by the door and Kate was so enraged that she brought the boy down to the basement and screamed at him while showing him the mess. To show her complete domination of the child, she grabbed him by the back of his neck and forced his face down to within inches of the mess, trying to rub his face in it. He struggled and resisted and ended up with only a spanking instead” of a face-full of dog feces.”

KATE’S ABUSE OF THE DOGS 

Kate also abused the dogs as Hoffman documents from these actual quotes from his book:

1, “The Gosselin dog’s normal wasn’t much better. In fact, it was very similar to the children’s normal. That’s why they were sent away after only a short time as being ‘part of the family.’

 

2.”Both Gosselin dogs, Shoka and Nala, were abused by Kate during the separation and divorce when Jon was away from the house. Kate treated the dogs and the kids in the same manner but the dogs resisted and ‘fought back.’ Kate would use a stick, a spoon, a tube or whatever else she had handy to discipline the dogs for minor infractions that dogs commit, like tracking mud into the basement after being brought in from being outside in the pouring rain and…mud.”

 

3. “If Kate got growled at by one of the dogs for hitting them for minor animal infractions, she would banish them to the outdoors overnight. She talked to them like people and thought she could reason with them. She locked them outside in the freezing rain and snow and left them to watch the family through the basement windows. One freezing cold night, she sadistically went to the glass door where the female dog Nala was howling to come inside and she smiled and waved to her and told her how warm it was inside and that maybe she’ll think about her actions so she could come back in the following morning. She got down on the floor to pet Shoka who was laying by the door looking out at poor Nala. Kate Gosselin is cruel and she seems to enjoy the power that she has over children, animals and adults.”

BOTTOM LINE 

 If the book did not include Kate’s own words from her own diary she herself discarded, you might be suspect about someone trying to do a smear job on Kate.

But the truth of the matter is that she said these horrible things. You cannot deny that or make any excuse for it like she was in a bad mood or spin it that those were thoughts she never meant.  They were in her computer on her own hard drive and who else would write them,  let alone have access to her computer?  Even worse we all saw her do many of these horribly abusive things to her kids on TV, many of which I reported in my previous blogs.

Kate has done enough damage to the kids and by TLC and Discovery airing her show or doing anymore specials they are contributing to the demise of these children’s already poor self esteem as we already  just saw with Mady and Cara. Collin and other children had school issues where they were abusive to teachers. They clearly learned this Toxic behavior from an abusive mother just as Kate reported in the book she learned it from her own abusive father.

These children DO NOT need to be used to be on TV for Kate’s narcissistc  gain. The network needs to stop it effective immediately. She has earned enough money – millions upon millions of dollars and there are trust funds for each child that she never has to  worry about their education. She never has earn money on TV again.

This abusive, non generous,mean spirited, bullying, greedy, manipulative, self absorbed, woman who essentially  took fertility drugs had six children at once and became  famous by using her  her kids to be in the media no longer has a place in the media for her egregious actions as far as I am concerned.

 

Essentially  she is nobody without those kids. She has nothing to offer or   redeeming qualities as far as I am concerned. Reading Kate’s own words and witnessing her actions will  make everyone a hater who with any sense of decency  and compassion realize that they could never  support or promote a woman who beats children, abuses teenagers as we just saw in her special, and abuses dogs.

 If you say the N word, show racism as Kate has also done as reported in the book based on her own words,  and  abuse children and animals based on her own words and eyewitness reports,  you need to be finished as a public entity and be removed from the public eye.

I for one can no longer look at Kate without disgust and revulsion for hitting those babies for such minor infractions like soiling their diapers and for abusing those innocent dogs. I will not play “the emperor” or “empress”  has new clothes” when all can see the naked truth about this TOXIC WOMAN.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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