Bill Cosby Needs to Speak Up As Silence Is NOT Golden In His Case
November 19, 2014

Screen Shot 2014-11-19 at 9.52.32 AMWhomever is giving Bill Cosby advice with regard to not speaking up is giving him the wrong advice in my view. Even though our court system says one is innocent until proven guilty and that the defendant does not have to speak up for themselves in a court of law, in the court of public opinion it is a different matter.

In the court of public opinion which is the one which matters greatly to celebrities in terms of their public image, silence is not golden. If Bill Cosby is innocent of these multiple allegations, then he needs to speak up and say something. Otherwise it is perceived as his having something to hide and that he may be guilty. Even in the courtroom when one doesn’t speak up or take the witness stand, there is always the underlying question for the jury as to their guilt or innocence.

Because Cosby has always been vocal and has never shied away from speaking his mind like telling young Black men to pull up their pants and to use correct grammar and speech, it makes his silence on this matter even more deafening.

It doesn’t matter if his pitbull attorneys come out to discredit accusers like they just did with Janice Dickenson. Most people know the drill. They know that this is what attorneys do  as a defensive tactic, Thus it often make no difference to the public’s already formed opinion as to what  may or may not have happened.

What matters is having Bill Cosby himself coming forth and making a statement with regard to what each of his accusers have said about him. This would be Bill Cosby’s chance to come forward and to speak about his feelings, why it has happened, and why there have been rape rumors about him for year.

This is no longer old school PR from decades past. That school of thinking was to keep quiet so that things would be blown over and forgotten. But with the immediacy of the internet and it’s “documentation forever” this line of PR thinking is a thing of the past. Cosby needs to speak up and say what happened.

While it may be easy to discredit any of these now middle aged women by asking why they didn’t report it  back in the day or why they are now coming forward or why didn’t they do X or Y like Don Lemmon did on CNN. He actually had the audacity to ask one of the women why she didn’t bite Bill Cosby when he engaged her in oral sex.  Their not taking action at the time does not mean that they are not telling the truth today.  Back in the day young women were afraid to report rapes for fear they would be vilified and not believed.

But why would they lie now? It is not as though all of them are in show business and want to regain their 15 minutes of fame. In fact some have been athletes and people out of show business. In reality they would have nothing to gain by coming forth now except for public scrutiny. Most of these now grown women were teenagers or in their 20′s. They were no doubt smitten with Cosby’s celebrity and his power. Many were naive. No doubt they believed him when he  may have said he would help them with their careers which never happened, in exchange for sex. This has gone on since the beginning of Hollywood and still goes on.

The fact that Cosby settled with one of his victims says a lot in many people’s minds. While people settle for many reasons, one may wonder why Bill settled and for what reason. He needs to speak up about this settlement as well.

But truth be told, only these women know what did or did not  happen between them and Bill Cosby and all else is speculation.

That is why  it is essential for Cosby to not listen to his old school advisors or have his battleaxe lawyers speak on his behalf. he needs to speak up for himself. Where there is so much smoke there is usually often fire. So if Cosby wants to have his once stellar career back, he needs to come clean. His deal with Netflix is now on hold and no doubt his deal with NBC will suffer as well unless he speaks out.

The public and his fans who have supported him for so many years have a right to know what he thinks and to hear what he says about this devastating fiasco.

Nori’s Body Language Shows Detachment and Still Looking Miserable Around Kim Kardashian Despite PR Spin
November 19, 2014

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Kim Kardashian no doubt reads her press about her daughter Nori looking miserable around her and never smiling. Kim attributes it to being in front of th papps all the time.So she just did a PR campaign  to show little Nori smiling in her presence.  Kim says that  this is what they look like at home . But her campaign  has backfired on Kim  as you can see by Nori’s body language.

Yes Nori is smiling, but not at Kim. Nori  is looking up. She is detached from Kim.  There is too much space between them.  She does not lean into Kim and has  not done so in the majority of the photos we have seen of mother and daughter. While Nori is smiling, she is smiling  at someone else or something else. She is not smiling at Kim. The child’s hands and fingers rest on Kim  but they are not clasped around Kim with affection.  One of her little hands is cupped which indicated tension and discomfort  around Kim in my view. Nori gets comfort, not from Kim but from pressing her thumb and pointer finger together. That is her point of physical contact.It is not with Kim.

Kim’s smile and laughter is contrived and phony looking. What is telling in the photo that validates that there is a lack of bonding  between Kim and Nori and it is too late to establish any bonding. Kim missed the boat on that one as their  imprinting has already been established.  Kim is looking at Nori and Nori ignores Kim. Nori looks up. She does not look at her mother. True bonding would look very different where both mother and daughter would be looking at one another. Kim’s smile  also does not look genuine.

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Then Kim posts this photo of the two of them together stating that this is how the look when posing for paps. First of  all this baby knows nothing about posing at this age. Nori’s  body language shows she  can’t stand being around Kim. She pulls away from Kim just as she does in most of her photos we have seen of the two of them. She looks sad and distant from Kim. Her little cupped hand shows tension. Her body is stiff when she is around her mother.

Kim is not fooling anyone by this latest spin to show how well she and Nori are getting along and how happy the child is around her. The  body doesn’t lie- especially the body of a baby.

Mama June Shannon Body Language Shows Deception, Shame, Denial, Defensiveness and Sadness on Dr. Phil
November 18, 2014

Screen Shot 2014-11-17 at 1.01.52 PMDr. Phil clearly gave June Shannon of Honey Boo Boo fame, a major reality check for her irresponsible behavior. her reaction was that she was in denial and very sad- not bout what she did and the choices she made but about Dr. Phil’s reaction to her. This is no doubt the first time someone has called this know it all mom” on the carpet for her actions.

June often stammered which is usually a signal of deception. She showed massive signals of deception when saying that she only saw the molester twice from her stammering to her monotone. She also showed these signs when she lied about the photo of her and the molester in the bed being photoshopped.

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Her shame was depicted by her hunched shoulders and bowed head. She also looked super sad with downturned mouth as Dr. Phil grilled her and she knew deep down that she was facing a losing battle.

She also tried to justify her actions when Dr. Phil showed her a photo of her and Alana and the molester on a stairwell. She immediately interjected that her kids don’t go anywhere without her. Well that made things even worse for June because one wonders how they can trust June if she is around the child with the molester. When Dr. Phil goes over her history with men who were in jail, she interruputs and makes comments that she thinks will water down her egregious behavior. She says that  her daughter Jessica’s father is locked up but interjects it had nothing to do with Jessica and seems to be annoyed as she seems to be blaming that “Catch a Predator” thing for why he is locked up.

Her defensiveness was reflected in the harsh tones in which she answered Dr. Phil where she loudly blurted out her answers to his questions in a staccato manner.

June’s being in denial was clearly evident when she said that the reason why TLC dropped her show was because she shared with them that the girls were tired of filming after 2 and a half years. She seemed to have no clue that the reason why she was dropped was becuase she was seeing  asexual predator and had her girls around him.

Kim Kardashian Body Language Shows She’s Happier Showing Off Her Naked Body Than Being Around Daughter North
November 14, 2014

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While there has been a lot of talk and opinion  about Kim Kardashian displaying a greased up body showcasing her buttocks, breasts and  private parts, what struck me the most was her extremely happy and genuine smile as she appeared naked.

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But when she does a full frontal, showing off her breasts and her female genetaiia she is absolutely thrilled. Her eyes are smiling. her cheeks are raised, her teeth are displayed and her mouth is open.  She clearly shows that she loves wat she is doing.

Whether you agree or disagree with Kim’s exhibitionism you will certainly agree that she appears to be a lot happier naked than she is when she is in the presence of her young daughter North West.

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Thes photos above are just a few of the countless examples we see of Kim with either a serious expression, a sour puss, or blank and vacant expression when she is around baby Nori.

Most mothers of such an adorable child would be smiling in the child’s presence, yet we rarely see Kim displaying happiness around her daughter. The majority of the countless photos we have seen of Mother and daughter do not show either of them smiling with one another.

As a result  of Kim’s aloofness around her, little Nori has learned not to smile around Kim as well. She often looks annoyed and upset around Kim. nShe often pulls away from him.  It’s not the papps that make the child so sad looking, it is the lack of warmth and affection Nori may be feeling towards her mother as Kim consistently holds the child at a distance.

Screen Shot 2014-11-13 at 8.41.57 PMTo me it is sad that Kim appears to get more joy out of displaying her naked  self than when she is around her daughter. Whenever I see a photo of Kim and Nori it pains me to see such unhappiness and such a lack of bonding between them.

Honey Boo Boo Mom’s Body Language Shows Signs of Lying in Her Denial Tape
October 25, 2014

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In my view it seems like June Shannon, Honey Boo Boo’s mom is not being completely honest in her video tape. She is no doubt upset about what has unraveled and her show being cancelled as you can see her puffy eyes above. She looks like she has spent a lot of time crying over this mess she got herself into.

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The first sign we hear is a lot of ums and uhs as she says that she is going to give a comment. You can also see her  fingers to the right where she fidgets with her hair. This is a signal of anxiety and the start of her deceptive body language.

She starts with Um again and there is excessive blinking which shows anxiety as she says she just got a phone call from TLC  and ther ewill be no more production of the show.

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She immediately purses her lips which indicates she is upset about what has just happened.  Then she speaks in a staccato rhythm and begins the statement with “You know.” These are two major signals of deception. She goes on to say “The statement of me dating a sex offender is totally untrue”.  Usually when people use absolute qualifiers  like totally you will find that they are often being deceptive in what they are saying. She continues on to say Pumpkin has openly said that I did not date him.  As June makes this statement we see her blinking which may indicate deception. Then she adds

“and also his son”. She doesn’t finish the sentence which also adds to the suspicion that she is not telling the truth. Then we clearly hear a deceptive signal as she says “I would never ever ever put my kids in danger uh,” The never ever ever is her protesting too much which often signifies deception.

She then says” I love my kids. That is the past. I have not seen that person….in ten years and it don’t seem I want to see that person”.  Here she refers to him as that person in an attempt to appear to be distancing herself from him. If she really had nothing to hide she would say who he was by name and not refer to him as “that person”. Then she says “it don’t seemI want to see that person”. This is a very telling statement becuase it makes no sense. If she was being truthful she would have make an emphatic statement such as ” I never want to see this person”  instead of using the words” it don’t seem I want to ..”

She also speaks slowly and laboriously. This is a huge signal of deception on June’s part as this is not her usual way of speaking. She normally speaks very fast. In fact she speaks so fast that TLC often puts a chyron under her face so viewers can read what she just mimbled.

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You then see her eyebrow raise as she leans in to say “This is a truth video”. The leaning in and raised eyebrow appears to indicate deception.

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Now we really see a major signal of deception as she gets cotton mouthed, begins her statement with “um”and then swallows hard. She does this right after she says her lie that it is a truth video. People who lie often immediately change the subject. Instead of speaking more about the situation and letting viewers know that she wasn’t dating the molester and what he did and why she would not consider having him near her, all said in  emotional tones, she completely changes the subject and talks about how she and Sugarbear broke up and how they are better off as friends.

She then goes on to say that “things happen for a reason and that you live and learn”. In making that statement, she is letting us know that she has lied and that there is no doubt she was seeing the molester.  In essence her datingt he molester was the reason TLC pulled the plug.

She then outs TLC by telling everyone that they told her to be “hush hush” so that you won’t be hearing from hr for a while. When she says this you can hear her normal fast paced speech pattern, indicating that she is being honest here. No doubt TLC told her to make this tape and then to shut up. When you listen to this rapid rate speech pattern you can hear that it is in sharp contrast to her denial statement which is slow and deliberate.

Finally she goes on to praise and thank all of her supporters who stood up for her . She sniffles as she says this which may indicate that she is feeling emotional about her fan base and is no doubt sad she will be leaving the show. This sounded very sincere and heartfelt.

Now we have come to find out that her eldest daughter Anna (Chickadee) was molested by this man and that June had lied to her daughter and betrayed her. Anna who is newly married and has a child, Caitlin, has stated that she will not be speaking with her mother and will not allow June to see her grandbaby Caitlin.

Now we know why Anna didn’t live with June and the  three other daughters, but was living with her grandmother.June has lost it all- the millions of dollars from the show and endorsements , her relationship with Anna, her never being able to see baby Caitlin and her fan base.  Dating the man who once  molested your daughter and went to prison for his reprehensible  behavior is unforgivable and many fans could never forgive June for doing this and for allowing her children near such a man.

. TLC is in the business to make money and that is the bottom line. If they pulled the show and were willing to lose money on their investment, then you can be sure they had evidence that June was indeed dating the molester. Since that would not make for a good story line, they didn’t want to risk the hate they would receive and boycotts of their network and their other shows, so they got rid of June and the show.

Ray Rice’s Wife’s Body Language Shows A Fearful, Defeated Abused Woman At Press Conference to Discuss Abuse
September 9, 2014

Screen Shot 2014-09-08 at 7.08.07 PMJanay Rice, left  who is the wife of running back Ray Rice  right  of the Baltimore Ravens sat by her Toxic abusive husband

Ray Rice’s side as Ray spoke at a news conference at the Ravens training center on May 23, 2014 in Owings Mills,

Maryland. It was at that tine that RAY Rice spoke publicly for the first time since facing felony assault charges stemming from a February incident involving Janay at an Atlantic City casino.

We see Janay hunched over  with shoulders rounded in defeat and pursing her lips in anger at having to sit there and listen to her abuser make excuses. She is angry and rightfully so  as her hands reveal. They are balled up into fists. Her pursed lips and jaw tension also shows her anger at having to listen to this toxic man.

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As he rambles on she knows what he is saying is nonsense and she fiddles with her hands and digits. She bows her head low in humiliation as she sates down while he is speaking.

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Throughout the interview she constantly looked down. Here she fiddles with her hands which are still in a fist like position.

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Here we see her hand on her thigh as she begins to scratch herself. this indicates that her  autonomic system is working overtimes and her blood flow has had a sudden surge as she is forced to listen to his lies. 

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Her autonomic nervous system working overtime to maintain her poise when she is emotionally devastated as she becomes dry mouthed or cotton mouthes and licks her lips. her Ray is saying how he aims to be a better father. She can’t even  look at him as she glances off to the side. 

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In  order to keep up pretenses and act like everything is all right Janay was forced to speak. She pulled out her notes and speaks in a hoarse voice which indicates she must have gone through a great deal of emotional devastation, However she tries not to reveal how she really feels as she speaks in an emotionless monotone.  her shoulders are hunched over as she, like most victims of abuse says she is at fault and deeply regrets the role she played in all of this. 

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She looks down in embarrassment and her shoulders are raised and body muscles are tense and tight . She knows what she is saying isn’t true and that she was forced to do this in order for her husband to keep his job and her life. As she says that she is undergoing therapy individually and collectively and how she is going to be a better parent and role model in the community you can see  and hear that she does not believe what she is saying as she shrugs her rounded shoulders and speaks as though she robotically  memorized what she was forced to say. She seemed to be in fear. 

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And after being pummeled on the elevator and knocked out, it is understandable why she was in such fear for her life and couldn’t even look at the Toxic monster sitting next to her. 

This man deserves to be in prison for the rest of his ice for attempted murder. How dare he do what he did. It is great that the Falcons stepped up and did the right thing and eliminated him from the team. This should have been done long ago. 

What is equally as disturbing as seeing what Ray Rice did to his wife is some of the youtube videos and comments which condone his actions. They say that his wife deserved it for mouthing off to her husband. This mentality is sickening and barbaric. An animals doesn’t even act like this. 

A few years ago I wrote a book called Toxic Men- how to Heal and Deal with Men Who Make Your Life Miserable. I plan to reach out to Janay and give her a copy of this book to help her heal from her abusive relationship with her husband Ray.Like So many abused women, Janay stayed with Ray. WE can;t fault her. She may have wanted to keep up the image for his career. She may also have been afraid to leave because of further abuse from Ray. She may have wanted to stay for the sake of her child. Well now that the cat is out of the bag so to speak,s he needs to leave immediately.

There is no doubt that he will be enraged now that he is no longer a Raven and cannot be signed to any other team. He may very well continue to  take his anger out on his wife and even on their child. Janay needs to leave the home asap  as her safety comes first . Next, she needs to hire a divorce lawyer.  

 

Joran Vandersloot’s Body Language in Harsh New Prison
September 3, 2014

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A video was released of psychopathic murderer and most likely serial killer Joran Vandersloot who killed two innocent women, Natalie Holloway in Aruba and Stephanie Flores in Peru, as he entered one of the harshest, coldest,and most remote prisons in the world- Challapalca Prison. This prison located high in the Andes Mountains has been cited for numerous human rights violations throughout the world.  He was sent there as punishment for threatening to kill a guard at his previous prison.

Apparently the warden of his new prison Sergio Haro,  gave Vandersloot a cell phone to record himself and later the phone was confiscated . On the video, Vandersloot speaks in Spanish and says he doesn’t know why he was told to record himself but mentions it was for his security.

No doubt this notorious prison wanted to show the world  that their new inmate was in good physical  shape when he first arrived. Actually Joran ‘s fuller face reflects that he was doing quite well in his previous prison as he put on some pounds, indicating that he was well fed. He has grown a beard and moustache since he was first processed into the prison as you can see below, he was clean shaven. 

Screen Shot 2014-09-02 at 5.56.44 PM In the photo above  his fleshy chin shows that he was clearly not deprived of food at his previous facility. As the doctor examines him we see that he has taken one arm out of  a sleeve of his sweatshirt and rests on his abdomen. Most likely his wrist is chained to a waist chain for safety as guards were taking no chances with Vandersloot. . He is not only under the watchful eye of a police officer to his side as you can see in the photo above,

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Screen Shot 2014-09-02 at 5.58.32 PMAs Vandersloot is turned facing the wall and  patted down, we see his sagging pants and his underwear showing. In the prison population this is a major signal that the person is open for sex and are available to be penetrated by other prisoners. So Vandersloot is giving a clear message that he is ready to be the receiver in a potential sexual encounter. In his new home at Challapalca Prison, there are no conjugal visits gone are his days of having sex with and  impregnating a woman as he did with his new bride as of  this past July, Leidy Figueroa. Also gone are regular visits he would have had with the  unfortunate child he  spawned as family visits are extremely expensive and the terrain is extremely difficult to traverse for any outsider.

Vandersloot will not only be deprived of  conjugal visits with his wife, access to his new baby,  home cooked meals brought in daily, and fresh new clothing,he will most likely initially suffer from altitude sickness in the the 15,000 foot elevated prison, no regular electricity or running water, overcrowding, poor medical treatment, poor food, and poor sanitation. In fact he is already feeling the misery of being there as he has allegedly gone on a hunger strike. Perhaps this is the first time Vandersloot is really feeling the consequences of his actions. 

Joan Rivers Vocal Problems- Was There Malpractice During Her Endoscopy?
August 29, 2014

 

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Joan Rivers was my client around the time  of her late husband Edgar’s death. She was referred to me by her ear nose and throat physician Dr. Edward Kantor  in Beverly Hills to help her learn to not abuse her vocal cords and to help her use her speaking voice more effectively.  So it came as no surprise when I learned today that  she went in for an endoscopic procedure at Yorktown Endoscopy Center in NYC so that her doctors  could get a closer look at the function of her vocal muscles.

We all remember Joan as having a machine gun like gutteral sounding hoarse voice as we not only heard her verbal jabs during her comedy routines, but  her vocal jabs to her laryngeal muscles and vocal cords. When a person sounds hoarse and often lose their voice,  it is not uncommon to have a laryngeal endoscopic procedure done so that the physician can visualize the vocal cords to check for how they function or  whether there is  paralysis, vocal nodules,  or vocal ulcers. 

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The procedure using a  transnasal flexible laryngoscope  or laryngeal oral scope is  used for  this office-based diagnostic procedure which is extremely well tolerated and  performed on patients of all ages from newborns to someone who was 81 like Joan Rivers.

Before the endoscope is inserted topical anesthetic is placed in the nasal cavity to avoid stinging and burning during the procedure.Then they sit in an upright position and the scope is passed along the floor of the nose into the back of the throat to a level just above the vocal cords.It is essentially a painfree simple procedure. 

Next the  patient is asked to breath deeply and say the “ah: sound which allows the physician to directly observe the structure and dynamic motion of the  vocal cords which they can view on a video screen .There are no side effects of the procedure and the anesthesia spray usually wears off in about an hour. 

So if Joan was undergoing this simple non invasive non life threatening procedure, what happened? Why was her airway cut off? Did someone do the procedure improperly? Was a technician doing the procedure or was it a licensed physician? Was this a case of malpractice? I have to ask these questions because it seems odd to me that her airway would be closed off.

Also lets say her airway was closed off,  why did a clinic of  this kind or any kind not have life saving equipment to open her airway? If she had a heart attack, why was there no immediate cardiac life saving devices on the premises? Why was she deprived of oxygen for any length of time?  Why wasn’t she given oxygen immediately? This bothers me. Why were there not life saving emergency devices available and if they were why weren’t they implemented asap? 

I am so disturbed by this for several reasons. First,  I knew Joan personally along with her daughter Melissa and I know the horrible toll it will take on Melissa and her son, not to mention the toll it will take on Joan, if she survives.

Secondly I had personal experience with something like this happening in my own family. My dearest brother Manny was intubated improperly by a doctor who was only a doctor for 7 months. As a result my brother became a vegetable and died. I can never get over this and carry this severe emotional  pain with me  my throughout my life. So I cry for Joan and for Melissa and for her son Cooper as I know exactly how they feel to know that someone they loved had to die  or become incapacitated in such a horrific manner. 

I have no doubt that with the resources available to Melissa there will be a thorough investigation as to what actually happened and who may be possibly  responsible.

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It is so devastating that Joan was looking and feeling so good as it was reported hours earlier. Now her life is changed forever- and not for the better .

Joan is now in a medically induced coma and depending  on how long she was deprived of oxygen to her brain, she will most likely never be able to do what she did before. For some people that may be viewed  as a relief because  they found her humor politically incorrect and mean spirited. For others who enjoyed her humor and her views it is a great loss.

Joan’s politics, point of  view, and humor aside, no one should be going into a non invasive relatively simple procedure and end up potentially brain damaged in in a medically induced coma where they may never be able to speak  or live.

 

 

 

Toxic CNN Anchor Creates Hostility Driving Joan Rivers Off Set But Obama Gay Michelle “Tranny” Joke May Be River’s Undoing
July 7, 2014

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There is nothing more TOXIC then someone being the instigator and then trying to make out like they are the victim. That is what happened with the passive aggressive actions of CNN anchor Fredericka Whitfield. Whitfield was the one who instigated the hostile tone of the interview by calling Joan mean when Joan appears on Fashion Police, calling Joan out on making fun of serious situations like Casey Anthony’s dead daughter and critiquing Joan’s book cover of her new book Diary of a Mad Woman where Joan is wearing fur.

Whitfield laughs a phony laugh and mugs for the camera when Joan walks off the set, acting surprised that Joan left yet mugging and phony smiling all the way. Initially Joan tried to explain that Fashion Police was not mean and that Joan didn’t attack the celebrities, she attacked the clothing and fashion.

Whitfield glossed over River’s answer and proceeded in a hostile tone to attack her over the Casey Anthony daughter humor. Joan once again tried to explain that you can take a horrible situation and add humor (albeit dark humor) it gives the person a moments respite from the tragedy. Rivers further went on to describe how Winston Churchill described this type of humor as a moment’s vacation. Once again Whitfield glossed over her answer and began to attack Joan over wearing fur on her book cover. Joan tried to explain and immediately went on the offensive asking Whitfield if she wore leather and told her to shut up and talk to her when she wears a paper belt.

Then Joan pulled out her earpiece and walked out. On one breath Whitfield was complimentary and on the other breath began her series of attacks. This is called passive aggressive behavior and highly toxic in my book. Rivers told Whitfield that all her questions had been “negative,” and added “You are not the one to interview a person who does humor, sorry,” before Rivers walked off. Rivers was right. She came to speak of her book, not the show and not her furs. It was the attacking staccatto and hostile tone of voice Whitfield used that got Joan worked up.

Had Whitfield said ” What would you say to people who comment on you wearing fur” instead of directly attacking Joan that she was wearing fur on the cover of her book, it would have been a different story. Had she worded her questions differently, Rivers would not have walked off the set. So needless to say I believe Joan was absolutely right not to subject herself to this amature, unprofessional, and hostile interview.

While the incident was unfortunate it put Joan high up in the press and now makes more people aware of her new book. It also put Fredericka Whitfield on the map as before this, most people had no idea who she was.

On the show Joan Rivers was defending herself in saying that she has made people laugh for 50 years.Before all of the current political correctness which permeates our society her humor obviously worked very well. She skewered the Royal family and Elizabeth Taylor as well as racial and ethnic groups without a thought. People loved this and her Vegas shows and nightclub acts around the country sold out regularly. It was the Don Rickles put people down type of humor that people seemed to love.

But today it has changed. People are much more tender and sensitive and don’t find any humor in tragedy such as Caylee Anthony’s death (me included). They will also not tolerate Holocaust jokes as Joan has made in the past or Black jokes. They will also not tolerate gay or gender identity jokes like the recent one she made about The President and First Lady.

When a reporter  recently questioned Rivers if she thought there would be a gay President in the White House she remarked that we already have one- Obama and that his wife Michelle is a tranny.

In my view it is not Joan’s walking off the CNN set that may be her undoing but this joke about the President and First Lady that in my view that hits well below the belt. It’s not funny and in my view oversteps all boundaries. Whether or not you are a fan of Obama and his wife, we can all agree that this was a pretty shocking thing to say, especially that Michelle is a “tranny.” While there has been tabloid press in the past  alluding to Obama’s being gay, there is nothing to even suggest that Michelle is transgender. It seem libelous to me.

While shock value has been what has sustained Rivers throughout the years, this shock value may be what finally does her in.

Mady & Cara Gosselin’s Body Language Say They Don’t Want To Be On TV While Mady’s Disturbing Comments Show Low Esteem & Depression
June 20, 2014

We all know that since the beginning of  Jon and Kate Plus 8 there has always been conflict between Kate and Mady with Mady’s tantrums, crying, moodiness, and mean behavior. But there was also the sweet and sensitive side of Mady who rushed to her father’s side to comfort him when Kate bullied him in the travel store episode.

But after watching this new  Kate Plus 8 Special Maddy’s behavior troubled me the most. It was as though she was deliberately trying to sabotage the show by not making sense when she spoke or over acting when producers may have told her to “act out” and get upset or act bratty.  But when  Maddy spoke about how she spends all day in her bed,  if it is true, Kate may want to put having Maddy being seen by a therapist as a priority as that may be a sign of depression in the young teen.

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In one scene Kate speaks to the all kids and tells them she has “fun things planned”. Maddy immediately interrupts and  out “No fun things” and is sent  sent away by Kate becuase of  her rudeness. As Maddy  leaves she says “I didn’t do anything You never trust me”.

This made no sense whatsoever. What does trust have to do with her mouthing off like that?

 

 

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Then a firm  Kate tells her Maddy needs to apologize and Mady quickly says she’s sorry. It looked very contrived to me much like bad acting on Mady’s part. The I’m sorry was said way too quickly as she stomped back to join the group of her siblings.

As we continue with this blog you will see an interesting pattern emerge with Maddy where a. what she says  makes no sense as it did here and b) that Maddy is so over the top which makes it look like she is a very bad actress.

When Mady makes no sense it seems like she is trying to  sabotage the show. When she acts out it seems phony and contrived and over the top as though producers told her what to do in the scene and being an untrained and essentially, bad actress she went over the top.

Then Mady mouths off to  to Kate “This is stupid: I don’t want to be a partof this,” Mady said of the party, adding, “This isn’t my birthday, so I don’t care.”

If Mady was not egged on to say this by producers and she said it on her own, the teen is really showing signs of selfishness and hostility towards her younger brothers and sisters.  From that standpoint alone a visit to the therapist might be in her best interest.

But there is one thing that Mady said that is  serious cause for alarm in my view  and made me cringe. It was hen producers asked the twins of the younger kids looked up to them. Once again if Mady is not making this up then this is highly disturbing.

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During a confessional with Kate, Cara (who plays with her sleeves and seems to hate being a part of the show as he body language shows she looks miserable), and Mady, Mady is asked if she thinks her younger siblings look up to her at all. Mady says:

“No. They better not. I mean, I’m an awful role model ugh.” The fact that she says she is an awful role model shows how she feels about herself- not great.

Kate is shocked and embarrassed and in order to save face and try to make it like she is a compassionate mother says :

“Mady, why are you so hard on yourself. She’s a wonderful big sister … [The sextuplets] look up to them.”

Then Kate says that she doesn’t condone when Mady is mean to the younger ones. Kate’s statement validates how Mady obviously has issues with her younger siblings. In my view that needs to be looked at professionally along with Mady’s letting it out that she has low self esteem.

Then Mady retorts  back:

“They have such bad hair. I can’t. They dress themselves and they shouldn’t.

What??????This made no sense. Once again it leads me to believe that Mady may be in some way trying to sabotage their chances of having a regular show. It is a silly statement.

Now here is the serious part, if it is true. Mady says that she spends all day in bed. “

if so Kate needs to stop worrying about getting a TV show and get her daughter some help. From watching the two teens, they clearly don’t want any part of the show. Cara is more passive and Mady is more aggressive about it. But their messages were reflected verbally, vocally, facially, and body language wise- loud and clear.

 

 

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