Oprah’s Body Language Shows Anger Towards Toxic Stepmother Years Earlier
April 24, 2014

ImageEven if you see a photo of two people  person smiling  and things look like all is well between them, if you see someone’s fist or fists clenched, rest assured that there is trouble in that relationship. If you see a tight clenched jaw with teeth together you can also count on the fact that there is trouble brewing.

This photo was taken of Oprah and her stepmother, Barbara Winfrey the wife of her father Vernon Winfrey at Oprah’s 50th Birthday. Body language wise you can clearly see that Oprah is not keen on Barbara with her clench fists around her neck as though she subconsciously wants to strangle the woman. That fact that both of her hands are balled up into fists shows she really doesn’t like her stepmom at all.

After 14 years, Barbara and Vernon are divorcing and Oprah has told her to vacate the Nashville home she graciously bought for Vernon and Barbara to live. Oprah would have allowed Barbara to continue living there and not be homeless but Barbara refused to sign a confidentiality agreement which Oprah requested from her. So now Barabara is  without her Nashville home and is so furious that she has done an exclusive interview with the  Daily Mail “spilling the beans” on Oprah.

Now we can certainly see why Oprah’s body language was leaking out animosity towards Barbara years earlier. The fact that she is “leaking” anything is egregious Toxic behavior. Oprah doesn’t owe this woman, a virtual stranger,  anything. Oprah was gracious to her father to put a roof  his head. Since Barbara was attached to Vernon , Barbara was permitted to live there as well.But now that Vernon and Barbara have split, Oprah doesn’t need to continue to support this woman in any way.

The “beans” this woman has spilled about Oprah are “non- beans” . She says that Oprah and Steadman and Gayle are always together. So what is wrong with that? They are all three wonderful support systems for one another. Most people would be thrilled to have loyal loving people around them. Gayle and Steadman are her family and family sticks together.

She says she never say Oprah and Stedman kiss and be affectionate. Well why would they show their affection around her?Oprah and Steadman have been together since 1986. The fact that they are still together in one form or another is awesome in itself. So this woman’s gossip about her and Steadman is ridiculous.

She also calls the relationship between Oprah and Gayle “unnatural:. No matter what their relationship is the fact that they are both loyal and supportive to one another and have one another’s backs is very “natural”. In fact it is awesome to have someone in the world who loves and cares about you that much.

She talks  about Oprah firing people. Of course Oprah is going to fire people who are no longer effective in her life or do what she needs them to do. Any business person would do that, So once again, Barbara is spilling a “non- bean”

She ridiculously gossips about Oprah using comfort food as her drug of choice which Oprah has mentioned for years. She also belittles Oprah for loving  and always snacking on potatoes which is ridiculous. It was a toxic dig that Oprah’s weight is caused by her love of all things potato.

Then this Toxic woman tries to make it like Oprah is a racist and is all about skin color. She said that Vernon once told her that if Oprah could change the color of her skin she would have. She also said that she like Steadman because he is a “high yellow” – a light skinned black with soft hair.  Well here is a newsflash for Barbara. If the richest most powerful woman in the world was that much against her skin color, she would have lightened it years ago. As we have all seen, Oprah is very much a supporter of Black people and has done many things to help her race and has even created a school for Black Girls in Africa.

Then she says that even though Oprah took her and her ex husband along on a Mediterranean cruise, she griped that Barbara didn’t speak to her. She also tried to cut Oprah down by saying how they had three different meals on the ship with different sets of dishes t each meal. So what is wrong with that? When someone pays millions of  dollars to rent a cruise ship for an 11 day vacation they can  afford to have different dishes at eAch me and even different bedding each day.

She also griped about being related to the second floor and not being allowed to mix with celebrities at Oprah’s Birthday party. Well it was Obvious that Oprah didn’t feel comfortable with her father or his ex wife. She obviously had little in common with the woman as well as with her own father. But it speaks volumes about Oprah that she was still gracious enough to invite her father and his wife on a luxury ship and to a milestone birthday party.

It is obvious from her  paid interviews with the Daily News that have now gone worldwide presswise that she is a Toxic jealous and bitter woman. But her bitterness has backfired as what she has revealed about Oprah look pretty good. The woman should have taken the house in Nashville and signed the papers of confidentiality as she really has nothing relevant to say about Oprah anyway, as has been revealed. Oprah didn’t beat  or physically hurt anyone,  do drugs, or steal from anyone. She is just living her life as best as she can. She has loving people around her and instinctively knows who the Toxic People are in her life and wants nothing to do with them as was the case with Barbara who cries in her interviews that Oprah never took the time to get to know her.

Well, Oprah didn’t need the time. She saw right through her Toxic now ex stepmother and it all showed up in Oprah’s tight jawed smile and clenched fists.

 

 

 

 

Oscar Pistorius Body Language in the Courtroom Casts Doubt
April 22, 2014

 

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While his family denies  that disabled champion runner Oscar Pistorius took acting lessons to prepare himself for trial and others

swear that he did take lessons, the bottom line is that something is not right in terms of how he presents himself in the courtroom.

 

As a jury consultant  and someone who has prepared witnesses for trial, I can assure you that acting lessons are the absolte worst

thing a person can do to prepare themselves. People need to be genuine and show genuine emotion and speak in a manner

and show body language that will not alienate a jury, but rather objectively allow them to hear the message.

 

In observing Oscar Pistorius’ body language throughout the trial  I noticed many things that are rather odd. His emotions often do not

seem to match the situations being discussed or his body language seems to be over the top as far as his emotions are concerned.

He seems to be tuning out which will not endear himself to the judge who, is the only one who will be deciding his fate.

 

The one thing that I noticed is that he is always covering his ears. In  essence he doesn’ twant to hear all the gory details about what

he did to Reeva. He wants to block it out and that is what he is doing by literally blocking his ears. But that behavior is off putting. he

needs to sit there without his hands over his ears and listen to every word. If he shed emotion, it needs to be genuine . he needs to

face the details of what he is accused of doing.

 

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Not only does he cover his ears, but he covers his head with his papers as you see int he photo above. It is akin to someone wanting to  pull the blankets over their head and not leave their bed or the house. This signals extreme shame and guilt  over what he did. He wants it to all go away as he is in essence hiding.

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As well as not wanting to hear the details at the trial, he also does not want to see them as well. he does not want to see the results of his actions as he tightly shuts his eyes and pinches the bridge of his nose in a self comforting gesture.

 

Screen Shot 2014-04-22 at 9.33.34 AM The gesture where he pulls down the skin on his face is a self mutilation type of gesture which often occurs when a person is feeling guilty and there is no way out. It is a  literal form of  self punishment as we see Pistorius doing here.

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This photo is of Reeva Steenkamp’s parent’s crying. With their furrowed brows and squinted eyes, they show genuine tears of  sadness at what happened to their beautiful daughter they created.

Screen Shot 2014-04-22 at 9.32.29 AMIn contrast here are Pistorius tears. He hides his face as he cries which to many observing him may indicate that he is faking his cry. Usually when one is in emotional pain, they don’t care who sees them cry, they just express their sorrow and upset openly. Many may feel this is contrived and he may have something to hide.

 

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He cries too oftena nd his recovery time from his cry is too fast. When people recover too quickly from a cry to a normal non crying facial posture it takes them time to recover. He does it almost immediately which may indicate that he is doing all of this crying for affect.

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The above cry seems too intense . This facial gesture would occur if someone is in severe extreme grieve where they cannot contain themselves or control their emotions.  His hand over his mouth shows that there is something he doesn’t want to reveal. And his tightly squinted eyes are not congruent with the crying emotion he is attempting to display. With a squinty eyed cry the mouth is usually open. That is not the case here.

As a body language I feel that something is off with Pristorius and his emotions. usually I see an incongruent emotion and body language when the person is medicated or on drugs. But that emotion is usually a more dull or blank  facial appearance.

When someone shows the inconsistency of emotion as Pristorius has been doing throughout the trial, it shows me that either he has forced this on his own in terms of trying to project what he thinks the judge wants to see, or that he has been prepped  or coached in some way.

If he did take acting lessons, he did himself a huge disservice as he looks like a very bad actor trying to force emotion. It takes years to perfect acting skills, not a few weeks or months. So if he did take the lessons, they clearly did not work. On the other hand if he did not take lessons and he is acting like this on his own, he is also doing himself a huge disservice because he is not putting his position across in a genuine manner.

In the US judicial system if he was in front of a jury of his peers my belief is that he would be convicted based on his body language and vocal tone alone. Whether you want to believe it or not the truth is that juries can and have often  judged someone on these things even if all the evidence points in their favor. But Pistorius only has to convince one person whom he refers to as “My lady” throughout the proceedings.

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If My lady” uses her  legal skills along with her genuine common sense and pays attention to the defendant’s body language, facial, language, and vocal tone, she will come up with the right verdict for Oscar Pistorius as his communication skills and body language speak volumes.

 

Lack of Humility,  Arrogance, and Entitlement  of Toxic Young Fashion Designer Cecelia Cassini Unleashes Throngs of Haters
April 22, 2014

 

 

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I was looking a Facebook post from one of my comedian friends who has never been mean spirited. So I was shocked when I read his postabout his wanting to hit a child with a baseball bat. Then I looked at the video of the child to whom he wasreferring. She was a young fashion designer  Cecelia Cassini being interviewed on the red carpet. It turns out that my comedian friend was not alone. In fact close nine thousand Youtube posts – (ALL  of then negative and hateful)  shared the same sentiment.

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I decided to dissect why there was such a torrent of vitriol towards this young lady and came up with the following reasons. She

1. acted  entitled, spolied and rotten. When asked if she got her sewing machine at the age of 6 she said in a snotty tone with hand on her hip and eyes rolled, “Yes after begging for it for a year.”

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2. had an “I’m better than you” attitude. Her erect head pulled back with chin out showed arrogance and a condescending attitude.

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3. had over the top affectations in her body language  and in her speech pattern where she leaned back and shook her finger as she described hr dissatisfaction with using ponytail holders to pull her dress back. Wouldn’t it be like “Uh (goes up in pitch) amazing if I had a sewing machine to sew and to fit me prop= per- ly (over enunciated) which she  said in a sarcastic manner.Image

 

4. was disrespectful to elders ( her sewing teacher) and showed anger and disgust towards her teacher. She says”  I took sewing classes but I didn;t really like my teacher because she was like  rude (laughs about it) like she told me that some frabrics didn;t match what i thought they did (smacks her lips)  so I didn’t go to her anymore. So I basically just taught myself.” This is the epitome of arrogance and rudeness and disrespect towards someone much older and more experienced than her- her teacher.She also looked very self satisfied as she relayed this story.

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5.had arrogant body language as she reaches out her hand with palms up in a very campy way as she says how every little girl needs a dress and how they don’t need pants. Well for one thing this little know it all is not as savvy a fashion designer as she thinks since pants are a huge part of fashion. perhaps all she knows how to do at this point is make dresses as pants may be much harder to make. So she poo poos the idea of pants on little girls. Maybe if she would have continued her sewing lessons with her sewing teacher she would have learned how to make pants.

6. over the top gestures and over the top speech patterns that were not fitting for a girl her age. She flexes and flicks her wrist and tenses her lower saw as she says Carl Lagerfeld and Diane Von Furstenberg are her favorite designers and how they are “works of art” (said in an over articulated way- arrttt) . No child uses those terms so it makes her sound very affected, pretentious, and phony.

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6. sounded insincere and condescending with her monotone voice, When asked about her website, instead of just giving her website address, like a seasoned salesperson  she manages to obnoxiously get in that you can buy her designs online or at Fred Segal. After she says this she has a tightlipped smug look on her face which makes her look arrogant. Her raised head and jutting chin are also not endearing but reflect her sense of entitlement.Image

 

It’s clear that this young girl has come to believe her own press about how great sheis.  As quickly was her rise to the top is as quickly as her fall to the bottom will beunless she changes up her attitude.

She didn’t start out this way. Initially her heart seemed to be in the right place as sheused her talents  and volunteered dress homeless children and children in hospitals.As you can see from this video which was done several years before her most recentred carpet fiasco, she didn’t seem affected, arrogant, ort obnoxious. Instead, she seemed grounded and generous.

But something happened to her between then and now. Evidently, she got big headed  with all the publicity and fame she received and with having celebrities buy her clothing for their kids and  having child actors praise her designs. Her being invited to sell her clothing at the in my view ridiculously overpriced but prestigious Fred Segal’s didn’t help foster her now out of control ego.

She clearly lost  sight of  the humanity that got her in the public’s eye the first place -doing something for others and not being so self absorbed.

Unfortunately  Cecelia is not alone as this is what happens to a lot of  people who start out kind and nice and with a purpose to do good for others. Then they  become toxic egocentric people  after they get a little taste of fame. We see it all the time with actors, television personalities, bloggers, and even athletes.  But to see this  toxic behavior in  the form of a little girl is both shocking and intolerable. It is like a very unpleasant caricature of human behavior.

There is no doubt that this child has talent as her dresses are cute in my view, but definitely not worth the $!00 to spend on a child who will undoubtedly outgrow the dress in a few months. But her talents mean nothing unless this pintsized designer  reigns in her oversized ego and sense of entitlement.

Someone needs to sit her down and let her know that she is still a little girl with a lot to learn.  In order to be a great fashion designer you need to have an open mind to learn knew things and not think you know it all. You need to respect others, even if you don’t  necessarily agree with them. Cecelia needs to  be taken her back to the children’s hospitals  and homeless shelters where she first began to showcase her clothes, She needs to sit down and really listen to those little girls  to get a reality check  to see that arrogance and entitlement are not what life is about. She needs to gain some humility and compassion towards those who’s lives are not as comfortable and rosy as her life.

 

I don’t blame her parents because she wasn’t always like the mean girl she displayed on the red carpet video. In fact I applaud her parents for helping her live out herdream by connecting her  with the right people and encouraging her talents at such a young age. But now they unknowingly created a little toxic monster , so to speak, and they need to rein her in before ti is too late. They need to show her the video and point out that this is not to behave. They need to have her :

1. be grateful to all of the opportunities she has been given and  express it verbally

2. stop sounding so affected with her vocal tone

3. stop the over the top gesturing

4. never say anything negative about anyone, especially about  sewing teacher who tried to help her

5. stop being so self involved

6. stop being so entitled

 

I  only hope that her parents  now put in the same  effort into redirecting their child’s toxic behavior as they have in encouraging her to live out her fashion dreams.If they don’t nip her Toxic behavior in the bud now, young Cecelia will never have the opportunity to carry out her dreams as an adult because no one will want to be around her, no matter how talented she is or thinks she is.

Dylan Farrow’s Body Language In Child Photos Show Same Discomfort With Woody Allen As Daughters With Soon Yi
February 5, 2014

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After several decades,  Dylan Farrow, now an adult and a mother, has publicly addressed what she alleges happened to her when she was a young child- that Woody sexually molested her in an attic.  Many people have shown sympathy and compassion towards Dylan and have called her” brave” for coming forward, including Girls producer, Laura Dunn. Most celebrities have remained mum on the subject ( just in case they may be offered a part in a  future Woody film). Even the hot -headed, non- filtered Alex Baldwin said he would not dare involve himself in a family’s personal tragedy. That was smart and well said. It is indeed a personal family tragedy and only two people know for sure what happened in the attic or out of the attic for that matter- Dylan Farrow and Woody Allen.

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So after six decades in the media, why would veteran TV host Barbara Walters stick her neck out to defend Woody? On the View she said she didn’t believe the allegations because she knows Woody personally and spent time with him and Soon Yi and they have a good marriage and everything is fine with their two girls, who have a great relationship with Woody.”   In the first place, she doesn’t spend every moment with the couple, so she has no idea what kind of a marriage they have. After observing countless photos of Woody and Soon Yi my observation is that she is the submissive on in the relationship based on her body language. She is usually seen in in back of him or in front of him, never side by side.

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One party should never usually seen on back or in front of another. In my view that is not a sign of a good marriage as I define it.

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Happy couples  should al be smiling when they are together and that isn’t usually the case when Woody and Soon Yi are photographed together.

Image in my View, the reason  Barbara Walters  stuck  her nose into this land mine of a situation and stood up for Woody so publicly is simple. She wants a “get”. A “get” in journalism terms is that special interview that can make your career. In Walter’s case, she will be retiring soon, so what better way to leave an illustrious career than with a Woody Allen “get ” and high ratings. Who wouldn’t want to hear what Woody himself has to say. So if she makes nice nice to him on the air, he will feel comfortable having her interview him as he will feel he has an ally during the difficult interview process.

I don’t claim to know if Woody is telling the truth as he denied Dylan’s claims through a spokesperson. That does NOT add to his credibility in  my view. A person who has been so maligned needs to speak up for themselves in my view and  passionately shout their innocence from the highest media mountains.

There was another supporter of Woody who in an article in the Daily Beast warned everyone to not jump to conclusions as he made a case for Woody by essentially blaming Mia Farrow for instigating all of this and for being a “woman scorned. ” That appalled me.  He said that Mia can never forgive Woody for leaving her and for being with Soon Yi.

Well whether you are a man or a woman, being with the daughter of your girlfriend or boyfriend  is not right under any circumstances. Worse is that Mia found naked photos of Soon Yi on Woody’s mantle. This  means they were having an affair right under her nose. The author then  rationalizes that these were two consenting adults.

This is the ugliest betrayal. Soon Yi was a sheltered child, even if she was 19.  She was not worldly, having traveled independently around the world.  She apparently did not have lot of friends and wasn’t living on her own. In fact, Ronan Farrow, Soon Yi’s brother described her as troubled. If that is the case, then it  seems logical to say that Woody may have very well taken advantage of  troubled girl as many believe.

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And when the author  further rationalizes that Woody was technically not her father or a father figure and that Andre Previn was her father, he is living in an illusion as far as I am concerned. Here is a reality check. Any adult that is dating your mother and any adult that is in your life everyday, whether they share the same  apartment with you or not, takes on the role of some type of parent figure. Woody  was not  a peer. He was decades older than her and knew perfectly well what she was doing. Even if she was the instigator, he needed to put a stop to his.  The least he could have done was broken up with Mia and waited a while to date soon Yi instead of doing it behind Mia’s back or under her nose.

So who would’t feel  scorned  and betrayed if the person whom you loved and spent all of your time  and whom you considered A  major part of your family, even posing for family shots if you found naked pictures of your child – adopted or not, in their house. That in my view is one of the the most Toxic things that could happen to a person and is unforgivable no matter how much time has passed.

Below are photos of Dylan Farrow as a child. She does NOT look happy or very comfortable around Woody as you can see.

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This is not the photo of a smiling and  happy child.

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She looks miserable in this photo which her upset knitted brow.

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Here the little girl shows her hands positioned in a fist-like claw position which means she is not happy. The expression on her face also reflects her unhappiness.

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This does NOT look like a little girl who is happy being in the arms of her father. As he leans towards her, she is seen with  and upset furrowed brow.

Practically every photo that I looked at of Dylan and Woody together showed me the same thing. Woody had a very unhappy unresponsive disconnected child around him.

Now I don’ t know if he did or did not molest her during these years or any years for that matter, but I can tell you she did not seem to be too thrilled whenever she was around him as a child.

Now you may ask what about his relationship with the daughters in his new family? To me they too don’t seem happy around Woody or connected to him either.

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In an earlier photo of Woody and  daughters from his new family with Soon Yi,  the daughter  on the left seems to be pulling away from him while the one in back trails behind.

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As they got older and he tried some PDA , his daughters were not reciprocating. Look at the feet of both daughters. Both of their heels are off the ground. That means that they can’t wait to gets way from him. The doughtier on the left, Manzi has her hand between her and Woody and hand in an angry fist like posture in order to keep her distance from him and block him. The daughter on the right, Bechet, has her arms crossed in front of her to block Woody’s clearly unwanted affection. Her jaw looks tense and she is not happy.

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Now we can really see doughtier  Bechet on the right’s angry expression. She cannot stand being hugged by Woody here. Both of her heels are off the ground which means she wants to rum a away. She wants to leave his awkward embrace as she clearly feels very uncomfortable. Manzi, the other daughter has her shoulder up which is literally giving the “cold shoulder” to Woody’s unwanted  embrace.

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Look at t how Bechet completely turns her back on her dad. What was interesting is that she turned her back on her dada just as soon as the subject of Dylan’s letter was mentioned by the TMZ reporter. That struck me as very odd behavior.

 

Gosselin Twins Body Language on View Shows They’re Intimidated By Controlling Kate and Not Ready for TV
January 21, 2014

While it was a nice try  by Kate and her spinners to shove the 13 year old twins on the View for damage control, it didn’t work.  In fact it still showed us via their  body language and communication patterns  they were intimidated by Kate and definitely not ready for television, let alone another reality show. Even Whoppi made reference to them constantly looking at their mother when they spoke as Whoppi told them to pretend Kate wasn’t there.  Even though they did manage to speak, their speaking abilities left a lot to be desired- especially Cara’s muteness. When she did speak she was monotone, died off at the end of her phrases, looked dow, and constantly held on to herself. It was clear that she appears to be insecure and intimidated. Both of these girl’s verbal puppet strings were still being controlled by Kate as we witnessed.

However, Mady did manage to break free at the end and let her own inner anger out through her body language of clenched fists, facial expressions of disgust and upset. It was also reflected by her speech content in revealing how she would like to get rid of the sextuplets and how  each and every one of them was so annoying.

I assume they must have received Kate’s wrath after their Today Show performance. She may possibly have  threatened them with the fact that if the family doesn’t get another reality show , it will be their fault. So, they better do well and speak up  this time when they are on the View.  I  imagine they were told how they won’t get any of  the perks that come along with a reality show- clothes, new adventures, fame, and money.

While the twins did speak verbally, their vocal patterns, speech content, and body language spoke volumes about what is really  going on with them and how things must really be in that household. No matter how the press headlines have tried to spin how successful their interview was, it was clearly not a success. In fact I would say that was still a disaster in my” View”.

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Before they spoke, each of the twins began self grooming in preparation for their performance which showed their uneasiness. They clearly feel the pressure upon them.

As Barbara Walters said that now the girls are teenagers and that must be difficult, we see Kate’s facial expression  of stern consternation and  rigid body language saying it all,  as she raises her head and leaks out that she thinks they certainly are difficult.Image

Then to match her body language , Kate verbally reveals how she does indeed think they are difficult as she she immediately shows her control and turns to them and says Girls plug your ears.”.In my view that is not a very loving statement. In essence she is saying that she really doesn’t want them to hear how negatively she really thinks of them. The expressions on the girl’s faces show they aren’t too thrilled about this comment.

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Even though Kate says “No, Im kidding,” apparently  she is not kidding ,based on her body language leakage.

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Now we really see Kate spin it as she says the twins are “the most amazing big sisters on the planet,” which surprises Mady, as she raises her eyebrows  as though she is questioning her mothers “truth.”  Cara smiles at Mady with bowed head  as she clearly knows this is spin. Their body language to Kate’s spin makes sense later on as Mady reveals the truth that she finds every one of the sextuplets extremely  annoying. Even Fantasia Barino one of the View’s substitute co-hosts  commented that ” they looked at each other like No.”  Obviously Fantasia picked up on the fact that Kate was spinning things.

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Look at the  tense expression between Kate and Mady as Kate dishes her spin and says how they are her left and right hand girls. Kate then shrugs her shoulder and purses her lips which  is a signal of deception. Mady is clearly not buying what she said.

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Sheri, another host of the show says that she read in articles where Kate has ” always talked about how the girls helping  her around the house.” Sheri then asks the girls  what they do to help out around the house. Mady answers ‘I don’t help” and immediately turns it over to Cara. Look at the expression on Kate’s face as Mady reveals this. Kate is furious as her mouth is agape. She then rolls her eyes. Once again Mady has succeeded in embarrassing her mom.

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Now Kate  really wants to make sure Cara doesn’t do the same and humiliate her as well.  So Kate  points to Cara in a hostile motion and  gives her a stern look as she coachers  Cara her by interjecting”After dinner.  ” Then Kate’s tone turns hostile and abrupt  as she demands  to Cara “go for it”. In essence we can see her orchestrating what she wants Cara to so and say.

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Cara is uncomfortable as she tells how she wipers the counters and lunoads the dishwasher and admits how her sister does do some chores. Mady is angry as you can see my her clenched fists on her lap.  Cara,  her hand never leaving her arm for self comfort clearly does not want to be talking, as she looks down when she speaks with her head cocked to the side. She consistently doesn’t maintain eye contact.  Kate has a watchful eye as she listens carefully ready to interject some spin in case Cara doesn’ end up following through.

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Whoppie then asks what these girls do for fun. She then tells the girls not to look at Kate and to pretend their mom  is not there.

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Whoppi puts the girls at ease and  for the first time we see a relaxed them smile and a  laugh. Whoppi ties to give the girls a hint as to what they might like as she asks if they are on social media or twitter. Jeannie McCarthy interjects  as well by asking if they are One Directioners.

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Mady them says that if she is going to be perfectly honest she doesn’t like Justin Beiber ( which is further indication why she not  ready for prime time). She needed to reveal whom she does like and not whom she doesn;t like . Rule number one is to never trash a fellow performer. If she has hopes to be a reality star, she too falls into the category of performer.)She then says she likes Nile of One Direction. In a candid typical school girl fashion, she  seems embarrassed to reveal  her crush as she looks down and  bows her head.

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Then Cara makes the same mistake and reveals in a boring,  mumbling,   monotone with a hunched over posture, constantly looking down, that she  the doesn’t like  One Direction. She says she likes Demi Lovato aster being prompted by Sheri. Her performance shows me how she needs so much work and is clearly not at all ready to be in the spotlight.  She does not remove her hand from her arm throughout the interview as it is clenched there. She continues to hunch over which is not a good sign. She reveals that she is a very shy girl who lacks charisma and gravitas necessary for television. No oen wants to watch anyone boring and monototone and montoface. Getting her to speak was like pulling teeth. I do think that her being int he spotlight again would not be a good move for her and may possibly cause issues.

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Jeannie Mc Carthy asks the twins about their parents divorce/ Cara has absolutely  no idea what to say and faces Mady for answers. mady seems  equally stumped at not knowing what to say . In essence the twins clammed up again on TV which is a no- no in the media.  Then they both laugh nervously. Mady finally says it wasn;t hard for them. But then looks up at Kate and addresses her mom personally and directly  saying” I guess it was harder for you.” Then Mady says she was 9 and it didn’t really affect her as she saw both parents and didn’t see the difficult things.

Kate immediately chimes in and spins how it drew the nine of them closer together as she gushes and uses effusive terminology. She then volunteers how there is nothing they don’t talk about and proceeds. She then goes off on a tangent and proceeds to  to spin how the twins hang out in her room every night . She does this for a reason as her intention is to  to give show how wonderful things are their household.

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Barbara Walters  immediately changes the topic and asks how the  twins feel about their younger brothers and sisters. Kate immediately takes control and interjects ” Mady you waited your whole life for this question.”  Mady then turns to her mother and tells Kate that  she ruined her dramatic silence.

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Kate as you can is literally taken aback by Mady’s on air admonition that her mom ruined her dramatic silence. Note how far Kate jerks her head back and how her bosy has stiffened. this means she is not happy about what Mady just said.

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Kate then leaks out an expression of a tight clenched jaw  which  further indicates she isn’t too happy about what Mady is doing on the View in terms of  chastising her.

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Mady opens up and is very forthright about how not only as a group,  but that every single one of the sextuplets “is annoying”. Her facial expression with rolled eyes and open mouth and slack jaw,  shows how exasperated and upset she is by them. So she has revealed to the world that things aren’t so rosey and hunky dory in that household as Kate would like us to believe. It now seems obvious to me  that Kate was the one putting her daughters up to saying how wonderful things were at home in the People article.  But the truth leaked out for the first time on the Today Show and now again on the View.

Whoppie clearlry made us aware of how intimidated these  two girls are by their mother as they have to look at her before they speak to make sure they spin things right so that she doesn’t get angry with them.

You may ask yourslef why would Kate drag these two non- charism atc,  mediocre,  and obviously not ready for prime time, teens on the View for a do over to show they can talk, even though they have nothing to say. The answer is simple as I see it.

Kate is obviously campaigning for another reality show and has commissioned her twinst o so her bidding. There was a lot of concertn about TV harming the kids so she wanted to make it known that it didn’t harm  them.

But something has harmed them from my perspective. Mady appeaRS angry and Cara appears so insecure that she is unable  to hold her head up, maintain eye contact, and speak with a resonant  non monotonous tone without mumbling or  dying off.

After observing these two and the dynamic with their mother, I personally don’t think they should be on television as they have nothing whatsoever to offer- no charisma and no talent. They are simply fraternal twin sisters who have 6 brothers and sisters as a result of theit mother taking fertility drugs. While it was indeed cute to see the babies and young kids  grow up on TV, truth be told,  they are not so cute anymore. They are teens and pre teens who are at a very sensitive and delicate age for growth and development. Thus I believe they need privacy to mature and develop to their full potential. Ask child star advocate, Paul Peterson what happens to showbiz kids who continue to grow up in front of the TV camera.  Statistically we have all seen that it does harm them unless they are the rare exception like the charismatic and very talented Ron Howard.

While Mady admitted that  she doesn’t like Justin Beiber, look at what is now allegedly happening to this 19 year old  after spending his life in the limelight. Allegedly he is  drinking sizzurp and taking drugs. There is a lot of pressure for a teen to be in the spotlight and it is clear from just their two appearances on the Today Show and on the View that these girls are not ready.

Body Language and Silence of Gosselin Twins Reflect Anger at Mom As Kate Is Enraged
January 17, 2014

 The silence  of Cara and Mady on the Today Show spoke volumes as they were asked if they were doing OK. Clearly they are NOT OK. They are obviously angry at mom.  They were both asserting their power by using this opportunity in an attempt to embarrass their mother, who appears to be on a quest to get back in the limelight with a new reality show. 

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As Mady was asked if things were OK, she cocked her head and pursed her lips,  which indicated that she couldn’t reveal the truth even though she may have wanted to tell all. 

When Mady refused to speak, Kate clasped her hands as she would with a young toddler and said “Use your words”. This was humiliating to say to a teenager who obviously didn’t have any words to tell lies about how wonderful things were on the homefront.

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Kate was shocked and looked at Mady straight in the eye. They both had an eye to eye confrontation. Mady was not backing down. She was not going to play along and make like everything at home was fine and dandy when it was not the case. Even though Kate looks like she is smiling, it is a phony smile to mask her anger towards Mady. 

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Cara was sullen and mute throughout the interview. She refused to say a word as she clenched her jaw shut. 

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 Kate was not happy with Cara,  who in her early years on “Kate Plus 8″  seemed to be Momma’s little helper and ally. Things have certainly changed . We see how Cara raises her shoulder and is literally giving Kate “the cold shoulder”. There is also a lot of tension on her face. Kate is furious as we can see from her body language> Kate glares at Cara, *who ignores her mother as Kate purses her lips  and clenches her jaw in anger as she eyes her daughter.

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Kate is disgusted with Maddy as well as you can see by the look of anger on  her face. Mady obviously feels the tension and has resorted to playing with her hair as a result of comforting herself . She automatically cocks her head to be out of Kate’s  direct line of vision. She also hunches down.  It is her way of physically minimizing herself against Kate’s wrath and the tension she feels coming from her mother. Cara also feels the tension as she gazes at her sister with concern.

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Kate tries to do damage control but can’t help leaking out her angry facial language. Maddy looks away from her mom, focusing on the interviewer. Mady’s shoulders are still rounded while Cara looks down. 

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Here we see Mady leaking out a  a self satisfied smile as she knows exactly what she did by not speaking. She is clearly  pleased with her accomplishment at embarassing her mother on national television.

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As Kate tries to spin things,  she manages to put a dig in about Jon by saying how he and the public have said that being on television has damaged the kids. Kate says that because of this wrong information, she is now forced to come forward and speak out. Obviously she manipulated her teenage twins to do her bidding via their interview in People Magazine. But it all backfired when the teens were put on the spot and now had to speak for themselves in a  spontaneous manner. They couldn’t bring themselves to do it.  This screenshot shows how it is clear that the girls don’t want to be a part of Kate’s campaign, They are detached from Kate as they both look down with tense facial expressions. They know that their mother is spinning things to make herself look good and  it is obvious that they don’t want to go along with the charade any longer.

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Cara’s fist-like and gesture is indicative of anger. She is holding on to herself for self comfort as she wears a tense facial expression. Mady is also holding on to herself as she clasps her hands between her legs for comfort. There is a lot of physical space between her and her mother as she cocks her head and minimizes herself. Kate is holding on to herself as well as a means of containing her anger towards her daughters. Kate appears to be full of tension in her face and body. 

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Cara purses her lips which further indicates she wants to remain silent on the matter as Mady looks down with a sad facial expression. No doubt she knows what lies ahead when the interview is over and the cameras are turned off of her- a very unhappy mother. Kate leans away from Mady and literally gives her the “cold shoulder” as she gestures with tense hands and a very angry look on her face.

When the girls were asked if they want to get back on TV with a reality show, this was the only time Mady light up as he eyes brightened for a moment. But she couldn’t answer the next question as to why she wanted to be on TV- because it was fun or because she wanted her life out there. No doubt she remembered the perks and the travel and all the goodies of the past that came with being on TV and she misses that. Maybe she feels that having another reality show will appease Kate, which may in turn make living with her mother a lot easier and reduce the tension and anger around the house.

This interview showed us how all is not well in that household, no matter what these girls may have allegedly told People Magazine.When it was just them on the spot  and no publicist or mom speaking on their behalf, they refused to lie. I give them a lot of credit for that. 

 

Obama and Putin’s Body Language Says They Detest One Another
September 11, 2013

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While President Obama may know a thing or two about politics, he knows very little about body language. In a recent speech he said that there was  a lot of talk about body language of the two leaders  when they met and warned the public not to read much into it because he said that Putin just has a slouching posture.

Nothing could be further from the truth. Putin is not a sloucher. In fact his posture is usually erect and reflects extreme self confidence.

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You consistently see his erect and straight posture when he speaks to world leaders.

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But when Putin is near Obama his raised shoulders and fist like hand gesture indicates that he is angry at Obama and clearly doesn’t like him as he can’t even bear to look at him. He leans his body away from Obama as you can see and looks down as to avoid Obama entirely.

Likewise Obama looks angry. In fact we have rarely if ever seen Obama with such a facial expression reflecting disdain. His hand is on his knee for self comfort and his facial expression speaks volumes.  He puts his hand on  his chin as he appears to be pondering what to do. There is tension in his face and cheek area indicating  anger  and the downward turn of his mouth shows unhappiness.  Obama is clearly not happy having to be in the presence of Putin.

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Here we see where they have an identical hand pose as those they are holding on to themselves and restraining themselves from all the anger and disdain  they have towards one another. Putin cannot even establish eye contact with Obama  as he looks away while Obama looks at him with a skeptical facial expression.

There is clearly no love lost between these two leaders.There is mutual anger and mutual disdain for one another body language wise and facial language wise no matter what pleasant words they use about one another.

Zimmerman Interview With Sean Hannity Would Have Given Jurors More Insight
July 16, 2013

We have come to find out from the juror who wanted to write a book and who appeared on Anderson Cooper in shadow so her identity would not be revealed that the initial vote for the jurors was one for second degree, two for manslaughter and 3 for not guilty. She said that as they understood the guidelines they were under based on their instructions, they all felt that Zimmerman killed out of self defense.

Today I was sent an article where I was quoted about Zimmerman a year ago after he appeared on the Sean Hannity Show. As I read what I said back then, I couldn’t help but think that if the jurors saw the same thing I saw on Hannity they may have had more information before they came to their conclusion. The thing that struck me the most during Hannity’s interview was that Zimmerman’s body language, facial language, vocal and speech patterns did not reflect that he showed remorse. 

Before you read what I wrote , it is important to understand that as a behavioral analyst and body language expert, I do not put my bias into my analyses. All I do is report what I see and make an interpretation based on body language, facial language, vocal, and speech cues. 

Here is what I observed  on the Sean Hannity Show back in July of 2012 in an interview I did with journalist Marcus Singletary

The Zimmerman affair: two fallacies and a conversation with Dr. Lillian Glass

George Zimmerman smiling after a 'not guilty' verdict is handed down.
George Zimmerman smiling after a ‘not guilty’ verdict is handed down.
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2. Zimmerman’s interview with Sean Hannity was more important than anyone involved was inclined to admit.

On July 19, 2012 (yes, I resisted publishing it until now), Dr. Lillian Glass – a noted Cosmopolitan Magazine columnist and body language expert – said of Zimmerman’s demeanor on the national stage:

Now that I have had time to really digest it, there is a lot that is highly disturbing. He is forthright in his answers – and shows no remorse, which is a bad thing.

When Sean asks if he regrets getting out of the car and following Trayvon, he says he doesn’t, and then there is a pursing of his mouth that indicates anger towards Trayvon. Then he is asked if he regrets having a gun that night and he matter of factly – with no emotion – says ‘no.’ Then, he invokes that it was ‘God’s Will’ in a robotic way devoid of emotion. It shows a man who has no sorrow for what he did.

When he turns to the camera to speak, it is highly inappropriate, and shows that this is all contrived and done for a purpose. He says he wishes that it wouldn’t have put HIM in a bad position; It is all about HIM. A jury seeing this will dislike Zimmerman very much, because he shows no compassion or humanity. He is telling the truth that he feels no remorse for taking another life. He even smiles smugly when he talks about not making racist remarks.

He also contradicts himself. First, he says it is ‘God’s Will,’ and then he says later that when he shot Trayvon, he didn’t think he hit him. A jury will pick this up as well.

He then says he is sorry they buried their child, and then it goes back to HIM as he says I can’t imagine what it must feel like. He again shows no empathy. When he says, ‘I pray for them daily,’ he purses his lips and swallows. He says it in a monotone devoid of emotion. The pursing of the lips and swallows may be a signal of deception that one may wonder if he is praying for himself daily and not Trayvon’s family.

In essence, Zimmerman is telling the truth that he has no regrets about getting out of the car pursuing Travyon and shooting him, and the only regret is that it put him in a bad position.

In court, Judge Debra Nelson deflected, ‘Certain portions of the defendant’s interview…have been excised or redacted based upon legal determinations made by the court. The parts excised or redacted are not relevant and you are not to concern yourselves with why this occurred’ and, as a result, attorney Remi Spencer pointed out, ‘The state…sort of [threw] their arms up in the air and [said], ladies and gentlemen of the jury, you decide…As if, perhaps, they didn’t even want to bring this case to the courtroom in the first place’ (FOX, July 2, 2013; (Orlando Sentinel, July 14, 2013.)

I believe Dr. Glass when she calls Zimmerman’s character into question, and now you are also aware of why anyone with predispositions to Zimmerman’s claims would want to push the true, case-defining issues aside. Sure, Zimmerman won, but experts are telling you that he deceived the American public and was supported by the nation’s criminal justice system in doing so.

 

 
 

Paula Deen’s Body Language, Fake Tears, Insincere Apology, and Racist Punchline Tuned Off Fans and Sponsors
June 28, 2013

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Deep down, Paula Deen did not  feel that  she did anything wrong. Hence you hear her empty sounding hollow apologies. She made three apologies, one worse sounding than the other.The body doesn’t lie and neither does the voice.

Her tears were non-tears with no liquid in them. And worse or all she used a phrase”I is what I is” which is the punchline of a racist joke.  She went from the fire into the frying pan and fried her reputation for good.

Had she said, “Look I said that 20 something years ago out of anger at one particular person.  I am ashamed of it. Let’s move on because I am not a racist and for anyone to think so is wrong.   But let us use this as a teaching moment that whether we are black or white we must eliminate that word from our lexicon because it brings hurt to everyone.Let’s stop using it in our music and  everywhere else.”

She also needed to put her money where her mouth was and say that she was starting up an educational fund where she would go to schools along with other professionals to teach children about not using hurtful words and telling racist jokes to hurt others.

But instead she got way too defensive about a black guy having a gun to her head and then ending it with an over the top dramatic statement about throwing a stone so hard that it should kill her and then shockingly saying “I is what I is.” She didn’t say “i am what I am”but made reference to  racist joke.

Here is the joke:

There was a black guy and a white guy.
They were debating over whether god was white or black.
The white guy said that there was only one way to find out and that is to
pray.
So they go up on a hill and they pray, and pray, and pray.
Finally they hear a voice say, “I am what I am.”
The white guy jumps up, and says, “Aha, I told you he was white.”
The black guy jumps up and says, “What do you mean? That didn’t prove
anything.”
“Yes it did. Because if he was black he would’ve said I is what I is.”

Her insincere apology and defensive explanation on the Today show  is the reason why she has been dropped by so many including Walmart and Target and her diabetes drug company.

It is not that she said the N words over two decades ago. It is that she now showed no remorse . it was  her body language and how she said it that turned people off.

Jodi Arias Smiles, Flirts, and Kisses and Laughs In Recent Courtoom Appearance
June 24, 2013

ImageJodi Arias  first arrived in the courtroom wearing a very sullen expression. She was not wearing her glasses which were  previously her apparent prop which she used to try and sway the jury that she was just an average abuse vicitim and not a femme fatale. Her eyes looked a bit sunken and her complexion was pale.

She was expressionless as she sat down. But then she turned  to the back of the courtroom  to look at who was in the  audience. She clearly recognized someone who made her smile . She even  puckered up and gave the person a kiss.

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First we see her pursing her lips as she strains to locate the person as she eyes those seated in back of her in the courtroom.

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Then she recognizes  the person and makes eye contact  with them and proceeds to exhibit a genuine smile with her cheeks raised, teeth showing,  and eyes squinted. This indicates she is really happy to see the person.

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She knows she shouldn’t be doing what she is doing . Hence you see her pursing her lips as she tries to surpress her excitement and happiness at seeing the person. But her eyes continue to smile. 

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She continues to look at the person as she unpurses her lips. Says OK .

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 Now we see her puckering up in a kissing motion. 

 

 

 

 

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She  then turns away and laughs to herself as she is quite self satisfied in terms of what she has done in giving an air  kiss to someone in the back of the  courtroom. 

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She continues to smile  a genuine smile as she turns away from the person. You can see her raised cheeks and squinted eyes which indicates she is very happy with herself.

The question is with whom was Jodi  flirting? Was it one of her male or female admirers? Was it her one loyal male friend who has supported and defended her ? Was it her female friend who has tweeted  on her behalf? Was it someone new? I doubt that it was her mother or father based on her strained relationship with them in the past.  

Jodi is  most likely receiving support if not love letters from disturbed thinking fans out there. Perhaps the person to whom she was smiling and flirting with and to whom she gave an air kiss to was one of those  disturbed suitors.

While Jodi was happy that she was able to get some personal attention in the courtroom, this may be one of the last times she gets away with it. When she is locked up in prison for life or on death row, there will be nothing to smile  about and no one to share a laugh. 

 

 

 

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