Jodi Arias Mother’s Body Language Shows Disrespect in the Courtroom and Hostility Towards Jodi
March 5, 2013

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Jodi Arias’s mother sits each day in the courtroom with another woman who looks similar to her. The reason they look so similar is that they are twin sisters.

But what these twins are doing in the courtroom is not helping Jodi. They are laughing and chucking with one another as though they are sharing inside jokes. This is very disrespectful  and is not helping Jodi in terms of jury perception.

The rest of the time her mother is looking non reactive or hostile as she gazes ahead to look at Jodi. Juries do look at family members. They see how family members react , if they are present , and how they behave.

The mother doesn’t look over at Jodi with any loving look. When there are salacious sexual details out of Jodi’s mouth as the camera pans to her, there is no emotional reaction. It is a though she is watching paint dry on a wall.

The only emotional reaction is when she is laughing with her sister. Does she think this trial is a big jok?. Or is she secretly happy Jodi finally got what she deserved for  possibly being such a bad daughter in her view. Ther eis clearly some deep seated hostility between them.

There does not seem to be any love lost between the two of them. Perhaps  her mother is angry for Jodi for either revealing the family  beating secrets or  for lying about  being beaten by her mother.

In the courtroom  Jodi said how she was severely beaten as a child by  both her mother and father as she said “ Life was ideal up until I was aged seven. Parents would spank us and around seven-years old it started getting more intense.”

Just as a note most abusive parents dont start spanking at age 7. They do it way before that time, so this statement seems like a lie to me.

Then Jodi continues, ‘My dad started using a belt.My mom began to carry a wooden spoon on her purse.”It was a wooden kitchen spoon and if we misbehaved she would use it on my brother and I, she would hit us hard with it.’It left welts on my body.“Dad didn’t leave welts as often as my mom – she also used a belt. “

In my view this last statement was way too much information about her dad and the welts which also make me question how truthful she was being. Also belts leave welts so one again she appears to me to be lying.

Then Jodi adds, My dad was quite intimidating so didn’t need to use strength to get his point across. My mother did.’

Now here is where it is very revealing concerning Jodi and her mother’s relationship. Jodi was asked in court if she loved her mother, She  took a pause and quietly responded, ‘yes’.

That quiet yes, and the pause says it all. It shows  ambivalence. It wasn’t a loud yes or a yes that could be heard but a quiet yes. It spoke  loud volumes about their relationship.

Jodi a;sp talked at length about the relationship she had with her parents growing up and claimed she was subjected to beatings.

‘They were intense and increased in frequency as I got older,’ Jodi  said. ‘I don’t recall how many times a week but it could be any thing from four times a week to once every two weeks.‘I didn’t like being hit so I would squirm around a little but the more we did the harder we would get hit.

 ‘My mother broke my brother’s hand once when he tried to block one of her blows. As I got into a teenager, my dad would get rougher and rougher.

So here is where she contradicts herself regarding the beatings. First she says her dad was just intimidating anf didn’t need to use strength to get his point across and then she says he got rougher and rougher.

She added: ‘When I was younger I remember feeling betrayed and confused that my mother was beating me.’As I got older it made me mad and I didn’t get why she was punishing me. I was mad at her and it hurt. I loved her but it put a strain on our relationship.”

Her adding I loved her was once again too much information and when she used the word BUT and said it put a strain on their relationship, it clearly shows her ambivalence towards her mother.  The she goes on to say

‘My dad never beat me with his fist – he would just shove me into furniture and the piano, tables, desk, chairs, whatever was around. One time I even passed out. This was when I was 16 or 17. Not as often with my dad as with my mom. If I did something to upset them it would happen. Sometimes I got grounded. I loved my father even when he was beating me.’

Again this contracts what she said earlier about her father not using force to make his point. So now we she he used so much force that Jodi passed out. Again it appears to me that she is lying. When she said  I loved mu father– it was in the past tense which is significant as well. It also showed her ambivalence that she loved her father even when he was beating me.”

She then  told the packed courtroom that the beatings continued throughout high school. She also stated  that one night she snuck out at night with friends and when her parents woke up and found out, she said her father hit her across the face, knocking her to the ground.

Once again it shows how she lied earlier about her father not using force. Knocking someone to the ground takes a lot of foce.

Following the end of the relationship with a young man Jodi moved in with, she said that she moved in with her grandparents after she broke up with the boyfriend  because she did not want to return to the abusive atmosphere of her parents’ house.

While Jodi is full of lies, this may be something that may ring true. She may have had problems with her parents for whatever reason.

The one thing that we have seen for sure is that there is no loving relationship between Jodi and her mother.

When  Jodi’s mother isn’t busy laughing with her sister or having no visible facial reaction to Jodi, she is taking copious notes- maybe she’s keeping a journal as well.

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Perhaps the mother  is plannig to write a tell all book telling us how awful Jodi was as a daughter, what a liar she wall all her life and how she  lied about being hit by her as this mother  cashes in on her daughter’s infamy.

Toxic Teacher Who Had Children” Oink” At Messy Student Should Never Be Allowed to Teach Anywhere
April 15, 2011

What happens to us in our childhood has a lasting effect on who we grow up to be and what happens to us in life. As a communications and  body language expert I cannot begin to  tell you  just how many private clients I have seen in my life who had public speaking problems and who were terrified of speaking in front of others- no matter how small the group, just  because some insensitive  ignorant teacher humiliated them in front of the room.

I have seen grown men- CEO’s of major corporations break down and cry in my offices knowing they had to present the annual report for their company. I have seen beautiful women shake with fear and dread also cry when they had to go on an interview or speak at a presentation.

Consistently  in all of these cases it appeared to  stem back to a teacher who humiliated then in front of the classroom. They suffered a lifetime of  emotional  trauma as a result.

I also know of  someone   who hates anything to do with athletics every since  they  were traumatized by their  first grade  gym teacher who screamed at then for not knowing their right from their left  when they marched in the opposite direction during a class exercise.  As it turned out the boy who was dyslexic .Not only was his academic progress challenged, so was his athletic progress because of this ignorant  teacher.

So when I read that yet another ignorant and insensitive  teacher was guilty of causing psychic trauma to yet another student, I was livid.

This kindergarten  teacher Debbie Hayes at Bowers Elementary  was nothing more than a paid BULLY in my view. She had the audacity to tell the other students to encircle  their classmate and call him a pig while making pig noises and oinking at the boy simply because he had a messy desk. This BULLY needs to be fired and never be allowed to teach again.

Apparently Debbie Hayes, is a veteran educator who should have known better as she had taught kindergarten for 38 years in Roane County. Who knows what other harm  this abusive bully in my view  did to other children in her close to four decades as an educator.  In fact Dr.Toni McGriff the director of Roane County Schools, called the March 16 incident “simply unbelievable”

In her reprimand letter, McGriff told Hayes she was “appalled with the actions in this situation.””It’s a black eye on the profession,”. “It’s a black eye on our schools.”

Apparently another educator walked into Debbie Hayes’ classroom March 16 and saw kindergartners encircling their crying classmate.”The students in the circle were ‘oinking’ and making pig sounds at the little boy,”

A teacher  who witnessed the incident told Principal Candace Lett that afternoon. Hayes and Lett met the next day in McGriff’s office to discuss the episode.

During that meeting, Hayes said she was “tired of the student’s messiness and had repeatedly warned the child to be neater , However, the students in the classroom told authorities teacher   Debbie Hayes told them to encircle the child “and call him a pig and make pig noises,” according to the reprimand.

Hayes only received  one received a  one-day suspension from her job.

This is horrible, in my view. Hayes needs to be  fired for causing  abuse  and potential of lifetime psychic  trauma to this boy. She also needs to be sued by the boys parents and she needs to pay all of his psychologists bills that he will no doubt need to recover from this abusive trauma, if he ever recovers.  This  incident may have long lasting traumatic effects on this child for the rest of his life.

In essence this bully of a teacher taught the other children how to bully and she needs to be held accountable.

All this ignorant creature teacher needed to do was send a letter home with the boy or have a parent child conference or find out why he was being so messy. Oftentimes messiness is a sign of creativity. It may also be that this is how he lives at home in a messy environment. So he many have thought it was normal to be messy.

Apparently Hayes was  forced to  apologize to the students. Personally, I don’t think her apology is enough. It means nothing in the scheme of things. She traumatized this poor child to the point that he was crying. She needs a taste of her own medicine and needs to be ostracized from her school community and lose her pension that she worked so hard to obtain all of these years. She needs to see how she would like it if she was cut off  from ever working at a teaching job again.

She is the real pig in this situation.  The real messy person who messed with a  child’s psyche , That is worse than any messy desk or messy room.

Apparently the  school principal offered to transfer the abused  child  to another classroom, but the mother declined. I think the mother  did the right thing.  In the end , the teacher was made to look like the fool and the boy may come out to be  a hero. I also think that every child who called him a pig and surrounded him needs to be made to personally apologize to him, look him in the eye, say I am sorry and shake his hand. This way the boy will feel better and the other kids will now see him in a different light- someone they can respect.

I do hope that the parents of the boy don’t minimize this egregious act. They need to understand that this incident can have lasting repercussions. It is bad enough when one student bullies another but when the whole class is made to bully a child by a disturbed teacher it is a different matter. They need to lawyer up and sue the teacher, the school board and the school system in their community because there is no doubt that they  will need the money to pay for this boy’s psychological care int he future.

The boy cried which showed that he was upset and traumatized. Those tears run deep and can course through his psyche for a lifetime. Shame on this Bully Debbie Hayes who must never be allowed  teach again. Like a child abuser or child molester, she must never be allowed to  come in contact with children  again in my view. www.drlillianglass.com

Oprah Busts Michael Jackson’s Toxic Father About Beating Michael As Joe Jackson’s Body Language Shows Signals of Deception And No Remorse
November 11, 2010

A serious Oprah leans in to ask  Michael Jackson;s father Joe,”  Do you think Michael  was afraid of you?” A simple yes or no  answer while looking in Oprah’s direction  would have  indicated that Joe  was telling the truth.  But this was not the case. Joe showed  too many singles of deception. You can see one of those signals of deception as he

1.immediately  turns away from Oprah

2.  looks away and gazes to the side as you can see

3.  blinks a lot

4.  licks his lips

5. speaks slowly as  if to search for words to create hos lie

6. shrugs his shoulder

7. looks down

8.  gives away too much tangential information

9. fidgets

10  leans away and  then turns to lean in as if to try to convince Oprah that what he is  saying is true as she states,

”  I don’t think he was afraid of me. I think he was afraid he would do something wrong and I would chastise him. But I never beat him. I never beat him like the media tried to say .”

When someone does all of those things body language wise and volunteers  information you didn’t ask for,  there is  a good chance they  are they are lying about what they said.

OPRAH BUSTS JOE!

Then Oprah busts him by confronting  him head on as she  said “ I did that interview with him in 1993 and he told me you beat him.”


Joe is stunned. He looks away and turns from Oprah. This is probably the first time in his adult life that anyone stood up to him.

He then licks his lips and says um as if searching for something to say. He utters out  “ I am glad that he was raised in such a way. He was liked all over the world. He could have been like some of the other kids from Gary who are dead or gone.”

In essence he is coming up with an excuse in  trying to justify what he  did to Michael.

To get the truth out of Joe Jackson Oprah admits that she as beaten as a kid because that was the culture .

Joe feels relieved as he now looks directly at Oprah and gives a relieved slight smile.

BEAT OR WHIPPED???

Then Joe tries to clarify and justify as he asks Oprah Beat or Whipped? Lets not split hairs here. Whipped is the same as being beaten. They both cause bodily harm pain and tear away at one’s self esteem.

Oprah is now pissed. She looks up in exasperation and in a loud tone says It’s the same thing when you have welts on your body. Even mother Katherine chimed in and said in her soft way that it was the same thing.

Joe then  got all cotton mouthed  and licked his lips and indication he was clearly  nervous,  But he had to take control of the situation as the control freak  bully type of Toxic Man he is.   He immediately retorts that he didn’t like the word beat. So Oprah says , so you have issue with the word beat. He then showed   his contentiousness, he has the audacity to retort ” no  I have issue with the word whipped.

Katherine then stepped in and says You might as well tell the truth.  Good for her! I am sure that this is one of the few times in her life that she was able to speak up and speak back to this TOXIC  bully. Thank goodness she found the strength to do so, even of it was with  the protection of the camera crews and Oprah at her side.

Katherine  went on to say He used the strap, as she looked right at Joe. Joe now is clearly uncomfortable with lip locking and head bowed down as he is clearly embarrassed.

Joe was completely  humiliated for the first time in his life This bully now leaned back and crossed his arms over his body in a self  protective stance protective with his head bowed.  If there was a hole  in the ground, he would  now doubt want to crawl into into it and cover himself with the dirt.

With arms still crossed as you can see int he photo above,  he finally indirectly  admits that he would have whipped him with a strap  to punish for someone who did something wrong.  Notice how he detached by referring to Michael as  a someone as opposed to using his son’s name- Michael whom he beat or whipped or caused bodily harm. Notice how his eyes are closed as he looks down when he says this. It is  because he is so humiliated. It is indicative of shame.  Even though hos body language admits shame, his speech does not.

Instead, he continues to justify how  the beatings   kept Michael out of jail and how none of hos kids have been in jail

Then Oprah asks him if he regrets his strappings on his children. He  clearly and distinctly  looks directly at Oprah and replied  that he does not regret stapping his children.


Now we know why Prince was angry in the photo we see above. Perhaps he couldn’t stomach sitting or even standing next to the man who beat his beloved father with a strap.

THE TRUTH ALWAYS PREVAILS AND MICHAEL TOLD THE TRUTH ABOUT HIS DAD’S BEATINGS

Now we know they truth.  Michael spoke the truth about his  fathers beatings, Clearly they  damaged him emotionally.  He carried those scars into his adulthood. He was in such emotional trauma from his father;s violence that he di all he could to tip himself away from being his fathers son. He even changed his skin color and his genetic appearance just to be able to look in the mirror and see no resemblance to the man whom he obviously detested.

He was in such pain that he self medicated with surgery after surgery and drug after drug.

He wanted to go back  to his childhood and and re live his childhood with the love he obviously felt he did not have. That may explain why he continued to be child like well into his forties and as he turned fifty.  , He was so abused that he wanted to right the wrongs of his father.  He could’t do it but he could  right those wrongs through his kids.  He was a wonderful gather according to his kids.  This is a marked contrast from what he would say about his own father, Joe.

The truth has finally prevailed.  I only wish Michael would have been alive to hear his father admit  what he did to him. Michael did the right thing to never speak to his father and to unplug from him for good.  Some things are unforgivable. Physical violence is one of those things that is hard to forgive.

The UNPLUG  technique  is one of the technique which  I describe  in my book TOXIC MEN that  you can use when you can  no longer deal with a person who has made your life miserable.  The fact that Joe did not apologize for what he did to Michael   and continues to justify it shows how Michael did the right thing to UNPLUG  and  never allow Joe into his life.

Joe is A Toxic Man. He is a classic control freak  bully. To read more about Toxic Men you can get my latest book at a special rate  of $14.93 from amazon.com  by clicking the link  below

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Caylee Anthony’s Body Language In Disturbing Video Indicates Emotional Neglect by Casey As Casey Speaks The Words “I Kill”
September 5, 2010

 

Before I analyze this  video I need to address some issues about  professionalism and speculation and my blog. The body language analyses I make in these blog is based on my background, research,  education, and close to three decades of  experience and knowledge,  which allow me to render certain opinions about how I see certain body language and communication behaviors.

Blogs are a reflection of one’s opinion where editorializing is accepted and the norm. Even  scientific journal articles  involve speculation regarding proven or unproven theories. So for those of you who write to me I can assure you that I will  continue to share my opinions and thoughts  in these blogs as well as providing you with  my knowledge concerning  objective data that I observe.

The first editorial comment I will make with regard to this video is that it  made me terribly sad. In fact, it  brought tears to my eyes and left me with  a sick feeling in my stomach and a heaviness in my heart as I saw how this poor child was neglected both verbally and emotionally.

Having spent the early part of my career studying speech and language development, it is essential for anyone interacting with a child to verbalize  with them. That is how a child develops their  speech an language skills. 

In Cayleey’s case Casey does not interact with her. She does not respond to Caylee’s singing or verbalizing. Instead, she continues to shoot a video, observing her like one would observe a  zoo animal. It sickened me.

What shocked me even more was that the only time Casey interacted with Caylee, she  uttered  two words as if to question what Caylee said. She questioned whether her child was saying the words ” “I kill? ” I could not believe my ears!

Caylee had emotional needs in this video that  were clearly  not being met .  These needs were ignored.  To me that is cruel and abusive.

 As you will see in my analysis and in looking at the video, Caylee wanted affection and verbal  interaction. She wanted love. She wanted to be picked up, especially at the end of the video as you will see. But she was completely ignored .This behavior on Casey’s part was sadistic in my view. It was obviously of preview of  horrible things to come.

For  those of you who write to me to simply be contentious or to tell me that you know more, or to stick up for Caysey saying that photos exist  showing Casey smiling with Caylee or Caylee reaching out to her mother,  I say look closer. There are a lot of ” tells” which show that Caylee was hungry for Casey’s love and it was not reciprocated.

Often it is not just the fact that someone is smiling in a photo that determines whether they are happy inside or not. One has to look at subtle body language tells from facial nuances to body positioning and body language behaviors.

I am sure that watching this  video will clear up your concerns once and for all as to whether you think Casey was a good and loving mother to Caylee. After watching this sickening video I don’t believe she was a loving mother . A loving and caring mother verbalizes and interacts with their child. They do not ignore a child  as you will see by clicking the link below .

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If you look at the first photo above, you will see that Caylee begins to have a frustrated concerned  look on her face as she is sitting in her high chair with individual pieces of cereal spead out , along with her  her baby bottle. She is verbalizing and singing. She verbalizes and sings  what sound like “Ah keyeh” 

 Since the /s/ sounds aren’t yet formed in a child of that age, it may be her attempt to say “ A kiss” Maybe she is asking Casey, who is filming this video for a kiss to reassure her that she is loved.  In the photo above you see the beginnings of  her frustration and tenseness by her  little furrowed brow as she is ignored by Casey.  

 This continues to be   upsetting to her as you can see from her facial expression while she continues to sing and is ignored. Now you can actually see sadness in her downturned eyes and corners of her mouth. She even physically backs away  leaning back into her high chair to further show her displeasure.

 

Now Caylee is very upset as she leaks out the facial expression indicating that she is about to cry. She even curls in her lower lip. Look at her sad  eyes . She tries to communicate that she wants a response as she raises her hand and points her finger.

 Now Caylee is even more frustrated as she reaches out with her arm indicating that she desires a response and some love and attention. It is also a gesture that she wants physical attention  like a hug or some physical contact.

She is not getting any attention from Casey ,so she makes direct eye contact with Casey and continues to sing even louder as she increases the volume of her song. But Casey continues to ignore her.

 

Caylee sings and now eats and raises her hand to be acknowledged. But she is ignored The significant thing about this screen shot is that she leaked out her anger at being ignored  as you can see in the fist like position of her hand. 

SHOCK!!! DID CASEY  ACTUALLY SAY “I KILL”?

Around 33 seconds into this video  Casey zooms in  as you can see  above and you hear her ask in a questioning tone utttering the words  “I Kill? It is shocking. Caylee has been singing  ” Ah kee” over  and over again, which most would perceive as Caylee trying to say  “A kiss.” indicating that she wanted attention  nd affection. But  Casey questions if little Caylee is saying “I kill”

What normal mother would think that her baby was talking about killing? A child that age is innocent and pure and has no concept of death and evil and killing. In addition, the / l /sound at the final place in a word  isn’t developed at that age.

Perhaps Casey was thinking about killing even as early as this video. Otherwise why would she even think to  say the word? Was it in her subconscious all along? Were there thoughts pertaining to killing Caylee as early as this video or even earlier?

Caylee is so thrilled that Casey finally interacted with her and uttered  something to her, even though she doesn’t understand what Casey actually  said, she continues to loudly and vigorously  repeat the sound ” kee, kee, kee,”  three times while continuing  to chew on her cookie.

  

There is now complete silence on Casey’s part, after Caylee  responds by speaking and singing. The silence continues as  Caylee continues  to be filmed  and observed like a zoo animal.  There is no interaction.  Nothing is said by Casey. There only filming. It is disturbing and upsetting to hear the length of time that the complete silence took place  from  52 to 1: 29 .

Then the most bizarre thing happens.  Casey films Cayee’s legs  from 1:30 to 2:32 where there is continued silence.

 She films Caylee under the table and now shoots a close up of  Caylee’r crotch area. The implications are highly disturbing.  Why would anyone video their child’s crotch area?

 It certainly makes one wonder of there were any sexual issues or concerns involved here. I am not accusing Casey of sexually molesting Caylee. I am just staying that this behavior is odd and raises some concerns. It is not typical behavior.

Caylee also thinks that it is odd that she is being filmed under her high chair. So  she peers under her high chair to see what is so interesting that it has to be filmed.  

For the first time, we see Caylee smile a genuine smile as she thinks that this may be some sort of a game.

But then she quickly realizes that it is not a game. She stops smiling and continues chewing her cookie as she looks directly into the camera.

Caylee is hungry for some type of verbal interaction after so many minutes of silence. She verbalizes and raises her hand and points to Casey as to indicate that she wants Casey to speak and interact with her.

Now you see Caylee is getting very frustrated . She verbalizes “Dek yoo.” which may mean that she is trying to say Thank you as a further attempt to indicate that she wants Casey’s attention.  Look at how she stretches out her little body in an attempt to literally reach out to Casey. Her eyes are opened wide  and her hand is open to signifying a welcoming  gesture towards Casey.

Now her open little hand turns into a pointing gesture where she is in essence saying ” You, mommy, pay attention to me and interact with me.” You can even see the frustration starting to build in Casey’s face. Her eyes begin to turn downward and her mouth does the same. She looks terribly sad as though she is about to cry.  

 Caylee quickly  sees that reaching out doesn’t seem to work in terms of  getting mommy’s attention. So she thinks that maybe singing will do the trick. She  proceeds to sing    di di doo di di duh  and changes into another tone of  dee de da de de goh. She looks directly at Casey and is wide eyed as we see in the above screen shot.

Singing hasn’t worked in securing Casey’s attention either. So she throws up both hands which indicate that she wants to be picked up. What is terribly sad is that Caylee leaves her hands up in that position for several seconds  to no avail.

One can only wonder how long Caylee remained uncomfortably in that high  chair. The bottom line is that to not speak to your child when they verbalize and gesture for you to interact with them is inhumane. www.drlillianglass.com

Mel Gibson’s Verbal Tirade Towards His Baby’s Mother, Oksana Reveals A Narcissistic, Control Freak Who’s Suffering from the “Madonna/ Whore Syndrome”
July 10, 2010

VOCAL AND VERBAL MURDER

The words a person uses, the emphasis and inflection patterns on those particular words, in addition to a person’s vocal tone can tell you if they are dangerous and ready to do you harm. After listening to Mel’s tone of voice and what he said to Oksana Grigoreieva, there is no doubt that he meant business and he was out to destroy her every way possible.

Words must NEVER be taken lightly. When a person speaks as Mel Gibson has spoken to the mother of his child, he has committed verbal murder.

AN EMOTIONALLY BEATEN DOWN  OKSANA TRIES TO FIGHT BACK WITH NO AVAIL

Mel’s rant killed Oksana’s self esteem as we hear a meek  sounding abused woman.

She tied to fight back and stand up for herself by telling Mel that it is none of his effing business when it came to her breasts, but it was no use.

Mel continued to berate her. It was too painful to listen to. If this horribly abusive snippet was caught on tape, one can only imagine what went on when Mel was not being taped.

Words and tones can destroy another person and can have a lifelong emotional effect. There is no doubt that Mel’s abusive words and actions have left an indelible scar on the mother of his child.

VOICE AND SPEECH MIRRORS THE SOUL

As Galen the ancient Greek philosopher once said, it is the voice that mirrors the soul. It is also mirrors the speech and the communication patterns.

What is in Mel’s head and his heart came out in his voice and the content of his speech. What emerged was an impotent human being. And that impotence may very well translate to sexual impotence as well as you will see as you read on. It translated into a narcissistic, sadistic, control freak.

VOCAL ATTACKS

The most striking thing about the tape is Mel’s hard glottal vocal attacks. The tone sounds like vocal bullets, as he rained down a spray of hatred and vitriol in a staccato pattern.

He closed off the back of his throat when he speaks. That is why you hear a creaky sound in his tone, much like a croaking frog. The reason he sounds like that is because he is filled with rage and anger. This rage and anger causes his muscles to tense up, including his vocal muscles.

The tight vocal muscles don’t allow the air to flow  through the vocal cords when he speaks. Hence, you hear the creaky  angry and tense sound.

The tone of his speech shows an offensiveness as though he is looking to pick a fight. He is spooling himself up and is ready to take issue with anything and everything.

The best thing Oksana could have done in this case was to remain calm and even keeled, which she did. But even so, it made little or no difference in terms  whatever she said. Mel was gunning for a down and dirty fight. Unfortunately she was the  victim.

The contents of his speech was peppered with sudden angry  bursts of loudness to emphasize specific words. These specific words are key in analyzing what is really going on in Mel’s psyche.

EMPHASIS ON  SPECIFIC KEY WORDS DURING  MEL’S TIRADE

The capitalized words are those which Mel emphasized during his tirade are seen below. I did not censor any of the words because I wanted to give a clear picture of the exact words Mel used and how he used them.

“Trying to breast feed with Fucking FOREIGN BODIES in you.The fact that you had FOREIGN BODIES in there. So you’re not LYING to me about FAKE TITS you did you FUCKING  LIED to me.They look RIDICULOUS. Get rid of them why dontcha?

They look STUPID, It’s just an appraisal. Keep em they look STUPID, Keep em if you want . I don’t give a FUCK. But you know they’re too BIG and they look STUPID. They look like some Vegas BITCH. Vegas Whore .And you go SHASHAYING around in your tight clothes, I won’t stand for that anymore. You go out in public and it’s a Fucking EMBARASSMENT to me. You look like a FUCKING BITCH on heat.

You;ll get RAPED by a pack of Niggers it’s be your fault. All right because YOU PROVOKED it. You are PROVOCATIVELY dressed all the time with your fake BOOBS. You feel you have to SHOW OFF in tight outfits in tight pants  You can see you PUSSY from behind. And that GREEN thing. THAT’s (vocal pitch goes up) provocative.

Ok I’m TELLING you, I’m just  TELLING you the TRUTH!  I DON’T LIKE IT . I don’t WAN’T want that woman. I don’t want  YOU .I don’t BELIEVE you any more. I don’t TRUST you/ I don’t LOVE you. I don’t WANT you. Ok. STAY in the FUCKING house. I’ not GIVING it to you, but I’ll LET you stay there .  And I will take care of my child but I DON’T WANT YOU anymore.

MEL THE CONTROL FREAK- THE SIGNAL OF AN ABUSER


In his rant, we can see that is all about control. Mel is  trying to control Oksana completely from her  breasts- (telling her to get rid of them),to what she wears (tight clothing and that green thing) to her living  arrangements ( sadistically telling her he will allow her to live n the house).

Controlling  a person the first sign in the Cycle of Abuse . First, they try to control how you look, what you wear, and then it is your basic needs from what you eat, to where, and how you live.

That is exactly what Mel has done to Oksana. If she fails to obey, he gets more verbally abusive which is the next stage in the Cycle of Abuse we saw.

Then if she fails to do what he says, the next stage is the physically violent phase. While we have yet to see the photos of Oksana’s black eyes and chipped teeth as a result of Mel’s hands, based on the pattern we have seen thus far, I tend to believe that he did indeed abuse her.

MEL’S NARCISSISM IN NOT WANTING OKSANA TO HAVE ALL THE ATTENTION


The next thing we notice in Mel’s rant is that he absolutely hates it when Oksana is the center of attention. After all that attention is reserved for him- the star- not Oksana, the “extra” in his the big screen of his  life.

He talks about how he doesn’t like it when she dresses in tight clothes and how it embarrasses HIM. Of course it embarrasses him. He is the one who wants the public to only look at him and he is embarrassed if anyone more attractive or sexy looking surpasses him as far as attention goes.

He doesn’t like the attention Oksana gets from other men and even goes so disgustingly far as saying that since she attracts so much attention to herself by her dress, a pack of “Niggers” will swoop down and gang rape her and that it will be all of her own doing.

But it is not about the dress or the clothes or that green thing or the outfit, which as Mel so vulgarly stated, revealed her “pussy” . It is all about her taking away his limelight and redirecting the attention that he believes should be on him, on to her.

IS MEL SEXUALLY IMPOTENT?


Enraged Mel is vocally  focusing on some very key words -  BOOBS, BITCH. PUSSY, RAPED,  and FUCKING (said multiple times)

He verbally  focuses  on Oksana’s “big boobs”, the provocative  “green thing” she was wearing, her “sashaying around”, and the threat of being “raped
by a pack of “Niggers.

What he is saying here is that she is clearly sexy  and provocative with her large breats and tight clothing that reveal her sexy body, including her private parts .

He is so threatened by this. Thus, he attempts to cut down her breasts by  telling Oksana they are fake, too big, and look stupid.

Obviously, her sexy assets are what  initially attracted him to her , to the point that he had sex with her, got her pregnant, and left his wife of over 30 years for her.

But suddenly, he is finding fault with what attracted him to her in the first place. He is rationalizing that it is her fake large breasts that are the reasons he is most likely no longer able to perform sexually. He  continues  to rationalize, that it is the fault of her provocative clothing that doesn’t allow him to get turned on.

He takes his being sexually turned off, a step further. There is no doubt that Mel is a racist, who hates Jews, Mexicans and Blacks as we have all seen via his past behavior and now current tirade.

So what would turn him off more than people he detests? It would be a group of Blacks, having sex with his woman- sex that he may be no longer able to achieve with her.

He took the sexual sterotype of the Black man and his sexual prowess and magnified his fantasy scenario  ten fold,  with a “group” of “Niggers“raping” her. He used this egregious term- the N word as an attempt to further degrade Oksana in his sick scenario, as a way to  rationalizes why he, most likely cannot perform sexually.

Because he feels Oksana  is the reason he is destroyed sexually with impotence, he in turn wants to destroy her for doing this to him. That is why he threatened to burn down the house, but not until after she gives him oral sex.

In saying this, he is in essence, asking her to become the “whore” like image that initially attracted him sexually, until she bore him a child and became the “Madona” like image that now renders him sexually impotent with her. I will get into  Mel’s “ Whore/ Madonna Complex” in a just a moment.

But in essence, what he is saying is “I want to destroy you Oksana, because you  destroyed my sexuality. But before I do, you have to do something to help revive my sexuality that you destroyed. You must prove to me that you have not destroyed my sexuality. But never the less, I plan to destroy you forever by burning down the house , preferably with you in it.

MEL’ S MADONNA/ WHORE SYNDROME

Mel may clearly be blaming Oksana for his  lack of sexuality. But in reality, she has little to do with it. It is all about him. Based on Mel’s words, it is clear that he now sees Oksana, the mother of his child in a very different light. Prior to her being pregnant, he perceived her as  the” whore” who sexually tuned him on.  But this is no longer the case.

A lot of men can have great sex with a lover, or girlfriend. or wife. But as soon as the lover, girlfriend, or wife delivers a baby, the man may no longer see her as being sexually attractive. She is no longer their sexual “whore”. She is now the “mother” of their child. She is the “Madonna”. That is clearly what Mel may be suffering from, in my view.

It is evident in his speech. He doesn’t want her  to look like a “Vegas whore.”  He doesn’t want her to dress provocatively. He doesn’t want her to “sashay” around in public because it embarrasses him.

It embarrasses him  because now that she is the mother of his child, she can no longer dress  the way she dressed before  she birthed his child, which now  in his mind looks like a provocative “whore”.

He feels that now she must look proper and dress the part of the “Madonna” that she is  now isin Mel’s disturbed mind. She must now, go out in unsexy outfits, unlike lithe green one she wore. Otherwise. it will say to Mel that she  is still a “whore”- a sexual object to be preyed upon by the  by the worst kind of people Mel views, in his racially sick mind- Black people.

To drive home his point and put  the fear of God into her ,he warns Oksana about his biggest fear. His fear is that the mother of his child, who he now sees as the Madonna, will be violated and tarnished and “raped” by the people he is most repulsed by- Black men.

He warns further that she will be the one responsible for her own raping and violation. She will be the one who brought it on herself, by not dressing the part of the “Madonna”, but rather the “whore”.

That is why he is allowing her to stay in the house. He wants her  out of sight. He wants her to be the Madonna and only care for his precious child. He wants her away from the public attention of the limelight.  He wants her away from any other man who may find his “Madonna” a sexy looking “whore”. And he especially wants her home and away from Blacks, whom  he feels may “rape: her and tarnish his  fantasy “Madonna” forever.

MEL, THE VERBAL MURDERER

Mel committed verbal murder when he attacked Oksana so brutally with his tones and words. He murdered her spirit and you can hear it in her fearful meek voice, as she tries to fight back and give him a dose of his own medicine by using the F word to tell him her breasts are none of his business.

Mel can never take these words back. They are in Oksana’s psyche forever.

Mel’s  tones and words murdered his chances of having a civil relationship so his daughter could grow up without the enormous tension that will most likely always be there between Mel and Oksana.

MEL’S WORDS KILLED OFF HIS FAN BASE FOREVER

Mel’s verbal murder also killed off his many fans. These cans can never look at Mel the same. What he said about his loyal supporters is unforgivable. They will NEVER support him at the box office no matter what film he makes in the future .

HE LOST HIS JEWISH FANS.

Just like there is no Jewish fan who can every look at Mel the same, after he made his anti-Semitic remarks when he was in the back of a police squad car after being arrested for a DUI, there is no Black fan that can ever look at him the same after calling them the N word.

HE LOST HIS BLACK FANS FOREVER

And adding insult to injury, he said that a “gang” of Blacks would rape Oksana just because his baby momma would be dressed provocatively. How insulting! How degrading to say that because a person is dressed a certain way that Blacks are so out of control with their sexuality that they would have no choice but to “rape” her in large groups in a pack, as in a pack of hungry, out of control wolves! This is the ultimate in stereotypic racism.

HE LOST HIS LATIN FANS

No Latin fan can ever look at Mel the same, after they heard him refer to Mexicans as “wetbacks.” How ugly! What he said is not only an insult to Mexicans but to every Spanish speaking fan.

MEL LOST HIS FEMALE FANS

And finally, no female fan can ever look at Mel the same. As if calling a female police officer “Sugar Tits” when he was arrested for a DUI wasn’t enough to turn women off, his rant to Oksana is guaranteed to turn off any woman who may have ignored his sexist comment to the police woman, forgiven Mel, or given him a second chance.

The  degrading and sexist way he spoke to Oksana sent chills up my spine as I am sure  it did to many other women.

The sexist and degrading name calling – from “whore” to “bitch”. The vulgar  reference to “tits” and “pussy” is unconscionable. No woman should ever have to hear that type of language coming out of anyone’s mouth.

“YOU’LL NEVER WORK IN THIS TOWN AGAIN”

While Hollywood loves a good comeback, there are certain things you can NEVER come back from. Robert Downy, Mickey Rourke, Britney Spears, are examples of the Hollywood dream. They are examples of having it all, losing it all, and then coming back even bigger and better than before. Hollywood is hoping to add Lindsay Lohan to this list, but only time will tell ,as it all depends on Lindsay now.

But there will never be a comeback for Mel. Mel is on his own this time. Hollywood, who has many powerful Jewish people in control, was going to pull the plug on Mel years ago after his anti semitic comments. But Mel’s well respected agent  at the time, Ed Limato of the William Morris Agency fought tooth and nail to keep Mel alive in the industry.

But last weekend Ed Limato died and so did Mel’s most loyal supporter. Now, there is no one to bail him out and play “the emperor has new clothes” game. Mel’s career is as dead as Ed Limato.

When  the William Morris Agency quits you even though you have made millions of dollars for them, you can kiss your career goodbye forever. What Mel did was unforgiveable and the William Morris Agency, headed by Ari Emanual, let Mel know it in no uncertain terms.

Now that his old  agent Ed Limato is dead, there is no one to defend Mel and play “the emperor has new clothes when in reality, the emperor isn’t wearing any clothes.” Mel is on his own and it is OVER for him in Hollywood!

Will another agency take him?  If they do, it will speak volumes about them and they will not be respected.   They will be seen as vultures. A lot of these heavy duty agents work together. They support one another. So, if Mel was fired from WMA/Endeavor, I doubt CAA or ICM – the three agencies who really matter in Hollywood and can do the job Mel requires, will take him on as a client.

SOME THINGS ARE UNFORGIVEABLE!

While you may think that this is no big deal, and that Mel will be even more popular because of all of this publicity, you are sadly mistaken.

The old adage “ there is no such thing as bad publicity” may have worked when Hollywood began in the 20’s, but it doesn’t work in this day and age.

It does work to make people aware of those who are not yet household names or who’s career is waning. While scandals get people to sit up and take notice and increase their awareness of you and hence your popularity, like it did with Kate Gosslelin, making her a star , it works the opposite when someone is already a super star and a household word.

When they do something like Mel has done- verbally abuse a woman and allegedly hit her while she was holding her baby, it is unforgivable!

Look at what happened to  Rhianna beater, singer Chris Brown. His career will never be the same. But Mel’s case is much worse. There is not only alleged physical violence, there is a baby involved.

There are words involved that no one will tolerate like the N word. Comedian, Michael Richards. who played Kramer on Seinfield,  essentially lost his career after his tirade in a nightclub where he used the N word and made other racist remarks.

Actor  Isaiah Washington was let go from Grey’s Anatomy for using the other F word, when he called his fellow co-star a “faggott”.

How people responded to these egregious actions, set a precedent. No one will accept it and there is no going back!  It is over for Mel Gibson!

ED LIMATO CAN’T HELP HIM NO AND NEITHER CAN HIS TOP PR SPIN  PUBLICIST PAUL BLOCK

Mel can pay his publicist and my dear friend,Paul Block of Rogers and Cowan, millions of dollars and it the spin will never work! I am sure Paul  is working 24/7 trying to do damage control .

I see how hard Paul is working ever since this mess occurred, as Paul tries to cast dispersions on Oksana by releasing stories that Mel is suing her for extortion. When that didn’t work, Paul no doubt, released a  news flash about how Mel was suing her for leaking the tape, and suing her for breach of contract.

Who cares about what Oksana did? Anything she allegedly did is minor in comparison to what Mel did. In actuality, the tape says it all. It speaks volumes with regard to what Mel did to her.

So what if she leaked the tape? There are no secrets anymore anyway. The truth always comes out! No one can hide.   The cat is out of the bag ,  the feathers are out of the pillowcase, and Humpty Dumpty has fallen off the wall and his pieces can never be put back together at all.

PR SPIN TO MAKE MEL  THE VICTIM OF A SAD BRUTAL CHILDHOOD WON’T WORK EITHER


I will save publicist Alan Nierob a lot of time and effort, by letting him know that if his next move is to spin the pity card, it won’t work with Mel.

It would be easy to now blame Mel’s bad behavior on his alcoholism or a bipolar disorder but it won’t work. There is just way too much bad behavior. It is not just one thing. It is a lot of things.

Many people are alcoholics and bipolar and they don’t abuse others like Mel did. They aren’t racists, anti Semites, or alleged physical abusers.

It would also be easy for Paul to spin it by blaming all of his issues on Mel’s bad childhood and his abusive father, the  ignorant father who is a Holocaust denier, and whom Mel has never spoken out against.

Maybe Alan Nierob will use this time and throw Mel’s father under the PR bus to save his client. But it won’t work. Lots of people have wacky or ignorant parents and they don’t act like Mel did. And besides, Mel is in his 50’s. How much longer can one blame a parent for their bad actions? It won’t work!

My advice to Alan, who happens to be Jewish and who is the son of precious Holocaust survivors, is to find another client. While you may  want to do right by your clients, remember that deep down, Mel is not too crazy about you and could spit his  vitriol  on you personally  in a heartbeat.

And speaking of heartbeats,  spinning a story about Mel being rushed to the hospital because of a heart attack or some other unknown ailment or sending him into rehab  won’t work either . The public is not stupid and they won’t buy anything but the truth!

TOXIC MEN


This coming November I have a book out called Toxic Men- Identify Deal With And Heal From Men Who Make Your Life Miserable. In the book it tells you how to identify Toxic Men like Mel and what body language signals to look for. It tells you what to do – what 10 options you have available if you are in a toxic relationship like Oksana is in. It gives you choices that can either turn the relationship around or end the relationship for good. And finally it tells you how to heal from the events that Oksana experienced.

While the book will be available in bookstores November 2010, you can order it online right now. Just click this link http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Men-Ways-Identify-Miserable/dp/144050007X and it will take you to amazon.com where you can order your copy ahead of time and get it as soon as it is released.

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Octomom’s Body Language on Oprah Shows Denial, Misguided Perception, and a Cry For Help While Oprah’s Body Language Showed Disgust
April 24, 2010

Days later, I am still  haunted by Oprah’s “Day In the Life of Nadya Suleman.” In observing Nadya’s body language, I can clearly say that this woman is misguided and disconnected from the reality of her very serious  situation. With her inappropriate laughter, at one extreme, and on the other extreme with  her deadpan lack of appropriate facial animation and expression, monotone, meaningless mea culpa  filled with self deprecation,  and her  misguided  and unrealistic views, there is no question that Nadya is in need of some serious help.

 OPRAH’S BODY LANGUAGE INDICATED SHE WAS NOT TOO KEEN ABOUT HAVING NADYA ON HER SHOW

 Nadya said that  her intention in appearing on Oprah because she was sick and tired of people having the wrong idea about her.  So she wrote to Oprah to have her on the show and Oprah obliged, albeit unwillingly, based on Oprah’s body language.

Oprah, was clearly not too keen about having  Nadya on her show  and it  showed  in . Oprah’s uncharacteristic stiffness, lack of smiling, tenseness in her face  and a turned –off vocal tone, showing disgust.

 Oprah Winfrey even  said on  the show  that she  “had reservations” about interviewing Nadya Suleman, That is why she  initially  refused to  join in on the Octomom media frenzy,  until she received  a letter from Nadya  telling her how she wanted the world “to see her for who she is.”

 WAS NADYA’S REAL INTENTION FOR GOING ON OPRAH TO GET  OPRAH’S FINANCIAL HELP?

 If you are not  promoting a book , a TV show , a  product,, or some charitable cause, why  go on Oprah?  While Nadya says her intention for going on the show was to set the record straight, I think that it may have been a lot more calculated on Suleman’s part.

 Perhaps she thought that by going on Oprah, she could  play the victim role , with the hope of  Oprah bailing  her out of her mess, like Oprah has done for so many of her guests in need throughout the years.

 Oprah has been known to give away houses, college educations, seed money to start  businesses,  pay mortgages, and buy cars for previous guests .

 So, perhaps Nadya thought why not go on Oprah and allow her to film her life with her children. This way,  Oprah could see what a difficult time Nadya was having  with all her chaos and perhaps  Oprah would now provide her with more nannies, a bigger home, pay off her mortgage, provide a trust fund for all the kids for a college education, or all of the above.

 But by the tone of  Oprah’s voice and the direction of her questioning, along with the  regular flashes of  a disgusted  facial expression, Oprah was  having none of it.

She clearly let Nadya know that Nadya and her brood were on their own, sans Oprah’s help.

 At the end of the show Oprah offered  up nothing to Nadaya except for wishing her  well in an uncharacteristically  non- Oprah-like  unenthusiastic tone..

 OPRAH  TRIED TO PROVIDE OPTIONS FOR NADYA THROUGH HER QUESTIONING


While many would say that Nadya’s  appearance on Oprah  brought in a larger viewership that day and for that alone, Oprah should have rewarded Nadya with a little something like paying off her  mortgage so that Nadya and her kids would have a roof over their heads and their home wouldn’t  go into foreclosure.

 But  after watching Oprah for decades, this is not how Oprah works. Oprah is all about empowering people and helping those who try to help themselves. She doesn’t give them the fish. Instead she gives them the fishing pole so that they can be empowered to do things on their own.

 After listening to Oprah’s questioning  of Nadya,  you could see Oprah getting more tense body language wise and more angry facial language and vocal wise because  she soon discovered that talking to Nadya was like talking to a wall.

Nadya  had no intention of helping herself.  For example, Nadya was insistent  that she would NEVER  ever put her kids on television . She even remarked that it was “boarderlinbe abuise.”

Oprah then probed  further asking Nadya if  someday will she feel  forced to put her kids on TV to  earn money so they can survive, Nadya was adamant that she would never do it. Case closed!

 Nadya then went on to say that she did appear on the cover of a magazine in a bikini but that is not who she is and that when the money runs out from that media gig,  she doesn’t know how she will survive.

 Nadya’s answer  it appears was  a clear ploy to get Oprah to feel sorry for her as a person who had “:no way out.” It was as though  she was waiting for Oprah to   say. “ Oh poor Nadya. Here is some  money so now all your problems will go away.”

But Oprah did nothing of the sort. Instead Oprah  probed  deeper with her questioning and Nadya was even more adamant that she would not put her kids in the media.

 NADYA’S  INTENTION OF HAVING OPRAH HELP HER BACKFIRED DUE TO HER HYPOCRISY, CONTRADICITONS  AND STUBBORNESS

 Nadya’s  stubbornness at not wanting  her kids on TV and her hypocrisy of  having  posed bikini-clad  for photos for money  to feed her kids  turned views off..  This, along with her  now actually having her kids filmed   on TV  showing  them in a  day in her life  reeked of hypocrisy and contradiction.

 OPRAH MAY HAVE BEEN WILLING TO HELP BEFORE NADYA  MENTIONED “BOARLINE ABUSE “

 I have no doubt that Oprah could have helped   if  Nadya would have only  shown signs of wanting to help  herself. When Oprah openly asked her that if someday, wouldn’t she feel that she might have to put her kids on TV, Nadya barely let Oprah get the question out  as she chimed in that she was  appalled  at the suggestion, calling it “ boarderline abuse.”

As Oprah  asked  that question I could see the wheels turning in Oprah’s mind .  Oprah is the most powerful woman in the television world with her OWN television  network incidentally   called OWN (Oprah Winfrey  Network) . Oprah could have  easily given  Nadya a prime time show  like TLC did with Jon and  Kate plus 8 where we watched these multiples grow up. The show could have provided  Nadya with  more nannies and  more financial help  to address the children’s needs.

 If  Oprah was behind Nadya’s show .Oprah would have NEVER abused any children  by having them filmed for their own show. There is no doubt in my mind that she would have abided by the  strict child labor laws ,

 Oprah could have definitely helped Nadya in a legitimate way. But Nadya was too unaware and disconnected to the reality of her situation   allow Oprah to help.

 Oprah didn’t offer her the fish.  Instead,.  though her line of questioning , Oprah was no doubt was offering Nadya the fishing pole,  with the opportunity to do a show so she could support her kids.

But as  soon as Oprah head the words “boarderline abus” e the wheels stopped turning in her mind as  to how she could help Nadya get out of her dire financial  situation. Oprah was done!

 NADYA’S MISGUIDED PERCEPTION  THAT PUTTING HER KIDS ON TV IS
“BOARDERLINE ABUSE!”

 Nadya’s  misguided perception of  putting her kids on TV is not abuse , especially if  Oprah was involved in doing a show with her. As long as there were proper things in place like the  number  hours they could be filmed, having medical help on hand, having psychologists the team available, having educators on hand, there would not be abuse.

ABUSE IS EMOTIONAL NEGLECT

 Abuse is what we saw on  TV in watching the day in Nadya’s life . Neglect is abuse and those kids are clearly neglected emotionally.  She knows it and even mentioned that she feels guilty she cannot give them enough attention  or supervision.

 NOT  IMMEDIATELY TAKING A BABY  WITH AN EAR INFECTION TO THE ER IS ABUSE

 The little baby with the ear infection, needed immediate attention STAT . He needed to be taken to the emergency room immediately and not  have to wait until Nadya made a call to get someone to help. That baby did not have to suffer in pain until Nadya’s helper got out of bed in the middle of the night, went to the bathroom, got dressed, got in their car,  to  arrive at  her house to get the baby to put him in her car , to buckle him into a baby car seat, and finally  drive him to the ER.

 Instead, Nadya  needed to have someone on hand right then and then to grab the child and take him to the ET immediately so there would be less time that the child had to suffer in agony.

 HAVING NO NANNIES  OT ADDITIONAL HELP  AT NIGHT  WHEN CHILDREN NEED ATTENTION IS ABUSE

 The woman is  so overwhelmed and sleep deprived , that she  and not able to give each child  the correct  supervision. There are not enough nannies to go around during the day with only three nannies for 14 children. That is one nanny for 5 children.

The fact that there are  NO nannies at night, is appalling . Oprah was even appalled any this and  told Nadya  she needed night nannies.

 How can Nadya  Not have  nannies  at night? It is a MUST!

  Night time is when children need can  need help the most,. This is the time  when they  often get scared and cry or something often  goes wrong with them  health wise. The fact that these babies are  left crying all night long   with no one to comfort them , I find this highly abusive and  unconscionable.

 There are thousands of  reputable and decent  people  out there who would love to volunteer for a night shift to hold and care for any of those crying babies.

 ABUSE IS NOT KNOWING  THAT ONE  CHILD WAS STEPPING ON ANOTHER ND HURTING THEM

 If it wasn’t for the Oprah camera crew,  who knows what would have happened  to the baby who was stepped on by their older sibling!. Who knows what damage was done to that child.! That was only one incident that we saw when there were camera filming the children..

One can only imagine what else goes on in that household when there are no cameras..

 ABUSE IS ALLOWING A CHILD TO WALK AROUND WITH A CLEFT LIP WITHOUT SURGICAL REPAIR

 Seeing  the baby with the  open cleft lip at that age disturbed me  greatly. Having spent a lot of my early career working with patients who had facial deformities, I know a lot about people who are born with cleft lips and palates.

 I know that  surgery is usually performed during the first 3 to 6 months to repair  a cleft lip and between 9 and 14 months to repair the cleft palate. . This baby apparently only has a cleft lip. That lip should have been repaired at least 6 months ago,

 To allow this child to live with a gaping split in his lip where it will make his eating, swallowing,  and speech and language development problematic as he grows is abuse in  my book. It is unconscionable to not  repair the child’s cleft and to have let it go untreated for so long a period

ABUSE IS ONLY GETTING TWO HOURS A NIGHT  SLEEP AND NOT FUNCTIONING EFFECTIVELY AROUND YOUR CHILDREN

 

WE all know that  most parents of babies rarely get a good night’s sleep. But when a human being ONLY gets 2 hours of sleep a night and that situation has been going on for over a year, this is very bad.It is not only bad for the parent but very bad for the child.

 

There have been enough studies in the literature throughout  the years  concerning  sleep deprivation  and what happens to a person if they have no slept for long periods of time, The bottom line is that they cannot function properly. They cannot make the right decisions, Their  perceptions are distorted, Their physical coordination and reaction time is impaired. They become less emotionally stable and more emotionally labile..

 With Nadya  getting a reported 2 hours of sleep per night, it is no wonder that her perceptions are distorted .How can she properly  care for all of these children if her perceptions are misguided and she doesn’t think clearly?  She could make a lot of mistakes in terms of how she cares for these children thereby endangering their welfare..

ABUSE IS NOT IMMEDIATEY ADDRESSING  THE NEEDS OF A POTENTIALLY TROUBLED CHILD

 

Nadya  mentioned several times how her 8 year old boy acts up and how he is more of a handful than her 8 babies. Maybe he acts up because he needs the attention. Maybe he acts up because  he is troubled.

 Whatever the case,  the fact that this boy is acting up needs to be immediately  addressed by a professional. By neglecting  and not getting this boy proper help in the form of a therapist or counselor she is doing him a huge  disservice.

EMPTY MONOTONE   RHETORIC  COMPLETE WITH  MEA CULPA  REFLECT  MANIPULATION

Nadya has all the right words and  says all the right things to show us she has  psychological  insight with regard to what she has irresponsibly and irrevocably done.

She says  the 14 children came from “my own childish desires.” She says shew as “selfish and immature.”

As she self deprecates in telling us how bad and dumb she was to do this , she offers up no solutions for her problem.

Her monotone indicates that she has robotically discovered that it is  much easier to agree with what the public thinks of her than to argue with them as she did early on when she appeared on the Dr. Phil show fighting with her mother. .

All of this is manipulation in my view. Her agreement  with public sentiment is a way of shutting them up. What more can you say when you point the finger at someone and they in turn, point the finger at themselves in agreement  that they were wrong?  You can say nothing!

So  now that she has shut people up by agreeing with them, she can now play the victim role and to the hilt and tell them how bad off she is in hopes that they will  now help out. After all, she agrees with them as to what a bad thing she did.

NADYA LOVING THE ATTENTION !!!!!

Nadya  tries to get you to feel sorry for her as she tries to justify her actions for accepting $100,000 for a bikini photo shoot in a  magazine by appeasing  any detractors and saying she feels “a tremendous amount of guilt”  There is no  doubt in my mind that she LOVED IT!!

Personally I have spoken to many limo drivers who have chauffeured Nadya back and forth to her many media gigs and they  ALL tell me she LOVES all  the attention.

Even though she tries to paint herself as this prim and proper innocent woman who just made a mistake because she loves kids so much, she no doubt  LOVES  that she  has  been offered a role in a porn film “three times. ” While she  says she found  being offered these film roles  “disrespectful,”there is no doubt in my mind that it flattered her very fragile ego.

 

Nadya’s immaculate makeup, manicured fingernails, low cut tee shirts, figure hugging dresses, and short skirts  not only scream for attention but scream that she wants to be seen a sexy. What better validation for your sexiness than to have a porn company offer you a film deal!

NADYA LOVES THE PAPPS AND THE ATTENTION

Pushing  awkward  multiple  giant strollers to go to to a public park for a few minutes of playtime with the kids  is bound to get anyone to look at you., l et alone the paparazzi..

That is exactly why Nadya does it. She  no doubt LOVES the papps and loves the  public attention. It is what fuels her.

She does not hate the papps as she says. According to my sources, . she has even contacted them to let them know of her whereabouts so that they can  film her.

NADYA NEEDS TO GET SOME HELP BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE

When we saw  Nada in a  day in her life on Oprah talking to her eldest child who didnt want to go to school and told him that  it was illegal for him not to go to school. She also said  that  and if he didn’t go to school social services would come and take him away  or disrupt he family/

As we heard Nadya tell this to her little boy, it was clear to see that Social Services is in the forefront of Nadya’s mind.

There is no doubt that they are watching her like a hawk and waiting for some major slip up, so that they can  to intervene,

When Oprah asked her if she would consider giving the kids to foster families to help take care of them, Nadya  adamantly  refused to consider the thought and said she would do anything  in her power  to make sure this never happened. But it may very well happen.

The ONLY way this will never happen is if she earns  enough money to properly support these kids, get more nannies and more help  for the kids, so that all of their immediate needs can be addressed.

She needs to have more time to sleep so that she can function properly. She needs to stop living in the illusion that she will find some work out there to support her family that isn’t media related. It will NEVER  happen. Who will hire her? She cannot start a business of her own and take care of this family. There is only one solution.

NADYA NEEDS TO IMMEDIATELY RECONSIDER HER MEDIA  OPPORTUNITIES

 

The only way Nada cn earn enough money for her kids and still be with her kids is if she puts her  them on TV so that we can all watch them grow up. As far as abuse and exploitation, if  child labor laws are followed and there is a therapist on hand at all times I foresee that this can be a win- win situation for all.

Say what you will about Kate Gosselin,, she never has to worry about having enough  money for her kids. She may have to worry about other things like their psychological health. But she will at least have enough money to afford therapists for them in the future if and when they need one.

Love her or hate her, Kate has taken advantage of her situation and  made a cottage industry out of her sextuplets  as they are cared for financially, They will never starve to death  and they have enough money in their trust funds to attend college if they choose to do so.’

This cannot be said for Nadya’s kids. People will continue to  notice them and know who they are just because  Nadya  is their mother ,. Her excuse at wanting to givev them a normal life is naive. There is no way they will ever have a normal life based on their circumstances.

So in order to give them a better life, why not share them with the public and afford them opportunities they could never have?  The one thing ,Kate Gosselin  said about her show was that it gave the kids experiences and opportunities to do things they could never do  because there was no money to do them.

For that reason alone Nadya should consider having them on a show, Besides people love watching babies grow, especially multiples as we saw from Jon and Kate Plus 8’s popularity.

That is why in my view, Nadya needs to write another letter to Oprah, Only this time she needs to let Oprah  know that she reconsidered having her kids on TV and  gives the OWN  Network first choice in making a  decision to produce and air  her show.

By having a show featuring the kids, there will be a very public watchful eye over them so that no  harm can come to them, In addition  Nadya or her  children will never have to worry  where their next meal will be coming from.. http://www.drlillianglass.com/

Jermaine Jackson Shows Many Signals of Deception While Trying to Cover Up for Son Jafar in Dutch TV Interview
March 5, 2010

Jermain Jackson’s interview on Dutch TV showed numerous signals of deception. These these signals included lengthy pause time,  out of sync phrasing, shoulder shrugs and long pauses between words, breathing,  upper  chest breathing, shaking his head “no” when he should be shaking it “yes,” mask-like pulled back nervous disingenuous smile, and  “um’s,”” ang uh’s”,  head jerking. and drawn out vowels.

Therefore,  it appears to me that Jermaine Jackson is clearly showing signals of deception in an attempt to cover up for his 13 year old son Jafar. Allegedly Jafar was chasing  Michael Jackson’s youngest son Blanket around the house with a Stun Gun which he purchased online.

In Jermain’s attempt to cover to Jafar, he implicates himself by saying that Jafar was buying a Stun Gun for him and that he knew about it!  I doubt that was the case ? What kind of parenting is that? How in their right mind would let their 13 year old son but them a Stun Gun over the Internet?   

JERMAIN’S EXACT WORDS AND DR. GLASS’ COMMENTARY

Here are Jermain’s exact words from the interview. In parentheses you will see the  signals of deception that he exhibited

“That’s not true there was no accident.” “That was my son.” (upper chest breathing- signal of  deception ready to take place next). “He was,  he was (repetition- signal of  deception) getting this , this (repletion, signal of deception)  little  thing ( minimization of not saying what this “”little thing” was—-a STUN GUN!!!) As Jermaine says this he has a tight mask-like smile indicating deception.

As Jermain says he was getting this little this little thing forME. His voice gets louder to emphasize the word ME and he suddenly jerks his head down into his chest which indicates deception. It is no doubt that the “little thing (STUN GUN) was NOT  purchased for him but for his son.  

Then Jermain turns away as he tries to blame put the blame on the press and says in a very slow labored speech pattern,  “Some how some one alerted the press and it got out of hand  and there was no encounter with Blanket or anything” ( said with a mask like smile indicating deception). What does he mean by “ no encounter with Blanket ( a person)  or any thing? “ The fact that he added the word “any THING” after mentioning Blanket is yet another signal of deception. It is too much information. If someone was being forthright they would have stopped after the word “Blanket.” They would have said without a mask-like smile “ Nothing happened to Blanket.”

Then Jermain goes on and gives way too much information, clearly another signal of deception.

“ But my son feels very very bad  (repetition as a signal of deception)  (upper chest breathing indicating deception), because he told me (  his pitch of voice suddenly goes up) that he was going to get me something online ( shoulder shrug – a signal of deception along with shaking his head “no” as he says this indicating yet another signal of deception)”  that  before we left to come out here and uh (signal of deception along with  upper chest breathing indicating further  deception)  it got out (drawing out the vowel for longer than normal indicating deception)  of hand ( THIS MAKES NO SENSE!!! When something makes no sense the person is most likely not telling the truth) 

Also why was Jafar feeling very very bad? You say it is because he told you that he was going to get you something online.” Was he feeling bad because he used your gift  which you  claim  he was getting you on line to scare his baby cousin?  Was he  feeling “very very bad” becasue his gift was a surprise for you and after he used your alleged gift to chase around his cousin, it was no longer a surprise- that you learned your gift was a stun gun?

 Then Jermain continues “Somehow it got out  out”   (repletion  indicating signal of deception as he is also  shaking his head “no” when when should be shaking it “yes” as another signal of deception) of hand. But but ( repletion) Blanket is fine….”
What got out of hand? Was it the fact that Jafar was allegedly chasing Blanket around with a stun gun and frightening this innocent child? Was it the fact that Dept., of Child Services Spent 6 and ½ hours at the home? And what in the world was a 13 year old doing buying you a STUN GUN? Why in the wqorld would you need a STUN GUN? Who were you planning to STUN with your GUN? And  the fact you said you KNEW that Jafar was buying you a “little something” like a STUN GUN online and you allowed it is unconscionable and speaks to your parenting!!!

 You, Jermain, would have been much better off to tell the truth instead of your BS spin.

Why didn’t you just come out and say” I am appalled at what happened. I am appalled that my 13 year old son bought a STUN GUN on line. I have discussed this with him and he has been reprimanded and dealt with for his unacceptable behavior.

But to say that he bought this STUN GUN for you and that you knew about it is completely  ridiculous.

Little Blanket has been through so much that the last thing in the world he needs is to be traumatized by his cousin, your son. The last thing he needs is to experience fear of being STUNNED by A GUN!  No child should have to experience this. It is abusive behavior! If this is the case, I say he and his brother Prince and sister Paris should not be living in the same household as you or  Jafar. http://www.drlillianglass.com/

Kate Gosselin’s Shockingly Abusive and Degrading Body Language Behavior Towards Colin
January 18, 2010

When one of my dear readers sent me the above photo of  Kate Gosselin  picking up her kids from school last Friday and asked me to analyze Kate’s and Colin’s body language, I was appalled by what I saw. Seeing Kate’s angry and aggressively shouting at Colin as his facial expression shows him wincing  in discomfort. This is especially evident when you see the next photo below.

Since there are a series of these  photos depicting Kate’a abusive behavior towards Colin,  taken in progression of occurrence, the above photo was when she  placed her hand over the child’s mouth, not allowing him to speak, let alone breathe out of his mouth.

If you look at the muscle tension  in her hand and fingers, you can see the hostile force she used to silence Colin. You can also see her anger in her face and mouth and jaw  as well as the resulting  distress  in little Colin’s forehead. This is evidenced by the  the furrowed  muscle tension above his brows.

Little Colin is obviously uncomfortable as he leans away with his body and tries to turn his head away  from Kate and casts his eyes down and away from her as he  attempts to get away from her and her  strong grip over his mouth. You can see the tension in her fingers and the indentation of the pressure of her fingers on Colin’s distorted cheek. This shows the force at which she used on him.

NEVER STIFLE A CHILD’S COMMUNICTION OR ANY OF THEIR BREATHING PASSAGES! THAT IS ABUSE IN MY BOOK!

In my view as a Communication Expert, I strongly believe that NO CHILD should EVER be stopped from talking or expressing him or herself. No one should EVER put their hand over a child’s mouth to stifle them or to cut off one of their two breathing channels.

What if little Colin had a stuffed up nose and couldn’t breathe through his nostrils. She would have been cutting off  the air he needed to sustain his life. Even if she did it for a millisecond, it still woud be too much as far as I am concerned. Her behavior can  have serious emotional and developmental implications  on the child’s communication. I have spent over two decades working with people who’s communication was stifled one way or another and they suffered greatly.

It doesn’t matter if Colin was screaming at the top of his lungs,  (which there was no indication that he was doing this based on the photos which preceded the event) you don’t do this to a child! It is abusive and humiliating to the child. This action  does  NOT build a child’s confidence not his self- esteem.

WHAT KATE COULD HAVE DONE

If a  child is  overly chatty or  yelling at the top of his lungs, or even hurling out obscenities , you don’t ever do what Kate did to Colin.  Instead, you do like Nanny 911 or Super Nanny Jo  taught us to do.  You bend down to the child’s physical level so that they can see you eye to eye. The, you  look directly  into  their eyes so they can see your face.

You can even hold their little hands as you  look into their eyes and say” No this is not acceptable.” Maybe while you are down there, you may even want to ask them what is bothering or what they are so upset about. What you say is up to you. But NEVER  do what Kate did!

WHAT DID COLIN DO TO CREATE THE WRATH OF KATE?

The answer to this question is NOTHING! In carefully examing all of the photos in the sequence in which they were taken, there is nothing that Colin coud have done to merit Kate’s abusing him as we she she did. See for yourself.

Colin steps off the bus and drags his coat on the floor, something most kids that age do based on their size in relation to the ground, the size of their coats which ate almost as big as they are, and their awkward coordination at that age. Kate is no doubt upset at Colin for this as you can see by her open mouth in the shape of an O. This facial expression  indicates anger as also visually  evidenced by her jaw tension. Her hands with toward turned palms also reflect anger and non- open and non- accepting  behavior  to what she has just witnessed with Colin and his jacket.

Kate no doubt told Colin to stop dragging hs coat on the ground and to put it on, he is trying to do it but the poor little guy has it all upside down with his hand in the wrong sleeve. Kate s pissed as her mouth is still open, no doubt telling him what he is doing wrong, and maintaining her angry body language compete with palms facing downward.

As his brothers and sisters files into the bus, Colin lags behind, He leans his little body into Kate, no doubt wanting some affection and a little loving reassurance after being yelled at by her as he descended from the school bus moments earlier. You can see his head nuzzling into her forearm.

His brothers and sisters are boarding the van but he wants some of mommy’s attention and grabs on to the bottom of her coat. She ignore him and by the angry expression on her face she is yelling at some of the other kids. He looks away trying to ignore her anger  as he is waiting to get a moment of  alone time with mommy to regain some self esteem after being yelled at in front fo everyone about his coat being on the ground a little while earlier.

Next we see Kate’s anger escalating as she is super pissed at Colin as evidenced by the look of rage in her facial expression for grabbing her coat and pulling it. You can see how the coat is pulled  away from Kate. He was innocently  doing this to get Kate’s attention, but it obviously  did not sit well with her that he grabbed her coat, so she let hm have it as you see in the first three photos posted at the top of the blog.

WHAT KATE COULD HAVE DONE

After looking at these series of  photos, there was no doubt that little Colin felt bad at being yelled at earlier, and waned some of mommy’s loving attention. Instead he got emotionally slapped.

Colin clearly did nothing to merit Kate’s abuse in my opinion. All the boy did was ask for a little attention and wanted to make nice after she yelled at him about his coat. It was his 5 year old way of offering an apology for upsetting mommy. Instead, th poor little guy got abused even more.

If a  child is  overly chatty or  yelling at the top of his lungs, or even hurling out obscenities , which Colin was not doing according to these photos, you don’t ever do what Kate did to Colin.  Instead, you do like Nanny 911 or Super Nanny Jo  taught us to do.  You bend down to the child’s physical level so that they can see you eye to eye. Then, you  look directly  into  their eyes so they can see your face.

You can even hold their little hands as you  look into their eyes and say” No this is not acceptable.” Maybe while you are down there, you may even want to ask them what is bothering or what they are so upset about. What you say is up to you. But NEVER  do what Kate did! That is egregious behavior in my opinion.

NO MAN WANTS AN ABUSIVE WOMAN SO HER NEW TLC SHOW WILL BE A WASTE OF TIME

If Kate treats her children as abusively as she treated Colin in these photos , no man will be attracted to her no matter how many hair extensions TLC makes sure are in her head. If TLC wants to do a new show with Kate and that focus of the show is a dating type of show (getting her a new man), it will be a failure unless they do what I said in an earlier blog. They need work on Kate’s inside and not just focus on her outside in order to make her more appealing  to the opposite sex. Pretty IS as pretty DOES- and Kate’s abusive behavior towards Colin IS NOT PRETTY!

Seeing Kate in action where she is sarcastic, self-centered,  hostile, and  or abusive as she was with Colin makes me stand by my belief that this woman is clearly not ready for prime time or ready to have any television show whatsoever until she gets herself sorted out internally.

Who would want to watch this woman when you know that she is so abusive! She was like that with Jon which I am convinced has a lot to do with his  aberrant behavior.   On her last show of Kate Pus 8 she was verbally abusive to Aden, telling  this 5 year old to be a “man,” and now she has clearly abused and humiliated little Colin. The way      she treated him in these photos now makes me understand why  little Colin was so abusive to his brothers and sisters in the past- something we all witnessed on the show.

MESSAGE TO ALL KATE LOVERS

Now for all of you Kate lovers out there who will no doubt write me to tell me I hate Kate, like you have in the past,  here is my response to you directly from my mouth. I DO NOT  HATE Kate.

I  DO HATE Hitler, Stalin, Ahmadinejad (the horrific Iranian hate monger we all saw during his ugly speech at the UN), Osama Bin Laden, terrorists who try to kill innocent people by blowing themselves up and blowing up buildings and planes,   the Austrian monster Fritzl who impregnated his daughter and held her prisoner for a lifetime, any child murderer, murderers in general, any child or animal torturer, socio/psychopaths, and people who do verbatim copying of my intellectual property and  violate my copyright and trademark, and those who give their book the identical name as my  best -selling book, written over a decade earlier.

Since you do not see Kate Gosselin’s name on my list, you can rest assured that I do not HATE her.   Instead, I  disapprove of her abusive, snarky, and self- centered entitlement   behavior. And if after looking at the photos and  you do not think she was not being abusive to little Colin, I say ”TAKE OFF YOUR BLINDERS AND GET  YOUR HEAD OUT OF THE SAND!

PRETTY IS AS PRETTY DOES AND KATE’S ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR IS NOT PRETTY!

In my opinion Kate needs to work on what is underneath her $7,000 hair extensions and stop abusing her children like we saw he do with Aden and now with Colin. She needs to get on her knees every day and say a huge thank you to good Lord above for giving her physically healthy, bright, and beautiful children.

What does along with that prayer of  gratitude  must be her actions towards those wonderful innocent children. She needs to treat them with the respect and dignity they deserve. Abusing them by stifling their airflow and their communication, just because they want a little love and affection,  is definitely NOT giving a child respect or dignity in my opinion. www.drlillianglass.com

Father’s Body Language WIth Balloon Boy Looks Scary
October 19, 2009

father and falcon

    If little Falcon Heene  hadn’t spilled the beans and told the truth about the family doing what they did for  a TV Show,  there is no doubt that  Richard Heene’s con could have easily worked. After all,  the sheriff believed him. They thought Richard’s and Mayumi’s body language as believable. They even thought the children’s body language was believable. And they would have had the final word. Richard probably would have gotten a TV show from TLC or he would have found an agent to make his kids into rap stars.

     But it didn’t happen, thanks to honest and innocent Falcon.  One can only wonder what was said to little Falcon when the doors were closed and there were no cameras in sight. Richard did admit on camera that he “yelled at Falcon too much”. I can only imagine how much yelling took place that night and the next night and the night after that.

     The vomiting incident disturbs me as well. It was too well choreographed. The boy was sitting quietly and then he begins looking groggy and sick and all of a sudden vomits. I wonder if Richard didn’t slip some ipecac into his cereal . Before he vomits Diane Sawyer says how are you doing this morning Falcon who  slowly answers  “ I feel good  “ and then he adds “so far”   That statement “so far” is telling. Diane laughs it off thinking it is a cute statement, but in hindsight it is not so cute.

To me the word “so far” as though he is anticipating getting sick. Perhaps he was given the ipecac (in a cereal or in a fruit)  and was told this would make him vomit later so he didn’t have to talk to the TV people when they saw him get sick.

Richard even prompts Falcon  by saying he’s queasy. He then prompts Falcon again and says you want us to take you to the bathroom? As if on cue little Falcon vomits. Richard definitely knew what was doing on- he obviously choreographed it. You can see it in his questioning of Falcon.

    When someone vomits the is an urgency. There is no calmness. It hurts to vomit. In fact most kids  that age cry when they vomit. They are frantic. They are scared. But Falcon was too calm when he vomited .  He was too in control as though he expected to vomit. He then calmly asks for a cup in which to vomit and the vomit cup just happened to be handy, only it looked like a baking dish that Mayumi no doubt prepared ahead of time.

      Mayumi was too calm when he vomited as though she expected it. Most parents are not calm when their kids vomit. They wonder why their child vomited. Did the child ingest something poisonous? Do they have food poisoning? Do they have a fever? Did they catch the flu? Do they have Sine Flu? Whatever it is, any normal parent is upset and concerned when their child vomits. But not Mayumi. She had to be told by Diane Sawyer to tend to her child and even asked permission if it was all right of she left.

The other boys were also too calm. When a sibling vomits or is sick the other siblings usually wonder if they are OK. These other boys sat there like it was a normal occurrence. Or shall I say expected occurrence.

Also Richard kept talking when the boy was vomiting as though he expected it. Any parent who didn’t expect his child to vomit, would have  halted  the interview and said Excuse me we will have to continue in a few minutes. My son is ill and I don’t know why. Richard was way too calm.   

So that upsets me because if they gave him ipecac to garner sympathy or to keep a sick by from talking that is child abuse and these parents need to be prosecuted to the full extent of the law.                     

 Looking at this photo above  disturbs me as well.  I see the anger in Richards jaw which is jutted forth in anger through  his clenched teeth. The way his hand is positioned in the photo makes you wonder if he feels like snapping or wringing little Falcon’s neck.

   Falcon clearly does not feel comfortable in  his father’s embrace as you can see his raised tense shoulders. I wonder if he told Falcon that he will have to be away from the family and go to jail and that they would lose their house and they wouldn’t have any money or anything to eat   all because of Falcon.

   I wouldn’t put anything past this hateful man who’s, body language I studied while looking at his behavior on Wife Swap. He’s a desperate and angry man. I am just worried about little Falcon. This incident  will mess him up for life if he isn’t put into therapy right away.

Gosselin Children’s Angry and Hostile Body Language Mirrors What’s Going on Between Jon and Kate
October 6, 2009

 

Gosslin chiuldrns body languag

While Kate was on the Today show  manipulating the audience about how Jon left her penniless only to find out in the next segment that  the children were actually very secure financially and  that (by the way) she was also getting her own talk show, the kids were at home fighting and being reprimanded by the nanny.

  Apparently all the hatred and anger that Jon and Kate are feeling towards one another is spilling over on to the kids. When Kate said on the Today show that she had 8 of the most well adjusted kids, she needed to take a good look at this photo. Then, she would see what is happening while she is away on talk shows and speaking engagements.

    These are angry and upset children. The angriest of them all besides Maddy is   bully  Collin, who by the way is rewarded the most by Kate. His violent behavior has resurfaced once again. With Joelrubbing his shoulder and screaming in pain and the nanny grabbing Colin’s arm and yelling at him, it is obvious that  Colin has abused his brother.  Little Leah is upset too, crying rubbing her face.  It makes you wonder if she too was victimized by  Colins physical abuse.  When  Colin obviously he hit Joel with the orange plastic cone in his hand, did he also manage to hit  Leah as well?  And poor little Aden the one with the glasses,  leans his head over to Joel in sympathy but his little hand covers the side of his head  and  you see his furrowed brow indicating that he is  clearly upset. It makes you wonder if Colin lashed out and hit him in the head before or after her hit  Joel.

    There is nothing well adjusted about a bully child abusing his brothers and sisters. These children need therapy in a huge way. They are angry and upset and have a lot to be angry and upset about. First of all mommy and daddy are no longer together and living under the same roof with them. They may even wonder if it was their fault. Mommy is hardly ever there and when she is there she is “mean” (Maddy’s words) and short tempered and spanks and yells.

    Daddy has his mind elsewhere when he’s at home with them, He’s on the phone to one of his girlfriends. When he is there he may be paying more attention to the babysitter than he is to them. Just when they bond with one nanny or housekeeper or another , the fins out they will never see her or him again because Kate has fired close to fifty people and gets rid of “help” like she gets rid of a used klenex. So they never want to get too close to anyone else because they may  feel they will get abandoned.

There is no more Aunt Jody because Kate got into it with her. But the kids loved Aunt Jodi and seemed to be happiest around her. Maddy especially loved her little cousin (Jodi’s son) as she played with him and treated him tenderly, which was a very healthy thing for hostile and angry Maddy.

   So  despite what Kate thinks, these kids are definitely not well adjusted. They  need  therapy immediately! Kate needs to get her head out of the clouds in thinking she is a big celebrity and get back to the reality of being a mother who has 8 very upset and disturbed children. Similarly, Jon needs to stop running  around L.A. and NYC and get those kids in to see a child therapist before it is too late.  

   This  photo is heartbreaking because it speaks to exactly what I spoke about in my last blog. It will be the children who will suffer from the  fallout of  Jon and Kate’s hate in the media. The kids are five and nine years old, They know what’s going on. If they don’t see it on TV, they live it at home. They surely  feel mommy’s anger and disrespect towards daddy. They certainly feel daddy’s hatred towards mommy. And how does that all play out? They end up acting out their hateful and angry little feelings on one another.

    While TLC made a fortune  on displaying and following these eight children around as though they were zoo animals, TLC needs to step up and do the right thing. They need to foot the bill for some major family counseling for these children.

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