“The body doesn’t lie. Neither does the voice or speech pattern.” – Dr. Lillian Glass
Spy Edward Snowden’s Body Language Shows Arrogance, Cockiness, Anger In Trying To Set The Record Straight But Fear and Sadness Wanting To Come Home
After watching NBC’s ancho Brian William’s interview with self admitted spy Edward Snowden we see body language,facial language vocal tone and speech content which reflect arrogance, cockiness, anger, sadness, and even fear as he attempts to set the record straight about himself
As soon as we see the B roll footage of Edward Snowden walking down the hallway with NBC Anchor Brian Williams, who ventured to Russia to interview him, we can tell a lot from Snowden’s body language well before he opens his mouth to reveal that he was actually a trained spy.
We see two contradictory movements- side to side swagger which shows someone who is way too confident and thinks very highly of himself and on the other hand a hunched over, eyes looking down on the floor , hand in pocket gait complete with a and tight jaw. The latter shows that deep down he may not be feeling that confident and may in fact, be feeling some fear, as his hidden hand reflects his being protective and hiding his true feelings of fear and also sadness as we see later when he discusses wanting to come home.
This is not a warm and fuzzy interview as Williams physically distances himself from Snowden as Williams keeps him at a good arm’s length and even walks quickly so that he leaves Snowden a step or two behind as you can see in the photo above.
As they both sit down you see hear the arrogance in Snowden’s tone and see it in his body language as he describes who he really is and his training.
When he describes himself as a spy, Williams mentions how we think of James Bond as a spy and now spys may look more Ed Snowden than James Bond. It was interesting to note as you can see in the photo above that as Brian brings up James Bond, we see Snowden’s eyebrow raise in Sean Connery Style James Bond) . No doubt Snowden was flattered by this comparison as he subconsciously mirrors the Connery Bond eyebrow raise.
“I was trained as a spy in sort of the traditional sense of the word — in that I lived and worked undercover. As he says this he away and shakes his head which reflects a type of haughty movement. He then continues” overseas, pretending to work in a job that I’m not — and even being assigned a name that was not mine,” Snowden said. There is a tone of anger as he says. It is as though he feels forced into this.
He then uses his body language in an attempt to be emphatic about his work experiences and he taps his fingers with his opposite hand each time he presents a new job in his employment history on his resume, as you see in the photo above. Using his body language in this manner shows that he is angry he has been misrepresented. He demands to clearly and emphatically set the record straight. The finger tapping appears hostile and angry.
His anger at being misrepresented is reflected in his speech content as in a defensive tone says
“But what they’re trying to do is they’re trying to use one position that I’ve had in a career, here or there, to distract from the totality of my experience, which is that I’ve worked for the Central Intelligence Agency, undercover, overseas.”I’ve worked for the National Security Agency, undercover, overseas. (finger tap) And I’ve worked for the Defense Intelligence Agency as a lecturer at the Joint Counterintelligence Training Academy, where I developed…
As he says the word developed you hear the nuances of his tone as it changes with a slightly upward inflection. Here he clearly wants you to know how important he feels he was and that he didn’t just carry out orders. Instead he was the one who devised and invented “sources and methods for keeping our information and people secure in the most hostile and dangerous environments around the world.”
Then the pace of his speech pattern becomes more rapid which indicates he is angry as he makes a dismissive smile as you can see above reflecting reflecting how stupid he feels those in the government are who have depicted him as a “low level systems analyst,”
As he says this we see his smile get even broader. It’s a sarastic smile and an angry smile as you can see the lack of raised cheeks and the tight jaw.
Then just as he says “It’s somewhat misleading,” we see a very revealing micro facial expression of how he really feels . In essence. his smile was all along masking his true feelings. But it was finally revealed in a sudden serious flash of anger as he looks down and clenches his teeth which you can see in the above screen shot.
In essence he is extremely angry at people not looking at him as who he really is- a trained professional high level spy.
His constantly looking down and failing to make eye contact with his interviewer says it all. Its screams having something to hide as well as some real feelings of fear which he is attempting to mask.
Why did he decide to now, after almost a year speak up and out and clarify who he really is? It raises a lot of questions. Is his life in danger? Does he have a death wish? Does revealing he was a spy offer him some sort of protection? Soes revealing who he really was make him feel more powerful?
Was he not only a spy but a double agent? Was he working for Russia as well as for the US or was he always on Russia’s side? What made him turn if indeed he went over to the Russian side? Is that why they accepted him with such open arms?Is he a puppet or mouthpiece for Putin?
Russia under Putin has been so restrictive in having people speak up and out publicly. Look at what they did to the female punk Band Pussy Riot. They put these young women into gulags as they severely punished them for speaking out. Russians are not at all tolerant of any gay person who wants to speak out. So why are they allowing Snowden who is essentially now a Russian resident speak out so publicly. Is it to embarrass President Obama? Is it to thumb their nose at Obama who has put forth sanctions for the Russian’s involvement in the Ukraine? The question is why now?
When he was perceived as a low level technician who stumbled across an injustice it seemed to many like a David and Goliath story. Innocent little David taking on the Mean and Dangerous Goliath was a story that was palatable to many as they discovered that he released all of Goliaths secrets.
But now that Snowden was a trusted member of Goliath’s minions, it changes the entire perception of Snowden and not in a good way. If he did all of those high level jobs he said he did and worked for the CIA as a spy, he knew what he signed up for. He knew the requirements and what was expected of him. His job was to keep secrets. If the job was so repugnant to him or damaging to his psyche he could have opted out in some way But instead, he chose to spill the secrets of his job to the world. Whether it was a good thing or a bad thing can be debated forever. If it was a breech in the Constitution he needed to have consulted with lawmakers and involve them and not take this task on by himself in my view.
The bottom line is that there were some signals of fear and sadness leaking out in his body language as he spoke. His vocal and verbal arrogance in contrast to his non confident, anxious body language with bowed head and upward gaze say that he is indeed afraid of something and very well may be the reason he close or it was chosen for him to come forward now.
The fact that he said that coming home was foremost on his mind is also revealing. Perhaps things aren’t so rosy or secure in Russia as his temporary Russian visa expires in three months. As he talks of home and of how much he gave up in his “very comfortable life, “he purses his lips and we see a flash of sadness. This indicates that he doesn’t want to say more or he might get too emotional.
His level of arrogance is evident when he in a disgusted tone blames the US for “stranding him in Russia because they decided to revoke his passport. But what did he expect?
He is after all the govenment’s public enemy number one in the US who has charged him with theft and two counts of espionage. Government officials like Secretary of State John Kerry call him a “coward” for not facing the judicial system in America and essentially running away. Kerry says he is also a “dumb traitor” because he has now exposed a lot of mechanisms for terrorists to accomplish their goals in “making it harder for the United States to break up plots and harder to protect our nation.”
Snowden does not come across likable or sympathetic in the interview. In my view this may sway many who once supported him in the opposite direction, especially now that they learned he was a professional spy.His arrogance and bravado may be a coverup for his fear and sadness of not knowing what lies ahead in his future.
Killer Elliot Rodger’s Body Language and Speech Content in Tape Reveals A Spoiled , Non Resourceful, Entitled, Sadistic, Falsely Overinflated, Sociopath
Before gunman Elliot Rodger, a Santa Barbara student, went on his shooting spree killing he made a video in his car where he describes what he planned to do to blond females that left him sexually frustrated. After watching the tape and listening to his speech content and patterns it is clear that this is a spoiled, entitled young man with an over inflated opinion of himself who was not very bright or resourceful in how to get a woman in his life. When he didn;t get what he wanted handed to him in the form of – sex from the most beautiful and popular girls on campus like a spoiled brat, he lashed out and killed.
While his parents may have given him a luxurious home to live in, designer clothing, an expensive car, free tuition, and all the electronic gadgets he desired, they didn;t give him the ability to fend for himself and be resourceful in getting what he wanted. In this case it was a girlfriend. They also didn’t give him the social skills he needed to be more appealing to people, especially to people of the opposite sex.
I would not be surprised if he was a helicopter child who was doted over and who had things done for him which would account for him not being able to do things for himself in a resourceful manner.
If he wanted sex he could have done a number of things,
1. He could have gone online to one of the many sexual hookup sites and found a woman. One of his hookups may have even ended up as a girlfriend, especially of he showered her with gifts and took on some of her financial needs.
2. He could have hung out with his dad on the set of the Hunger games where some aspiring actress wannabe would hook up with him for sure , knowing who his father was and hoping he would put in a good word for her to get a better role. This goes on all the time in Hollywood where people hook up with people whom they think can get them to the right person to advance their career.
3. He could have taken an acting class and let out who his father was and young actresses would be all over him to get to meet his father or to hang out with him on the Hunger games set.
4 .He could have gone to Las Vegas where prostitution is legal. he could have hung out at the famous Bunny Ranch we have all heard about.
5. he could have gone online and joined all the realtionship sites from match.com to zoosk to jdate or christian singles and eventaully found a date and a reltionship.
6, He could have hired a high priced matchmaking service to find him a girlfriend as Hollywood is full of these services. they offer free membership to beautiful women and charge the men a lot of money to meet them. He no doubt could have afforded the fee.
7. he could have lowered his standards and not gone for the most beautiful and popular girls on campus who want the most beautiful and popular boys on campus. he could have hung out at the library and found an academic type who would have loved to have gone on a date with him.
But like a spoiled baby who didn’t get his way, he threw a tantrum and went to the extreme. He is also a sociopath for sure . his tone of voice gives it away. That soft spoken errily overly calm tone is a dead giveaway. If you hear anyone with that type of voice quality- run as fast as you can.
The next thing that is dangerous about him as we listen to him speak his speaking through a the clenched jaw which signifies anger and rage.
His is so out of touch when he says that ever since he has hit puberty he has been forced to endure a life of loneliness and rejection. WEll, welcome to real life. That is what life is all about for most young people trying to find their way in life. Most are met with loneliness and rejections. But they do something about it. They tell their parents or a teacher or a therapist how they feel . If he would have joined a sports team or got involved in some school activities he would not have felt as lonely and would have made some friends.As he says this we can clearly see how entitled he feels he is.
He says that girls have never been attracted to him and that they gave their love and sex to other men. Well, with an attitude like his of entitlement how could any girl be attracted to him. he then says he is 22 years old and still a virgin. Well if he did 1 through 7 as I suggested above he would not have still been a virgin. As he speaks of his virginity he squints his eyes in anger like he is entitled to not be a virgin without doing anything about it.
His tone of voice is very off putting and distant. It has a snobby “I’m better than you ” ring to the tone which would further alienate women. Then he plays the victim as he says he has had to rot in loneliness as it is not fair.
If he was that lonely he could have volunteered in a hospital or volunteered to feed the homeless, he could have joined organizations where there are a lot of women. he could have taken a cooking class or sewing class or just hing out at the library and acted friendly to women and perhaps he wouldn;t have been so tortured being lonely. Once again his rhetoric speaks to his entitlement and lack of making any effort .
He then plays the victim by saying how girls have never been attracted to him.It is clearly because of his creepy tone and lack of social skills as we hear in the tape.
As he points his finger in anger he is stunned that they women don’t see how great he is as he says “he’s the perfect guy.” This confirms what I said earlier about how he has an overinflated sense of self.
He then says how he will punish all of the women for not recognizing what a perfect gentleman he is he gives a sinister laugh which he does several times throughout this tape, showing his sadistic side. He wants so much to be accepted and says that on the day of retribution he is going to enter the “hottest” sorority house, where the girls rejected him. Onc e again his reference to the hottest sorority and the prettiest girls speak to his overinflated sense of self in thinking he could actually attain a relationship with one of these girls.
He then in a calm tone says how he will slaughter every “stuck up blond slut. ” Again, it is like a spoiled child who doesn;t get what they want so they lash out and have a tantrum. But in his case the tantrum was slaughtering what he couldn’t attain. What is very interesting is how he said that they would consider him an :inferior man: if he made a sexual advance towards them. In essence he is describing how he really feels about himself- that he is indeed seeing himself as an “inferior man. “
His sadism comes about again as he says how he will take great pleasure in slaughtering these women. He says that he will be the “superior one the true alpha male. because in actuality he feels so inferior he believes that by slaughtering them he will then become superior to them.This speaks to his sick logic and extremely low sense of self.
His speech is very strange as it seems like he uses the vocabulary from a script as he says words like “slay” “slaughter, ” brute” “hedonistic pleasure”, “exacting my retribution, ” “you denied me” “depraved” ” mountains of skulls.” and “wretched.” It sounds like some of these words would be used in the films his father Peter Rodger was involved with in the Hunger Games.
He says how the guys whom he has tried to hang out with but who rejected him treated him like a “mouse” and on the next breath says he will be a God next to them. Once again he is trying to mask his is low self esteem with rhetoric and delusions of grandeur- being a God. He also says “if I had the power” indicating he has no power. But then he says he has the power to take away their life. So he feels he can only obtain a sense of power from within by killing.
His sinister and sadistic laughter is very disturbing in that he shows enjoyment at what he plans to do to his “enemies” who rejected him. We can see a clear manifestation of his sociopathic behavior. He is very detached vocally and emotionally as it seems as though he is reading a bad script or has watching some violent video games over long period of time..
The fact that he killed so many people as he carried out his rampage to prove his power and then finally turned the gun on himself showed that deep down he saw himself as a worthless coward who didn’t deserve to live.
Now we know according to a grandmother in the UK that he was very mentally disturbed, had a high functioning level of Ausberger’s Syndrome, and that he was living in an Independent Living Center with room mates . We also learned that police were aware of his intentions and interviewed him three times. They claimed he was “polite.”Obviously they dropped the ball. He needed to be under strict psychiatric supervision. With all of teh money his family had and all the luxuries they gave him, they needed to keep a closer eye on him. This new information with reference to his Ausberger’s Syndrome can account for his lack of social skills. If they or a therapist knew of his frustration with women, they could have employed more methods to have him develop better social skills with the opposite sex. His Ausberger’s Syndrome does not excuse his violence and mental disturbance.
His father is now blaming politicians for lack of stricter gun controls. He needs to blame himself for not paying stricter attention to his son whom he allegedly knew had mental issues.
Toxic Donald Sterling’s Body Language Shows More Racisim, No Sincere Apology, Distain Towards Magic Johnson
Donald Sterling’s leaked private conversation with girlfriend V. Stiviano told us in no uncertain terms he had racist views. He then tried to spin it with another “leaked” tape, which in my view, he leaked personally, this time. In that tape he talks to a friend and says how he said all of those racist things because he was trying to impress V. Stiviano and get her into bed. CNN’s Anderson Cooper asks him if he trusts anyone because his most recent tape was “leaked.”.As you can see in the screen shot above, Sterling licks his lips when asked this question. To me is a clear signal of deception and reveals that he no doubt leaked those tapes himself. He doesn’t answer Cooper’s question, which also speaks volumes about his role in the newly “leaked” tape.
He then says that he doesn’t do interviews and that the only one he talked to was Magic Johnson. That made no sense as Magic is not the media to whom he would give an interview. Sterling goes on to say he spoke to Magic Johnson twice and said “He knew the girl.” said in a surprised tone.” By calling Stiviano “the girl” it is clear that Sterling has distanced himself from Stivino. On the “leaked” conversation between Stiviano and Sterling, Stiviano claimed to Sterling that she didn’t t know Magic. But now Sterling finds out that Magic does know “the girl” as he said that Magic apparently “knew the girl well.”
When Anderson Copper asked if Sterling apologized to Magic. Sterling looks down and hems and haws as she says “uh uh if I said anything wrong then I’m sorry.” In essence he is saying that he did not apologize to Magic. He also says “if” I said anything wrong which says that he still does not believe he said anything wrong.
Though his words say Magic “is a good person” Sterling’s body and facial language leak out something completely different. They leak out disdain for Magic. In fact , Sterling’s next words show his true feelings as he cuts Magic down by saying that he doesn’t think Magic has done everything he can to help minorities.
Then Sterling looks down and says “I’ll say it” as h.e shrugs his shoulders, “He’s great.” But he doesn’t believe that Magic is great as he shakes his head “no,” and also purses his lips in anger. He then goes on to say how he doesn’t think Magic Johnson is “a good example for the children of Los Angeles.”
Sterling says he made “a terrible terrible mistake and he is here to apologize.” But he does’t say he is sorry with his words or his body language. His tone is monotone and his face is moonfaced. There is no sincere emotion when he makes this statement. Deep down it reveals that he really does’t think he did anything wrong. Even though he feigns remorse and hurting “so many innocent people, “he finally reveals that he hurt himself. That si the bottom line. If he feels bad about anything it is that these words leaked out, which hurt his standing as a Clipper’s owner. He is also a very bad actor as he draw out the /o/ sound while saying ” I’m soooo sorry. I am so apologetic.” No one says they are apologetic. Instead, they say they apologize if they were being sincere.
But just when you think Sterling’s public persona can’t get any worse, it does. In his voluntary interview on national TV with CNN’s Anderson Cooper he says that “Magic acts so holy even though he made love to every girl in every city” in America and he had Aids. What he has done is accuse Magic of knowingly spreading the AIDS virus to women across America. This is slander. I am sure that Magic’s attorney knows this as well. Talk like that will no doubt add to Magic’s financial coffers. so it will be even easier for Magic to afford the team.
Then Sterling goes on to say when Magic has “those AIDS” he went to his synagogue and prayed for him. In essence by saying this, Sterling is trying to tell us how good a person he is and how self righteous he is. But he says it with anger through his clenched fists which reflects how deep down he clearly detests Magic.
But on the next breath he says that he could have criticized Magic for getting AIDS but he didn’t, yet another lame attempt at showing how magnanimous he is. Then he asks Anderson Cooper what Magic Johnson has done. Anderson replies that he is a business person. Sterling immediately interjects “He has AIDS.” In essence Sterling has just said that all Magic has done with his life is get AIDS. Anderson corrects him that Magic has HIV not AIDS.
Then Sterling goes over the top yet corrects himself with regards to Aids. He now says that” Magic Johnson made love to every girl in America and catches HIV “. He then then says he thinks Magic should be ashamed of himself and go into the background. What Sterling is doing here in psychological terms is protecting. He is ashamed of himself and knows very well that he is the one who needs to be in the background, not Magic.
He adds insult to injury by saying that Magic does nothing for the Black people and then stops himself short by saying there is no such thing as African Americas which further displays his racism.
In fact he realizes at this moment as you can see in the above screen shot, that he has just dug himself even deeper into the racism pit as body language wise he covers his mouth as to stop himself from saying more. He even apologizes as he knows very well what he just did.
Then he says “they” all want to play golf with him. Clearly the “they” he is referring to are Black people. He then says he does’t think “Magic is a good example for the children of Los Angeles and then get AIDS.” Even though Cooper previously corrected him that it was HIV and not AIDS, Sterling still insists that Magic has AIDS. In essence he is once again blaming Magic for getting AIDS.
Not only does he disparage Magic with these comments, he says Magic does nothing to help minorities but “he” Donald Sterling “gives away millions to help minorities. Once again Sterling ties to show how righteous and good he is. He then asks Cooper ” Does he do that?” In essence, Sterling is saying that Magic Johnson does’t give Millions to minorities.
Once again we see the rage in his body language as he talks about Magic as we see Sterling’s clenched fists. Then he once agin shows his racist colors by saying how Jews, when they get successful will help their people but that Blacks don’t do the same. He then admits that he might get in trouble again for what he has to say as he states “maybe they don’t want to help anybody.” In essence he is saying that Blacks don;t want to help anybody,
He begs to be forgiven, but his body language and facial language shows that he is insincere. He does’t think he did anything wrong.
Hearing the Toxic words that ha=ve come out of Sterling’s mouth has me convinced more than ever that that there no place for such backwards and Neanderthal thinking in the NBA. After hearing this racist and hate filled interview, I cannot imagine any team owner not voting to remove him. Now it is no longer about the leaked private racially charged tapes that were made public by V. Stiviano or her minions. Now it is Sterling by himself who voluntarily showed his ignorance and racism to the world through his interview which has no doubt left many speechless.
His ugly and very Toxic swipes at Magic are his warped attempt to disparage Magic in hopes of swaying public opinion against Magic so that he won’t be supported in purchasing the team. But it all backfired and alienated even more people as most wonder what kind of Toxic insensitive person could actually blame another person for catching a sickness. Magic is a hero and despite his HIV- not AIDS, he has been able to flourish and become a leader in the Black community. He has shown that an HIV diagnosis is not a death sentence and that one can live a productive life. He has given people jobs and invested money to start businesses in the Black community for years. Everyone knows this about Magic. For Sterling to distort the facts about Magic shows just how desperate Sterling is feeling these days. His whole world is caving in on him and he knows it. We all saw it in this interview.
For years, Amanda Knox’s strange behavior after the murder of Meredith Kercher took place concerned everyone. She giggled, canoodled with boyfriend, and had many other inappropriate actions. Now that she has been found guilty by an Italian court, her interview with Chris Cuomo of CNN shows Knox’s continuing bizarre behavior which may reflect that she is not as innocent as she claims in the death of her former roommate. Her body language shows multiple signals of behavior which cause concern.
Chris Cuomo asks her “Why do you think this judge goes further than ever? Not only does he say that this is the knife, that you had it, but because of DNA around the hilt you were the one that killed Meredith Kercher?”
One would expect a person who had nothing to do with the crime to be incensed and show anger or rage at being falsely accused. That was not the case here. First Knox is silent as she looks up as see in the photo above.
Then she actually laughs. This is extremely odd behavior and not congruent in my view with someone who is innocent. Why is she laughing? Is she laughing because she is far away from Italy and thinks she will never be extradited? Does she laugh because she feels safe? It is not a nervous laugh or smile. It is a genuine one with mouth open and cheeks raised and eyes squinted. This is not how someone should react when someone is killed if they had nothing to do with it. Perhaps she hated Meredith so much as indicated by their alleged fight over money, that she is secretly glad Meredith is dead and that she deep down feels she won’t be held accountable.
Then in a defiant tone she begins by saying “I believe… I can’t speculate what this judge’s motivation’s are personalize or other wise”. as she raises an eyebrow.
The eyebrow raise in this context is telling as she deep down is saying that she thinks the judge is out to make a name for himself. It also reflects her anger towards the judge.
Then she fakes crying in a shaky voice which recovers quickly as she says I did not kill my friend. I did not wield a knife,” It sounded to me as though it was rehearsed as world “wield” sound like something her lawyers may have said to her. The fact that she recovers so quickly from the crying voice shows me that she does not have much remorse or empathy for Meredith’s death.
Then she cocks her head to the side and opens her eyes wide as she says “I had no reason to…” said with upward inflection in a questioning tone. To me that seems like a signal of deception as she is trying too hard to convince with this type of vocalization. Also the fact that she doesn’t mention Meredith’s name. She ends the statement by saying “I had no reason to” and doesn’t finish the statement “kill Meredith” which also shows that her concern was not about Meredith. But the most telling thing is that she shakes her head No as she says this which may be the body language revealing the truth that she may have indeed killed Meredith Kercher.
She then says they were living together and “were becoming friends.” That is a very interesting statement as it means that they were “not friends” but they were “becoming friends”. Hence, the lack of emotion for someone who was not yet a friend.
Then she says something which is clearly rehearsed as she said the same thing in an earlier interview that if she would have had Meredith’s broken body on her and traces of herself.” The term broken body seems to me like a term that is lost in the Italian translation into English- a term which she no doubt got from her lawyer. No one in the US says broken body. They would say “bloody”, or “mangled”, or “sliced” but definitely not “broken.”
She once again feigns emotion as her voice cracks but then recovers immediately, which indicates insincerity. Since I have heard this plea before with the exact verbiage, there is no doubt Knox is on automatic pilot as she tries to convince the world she didn’t kill her roommate. She also says “around Meredith’s corpse” instead of Meredith’s body. which also appears to me a callous and detached description.
She looks down as she speaks instead of directly at Chris Cuomo which is also cause for concern. People who have nothing to hide look right at you and speak directly to you.
She then says she believes that it is truly possible for her to “win this”. The term “win” is of concern to me as this is not a contest or a manipulation. What she needed to say was to “show I am innocent.” But she does not say this.
Initially I wanted very much to believe that Amanda had nothing to do with Meredith’s death. So often innocent people are accused of things they did not do in foreign countries. Since foreign justice is so different from American justice, it was easy to assume this. When she came out of prison and was released and was on American soil, the tears were genuine.When her initial charges by the Italian court was that it was a sex game gone wrong, I found it hard to believe and thought she had nothing to do with that. Thus, I assumed she was innocent.
But after hearing her multiple interviews and getting more information, body language and speech and voice content wise, something does not add up. The lack of remorse bothers me as does the fake attempts at emotion. There is no doubt that Amanda is angry and that anger leaks out in her interviews. But she comes across as callous and not caring and odd ,as she laughs and smiles inappropriately. This does not endear her to the public and makes them question whether the Italian courts finally got it right in their decision about Amanda Knox’s guilt.
As someone who spent the early part of her career working the craniofacially deformed individuals, including patients with Ectodermal Dysplasia, a condition affecting the skin and teeth and sweat glands with protrusion of the upper part of the skull, and I am completely sickened by what basketball star Shaquille O’Neal did to a young man from Detroit, Jahmel Bionion, who is suffering from this condition.
To me, Shaquille is now as Toxic as Donald Sterling as I am sickened by both of their egregious actions. Please don’t tell me that one is different from the other. It is not.Both O’Neil’s and Sterling’s words and actions are devastating to others. While Sterling showed abusive discrimination towards Blacks, Shaquille O’Neal showed the same abusive discrimination towards a genetically challenged person. I can NEVER respect Shaquille again just as I can NEVER respect Donald Sterling.
I especially can never look at Shaquille the same way after I saw the video if the young man, Jahmel Binion, talking about how hurt he was by Shaquille O’Neal ( who was once one of Jahmel’s hero’s ) I shed tears. below is a link to the video.
What Shaquille did is awful!! It is NOT funny to make a face and mock someone else, especially if they are disabled. Shaq of all people should know better as there by the grace ofGod goes he.
If it wasn’t for basketball, Shaquille too may have found himself victimized and made fun of due to his giant size . While he has served as a volunteer reserve officer with the Los Angeles Sherrif’s department when he was a Laker, as law enforcement was one of Shaquille’s childhood dreams, the reality is that his extreme height and size would have made him ineligible for any police department or law enforcement organization due to their height and weight regulations. Had he not been a celebrity. He could have been easily turned away from many a job opportunity because of his size and height.
Even though the internet is filled with people who feel as horribly as I do about what Shaquille did to this young man , he has yet to offer up an apology, or a face to face meeting with the young man, or to help repair the damage he contributed to this young man’s self esteem. If he does happen to apologize to the young man, in my view it is too little too late. He needed to do it immediately, not after there was public disdain.
Just as I have boycot tDonald Sterling, I am doing the same to Shaquille O’Neal, whom I once considered one of my favorite basketball players. I can’t even look at him for the added abuse he did to Jahmel’s already fragile self esteem. Just as what Donald Sterling said and did is unforgivable, Shaquille O’neal’s Toxic and sickening actions are unforgivable as well.
Even if you see a photo of two people person smiling and things look like all is well between them, if you see someone’s fist or fists clenched, rest assured that there is trouble in that relationship. If you see a tight clenched jaw with teeth together you can also count on the fact that there is trouble brewing.
This photo was taken of Oprah and her stepmother, Barbara Winfrey the wife of her father Vernon Winfrey at Oprah’s 50th Birthday. Body language wise you can clearly see that Oprah is not keen on Barbara with her clench fists around her neck as though she subconsciously wants to strangle the woman. That fact that both of her hands are balled up into fists shows she really doesn’t like her stepmom at all.
After 14 years, Barbara and Vernon are divorcing and Oprah has told her to vacate the Nashville home she graciously bought for Vernon and Barbara to live. Oprah would have allowed Barbara to continue living there and not be homeless but Barbara refused to sign a confidentiality agreement which Oprah requested from her. So now Barabara is without her Nashville home and is so furious that she has done an exclusive interview with the Daily Mail “spilling the beans” on Oprah.
Now we can certainly see why Oprah’s body language was leaking out animosity towards Barbara years earlier. The fact that she is “leaking” anything is egregious Toxic behavior. Oprah doesn’t owe this woman, a virtual stranger, anything. Oprah was gracious to her father to put a roof his head. Since Barbara was attached to Vernon , Barbara was permitted to live there as well.But now that Vernon and Barbara have split, Oprah doesn’t need to continue to support this woman in any way.
The “beans” this woman has spilled about Oprah are “non- beans” . She says that Oprah and Steadman and Gayle are always together. So what is wrong with that? They are all three wonderful support systems for one another. Most people would be thrilled to have loyal loving people around them. Gayle and Steadman are her family and family sticks together.
She says she never say Oprah and Stedman kiss and be affectionate. Well why would they show their affection around her?Oprah and Steadman have been together since 1986. The fact that they are still together in one form or another is awesome in itself. So this woman’s gossip about her and Steadman is ridiculous.
She also calls the relationship between Oprah and Gayle “unnatural:. No matter what their relationship is the fact that they are both loyal and supportive to one another and have one another’s backs is very “natural”. In fact it is awesome to have someone in the world who loves and cares about you that much.
She talks about Oprah firing people. Of course Oprah is going to fire people who are no longer effective in her life or do what she needs them to do. Any business person would do that, So once again, Barbara is spilling a “non- bean”
She ridiculously gossips about Oprah using comfort food as her drug of choice which Oprah has mentioned for years. She also belittles Oprah for loving and always snacking on potatoes which is ridiculous. It was a toxic dig that Oprah’s weight is caused by her love of all things potato.
Then this Toxic woman tries to make it like Oprah is a racist and is all about skin color. She said that Vernon once told her that if Oprah could change the color of her skin she would have. She also said that she like Steadman because he is a “high yellow” – a light skinned black with soft hair. Well here is a newsflash for Barbara. If the richest most powerful woman in the world was that much against her skin color, she would have lightened it years ago. As we have all seen, Oprah is very much a supporter of Black people and has done many things to help her race and has even created a school for Black Girls in Africa.
Then she says that even though Oprah took her and her ex husband along on a Mediterranean cruise, she griped that Barbara didn’t speak to her. She also tried to cut Oprah down by saying how they had three different meals on the ship with different sets of dishes t each meal. So what is wrong with that? When someone pays millions of dollars to rent a cruise ship for an 11 day vacation they can afford to have different dishes at eAch me and even different bedding each day.
She also griped about being related to the second floor and not being allowed to mix with celebrities at Oprah’s Birthday party. Well it was Obvious that Oprah didn’t feel comfortable with her father or his ex wife. She obviously had little in common with the woman as well as with her own father. But it speaks volumes about Oprah that she was still gracious enough to invite her father and his wife on a luxury ship and to a milestone birthday party.
It is obvious from her paid interviews with the Daily News that have now gone worldwide presswise that she is a Toxic jealous and bitter woman. But her bitterness has backfired as what she has revealed about Oprah look pretty good. The woman should have taken the house in Nashville and signed the papers of confidentiality as she really has nothing relevant to say about Oprah anyway, as has been revealed. Oprah didn’t beat or physically hurt anyone, do drugs, or steal from anyone. She is just living her life as best as she can. She has loving people around her and instinctively knows who the Toxic People are in her life and wants nothing to do with them as was the case with Barbara who cries in her interviews that Oprah never took the time to get to know her.
Well, Oprah didn’t need the time. She saw right through her Toxic now ex stepmother and it all showed up in Oprah’s tight jawed smile and clenched fists.
While his family denies that disabled champion runner Oscar Pistorius took acting lessons to prepare himself for trial and others swear that he did take lessons, the bottom line is that something is not right in terms of how he presents himself in the courtroom.
As a jury consultant and someone who has prepared witnesses for trial, I can assure you that acting lessons are the absolute worst thing a person can do to prepare themselves. People need to be genuine and show genuine emotion and speak in a manner. They need to show body language that will not alienate a jury, but rather objectively allow them to hear the message.
In observing Oscar Pistorius’ body language throughout the trial, I noticed many things that are rather odd. His emotions often do not seem to match the situations being discussed or his body language seems to be over the top as far as his emotions are concerned.
He seems to be tuning out which will not endear himself to the judge who, is the only one who will be deciding his fate.
The one thing that I noticed is that he is always covering his ears. In essence he doesn’t want to hear all the gory details about what he did to Reeva. He wants to block it out and that is what he is doing by literally blocking his ears. But that behavior is off putting. He needs to sit there without his hands over his ears and listen to every word. If he shed emotion, it needs to be genuine . He needs toface the details of what he is accused of doing.
Not only does he cover his ears, but he covers his head with his papers as you see in the photo above. It is akin to someone wanting to pull the blankets over their head and not leave their bed or the house. This signals extreme shame and guilt over what he did. He wants it to all go away as he is in essence, hiding.
As well as not wanting to hear the details at the trial, he also does not want to see them. He does not want to see the results of his actions via the gory photos as he tightly shuts his eyes and pinches the bridge of his nose in a self comforting gesture.
The gesture where he pulls down the skin on his face is a self mutilation type of gesture which often occurs when a person is feeling guilty and there is no way out. It is a literal form of self punishment as we see Pistorius doing here.
This photo is of Pistorius’ aunt and uncle crying. With their furrowed brows and squinted eyes, they show genuine tears of sadness at what happened in this tragic situation.
In contrast here are Pistorius tears. He hides his face as he cries which to many observing him may indicate that he is faking his cry. Usually when one is in emotional pain, they don’t care who sees them cry. They just express their sorrow and upset openly. Many may feel this is contrived and he may have something to hide.
He cries too often and his recovery time from his cry is too fast. When people recover too quickly from a cry to a normal non crying facial posture it takes them time to recover. He does it almost immediately which may indicate that he is doing all of this crying for affect.
The above cry seems too intense . This facial gesture would occur if someone is in severe extreme grief, where they cannot contain themselves or control their emotions. His hand over his mouth shows that there is something he doesn’t want to reveal. And his tightly squinted eyes are not congruent with the crying emotion he is attempting to display. With a squinty eyed cry the mouth is usually open. That is not the case here.
As a body language I feel that something is off with Pristorius and his emotions. Usually I see an incongruent emotion and body language when the person is medicated or on drugs. But that emotion is usually a more dull or blank facial appearance.
When someone shows the inconsistency of emotion as Pristorius has been doing throughout the trial, it shows me that either he has forced this on his own in terms of trying to project what he thinks the judge wants to see, or that he has been prepped or coached in some way.
If he did take acting lessons, he did himself a huge disservice as he looks like a very bad actor trying to force emotion. It takes years to perfect acting skills, not a few weeks or months. So if he did take the lessons, they clearly did not work. On the other hand if he did not take lessons and he is acting like this on his own, he is also doing himself a huge disservice because he is not putting his position across in a genuine manner.
In the US judicial system if he was in front of a jury of his peers my belief is that he would be convicted based on his body language and vocal tone alone. Whether you want to believe it or not the truth is that juries can and have often judged someone on these things even if all the evidence points in their favor. But Pistorius only has to convince one person whom he refers to as “My lady” throughout the proceedings.
If My lady” uses her legal skills along with her genuine common sense and pays attention to the defendant’s body language, facial, language, and vocal tone, she will come up with the right verdict for Oscar Pistorius as his communication skills and body language speak volumes.
Lack of Humility, Arrogance, and Entitlement of Toxic Young Fashion Designer Cecelia Cassini Unleashes Throngs of Haters
I was looking a Facebook post from one of my comedian friends who has never been mean spirited. So I was shocked when I read his postabout his wanting to hit a child with a baseball bat. Then I looked at the video of the child to whom he wasreferring. She was a young fashion designer Cecelia Cassini being interviewed on the red carpet. It turns out that my comedian friend was not alone. In fact close nine thousand Youtube posts – (ALL of then negative and hateful) shared the same sentiment.
I decided to dissect why there was such a torrent of vitriol towards this young lady and came up with the following reasons. She
1. acted entitled, spolied and rotten. When asked if she got her sewing machine at the age of 6 she said in a snotty tone with hand on her hip and eyes rolled, “Yes after begging for it for a year.”
2. had an “I’m better than you” attitude. Her erect head pulled back with chin out showed arrogance and a condescending attitude.
3. had over the top affectations in her body language and in her speech pattern where she leaned back and shook her finger as she described hr dissatisfaction with using ponytail holders to pull her dress back. Wouldn’t it be like “Uh (goes up in pitch) amazing if I had a sewing machine to sew and to fit me prop= per- ly (over enunciated) which she said in a sarcastic manner.
4. was disrespectful to elders ( her sewing teacher) and showed anger and disgust towards her teacher. She says” I took sewing classes but I didn;t really like my teacher because she was like rude (laughs about it) like she told me that some frabrics didn;t match what i thought they did (smacks her lips) so I didn’t go to her anymore. So I basically just taught myself.” This is the epitome of arrogance and rudeness and disrespect towards someone much older and more experienced than her- her teacher.She also looked very self satisfied as she relayed this story.
5.had arrogant body language as she reaches out her hand with palms up in a very campy way as she says how every little girl needs a dress and how they don’t need pants. Well for one thing this little know it all is not as savvy a fashion designer as she thinks since pants are a huge part of fashion. perhaps all she knows how to do at this point is make dresses as pants may be much harder to make. So she poo poos the idea of pants on little girls. Maybe if she would have continued her sewing lessons with her sewing teacher she would have learned how to make pants.
6. over the top gestures and over the top speech patterns that were not fitting for a girl her age. She flexes and flicks her wrist and tenses her lower saw as she says Carl Lagerfeld and Diane Von Furstenberg are her favorite designers and how they are “works of art” (said in an over articulated way- arrttt) . No child uses those terms so it makes her sound very affected, pretentious, and phony.
6. sounded insincere and condescending with her monotone voice, When asked about her website, instead of just giving her website address, like a seasoned salesperson she manages to obnoxiously get in that you can buy her designs online or at Fred Segal. After she says this she has a tightlipped smug look on her face which makes her look arrogant. Her raised head and jutting chin are also not endearing but reflect her sense of entitlement.
It’s clear that this young girl has come to believe her own press about how great sheis. As quickly was her rise to the top is as quickly as her fall to the bottom will beunless she changes up her attitude.
She didn’t start out this way. Initially her heart seemed to be in the right place as sheused her talents and volunteered dress homeless children and children in hospitals.As you can see from this video which was done several years before her most recentred carpet fiasco, she didn’t seem affected, arrogant, ort obnoxious. Instead, she seemed grounded and generous.
But something happened to her between then and now. Evidently, she got big headed with all the publicity and fame she received and with having celebrities buy her clothing for their kids and having child actors praise her designs. Her being invited to sell her clothing at the in my view ridiculously overpriced but prestigious Fred Segal’s didn’t help foster her now out of control ego.
She clearly lost sight of the humanity that got her in the public’s eye the first place -doing something for others and not being so self absorbed.
Unfortunately Cecelia is not alone as this is what happens to a lot of people who start out kind and nice and with a purpose to do good for others. Then they become toxic egocentric people after they get a little taste of fame. We see it all the time with actors, television personalities, bloggers, and even athletes. But to see this toxic behavior in the form of a little girl is both shocking and intolerable. It is like a very unpleasant caricature of human behavior.
There is no doubt that this child has talent as her dresses are cute in my view, but definitely not worth the $!00 to spend on a child who will undoubtedly outgrow the dress in a few months. But her talents mean nothing unless this pintsized designer reigns in her oversized ego and sense of entitlement.
Someone needs to sit her down and let her know that she is still a little girl with a lot to learn. In order to be a great fashion designer you need to have an open mind to learn knew things and not think you know it all. You need to respect others, even if you don’t necessarily agree with them. Cecelia needs to be taken her back to the children’s hospitals and homeless shelters where she first began to showcase her clothes, She needs to sit down and really listen to those little girls to get a reality check to see that arrogance and entitlement are not what life is about. She needs to gain some humility and compassion towards those who’s lives are not as comfortable and rosy as her life.
I don’t blame her parents because she wasn’t always like the mean girl she displayed on the red carpet video. In fact I applaud her parents for helping her live out herdream by connecting her with the right people and encouraging her talents at such a young age. But now they unknowingly created a little toxic monster , so to speak, and they need to rein her in before ti is too late. They need to show her the video and point out that this is not to behave. They need to have her :
1. be grateful to all of the opportunities she has been given and express it verbally
2. stop sounding so affected with her vocal tone
3. stop the over the top gesturing
4. never say anything negative about anyone, especially about sewing teacher who tried to help her
5. stop being so self involved
6. stop being so entitled
I only hope that her parents now put in the same effort into redirecting their child’s toxic behavior as they have in encouraging her to live out her fashion dreams.If they don’t nip her Toxic behavior in the bud now, young Cecelia will never have the opportunity to carry out her dreams as an adult because no one will want to be around her, no matter how talented she is or thinks she is.