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Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer Song About TOXIC Bullying Added Verses In This Age of Zero Tolerance Against Bullying
December 25, 2012

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The other day I was in the car listening to the radio,  when the popular Christmas song Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer came on . I began singing along with it and for the first time realized how the words to this catchy tune tell a very sad story.

t starts off fine describing a reindeer with  his red nose  as the lyrics are:

 Rudolph the red nosed reindeer                                                    

Had a very shiny nose

And if you ever saw it,

You would even say it glows

Then it goes on to describe how the reindeer was bullied and ostracized, simply  because he looked different. This verse actually saddened me as I listened to the following verse:

All of the other reindeer

Used to laugh and call him names

They never let poor Rudolph

Play in any reindeer games.

Luckily for Rudolph, Santa became  Rudolph’s savior as Santa  came to his rescue by  acknowledging Rudolph’s difference and turning his physical  difference and uniqueness into an advantage and an asset. It was because of Rudolph’s   unique difference which allowed    Santa to  navigate his sleigh through the foggy night.The lyrics are as follows:

 

Then one foggy Christmas night

Santa came to say

“Rudoph with your nose so bright

Won’t you guide my sleigh night?

 

Now here is the part that disturbs me. Only because Rudolph was useful and did something heroic based on his  physical difference did the other reindeer finally accept him.  Otherwise , they would never have  accepted him into their group and allow him to play reindeer games with them. Below are the lyrics which disturbed me.

 

Then all the reindeer loved him

As they shouted out with glee

Rudolph the red nosed reindeer

You’ll go down in history.

These superficial  reindeer needed to accept Rudolph red nose and all from the beginning, not because he did something which helped Santa. Obviously these  TOXIC reindeer only liked him because he  now had Santa’s blessing who accepted Rudolph’s uniqueness which allowed him to become a  hero.

I don’t think the song  should end there. To me, it is not is finished.  It’s missing several  verses in my view so I took  my songwriting and skills to task and took the  liberty to  write some very much needed verses that apply in this  his day and age of zero tolerance for bullying.  So here are the additional lyrics I wrote  to the tune of Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer. 

Then Rudolph told all the reindeer

You hurt my feelings when teasing me

Just cuz someone looks different

You don’t have to be a bully 

 

We come in all shapes and sizes

And  just  to be direct

We all want  love and kindness

And  to be treated with respect.

 

I hope you learned your lesson

That teasing makes others blue

Everyone has feelings

Just like  me and you .

 

So in the  Spirit of  Christmas 

Where forgiveness is number one

Never  tease others

Cuz you can  really hurt someone.

 

While the song written back in 1939  by Robert L. May and  published by Montgomery Ward  and adapted into songs, television specials feature films and has become a figure of Christmas folklore, I believe that these  additional meaningful verses are  now needed  to teach children about the consequences of bullying  and hurt feelings in this age of Zero Tolerance for  Bullying.

                                                                                                   

  MERRY CHRISTMAS   XO

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Katie Holmes Appears To be More Interested In Photo Ops Than Suri’s Misery
July 16, 2012

There are no photos more heartbreaking than seeing a child fearing a little innocent puppy. Katie Holmes has been parading little  Suri around  NY like a show  pony to show how much better off Suri is now that Tom is out of the picture and to show what a great mother she is. Well, she is NOT a great mother in my view. She is using little Suri for photo ops and it is sickening.  Every single day Suri has been paraded in front of the paparazzi and there is no doubt that she and or her PR flaks are setting up where and when to shoot the photos.

Let me let you in on a little secret. Paparazzi are not on every street corner in NYC or in LA waiting for a celebrity to make their next move so they can take photos to be placed in a magazine on on an internet site. While the papps may be at certain hangouts stars frequent like Mr.Chows,  Spago, or at a specific celebrity function, or at 435 N. Bedford Drive Medical Office Building or nail salon or eyebrow waxing place in Beverly Hills,   if you see them  at a park with they children or  at the zoo, or at a pet store you can rest assured that the celebrity or the celebrity’s PR person called the papps to tell them where the celebrity will be and what time they will be there. That is why you are seeing Katie and Suri everyday in  so many photo ops doing different things. Do you really think that the papps hang out in pet shops waiting for a celeb? Of course not!

And besides,  Katie has an underground  garage (remember that is the reason she gave Tom as to why she wanted to move there). So if  she didnt want to be noticed all she had to do was get into her  car with tinted windows in her private property underground garage where no one would see her. But she wants to be seen and it is obvious.

In essence she is thumbing up her nose at Tom and saying “Nya nya nya nya nya , Suri and I are happy without you, so there”!) But the truth is Suri is absolutely miserable and horribly unhappy based on her body language. In fact Suri is even more miserable than she was when Tom was in the picture.

Most recently Suri was dragged to a pet shop. It is obvious that this child has not been around a lot of animals as she was absolutely petrified . She was in terror of the little puppy. If Katie gets her the puppy it will be a cruel thing to do to Suri and an even crueler thing to do to the puppy.

Suri is obviously frightened in the pet shop but her mother is doing nothing to comfort her. She does’t even take the little girl’s hand to let her know everything will be OK. Instead, she ignores Suri and her feelings.

Here precious Suri is panic stricken in the pet store. She looks as if she is about to burst into tears any second. Is there anyone there to comfort her? NO! Look at her hands, She is wringing her hands with anxiety and worry. If Katie is so concerned about Suri, she needed to be there at this exact moment to address Suri’s fears.

Suri can’t even look at the puppy she is so terrified. No doubt, this is the first time she was ever in a pet store with all it’s strange smells and animals in cages.She is holding her hands in front of her  showing she is feeling very vulnerable body language wise. Now her lips are turned down and she looks like she is ready to cry.  Now is the time Katie needs to be bending down to comfort her,not below for the photo op the next day.

Katie is all smiles but it is all for show. Look how much physical distance there is between her and and Suri. Suri looks miserable. She is clearly unhappy. When two people in a  photo have such mismatching facial expressions, rest assured that something is wrong and the photo is contrived. Suri had hunched shoulders, something we NEVER saw when Tom was int he picture. She is feeling vulnerable and sad. Her self esteem is suffering based on her body posture.

While Katie does have a bigger smile on her face and now shows her teeth in photos (something she never did with Tom) and wears more casual youthful  and colorful clothing, seeing her in the press each day indicates that she is trying very hard to make a point.

Katie can certainly get one of her six to eight body guards to discretely pick up some ice cream and a cup of coffee for her. She doesn’t need to be photographed getting these things unless she wants to be photographed.And she desperately wants to be photographed with Suri as a prop.

While Katie shows off her smiles, her prop-  little Suri still looks miserable. The only smiling photo of her was at the zoo, while looking at an animal. But when she stopped looking at the animal she was her usual sourpuss self.

Each day Katie has put Suri in the news engaged in different activities. Since Katie apparently spent so much time with Suri in the past, why wasn’t she doing these things with Suri earlier? In one week Suri has been photographed looking

miserable at the zoo

miserable eating ice cream

miserable doing gymnastics at Chelsea Piers

miserable going to the Children’s Museum

and completely miserable on play dates with children to whom she cannot relate.

While Katie wants to show that now that Tom is not around, Suri is a normal child playing with another children. But that is not the case. Since Suri has never had a lot of little friends her age with whom to socialize and since she has been isolated in her formative years, it is very hard for her to relate to other children.

Apparently,  she has been treated like a little adult and not a child according to reports. She allegedly has been raised to do whatever she wants. That won’t cut it when she interacts with another child. There has to be a give and a take. Clearly this is not happening with the other children as you can see in these photos.

She ignores the other children. There are no smiles and no interaction.Suri could care less about her new friend(s). Her body language shows she is completely disinterested.

In fact, she so disliked being around one of her new playmates (an older Asian girl) who was as equally not responsive to her, that Suri reverted to a toddler and demanded her mother pick her up and carry her. Katie obliged.

Most six year olds don’t act like that. Thy don’t want to be a baby and be carried around unless there is something wrong with them emotionally. They want to show they are big girls and boys as they assert their independence and walk by themselves.

If Suri hasn’t had much contact with other children she will have a miserable time at school where other children will be forced upon her.

Also her teachers will definitely not be treating her like a little adult but as a child. Suri will also not get her way all the time. If she doesn’t want to do something that is required of her, she will no doubt be punished . Her permissive upbringing of doing whatever she likes will not work now that she is away from Tom. This will all be foreign to her and highly distressing. I would not be surprised if she acted out as a result.

Going to a strict Catholic school may be a rude awakening for her as she never had any discipline. She was never told “No” that she could not do whatever she wanted. No doubt, her classmates will have had this type structure in their lives which makes them easier to handle. Suri will be like a fish out of water. It will be a shock to her going to a Catholic school which is full of structure and discipline. Because her personality and habits are already formed (we all are by the time we are 5 years old according to Gessel Child Development) she will be even more miserable.

Suri was groomed to go to a Scientology school since she was a toddler and like it or nor, she would probably do much better there in my view than she will in a very structured Catholic  school environment.  The die has already been cast and it will be difficult to transform  the  early values and ideas that have been instilled in her and that are now a part of her.

Suri appears to be very insecure and very needy and very immature for her age with her insisting that she be carried like a baby and holding on to her blanket and her favorite stuffed animal. While it is acceptable for a toddler and a for a four year old, it is not acceptable for a six year old. There is something wrong with a child who can’t leave the house at that age without something to pacify them.

With a reported six to eight  strange body guards around her at all times how could this child not feel insecure and uncomfortable? At least she gre up with her Scientology body guards and feels more secure around them.

Since Katie and Tom are so diametrically opposed to the way they believe in raising child, Suri will no doubt go through additional stress when she is with Katie and  then when she visits her father, who will treat her  the complete opposite  of Katie.

I believe that Suri will suffer emotionally. It shows already. She may need a child psychologist help her cope with her stress, especially as she goes to school and if she begins to act out.

If she did see a child therapist, which she may very well need, rest assured that her father will be furious since Scientologists don’t believe in or respect therapists. Heaven forbid if the therapist recommends ritalin or some other medication for Suri. Remember how vehemently Tom reacted to Matt Lauer when they discussed children being on medication during their infamous Today Show interview where he put Brooke Shields down for needing meds dring her post partum depression? It would certainly be ironic if Tom’s own daughter Suri ended up on medication to help her.

Since Katie has full custody, Katie has full say in what is best for Suri, which may very well include medication if needed.

It is so sad that Suri is now having and will most likely continue to have a hard time adjusting to her new life.. It shows in her body language.

She has a lot of catching up to do in terms of learning to be disciplined and in terms of her social interaction in her upcoming environment. My only hope is that Katie worries less about her own image and photo ops in her desire to  let the world know how well she is doing without Tom, and instead focuses on Suri’s major issues.

The bottom line is that Suri looks miserable as we can all see. Her miserable look is not based on a few photos. It is based on all her photos. This is not a happy child. At 6 years old,  a child needs to be happy.  They need to laugh and smile most of the time. She is clearly not happy being paraded around every day and having the papps shoot her photos. There  also seems to be a lot of tension between her and Katie.  Perhaps a visit from her dad would be a welcoming site and bring the smile she so desperately needs to her face.

Bobbi Kristina’s Self Destructive Body Language vs Nick Gordon’s Attention Loving Body Language
March 17, 2012

Bobbi Kristina Brown’s adopted “brother/ fiance is loving the limelight. He is now a  new star and loving it.  Here he walks  out of Starbucks carrying two coffee cups with his ramrod straight  posture and uplifted head , indicating lots of self confidence

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Body Language of Sadistic Trump Son’s Glee After Murdering Innocent Animals and Lame PR Spin
March 15, 2012

After seeing  the photos of  Donald  Trump sons Eric and Donny’s  facial expression of glee as they posed in front of dead animas  they murdered as Eric  carried a beautiful dead leopard who’s life he snuffed out, I was sickend. The they show happiness spoke volumes. Real men in touch with their masculinity  dont delight when they kill . Men who are trying to pose as macho men  who are not  really masculine do this becuase they are so weak as men.

Their father Donald Trump  divides people into 2  categories – winners and losers.While Donald is a winner in my view his animal murdering sons are losers. And PLEASE do not tell me they killed these animals to feed a village in Africa, That is insulting! The press release on this is a joke. The public is not dumb! They get it!  They killed these animals to show they were macho and manly men. They get that these are two weak nurds with no

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Bobbi Kristina Is Not Doing As Well As She Says She Is Doing On Oprah’s Interview
March 14, 2012

The other day  I appeared on Entertainment Tonight and talked about  Bobbi Kristina’s body language after her interview with Oprah Winfrey. In my view  the interview was disturbing. Even though Bobbi  Kristina admits she is doing “just fine” her body language said just the opposite  to me.

For one thing, Bobbi Kristina did the entire  10 minute interview standing up.  Who does an interview standing up unless they are planning to hightail it out of there …TO READ MORE CLICK THE LINK BELOW

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Baby Lisa’s Parents on Dr.Phil- Body Language Tells
February 9, 2012

Baby Lisa’s mom  looks up and away as she  immediately begins to show a crying face when asked about the Kansas police Department. But what is really wrong with the picture is that there are no tears as she transitions to a non crying facial expresion within milliseconds.

She gets defensive and says in a harsh and defensive tone  “It’s not a circus. It’s not a joke. ”  No one said it was a circus  or  joke? Her choice of words give us  a lot of insight as to what is going on inside her mind. When someone volunteers extraneous and tangential information  it often indicates a signal of deception.

She goes on to say “This is not a game. This is my baby.” Once again the word she chose -“game”  may be very revealing.  In analyzing her statement, when someone is playing games, they are usually the first to bring up the term “game” . It may very well indicate that they are indeed playing a game. In Deborah, Bradley’s case it may very well be the “cat and mouse game” she has allegedly been playing with police …..

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“Toddlers and Tiaras” Toxic Parents Help Create Speech and Voice Disorders, Jaw Abnormalities and Selfish Entitled Children
January 24, 2012

Watching the show “Todlers and Tiaras” is l much like watching a  very bad car accident. You are shocked at  what you have just witnessed. The most disturbing of all the characters  I have ever seen on the show is a child named Mackinzie Myers. There is absolutely NOTHING  whatsoever adorable  or precious about this  Toxic child.  In my view she is an ugly child both inside and outside (Yes I called a child ugly) created by  very ugly parenting.

Her  sparking dresses, elaborate hair do,  masacared eyes and  glossed  lips can never mask her Toxic demanding selfish, mouthy behavior where she rudely demands and shouts to her mother. She  orders her mom  around like an unpaid  servant and in a demanding tone asks  “Where’s my drink” There is no   please or  thank you.  Worse of all, her passive  mother accepts this Toxic behavior.

Mackenzie  is even seen  on camera with her angry puss as you can see in the photo  telling her mother  not to speak to her and go away as she waits her turn to go on stage to compete for a beauty title. She actually says to her mother  “I’m not doing what you tell me” “Go way.”

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Dr. Lillian Glass Shares Views on Baby Lisa Case From Body Language and Communication Perspective
October 29, 2011

Countless readers  and fans of my work have asked my opinion  on the body language of  missing Baby Lisa’s parents. After my detailed and comprehensive  analysis of the  Casey Anthony case , only to see a child killer go free and see her  obnoxious  parents exploit the media and  make millions off of  baby’s death, the last  thing I wanted to do was to get involved in reporting another  story of a disturbed mother and he mysteriously  But  missing child.

But I have done so. I see so many similarities and patterns in this case ……..

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Kate Gosselin’s Body Language Way Too Happy Over Kate Plus 8 Cancellation
September 3, 2011

Several months ago I shared with you that I believed Kate Plus 8 would be cancelled because there would be very few eyeballs watching the show. People are not interested in seeing grown children and tweens , who  do not possess any outstanding talent being exposed on TV. People also do not want to see train wreck in the making. Paul Peterson , President of A Minor Consideration and former child actor has made us all aware of what often happens to child performers when they grow up and it often  isn’t pleasant.

Jon Gosselin was not being petty or playing ” tit for tat” during and after his divorce from Kate on this issue. Instead he was being a very responsible father  by loudly vocalizing that he did not think  it was good for the kid’s emotional and physical well being  to be on TV at this point.

But as we know Kate saw it differently. She even had the audacity to say publicly that the show was good for them emotionally. She insisted the kids were fine and lied on national TV interviews that the kids had any emotional problems. She  was adamant that Colin and Alexis were  not having any problems when in fact they showed violence at school.  So now that the show has been cancelled,Kate Gosselin’s body language  is way too’… To Read More Click Link   http://drlillianglass.com/body-language-blog/2011/09/03/does-kate-gosselinsbody-language-reveal-shes-happy-about-cancelled-show-becuase-shell-have-her-own-show/

 

Blanket Jackson Continues to Be Absolutely Miserable 2 Years After Father Michael Jackson’s Death
August 13, 2011

When I saw the series of photos of Blanket Jackson, Michael’s youngest child, I felt like to cry.   I felt as miserable as he was feeling, just from looking at the photos of him near his father’s artwork. They were taken at a ceremony to unveil Michael’s drawings to be auctioned off to raise money for Children;s Hospital in Los Angeles.

The photos showcased his amazingly talented father’s work as an artist . Here were see poor Blanket so sad faced and holing his hands together for self comfort. He may even be holding on to something for self comfort as he watches his auntie Latoya and brother Prince smiling as they unuveil the pictrure. He looks so terribly sad as this reminds him of how much he misses his daddy.

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Here Blanket’s body language is very telling in terms of how terribly disturbed he is by this unveiling of Michael’s works. He covers this stomach area with his entire arm  and his fingers are cupped on that hand. It reveals that he is very upset by having to deal with looking at his father’s drawings.It may literally be making him sick to his stomach. His body is turned away from the drawing and his shoulder is raised. In essence he is literally giving a cold shoulder to the drawing. He could care less that the Mayor of LA is there next to him, The look on Prince’s face is heart wrenching. Here he looks at it out of the corner of his eyes but he really doesn’t want to look at it   so as he pulls his head away to the side. This indicates how much he painfully misses his father.

With his head bowed  down and is spread out stiff fingers which are a subconscious attempt to literally push out the pain, he feels terribly sad. he Big sister Paris watches over him from the side as he knows her baby brother is having a hard time.

Blanket seems to be in a world  of on his own. He stands in the foreground and self comforts with his fingers up to his mouth. He looks very disconnected and very sad.Even though he is with his family he sill draws no  comfort from them. Auntie Latoya is concerned about  him and has a watchful eye on him to  sure he is OK. She knows that this has been very hard Blanket.

After seeing these heartbreaking photos  of Blanket  it shows the profound loss of Michael and the severe effect his death had on his son. As the trial of  Dr.Conrad Murray approaches it will be this image of Blanket it  will stick in my mind.

Yes Michael had a drug problem. I know a very professional  physician refused to succumb Michael’s insistent requests for substances he had no business having. He told  me that   he told Michael  point blank that he could not  a part  of his drug problem and that he needed to get into rehab and would help do so. Michael did not do so. Instead he found a doctor who would do whatever he said and do whatever he wanted.

And please don’t write to tell me Michael was not on drugs. I realize you are just being a loyal fan, but you do not know.You have not seen him up close and personal. You have not seen him  high. I  have  seen him acting high in Beverly Hills , as have others, including those who have treated him.  Hifs family knew he had drug issues and repeatedly wanted to do an intervention but Michael would not let them near him.

He found an in debt doctor, Conrad Murray who would do anything for the money, even give Michael the drug he wanted- propophol. No doctor in their right mind would do this outside of an operating room. But desperate doctors do desperate things. What bothers me the most is Murray didn’t care about  Michael. If he did he would never have left him alone while he was chatting up his lady over the phone.

Even though Michael was killing himself all along with the drugs, I believe.  Dr Murray put the final nail in Michael’s coffin. They both played a part in this terrible death. By  Michael’s drugging and Murray’s acquiescing  , they  failed to realize that they also killed the spirit of a precious little boy, Banker who will never get over this and who’s life will forever be shaped by  his artist and singer father’s untimely death  www.drlillianglass.com.


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