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Accused Bill Cosby’s Silence About Rape Often Points To Guilt
November 16, 2014

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Back in the day when there was a scandal among celebrities, the advice was to remain silent until it blew over and was forgotten. Well those old school  days have long gone. With social media and the immediacy of news and information and the ability to dig up one’s past and verify it, this philosophy no longer applies. In fact it can backfire. Bill Cosby’s not speaking out and defending himself  and remaining silent against his rape allegations has clearly backfired on him.

When people are innocent of something, they speak out. In fact they scream out that these allegations are” false”.  When something a serious as a rape allegation is made one has to  speak out against it, especially  if they have not committed such a vulgar act.

Even though our American justice system and various justice systems around the world may not require the accused to speak out for themselves  and defend him or herself, in the back of many jurors minds is still the question, “If they are innocent, then why don’t they testify and speak up for themselves and defend their innocence?”

Most recently, Cosby refused to answer a journalist’s questions on NPR that concerned his alleged rape. Queen Latifia and David Letterman cancelled his show appearances. People wrote horrible things about him on twitter related to his alleged raping.

While Cosby’s raping allegations were recently called out by comedian Hannibal Burris, rumors about Cosby’s unwanted sexual advances and subsequent rape allegations have been talked about in Hollywood for for the past three decades. With his constant visits to the Playboy Mansion, many in the Hollywood saw him as a lecherous cheater on his wife Camille.

Cosby has been a super star for decades  and there is no doubt that he took advantage of his status, like so many stars have done in the past and present. and will most likely do in the future.

No doubt there may have been many aspririing actresses who would think nothing of having sex with Cosby in exchange for his connecting them up with an agent, a movie or tv role, or with others who could further their  careers.  There may be those who  may have put out for him and when he did  not reciprocate with his promises or with their expectations, they may have felt used and abused angry. They may have and felt they were  physically and emotionally raped and discarded and rightfully so.  Then there may have been  others, who like his most vocal accuser who stated Cosby raped her at 19,  inist she was actually violently raped by him. Perhaps these women saw was one of the most Toxic People with a sadistic and monstrous side. The fact that he settled with one of his rape accusers also doesn’t look good for him.

Evidently, Cosby was not the All American, beloved and humorous, Dr. Huxtable he played on TV, complete with a high moral compass who would never think of cheating on his wife or taking advantage of young starlets.

Cosby’s silence speaks volumes to me. Until he breaks his silence and comes clean and either admits his alleged egregious behavior or provides us with a defense or an explanation  his phenomenal career is essentially over . No one wants to watch a rapist or someone they assume is a rapist, so they networks might as well pull the plug on his upcoming show.

Joran Vandersloot’s Body Language in Harsh New Prison
September 3, 2014

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A video was released of psychopathic murderer and most likely serial killer Joran Vandersloot who killed two innocent women, Natalie Holloway in Aruba and Stephanie Flores in Peru, as he entered one of the harshest, coldest,and most remote prisons in the world- Challapalca Prison. This prison located high in the Andes Mountains has been cited for numerous human rights violations throughout the world.  He was sent there as punishment for threatening to kill a guard at his previous prison.

Apparently the warden of his new prison Sergio Haro,  gave Vandersloot a cell phone to record himself and later the phone was confiscated . On the video, Vandersloot speaks in Spanish and says he doesn’t know why he was told to record himself but mentions it was for his security.

No doubt this notorious prison wanted to show the world  that their new inmate was in good physical  shape when he first arrived. Actually Joran ‘s fuller face reflects that he was doing quite well in his previous prison as he put on some pounds, indicating that he was well fed. He has grown a beard and moustache since he was first processed into the prison as you can see below, he was clean shaven. 

Screen Shot 2014-09-02 at 5.56.44 PM In the photo above  his fleshy chin shows that he was clearly not deprived of food at his previous facility. As the doctor examines him we see that he has taken one arm out of  a sleeve of his sweatshirt and rests on his abdomen. Most likely his wrist is chained to a waist chain for safety as guards were taking no chances with Vandersloot. . He is not only under the watchful eye of a police officer to his side as you can see in the photo above,

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Screen Shot 2014-09-02 at 5.58.32 PMAs Vandersloot is turned facing the wall and  patted down, we see his sagging pants and his underwear showing. In the prison population this is a major signal that the person is open for sex and are available to be penetrated by other prisoners. So Vandersloot is giving a clear message that he is ready to be the receiver in a potential sexual encounter. In his new home at Challapalca Prison, there are no conjugal visits gone are his days of having sex with and  impregnating a woman as he did with his new bride as of  this past July, Leidy Figueroa. Also gone are regular visits he would have had with the  unfortunate child he  spawned as family visits are extremely expensive and the terrain is extremely difficult to traverse for any outsider.

Vandersloot will not only be deprived of  conjugal visits with his wife, access to his new baby,  home cooked meals brought in daily, and fresh new clothing,he will most likely initially suffer from altitude sickness in the the 15,000 foot elevated prison, no regular electricity or running water, overcrowding, poor medical treatment, poor food, and poor sanitation. In fact he is already feeling the misery of being there as he has allegedly gone on a hunger strike. Perhaps this is the first time Vandersloot is really feeling the consequences of his actions. 

Governor Rick Perry’s Angry and Scared Mug Shot Body Language
August 20, 2014

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I will preface this blog by stating that I had the opportunity to meet Governor Perry at the Governor’s reception at the Governor’s mansion in Austin when I spoke at the  Texas Woman’s Conference. He and I and my mother Rosalee had a lovely chat and he couldn’t have been more gracious and charming. He was so attentive to and taken with Rosalee (as most people are) which delighted me. 

As many of you know by now from reading my blogs and hearing me speak in the media,  I am not a political person and have no agenda, either personal or political, other than to objectively read a person’s body language. 

Many believe that Governor Perry’s indictment was political while others believe that it was deserved. I reserve any opinion on the matter, other than to say that in his video where he explained his using his authority as a governor to want someone who had an alcohol problem removed from the office, he seemed very forthright and his argument made logical sense to me.

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 It was clear after seeing the video where Perry showed district attorney Rosemary Lehmberg so out of control that she was so abusive to the police officers that she  had to be restrained in a special chair. So his actions were not unreasonable, in light of the fact her blood alcohol level was found to be three times the normal limit which indicated that she had a problem. If a district attorney could drive drunk it was clear that her judgement was impaired and that she may very well have an alcohol problem, which may  further impair her judgement in other situations- like being in charge of millions of dollars.  

Since Governor  Perry no longer trusted  her ability to handle her very responsible position, he used his authority and veto power  as a governor  to threaten to veto funding to her office unless she quit, a threat that he ultimately carried out by vetoing $7.5 million earmarked for the Public Integrity Unit that was intended to fight official corruption. 

The results were that Rosemary Lehmberg didn’t resign and Governor Perry was indicted by a  grand jury. He turned himself in to authorities and had a mug shot taken as you see above. Facial language wise, it shows that even though he is smiling, it is an angry tight lipped smile. His cheeks are not raised and he shows no teeth as he does when making a genuine smile. Below is a genuine smile, so you can see the difference from his mugshot. Screen Shot 2014-08-19 at 5.06.37 PM In his mugshot there is a a lot of tension in his forehead, tightness in his lower jaw and around his eyes and cheeks. It is in great contrast to what we see in this photo above. In  the mugshot his head retreats backwards and the visible shininess,  most likely due to perspiration on his forehead and nose. This may reflect fear and high anxiety. Even though he is trying his best to hide that fear with the tight smile , his body says the opposite – that there is the fear factor that he could possibly be facing a 99 year prison sentence.  

Bachelorette Andi Dorfman Body Language Real and Refreshing As She is Smitten With Josh
July 11, 2014

Every time I am asked by the press to do a body language analysis of the Bachelor or the Bachelorette, I often cringe, like I did with last season’s dysfunctional bachelor Juan Pablo. But this season was different with Andi Dorfman. Her body language showed her to be a bright, educated, accomplished attractive, articulate, warm, and sensitive young lady.

She was the most impressive Bachelorette, if not the most impressive reality star seen on television thus far. This is the type of woman we need to be exposed to, not the uneducated, fold mouthed, shallow women like the Kardashian sisters who are only famous because of their promoting mother who is so pathetically desperate to be a star herself and who all shot to fame on the back of Kim’s beyond vulgar sex tape.

Watching how Andi Dorfman handled herself in her quest in finding Mr. Right was very compelling. It was compelling because this was one of the first reality stars who was actually real. She was real with her communication, her words, her affection and with her joy of life.

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When the now deceased Eric Hill,the adventurer and her first date called her out on being an actress or phony he was grossly mistaken. This is a man may be rest in peace who was highly competitive as indicated by his chosen lifestyle and lived life on the edge. But his social skills were off. He was awkward. You can even see the awkwardness here in this photo on their first date where he grabs Andi’s behind. She gives him the literal cold shoulder and doesn’t feel comfortable about it. 

While they had an exciting first date with  building sand castles, a helicopter ride, and snowboarding in one day,  it no doubt bothered him to see Andi showing affection and interest in the other men.  That  is why I believe he immaturely lashed out on her. Andi set him straight verbally as he exited and was no longer a contender.

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It was shocking that he ended up dying after he left the show. When Andi found out she was devastated and felt horrible about their negative interaction. She was sincere and genuine in her grief and expressed remorse for how she handled the situation when he called her an actress. It took someone with a lot of character to be introspective in terms of how she reacted to Eric when he called her out and that has to be respected.

In her quest for finding love, she trusted her emotions her instincts and her intellect gave those whom she thought would be best suited for her a fair chance. she didn’t play games or manipulate as we had seen in the past,

The Bachelors who were left during the home visits were all good men and good choices as she learned about their lifestyle and if she could fit in.

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Even though Chris the farmer was very suited for Andi personality wise, physically and temperament wise, the farm life would never work for Andi. Neither would being just a housewife and not having a career.

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Marcus was extremely handsome but had a very troubled family, with the exception of his brother who essentially raised him. He has had mother issues in the past and this may surface in the future. Also they don’t seem to be as connected as she is with Bachelor Josh and Bachelor Nick.

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Nick was impressive to Andy because he was a take charge guy. This was very appealing to Andi who is a take charge woman. He was enterprising much to the disdain of the other Bachelors. He was confident which made him very appealing to Andi, a confident woman. This biggest mistake was that he shared too much with the other Bachelors who cast him as the villain. He needed to keep his views to himself, but of he did it wouldn’t have made as good television as it was. In my view there was nothing villainous about Nick. He went for it. He asked and he received. He had more time with Andi and she loved it. They seemed to be on the same plane intellectually, emotionally, and physically. But Andi had reservations when she learned about how others reacted towards him and how they found him arrogant and cocky. The fact that she brought it to his attention and communicated about it was admirable in my view.
It was clear from Andi’s by language that she was not comfortable with his large family and even less comfortable with his lifestyle and polka dancing.
She quickly realized he wasn’t for her and it showed in her voice and face and body language. He was also a little too slick and this would not bode well for Andi in the long run and she needs to be in control. There would be a lot of vying for power in the relationship if they were together as a couple.

 

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You could feel the chemistry on the screen when you saw both Andi and Josh’s bright smiles gleaming at one another. They are both smitten with one another. Personality wise Josh is exactly what Andi needs- a low key man who worships her and who is easy on the eye. He definitely respects her and would welcome her take charge attitude.
In my view this is a perfect match. She seems a lot brighter than him and that is a good thing as he seems to know it as well. He looks up to her and follows her lead.
While she and Josh are compatible enough to live happily ever after there are a few problems I saw with his family.

Andi and his mother may have a problem with one another in the long haul.  Andi will want those apron strings cut and his mom will not allow it. Hence there will be a lot of conflict unless the mother relents. The father expects Andi and Josh to come to all of Aaron’s game sas he let Andi know this . Her facial expression showed she was not too happy about it.

Andi did not sign up for being second fiddle to anyone as we saw throughout the episodes. While she may be number one with Josh, she will not be number one in that family and that will be hard for her. Even though Andi is athletic this is a family of jocks who’s lives will now focus around brother Aaron’s football career. They are clearly not interested in Josh’s love life when compared to Aaron’s football career and would be less interested in Andi and Josh’s baby as a priority, unless the child showed some athletic prowess early on.

But as for Andi and Josh I think they will make a great couple only if Josh is willing to man up and cut the umbilical cord from his family.

Andi was impressive, She wants to make this work so much that she gave  up her career as a district attorney to commit to a marriage and start a family. I respect that she has her priorities straight in her mind and knows what she wants and what is right for her.

I do think that Andi would have a great career on television as a host of some legal show like something on HLN. She is articulate, easy on the eye, real, not over the top and compelling to watch.

Putin’s Body Language Shows He Detests Royal Family and Obama While Other World Leaders Show Disdain Towards Him
June 7, 2014

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There is no question that based on  Russian President Vladimir Putin’s body language there is no love for any members of the royal family from the Queen to Prince Charles. In fact, he completely ignores them as evidenced by his facial expression and faraway gaze. There is no question that  he wishes he was elsewhere instead of at the D Day memorial celebration. Int he photo above you can see how he doesn’t even look in the Queen’s direction as Obama tries to help her down the stairs. No doubt he could care less if she made it down the stairs safely or fell down the stairs as he would not be the one to pick her up.Image

Perhaps the person he detests the most is Prince Charles whom he completely ignored as he even turned his back to him as you can see in this photo above. It is understandable since the Prince of Wales’s reportedly compared him with  to Adolf Hitler a week earlier.

Immediately  Putin held a press conference in Saint Petersburg and said that the Princes’  comparison of him to  Adolf Hitler was “unacceptable” and “wrong”  that remarks of this kind are “not what monarchs do”.

He even gave a direct personal message to the prince, he added: “Give my words to Prince Charles. He has been to our country more than once, if he made such a comparison, it is unacceptable and I am sure he understands that as a man of manners.”

Putin added: “I met him personally, as well as other members of the royal family. This is not what monarchs do.”But over the past few years we have seen so much, nothing surprises me any longer.”

Well, Putin’s words were certainly and understandably  reflected in his body language when he was in close proximity to Charles and the Royal Family. There was nothing phony about Putin as his body language revealed his true feeling towards them. He refused to make nice and to be diplomat with the family. He was angry and rightfully so as Charles had no business sticking his nose into political matters. He is merely a figurehead with no power or authority. Putin was right when he said” this is not what monarchs do.”

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As everyone  including Obama, clapped when the Queen arrived, Putin refused to clap, let alone acknowledge her. As you can see from his body language  based on his cupped hand in a pre-fist like position, he was angry.

Putin’s disdain was not only directed towards the royals but towards Obama as well. Putin walked well ahead of Obama especially since he was walking with the detested Queen.

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They clearly kept their distance publicly  appeared to play cat and mouse with one another sneaking glances at one another.

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They made it a point to ignore one another as you can see here in the photo below.

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When they did meet face to face then was considerable tension revealed in both of their body language.Look at Putin’s neck where his major  vein is exposed in tension and anger.Also look at the tension in Putin’s face and jaw and in his eyes as he glares at Obama.


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The body language of the other world leaders were not warm and fuzzy towards Putin in light of his invasion of Ukraine. The Ukraine President Poroshenko looked disgusted with Putin as you can see here.

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German Chancellor Andrea Merkel didn’t look to thrilled with him as she gives him a questioning look.

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 UK’s David Cameron looks very angry at him as well.

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The only one who seemed to treat him warmly based on his body language was the French President Francoise Hollande. There was a genuine smile and warm affection between the two.

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“The body doesn…
June 7, 2014

“The body doesn’t lie. Neither does the voice or speech pattern.” – Dr. Lillian Glass

Killer Elliot Rodger’s Body Language and Speech Content in Tape Reveals A Spoiled , Non Resourceful, Entitled, Sadistic, Falsely Overinflated, Sociopath
May 25, 2014

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Before gunman Elliot Rodger, a Santa Barbara student,  went on his shooting spree killing he made a video in his car where he describes what he planned to do to blond females that left him sexually frustrated. After watching the tape and listening to his speech content and patterns  it is clear that this is a spoiled, entitled young man with an over inflated opinion of himself who was not very bright or resourceful in how to get a woman in his life. When he didn;t get what he wanted handed to him in the form of   – sex from the most beautiful and popular girls on campus like a spoiled brat, he lashed out and killed.

While his parents may have given him a luxurious home to live in, designer clothing, an expensive car, free tuition, and all the electronic gadgets he desired, they didn;t give him the ability to fend for himself and be resourceful in getting what he wanted. In this case it was a girlfriend. They also didn’t give him the social skills he needed to be more appealing to people, especially to people of the opposite sex.

I would not be surprised if he was a helicopter child who was doted over and who had things done for him which would account for him not being able to do things for himself in a resourceful manner.

If he wanted sex he could have done a number of things,

1. He could have gone online to one of the many sexual hookup sites and found a woman. One of his hookups may have even ended up as a girlfriend, especially of he showered her with gifts and took on some of her financial needs.

2. He could have hung out with his dad on the set of the Hunger games where some aspiring actress wannabe would hook up with him for sure , knowing who his father was and hoping he would put in a good word for her to get a better role. This goes on all the time in Hollywood where people hook up with people whom they think can get them to the right person to advance their career.

3. He could have taken an acting class and let out who his father was and young actresses would be all over him to get to meet his father or to hang out with him on the Hunger games set.

4 .He could have gone to Las Vegas where prostitution is legal. he could have hung out at the famous Bunny Ranch we have all heard about.

5. he could have gone online and joined all the realtionship sites from match.com to zoosk to jdate  or christian singles and eventaully found  a date and a reltionship.

6, He could have hired a high priced matchmaking service to find him a girlfriend as Hollywood is full of these  services. they offer free membership to beautiful women and charge the men a lot of money to meet them. He no doubt could have afforded the fee.

7. he could have lowered his standards and not gone for the most beautiful and popular girls on campus who want the most beautiful and popular boys on campus. he could have hung out at the library and found an academic type who would have loved to have gone on a date with him.

But like a spoiled baby who didn’t get his way, he threw a tantrum and went to the extreme. He is also a sociopath for sure . his tone of voice gives it away.  That soft spoken errily overly calm tone is a dead giveaway. If you hear anyone with that type of voice quality- run as fast as you can.

 

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The next thing that is dangerous about him as we listen  to him speak his speaking through a  the clenched jaw which signifies anger and rage.

His is so out of touch when he says that ever since he has hit puberty he has been forced to endure a life of loneliness and rejection. WEll, welcome to real life. That is what life is all about for most young people trying to find their way in life. Most are met with loneliness and rejections. But they do something about it. They tell their parents or a teacher  or a therapist how they feel . If he would have joined a sports team or got involved in some school activities he would not have felt as lonely and would have made some friends.As he says this we can clearly see how entitled he feels he is.

He says that girls have never been attracted to him and that they gave their love and sex to other men. Well, with an attitude like his of entitlement how could any girl be attracted  to him.  he then says he is 22 years old and still a virgin. Well if he did 1 through 7 as I suggested above he would not have still  been a virgin.  As he speaks of his virginity he squints his eyes in anger like he is entitled to not be a virgin without doing anything about it.

His tone of voice is very off putting and distant. It has a snobby “I’m better than you ” ring to the tone which would further alienate  women. Then he plays the victim as he says he has had to rot in loneliness as it is not fair.

If he was that lonely he could have volunteered in a hospital or volunteered to feed the homeless, he could have joined organizations where there are a lot of women. he could have taken a cooking class or sewing class or just hing out at the library and acted friendly to women and perhaps he wouldn;t have been so tortured being lonely. Once again his rhetoric speaks to his entitlement and lack of making any effort .

He then plays the victim by saying how girls have never been attracted to him.It is clearly because of his creepy tone and lack of social skills as we hear in the tape.

As he points his finger in anger he is stunned that they women don’t see how great he is as he says “he’s the perfect guy.” This confirms what I said earlier about how he has an overinflated sense of self.

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He then says how he will punish all of the women for not recognizing what a perfect gentleman he is  he gives a sinister laugh which he does several times throughout this tape, showing his sadistic side.  He wants so much to be accepted and says that on the day of retribution he is going to enter the “hottest” sorority house, where the girls rejected him. Onc e again his reference to the hottest sorority and the prettiest girls speak to his overinflated sense of self in thinking he could actually attain a relationship with one of these girls.

He then in a calm tone says how he will slaughter every “stuck up blond slut. ” Again, it is like a spoiled child who doesn;t get what they want so they lash out and have a tantrum. But in his case the tantrum was slaughtering what he couldn’t attain. What is very interesting is how he said that they would consider him an :inferior man: if he made a sexual advance towards them. In essence he is describing how he really feels about himself- that he is indeed  seeing himself as an “inferior man. “

His sadism comes about again as he says how he will take great pleasure in slaughtering these women. He says that he will be the “superior one the true alpha male. because  in actuality he feels so inferior he believes that by slaughtering them he will then become superior to them.This speaks to his sick logic and extremely low sense of self.

His speech is very strange as it seems like he uses the vocabulary from a script as he says words like  “slay” “slaughter, ” brute” “hedonistic pleasure”,  “exacting my retribution, ”  “you denied me” “depraved”   ” mountains of skulls.” and “wretched.”  It sounds like some of these words would be used in the films his father Peter Rodger was involved with in the Hunger Games.

He says how the guys whom he has tried to hang out with but who rejected him treated him like a “mouse” and on the next breath says he will be a God next to them. Once again he is trying to mask his  is low self  esteem with rhetoric and delusions of grandeur- being a God.  He also  says  “if I had the power” indicating he has no power. But then he says he has the power to take away their life. So he feels he can only obtain a sense of power from within by killing.

His sinister and sadistic laughter is very disturbing in that he shows enjoyment at what he plans to do to his “enemies” who rejected him. We can see a clear manifestation of his sociopathic behavior. He is very detached vocally and emotionally as it seems as though he is reading a bad script or  has watching some violent video games over  long period of  time..

The fact that he killed so many people as he carried out his rampage to prove his power and then finally  turned the gun on himself  showed that deep down he saw himself as a worthless coward who didn’t deserve to live.

Addendum:

Now we know according to a grandmother in the UK that he was very mentally disturbed,  had a high functioning level of Ausberger’s Syndrome, and that he was living in an Independent Living Center with room mates . We also learned that police were aware of his intentions and interviewed him three times. They claimed he was “polite.”Obviously they dropped the ball.  He needed to be under strict psychiatric supervision. With all of teh money his family had and all the luxuries they gave him, they needed to  keep a  closer eye on him. This new information with reference to his Ausberger’s Syndrome can account for his lack of social skills. If they or a therapist  knew  of his frustration with women,  they could have employed more methods to have him develop better social skills with the opposite sex. His Ausberger’s Syndrome does not excuse his violence and mental disturbance.

His father is now blaming politicians for lack of stricter gun controls. He needs to blame himself for not paying stricter attention to his son whom he allegedly knew had mental issues.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Toxic Donald Sterling’s Body Language Shows More Racisim, No Sincere Apology, Distain Towards Magic Johnson
May 13, 2014

ImageDonald Sterling’s leaked private conversation with girlfriend V. Stiviano told us in no uncertain terms he had racist views. He then tried to spin it with another “leaked” tape, which in my view, he leaked personally, this time. In that tape he talks to a friend and says how he said all of those racist things because he was trying to impress V. Stiviano and get her into bed. CNN’s Anderson Cooper asks him if he trusts anyone because his most recent tape was “leaked.”.As you can see in the screen shot above, Sterling licks his lips when asked this question. To me is a clear signal of deception and reveals that he no doubt leaked those tapes himself. He doesn’t answer Cooper’s question,  which  also speaks volumes about his role in the newly “leaked” tape.

He then says that he doesn’t do interviews and that the only one he talked to was Magic Johnson. That made no sense as Magic is not the media to whom he would give an interview. Sterling  goes on to say he spoke to Magic Johnson twice and said “He knew the girl.”  said in a surprised tone.” By calling Stiviano “the girl” it is clear that Sterling has distanced himself from Stivino. On the “leaked” conversation between Stiviano and Sterling, Stiviano claimed to Sterling that she didn’t t know Magic. But now Sterling finds out that Magic does know “the girl” as he said that Magic apparently “knew the girl well.”

 

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When  Anderson Copper asked if Sterling apologized to Magic.  Sterling looks down and  hems and haws  as she says “uh uh if I said anything wrong then I’m sorry.” In essence he is saying that he did not apologize to Magic. He also says “if” I said anything wrong which says that he still does not believe he said anything wrong.

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Though his words say Magic “is a good person” Sterling’s body and facial language leak out something completely different. They leak out disdain for Magic. In fact , Sterling’s next words show his true feelings as he cuts Magic down by saying that he doesn’t think Magic has done everything he can to help minorities.

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Then Sterling looks down and says “I’ll say it” as h.e shrugs his shoulders, “He’s great.” But he doesn’t believe that Magic is great as he shakes his head “no,” and also purses his lips in anger. He then goes on to say how he doesn’t think Magic Johnson is “a good example for the children of Los Angeles.”

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Sterling says he made “a terrible terrible mistake and he is here to apologize.” But he does’t say he is sorry with his words or his body language. His tone is monotone and his face is moonfaced. There is no sincere emotion when he makes this statement. Deep down it reveals that he really does’t think he did anything wrong. Even though he feigns remorse and hurting “so many innocent people, “he finally reveals that he hurt himself. That si the bottom line. If he feels bad about anything it is that these words leaked out, which hurt his standing as a Clipper’s owner. He is also a very bad actor as he draw out the /o/ sound while saying ” I’m soooo sorry. I am so apologetic.” No one says they are apologetic.  Instead, they say they apologize if they were being sincere.

But just when you think Sterling’s public persona can’t get any worse, it does.  In his  voluntary interview on national TV with CNN’s Anderson Cooper he says that “Magic acts so holy even though he made love to every girl in every city” in America and he had Aids. What he has done is accuse Magic of knowingly spreading the AIDS virus to women across America. This is slander. I am sure that Magic’s attorney knows this as well.  Talk like that will  no doubt add to Magic’s financial coffers. so it will be even easier for Magic to afford the team.

 

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Then Sterling goes on to say when Magic has “those AIDS” he went to his synagogue and prayed for him. In essence by saying this, Sterling  is trying to tell us how good  a person he is and how self righteous he is.  But  he  says it with anger through his clenched fists which reflects how  deep down he clearly detests Magic.

But on the next breath he says that he could have criticized Magic for getting AIDS but he didn’t, yet another lame attempt at showing how magnanimous he is. Then he asks Anderson Cooper what Magic Johnson has done. Anderson replies that he is a business person. Sterling immediately interjects “He has AIDS.”  In essence Sterling has just said that all Magic has done with his life is get AIDS. Anderson corrects him that Magic has HIV not AIDS.

Then Sterling goes over the top yet corrects himself with regards to Aids. He now says that” Magic Johnson made love to every girl in America and catches HIV “. He then then says he thinks Magic should be ashamed of himself and go into the background. What Sterling is doing  here in psychological terms is protecting. He is ashamed of himself and knows very well that he is the one who needs to be in the background, not Magic.

He adds insult to injury by saying that Magic does nothing for the Black people and then stops himself short by saying there is no such thing as African Americas which further displays  his racism.

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In fact he realizes at this moment as you can see in the above screen shot, that he has just dug himself even deeper into the racism pit as body language wise he covers his mouth as to stop himself from saying more. He even apologizes as he knows very well what he just did.

Then he says “they” all want to play golf with him. Clearly the “they”  he is referring to are Black people. He then says he does’t think “Magic is a good example for the children of Los Angeles and then get AIDS.” Even though Cooper previously corrected him that it was HIV and not AIDS, Sterling  still insists that Magic has AIDS. In essence he is once again blaming Magic for getting AIDS.

Not only does he disparage Magic with these comments, he says Magic does nothing to help minorities but “he” Donald Sterling “gives away millions to help minorities. Once again Sterling ties to show how righteous and good he is. He then asks  Cooper ” Does he do that?” In essence, Sterling is saying that Magic Johnson does’t give Millions to minorities.

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Once again we see the rage in his body language as he talks about Magic as we see Sterling’s clenched fists. Then he once agin shows his racist colors by saying how Jews, when they get successful will help their people but that Blacks don’t do the same.  He then admits that he might get in trouble again for what he has to say as he states “maybe they don’t want to help anybody.” In essence he is saying that Blacks don;t want to help anybody,

He begs to be forgiven, but his body language  and facial language shows that he is insincere. He does’t think he did anything wrong.

Hearing the Toxic words  that ha=ve come out of Sterling’s mouth has me convinced more than ever that that there no place for such backwards and Neanderthal thinking in the NBA. After hearing this racist and hate filled interview, I cannot imagine any team owner not voting to remove him. Now it is no longer about the leaked private racially charged tapes that were made public by V. Stiviano or her minions. Now it is Sterling by himself who voluntarily showed his ignorance and  racism to the world through his interview which has no doubt left many speechless.

His ugly and very Toxic swipes at Magic are his warped attempt to disparage Magic in hopes of swaying public opinion against Magic so that he won’t be supported in purchasing the team. But it all backfired and alienated even more people as most wonder what kind of Toxic insensitive person could actually blame another person for catching a sickness. Magic is a hero and despite his HIV- not AIDS, he has been able to flourish and become a leader in the Black community. He has shown that an HIV diagnosis is not a death sentence and that one can live a productive life. He has given people jobs and invested money to start businesses in the Black community for years. Everyone knows this about Magic. For Sterling to distort the facts about Magic shows just how desperate Sterling is feeling these days. His whole world is caving in on him and he knows it. We all saw it in this interview.

 

 

 

Oscar Pistorius Body Language in the Courtroom Casts Doubt
April 22, 2014

 

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While his family denies  that disabled champion runner Oscar Pistorius took acting lessons to prepare himself for trial and others swear that he did take lessons, the bottom line is that something is not right in terms of how he presents himself in the courtroom.

As a jury consultant  and someone who has prepared witnesses for trial, I can assure you that acting lessons are the absolute worst thing a person can do to prepare themselves. People need to be genuine and show genuine emotion and speak in a manner. They need to show body language that will not alienate a jury, but rather objectively allow them to hear the message.

In observing Oscar Pistorius’ body language throughout the trial, I noticed many things that are rather odd. His emotions often do not seem to match the situations being discussed or his body language seems to be over the top as far as his emotions are concerned.

He seems to be tuning out which will not endear himself to the judge who, is the only one who will be deciding his fate.

 

The one thing that I noticed is that he is always covering his ears. In  essence he doesn’t want to hear all the gory details about what he did to Reeva. He wants to block it out and that is what he is doing by literally blocking his ears. But that behavior is off putting.  He needs to sit there without his hands over his ears and listen to every word. If he shed emotion, it needs to be genuine . He needs toface the details of what he is accused of doing.

 

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Not only does he cover his ears, but he covers his head with his papers as you see in the photo above. It is akin to someone wanting to  pull the blankets over their head and not leave their bed or the house. This signals extreme shame and guilt  over what he did. He wants it to all go away as he is in essence, hiding.

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As well as not wanting to hear the details at the trial, he also does not want to see them. He does not want to see the results of his actions via the gory photos  as he tightly shuts his eyes and pinches the bridge of his nose in a self comforting gesture.

 

Screen Shot 2014-04-22 at 9.33.34 AM The gesture where he pulls down the skin on his face is a self mutilation type of gesture which often occurs when a person is feeling guilty and there is no way out. It is a  literal form of  self punishment as we see Pistorius doing here.

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This photo is of Pistorius’ aunt and uncle crying. With their furrowed brows and squinted eyes, they show genuine tears of  sadness at what happened  in this tragic situation.

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In contrast here are Pistorius tears. He hides his face as he cries which to many observing him may indicate that he is faking his cry. Usually when one is in emotional pain, they don’t care who sees them cry. They just express their sorrow and upset openly. Many may feel this is contrived and he may have something to hide.

 

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He cries too often and his recovery time from his cry is too fast. When people recover too quickly from a cry to a normal non crying facial posture it takes them time to recover. He does it almost immediately which may indicate that he is doing all of this crying for affect.

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The above cry seems too intense . This facial gesture would occur if someone is in severe extreme grief, where they cannot contain themselves or control their emotions.  His hand over his mouth shows that there is something he doesn’t want to reveal. And his tightly squinted eyes are not congruent with the crying emotion he is attempting to display. With a squinty eyed cry the mouth is usually open. That is not the case here.

As a body language I feel that something is off with Pristorius and his emotions. Usually I see an incongruent emotion and body language when the person is medicated or on drugs. But that emotion is usually a more dull or blank  facial appearance.

When someone shows the inconsistency of emotion as Pristorius has been doing throughout the trial, it shows me that either he has forced this on his own in terms of trying to project what he thinks the judge wants to see, or that he has been prepped  or coached in some way.

If he did take acting lessons, he did himself a huge disservice as he looks like a very bad actor trying to force emotion. It takes years to perfect acting skills, not a few weeks or months. So if he did take the lessons, they clearly did not work. On the other hand if he did not take lessons and he is acting like this on his own, he is also doing himself a huge disservice because he is not putting his position across in a genuine manner.

In the US judicial system if he was in front of a jury of his peers my belief is that he would be convicted based on his body language and vocal tone alone. Whether you want to believe it or not the truth is that juries can and have often  judged someone on these things even if all the evidence points in their favor. But Pistorius only has to convince one person whom he refers to as “My lady” throughout the proceedings.

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If My lady” uses her  legal skills along with her genuine common sense and pays attention to the defendant’s body language, facial, language, and vocal tone, she will come up with the right verdict for Oscar Pistorius as his communication skills and body language speak volumes.

 

Paula Deen’s Body Language, Fake Tears, Insincere Apology, and Racist Punchline Tuned Off Fans and Sponsors
June 28, 2013

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Deep down, Paula Deen did not  feel that  she did anything wrong. Hence you hear her empty sounding hollow apologies. She made three apologies, one worse sounding than the other.The body doesn’t lie and neither does the voice.

Her tears were non-tears with no liquid in them. And worse or all she used a phrase”I is what I is” which is the punchline of a racist joke.  She went from the fire into the frying pan and fried her reputation for good.

Had she said, “Look I said that 20 something years ago out of anger at one particular person.  I am ashamed of it. Let’s move on because I am not a racist and for anyone to think so is wrong.   But let us use this as a teaching moment that whether we are black or white we must eliminate that word from our lexicon because it brings hurt to everyone.Let’s stop using it in our music and  everywhere else.”

She also needed to put her money where her mouth was and say that she was starting up an educational fund where she would go to schools along with other professionals to teach children about not using hurtful words and telling racist jokes to hurt others.

But instead she got way too defensive about a black guy having a gun to her head and then ending it with an over the top dramatic statement about throwing a stone so hard that it should kill her and then shockingly saying “I is what I is.” She didn’t say “i am what I am”but made reference to  racist joke.

Here is the joke:

There was a black guy and a white guy.
They were debating over whether god was white or black.
The white guy said that there was only one way to find out and that is to
pray.
So they go up on a hill and they pray, and pray, and pray.
Finally they hear a voice say, “I am what I am.”
The white guy jumps up, and says, “Aha, I told you he was white.”
The black guy jumps up and says, “What do you mean? That didn’t prove
anything.”
“Yes it did. Because if he was black he would’ve said I is what I is.”

Her insincere apology and defensive explanation on the Today show  is the reason why she has been dropped by so many including Walmart and Target and her diabetes drug company.

It is not that she said the N words over two decades ago. It is that she now showed no remorse . it was  her body language and how she said it that turned people off.

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