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Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer Song About TOXIC Bullying Added Verses In This Age of Zero Tolerance Against Bullying
December 25, 2012

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The other day I was in the car listening to the radio,  when the popular Christmas song Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer came on . I began singing along with it and for the first time realized how the words to this catchy tune tell a very sad story.

t starts off fine describing a reindeer with  his red nose  as the lyrics are:

 Rudolph the red nosed reindeer                                                    

Had a very shiny nose

And if you ever saw it,

You would even say it glows

Then it goes on to describe how the reindeer was bullied and ostracized, simply  because he looked different. This verse actually saddened me as I listened to the following verse:

All of the other reindeer

Used to laugh and call him names

They never let poor Rudolph

Play in any reindeer games.

Luckily for Rudolph, Santa became  Rudolph’s savior as Santa  came to his rescue by  acknowledging Rudolph’s difference and turning his physical  difference and uniqueness into an advantage and an asset. It was because of Rudolph’s   unique difference which allowed    Santa to  navigate his sleigh through the foggy night.The lyrics are as follows:

 

Then one foggy Christmas night

Santa came to say

“Rudoph with your nose so bright

Won’t you guide my sleigh night?

 

Now here is the part that disturbs me. Only because Rudolph was useful and did something heroic based on his  physical difference did the other reindeer finally accept him.  Otherwise , they would never have  accepted him into their group and allow him to play reindeer games with them. Below are the lyrics which disturbed me.

 

Then all the reindeer loved him

As they shouted out with glee

Rudolph the red nosed reindeer

You’ll go down in history.

These superficial  reindeer needed to accept Rudolph red nose and all from the beginning, not because he did something which helped Santa. Obviously these  TOXIC reindeer only liked him because he  now had Santa’s blessing who accepted Rudolph’s uniqueness which allowed him to become a  hero.

I don’t think the song  should end there. To me, it is not is finished.  It’s missing several  verses in my view so I took  my songwriting and skills to task and took the  liberty to  write some very much needed verses that apply in this  his day and age of zero tolerance for bullying.  So here are the additional lyrics I wrote  to the tune of Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer. 

Then Rudolph told all the reindeer

You hurt my feelings when teasing me

Just cuz someone looks different

You don’t have to be a bully 

 

We come in all shapes and sizes

And  just  to be direct

We all want  love and kindness

And  to be treated with respect.

 

I hope you learned your lesson

That teasing makes others blue

Everyone has feelings

Just like  me and you .

 

So in the  Spirit of  Christmas 

Where forgiveness is number one

Never  tease others

Cuz you can  really hurt someone.

 

While the song written back in 1939  by Robert L. May and  published by Montgomery Ward  and adapted into songs, television specials feature films and has become a figure of Christmas folklore, I believe that these  additional meaningful verses are  now needed  to teach children about the consequences of bullying  and hurt feelings in this age of Zero Tolerance for  Bullying.

                                                                                                   

  MERRY CHRISTMAS   XO

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Adam Lanza’s TOXIC Mother is To Blame For Sandy Hook Shootings
December 19, 2012

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Now that we have processed the fact that twenty babies have died in an unnecessary act of violence, our emotions have turned to anger. With anger comes blame as many have spoken out about who they blame.

While the President and others have  blamed  assault weapons as the culprit and others blamed the  government for not having enough mental health programs, I put the blame where it belongs, on the mother. That’s right. Forget political correctness of not blaming the parents for their children’s actions. I strongly believe that this mother Nancy Lanza’s actions and non actions created this nightmare.

This Toxic mother’s denial, paranoia about doomsday, and her irresponsible behavior  ultimately caused 20 innocent  precious babies their lives and killed the hearts of anyone who knew these children, including their parents.

 

Adam Lanza was said to be suffering from Ausberger’s Syndrome- a form of autism along with many other behavioral and personality issues according to reports. But in my view it was not the Ausbergers syndrome that made him commit this heinous act.

In fact the medical examiner agrees with my line of thinking in that he consulted with the U of Connecticut’s genetics division to see if there was any identifiable genes that could explain this  this young man’s action.

Even if there is a genetic component found to Adam Lanza’s makeup that lead him to kill innocent people, my feelings are that it was exacerbated by the environment he was living in and  the actions of his mother .

As many have described him, he had issues relating to others, however one high school acquaintance described Adam Lanza  as being compassionate when that acquaintance was going through his own issues. So obviously that indicates that Adam was a very high functioning person with Ausperber’s syndrome. It shows that he knew right from wrong and had feelings towards others.

Adam was also said to have been very bright as he  attended college at the age of 16 and was a computer whiz. Evidence of his computer knowledge could be seen when the FBI and others could not fix the hard drive of his computer which he smashed.

HATED HIS MOTHER 

This act alone shows me that this was a calculated act. He knew exactly what he was going to do and wanted to leave no trace of himself behind. The act of killing his mother while she was defenseless in her sleep speaks volumes. It reflects his deep deep hatred of her. Obviously he felt she was a negative controlling influence in his life when she was awake, so while she slept, he was the one on control over her life. He also preyed on others who  were defenseless – children.

He not only wanted to eradicate his mother, but anything associated with his mother such as her two “friends”- the high school principal and the school therapist, whom he shot and killed.

His anger towards his mother was not an overnight thing. There is no doubt she witnessed his rage towards her on a regular basis. In fact it must have become so bad that she apparently wanted to have him institutionalized and made legal steps to do so. This obviously didn’t sit well with her troubled son.

TOXIC AND DISTURBED MOTHER 

Her steps  at seeking help for her son were too little too late. She  no doubt must have spent her entire life with him in denial and the result of that was that she was shot in the face at close range by her enraged son.

The woman was apparently a survivalist. That is why she kept an arsenal of guns around herself and kept herself isolated. She didn’t share her feelings about her son with others. Instead she kept her son’s issues a secret and paid the ultimate price.

There is no doubt that her son who was with her 24/7 and had little or  no  productive outside interests, picked up on her paranoia that the world was coming to an end  or that there would be impending disaster to the point that she she had to have ammunition and  extreme firearms to defend herself.

It was reported according to the agents form the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco, Firearms, and Explosives, that the mother took her son to local firearm ranges to practice shoot their assault weapons.

This information is devastating. How can a mother allow a severely troubled son who has no doubt shown fits of rage from time to time, to even get near a gun?

How could she allow him to play with violent video and war games as officials have discovered. In fact FBI investigator Robert Paquette reported

“Many of these games are very, very violent. I can’t help but believe these can affect the minds of someone unbalanced.”

Apparently the mother did mention to an acquaintance that she was involving her son with firearms in order to teach him responsibility. This is obviously misguided thinking.

If she wanted to teach him responsibility, she needed to get him a pet hamster or a dog and make him responsible to feeding them, not give him firearms.

What is very telling is that her older 24 year old  son Ryan  had not been in touch with his mother for years. Perhaps their estrangement had something to do with the way she lived her life and isolated herself and her younger son.

But perhaps the most telling thing of all is that according to the Office of the Chief Medical Examiner, in Farmington, Connecticut was that neither her eldest son, 24 year old  Ryan Lanza  or no other family member had yet come forward to claim her body and the body of her troubled son Adam.

This lack of identifying and picking up her mutilated body shows that her family including her ex husband Peter Lanza, speaks volumes in that he  essentially  holds her as well as his own son Adam accountable for the deaths of these innocent children.

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May these 20 little souls rest in peace forever.

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