Click below to see Dr. Glass speaking about the Gosselin children on the Joy Behar Show on HLN
A while back I wrote a blog where I described the behaviors and the body language of some of the Gosselin children. I observed them on the Jon and Kate Plus 8 television show. In particular, I found the behavior of little Colin Gosselin disturbing as he appeared to be the one who consistently bullied the other children. He was often involved in some type of interaction which resulted one of the other children ending up in tears. He often seemed to be 0ff of his own and appeared to be disconnected from the others, in my view.Also, he rarely smiled. He also seemed to be rewarded for his bad behavior by Kate .
Alexis was described by Kate as being The Wild Child. ” Kate once said on the show that of all the kids, Alexis and Colin did not get along at all. This alligator and reptile loving girl seemed to be loud and out of control throughout the show.
So it did not surprise me at all when I heard that both Colin and Alexis were in trouble in school. But what did surprise me was that they were expelled. They were not suspended. Instead, they were kicked out and asked never to return. It is a huge deal for a 6 year old to get expelled from school. They must have been so out of control and so difficult to handle that the school administration had no other choice. They must have been so disrupting and upsetting to the other children that the only solution was to get rid of them.
Allegedly they cursed up a storm and said words that children of that age should not even know, let alone say. They also allegedly bullied and taunted other children. In essence, because they were not given boundaries in the home, they acted the same way at school.
There is no doubt that they emulated Kate’s ugly behavior to Jon. They grew up learning disrespect from their mother and they in turn followed suit and disrespected others. They constantly saw their father being abused and belittled by their mother, that they now allegedly abused and belittled others.
Instead of getting these children psychological help they apparently need, Kate decided to home school them.
In essence she is home schooling two children who do not get along with one another. This is a recipe for emotional disaster. These children need to be forced to socialize with others who are not their brothers and sisters. They need to be in a school in order learn how to get along with others.
Home schooling is a bad idea for them for other reasons as well. It can cause problems with them and their other brothers and sisters. They might be seen as “bad” or as outcasts who are being punished. This could affect their subsequent relationships with one another. They might be viewed as lesser than by their fellow siblings.
NO TO HOME SCHOOLING IN THE CASE OF ALEXIS AND COLIN !
Also who is going to home school them? Who is going to be the hands on teacher? Will it be Kate who is never there? Will it be Steve her “bodyguard”? Will it be a private teacher who will be fired at Kate;s whim if the teacher doesn’t do what Kate wants? Kate has had a history of going through countless house cleaners and nannies. So what is to say that she won’t go through countless teachers? This could be devastating for the kids.
I think Alexis and Colin need to be put int another school right away so they will be forced to deal with and get along with other children . I also hope that all the other kids are in different classes with different teachers so that they can have a sense of being an individual and not a part of a group of brothers and sisters.
Nothing good is going to come out of this situation unless Kate gets out of her denial and gets them proper help from proper people which definitely include mental health professionals in my view. Otherwise, things will get worse and worse. If they are this out of control as children one can only imagine what will they be like when they are teenagers and completely unmanageable.
PULL THE PLUG ON THE TV
All of these children need to off TV in my view. They have enough money. They have a trust fund for their higher education. They need to focus on being kids and the getting the emotional help they need that just comes from being sextuplets. They need to learn how to adjust to life as individuals.TV is clearly not working for them at this point in their lives. Someone needs to be responsible and step up to the plate and pull the TV plug on these kid.
FATHER DOES KNOW BEST
Joy Behar made a joke on the show that Jon was now becoming ” Father Knows Best” . What she was saying was that he seemed to be the only steadying factor for these children. He is the loving and the nurturing of the two parents. He is why I feel there is hope for these kids. Jon now has a lovely woman who is a steady force in his life and in the kid’s lives- Ellen Ross . Now the kids will have more positive role model. They will be able to see love and kindness from a man and a woman (Jon and Ellen) instead of hatred and bickering (Jon and Kate) .
I don’t know what Jon and Kate’s agreement is concerning he children’s educational and medical needs. I don’t know if Kate has all the power to make decisions or they both have equal decision making rights. If he has any say in this he needs to get ALL of them into therapy asap and he needs to find a different school for Colin and Alexis where they can have a second chance and learn from their actions. www.drlillianglass.com